Sheikh Uthman Hadi - Pain that Builds Akhlaq | A Journey to the Divine - Ep. 28

Episode Date: March 18, 2026

pain and hardship. In our lives, we often perceive pain as suffering, a burden that weighs us down and makes us feel trapped in situations we cannot escape. However, I invite you to reflect on a different perspective: that hardship is not meant to confine us but to refine us. It is through these challenges that we emerge stronger, wiser, and more capable of moving forward in life.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sheikh-uthman-hadi--6689369/support.https://sheikhuthmanhadi.beam.lyhttps://open.spotify.com/user/315hadqmwxllibu6ubi5us2cbn2y?si=572b4d8898284e9ehttps://open.spotify.com/show/3MQHfrpjj3XXcqoPbN5Dl8?si=v6YQ42kpSx-VONBFhT3CzA

Withithmila, al-ahmahnah, Allaheim, al-hāhmdulillah, and al-a-a-Rasuulah, and on Hishālālhabi, and Ajambe, Ais and Aishaeimai and my brothers and sisters. I pray that everyone is doing well, and I ask Allah Safanahua who it would aught and feels for our sins of our showcomings,

and grant us his special mercy, not only in this life, mainly in the next. Hohmah, the godalmeen, every single prayer, things change, right? Al-a-Lahmah, you know, I'm seeing a lot of people switching it out, you know, the video quality gets better sometimes, the microphone,

phones change. You know, I was holding it for at the Maghru, and now I haven't on the stand. Hamdil-Lah, you know, there are different things that change. Al-Handah. But one thing I don't want us to change, my dear brothers and sisters, is what we did during this month of Ramadan. And it's very beautiful because earlier I spoke about the gift of pain. And I actually want to continue to elaborate on this with how we can utilize that pain in our lives and turn it into something better and turn it into a means of blessings. And I want to elaborate on it because earlier I did mention I didn't get enough time to actually go through everything because we have a strict time, right?

We know that we fasted a whole day. It's mugrude of time. We're not about to sit here for 15, 20 minutes, and then, inshallah, delay ourselves, you know, eating and drinking maybe because, you know, we're not going to do that right here, you know. And then after that, you know, we go on about it. But inshallah, just to let you all know,

inshallah, we are coming to the close of this series. We are on, I believe, tonight, if I'm not mistaken, we're on episode 28. So we have two more episodes, inshallah after this. I pray the series has been beneficial for everyone, including myself. I feel like I've learned a lot as well throughout this series when it comes to teaching, you know, everyone, inshallah, and ask Allah,

to forgive us all and forgive me if I made any mistakes throughout this whole entire series, not just in this episode or just in select episodes. But one of the things I mentioned earlier as well is to seek patience through prayer. It's to seek patience, right? Through prayer. So, you know, one of the, the ayas in the Quran is, was ta'enu bis sobri and salar. Right, to seek patience and to seek help through patience and prayer. It's very beautiful. because as we continue on throughout these last 10 nights and these last couple of nights, Madur brothers and says, as I say, like, a couple, because in Salo, we only have about two left. But when you look at it, the way that this actually works is very beautiful.

We don't say, oh, you know, I went through all these tests throughout the year, and then the month of Ramadan comes up and I have no more tests. And then, you know, after that, on the day of E, my test increased and then I go back to what I did. But one of the things in which we've also been taught is to endure. those trials and those tests and right and there are different things that we can endure and we can endure there are things right and sometimes you know it goes to the fact of if we have things that are harding us and they're harming us and it's very difficult for us right and you know i'm not speaking of physical pain in this regard here in this talk i want to speak more about spiritual and mental pain

as well not really mental i don't want to get into a mental level i'm not good with that okay i don't want to talk about mental but mainly spiritual but when it comes to this I don't want us to be in this state of mind that we go through the Maturamadan in a time in which we try to endure. And we try absolute hardest to persevere. And we try absolute hardest to go and push all of our efforts, pushing ourselves so far to the limit. And then on the day of Eid, we become lazy again and we do nothing. And then we're like, oh, man. And then you feel this pain.

This pain continues to go again and again. And not only is it the pain of others, but sometimes it's the pain of your sins. Right. I know a lot of us are like, wait, what? Yes, sometimes the pain of your sins weighs so heavy of a burden upon your soul that it ends up making a hard pain for you, right? It ends up hurting yourself. You end up hurting yourself with the sins that you've committed because your heart and your soul needs Allah saffano how it's a lot and we need a connection to Allah. And if you do not have that connection with Allah, it becomes difficult. And now your soul and your heart,

you start to fill that burden, right? Your soul and your heart start to be disconnected. you feel the burden of that disconnection and now it makes you feel like man I'm not doing anything I'm doing nothing well I'm doing nothing good which is why my dear brothers and sisters we should make the dua

simple dua Allahhuma in me right oh Allah you are the most pardoning you love to pardon so please pardon so throughout these last nights as well my dear brothers and sisters

we all are going to feel this feeling of relief right and throughout the mother Ramadan we feel it because the shaitan is not present in our lives but on the day of eat sometimes a lot of us and this has happened before in the past life but sometimes a lot of us feel very trapped in a scenario very trapped very trapped in the scenario that man i cannot you what i mean i cannot i'm saying very genuinely i cannot get out of this trap i did it's like it's like i was just free i had freedom

throughout the maturamadan the day of eve now i feel like i'm being constricted and trapped again And sometimes it's because we didn't quit the bad habits. Sometimes it's because we haven't pushed ourselves enough to actually try and build good habits. We haven't pushed ourselves enough to quit those bad habits. And also to try and seek forgiveness for it. We haven't pushed ourselves enough to seek tovah, to seek repentance from Allah. And sometimes it weighs so heavily upon us that on the day of eat, we feel as though we are trapped again back in those same boots again.

And we're like, how do I get out of it? And I have to wait 11 more months until the next Ramadan to feel free again. And you're not going. guaranteed to see that. So what I want to give us a reminder of tonight as we go on shout out to pray our title wee after this, the best advice I can give to any of us, any of us, including myself, is don't just put the pain away, right? You feel that spiritual pain that I'm not doing enough. I'm not worshiping enough. I'm not praying enough. The pain may not be a pain that actually full on hurts. It might be a pain as though I can't stop it. Like,

I feel unfulfilled. It's a pain that you feel, right? I can't really describe it. When someone feels unfulfilled and they feel as though they are literally empty, they are meaningless, they're purposeless, that pain weighs down on them. And it doesn't, it's not like a physical pain. It's not like a pain that you actually can feel. It's a pain that's different. It's a spiritual pain that it brings you down so far. It brings you down so far to the point that sometimes it even makes you quit so many different things that you did. It could be so many of good things that you did. It makes you quit them because it's that pain that's in you. It's that pain that you have now that you have literally put away for so much time, which is why I give us the reminder tonight to recognize the

purpose of the pain, to ensure that we are transforming that pain into strength, to ensure that we are also trying to make sure that we are helping others through their pain. It's like we want to be helped through our pain. And finally, my dear brothers and sisters, I want to give us the final reminder of how and I know we only have like seven minutes left but how how how beautiful the wisdom and the hecima of Allah supana hua Tallah is with that pain that we have and the first thing I want to mention is an a a year from the Quran in which I mentioned earlier and that was when Allah suhpana huata says in the Quran and we test you with evil with good right

and we test you with evil and with good as trial and to us you will be returned to us you shall return in to allah, will be in allah, he, Raj and to Allah, we shall return. Right. So this ayah here reminds us that both good and bad experiences are tests from Allah, supranahua, hu, ta'a. Like, if you have a whole bunch of wealth is a test, and if you have no wealth, it's a test. You might wonder, how's it a test?

I can go into deep, you know, philosophical conversation about these two different ones and how they're different and how these both are tests, but I'm going to make it easy for all of us. The good in having wealth is that you can give. But the bad in having wealth is that sometimes that wealth overtakes you and then you find the people of the dunya now, who are so overtaken by that wealth that they cannot even think about escaping that wealth. They have $50 billion and you wonder, what am I doing with this wealth? Like, what am I doing with it?

All I'm doing is getting munches. All I'm doing is getting things of the dunya. If you have wealth right now and I'm speaking to all of the brothers and sisters right now, listening in physical and listening online. If you have wealth right now, any amount. Build your aheera, not your dunya. Just imagine someone who is sleeping right now on the streets. Imagine someone who continuously goes every single day without food and water.

And they're in the Matta of Ramadan. And they're outside the Matur Ramadan. And they have the same thing going on. They don't have food. They don't have water. They don't have shelter. And imagine you spending that money that you have to build a mansion that you cannot keep for longer than one second. Because the moment you buy it, the next moment, they will be praying Janaza over you.

The next moment. And it sounds like a very hard and tough reality. But this is the pain of that. What happens sometimes is that we get so engulfed in this dunya and so engulfed inside of the dunya and the things that it has and the pleasures that we forget what the ultimate purpose is. So my dear brothers and sisters, I give us the reminder that when it comes to these tests, I might never mention the second one, I'm sorry if I did it, but when it comes to these tests, they're designed to shape our achlac, and they're designed to build our good character, and they're designed to strengthen our imman and strengthen our relationship with Allah,

so on our hua'u, which is why the purpose of that pain is that it helps us realize that we are in control of nothing, and Allah safanao'u'u'a is in control of everything. and it brings us closer to Allah because we turn back to him, right? We turn back to him humble. We realize, I have control over nothing and you have control over everything. Do you think that you were the one who created the earth?

Are you the one who created yourself? Are you the one who created the wealth? Are you the one who created your children? No, because many of us and a lot of us sometimes struggle to even have kids and we say, oh, I had the kid. No, you did not have the kid. Allah placed that upon you to actually even have a kid

because there are certain people who he did not write down to even have a kid so look towards him with your brothers and sisters and look at how merciful Allah is that he makes it so that we recognize through that pain reliance on him to walko reliance on Allah supanahua

and I mentioned it earlier right the story of Ayub alaysh alayshalam he faced immense suffering the losing of wealth the losing of health, the losing of family, yet through all of that, he still remains steadfast in his faith, and he said in the Quran, it's narrated in the Quran in Sura 12, Ayah 18. He said, indeed, patience is beautiful. Indeed, patience is beautiful. What does that mean? That means that having patience is very

beautiful. It's very good. It's a very good quality, which is why another ayah, which we mentioned earlier, is that Allah, subhanna, Hecala, says in the Quran, and be patient, for indeed, Allah, is with the patient. One of the qualities in which Allah, Sufano, Hei-a-a-a-la's love of a true movement is patience. So if you have patience, Allah, supano-hu-Tal will love you more.

And those test and those hardships that you're being placed and you're being burdened with are actually a means of the love of Allah supani and hua-ta-a-a-a-a-a-and. And I want to mention the last part, which I mentioned earlier, which is helping others through their pain. Our experiences with pain

can empower us to help others, right? We feel this sense of, oh, man, I went through this. and I went through that. And when we have faced our own struggles, we become more, what, compassionate towards those who are actually suffering, which is why the Prophet of Allah,

Hewasalam, taught us the importance of supporting one another and supporting this Ummah when he said the believers in their mutual kindness, compassion, and sympathy are like one body. When one part of the body aches, when one part of the body feels pain, the whole body feels pain. If you stub your toe on the door, on the wall,

whatever, then now the rest of your body hurts. right it's just how it works it's a way that allah subram a has made the body and if we can join together as an ummat as a community to join together and help one another and our brothers and sisters and our believers alike then we'll be like one body which is why the last reminder i give us here tonight my dear brothers and sisters not to make this too long is to ensure that we are shifting our perspective like i mentioned earlier shifting our perspective upon these hardships. And instead of viewing them as suffering and hardship, view them as gifts that refine us rather than confining us, rather than keeping us back and holding us back. And I

answered the question earlier of test or punishment. How do you know? A test is something that brings you closer to Allah and a punishment brings you further. So many brothers and sisters, we ask Allah, Sufana Huatara, to grant us the ability to embrace our trials with gratitude and with patience and with peace and with tranquility and with contentment with his decree. We ask Allah subana-ho-to-a-ta-a to grant us the hikma and the divine wisdom to understand the test that we don't understand and we ask Allah, subhanahua-ta-a-a-a-a-a-a-to- forgive us for our sins and our shortcomings and grant us his special mercy, not only in this life remaining in the next. But your brothers and sisters, as we continue on in this 28th night, maybe Naya v.

Who knows? Or even night for us, you know, Hamdulillah. Make dua. Make dua-a-a-a-a-ta-ha heals those who are sick, those who are ill. He helps those who are struggling, those who are in pain, those who are in poverty, those who are have a lot of wealth and he makes us all humble within that and Allah sappano hua we ask Allah saffano hua to grant us the ability to be forgiven for our sins in these last nights Allah humahumah in nighiqa and to hebbul afaafu on me oh Allah

subhaphano whoiata forgive us for our sins and our shortcomings ya Allah oh Allah we come to you with murder we come to you yeah Allah with humility with humbleness ya Allah please grant us the ability to be forgiven ya Allah please banish your mercy now only in this life I mean in the next Amen. And I thinkerun, al-handsh, all right. We'll praise Salat, At all right, my dear brothers and sisters. And asana'amu.

And, al-a-a-a-a-hom a lot, and abercment of Allah, and burqatting. Yeah,