Short Wave - Are we cooked? How social media shapes your language w/ Adam Aleksic (from TED Tech)

Episode Date: November 15, 2025

This week, we’re sharing a special episode from TED Tech exploring Gen Z slang words like "unalive," "skibidi" and "rizz." Where do these words come from — and how do they get popular so fast? Linguist Adam Aleksic explores how the forces of social media algorithms are reshaping the way people talk and view their very own identities. Technology’s role in our lives is evolving fast. TED Tech helps you explore the riveting questions and tough challenges we’re faced with that sit at the intersection of technology and humanity. Listen in every Friday, with host, journalist Sherrell Dorsey, as TED speakers explore the way tech shapes how we think about society, science, design, business, and more. Listen to TED Tech wherever you get your podcasts or go to: https://link.mgln.ai/Ng9EKL See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for sponsorship and to manage your podcast sponsorship preferences.NPR Privacy Policy

Hey, shortwafers, Emily Kwong here. So every generation has its own set of slang. My generation does, yours does. I'm sure words are coming to mind right now. And each word has its own interesting evolutionary story. But these days, there is a unique tool influencing language. And that is technology. Gen Z has popularized the words, unalive, skibbitty, Riz.

And fueling these and other phrases are algorithms. That's what we're excited to explore today in a special episode from the podcast, tech. Linguist Adam Alexic gets into the nitty gritty of how social media algorithms are reshaping the way we communicate and how we view ourselves. I hope you enjoy. Language is this organic, fluid thing, constantly shifting and growing alongside humanity. And in the 21st century, our language might now be shaped by the spaces we're using it in, namely the internet. Think about it. What if the very way we communicate, The words we choose and the nuances of our slang are being influenced, subtly, but significantly,

by the algorithms that power our favorite social media platforms. It's a curious thought, isn't it? That a word might exist not just because a community coined it, but because a digital system favored it, amplified it, and pushed it into our collective consciousness. This is TED Tech, a podcast from the TED Tech, Audio Collective. I'm your host, Shirel Dorsey. Our next speaker is a linguist who has had a front row seat to this evolution. Adam Alexic has watched firsthand how the digital currents are shaping

the very fabric of our communication. Now he's here to share how words like Unalive or Riz go from niche slang to mainstream phenomena in the surprising, sometimes uncomfortable, implications of this algorithmic influence. Adam's talk is a re-examination of our own online habits, not to mention our relationship to our rapidly changing lexicon. And now, Adam Alexic takes the TEDx stage. How many of you are familiar with the word unalive as a synonym of kill? Show of hands.

Okay, like 80% of you? Great. Now, follow up question. How many of you have heard the word? word onalive being used in person. Okay, I'm getting like 40, 50%. Great. Those of you that said no clearly aren't middle school teachers. If you spend enough time around seventh and eighth graders, you will hear them using the word. It'll mostly be in informal situations, but could show up in contexts like a student's essay on Hamlet's contemplation of unaliving himself, or a classroom

discussion on the unaliving that happens in Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. And these aren't hypothetical situations. These are actual examples drawn from the thousand plus middle school teachers I've surveyed about this word. It's a weird hobby of mine. I don't know. Clearly, for such a recent word, unalive shows up in an impressive range of scenarios. But the main function appears to be euphemistic.

Many kids use the word when they're uncomfortable talking about topics like death. since on alive sounds like a less scary word. And in many ways, this is nothing new. We've been euphemizing death as long as we've had language. The word decease, for example, comes from Latin de Kessus, which was a euphemism for the previous Latin word for death, Morse. Apparently, even the Stoic Romans were as queasy about death as today's middle schoolers. But there is a crucial difference between on alive and deceased.

And that's that we only got the word on alive because you can't say kill. still on TikTok. They have a mysterious algorithm that removes or suppresses any post that might violate their community guidelines, so people got around with that with the word on alive. The middle schoolers don't know this. They see the word online or hear from friends and assume it's a word like any other. And fair enough, you probably didn't know where the word deceased came from, unless you're some kind of etymology nerd. But decease didn't happen because it was impossible to carve the word Morse into an ancient Roman decees. tablet. We are entering an entirely new era of language change driven by social media algorithms.

As a linguist and content creator, I've been in a unique position to see this happen from the inside. It's almost paralyzing. I constantly feel how my own language is being affected, and judging from the 40% of you who answered both of my questions, it's beginning to change your language too. And it's not just new words to avoid algorithmic censorship. The very structure of social media is changing where words come from, how words get popular, and how quickly those words spread. I believe some of you might be familiar with this song. Sticking out your yacht for the Rizzler. You're so skibbity, you're so phantom tacks, I just want to be your Sigma. Freaking come here. Give me your Ohio. For those of you out of the loop, these are the lyrics to the Rizler song,

a meme that went massively viral last year. It's full of current middle school slang words like Riz, Giat, and Skibbidi, and was instrumental in popularizing those words to a broader audience. This is because social media algorithms reward repetition. If a song is funny or catchy and people interact with it, the algorithm will then push that song to more people since it's proven to drive engagement on the app. The same is true of memes or words.

words in general, since trending metadata like hashtags will also be pushed to people who previously shown interest in similar content. Creators are very aware of this. And we actively use trending audios or hashtags to make our videos perform better. In the wake of the Rizzler song, for example, we saw an explosion of people making videos with the words Riz, Giat, and Skibbidi. Because they knew those videos would do well. And as a result, the word spread. Language has always been a little bit like a virus. Words are transmitted from one host to another, reproducing and changing as they infect different people along social networks.

But now the literally viral nature of social media is accelerating this process from start to finish. In the span of just a year, a word like Riz can go from complete obscurity to becoming the Oxford English Dictionary Word of the Year. And the algorithm is the culprit but influencers are the accomplices. We use whatever tricks we can to keep you entertained

because that makes our videos do better, which helps us earn a living. This means that we often end up creating and spreading words that help the system. For example, the suffix core has recently gotten very popular in Gen Z slang to describe specific aesthetics, like cottage core, or goblin core, or angel core.

And on the surface level, these are cute. You watch a cottage core video, you like it, later on you get more cottage core content. You might even start to identify with the cottage core aesthetic. But here's the thing.

It's all fake. The entire reason these aesthetics exist is because TikTok algorithm has decided that words like Cottage Corps qualify as trending metadata. So creators respond by making more cottage core content that propagates the word and then more people interact with it, which makes the word trendier.

And this happens because social media algorithms wants to make you identify with hypercompartmentalized labels, since they can then give you extremely specific commercialized content catering to that identity. Now that you're a cottage core person, you feel special every time you get a cottage core video. You're like, cottage core? Well, the algorithm really knows me.

The algorithm gave you that identity. You might even start buying cottage core clothing or cottage core decorations to fit your new lifestyle as a cottage core person, and that's exactly what they want. The craziest part is they're not even trying to hide this. TikTok's business platform openly claims that subcultures are the new demographics, and then gives businesses ideas for how to profit off the cottage core aesthetic. Essentially, they're driving the mass production of identity building labels in order to be. to profit off all of us. And while there's nothing wrong with being on Cottage Corps TikTok, it is a kind of echo chamber that affirms your Cottage Corps personality.

The same is true of any niche community created on social media, and on one hand, this is great for linguistics because language change is always driven by groups with shared interests that have a shared need to invent new words. On Alive, for example, became a thing because mental health communities on TikTok needed a way to share their stories and spread resources. On the other hand, some of the linguistic communities created by the algorithm can be actively harmful. Many younger people have started using the suffix, pilled, to mean convinced into a lifestyle. If I recently discovered that I really like eating burritos, for example, I can say, I'm so burrito-pilled.

But that word was formed through analogy with black-pilled, a term meaning convinced into in-cell ideology. Now, incels are a dangerous, misogynistic group. They've perpetrated multiple terrorist attacks that have killed dozens of people, and yet somehow the vocabulary is filtering to Gen Z slang because the algorithm gave these hate groups a space. I like to consume videos about urban design. And a few months back, I got a video about how great it is to be a parking lot-pilled pavement princess.

Admittedly, I found the video pretty funny, and I liked it, which ended up giving me more urban design in-cell-themed meme videos, like one about being fossil fuel-pilled and bad to the bone, and another about being a walk-pilled cardiomaxer. And a lot of people similarly encounter these words as they spread in ironic or meme contexts. Let's take another look at the Rizzler song. The lyric, I Just Want to Be Your Sigma, refers to the concept of a sigma male, which in-sales used to describe their desired position outside of the social hierarchy. And again, on the service level, it's a funny meme. It's innocent.

Many people don't even know where it came from. But for the few people who might be interested in the underlying idea, it's now more accessible to them because of the way that slang spreads on the internet. It starts in some corner of social media, becomes a viral meme, and along the way, the etymology is lost to a lot of people. And this doesn't only allow communities to harm us. It allows us to harm communities. Two of the main demographics that come up with modern slang

are the gay and black communities, since marginalized groups consistently use language as a way to reclaim power. All of our most popular internet slang words, Slay, serve, Bustin, Queen, Cooked, ate, gai, many, many others, others, all come from queer or black culture. These words originated as a form of creative

expression independent from the straight white norms of the English language. But when those words began to be used online, they were quickly taken by people who wanted to capitalize on the perceived coolness or comedic value of black and queer culture. When a word like Giat goes from an African-American English pronunciation of Goddamn to being used as a noun for but in memes like the Rizzler song, it's ultimately exaggerated in a way. that makes a farce of its pronunciation and meaning. Its original importance is diluted as it becomes widespread, and you can be sure that none of the middle schooler is saying,

Giat, are aware of its etymology. Unfortunately, just like the euphemization of onalive is in new, the appropriation of African American English also isn't new. We've been whitewashing black slang since the days of cool and high five, which at this point have become so mainstream they're just seen as regular words. But once again, social and socialized, social media algorithms are a vehicle enabling and accelerating this process from start to finish.

They create communities that feel like they have a space to use their words and then open up those communities just enough to allow those words to spread. That's how we got on alive. That's how we got Cottage Corps. That's how we got Sigma and that's how we got Giot. Whenever I post a video talking about one of these topics, I inevitably get the exact same comment. We're so cooked, meaning we're so screwed. Ironically, this is also TikTok slang coming from African-American English, but I wanted to address it. Are we, in fact, cooked?

I know I've just painted a very bleak picture of the future of the English language, and there are a lot of concerning trends to unpack. But these trends all do follow the same historical patterns that we've seen time and time again. I don't think we're sliding into a dystopian. 1984 scenario because we're always coming up with new ways around media censorship. If a word gets banned, we'll just come up with another word, like we did with Unalive. I don't think middle schoolers are suffering from brain rot, because younger generations always latch on to new slang as a way to build identity, and the older generations always

say, ah, you're ruining the language. But just like the people who were saying cool and high five back in the day, the middle school are saying Riz and Giat and Skivety Toilet aren't going to be incapable of writing an essay. I don't think. our vocabulary is being corrupted by the commercialization of our language. We've already been using brand names like Kleenex and Google in everyday conversations, so Cottage Corps isn't about to turn us into mindless consumer drones. I don't even think we're dangerously normalizing in-cell rhetoric, if anything, our slang is built on a shared mockery of in-sell ideas.

When a kid says something like, I'm so burrito-pilled, they're not saying that because they're black-pilled, but because the underlying idea is making fun of how incels talk. In fact, I think each of these words is a beautiful, colorful addition to the English language that reflects the diverse cultural moment we're all in. But I do think we should be aware. We should be aware when the way we're talking may have been conditioned by the algorithm. We should be aware when the words we're using may have been engineered to sell us things.

We should be aware when our language regurgitates extremist rhetoric and we should be aware when that language can be used to harm other people. We should be aware of etymology in general because it helps us better understand who we are today. We should be aware. And with that, I've just one final piece of slang for you. It's a common phrase used by younger people when we finished a long-winded explanation of something. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk. That was an episode of TED Tech.

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