Sheikh Uthman Hadi - Marriage is a Amanah

Episode Date: January 27, 2026

Today, I want to discuss a topic that is fundamental to our lives as Muslims: marriage in Islam. Marriage is not just a social contract; it is a sacred bond that holds immense significance in our faith and serves as a foundation for family and community.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sheikh-uthman-hadi--6689369/support.https://sheikhuthmanhadi.beam.lyhttps://open.spotify.com/user/315hadqmwxllibu6ubi5us2cbn2y?si=572b4d8898284e9ehttps://open.spotify.com/show/3MQHfrpjj3XXcqoPbN5Dl8?si=v6YQ42kpSx-VONBFhT3CzA

My brothers and sisters, we have to complete another part of our faith as believers, right? We have to complete another portion of it, and that is marriage. And as we know, Allah, Sufana, His Allah speaks about marriage in the Quran, and as Allah suhpana-hu-tala says that this marriage that's been placed upon a Muslim is an amana. It's a trust from Allah, suhpano, Hewatra, and is a major responsibility that we must take very heavily. upon ourselves. You know, we find that nowadays there are plenty of things

that are happening with marriages, divorce is happening rather quickly. And one of the things in which we've been taught by Allah Suhphano and from the Quran and from the sunnah of the Prophet of Allah

Allah al-a-Hu-Salam is that if you are going through problems with your spouse as long as they are not to extreme level, try to fix that bond in a respectful manner, right? And Allah-Suponahua-Talda has told us that to fix

the problems that you may have going on between you and your spouse in a responsible, in a respectful manner, right? You know, ensuring that even if you may be going through tough times with them, that ensuring if there still is a little hope, try to revive that hope. If there is no hope left, if it is far out of the picture, then by all means you are allowed to leave that situation. But in one of the things I would like to mention, my dear brothers and sisters, is that as spouses, we have to recognize that as this gift from Allah,

is extremely important, we must nurture it. And we must ensure that we are finding the right type of love. And we are ensuring that we are marrying for the right reasons. You find most people nowadays just get married because a person looks nice, because they smell nice, because, you know, the overall good person for that time being. But inside the house, you'll find that there are things that are happening that are not good, that you find how they treat their family, you find how they treat their friends, how they treat their loved ones, how they treat Allah, how they remember him, when they are in private, how

they are in their lives, and you realize it was a mistake. And among one of those things, my brothers and sisters, is that you realize a lot of people will have gotten married, everything was fine, you have a couple of kids, And everything starts to turn wrong. And now at this point in time, you know, in the marriage, you now want to get out. You want to leave. And at this point, we have been taught that now you have to figure out either one or two things. The first way being a way to get out of the situation in a halalaya way, not in a way where you want to start an argument to get out.

Not in a way where you want to hurt them to get out. But in a way where, yes, you need your space. you need to be able to get out. There was an authentic hadith in which the Prophet of Allah alexandu. So I was pointed to have said that there was a woman that came to him. And the person who she was married to was perfectly fine. No problems at all in life, nothing. But she came and she said that I just don't want to be with this person.

There are unspeaker. There are certain reasons. I don't want to tell that I just don't feel comfortable being with this person anymore. And the Prophet. Allah Allah a la He wasleam says okay bring me the person so the person comes and they review everything and the province of Allah alexand asks him if he gave her any mahar right which is the endowment throughout that time when it comes to the marriage and he said yes I gave her a garden of orchards right so at this point now he is saying return it back to her and everything will be clear

now the thing is in which I'm I'm stating this hadith for a reason is that the Prophet of Allah a.u'll a.u. Salahallu al-a-u-slam was saying that, yes, there are some people who have egregious marriages. There are things that are happening that are unimaginable. And there are other people that just need space out of this marriage. And one of the things, the key highlights in this marriage was the Prophetus Allah a al-a-u-s-lam was emphasizing, do not get married for the wrong reason. Right? You get married because they can cook because they are, you know, a certain way when they are around you or there are a certain way when you first meet them or, you know, a certain thing of that sort. But this is why confirmation in the time and age that we are in

right now, my dear brothers and sisters is very important. That is one of the things in which we've been taught that confirming, confirming that everything is fine with the person is fine, right? Because just as if I ask a person and say, hey, do you do this bad act or, hey, do you do this or, hey, do you do this or, hey, do you treat these people a certain way, that's fine. But go ask the people who you're trying to understand from, right? If you want to know whether or not your spouse is a good spouse, you have to ask a certain number of questions, a certain amount of questions to recognize, okay, this is a good person,

this is an okay person, to the person you want to stay away from. This is a person you want to kind of help throughout their life. And there are people who are going through problems day after day. And the biggest thing for us, my dear brothers and sisters, is ensuring that we try to make amends for the problems. We have made mistakes, yes. But the biggest problem is when we let the mistakes settle.

That is on both sides. And marriage is a two-sided affair. And we've been taught that as well. That if you're going to get married, you get married as a two-sided affair. You get married for both sides, not just one side, right? It's not going to be just you doing all of the effort or just the other person putting all the effort in. And if you realize that you want to walk away from a situation or you feel tired of a situation, look at your spouse what's making you want to walk away and sometimes it might not be the spouse

sometimes it's just you right sometimes it's the state which you are in right now the closest to a love the way in which you are treating your family period and that is a result and sometimes you find that there are people who are far away i'm saying very far away from their children they're far away from the spouse and they want to leave at this point but we have to take a step back and look what is going on? What is wanting to make me leave? Right? What's making me want to leave? And the biggest thing, my dear brothers and sisters, the biggest thing sometimes is ourself. Sometimes it is our closest to Allah. We got married because this person talks to me. We got married because this person likes me and we like each other. And okay, that's cool. We're going to get married. But you need to get married for the sake of Allah. And you have to understand that there are going to be times that you're going to go through ups and downs. Just because you had an argument doesn't mean you need to have a divorce, right? So ensuring with your brothers and sisters that there is a silver lining here, we have to realize, yes, there are certain circumstances in which we have to qualify for,

for it comes to marriage. If you understand that your spouse is treating people wrong, whether that is you, whether that is your family, whether that is their family or whoever it might be, you need to ensure that you try to help them. and if they are refusing to help make dua if that doesn't work at that point which it will work if Allah Safarana want to do but if the situation

is not meant for you ask Allah to help you be removed in it out of it in a halal way in a way that's pleasing to him and we ask Allah subhpani al-ah to grant us all blessed marriages I mean