Should I Delete That? - Is It Just Me: Bellybuttons and gratitude journals

Episode Date: June 22, 2022

In this week’s Is It Just Me? The girls receive some kinky wisdom, explore their own bellybuttons and discover the true horror of Wagamama’s firecracker chicken….Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [e-mail] & edited by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello everybody and welcome to Is It Just Me? Hello, welcome back. We're redoing all of our introses at the moment. It's quite embarrassing. So, shall I kick us off? Kick us off, let's go. So I've got an Is It Just Me that was submitted via DM. Hi, Alex.

I obviously love the podcast and would, thank you, and I'd love to submit and Is It Just Me? Is it just me who always thinks the grass is greener in relationships? I'm in a healthy, loving relationship, but I can't help but feel like I am missing out on something. I miss that feeling of getting to know someone and when you can't keep your hands off each other. I compare my relationship to everyone else's and it just brings me down. Is it just me or is it because humans aren't supposed to be monogamous and is there anything that I can do about it? I think it's quite normal for people to do this in relationship.

I think this is a very human. thing. Yeah, what's that expression? You know, I love an expression. The grass is green and where you water it. And I think, like, that's definitely the case in relationships. And sometimes it's really easy to sit kind of like complacently next to your, like, farting other half and just be like, oh, God, I bet like Leon Nara DeCaprio is having great sex right now. But then also, like, there's so much of the other stuff that you don't think about that it's just hell, you know, if you talk to so many of your single friends, they probably look at your relationship at times and think god i wish i had what you had i wish i had the security i wish

i have the love that you have and i wish i had somebody to cook dinner with everybody and every night and there's something to share it all the time and i think everybody looks at everybody else and compares but actually everybody's got their shit because sometimes single people will be like oh i just you know i wish i didn't have this and i wish i didn't have this and yeah okay that guy was great to know but that guy was a fucking nightmare or like you know i don't know so but i do think it's normal i don't think it's just you at all it is normal but But I think, yeah, the grass is always greener where you water it. Love that.

And also, like, the grass on the front yard might be greener. But what's it like in the backyard? Fucking Alex, like, that was a sensational question. I think we should put it on a fridge magnet. Also, what's it like in the house? What does it look like in the house? You know, what's the interior look like? Is it shitty?

Is it just a front? You know, is the green grass on the outside just a front for everyone to see? You just don't know what goes on behind closed doors. So is it just what you want to see? Because sometimes you look at things and you're like... Exactly. You look at it through your lens and it's really easy if you... If your lens is showing your life, like honestly, I could walk into my kitchen right now.

And you know in the summer when it's all a bit hot and you leave the door open or the window open to let the air, but that also lets the flies in. And then we haven't quite finished washing up from last night because, you know, live. So the kitchen kind of smells of like last night's dinner and they're just like flies all around and it's just like, ugh. And if honestly, I could, like, if I were that way in kind, just look over my neighbours and be like, God, I bet their life so much better, look how tiny their kitchen is. Or you can go on Instagram and just be like, oh, God, I bet her husband cleans up all the time. Or, like, I bet they have this and they have this and whatever. And it's really easy to just compare and whatever to your reality in a second.

But if you look at your life as a whole and you step back and it's like, oh, my God, I've got the best. Because the reality is, like, when people look at, I don't know, somebody else and think, oh, maybe I should just go and be single and get to know someone. I'm like, okay, cool. But also, do you want to, like, move out your house? Do you want to basically just, like, pull the plug on your entire life? Is that, if that one night stand or, like, that one guy that you kind of fancy that you think might be fun to get to know, is it worth literally, and visualise yourself,

like, packing all your shit into boxes and saying to your partner, it's been real, but I'm going to go get to know this guy that I've never met, and I don't know the name off, and it probably sucks. That might be what some people want to do and that might be what some people enjoy is not staying in long-time relationships and sort of... Well, that's perfect. If it excites you. Yeah. But you have to realize

that the grass isn't always greener and you're likely to end up in the same situation somewhere else, with someone else. Further down the line with this other person, with this new person, you know? So exactly, it's just same situation, different person. If the image of you packing up your stuff and moving out of that house and saying to your boyfriend that, okay, I'm leaving you, fills you with excitement, then you've got to go.

But if it makes you think, oh, God, no, God, that would be awful because then who will I finish Grey's Anatomy with? Then he'd be so upset and I don't want that. Then, you know, but yeah, fine, you've got a pretty, like, probably healthy crush on somebody else, but you're not going to do anything about it. But if it makes you feel like you want to go, then that is your sign that it might not just be a crush and maybe you want to go, but it's nothing to do with the grass.

The grass is greener is bullshit. The grass isn't greener. The grass is not greener. You might just have rose-tinted or green-tinted glasses on. Do you know what? I'd like to suggest something, and I can't quite believe these words are about to come out with my mouth because it's so not like me.

But gratitude, journaling, I was always just like, oh my God, it's just, I thought it was like way too woo-woo for me. And you know what I'm like. But I believe in it so strongly, and it's proven to have this. amazing effect on our mindset and so if you can if you can like make a list of all the things that you're grateful for in your relationship and it might offer you then a different perspective on the

situation rather than focusing on the on the things that you don't have or that you perceive that other people have you can then focus on the things that you do have and the things that make you happy about your relationship so I don't know just a suggestion you don't have to take it yeah and you can also like if you look at that and you're like you look at your list like, okay, well, I really like this and this and this, but I really wish we dated more, like, or I wish we did more stuff together, I wish whatever, then go about making that change,

like communicating with your partner, or take the initiative and do it yourself. Right, exactly. I honestly, I think we were set up for such a fucking disappointment watching, like, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty and Snow White because it finishes with the fucking kiss. All these films are like, and happy ever after. And it doesn't show, like,

Prince Charming's, like, stinky little trotters on the coffee table and, like, and he's never done that. like the washing up in like a day and I don't know he just goes and like plays golf with his mate all of Sunday every Sunday like they never show that shit they only show like the kids and that's when so that's where we kind of that's where the excitement is for women and we haven't been taught to romanticise the happy ever after reality which is irritating yeah we only get the initial passion which inevitably has to wear off it just has to but imagine if it stays it would does wax and wane and also imagine if that intense the intensity that you feel at the very

beginning of meeting someone imagine if that lasted no one would ever get anything done and and the games that you'd have to play imagine like texting out imagine texting day thing like hey babe can you like pick up some like mayonnaise from the shop and then he waits three days to reply because that's what you have to do when you're in the beginning of dating someone you'd be like oh for fuck sake don't want to be too keen like he comes home for dinner and you're saying don't talk to him. Like, I'm saying from work. It's like, I'm just playing a little bit hard to get tonight. Yeah, exactly. Ridiculous. But yeah, the grass is always greener syndrome is very much, I think, I believe a part of a human, a part of the human condition

and it's normal. But you can, I guess, control your reaction to it if you want to. Okay, I've got something to read out for you. It is in relation to the belly button kink chat of last Thursday. Hi, M. Al, Daisy and Amy, obviously love the podcast. I was just wanting to talk about the belly button kink question you had and maybe add my experience to this for the listener who asked that. I had an ex who had a really big kink that he introduced me to. I was pretty open-minded about it and we incorporated it into our sex life pretty much from the beginning as he was very upfront about it.

He also asked me what I'm into and we'd try things. We broke up and then I got with my new boyfriend and I bought this kink up to him as I kind of thought it was part of mine now. I can't lie. It was kind of awkward. We tried it and he wasn't into it. We've been together for two years now and it hasn't been brought up since, but there's been plenty of other new stuff we've tried and liked that have suited my current relationship

better. I don't know what this listener's feelings are about this, but my advice would be to make sure that this isn't something that was actually just something between you and your ex that you're carrying forwards into new relationships. If it's really something you can't imagine not doing, then bring it up straight away, brace yourself that it might go badly and be prepared to move on if they will not do it. I hope you don't mind me sending this, but I thought it could be interesting to talk about. That is the answer I wish we had given when we were asked this question. I feel like I fully fluffed that answer because I was just like I honestly just don't, I haven't thought about this. I just don't know. That is a very, very, very good

response. Perfect. Yeah, I think I'm not even going to butcher. We're going to butcher again. We're just going to leave that as if it is. I hope that's helpful. I hope that's helpful for anybody who has a kink from an old relationship. They might want to take into a new relationship. Yeah. let's preserve her her intellect um i have an embarrassing story i went to wagamama with my friend for my birthday unfortunately there's no um there's no foreplay here there's no love the podcast hi did da da da that's okay i we move on um i went to wagamama with my it's it's forgiven but not for gone i went to wagga mama with my friend for my birthday i had the firecracker chicken don't know what that is but it sounds spicy lunch was absolutely banging went a

my day as normal, then went to a friend's house for a birthday drink on the way home. On my way home, it takes all of 60 seconds to walk home. I started to get a bubbly belly. I walked faster as I knew shit, quite literally. It was going to go south pretty quickly. Got to my front door, put my key in the door and just shat myself on my doorstep. Now, having firecracker chicken did not help the situation because it was in capitals spicy. I had leggings on and it was like a scene from a horror movie it all just flew out of the top

of my leggings out the top like a baby whose nappy had overflown out the top I had no choice but to just waddle down my hallway get into the shower

fully clothed and just try to shower off my sins I had to throw my clothes away good and it took 15 minutes to get myself clean I was 32 RIP me And she's put as an ad on It was not just a normal poo

It was like pure chilly diary I'm Out the top On her birthday On her doorstep Oh It's so sad to be so close I just don't understand that

I don't understand it It must have been explosive It must have been like Vesuvius That is a long That is quite difficult to make... Like an eruption. Like a...

It rise all the way to the top of you, and out of your leggings. Leggings, which are famously quite tight things. Well, there you go. That's disgusting. You poor thing. Gravital standpoint, I'm confused, and I'm sad, and I'm a little overwhelmed,

and I'm sorry for you. I know I'm going to sound like I'm the one with the belly button fetish. Yeah, you are at this point. But I have another entry. Hi, hi, hi. Love the podcast. I was weirdly excited to hear the belly button chat this week.

No, I don't have a belly button fetish or any advice for the kink person. However, I haven't, is it just me regarding belly buttons, which I've been thinking about recently, hence the excitement. Is it just me that likes to deep clean their belly button? I'm talking, get in there with a torch and some tweezers and have a good rummage around in there. This all started a year ago when I had my belly button pier. Then I took the belly button piercing out to change it, only to realise there was a bunch of stuff built up behind the belly bar. This fascinated me, and I always found it so satisfying to get in all the little folds and clean it out. Then, when I was pregnant, my belly button popped out a little bit, which made cleaning it so much easier.

Anyway, I really hope you gave your belly button a deep clear after years of a piercing, and if you didn't, then get in there, girl. I should say that belly buttons really are sensitive, so maybe don't go in too hard, and probably best to ensure hands are clean, etc, etc. of times. I've said belly button, love you all. I have so much to say. I have so much to say. Right. I get it. I want to say it from me off. I don't know what it is about boys, but they accumulate belly button, belly button fluff. Oh my God, don't they? Yeah, every time, even if he's worn a white t-shirt, yes. Has a belly button full of navy blue fluff and I have no idea where it comes from. Say you. Same.

Every night, Dave takes his t-shirt off and he's like, look. And I'm like, go away. That is disgusting. I don't like it. I fish Alex is out. I fucking love it. It's a passion project of mine. I thoroughly enjoy it.

Oh my God, maybe I have a belly button king. For some reason, the belly button goes through me. I don't know. I think it's because it's a crevet. I don't know. Okay, right. Right. Oh, okay.

I'm going to have a look at my belly button. But before I do that, can I just say Daisy edited out my story from last week about my belly button piercing about the story of me getting my belly button pierced? How sad? So I don't think... Oh my God, that is sad.

Yeah, that is sad. Guys, I'm going to tell you now. I don't know why Daisy doesn't want you to hear this. Maybe she feels sad for me that I had a wonky belly button piercing for nine years. But I went to going to get my belly button pierce when I was 19 and I got it done. For any of our Irish listeners,

I went to George's Arcade and went to the infamous piercing place. And I was really drunk, Noel. And I got my belly button pierce. Anyway, and because I was really drunk and I'm guessing that the guy that did the piercing was also a bit drunk because the piercing was so wonky

and every time anyone looked at my belly button for like the following nine years they were like, ha, you know, it's won't as longue, I was like, yes, thank you, I know. Anyway, I'm gonna look at my belly button. What have you got in yours? Have a look. My boots are so, I can't see into mine

because of my boots. Not anything in mind either. Oh, what? It's completely empty. I mean, I had a shower about an hour ago, still. Yeah, I didn't understand what she's got in there. It's a very nice colour in there, because my skin, my tan is like quite nice and brown, but it's a very, like, it's actually very pretty in there. It's sort of like, it looks like a, it looks like a piece of ham. Like a sort of, like a piece of, like a piece of ham in there, like that kind of pink, you know,

the kind of pink, like a white ombre, like the sort of pale pink to white, you know? I've made a huge mistake. I've made a huge mistake. Do you think I've just got a small bear your face? No, no, no, I've made a huge mistake. I've just Googled, oh no, no, no, this is going to haunt me. I made a huge mistake. What have you done? I'll Google it too.

What have you done? What have you done? I googled stuff in belly button. Don't do it. It's disgusting. I'm jumping in. I'm coming. I'm coming.

I'm coming. I'm coming. Stuff in belly button. Images. Oh my God. This is so disgusting. Oh, God. image two, four, five a long.

No, that's... Also, when I went to type in stuff with belly button, the first thing that comes up is... Oh my God. Stuff in belly button smells. Stuff in belly button smells like poo. Interesting. Oh my God, this is so gross.

Okay. Yes, it might's pretty clean. I wonder if I did accumulate things behind my piercing. need to stop looking at that or I'm going to be sick on my microphone. It's so gross. Yeah, it's pretty gribly. I, I don't know if I maybe did accumulate things behind the belly bob, because I don't

clean my belly button, like, thoroughly. You know, I don't, I don't sort of seek it out to clean it. Do you? I feel like I do sometimes. Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly. I think like I kind of rub, rub, rub on my tummy, because I use the lots of time shower oil, which is so good, and I have to fall over my body, so I go like that. But I don't go in.

No, I think I do sometimes, but like most, but I feel like just because of what you're doing and you're rubbing body wash and it's like a hole, isn't it? So like it gets washed anyway. Yeah, well, I think water falls into mine and then falls out again. And sometimes I look in and it looks like a fun little water feature because I think it gets like a little water side. It goes and loads comes out of there. Yeah, I'll take a video. Obviously I work because of my vagina will be in it.

But I might say it to you. But it's like a fun little fun. But why do boys always have the blue fluff? when they're all white. I don't know. I'm going to Google. I'm going to Google it. I know!

Well, I don't know. I just found out why. Naval fluff, that's what the VBC have called in it. They've written a whole article on it. Stomach hair is responsible for producing belly button lint. That's why, because they've got stomach hair. The scaly structure of hair... Their hair makes cotton.

They're like cotton farmers. That's unbelievable. Why are we fucking importing it from all over the world, or we can just be using the men? Right. We can be making full hours. outfits out of their belly button fluff. We could be...

Why do we have to share sheep? We could just use them. The scaly structure of hair firstly enhances the abrasion of minuscule fibres from the shirt and secondly directs the lint into one direction, the navel where it accumulates. That makes so much sense

because I was like, I have never ever had fluff on my belly button and yet Dave, every single day has like a full cotton ball ball in there. So there you go. I'm actually staggered. I'm reading a BBC article about it

and it's huge. Like somebody has gone to journalism school, spent so much of their life training to become a BBC journalist. They'll be so proud of their career and then they've got an article about the curious truth about belly button fluff. Well, you know what?

I'm happy. And you know what? Sometimes this girl likes cleaning out her belly button with her tweezers and stuff. I'm like, it is a simple pleasure as a knife. I love cleaning out Alex's. If I had stuff in my own,

I would enjoy cleaning out them. Like, I'm a spot squeezer. Like, I enjoy that. I am such a spot squeezer. Yeah, so I feel like it's just, it's kind of of that ilk, so each to their own. And if you've got something that can get, like, that you enjoy in your own body, how useful? You're not going to turn to hard drugs or go out looking for a life of adventure. If you've got that inbuilt entertainment, how fab.

Exactly. I am such a spot squeezer, such a spot squeezer. That should be my, is it just me, actually, is that I cannot leave Dave's face alone or his body. Like, I'm constantly searching him. Alex won't let me touch his face. Sucks to be you. He lets me do his back, though, because he can't reach it. And then sometimes he's like, no.

And I'm like, right, you want to be the guy with his body back. And then he's like, okay, go ahead. I'm like, thank you. What I say is, I am doing you a massive favour. So you actually should be thanking me rather than saying, oh, no, not again. Please leave me alone. Because I am making sure that you have clean skin. Because who wants to go out with a blackhead on your back when no one can see?

Well, no, because I'll go swimming. But I'm like mama monkey when we go. go on holiday like family holidays like all the boys will line up and I just oh I just love it so much but the thing is I can only do it to myself and Dave I can't do it to anyone else I don't know why but I watch um I watch spot popping videos to get me to sleep to get you to sleep it relaxes me honestly it is like a wonderful soothing experience for me and I know it's disgusting but I You get you now, I don't think we'd be friends. I think that feeling is fairly mutual.

No, just kidding. Would you squeeze a spot for me if I have one on my back? Yeah, you feel quite clean, so yeah, I think I would. I am breaking. It depends on the person. It depends on the person. I don't know. I know what you mean.

But I love watching it. I used to have like a sort of, this is really great. I actually still have it. It's like a tiny little like, oh, this is so gross. Do you want to know this? Do you want to know this? Yeah, I really do. Okay.

So I've got this kind of like, I think it's like a little cyst on the back of my neck. Well, kind of on the back of my shoulder, it's like here. It's very small. Yeah. Oh, I love that. And very occasionally, it's not all the time. Most of time it's just under the skin, but sometimes if you give it a squeeze, yeah, a little bit of shit comes out.

Oh my God. You should like, oh my God, if I were you, I'd be like rubbing it with butter. is that what would happen I don't know it's been like 10 years but like make it into a massive thing and then when you put it up it would be glorious oh no no

god no why would you do that it's fine it's fine it's just been there for 10 years and then very occasionally like you know when you just I don't know body check like right now it's nothing like right now it's like it's tiny it's like the size of like sort of like half a pea

but then sometimes it grows a bit and when it's a bit bigger I can just sort of go like oh and then it just sort of comes out and then I'm like well you let me know Can I do it? When it's next ready? You can. Oh my God. We can film it. I think it's been a few years since it's been ready.

But if it comes, if it's back, you'll get the call. You'll get the call up. Alex won't go anywhere near it. Sometimes days have these beautiful ones and I'm like, I wish I could record it, but I can't because I need torch with one hand. And yeah, oh, just what I really need is a little pair of goggles and a little with a little light. on the end so I don't have to hold my phone with the torch and also like Google goggles so they record it as well so I can relive the moment just fucking love it anyway okay all right ladies and gentlemen we have something to live in ladies there's no gentleman there's no gentlemen we've got

something to leave you with this was sent into the email box email box this was sent into us via email we got it on Wednesday the subject line I'm having a real time awkward Hi, ladies. First things first, I love the podcast. I didn't know I needed it until you did it and now it's here and it's a staple part of my weekly routine. So thank you to my face. More importantly, I am currently in the middle of my biggest awkward maybe ever. A bit of background. I'm currently in Baltimore, USA for the days I work as cabin crew. Never been here before. There's not all that much to do. And before you ask, yes, I have spent all day singing Good Morning Baltimore. So I'm sitting on a bench literally right now. This is real time around the harbour. It's 33 degrees here so I chose a wooden bench to sit on and read my book rather than the metal ones because I actually quite like having skin with nerve endings rather than full fitness burns on the back of my legs. Turns out this was a fucking rookie move. I've sweated so badly because it's 33 degrees. I have thighs and I've also worn the most non-readable fabric ever. There is now a sweat imprint of the back of my legs on this bench and there is no way I can move and people

won't think I've wet myself on this bench. I will attach a picture just so you can understand the full gravity of what I'm dealing with right here. I fully appreciate this as a podcast but I also need someone to appreciate how fucking dark and deep this sweat goes into the bench.

The dark bit is sweat, not shadow. Now Al, before I carry on, I'm going to show this to you. Okay. It's bad. Wow. Oh my God. It's like a very, very pale blonde wood as well.

That is. pay our blonde wood. So the problem I'm facing now is this. I have to sit here and either subtly work out a way of airing it out whilst not leaving more imprints as I do so and remain looking like a normal human being so the family is sitting on the grass behind me don't feel like they need to call 911 or wait until no one is around and run. I'm choosing not to think about the chug-rub this option will undoubtedly result in. To complicate this matter two ladies on my crew know I am here and said they might come and collect me once they finished at the shops to go for lunch together. I can't have anyone actually knowing what a

sweaty mess I am or thinking I've pissed myself abroad. Well, this is an essay. Thank you for joining me on my real-time walk, but I'm not going to ask myself too many questions about why the first thing I wanted to do when this happened, just tell you guys, congrats if you got to the end of it, keep doing what you're doing. How did this end? How did it end? We need an update. We need an update. Also, if she doesn't mind, I think we should share that photo on the, on the Instagram so that everyone can see it. I'm going to reply and ask for this information. How did it end?

And please, can we have an update? If we get an update, we'll put it on the podcast on the Instagram along with this image so that you guys aren't left in suspense for as long as we are. It's a lot worse than I was thinking, because I was thinking of like a dark mahogany, but it's a very, it's like an ashy blonde wood. Oh, babe, what are you poor thing? Why is being humans so horrible? I know.

Okay. Right, well, thank you very much for all of our Thursday listeners. We will be back on Monday with a great episode and we can't wait to see you there. Well, we'll see you all on Monday. Thank you for listening. Should I delete that as part of the ACAS creator network? Bye!