Sheikh Uthman Hadi - You Can't Please everyone So focus on pleasing Allah | Friday Khutbah

Episode Date: December 12, 2025

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. My Dear brothers and sisters, today I want to address a common struggle we all face in our lives: the desire to please everyone around us. In our quest for acceptance and approval, we often forget the most important aspect of our lives—pleasing Allah (SWT). Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/sheikh-uthman-hadi--6689369/support.https://sheikhuthmanhadi.beam.lyhttps://open.spotify.com/user/315hadqmwxllibu6ubi5us2cbn2y?si=572b4d8898284e9ehttps://open.spotify.com/show/3MQHfrpjj3XXcqoPbN5Dl8?si=v6YQ42kpSx-VONBFhT3CzA

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our infusina and from s'i'amal M'i'i'i'u and who it'sh Roof, for la Hadealah and I shalphalululah with allah, one of our shriekana. And I shodwen, Muhammad and Abdu,

and Rasulam. Al-a-a-a-a-a-rahmatulah and my dear brothers and sisters. I pray this that everyone is doing well and I ask Allah, to forgive us for our sins and our shortcomings and to grant us a special mercy not only in this life, but mainly in the next.

My dear brothers and sisters, today is the blessed day of Friday. I encourage everyone, including myself, and mainly myself, to increase an acts of worship, acts of i bada and acts that are pleasing to Allah suhpana huwata give more in charity day make more doa try to pray more today and perform more in dicker and or ath khan and remember sabahana huaata I pray that everyone has performed their obligation you know that everyone has performed the obligatory acts on this special day and we ask

Allah to accept them from us ameem My brothers and sisters today I want to address a common struggle that we face within our lives as Muslims and that is the desire to please everyone around us you know and this is something that happens within our lives natural as human beings as people because it's not just as believers it's not just as disbelievers but it's as people period right and the thing I want us to understand is the natural part of this, right? And how it's natural for us to seek the approval of our family members, our friends, you know, our loved ones, people who are close to us. It's normal for us to seek that approval, right? It's normal for us to say, okay, I want to please you because, you know,

you love me and I know that I love you and you know, it's kind of like, okay, I want to make sure you're pleased with me, you're happy, right? And the only one that we should truly be pleasing is Allah, right? And I would like to bring that up here as well. And that's, and that's is the fact that no matter what we do, Allah supranao'u'u'a'a should be at the center of our lives, right? When you are praying Salah, which we talk about Allah here, but when we are praying Salah, the main center should be that you're pleasing Allah, Your praying to please Allah, you're praying for His sake only, right?

When you are giving in charity, you should give in charity for His sake, to please him, not to please your family members, not to praise your friends, you know, and people around you within your circle. But instead, to please your own, right? To please your Lord, your creator and chalik. And one thing I like to us to realize here is when it comes to our remembrance and Allah, Sufana, Hewetada, all of it goes back to the pleasure of Allah Safanahua Tala, right? When you are seeking Allah supranahua Tala's forgiveness, you seek to please Allah

because maybe you committed a sin, maybe you did something that was displeasing Allah, it was displeasing Him. And the one thing we have to realize is that when it comes to our lives, nothing else matters except for pleasing the Creator, right? Nothing else matters.

And when it comes to any and everything we do, Allah's upon Allah should be at the center of it, right we should remember allah we should focus on our connection with him and that's the thing else i would like to tie into this and that is our connection with him and when it comes to pleasing allah supranahua jada it can only come from our connection to him to his book and you know to his messengers and his angels and all these different things and supanelah the thing i would like to bring up here which i know we talked about in another uh series of my talk which was um your our relationship with Allah supranah and that is the fact that the prophet

of allah a leo when he would do anything who was he remembering who was he trying to please who was he trying to please was he trying to please his companions was he trying to please the people or was he trying to please his rob and that's a strong question we have to ask ourselves on a day-to-day basis how often are we trying to please a lot because eventually this natural riba, this natural pride, this natural means of showing off overcomes us. Because now we feel as if I get praised when I do something good. I get praised when I do something good by these specific people. Right. So what's the, what do we want to do? What do we want to do

after that point, right? After that time, what do we want to do? We want to continue pleasing them. We want to continue making these people happy. If you go and you buy somebody something, you say, I'm trying to make this person happy. No. Stop from Allah, you're trying to make Allah happy. You're trying to gain reward from Allah. Not so you can make this person happy.

Not because you said this word to this person to make them happy. But rather to please Allah supranahua'u'u'etada. And there are serious consequences that come when it comes to trying to please everyone, right? And before, you know,

I go into that, right? I would like to go back to what I just said about buying stuff for people or, you know, giving stuff to people or saying certain things to people. There's an authentic Hadith that the Prophet of Allah Al-a-a-u-Salam said, whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by displeasing the

people. Allah will suffice him against the people. What does this mean? What does his hat teach us? Well, it teaches us that when we prioritize pleasing Allah, Sufāna, He will take care of our affairs and protect us from the disapproval of others.

Right? you have you ever seen a person when no matter what they do they walk into any place and people are automatically pleased with them people are automatically happy to see them right what does that come from does that come from you pleasing a specific group of people because every person has different opinions right if you were trying to please everyone when it comes to you or saw that if someone says hey you know you need to do the touch your head like this oh no you need to make you i like this no you don't need to say that long. No, you need to recite faster, right? What does it become? Now it becomes an act of disobedience. Now it becomes an innovation because you're following everybody else,

right? And you're displeasing Allah supranahua. And in this hadith when the prophet Allah al-a-u-u-salim says whoever seeks to the, seeks to please Allah suhuponahua-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a by displeasing the people. That's the main part of this hada. You are displeasing the people for the pleasure of your lord because now you realize what's higher you realize what's higher of value what's a higher of status you say okay i am pleasing a love supranahubata for his sake and his sake only i'm not doing this for the people anymore because we get caught in this perpetual loop of this is going to be for such and such person this is going to be for this person and that person and this person to that person, right? And then it becomes a conflict because now everybody is upset at you

because they tell you to do one thing, you do that thing. And then somebody else said you do something else and you do that thing. So now the person who told you to do the thing originally is now upset because you're not doing their thing. So my brothers and sisters, when it comes to pleasing a loss of power of huajala, it comes from displeasing the people. Even if it is displeasing the people, Allah will take care of our needs. But we have to look on a bigger scale. Yes, this person might be upset at me.

Yes, this might happen. That might happen. The consequences of the people. But what are the consequences of our rub? What are the consequences of Allah, on the day of judgment when we try to please every person that we saw, every person that noticed us, we always try to please them? If one specific group tells you to wear this

and you're comfortable wearing something else, you're not going to bend so you can fit that description. You're not going to bend so you can fit what they say. But rather, you stay firm. How do you stay firm? Through your connection to Europe, through your connection to him. And the only way to do that is by building one. Because just saying simply,

I'm trying to do this for the pleasure of a velocity. I'm trying to do this to please him, it's very difficult. It's very, very difficult. And it's meant to be difficult. It's meant to be a test. When it comes to pleasing Allah, suhpahua-a-ta-a-ta-a-a-a-a-a, it's meant to be a test. So when it comes to anything that we do, we must remember this hadith, and especially the first portion of this, that whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by displeasing the people.

If we get the reward. you will get your reward by pleasing Allah supranahua tada and not pleasing the people because the people don't matter the people have to go and answer to Allah supana huwata and you're not going to bend your life so that you can please others but the main one you should be pleasing is Allah supranahuaata and like I was saying before I kind of went back off track when I was the consequences of trying to please others you know suhpang Allah When we attempt to please everyone, we compromise our values and our belief, right? And it kind of goes back to what I just said. We bend. If someone says you're supposed to be wearing a short robe, you're supposed to be wearing a camis. And it's like, okay. Then someone says you're not supposed to wear a coofi.

It's like, okay. Then it's like, you're not supposed to wear these type of shoes. it's like okay and then it becomes a means of everyone else controlling your life because now now what happens what happens when people start controlling

your life you're now being pulled by all these different people because they want something different from you and you want your own thing but they want something different and you're not going to be able to please everyone and just as

Allah suhpaniahu and Tala says in the Quran and do not follow that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight, and the heart. You will all, all of these things will have to be testified for. They will all have to be testified for. So when it comes to our faith, do not risk this dunya over some temporary compromises that you're making. You're saying, okay, I'm going to bend to what you're saying.

And of course, throughout our life, we still have to find balance. We're not going to neglect what every person says. If our parents say, hey, this is best for you to wear, you know, it's wintertime. It's best to wear a coat. We're not going to say, no. I'm going to do my own thing. I'm not going to wear that coat because I want to have my own thing. Right?

Yes, the parents went best for us. We still have the choice of, okay, I might not want to wear that specific coat. I might want to wear a blue coat instead of a green coat, right? it might go better with my office. That's fine. Right. And also realizing that there are boundaries when it comes to certain people. When it comes to our parents, most importantly, we cannot go over that line. If they tell us, hey, it's better for you to wear these shorts or wear these pants, you're not going to say no. I'm going to walk outside in underwear. You're not going to do that. You're not going to be defying. You're not going to defy and say, no, I'm not going to do that.

and you don't have the best endurance at heart because they might have the best interests in the heart but not trying to please them not trying to say no matter what I do no matter what you say I'm not trying to please anybody else I'm trying to please you I'm trying to please Allah

if you say I love wearing faux and I love wearing this and this and this and this as long as it's harav and your parents say no you need to wear this you need to wear this type of, you know, hoodie, you need to wear this, you wear that. You stand firm upon your belief. You say, no, I, in a respective manner, of course. You say, no, I want to wear this. Right? You're not going to shout to them. You're not going to get

upset. You're not going to say, no, I'm not going to wear that. Okay? You're going to be kind. You're going to be nice because that's a major sin of talking back to your parents, you know. So, I would like to conclude the rest of this talk, my brothers and sisters, by a hadith of the Parvāāā'u'a He was said, and he says, the best of people are those who are most beneficial to others. Right? So what does that mean in our eyes? That means that no matter what we do, be beneficial to others.

Don't pull and push people to one thing, but that you won't want to be pushed or pulled to that one thing. Give people their space. Give people their boundaries. Be kind of people. If people want to wear this type of thing, don't tell them, no, you can't wear that. You've got to wear exactly what I wear.

Because we're best friends, you're going to wear what I wear. I don't care what it is or you're wearing. You're going to wear it. No. Right? You have to stop. You have to examine yourself and you have to say no. I'm going to give people's face and I'm going to give people that opportunity.

So my dear brothers and sisters, we must strive to be among those who seek Allah's pleasure above all else. We ask Allah, Allah, to guide us, protect us, and help us to remain steadfast in our faith. and after the dachngu'll the Tahitlila, easier and al-a-a-allem and all right-a-lake-a-hae.

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