Should I Delete That? - Is It Just Me: Breastfeeding in the main hall

Episode Date: November 9, 2023

On this week's IIJM, the girls discuss more auto-correct fails, out of context willies and mums that overstep boundaries...Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [e-mail] by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello and welcome back to Should I Delete That? I'm M Clarkson. I'm Alex Light. How you doing, Al? Good, good, well done, well done. Thank you so much. So you might remember last Thursdays, is it just in the episode? We talked about email backups for lack of a better word.

The accidental forwarding on my part of an email that I did not mean to do. Jen accidentally replying to an email. telling the client that they were a bit of a wanker and we put a call out and we asked for a bit of moral support basically I wanted to feel like I wasn't the only person that had ever done that and wanted the ground to follow me up but I am very pleased to announce

I feel anxious that I'm not alone you guys in your droves have also humiliated yourself so we thought we'd read a few of them out today but I can really feel the panic rising for everyone I know that feeling it's such a familiar feeling where you've done the bad thing and you just go, like your blood runs physically cold.

And then hot. Yeah. And then cold. Yeah. And then you get pins and needles in your face. And your hands, tip to your fingers. Okay. This one's titled email F up.

Love the pod, smiley face. Here's my email F up. A few years ago, I was setting up my business when a very nice man wrote me an email explaining how he would like a job. He didn't say too much about himself and his skills, but instead wrote a 15 paragraph essay about how fabulous his wife was and how great she wasn't cooking. After reading it, I forwarded it to my business partner with the subject line,

take a break, take a breath, cocker. I don't know what that means. Okay. C-O K-K-A. Like term of affection, maybe. Guess so. She then replied to all with the line, do you think his wife will make my tea?

We didn't know this had happened until an email dropped into our inbox, which said simply, I've taken a breath and asked her, unfortunately she's too busy making cakes for the WI this week two years on I'm still slightly mortified and terrified that one of these days will get an invite for tea oh no that's horrible oh no she took the breath and said no take a breath no wait but why

why was he applying and talking about his wife I don't know I'm confused I don't know I don't know but that's really sad maybe it was a tactic but that is really sad That's really sad. I know because he's like, we're laughing at him. And now he knows. And she would be absolutely fucking mortified to realise that she'd done that.

Obviously it's two years ago and she's brought it up. Painful. I'm so, I'm so sorry to you. I'm mostly sorry for him. It is when you hear it a few years ago and I'm like, oh, this is. This is stage with you. It's stuck. This is harrowing.

Okay. My turn. Let me just try and catch my breath. This stuff just... I feel so anxious. Okay. Hi girls. I have just listened to your episode

where you were talking about accidentally sending emails to the wrong person. It reminded me of something that happened a long time ago now but that has stuck with me. It's another one. Shit.

When I was maybe 16 or 17, we were having a barbecue at school and I was... I can't. And I was standing in the queue with one of my best friends at the time. Let's call her Jess. She was really getting on my nerves for some reason

and I sent a message to my then-boyfriend saying Jess is really annoying me today. Oh no. Only, you guessed it, I sent it to her by mistake. Oh, it was standing right next to her in the barbecue game. When she was standing right next to me, I realised with horror what I'd done as she was getting her phone out to check her messages

but it was too late. She's really annoying me today. That's really bad. That's so bad. That's so bad. Because it's like you're... You couldn't even wait until you got home You're going to all the effort of getting your phone out

To text and be like She's so annoying Oh Luckily we have quite a nice ending Luckily she looked at me and said Well you're really annoying me too And 17 years later We are still very good friends

God Jess took that well If it were me or you Good on Jess Yeah I'd be running out the door Oh no Oh that's so bad That is so bad.

Would you snatch the phone? Yeah, you could it. Yeah, I'd kick that thing. I'd put it straight on the bonfire. Grilled. The thing is, nowadays, you can't just get into someone's phone to delete it. There's just nothing you can do. No.

Oh. Okay, sorry, next one. Love the pod. Thanks for making Mondays and Thursday so much more fun. You're so welcome. I have an embarrassing email forward fail. This happened on my last day in my first job out of university. I had regularly dealt with someone in another office opposite end of the country,

so we'd never meet in person. And he'd always been really sharp and shorter. over email. It was a bit of a joke in our office that he was rude when my phone rang and it was him. I'd make any excuse not to answer it. On my last day, he sent me a nice email saying how he'd enjoyed working with me and I went to forward it to my boss but I replied. I said something along the lines of OMG, he's actually been nice. It might have been worse but I've still blocked it out. It's been 12 years and I'm still mortified whenever I think about it. I dread the idea that our paths may cross again one day. But as I've changed my name when I got married and we've

never met in person. I tell myself it won't be a problem. Oh, you've got so much amazingness ahead of you both. I've got two daughters, a four-year-old and an 11-month-old, and they're the best thing in the world. The days might feel long, but the months and years fly by, so don't worry when you're in the ship, because something great's coming around the corner, lots of love. That's very thoughtful, thank you. That's so lovely. Absolute, loll. Oh, my God, he's actually nice. That's the kind of thing that keeps her up at 3 a.m. I can just help. Twelve years, I'd say so. As well as her daughters. Don't worry. I've changed my mind. I changed my name

I'm safe oh yeah no I feel for you rough yeah that's crushing next one hi guys I thought you might like this one full stop

feel serious so my brother has started dating a new girl and like the good sister I am I thought I'd do some good old Facebook stalking of her I found an album from years in capitals

ago of her wedding none of us knew she was married before so I screenshoted photos of said girlfriend in her wedding dress and sent it to my mum asking if she knew about this. Time went on and she didn't respond weird.

After a few hours I got a call from her saying that she didn't have her glasses on so she gave the phone to my brother and his girlfriend to read out loud. She was mortified that on her phone there was a photo of the girl in a wedding dress glaring at her. Later I asked what my brother made of it. and she said she panicked and blamed it on my older brother.

He's got no idea, so I swerved that one, and my brother still thinks it was him. Years and years later, Win. Okay, well, that's great. But also, that's hilarious. My mum doesn't sort of think all the time. I've learned the hard way that I can't tact tactically text my mom. No, no, no, no, no.

And that's like because my mum would pick it up and go, who are we talking about? Yeah, oh, never. Who's a pain in the ass? Oh, my God, I can't believe she handed it to them. Can you mean this out for me? That's got my mum written all over it. That makes me want to cry. Okay, we've got the next one.

Firstly, I just want to say thank you for the last every week. It's like having two long-distance besties going through the ups and downs of life with you. And I've even got my boyfriend laughing along with me when we put your speaker on road trips. Oh, I just wanted to share about the most mortifying thing that's ever happened to me at work. It was my first job out of university and I was working for a small design agency building websites for clients. there was this one woman who we were designing and building a ski website for I like how many details she's giving us

so we could definitely work out who this was long story short she was demanding in her request and quite difficult to work with we didn't have a great relationship that she'd called me bullshit for generally trying to explain the scope of things in the nicest way possible and most of our communication was over email it had just got to the point where I couldn't deal with her rudeness

anymore and I forwarded her latest email to my director asking for help on how to handle her because she was being so difficult needless to say, I did not forward it to my boss and I forwarded it straight back to her. I remember my blood running cold, shaking and wanting to throw up. I sheepishly had to turn around

in my chair to tell my boss what I'd done. And he just looked at me in absolutely horror. I then had to phone her up in capitals and apologise over the phone profusely while simultaneously trying to control the shaking of my voice and not trying not to

cry. We did come out of it with a better understanding of each other, which was the silver line but as soon as I mentioned the forwarding fiasco I knew exactly how she felt and needed to say, I've been there and I feel for you it's something you never forget all my shameful love, Emily. It's the fact she had to turn around in her chair.

I'd be like, help. Oh, that's such a bad. She's something bad. Help me. Oh, that's true. And then have to phone her up. Phone her up. I mean, I feel like she, okay,

she should apologise because she shouldn't ever need that email, but also she's being difficult. At least she knows. At least she was like, from a good came out of it. I would, like, I would actually, I would be so upset if somebody forwarded one of my emails back to me being like, she's so difficult.

How do I, how do I handle her? Oh my God, I die. I would fully perish. Oh God, that's so funny. Okay, auto correct shame. Yeah. Oh, love this.

Love the show. Pretty sure I'm not your standard demographic being a 50 year old mom working from home. but boy do I love your podcast and look forward to the laughs as well as the informal informed guest chats Oh thank you. I know, nice. Anyway, I thought I'd pop my emailing into a podcast cherry as yesterday my four-year-old received an invite for a birthday party and I texted the mum to say thanks very much he'd love to attend. Being Halloween, the nursery were having a party with parents welcome that afternoon.

I've always struggled slightly with making mum friends. I'm mostly conscious that I'm an older mum and often possibly old enough to be the mum's mum. Anyway, I decided to be chatting and replied again saying maybe see you later at the Halloween party pumpkin emoji. What I actually sent was, maybe see you later at the Halloween party pumpkin. That's really funny.

That's really cute. That's really cute. You know, I did that once when I, someone sent me a photo of themselves and I do that to get the emoji up, don't you? Yeah, yeah, yeah, always. So I typed in fire to get the fire, the flame emoji

and accidentally said fire. That's nice. Yeah. That's cute though pumpkin. Maybe see you later at the Halloween party pumpkin. I think that's lovely. Oh, they didn't talk at the party. Oh.

A little bit of me did, died of shame and as I tried to delete it, the blue ticks of doom, appeared. We didn't talk at the party. Oh, I'm sorry. Well, you know what? She's not much of a pumpkin then. She's a rotten pumpkin. I would always talk to someone who call me pumpkin. I think that's lovely. Yeah, I love that. It's a very lovely term than dim that's actually, you're better off without her. Yeah, too right. Hi, Emma and Alex. Sorry, my Instagram message fails. I thought I'd try here. I just wanted to share an awkward auto-correct story on behalf of my

dad. He sent an email to the head teacher at the school where he worked, which said, the children. No, what? The children will be breastfeeding What? The children will be breastfeeding in the main hall. Sorry. The children will be breastfeeding in the main hall instead of rehearsing. Let's just say she didn't see the humor in that.

That's so good. And another one, I saw my mom's search history. on eBay when I was using her account when I was about 12 and the most recent thing she'd looked at was necrophilia hanging. Necrophilia hanging lamps to this day

we still have no idea of what she'd actually been looking for. Oh my God, your parents are so good I'd love to see their text to each other. I love the pod. I'm not sharing my name because it's not one that you would ever find on a mug or a keyring

the seaside on like emily then oh the children at breastfeeding what was she trying to search I know necrophilia hanging lamb I feel like should it necrophilia is one of those words if it wasn't what it was it would be a lovely girl's name do you think yeah necrophilia it's like stunning it sounds Greek. Like, oh, this is my daughter, necrophilia. It would be lovely if it wasn't, you know. No, I'm not being, I don't know, maybe, maybe the association is too strong in my head. It must be. Possibly, because necrophilia does not sound like a pretty girl's name to me. I like it. It's like Nicolaer and ophelia. Necrophilia. It's pretty. Maybe if I have a girl, I'll just like throw a curve full.

This is necrophilia light. Oh, my God. It would just sound like a Diet Coke version of it. Nethophilia like they're only comatose, they're not dead. Oh, we're going to get in trouble. 100%. And of all the things to be cancelled for as well, that would just be annoying. I just had a flashback when you were reading out about her dad.

I had a flashback to one of the worst embarrassing stories we've ever read on this podcast, and it's stuck with me. And I think it's from the very beginning, but... Is it the mayonnaise? No, it was The girl was at a family party And her parents were there as well And the dad

Came up behind her and squores her breasts Do you remember about her dad Thinking it was his girlfriend I know we're a bit late on the news But have you seen the story from Amsterdam No? What? Al, you've not seen it

This has become like A defining moment of our cultural It's not good I can't It's not good I can't believe it's true I thought I don't think it's true

I thought that she just saw it. I didn't realize she'd sucked it. No, no, no, no. I can't believe it's true. I know. I just think, if you know that your dad's willies in the same county as you, you don't risk just looking at anybody else

as like a strange willy. Do you know what I mean? And out of context, Willie. No, I never want to see a Willy without seeing the man that it's attached to. I feel like we need to explain this story but it's too horrifying to explain. Okay, I'm going to explain it really quiet.

Okay, can you do it? I should know, should like it? I don't know if you do it. You'll do it. I can't. It's apparently. a girl went to... Now, again, the whole thing seems bizarre

but, like, they went on like a family like stag and hen group to Amsterdam. Yeah, so she was on a hendoo, he was on a stag do. The dad was on the stag do and she was on a hendoo, which already just seems like an actual recipe for disaster. It's like sun sex and suspicious parents, except way worse.

But anyway, so they all went to Amsterdam and apparently they went to this fun thing where someone puts their witty through a hole. and as the woman on the other side of it you just have to like suck the Willie which seems like a stupid game it seems like a terrible game anyway

for so many reasons like a plethora of reasons I hate it I hate it I hate it because Willie's a standalone things are fucking bizarre anyway like imagine it's just like a super rogue anyway so she did it

she sucked Willie and then she found out it was her dad's Willie and apparently you can like turn a light on to see who it is if you want to know who is the owner of the willy which i feel that you should have done that before you locked it and they turned the light on and it was her dad i can't i can't no no no no i know it makes you want to hit myself like i can't i can't it's so bad it's so bad it can't it can't be true what are the what are the chances of no well no it can't be true what the chances of him being there at the same her being there,

her choosing to suck the willy, her choosing to suck his willy, it's too much, it's too much coincidence, I can't. I just, it takes a special breed of person to be the ones

to put the willy in the whole in the first place, and then a second kind to be like, yeah, yeah, I'll suck a strange willy. Do you know what I mean? One of the chances that those two people,

which I feel like quite few and far between, like I feel like that's not like run in the mill. Like I don't know they share genetics, don't they? They've just got like a ponchon for fun.

Adventure. Adventure, yeah, I mean, that's one word for it. I really want it to be debunked. I pray. Yeah, I can't continue to live thinking that it's real. But also, like, imagine having to do it to completion. Not your dad, just any, like, any strange willie.

Oh, no, no, no. Like, on and off. Like, I wouldn't, it would, it's quite arduous to just do it for ages. Is that what, is for? Well, apparently, it's just like, I imagine it as, like a line-up. That's what I hoped. I hoped it was just like on and off.

Do you know what I mean? You're like, uh-uh, ah, ah, like the first bit of a lollipot where you're trying to gauge the temperature, you know, that I have an ice slowly, like, ah, yeah, I think so. I don't think it's, I don't think it's. I don't think it's. Because that would take fucking it. And what you'd be banging your head against the wall. They'd be paying for that, surely.

Surely. Yeah, if, yeah, whatever the surface was, you'd just be conking your noggin against it every time you went in. Oh, yeah. Yeah. No, it's just, it's not real. So how thin must the wall have been? Because like that ruins her life, that ruins his life.

Entirely. That ruins, potentially your marriage. I don't know, your marriage could probably survive that, but you just wouldn't be happy. Whose marriage? Well, the, the impending marriage of her and her, the way they're there. It was her hen? Yeah. It was her hen.

What was she doing sucking and that, Willie? So that's why her and her. Her dad was on the, like, my dad went on Dave Stagdew. That's nice. And like the other, do you see what I mean? Did you suck a Willie on your hand do? No. No.

Obviously not. No. I won the limbo competition at mine. I went to a very quiet house in Birmingham. No Willys. No willies. What? From Willie straws?

Plastic ones. Yeah, of. Yeah, you wouldn't want to suck a willy on your Hendoo anyway. No, I feel anxious and sick. Yeah, it's really bad. It's really bad. It's really bad. I think it gets worse than that.

I know, and I'm really sorry to her. I am so, so sorry to her because that is truly one of the worst things. And I will never victim blame, but there is a lesson to be learned from this. I feel like we can take unilateral lesson for the group. Like, don't struck, suck strange willies. No. Okay, for the good of the, the good of our credibility, I'm going to take away from, we're just going to do something serious now.

Okay. Okay. Talk about glory holes anymore. Is it too serious? No, I just have an email that says, is it just me, or does anyone else's mom cross online social media age boundaries? Oh, okay. On Saturday night, I had an incoming FaceTime call from my mum.

Yeah. I didn't answer it. I'd been working earlier that day, taking my granddad out for the afternoon and was enjoying chilling out, watching a film. A few minutes later, I received a text from my mom saying, I have a young lady here who would like to speak with you. I read the text but chose to ignore and enjoy my evening. My mom often makes a habit of getting her friends or her friends

children on video call when I answer thinking I'm just speaking to her or my dad. The following morning, I sent a message back saying, sorry, Ma, I was watching a sad film when you called and wasn't in the mood. Later that afternoon, I got a text to my mum asking if I'm free. I gave her a FaceTime call, but I was wrapped in a towel. And then she ended up putting me on the phone to the children she was sitting next to at lunch who I'd never met before. Am I wrong for wanting the connection on my phone to be with my mum and not whoever she's

spending time with? Talk about me with your friends, but please don't FaceTime me when you're in their company. does anyone else's mom do stuff like this? I love her dearly, but she has no boundaries when it comes to the access she gives of me to people I essentially do not know. I don't mind when I'm down staying with my parents

as she suggests going to meet her friends for a coffee or a fun day out with young children, but I don't want more than a physically present connection with her friends. And I can see this. I can see how this happens. You've got to tell her. Yeah.

I would be like, mom, stop it. Yeah, I don't want to. Antisocial. Yeah. I'm only social when I know that I'm having to be social you can't catch me off guard yeah I can see this I can see how this happens yeah quite often yeah sometimes yeah yeah it's difficult I think it's really hard to explain to a different generation that we spend so much time on our phones and we don't want to be

on our phones all the time and we get like socially burned out and like I don't know if you've got like a lonely or older person I feel like they think it's really fun I don't Yeah, because her mum would probably be really happy if the daughter called her and had, like, people wanting to speak to her. She probably enjoyed that. Yeah. My mum wouldn't actually. Would she not? If you face on your mum now and I was like, hello.

No, she's as I'm social as me. That's where I get it from. My mum gets really nice and awkward if I try to do that. Hello. Not awkward in herself, but the technology, it's like you have to shout at someone that's like further away just in case they probably can't hear you. There's a delay, even though there is one, yeah. Yeah, no. You've got to ask her.

But I think Alex's mom does this sometimes. I don't know. I think it's really interesting. Did I tell you this? I met a girl. I know a girl. I know a girl. He just had a baby. Yeah.

And she has decided not to share her baby on social media at all. Okay. Sent her photo of her baby to the family WhatsApp group. Oh. And her auntie put the photo on Facebook. Oh, yeah. No, that's bad. And she was like, can you take it down please?

Because we're not putting the baby's face on social media. And the auntie said, no. And the auntie said no. And they've all had this like massive rap about it. I'm not surprised. Isn't that insane? That's absolutely insane. I feel like there's this really weird kind of like entitlement to the internet that quite a lot of people have.

Maybe old people have. That's just that's speaking. Like that's not not all people obviously. But like, isn't that mad? Did she give a reasoning for like, no, I'm not going to take it down? It's my family. I can do what I want. It's.

I know. I am gobsmock. Isn't that so bad? That's so bad. It's not so bad. It's none of your business, and it's not your right to plus to someone. Like, you have no right. I, like, when I went to Downing Street, we talked about this, like, part of the online safety bill thing. And so one of the people at the roundtable said, like, we treat social media like it's a human right. And it just isn't. Like, it's a product. We're not entitled to it. Like, we're lucky to have it and to use it. But we're not, like, entitled to it. And it's actually kind of wild, like, sometimes. times when I hear stuff or like see stuff I'm like yeah we do behave like we are entitled to I mean it brings up for me like why does that ante want to put it on Facebook if the mother and

father of the child is not happy that it's on Facebook then who's she doing it for? I know what's she doing it for but it's all like I don't know I find all like I don't know I find it all like it's a bit wild I just find it all a bit wild I'm not surprised they've all fallen out Jesus yeah isn't that bonkers yeah absolutely mad but And then, yeah, I kind of, I feel like that's kind of similar energy to the, no, that's bad energy, but that, that kind of like overstepping boundaries, like I feel like we've learned social media boundaries and we're still not brilliant at them. But like, you know, we grew up on social media, so we're kind of like getting the hang of boundaries. Yeah. I feel like old

people who came to it a bit later, maybe haven't quite got the same. Oh my God. Yeah, true, true. Yeah, they just don't get it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I don't think they get the like, if you're naive to like the dangers of it or like why you wouldn't want your kid on it or you know like because I can because I obviously we don't show um my baby on the internet and I it's so tiring all the time being like please don't please don't please do back of it please don't yeah whatever and then you know you have conversation to people and they're like well I only got a private Facebook and I've only got a private Instagram and I've only got a private so it doesn't matter and it's like it's out of your control but people don't get it I don't know I think people maybe were naive to like thinking how safe we are. Do people come back with that? Like, oh, at the beginning, yeah. Really? Yeah. I find that mad.

It's just like, again, but why are you doing it then? Yeah. Like, it must be for you then. Yeah. It's strange. It's really strange. Yeah, it's old, isn't it? Yeah.

But there is just, like, I don't know, I think we'll grow out of it, but like a bit of the Wild West, isn't it? Yeah, we're still working it out. Yeah. We're still like hushing it all out. Jesus. I'm still shocked at that auntie said no and blocked her.

Isn't that mad? Yeah. Yeah, that's the one I know in my real life. Can't we need to like talk to her on the podcast? Are you all right? Family therapy style. Yeah, not good. But yeah, the girl who wrote in, just talk to your mom.

Yeah, just tell her. Just tell her, like, don't do, please don't do that to me. Yeah. If my mom started putting me on the phone to her mates, I would be like, stop it. Absolutely not. More for me, I always FaceTime her mom and she's always with people. but I kind of like that. And I know what I'm getting into

and I ring her. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah. My mom did do this the other day that she sent me a photo of herself from the airport and she was like, look who I bumped into it at the airport.

And she sent me a photo of two people. I was like, who were they? I don't know. I knew I couldn't reply and be like, who were they? Because I know what she'd do. She'd pick up her phone and go, a worm's replied.

She says, who were they? So I just had to go, say hey. And then two days later I had to ring her and be like, who was that? Well, that was fun That was really fun We'll see you next week

See you on Monday guys Love you loads And remember check who you are forwarding to Just don't talk shit about anyone on the internet Because it will come back to buy you It will come back to buy you Do it in person Yeah

Do it old school Slag your friends off But also be careful Behind their backs With your mouth In the safety of your own home Make sure they're not standing next to you Just be careful

Be nice. Be kind. Just be nice. Just be nice. Shrap that. Yeah. Scrap all of that. Just be nice. Done. Sorted. See you next week. See it. Bye. Bye. Sort it. What? Thank you so much for listening. Should I delete that is part of the ACAST

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