Should I Delete That? - HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT! We can't delete it now!

Episode Date: May 22, 2022

This week, we’ve got a tasty little episode for you! Not only are we celebrating half a million downloads, but we are signed to the Acast Creator Network! We couldn’t be prouder. In honour of the news, our gorgeous Amy asks the girls YOUR questions. So buckle up because its gonna be full of confessions, drum kit updates and a sprinkling of the usual poo chat…Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [e-mail] & edited by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oh my God, why did I post that? Ah, I don't know what to do. Should I delete that? Yeah, you should definitely delete that. Hello. Hello, guys. Welcome to a really exciting episode. We've got a huge announcement we've probably put in the title.

So the surprise is over. We'll put it on Instagram. But things are changing in should I delete that world? Something very exciting is. happened we are now signed to drum roll drum roll jump roll we're going go go go go ready hang on go go go I didn't join in ACA definitely should have gone with her I'm sorry we're signed to ACA after three one two three ACAS

I really hope Davey doesn't edit that to make it sound good Because that was not good That was fucking chaos Guys, biggest announcement You'll have seen already We've got new album art Yes and don't we look swish Don't we look

I quit I fucking I'm tired into a contract with you now Literally we signed our lives away This morning On the day of recording And you're saying things like switch We do look swish Yeah we do

We do look at shop by our lovely friend Pifi Yeah we've got the new album art And things are changing with the format too not this episode this episode is a fun bumper special before we go into that can I just say half a million downloads half a million downloads we have hit half a million downloads which is we we I actually cannot believe like no part of me can believe and this is our 20th episode because I still I was talking to someone the other day about it I was like we just sit either in a random studio or in our bedrooms at like talking like midnight in like a midnight chatting shit into

microphones and it feels so surreal it's actually going into people's ears and as well as the like the half million downloads we know we're at three quarters of a million listens just on apple so like i thought downloads was that but it's not like listens are more and the downloads are separate so actually i'm just going to put this shameless beg in go on if you guys subscribe to the podcast on whatever platform that you listen to your podcasts it automatically downloads and that really helps us with our ridiculous statistics but the people who aren't downloading it doesn't matter because we're still getting the list. It's so, I don't know, it's just insane.

It's just so many people. It's insane. So that would be very, very quality to do that. Yeah, that would be very bad. As someone who thrives on external validation, that would make me very happy, thanks. But yeah, so we've got, this is a special episode. And then going forward, this is our last episode just on a Monday,

because going forward, we are going to have our Monday episode with the good, the bad, the awkward and the interview. And then on Thursdays, we are going to have a bumper special episode of the Is It Just Me's, That is all email entries, questions, DMs to the Instagram. We will, it's a full community activity on Thursday. Yeah, so basically our, is it just me section, which normally comes after the interview, is, well, I was going to say so funny, but like, not that we're biased, but we love that part.

We really enjoy that part, but we do long interviews. So we wanted to make it like more of a thing. Yeah, and we know the episodes are kind of long and you guys are busy. Yeah. So you get bonus. right and we're just yeah it's gonna be fun I think so so as a reminder the email address for the podcast is should I delete that pod at gmail.com and we are on Instagram at should I delete that if you've got anything you want us to address in

our new Thursday episodes hit us up if you want anything you want us to address ever hit us up and if you've got any complaints keep them to yourself um something else really exciting has happened go on well by the time this episode airs yes I will be a while you will be a missus. I will be a missus. And the next episode we do will be from my honeymoon. I'm not going anywhere. I couldn't handle it. I'd miss you all too much and I'd get phoma and I'd be scared that you're going to drive our career into the ground. So I'm stricken around. I mean, it's so good that you've got like that much faith in me that if I do it by myself, we're just to have gone. No, it would be. I just, I couldn't miss. It's such an exciting time. Like,

I'm so happy these two things have come at once. So it just felt like a really exciting time to announce it. But yeah, by the time this podcast is out, I will be married. It's this weekend. It's, yeah, it's in three days, three, wait, what, oh my, oh, oh, three days time, wait, what, oh, oh, that's not great, is it, yeah, like two full days and then I'm done, and then I'm done, and it's a wedding. Yeah, we've done up early, we've got up at six, I've had the nails done, where

we've had our nails done, top and bottom, I've had a wax, just felt bridal, yeah, I've had my eyebrows, down my eyelashes, bought some earrings, because I didn't think about that, all the piercings when you get married, but it's not, yeah, like, I'm not taking the nose ring out, but you can't really go down with, like, what I had in there before just like kind of rusted like ancient earrings so yeah but we're nearly we're nearly ready we are we are good to go

everyone's like fucking Christ you shall have about this bloody wedding now like all I do is talk about this wedding I can't wait for we'll have to have like a debrief episode 100% we're talking about it Alex will be like oh babe welcome to our marriage let's spend these two weeks uninterrupted I'll be like okay I just need to call Alex I'm like Alex and tell her every single detail about my life so excited um yeah bring you on the honeymoon with us began yeah that would oh my god that would be

not literally just in the microphone no but i was thinking like it would be so cool we could just go on holiday yeah don't come on my honeymoon really no yeah that's fair enough that's fair enough i think alex likes me but not that much maybe no not that much at all i don't know why you think you like you i thought you did but um of course he does oh my god that's so like yeah this is the episode that we've been so excited to bring you now it's happening i know this is our special Can you believe it? Like someone's actually... Not really.

It's so weird. Mind you, I don't know what we thought was going to happen because let's be honest, there's nothing sad than a failed podcast that would have had to give up one. Like, imagine if no one had listened to it and we're just like dragging it on. And there's like two people listening

and we know there's two people listening. And we know that everybody hates it. But we can't stop because it's embarrassing. So at least... Yeah. Like this could be... Yeah, this has gone so much better than expected. Because we did not worst-case scenario this situation.

Like, if I'd have thought about that, I never would have started. This was, like, purely, like, this is one of the most impulsive thing. Well, that's a lie. I do a lot of impulsive things. But this was very impulsive. There was no planning, no strategy. We were just like, let's do a podcast. Two days later.

Okay, let's record a podcast. Three days later, it's live. And then it was number one. What the fuck? But now the strategy is coming because it's basically, it's been, it has been a lot. Like, we're not going to, like, shy away from that bit. We've kind of moaned about it enough. But it has been really hard work.

And a bit of strategy. I think we'll go a long way. We've got big dreams now. We do. We do. We want to take it like even more seriously. And with that in mind, let's lower the tone. We actually decided for a fun special episode today. We have Amy in the room. We should have introduced you sooner. Amy is the amazing face and brain behind the should I delete that podcast Instagram account. So most people have sent her their deepest, darkest secrets by now. And she's, has fallen with them on to us. Amy also handles the email account so that when we get the emails, they are a surprise to us, basically. Yeah, so when we're reading them out, it's for the first time.

Yeah, so we get our God to honest reaction, which is how I end up with my knees and my ass above my head and whatever else. So Amy's here. She's asked you guys for questions on the Instagram account. Yes, and we haven't heard the questions. We don't know what they are. So she's going to ask us, and I'm slightly nervous. I'm fucking shitting it. I mean, if I was you, I would be nervous because there's a lot on hair. Is that?

Oh my God, okay. But I think it's going to be really fun at the same time. Okay, I'm excited. But thank you everyone for sending your questions in because you actually make my job so much easier. Amy's not like sitting at home lying, yeah, making stuff up. What's your favourite colour? I do have to say, if you don't follow the Instagram account

already like okay obviously we're biased but it is so funny it's way funnier than we are oh yeah like yeah yeah way funny i'm like this makes us look great yeah look very funny when in reality and on the trends and down with the kids yeah it's all lame so yeah do go follow please please shall we yeah okay how is it going to work are we going to answer both of us answer the same thing or yeah i think let's not overthink it too much we'll take it in turn no plans as to see how it goes yeah let's just go for it like they're all a bit mishmashed some are like more like musings okay oh like thought-provoking okay rather than like a definitive question okay and then at the end i've got quick fire questions as well fucking oh my god next time we do a special let's do

mr and misses definitely misses and misses shall we oh my god next special let's do that for one of our wedding anniversaries yours is coming first let's do that for our wedding anniversary Or the podcast birthday. The podcast birthday. Yeah. Okay. Or maybe when we reach a million. Okay, yeah, fine.

Guys, get us for a million downloads and we'll play Mrs and misses. People are like, I don't want to hear that. People are like, unsubscribe. Unsubscribe. Your eyelashes look amazing by the way. Thank you. They actually feel it. I'm fully just giving a shout out to it.

If you want, like, my eyebrows actually get quite a lot of love and they have been pulled back from naughty's hell by Blink Brow Bar in, there's loads of them in London. There is a girl called a new. in Blink Brow Bar and Moby Road and she's literally like queen of brows and eyelashes and I've had a lift at a tint

and the eyelashes and they look so good made the biggest difference to my face I feel like I've had a little facelift which fuck loose I needed because I've slept in my two weeks You'd never know. Thanks. You'd never know.

Anyway, questions. Question of me. Number one, how do you learn to be more content in life than stop seeking to do more and have more? I don't feel qualified to other. for this one. Oh my God, I'm so content in my life.

I feel like, and I feel like I'm content in my life because I make active choices to be content. Yeah. Yeah, I really feel like happiness is a choice. Not all the time, not every minute, of every day. But there's always, there's always a choice in the day when you can choose how you want to think about something. Yeah.

And I don't know. I just, I spend a lot of my life now looking around being like, I'm so fucking lucky. Like, I'm so fucking lucky. And even that thought, like, I think gratitude goes such a long way. Like, even when there's something like, you know, like, I don't know, you know when someone says, like, you have your complete meltdown, it keeps happening this week, right, where I'll have like a meltdown about something. Because let's be honest, some things are really going wrong this week for me. Like, some big things are actually going wrong. And then Alex, my Alex goes, oh, everything's fine. Like, look how lucky. We're, oh, we're still going to get married. And I'm like, oh, fuck off. Like, don't be annoyingly positive here. And so sometimes it can feel really annoying, you know, when you just want to complain. But I think within yourself, just having a couple of minutes, as quick as you are to point out the negative things, which we are very quick. and I'm a very easily frustrated person

and I lose my temper quite quickly and I completely fly off the handle and it's always embarrassing because like two minutes later I'm like, oops. But I think as quickly as I do that I just have to find the good stuff just as fast so I know that if I've lost something it doesn't have to be related in any way

to the bad thing that's happened I just try and find something really good very instantly as well so it's like constantly striking a balance and as impulsive as I want to be negatively I need to be so impulsively positive as well and I think like I know I've been I know it stresses people out on the internet

how like relentlessly happy I try and make myself but it's like I find genuine pleasure in that. Yeah, I like that. That's brilliant. Yeah. I feel like I'm not qualified dancer just because I talk a lot about how, you know, I'm not always happy and I'm not always positive. But I do think there are two things for me

which have been massively helpful. And the first thing is like, I think it's in my nature to be very goal-driven sounds weird because it makes me sound like an ambitious, like businessman or something, I don't know, like a city banker or something, but like I've always been, and like that really fed into my stuff with eating disorders because I was like, I want to get to this weight and then I want to get down to this way. And I always had a goal in mind. And whenever I would reach that goal, which was just, you know, some like random like arbitrary weight, I would never feel happy

and I'd, you know, go for another goal, another goal. And I think that I've, I've applied that to my life as well which has been massively helpful in that I don't have goals anymore or at least I don't think I do I probably do I just don't really recognise it but I try and keep my life as goal free as possible because I don't think that's conducive to genuine contentment because I think you're striving for something that won't it's not necessarily fulfilling to reach a goal so I think that's one thing and then the other thing I have completely forgotten um while you think of it On that, I think it's a really good point and people keep staying on Instagram.

We don't prioritise. When we think about like the hustle and shit, like the things that we're hustling for, it's always like more money, more promotions, more, you know, like, and I actually, I don't think people hustle for happiness and that sounds sort of like really wanky, but like I don't think that's a priority

and it's like, it's really weird that, you know, and it's like, what are you doing now? And it's always job focused and like, what's happening in your career? And I'm like, tell about your life. Like, are you happy? When you work up this morning, were you happy? Because if not, then everything else is,

arbitrary like you say so i think that's lovely like the kind of distancing from goals and just make oh my god i'm going to vomit in my mouth when i say it but make happiness the goal oh get that on a poster please alex my alex always said i should start a fridge magnet business should we should we do podcast much make happiness the goal can we just have fridge magnets absolutely not i please i fucking love a fridge magnet no enjoy wouldn't you love that every time you open your fridge in the morning for your milk for your coffee make happiness no go And it doesn't open her fridge, there's nothing in it. Yeah, right, so you can fuck off.

You're not the person to, your market researcher is terrible. You haven't been in your fridge in days. And I remember the other thing I was going to say is that also I feel that for me, I've come to a realisation, whether or not it's fully registered, but I feel like I've realised that happiness is not this like state of euphoria, of this like ecstatic moment and feeling just like on top of the world. it's more like I guess like an absence of discontentment and it's everything being level and just steady and normal and I think that's I find that difficult for a brain like mine that it feels like it's very like seeking of think of like being really like I want happiness moments I'm always seeking like stuff like that but actually it comes from just the the level steady like life is just kind of on an even keel I feel like that's probably like true contentment, like the absence of discontentment is contentment, I guess.

See, there are so many quotes I could be whipping out right now. Honestly, I can't stop thinking about how inspiring I could be in this moment. Please, stop. Oh, I thought you're going to get, please. And I was like, no, no, no, right, fine, don't be inspired. Stay, as you are. Fuck all of you. Do you remember that Instagram account, uninspired?

And they did, like, it was like an anti-inspire, an anti-motivational account. It was really funny. you're too cynical I actually I love them I love it I mean look at me we're morning affirmations every day I do I do I do like some I'm gonna start giving you an affirmation a day as long as it's not live laugh love then we're good what's wrong with living laughing and loving Alex sorry what do you want to be dying crying and and wailing right but we'll put that on the fridge mat but see how well that sells these people want mat on their door mats will be you'll be surprised yeah you'll be surprised honestly those will be the houses that no one wants to to visit. I'm alright with that. Let's go and see Auntie Alex. No, no, it says dying, dying, crying and wailing on her floor. I love it. Anyway. Okay. Next up please Amy. Next. Does anyone else have fake conversations out loud when they're alone? I can't say that I do. I definitely do. Do you? Out loud? Yeah, yeah. Like you're saying. You'll say like out and like you'll speak it. Yeah, yeah. Sometimes I record myself speaking as.

well. Do you? If I think I'm saying it's firing shit. Oh my God. I tell you why it's because I can't write stuff down because I'm not very good at like my brain as we know my brain goes so much faster than what my hands can do and what my words can do and I trip over if I try and hand write things my spelling's not very good I miss out letters and I try and read it back and I'm like what the fuck is I'm trying to say there or like if I type it's just not as quick or like I'll be on my phone so sometimes I need to say this it's such a good thought I need to say it's my voice memos If anyone ever finds them, I will simply perish. Yeah, also if I did my wedding speech last night on my voice notes.

Oh, that's sweet. And I pause for applause. And pause for tears. It literally paused for applause. I needed to know how long it would be. So I was like, pause. So now, Alex, whenever imposes it is, you're going to have to like be like, oh, a blow. Because I can start everyone up.

Right. So, yeah, I get that. I get having conversations. And sometimes, like, if someone's been, like, a dick and I'd be like, well, I know what I'm going to say to you. Like, sometimes I imagine situations where somebody's done something even though they haven't. And then I imagine my, like, comeback. Come back. Yeah. For situations I haven't happened or won't happen. Like, the amount of clapbacks I've got for breastfeeding, even though I don't have children or breastfeed. But when you do, when's like you do. Or if I see somebody being shamed, I'm going to be able to clap back on their. behalf because I've practiced it in the shower so next one please Amy when lightning hits the sea why don't all the fish die well maybe they do we just don't know because water doesn't conduct electricity famously it does that's why if you're in a swimming pool when when when lightning strikes you die yeah that's what I'm in wait hey Siri right right I'd say a fair free few of them do cop for it but oh maybe it's because they're full of water oh fuck man it might be something to something she could have googled how deep the fish are so if you're at the top

my gosh in pure water is an excellent insulator and does not conduct electricity pure water okay so why don't the fish die I feel like she could have googled it didn't need to come via us when like a long time she's had to hate for the answer she's waiting yeah I don't understand the answer, sorry. Look, there's literally a podcast called No Such Thing as a Fish. I feel like you should go and send this to their podcast submissions. I'll do a very quick explanation. So why don't all fish die?

Because before a lightning strike, a charge builds up along the water surface. When lightning strikes, most of electrical discharge occurs near the water surface. Most fish swim below the surface and are unaffected. So that's why if you're swimming in the water and your heads above the water and you're below the water, you'll probably go and die. So I'm the most clever here. Yeah. Ely, that was never in dispute.

Look at your position. You were in. The bar is so low. Okay, next question. How do we genuinely end misogyny? Go back to last week's episode and listen to it. Oh, yeah. Hands down.

It's education, though. It's what Laura said in the answer there. Do you know what this reminded me? I said that this is genuinely one of the best. interviews we've ever done because it was and when we finished it we were like wow and we just kept on talking about the interview and someone DM me and said every week you say this is the best interviews we've ever done I'm like no okay sassy but you only can review yourself and it's your opinion constantly changing I'll change my mind exactly um but that's not just blowing hot air

we actually like after all these interviews we're like oh my god that was so good yeah and maybe it's because our attention spans really really small um maybe it isn't who knows You have to listen. You tell us. We've all got different opinions. But another thing, on the misogyny thing, I was listening to Parenting Hell podcast with Rob Beckett and Josh Whitaker the other day. And they had Alan Davies. I was a really old one from the archive. I was late to it. And he was talking about, sorry, Alan Davies was talking about taking his little girl to football practice. And he was like, there is no one more sexist than a little boy. His like 10 year old little boys are just horrible to go.

just because, like, you know, and it comes out as violence, you know, like, and I used to, I tried to play rugby when I was a little girl, but obviously, like, you just can't play with the boys, and it's so hard for, like, and I think it literally starts as early as that, and that's because at home you've got parents, and you've probably got the dad who supports football, and why is the only watch men play football, girls can't play football, and it's literally that simple, and, like, I just, it just starts with education, talk to your kids, better, take girls to play football.

If I have a girl, I swear to fucking, I'm going to be a real pushy mom, because she is going to play for England. She probably won't, no, no, she went, I'm going to be one of those, but it'd be sick if she did. And if I have a boy, I'll be like, and you're going to be a national operatic ballerina. Excellent. There we go.

I'll end misogyny single-handedly with my two poor children who hate their after-school activities. Whose sole role in life is to just basically go against every gender norm. And I hate me for it. Is it just me, or did anyone else freak out about what parts of their vagina they were supposed to shave? Well, do you do the top?

Do you do the bottom? Do you do the flaps? Do you do all of it? Can I say something? Yeah. I don't think I've ever fully shaved my vulva. Have we not? No, I just get it wax and I'm too scared to get a razor on the flaps. So I'm to do the top.

Yeah, but like what about when you were younger and you'd like have an emergency date that you knew was going to happen and then you were like, I need to quickly. Never then? I've been with Alex since I was 18 for what it's worth. But also I'm not a massive. hairy person so I just do like you know the round the legs bit but just never I wouldn't quite get to go in because I've just a bit scared of cutting my flat I've actually never cut and my bum hole I was scared of cutting my bum holes oh yeah I would never venture around there

no you can't think I can reach it well famously you are quite inflexible but no but also uh and this is going to sound like I'm not but the venus razor is smaller yeah than a normal So I'll do in between the legs with that bit. Yeah. Like, yeah, so Venus do a specific pubic one. Yeah. That we've both worked with them on. Yeah, if you go in.

It's easier. I still don't do the flaps with that because it's just some, some unresolved trauma for some reason. But the, like, you know when you're wearing a bikini, I feel entirely safe with the bits that I get. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I think it's, I think it's just however much you want to show, I guess. Yeah. Like when I've wax, I like to go for a full, full whole whole holiday.

yeah i'm like since you down there yeah all gone get it all off yeah i feel i feel gorgeous and free and beautiful and actually take that out they're so beautiful do not do not take that out i think back yourself out you've got a stunning vulva and everybody ought to know and if you don't believe it then who the fuck will you know what i mean advocate for yourself because no one else can see it you might as well even if it's but ugly they don't need to know and they'll never know they'll never see it so you can just tell them oh my god it's purple it's um it's um yeah it's come and stars. I don't know, it seems. You might have a design of a vagina. Who would know? No one knows. You could completely lie about your vulva and it doesn't, no one's going to check. Put that on

fridge magnet. I have a stunning vulva. Yeah. Yeah. Fine. Now I get, now I get, now a fridge business. And don't tease me because I would love nothing more than to make fridge magnets. I really wouldn't. I have a magnet of fridge now. That is a venture that you're going to have to do alone. I don't know why you're being like this. All the best. I wish, I wish you so well. I do. I'm really upset by that. I really feel like we've got so much potential in this face and I wish you'd just at least consider it I feel like you're being really frigid

Fridid, frigid No, that's good, thanks, good for bad Moving on, should I shoot my shot and ask him out? Fuck yeah, fuck yeah, fuck yeah, fuck yeah I sent Alex the text Did you? Yeah, nice, yeah Definitely

Like he'd floated me for a fair while there back on Facebook and whatever But I was like, you know what, I'm not the business of fucking around here what you want. It wasn't quite like that because I was 18 and people pleasing. But yeah, yeah. I'm looking at you now. Two of my friends both called Charlie. I sit with the Charlie's and we were in a bar and they helped me write the message.

Good. And I took a shot of tequila and then I sent it basically being like, I like you. Yeah. And now I'm married. Definitely. Shoot your shot and see what he says. Yeah. But do not let him string you along with some like half-assed answers and some...

No, shoot your shot. And know what you want. Ambiguity. Yeah, but absolutely go for it. 100%. And let's know how it goes. We're really proud of you. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. girl do you ever pick your nose and eat it oh my god no don't eat it but i have picked my nose 100% yeah yeah you have to yeah oh yeah you've got to pick it yeah but people don't actually eat it all the time no they don't i literally watch people eat though yeah bogeys yeah okay no that i literally i've seen it quite regularly i know people i could name people but i'm not going to but like some things i put it on the fridge bag man i don't understand that because like what pleasure you're getting from eating it.

Don't knock it till you've tried. You haven't tried it. No, and I never will. I tell you, my main concern is it when people do it out and about and I'm like, why you put your fingers in your mouth. Like, first up your nose is one thing. That's your main concern?

Yep. If you see someone on the tube, I'm like... They're putting their snot in their mouth and your concern is, oh, tube... No, it's the fact that they've put their tube finger up their nose, bend their tube finger from their nose into their mouth. Like, it's just...

Oh, I feel sick. I can't believe people actually do that. I tell you something that makes me absolutely gag, and it's completely unfair, sleep in my own eye, fine, sleep in Boers' Eye. Oh my God, I can't bear it. And I love her so much. And I'll do it because I love her.

And I pick it out and I put it and I, you know, and I love her. But I love her. Why is it so disgusting, though? Because I'm the same abetting. But also my own hair in the drain. My own hair wet when it's on my head. Not a problem. My own hair wet when it's in the drain.

I literally have vomited. Alex has to do it. And it's my hair. How unreasonable is that? That's disgusting. I make him do it. Yeah. Oh, yeah.

you know you can just get a thing that you like no I can't dissolve it oh oh no I make Alex do it with a fork we have a specific shower fork do you that was rank did you know right

yes we heard it I'll keep thinking they're inside but it's like they're not inside like a safe it's just inside your mouth it's just like to make me feel sick um I didn't know that that's interesting yeah

you can literally get this stuff and put down the drain it disintegrates the hair probably terrible for the environment terrible for the fish yeah but they can survive lightning so yeah my hair really gribly how do I lose weight but in a body respecting weight and without falling into toxic patterns it's a toughie this is really difficult this is really difficult and this is so context dependent as well and I don't know do we have any context is it like has she been told that she has to lose weight by like a doctor or No, it just, that's all it says.

Oh, it's so hard. It's so hard, but I will say, like, if you, it's, it's really hard to give this advice without sounding like, oh, this is what I think everyone should do. But a dietitian is, if you do need to lose weight for whatever reason, because some people do, you know, need and want to lose weight, a dietitian, a proper, a really well-qualified dietitian who is very knowledgeable with eating disorders and disorders. and disordered eating get in if you can afford it because i know it it can be expensive but if you can afford to have a few sessions to just get a handle on your eating patterns and your eating relationship i think that would be really helpful but also i guess the main thing is this is easy said and i hear people say this a lot but i guess it's like where is it coming from and like getting to the root of it the why and get yeah drill down into your why and

just know what the reasons are for because if the reasons for you wanting to lose weight are that you don't like yourself then that's always going to be difficult because it's coming from a place of self-loathing but then you know you can you can do it from a place of love and body respect it's just you kind of have to you have to work hard at that every step of the way because diet culture is so pervasive and yeah this stuff is stinky so I think there's also a way of like find finding excitement in it in a really like and I don't mean that and like that sounds like a toxic way but like in a you said like finding like your love for yourself and like there are obviously reasons why somebody might want to lose weight and I know like a friend of mine works as a trainer and like she very often talks to women who for health reasons or if they want to conceive a baby might need to lose weight and that's a really hard space to come into it with because obviously if you're being told you need to lose weight there's an inherent feeling of shame around that because somebody's told it and as a woman you feel like that's a failure on your part because we've been taught that fat is synonymous with bad and if you're being told that it is bad for this one specific thing it doesn't mean it's bad in general but you know like there's so much shame attached to that that it can therefore feel really like negative when you go into this space but I think it doesn't it doesn't have to be terrible like we associate every single diet with like a terrible thing which obviously you know like because could we grew up with like cabbage soup era

and and and it feels like it's all you know because we just even the language that we use it's like the nice food and it's the bad food and then blah, all this shit. But like finding, like even a PT who you like as a person, you have to like this person as a person because like some PTs can suck. But if you find someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with who you get and who gets you and gets your goal is to be stronger and to move more, it can be a nice experience spending time with them. And it's kind of reframing it to not be like,

I have to do the sad thing because I'm a bad person. and it's a negative spiral. It's like, okay, well, I'm going to introduce new habits into my life in a way that excites me and makes me feel loved and makes me feel empowered. And whether that's like, you know, I fucking love a walk. You know, even just like, and finding stuff not just going for a walk,

but finding stuff that you like about it. Like, I don't know. But I think it's just like finding things in it that make you happy and not just doing it negatively or because you feel like you have to because that doesn't feel like a very empowering space. And also reframing how we see weight loss because we see it as something that needs to happen, you know, drop a dress size in 20 days or like drop a stone in 40 days or whatever. And actually like real long term sustainable weight loss is never like that.

Reframed that like that messaging around how quickly you should lose it because actually it should be very slow and that's what's going to make it sustainable and do not diet. Whatever you do, don't diet. like there are a myriad of reasons why you shouldn't diet and we've got the science and the evidence behind it the research so yeah i think it's yeah like you said introducing new habits but don't throw the book at it don't you know you know i'm gonna binge today because i know that tomorrow i'm only i'm not gonna be eating carbs i'm gonna be doing a run every day like that's crazy just you know tiny little tiny little habits that will eventually yeah but i don't know yeah Can I send this whole thing by just saying that I've just seen Alex's feet? Amy, have you seen Alex's feet? But you know what I have?

And I was going to take a picture about I didn't want to come off my screen. Guys, she's in her new socks. I'm in my new socks. She's in their new socks. The socks we famously didn't see. I washed them and they got all, all, I think I've dyed them. Yeah, I think you've made a mistake there. So I'm not very happy.

Do a hot wash? What temperature do you do the washing at? 30. Well, now that's, they cheap socks? They must be. Bullocks. Anyway, sorry, that was a long answer. What would you do as a job if Instagram disappeared tomorrow?

Well, now we're signed to wake us. We've got 18 months. Please keep listening. See you at the doll off. I think you would be a really good journalist. Thank you. I used to work in Germany, but it's a hard fucking industry. Especially now.

Especially now. And actually without a social media platform. You know, that's a really sad thing for journalists. There's like so much of it's being trumped by people with platforms. That would be hard. And I don't know if that's a plausible thing. I used to work in marketing as well, but I don't know if I could go back to that.

Now I've seen how the sausage has made this end. I don't know if I could go back to doing it that end. You know what I mean? So maybe I just go completely. I always wanted to be a lawyer. You'd be a good lawyer. Or I get a bit too emotional or a life coach, and I would love to go and do my coaching credentials.

Yeah, you'd be good at that. Thank you. You'd be good at life coaching. So those are my two options. Okay. So I'll either see you in a funny wig or when you're bringing all your property. Either way, I'll be dealing with your professional. problems.

Legal or emotional. Yeah, exactly. Practical. What would you do? I would do and what I have always, kind of always wanted to do it and is always my plan B and I hope that I will do it someday is to be a psychologist. Oh my God. Yeah.

Because I've always been obsessed with like, well, I always wanted to be a psychiatrist, but I knew that I didn't have the disposition for medicine. I couldn't, I could never have done it. I'm just not that kind of person. And obviously you have to do medicine then to, especially. specialize in psychiatry so I could never do that but I would love to do psychology become a psychologist yeah I'm just fascinated by it and I absolutely love it like yeah do you think there's a chance Amy what of our being of us of our future dreams of

well you've always got Frisch magnets so I don't know why you're stressing what merchandise that's what we should say yeah I've scrapped my fuck the lawyer lawyering yeah Fuck all of you guys with you guys have problems I'm making fridge magnets fridge magnet

extraordinary Is it okay for a partner's fart in bed I mean yeah what is it Do you mean like

while having sex no I mean I think there's a difference between like a fart in bed and a Dutch oven Yeah

yeah I mean it's not great but it's not like if it's like if it's like the only place they do it might be like If I didn't think

it was okay I wouldn't be married because literally Stone is obviously a father. Yeah, it's such a... Like, I swear he almost like rises off the bed sometimes. Wow.

They're that excessive. And I can feel his whole body like tense and then I'm like, yeah. Jesus. Alex is the opposite. Is he? You're only the most romantic thing Alex ever did for me, ever. Go on. You know, I've, you know, I've struggled with my gut.

Yeah. And I used to get, well, I'd still do, but when it was really bad, I got, I used to get really, really bloated. And I was with a nutritionist and she was like, okay, there is, it's basically... I don't think she was the regular. nutritionist so don't try this at home but she basically said a spoonful of bicarb of soda will basically deflate you if you've got really bad trapped win so i was like okay and then i was like thinking i was like fuck i'm gonna take this and i'm gonna be like a balloon i'm just gonna be like and like hit the ceiling basically because i was so bloated and i was like i haven't been

together with alex that long it was like i mean like a couple of years but not like you know now where we're just like fucking tit deep into the shit but then i was still trying to like be you know cute and uh i was like oh i don't know what's gonna happen and and and he's ever far as in front of me. He's like a cat. He's so clean. He's so lovely. Like, he's just perfect. And he just looked at me dead in the eye and he did a really big fart. And he was like, there you go. You can take your bike up now. So if I was trumping, I wouldn't feel so bad. That's really sweet. I don't like you. I don't love that he. I don't like, oh my God. But it was so good. Because he still doesn't really, he doesn't

do it now particularly. No, no, no. And if he does, I'm like, what was that? And he goes, nothing what nothing what nothing what nothing what and i'm like he just hold it in yeah he always he's like a cat he's really good like do you find in front of him no but sometimes it does happen by accident and i'm like oop and he's like ew yeah so if you really need to fart i normally leave the room do you but i'll acknowledge why i've left the room right or i'll be like i've done something bad just don't breathe for like a minute but after the fourth time i took it to ask until we had to stop. No, I don't know.

Yeah, I'm not massively into it because he's not, if he was creating, like my, I don't put her on blast, my sister's a right trumper. Is she? Yeah, so like, around them, I'm a bit just like, fuck it. Yeah.

But around Alex, I'm like, you know, I've got to meet fire with fire. That's true, though. That's true. Yeah. Yeah. So, do you fight in front of days? Not really, no.

But those burps, there's nowhere left, didn't you? That's the thing. That's the thing. I excel so much. that area that um yeah your arse is lacking yeah it all comes out the top really so yeah and he makes up for the both of us really so how foul how lovely yeah nice cute and i thought maybe this episode we'd managed not to talk about poo but here we go we didn't try we haven't food poop articles in the in the in the vats very different vibe very different vibe we've talked about

the sea you wouldn't say we're talking about an ice cap would you you know it's made of the same stuff but very different. Wait, wait, give me a second. That is not. Is it acceptable to clap when a plan land? A plan? When a plan comes together. Yes, it is. I was like, yeah, Amy. I love it. I love it when a plan lands. Um, is it acceptable to clap when a plane land. I think yes. It's because you fucking love a clap. I think no, no, no. Have you been on a plan? over that? No. And now I'm never getting on. Do you clap with the plane lands? No. Do you want to? Yeah. Do you just sit on your hands to stop yourself? Do you know what I love? A clap. Do you know what I love when Ryanair, when they land on time and then they do the

do the do do do do do. And then they play this, yeah, over the thing. I'm like, woo. Yeah. Yeah, literally how shit. Yeah. Imagine if surgeons did that. It's gone well. woke up yeah all the sudden all the nurses and other patients are like yeah um i can actually say that al is a plane clap did i clap yeah you're a fucking mess Alex get a grip we all did on the way there because we were excited and it was like funny to clap yeah not because we were like genuinely like when you were doing it because it was you were ironically were you you cool girls You could go us in the back of the plane fantastically clapping.

Oh yeah, we don't like this, but we're going to do it anyway. No, I don't think it's acceptable. Honestly, if you feel the urge, you should be sitting on your hands. You shouldn't be allowed to use your hands. I love it. I don't think you should be allowed to.

I think if you're of that disposition, you should be given oven mitts on the way onto the plane and you should be made to wear them all flight. You can clap with other mitts. And you can make a good sound with other mitts. It's muffled as it should. be. I just think it's just desperate. I just, I don't think, like, you don't, you can thank the pilot as you should, like in the same way that you'd thank a bus driver. Yeah. Yeah, but sometimes

you, but, but in what other situation would you clap anybody? They can't, the pilot can't hear you clap. No, so you'd just sound like an idiot to everybody else around you. I just think it feels like a nice, like, ritual, like, oh, you know, we're, we're down, we've come down from this metal box in the sky where we very easily might die. So, yay. I feel like if that's the thought process, you shouldn't have gone up. Probably not. If the relief is that palpable that you have to applause when you land, we shouldn't be up there.

But I say all this, knowing that, you know, like, things that give you the ick, like, if, if, if, if I landed on my honeymoon and Alex clapped, I would take off the ring and I would file for an immediate annulment. I would be fucking mortified. Literally, text on this episode is, I'll be back. I'll be divorced. You're going to stay on that plane as they like refuel

and come back to the London? Oh yeah, no, I will, yeah, no, absolutely not, yeah, no, Jesus, foul. So in a word, no, apparently. If you went on Mastermind, what would your specialist subject be? Parallel parking, I'm really good at it, but I'd have to be able to demonstrate it.

Yeah, no, that, that, fine, Harry Potter. Oh, really? I really, really know this. Do you? Yeah, loads. Go on quiz me. I know it. But we don't know the answer.

Yeah, I don't know the answers. I do. Okay, what's Ginny's sister's name? No. Ginny was the answer. I'm sorry. Shit. What was Harry's house called?

Or Privet Drive or Gryffindor? Yeah, well, I meant the first one, but okay, fine. You know, I'm on a bonus answer. It's just the only area that I will overachieving. Okay, what house is? What house would you be? I'm Slytherin. Are you?

I know. It's why I look so good in green. You're Slytherin? I know, because everyone thinks I'm really nice. I'd probably be a Hufflepuff, but I'm not. I'm a cold-hearted snake at my core. Are you? But I'll tell you what, actually, Slytherin's got a bad rep.

They got a really bad rep, and it wasn't fair, because for the most part, they are smart, they are cunning, and they're incredibly loyal. Oh, there you go. Yeah. Okay. I don't know. Everyone wants to be a Gryffindorm, you know?

Yeah, I would, I think I'd be Haffelopoff. I wouldn't say no. to Ravenclaw for you like you're oddly smart what does that mean because I can't remember they're very smart oh okay yeah yeah it's a bit of both I feel like you look nicer in blue than yellow as well so okay yeah what are you Amy I see it at the Ravenclaw the Ravenclaw do you remember at our's wedding I made you a promise that I would watch Harry Potter yeah I haven't watched it yet I've never never seen Harry Potter right all about my shit I said about Amy right the podcast redundant I didn't mean it I don't know why I said it I don't

trust her at all. Go much it. Please. You're going to love it. I will. I just, yeah. I think Gryffindor. I think she's Gryffindor. I think you're a Gryffindor. It's good or bad. It's good, yeah. It's good. It's what everybody wants. Harry's, Harry's Gryndor. So it's in Miami. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I think he's a bit of a wet blanket. So honestly, that's what you go for. Mastermind. I'm going to be I'm not that good at anything else. Oh, no, I'm not. Where you are? No, I've got good general knowledge of like, you know, things like when plastic was invented

and why the fish don't die. Based on theory. Yeah, no, I do, I, there's not one, I'm actually, it's actually a bit of a sore point for me because my brother and sister are both really smart and really good at trivia and stuff and I was the one that no one wanted on their team because I am a bit thick. So that would be a bit gutting. I think it would be really embarrassing. I think Harry Potter is the only thing I know quite a lot about.

I literally've got nothing else that's sad if you weren't at me parallel park tight I'm so good at parallel parking without without okay good

I'm gonna fucking pussy no Jesus old school that's quite a good flex especially if you live in London yeah what's your specialist school please I honestly don't know I don't think I have one

that's so sad I honestly like I feel like I know I was gonna say I know a little bit of everything but that's all of I too. French, France, living in France, living in Paris. No, no, not even. How am I so knowledgeable?

I'm not, though, honestly. Like, I actually don't. Do you know what? Drums, drummers throughout history. Psychology, I know a lot of random stuff that is absolutely useless, but... Diet culture? Not enough to master, not enough to be a mastermind. Do it, diet culture, because they wouldn't have that many questions about it.

Actually, diet culture, I would smash because of the book, because I did so much research. Smash or parts. might drop the book yeah yeah yeah yeah read this john humphreys yeah i'm out okay next would you rather have two penises is it penises or penises or penise instead of arms or an arm instead of a vagina an arm instead of vagina would you we can cover that a full-sized arm where would you put it i'm sorry but two penises are arms are they arm size penises that what it just says that well it just says two penises so i'm right because if they're like a sort of like you know five-inch dick off your shoulders

you look like an absolute bell end up you're going to kill away your vagina your only pleasure in life also yeah fair enough i mean don't underestimate the taste buds but also your arm the size of my own arm because look at this are you allowed to get either amputated as long as my leg no you can't get them appetited you have to pick you have to live with them Of course you do. I'm in my vagina. I'm sorry, I couldn't bear to wake up and look at two penises on my shoulders. Would they get erect if you're like you're in a shoulder pads?

If you've got a little semis, it'd be like you're in the Navy. You know, they always have those, like, fun little gold coughs on the shoulders there. No help. Get little tassels on them. Definitely a vagina for a lot. arm for a vagina. No, I'd take the dick sleeves. Would you be absolutely gas?

Yeah, I'd say they'd be really fun. Yeah, 100%. And the novelty would wear off so fucking quickly. Where would you put your fucking vagina arm? And what would you do? I just wear big bag of trousers and put it down one's leg. Yeah, but that's like the guy, the guy who's famously got the biggest penis. Do you, he has it like down, his life is miserable.

That's so sad, yeah. Yeah, but your life is also. miserable if you've got two cocks on your sleeve i actually don't know why you're being so frigid about this imagine like you could do some really cool shit with those you know what i don't know is why we're looking into this so much okay you can't bang so many women with them or men yeah yeah you could be up arsoles all the time bend over and then round them in the shoulder you know that was a bit graphic sorry we get the next question yeah i'm just uh you could your own feet with your spare hand.

Oh my God. You'd be good for giving yourself a pedicure and shaving your legs. It's actually making me feel a bit ill. Can we move on? The idea of just an arm, it's horrible, and it's fucking creepy. I would miss my vagina.

I'm upset if I sent that question in. I liked it. You've ruined my day. What has been the best, most unexpected part of doing the podcast? Oh, good question. Um, making such good friends with Al. Aww.

What? What were you going to say? I was going to say, um... Um, yeah. Yeah, no, I think that's... I've got to say it now. No, you can say your thing. Yeah, I think that's true.

No, you can say your thing. You know, it is because it has actually, we've become so close. Well, just what we've had to, really. Yeah, but I also really like that we can bicker, which we keep doing. But we also, like, it's a really nice relationship. I really enjoy having it. And we did have a fight last week, but we totally hashed out. It was a really big fight.

It was. It was really big fight. But we had, we had, we had, we had. I sent our message to be like, I hate doing this. Please call me. And she didn't. Ignored it. I was like, you fucking wedge.

And then she rang and then it was fun. But yeah, I... We got there. Yeah, but I actually think it's a really good signifier. I think friend, you like to have a fight. We have to be practical about friendship. and what I realise it's like with all the podcast dresses like signing the contracts and stuff

and it has been like a real fucking you know with the wedding with everything you know even your honeymoon was in January my honeymoon's now I went away you've got your book coming out there's so much going on and it's been a lot and it's been really nice for me to prioritise our friendship as well as like

trying to run a business and it's really exciting and it's so nice to have someone to share the highs with because it's a really weird job and sometimes you know you get your own cool shit or like something completely random happens like you get like a follower amount or whatever which it doesn't really exist and it's not very tangible and you're kind of alone with it and no one really understands it but with this it's like exciting things happen and we can like it's really and yeah so and yeah like having colleagues really like we've got Amy

and Daisy as well and like having like a team is just really special yeah and and as you know when I first met you I'm not good at making new friends I've got a hashtag no new friends rule I'm like And I've made that my personal mission of 2022 to just ruin that. I'm making you make friends with all my friends. So it's been really nice, actually. And we have managed to, because like you said, I feel like people, at the least, I think I did as well, just thought, oh, podcast like a week, easy.

You just chat for an hour, goes online, that's it, ta-da. And actually so much goes into it and so much back and forth in so many groups. And I think we've been able to navigate that quite well and keep friendship, which is nice. Yeah, it's really exciting. I really like it. Until August hits up. We also, yeah, it's also really cool to get to talk to the people we get to talk to.

Like, I think I'm taking that for granted a bit. But, like, we're talking to some fucking amazing people and that's really cool. Yeah. Not today, obviously. I'm like, hello? Excuse me? We're too used to you now, sorry. The novelty was there at the beginning.

And we love the podcast, the Instagram. Literally, whenever I see a new post has gone up for it, I get so excited. excited because I'm always like oh my god what is it it's like an in joke for you it's like someone's tailored a joke yeah it's literally like an entire it's just like one big in joke for the podcast so it is isn't it and I used to send you like what I was going to post it now I don't bother because now I get to see like your yeah yeah absolutely go I always think like my normally my mum shared them like the little memes and stuff and I'm like oh wait that's really cute yeah that's really cute are you both up to date

of your cervical screenings? Yeah, sorry, I didn't mean to joke on that. Yeah, I'm actually due one now, but I've just moved GP. Well, I'm due one in like two months when I'm back from my honeymoon. But I'm due one in a minute. Yeah, I think I'm due one next year. Nice. Amy, are you?

Absolutely. Are you? Yeah, and me and my friends are really on it. We, um, one of my friends' sisters, we lost her at 25 to cervical cancer. So we're all really like passionate champion in it. Yeah. So yeah, absolutely. And a PSA to everyone.

listening. Text your girlfriends and I'll ask if they've got them. If they haven't helped them because some people get a bit nervous or don't might make an appointment. So go with them. Go off their hands. Yeah. It's a massive help. Yeah. Make a day of it. Make a day of it. It'll swabble your cervix. Love it. Yeah. I was going to say a Picardy. I didn't where I got a Picardy from. Bacardi and Godfee's in a bandway. How did you become so close? Just time. hard, just had to, just proximity, make or break.

I think as well, this Instagram world is weird and I had never really made any friends, Instagram friends. And so that's been nice being able to be like, should I delete that? Is this right? That's initially how we became friends, isn't it? Yeah, definitely. Initially. It is really, sometimes when you only have like your own character, like your own, like your own,

we have to foresee so much stuff like if you could offend somebody if you could trigger somebody if you're saying the wrong thing if your tone isn't right and you only your own judge really and that can be really difficult because it's just like I don't know

I don't know if I trust myself and trusting yourself every minute of every day is difficult and I don't trust myself to choose the right fucking nail colour I don't trust myself to know what I want to watch on TV or eat for dinner so it's really weird then that we and I think you're quite like that as well

but we both for some reason trust ourselves when it comes to our words and our work but sometimes it's so nice because I'll say something like to my Alex and I'll be like oh can I face this

and you'll be like yeah why not and then I'll say to you and you'd be like fucking hell no like that or whatever so yeah initially just to have support from one another and then we're actually like we do get on as like friends

because our humour is quite similar but I also think like we have to be like you know sometimes in friendships and I've been thinking about this so much like sometimes you put on your best for people and like because you kind of have to and like you kind of have to like perform socially when you're with people and we just don't get the chance to do that because we have to be yeah we we are stressed together we're like whatever and like something that i've got not to do with you particularly but something that i've got so much better at recently it's like stop expecting my friends to be everything for me because i think like Hollywood and books and shit and kind of leaves us with this thing that like every friend has to be a hundred percent perfect all the time and they have to be exactly what we need at any given time and they have to always put their shit aside to deal with our shit because that's what a friend

does in a crisis and realistically like some friends have flaws some friends excel in this area and like I think like managing expectations of your friends is really important and I think like with you and I like I think we kind of we're very good at like healthy communication in terms of like this is what I'm good at this is what I'm not good at this is why I'm overwhelmed this is and we can kind of talk communicate how we deal with situations so we know how to like deal with other and that makes for an easier friendship I think yeah what you talk about something that I've learned from Jacqueline is that like the manual yeah like everyone has their own manual of like things that they've learned through their

own environment and their own upbringing and you and that's how that's your manual you put your manual onto everyone else but they're coming out of things with a completely different lens a completely different upbringing and an environment I think that's because like when something if you lose using us was like a human example of that like when something bad happens I want to talk about it and I want to like work through it and talk about it whereas you're like fix it now and and that's so different and that's because our manuals are completely different yeah and actually when you talk about it it's just like oh okay or when you when you know how the other one

operates yeah it's so much easier to just make your piece and be like well they're going to do there and I'm going to do me and we'll yeah back here in a minute um rather than expecting everything your way exactly because it's true and we are different in our sense like I'm very like solutions like I am like solutions practical let's go go go go and then yeah i don't really know what i bring to this because all we need is solutions in practicality so i don't really know my role i'm basically the one that like you know it does everything and you bring the energy you're having coffee um yeah so but i think that's like i just as i'm getting older and older my mom used to say it about expectations in friendship

that you just have to manage your expectations and just know what each person is capable of and i always thought that's very sad i want the world from my friends and now i have to be realistic that I can't ask my friends to give me the world. I have to, you know, and you just really enjoy the relationship that you do have. And I love the relationship we have. Yeah, me too. Yeah, it's really nice to be, like, really good friends with your colleague. Yeah.

It is, it's testing for me, not our relationship, but like, but like normally in a friendship, if I get pissed off at something, I'm very much like, I don't want anything to do with it. I'm like, I'll run away from the situation, basically. right? Like that's what I'm like because I just feel like I can't deal with it but we have to deal with it

because we're working together so closely literally every day but I feel like that's really good because it's making me realise that actually it's so not productive to just run away. That's very interesting I didn't know that about you. That makes sense why you didn't call me though yeah I like to hibernate and pretend that like put my phone away and like pretend that nothing happened

because in that situation I'm like no let's fix it right now because I can't bear this a moment longer yeah interesting love this for us yeah i don't know how you fix it but it's good to know that about the other person yeah yeah exactly yeah i think jathleen's probably been really good for our friendship so good yeah that's yeah there would be no acous and no pockets and no friendship yeah unfollow if you could say three words to your 18 year old self what would they be three words are three words is hard three words is hard you deserve happiness That's what I'd say.

Yeah, I like that. I can't. Or leave your eyebrows. Yeah. Brush your hair. Yeah. I actually struggle with things like this because I know that I could say a sentence. I could say like 100 sentences to 18 years off and it wouldn't make a dot a difference.

Because there's so much. Go on. A fridge magnet. Live offload. There you go, that's my three words. Hey, babe, live, laugh, love. Yeah, love it. But I don't know, I just always find with that.

It's like, that's so hard because what my 18-yourself actually needs is, like, therapy. And, like, a lot of it. You need a lot of things. There you go, you need therapy, yeah, because there's no, there'll be no point saying, like, you know. Say it angry, I say, get fucking therapy. Your weight doesn't define you. Like, that's, those quotes are like, they're all great, and their rule, and, well, yeah. And they're, they're right, they're totally true, but it's, it's never going to go in, so.

I'd say you need therapy, there you go, I like that. Can we get it on the magnet please? Not that, I'd go right, right, but it's sold. That's our first time, you're like coming along. Yeah. This is what you've got to do with, I'll plant the seed. This is literally what you have to do with that. I'd have to plant the seed.

And then eventually you'll think it was your idea. This one, bang, we've got a booing fridge magnet business. This seed is going to need a lot of watering, let me just say. I've got time. I am a patient motherfucker. patient motherfucker. Alex, how is the drum kit? It's for sale.

It's dusty. It's dusty and it's for sale. If anyone wants to buy it. Yes. Or I do remember someone DM the ages ago saying that you can donate like musical instruments to a place where like kids can use them but I can't remember what it is. So if anyone has this thing and they know that place, please let me know.

Yeah. Because it's it's never been touched and I've conceded that it's never going to be so she's not going to be a drums darling I'm not going to be a drum style would you rather be a dog or a cat dog fucking dog Jesus Christ yeah cats spend way too much at their time like any animal that produces a furball of their own fur is absolutely not the one they like want to be like imagine choking up your own fucking bits like you just licked all your dead skin then you should choke it up absolutely heinous no so don't why people think cats are so smart and clean, fowl, fowl, I'm also allergic to cats.

That's a good sars, I just kill myself. I'm going to be a dog. I'll literally, you'll literally kill myself. I want to be my dogs. Oh my god, dog, a dogs. A dog's life. Oh, dogs have the best lives. The best lives.

Yeah, I wouldn't mind being one aimed these dogs, to be fair. Can you do another live session that we can come to? Oh, fuck yeah, fuck yeah. I really want to. The dream. We thrived on stage. Thrived on stage. Well, initially not so much.

No. Remember when we had to do an intro. I referenced that so many times. Like, that's why I'm so nervous about the wedding, you know. Because of that, because of that fucking intro, we had that lovely podcast day that we probably talked about at the time when we did the live thing on stage.

And you, you traitor, talking to the government, being all important and impressive and leaving me to fucking stand on stage, like some kind of lemon. Do you think it's possible for a relationship to recover from someone cheating? Oh, I hate this question so much. I do, though.

yes I do yeah I mean I have no experience with this I feel like I can't say but what I don't like is people who are always like oh if someone cheated I would leave them straight away and I can't believe she stayed with him or he stayed with her I really hate that because I just think like everything is so individual and only you only you know what your relationship is like and the potential of your relationship and I think just don't don't listen to outside stuff if you if you think that your relationship can can be repaired completely after an infidelity then that's what you think and you've

got to go with what you think and if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen but if that's what you want to do and you feel like you have to do then just do it you have to be someone that has to agree to completely let that guy it can never come up good time yeah you have to make your peace with it because you can't keep throwing it back in that person's face when it's an argument yeah because that resentment will just build yeah and it hurts everybody i used to be massively in the school thought like no once a cheat always cheat they do it with you to you whatever like all of that and I like I felt very very passionately about it but as I've got older like I think you do need to be realistic that people do bad things good people do bad

things bad people do good things like it's not as black and white and people do make mistakes and I can't believe these words are coming out of my mouth because if you spoke to like teenage me I was so so passionately in on the other side of this but as I get older I'm just like it's it's not that simple and I do think people can make mistakes and I do think other people can forgive them for it and not everybody and I don't think you have to and like like by any like still instinctively if somebody if one of my friends tells me that like this has happened I'm like fucking ditch the cunt sorry but this is special we'll keep the word in but then I sometimes think but then you know when it really comes to it it's not me in that situation and I don't know and I just I just I just I just I really believe that good people can do bad things yeah yeah i just you just never know what could happen in a situation and like you could just make a wrong decision yeah and people do make mistakes and is it worth ruining your whole life for and i think you know the person you read at your call you know the person if the person does a bad thing and and you know that person then you know

that person and you know what's right and if you think they've done a bad thing and you kind of thought they always would and this is whatever then you know that person too and you know that it's the wrong thing but I think like I don't know and there's so much judgment around it like oh why did she stay like how embarrassing and all that shit and it's like that's so unfair because you just yeah I think they can work

if you want them to because who are we to say that they can't I'm sorry to laugh like your off screen what's it says and Laptop's screen has just like locked and it says on it do your fucking work you lazy bitch

Sorry, I don't know, it was a being serious conversation I'm like, take me, took me off your heart, Jesus Yeah, well, I like to inspire myself, put that on the fucking fridge magnet Dream dinner guess, dead or alive, you've got three each, go Oh God, I don't know, I love eating alone Should I do mine? Yeah Louis Thoreau Fucking egg, yes, I'm coming

I love Louis so much I've had for a very long time I agree, so have I. And, guys, he's on my list. Louis, hit me up, babes. Yeah, also so attractive. Absolutely, dish. Oh, yeah.

Absolutely, like, possibly my dream, man. Yeah. And, love love. Next, Michelle Obama. Yeah, she'd be amazing. And my last one, I... Oh, I've only got one left. Do you know what?

I'll take my granddad. Oh. Thanks very much. Right, well, that's going to make the rest of us look dicks. we don't pick our day artists who you have in harry potter no you don't want to meet your heroes well you do okay fine you can feed them i probably have i think i'd also have to have louis um i'd say like i would like to talk to someone like janice joplin i'd say she'd be like so interesting and like really cool maybe amy winehouse i love amy winehouse so much

yeah um now you see i can't pick a dead relative because i to be honest fine no because then what about the others you know i didn't meet either of my granddad so if we're gonna have like a big affair like maybe it'd be nice to like just meet both my granddads and then just have like my mom i'll tell you what i tell you what oh right this is fucking cheesy now i'm gonna i'll have lily three for myself but then i would also have my dad oh this is really sad now i'd have my mom's dad yeah i'd also have my mom so that that my mum could be with her dad because he died when she was 12

so that would be nice literally because I couldn't really through for me so they could chat I'm real crying I'm on my period I don't know what you guys so are you that's fair enough

yeah I think um actually my mom's dad is actually really cool he won a Victoria Cross in World War II like he's amazing but then yeah he died when my mum was a kid so that would be nice and then it'd be really nice for her

because she doesn't really remember him and well she does a bit but not enough and then she could talk to him and that'd be nice yeah cool yeah oh my god we're all sobbing sorry to hear me mine house but you're off the list you've been bumped my mum's coming instead I don't know what it'd make of the vegan foods that I'd be putting on though I'm gonna be honest like he's a war hero you know what I mean I'm like anyway so having a nice like vegan mushroom tagmitelli gluten-free now. Do you want to just come to my dinner? But I would do the same.

My mum and then my mum's mum. Oh, God. Oh no, you know what? Sorry, Louis's out. I'd have to have both my mum's parents because that would be nice and then my grandma could see my granddad again. Oh, God.

Yeah, yeah. I couldn't explain to her. Sorry, you're not invited because I've brought Louis through. Yeah, my grandma would be like, right, fine. Louis's like, can I just eat and go home? Yeah, exactly.

What a waste of a guess. Yeah, no, fine. Can we move on because I can't take it? Candy Crush, Alex, what level are you want? Oh, thank you for asking. Oh, I don't know, I can't see. About, I think about 3,000. You don't want to brag.

They're busy, haven't you? If you don't get a response from Alex immediately, you know what she's doing. Do you know what? This is why I hate, because M likes the call, which is fine, but she likes to FaceTime, right? And I like, when ever I'm on the phone to someone, I like to pay Candy Rush. You know, you can FaceTime on, and play a game at the same time. Can you? Yeah. Oh, okay.

It puts me as a tiny picture in your screen. Okay, so I need to do that because I feel like it helps me concentrate if I don't play candy. I don't know if it does help you concentrate when you're on your phone because sometimes I say things to you. And it's like, you know, I don't know about your mom, but when I'm with my mom and I'll be walking on I'll say something and then I turn around and she's gone. It's because she can't text and walk at the same time and she definitely can't talk. So she's like 20 feet back like this, like on their phone. You're a bit like that. Am I?

I think I've got you and I'll say a really funny joke and then there's silence and I'm like... And then I know it's because, yeah, networking. Candy crushing. Sorry guys, I'm really hard at work here, level 3,000 and 24. Yeah. If your mugshot were to appear on TV, what would your friends and family assume you did? Um... Oh, I'd probably be protesting something.

No, I'm a bit scared of authority in that capacity. Uh, uh, I think I'm speeding. Or not picking, quite in my pot, not opening a post. Yeah, not opening a post. I think I'm quite, yeah. Can I make a confession? Can I make a confession? Let's do it. Oh, okay, I'd only put it on Instagram and then Alex told me not to. But I mentioned this one. I've already told you both today, you already know my situation.

You've had to know my situation for a long time, Alex. I told Dave the other day he didn't take it well, did he? We went out for dinner and I had to tell him the truth. I've had to tell everybody the truth. Four and a half months ago, I lost my bank card, okay? I don't know where it is. Oh, my God. I haven't cancelled it

and I haven't replaced it no one's stolen any money which makes me think it's in a jacket pocket or in the house somewhere I have actually torn the house part now it's nowhere to be found but I just can't handle the fath of cancelling it and you card arriving in the post

having to open it then you have to get the stupid little pin number then you have to activate your card you've got to go to a cash point where do you even find one of those in this day and age then I try and order something on Amazon oh card's the guy I need to update your card information I just don't have it in me I just don't have it in me

but I'm going on my honeymoon in four days I booked the hotel on that card where's the card But I just That's probably what I've been I'm a bunch of I'm just I had to tell you I had to get it off my chest

I've been feeling really guilty about it I've been feeling kind of embarrassed It is embarrassing I don't feel any better now I've told the world I just need to cancel I just need to tell

HSBC and I just don't want to I'll do it The one person you need to tell doesn't know Yeah I'm good I've just told

all the listeners so okay maybe something works for HSBC then they know anyway How do you make friends in your late 20s Oh my God

I make friends all the time. I made a really good friend for your Amina in Astrid and meet you earlier. Made friends with you at a Tesco event. I made friends with Fliss. I made really good friends with Fliss because I moved into her road and she would lend me her kitchen chairs.

Just a random stranger and she's like, to talk some kitchen chairs. I was like, yeah, thanks. You are very open to friends. 100% I love friends. I love people. I just love people.

I think a big part of it is like just get rid of any embarrassment you might feel because she might be like, oh I feel awkward because I don't know if this person wants to be my friend. I don't want to suggest something

and feel embarrassed about it because maybe they don't want to meet up with me or this or that. I think just put all that to one side and just go for it. Yeah. And confidence and you're not really going to embarrass it. And most people want to make friends. This is the thing. Yeah. You feel embarrassed but actually that's not translating. So just go for it. Yeah. I think all this like desperate rhetoric that surrounds like women wanting anything is just a ridiculous way that the patriarchy keeps us small and quiet. I actually think like be desperate, be excited, be excitable, be confident, be silly. Like people really respond well

to that. People that don't respond well to that can honestly suck my dick. I'm just like, people are too cool for me I'm like okay fine what's that my hate quote don't be cool don't try and be cool you'll be cool when you're dead be warm that's where life is be unapologetically you clap when the plane lands if that's what you want to do be you and don't make friends of anybody that claps from the plane lands I just think you're barking up the wrong tree wasting your time shame on you hon if I'd have known that I wouldn't have fucking bothered with this one that's what I'm saying if I'd have known what you did I never

would have been so, I never would have been so bubbly and charming with you. I never would have turned all this on. Bubbly and charming. Oh really? You know I am. I'm so good. I absolutely thrive in a new environment. If I've got a potential new friend on the horizon, my charm level, my little knob goes right up. My knob goes right up. Yeah. If I still have those cocks for shoulders, I would be, I'd be wearing them as earrings. How do you help with Brent to be body comforted? when you're smaller than them?

The first thing is accepting that being smaller isn't the goal. If the priority is still or the assumption is still that smaller is better, then that's, you're already off on the wrong foot, that I think everybody is entirely unique and different and I don't think you've got a kind of like

sort of pussy around it on the cat, on pussy, pussy around it, pussy foot around it. What's the expression? Like, tipto around it. Yeah. On the kind of like, oh well, you know, like I'm more attractive so I need to blah, blah, blah. Because that's kind of like how we've been taught to me,

but actually like, If we put that to bed, there are so many amazing things about different figures and the fashions at different people with different heights and sizes and bus sizes and waist sizes can explore. And I think the first thing is putting out both of your heads as much as you can, the thin is better. And then just like celebrating the great stuff,

but then also on a practical level, don't go shopping with somebody at a place that doesn't stop their size. If your friend or your sister or whatever is bigger than you, don't go somewhere that they can't shop, Try not to grab around yourself and make comments about your own body all the time just because, as humans, we naturally compare. And yeah, that's me.

That's me, done. Yeah. Sorry, that was an abrupt ending. Yeah, it was an abrupt. I was like, I feel like there should have been a third thing, and then it just wasn't. So. Two is perfect. Yeah, too.

But yeah, you're right, addressing your own stuff as well. Like, and how you behave around her, like, don't be like, oh, I feel that, or, you know, same things like this. Just be very conscious of. But I think just being very, like, sorry, interrupt you i've come back with my third thing but like not like not assuming that it's a problem like or that you have to be like because to be honest and i don't think she might me saying it my my sister is um a bit curvy and then my other bridesmaids and it's like not to to not

acknowledge this is is like it's just annoying it's like on a practical level i want her to feel fucking amazing i want her to wear a dress that fits her properly and makes her feel fantastic yeah so let's like let's do that let's prioritize that and it's not like oh well you're no I just want something that you know and it's like no let's just be real about this I wouldn't need to feel fucking amazing yeah what we're gonna do and then do and I just feel like that's kind of like it's not an elephant in the room it's that's what I was gonna say yeah it's not anything to be embarrassed about or something that you can't talk about it's just like no let's like what makes you feel fucking great and let's like strive for

that yeah because I do think when people are pussyfooting around you I think that's you know and such a gear change but like I was talking to someone about infertility and they are you know they're going through their infatility and moment and they were saying that what's what is actually harder than their friends having babies and falling pregnant is how is that whole elephant in the room feeling where they find that their friends are too scared to say anything in front of them and they try and keep it secret as long as possible until they're literally showing and they're like are you pregnant like yeah and they're like yes

I'm just so sorry I didn't want to say in front of you and she was like that's actually harder than anything else because I just feel like yeah and I mean everyone will be different with this stuff and that was a proper gear change, but I do just feel like acknowledging this stuff is so much better than being like communicating it. Because it's also putting your shit. It's reacting to how you think they're going to think.

So if you think they think that you're doing this, but you can't live your life, oh I'm not going to do this in case they think this because you don't know what they're going to think. So if you're like, oh, I don't want to offend them. So I think they might react badly if I do this. I'm not going to say this and blah, blah, blah. Don't make your actions based on what you think they're going to think ask them what they think

and then act accordingly and I think communicating not guessing I mean this works on in friendship and in a really broad spectrum it works from from like you say with infertility it works like with friendship it works with friendship sorry with weight it works with relationships it works with loads of things just to be like I'm not going to guess how you're going to react to this

I'm going to ask you how in general you'd like to address this and then I know how to be the best friend to you that I can be and that's really and then because I think if you preempt somebody's emotion you you behave differently and not necessarily in a way that they like and then nobody's being honest and there's a real disconnect and I think that's that's where everything gets a bit murky yeah so yeah just honest chill chat yeah it's not a big deal like it's not it's only a bigger

deal this to your friend it might not be the mass the mass of this deal but they you know they don't they might not look at you and think oh they're all of this because they're smaller that might just be you thinking that they're going to think that yeah and and yeah just ask what she wants yeah Like how best, you know, you're on a journey to body confidence. Like, how best can that help? Because I want to help. Yeah. Yeah.

What makes you feel good? Let's do that. Yeah. Love it. Babe episode so far. You get one each. Oh, God. I loved talking to Holly Hagan.

Although I've loved everybody, that was a perspective that I never would have foreseen us being able to find. Like, we actually started this podcast definitely to, like, hear other perspectives. And that was something that, I was very like excited to hear and I really felt like I learned something and took something really, really valuable from that and I think I grew as a person because of it. It offered a lot of perspective I think. Yeah, definitely loved it.

I agree. If you don't say Benita, I'm going to punch you in the head. Oh yeah, that was so special. Don't worry guys, I'm here. Yeah, that was amazing. That was so special. I love that. Yeah, she's so cool. So cool. this question came up a lot okay okay which I was really shocked at actually what is your

favorite thing about each other okay so I think for me how like you're a really good friend in the sense that I feel like I know I could say to you like am I need help this is a pressure now actually I know say say I feel like I'd be like am I need your help like I really need your help and you'd be like I'm on my way I'll be there in you know half an hour yeah no pressure because if you can't do that that's fine but I feel like you're very loyal and and what's the word I'm looking for stunning it's like all in as a friend yeah yeah that's how I would describe it as a friend yeah that's all in that's what I was going to say about you I just think you're really really like loyal I think

you're like yeah your heart graph at the beginning but I'm in now I think it's the same thing like I like when I'm in a crisis I think like yeah although you do have a million and ten things going on and I do feel guilty like even this morning like I was just in such a pickle and you're like arrive and you're like right let's do it yeah your solution is focused which sometimes drives me insane and I'm just like let me wallow in this stress it's actually incredibly useful in a friend and like you're very good at just like coming together and just making everything okay but you do make everything okay and that's nice nice nice you bring a lot of stress as well but yeah sorry we generally end with like a lot of joy but you know you just I don't know I I just yeah I felt like you're very very loyal and I love that and yeah nice here we go yeah got fist bump

here we go next question what's your favourite thing about me no I'm joking oh they need go do we don't have enough time yeah we love you good isn't nine year age gap okay. Woman is 36, man is 27. Do this come from one of my best friends? I have a few people in that situation and yeah, absolutely fine. As long as you're both, as long as you're both on the same page. I think it's nuanced. I think it's difficult when it's younger people. I don't

know how long you've been together but yeah, love love. Yeah. Um, yeah, it's fine. If it works, it works. If it doesn't it have. Yeah. And I've got a friend in that exact, um, the age thing, I think. And yeah, they're very happy. So there you go. Yeah. Cool. Dream. Dream. Dream. podcast guest? Louis through it. If Louie's coming in and I'm coming in. Yeah, I'm fucking out. Dream podcast guest.

Who would be the dream? Do you know what? I would love to interview Will Young. I've always loved Will Young. Always really loved him. It's my first ever celebrity crush was I was crushed when he came out. As if he really stood a chance

before we knew he was gay. Yeah, I thought that I was going to end up marrying him. I had this like grand, grand plan. How got to? I know, I know. And I think he's got a really interesting story and I would love to talk to him. Yeah, that's fair enough. That's fair enough. Okay, quick fire around. Let's go. Yeah. So then we need to get out for lunch because I am starving. So let's go. Quick fire. One, two, three. Summer or winter? Summer. Fucking love the summer. Money or happiness.

Both. Oh, don't take me stupid. Money does buy happiness and I don't care who's. Yeah, it does. It absolutely does. Yeah. Morning or night. Morning. Fucking love the morning. Salty or sweet? Salty. Both. What if one penis is salty

and one is sweet on your arm? Right, you've got a bit of sponge dripping. And once dip some chocolate. Love or friendship? Friendship. Friendship. Friendship is love. Both, yeah. Yeah.

That's just to be massively cheesy. That's the best thing about my relationship with my Alex is that we're best friends. Something at your hand do that I thought was so nice is that you, when we were all sat around in that bar and you said like I love Alex and I'm so happy to be getting married but this means so much to me as well like the female friendships in my life yeah that's it like that that Hindu was the most special thing for me ever because I did look round and I just thought you don't appreciate this in life you don't like to stop in

and the focus is always on the romantic love and that's an absolute load of shit because the greatest loves in my life aren't romantic loves and and the greatest love in my life isn't necessarily the romantic love have even with Alex it's like the friendship love and that it's quite i'm friends with my mom i'm friends with my siblings i'm friends with my friends and i fucking love my friends because i admire different things and everybody so much and i feel so honored to be loved by them love that so like love is friendship but fucking friendship's just so great yeah love that this is why i say there's no one one no no no no no no no no night in or night out oh it fucking depends i love a night out, but I also love a night in.

So, both. If I'd like for it, a night out, but yeah. Yeah. Would you rather travel to the past or the future? Past. The past is history. The future is a mystery, but the present is a gift. Put that on your fucking fridge.

Do you know, in an ideal world, I'd love to travel to the future, check that everything's going to be okay. Oh, yeah. Come back and then I can live, then I'm happy in the present. Why don't you just pretend it's all fine and then just be happy now anyway? I'm trying, working on that, yeah. But it would be nice to like know for sure. Oh, I'd like to go to pass and just like give, I just give everyone a big hug and then I'll come back again.

Oh, don't make me crying. Yeah, oh, Jesus. You two are a fucking mess today. I don't really are. Phone call or text? Phone call. Text. This is what happened.

This is the problem here. I hate texting. I hate texting. And I hate texting you specifically. These fucking solutions firing at me. I'm just like, I hate that just ring me. Solution, solution, solution. Bath or shower?

Shower. Spend or save? Spend. What was your last Google search? Why don't fish die when lightnings track to sea? Oh God, who was I searching for on IMDB and why? Andrea Anders home? I don't even know who this is.

Who the fuck is this? Oh my god, he's the husband in Anna Delvey. He's the husband of the journalist. Oh! I have no idea why I googled him and I don't know why I did it today because I've got so many things I should be googling. Mine was, why can't I access the word or archive anymore? Was it?

Yeah. I think it's gone. It's really sad. Mine was quickfire questions. questions. Favorite person to work with? We have to say. Well, we have to.

We literally have to. Guys, there's more than two people in this relationship. I said we have to say each other all you. But then I don't want one of you to feel bad. I couldn't you, right? Actually, I'm going to say Daisy. I'm going to, I'm abstain me from the vote. That's hard, yeah, that's hard, sorry.

Favorite place in the world? either Pharmacy on Westman Grave because it does the best vegan mac of cheese in the world or Alamamam I'm a monstrum I love being in a pool

You do love being in the pool I just love it I could be in the pool You could leave me all day You usually were stepped off the plane in New Yorker and I was in the pool And I actually I thought I'd give myself arthritis in my hands The more I know you

the more I'm like you're a seal in another life you were a seal you love a clap you love the water next time I see you yeah you'll be in like a lovely grey coat shiny up like feel my flubber

flabber flubber that's it gal your questions we did thank you so much oh my fucking I just clapped I was looking at my hands like what am I doing

what have you done to me so I should introduce you on the podcast as well. I know. Haven't been in the pub before. Rames behind the Insta. Yeah, this is great. And yeah, this is, this is the new, yeah, this is the new podcast.

Next Monday we will be here with our good bad and awkward and our interview and then the following Thursday we will get the second bat and that is, is it just me? Is it just me? So please remember to send all your stuff in. We want embarrassing stories, your is it just me's. Don't worry about ever you send in, it's totally anonymous. and the worse the better so sorry I keep bashing yeah if you've heard this it's because like throughout the hole um that's not my like hearty trick um fidgeting anyway

we finished the episode next time I speak to you I will be a woman you're there oh my good I will be thriving with a sun tan I might have a nervous breakdown because I do feel like I'm on the fucking brink at the minute I'm gonna be honest but it's the place to be right the wave it's a fine line but it's exciting what's that expression it's like so excited is it a billy job I fucking love Billy Job

I don't know why I didn't have him at dinner but it's so exciting on the borderline that's what he says Brian Mulco from placebo I'd have him at dinner party anyway we're wrapping this up that sounds so boring

oh my god how do you how absolutely do you he's a genius he's a musical genius Oh my god. Like long term, what was you talking about? Well, you'd be like, oh, how rude? I hope he's not listening.

Owl doesn't have a headline Bromachshad. She doesn't have a fridge magnet. What would you talk to like, what's his name again? Broh Malko. What, like, just quickly before we go, like just top line questions, what would you ask him? He's fascinating. Yeah, fine, but like just top line questions, what are you asking? Okay, I would like to know about his childhood because he's split between here and Belgium, okay?

Thank you. Maybe. pleaseria should have been my mastermind he's just a musical genius talk to me about it tell me about it but what I'm the point I'm trying to get at it's like musical geniuses don't are just they don't just sit there and just talk about what geniuses they are you have to ask the right questions press the right buttons to get the answers that you want yeah and I would but what questions do you know what I'm done I feel ambush I think you'd waste the opportunity I feel ambush Why don't you should go to a placebo gig

and then have dinner with your dead grandparent it's like a normal person? This feels like bullying, okay? And this is where we end the podcast, okay? Not just the episode, the podcast. In all seriousness, guys, can we just say, like, the biggest thank you for getting us to where we are

because I actually can't believe it and we wouldn't be signed to wake us if no one listens. So thank you so much. We love you. Yes, it's a pinch, pinchers moment and it's all because of you guys. So thank you.

I've just got pinched twice. so thank you so so so much we love you all we really really do and we will see you next week and thanks for being here and if you hate the new album cover keep fucking quiet bye you guys