Should I Delete That? - Is It Just Me: Hen dos and feet (sorry)

Episode Date: June 29, 2022

In this week’s Is It Just Me?, the girls explore when and why hen dos can be hen don’ts, why feet and restaurants should be a dish left unserved and, er, biting your dentist. Enjoy!Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [e-mail] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hi. me um i'm just going to launch a straight in i'll oh go on then is it just me actually no dinner i'm sorry where's the four i know sorry sorry i'm sorry leave you up hang on i love the podcast and it always has me laughing out loud in public is it just me thank you you're welcome is it just me or does everyone bite their dentist sorry what context i went to the dentist and she was putting a fluoride paste on my teeth but she spread directly with her finger she didn't tell me if she wanted my teeth open or closed. So I closed them and she needed to get to my front gnashes. I forgot her fingers already in my mouth and I bit her quite hard. She was lovely about it, but did make me

wonder, has this happened more than we think? Love you guys. I shall remain embarrassed and anonymous if this gets run out loud. Does anyone bite their dentist? 100%. I don't think. Oh my God. Okay, maybe it's because I have to go to the dentist all the fucking time because they smash my stupid little face in. Um, but actually as we're recording this, I've been moaning about toothache. Um, I've bitten the dentist so many times. Yeah, because it's confusing like their fingers right yeah not like their nose obviously what does that laugh what fuck else would you be biting um yeah i've bitten my my poor the orthodontist Lars I've bitten his finger more than I care to mention yeah because because and it doesn't help for me like this is a fun fact

about him I have yeah I hate people that talk about the sales and third person didn't know I did that fun facts about me um all my nerves are so fucked up in my mouth that I I can't, if you put your finger in my mouth, I can't feel it. Really? So when I feel my own teeth, I can feel it because of my finger. Or like if I run my tongue along it, I can feel it because of my tongue. But so it's like my, I already have senses in the game, if you know what I mean. But if you put your finger in my mouth, I can't feel it at all.

I can feel my tongue, but I can't feel any of my teeth, which is why I've probably always got like fucking food in my teeth and everything. So if you like wiggle? No, no. Well, I can feel it. It's weird. You can feel it because of your fingers. Like I've got.

nerve endings in my fingers, but all the nerves in my mouth are asleep. Like, if you touch my gums, do you want to touch my gum? No, thank you. Oh, come, touch my gum. No, thank you. Absolutely not. Honestly, so frigid. I went to the loom, didn't wash my hands. Do you still want me to say? It's fucking rank. Get a grip. It was a joke. I obviously did. I'm like, I promise you, I did. I just didn't want to touch her gums. I just don't know why you being so unreasonable. But yeah, I can't feel any of it. So, yeah, so it's occupational or has that if you're going to put your fingers in my mouth, I'm probably going to bite them. Okay, so you have bitten your dentist. Yeah, I've bitten the orthodontist. I think I've bitten the surgeon. I've probably bitten

the dentist too, Neil. I have a lot of people in my mouth, what can I say? Clearly. Yeah, also like my jaw spasms occasionally, less so now with all the Botox, but, you know, yeah, yeah, this thing's happen. If you're going to work in that field, like, expect to get bit, you know what I mean? Yeah. Like, I feel like podiatrists that, like, don't like stinky feet or, like, they're surprised by a stinky foot. It's like, you got into this game. You've got a Wait, this is brought up two things. Hang on. Let me just organise my thoughts. So, um, I was blown away recently. I was watching a program. Can't remember what the program was, but it was people training to be a dentist, and they were all in this, like, lab, and they all had, like, fake humans to be

training on. And I was like, oh my God, because that is so clever, because I always just thought dentists had to train on people. I was like, I would never let a training dentist anywhere near my mouth, but they have, like, mannequins, mannequin things to train on. Yeah, and then they get people who aren't as like pussy as you to get trained like the next step up is people who are like happy to have trainee dentists perform their dental work oh um second thing yeah that's that your words brought up um and it's really not interesting i don't know why i'm telling you but we went to a little town this weekend and walked past the bar that was like this like it was like diet it said on it in front of it like dive bar cocktail

like burgers whatever and then but underneath it said shropody so I think it was like it used to be a shropodist right but stuff like foot they've a lot of names they do yeah actually that's actually a very good point but I was like and they'd obviously left it there to be like this is cool like this is old like we're leaving the old shop there but I was like you can't put restaurant to me you can't put restaurant and feet together because I don't want to go in there because all I'm thinking is feet. I swear I've told you this before. But there are certain things.

There are certain things as surgeons that I respect and admire all surgeons because, like, God knows I couldn't do it. I've played operation. I'm obviously, but sometimes, like the guy that did my surgery, I sometimes think I'm like, what got you here?

Like, what led to you wanting to smash people's faces in for a job? Like, weird. My sister had an accident when she was a child. If I told you this before? She had an accident. when she was younger, I'm sure I've told you that before, but anyway, with a caveat,

she had an accident when she was a kid, and she, like, lost half her foot at the time on, like, whatever, and she had loads of surgeries on it, and it was okay, but then she's got basically, like, because she was six, like, it kind of stunted the growth of her foot, and then her other foot's, like, normal, like, she's, like, 23, so, like, her other foot's like an adult's foot, and then this foot's kind of, like, mostly an adult's foot, but her big toe is a child's toe. It's really weird, right? She's got, like, some funky shit going on. Anyway, but because her foot's grown, the scars grown, whatever. So they sometimes have to go back in and just like do another surgery just to like, you know, whatever.

Don't even know what they do. But she said the last guy, she had to go and see the club guy. And she said he was like, obviously he's a great surgeon, he's fine, he's nice. But it's like as he's doing the prep for her. Yeah. She was like sitting talking to him. And he was just holding her other foot as he was giving her the consultation. and so fucking weird

like at least hold the bad one but just sitting holding the good one it's like how did you get into this job I don't know it's so uncomfortable she was like yeah it's kind of strange you can't snatch your foot back so it just belongs to that guy

it is a strange job to have isn't it a surgeon? Yeah there are surgeons obviously again I stress the most admirable job ever I could never do it I think you're all amazing yeah we need them but it's an odd

Like I get like some of them but then they're just like orthopedic surgeons the ones that deliberately break bones I'm like you guys cool yeah angry yeah or like open heart I just oh my god

not for me no I'd say like open heart would make you feel really good I'd say they were all good at sports at school do you think yeah I think they've probably got a bit of like competitive shit because heart's like the sort of creme de la creme

isn't it yeah it's sort of like peak it's I imagine brain actually not many of them are highly sensitive people I'd say okay would you rather operate on my

body or have me operate on yours uh do you want to operate on your body 100% just fucking kill me okay this is an odd one this actually this is a really nice start for this hi girls hope you're well obviously love the podcast i've been catching up since april and have loved every episode i'm currently listening to the is it just me diet culture and selective hearings so happy there are two a week now i want to just say thank you for episode 21 as it pushed me to go and see the gp this morning as I've been having some symptoms that were mentioned and I have been ignoring and putting them down to something else. I'm sure it will be fine and it will be nothing sinister.

But thank you for sharing such an important life-saving info on the best podcast. That was very cool. That's not the is it just me. That was just the preface of the email. And that's about the gynaecological episode. Yeah, ovarian cancer. Amazing. So I hope you're okay.

I'm sure you will be. Oh, well done. And well done for going to the doctor because that's like that's the hardest thing I always think. Making the appointment. But well done. She follows up saying, I also have, and is it just me? It's just, and I feel like I know your answer to this immediately. Is it just me that loves the smell of their partner?

Particularly their arm, pits and sweat. My partner hates it when I smell him, but I cannot help it. I actively sniff him on a regular basis. This is embarrassing, and I once brought it up in front of my family and got ridiculed, but I'd love to know if anyone else does this. Why do you think you're going to know my answer, by the way? I just feel like you're not going to like the smell of Dave. no I really do

I really do even like I know this is so gross but like even like sweat smell I really like it do you not unless it's like to be fair it never gets back he never smells but like yeah I smells nice a bit of a smell

yeah like he has a smell yeah and the smells but that's like a that's like a chemical thing you're supposed to like the smell of your partner yeah that's like a thing it's like a pheromone yeah so that's probably But I think the pheromones, I think pheromones are from sweat. I think that's where the pheromones live. Yeah.

Yeah. But the smell of B.O makes me want to die. Yeah. But Alex isn't a smelly person. I need to set the record straight because he'll really get shitty with me if he thinks that I'm fake musing. Yeah. Dave, Dave never smells. I'm like, how do you never smell?

I think boys are actually very clean. Not all boys, not all men. But I think a lot. Like, some of the cleanest people I know are men. But then, like, sometimes. sometimes he gets like it is actually this particular pair of trainers that made his feet smell and that knocks me sick to my stomach I can't bear anything like that

what's stinky feet yeah I can't bear that yeah Al's got all birds you know the shoes and the whole their whole advertising is that you don't wear socks with them no and he's like this is a stupidest thing ever because they just smell so you have to put them in the washing machine like once a week it's terrible for the environment and also for my nerves because I always think that a shoe in a washing machine is going to cause a house fire it's rational when it's happening that's a rational that's a rational fear out massively irrational

i don't know caroline hyrons is this tumble dry caught fire what did it yeah in her house and that i saw it on it Instagram and i was like fuck me that it's a dangerous appliance shit i didn't know that yeah you should never leave the tumble dryer on when you go out the house this is a life saving this is what this is what the email to so this is a life saving podcast you should never leave actually wouldn't be in the house it's not your problem but yeah you shouldn't do your tumble dry when you go to sleep or when you're out the house. Well, luckily, I can't work out the settings on our washing machine. And apparently it does do drying as well, but it's overwhelming.

I look at it. I know one setting, and that's just like... 30 degrees, normal wash, like mixed colours, and that's all I can do. And anything else just makes me cry. Do you put white in with colours? No, no, I separate them. You know, there are animals out there that do that. What do you mean?

People do that. People put white in. Not literal animals or like koala pears. I was like I'm not following you here. No, there are like brave, brave people but just put all their washing in together. I think Dave did that when I met him. Yeah, disgusting.

And also, but I also want to be one of these people that, and I'm going to get there at some point, but I want to be one of these people that put their whites in with a particular washing liquid that has bleach in it. your white sweater. I've got that. Oh my God.

And that sounds good. Yeah. Makes your white sweater. Yeah. If we don't get the sponsored by Ariel, I'm going to be absolutely heartbroken. Das. No, does? Does.

What is it? Is it does? Ariel aren't coming now. Sorry. I fucked that one up. Shout on it, yeah. Bold, two in one. Purcell.

Oh, where are these coming from? I don't know. I actually like washing powder. I like Lenore. There's so many out there. Oh. Yeah. I like e-cover.

That's my favorite. Oh, Alex has one of the balls. the balls like a washing board it's like an eco-friendly ball and it does like 30 washes yeah it's good yeah but it's not great right it's good for like not that dirty clothes like I wouldn't put on my running clothes in there okay but if you just like wore your t-shirt oh see I want something that's gonna like clean yeah like blast it yeah yeah I do honestly people that put their colors in with their whites and I know that people people are listening that do gross shame on you yeah but yeah I like the smell of Alex like to smell yeah but like

I wouldn't like seek out as like morning breath or oh no no no no no no that's disgusting any kind of breath or breath makes me sick even nice breath really yeah I just don't yeah no no I just don't like breath I don't notice breath is that weird I only notice my own after I've worn my mask I can't remember the last time I was like oh their breast bread but I can't remember I know I ate garlic today which is no beef like for me I'm okay with that because I like the taste of it in my own mouth. But then I was like, I took a... I never take smints from you, but I took a smint today because I was like...

I have smints all the time because I just panic about, especially garlic. I've got such beef from Devrawe's Prada when Stanley Tucci walks into the room and he's like, can we eat an onion beetle? And every time I, you know, I'm like, oh my God. Yeah, because when I, and I feel like we've talked about this before, but you know, the all plants meals, which I really like for my lunch, but they're full of garlic. full of garlic and Dave's always like oh my god you can't come near me it's just way too much garlic so that's me today okay here's on hi am alex daisy and amy goes without saying lull but love the

podcast listen to it wherever possible on my commute on my dog walks or on a run just love it thank you anyway i have as it just me it's quite lighthearted but valid nonetheless i believe do some people just enjoy making hendos difficult hear me out i have been lucky enough to be bridesmaid three times in the last couple of years which is lovely and i'm also getting married myself next year yay but i've been involved in a lot of hendu organization plans and i'm currently organizing one as um as made of honor and my god do people make it difficult i realize this is a very first world problem i'm very privileged and i do appreciate that everyone has different financial situations but i do feel that if you've agreed to go on a hendu especially one that includes a night or two

overnight stay you have to anticipate it costing you some money and as cutthroat as it is If you're not in a position to pay, unfortunately, you can't come. Everything is currently on my credit card, and I'm chasing money weekly like a bloody loan shark and having various complaints about cost, choice of activities, the plan in general, yet nobody has any better ideas nor has anyone found a cheaper alternative. I am also in a couple of other Hindu groups that I'm thankfully not organising and find the same ridiculous questions being bounded about in these WhatsApp groups. I think there are groups of women who love to make Hindu organise as life and misery,

or am I being dramatic? I get this. 100%, 100%. Because it's the, it's the people that like shit on your thing without a better thing. Yeah. It's like, oh, we're going to go and do this thing. And they're like, well, are you sure you want to do this thing?

And you're like, okay, have you got a better idea? And they're like, no. It's like, great, fine. Thanks. Thanks for taking that like massive poo. Oh, my great idea. It's such a massive responsibility to organise somebody's hand. You've done one of your sisters, haven't you? I've done quite a few, actually.

Actually, yeah. I've done sisters. I did my friends. I did, yeah, done load, actually. Were you loan sharking? Yes. No, sometimes. But I do, I do think people just like to be difficult sometimes. Yeah. Yeah. But the money thing, I'm like, but like you do have to spend money. This is a thing. You have to spend money. And the organizers are always, at least in my experience, the organizers are always working as hard as possible to make it as, as affordable as possible. But at the end of the day, you do have to spend some money. And if you're not able to do that, then, you know. And you've got to take that up with the bride. If you're not in a position to afford to do it,

this can't be between you and the maid of honor because chances are you might not even know them. So it's a really awkward position that you guys are in together where, you know, this person has got to say to something they don't know, like, oh, you know, whatever. And I think that's where the bride, you have to say it. If you can't afford it, it's got to be between you and your friend. Definitely.

And they'll probably understand, definitely understand, if they're not a dig. Yeah. But it's like the biggest expense ever is having friends. It is. It is so expensive. And that's the thing. Hendos are so expensive. So I do get it.

But I just feel like, yeah, like whenever anyone's organizing a Hendu, I'm always just like, thank you so much. And I'm sorry because I can't imagine what a huge pain this is. but I do feel like just monitor like just assess what you can and can't do and don't make their life a misery just be like actually I can't stay over I don't know like because I just can't afford the accommodation or I can't do this activity I'm really sorry but just like yeah because I know I've just been difficult like it's one of my best friends hendos in a couple of weeks and I know I've made the made of honours life difficult because I got married so they were all very nice and she kind

of left me alone yeah and I was getting married so then when I got back to them I said it's been like Kai, can you try to spend me the money? I'm like, oh my God, I'm so sorry. Yeah. Because there's a way, but I should have done it and I didn't do it. And I felt so bad. And then she's like, no, it's fine. She's like the nicest person ever, as the hendie organiser always is.

So I felt really bad. So I've definitely just been that person. But it's like, and it's too many chefs ruin the broth or whatever. Yeah. And sometimes I just think, just let the big honcho do what they're going to do. Yeah. And you just give them the money when you're asked to and you just shut the fuck up and you enjoy the activities. Yeah.

Because there's nothing worse than when you go. And it's so much pressure. And it's a pressure on the maid of honor and the bride's friendship to see like what's been made. Like poor Elliot, my hendoo, like the pressure on her shoulders to like, you know, I wasn't putting the pressure on, but she felt like I have to give my best friend

the best hendoo ever. So then if anybody ruins it or doesn't, not ruins it, but if, and this doesn't happen at mine, but I've seen it happen. It's like one person's like not vibing or is being deliberately difficult. It's like it hurts. or stresses that dynamic in a weird way.

Do you know what I mean? Because then the maid of honour feels responsible and the bride feels apologetic and it's all because of the behaviour of somebody else. Yeah. And it's like, why are you being so difficult? I don't even like you that much. Yeah, no, it's so true.

But also, and this is a bit of a stretch but hang on, I just want to ask, because someone, I think it was in an ask the audience thing that I did on Instagram and someone asked like, should bridesmaids have to pay for their own dresses, right? And in my head, I feel, feel like yeah sorry I feel like no the bride if you're if the bride's asking bridesmaids to

wear a specific dress they have to pay agree for the dresses but that didn't get a good response from people people like are you kidding like is it but like people can't afford this but I I think for me in that case I think you have to say then then if I can't afford to dress you all the same then you wear whatever you want then you can wear whatever you want yeah you agree 100% because with a wedding you're already asking people probably to go to your hand do if they're going to be a bridesmaid they'll be at your hendoo so they've got that cost even if it's just a night out that's still a cost and then you've got okay so they're going to come to one of your wedding dress fittings that's a day out probably a Saturday so that's they're giving up a

Saturday for you maybe they've got two or three fittings then you need to go and try the bridesmaid dresses on like you give up so much time to be a bridesmaid then they come to your wedding they probably stay with you the night before so they're taking off the Friday off work then they're doing the Saturday they're staying the hotel both nights probably and paying god knows like petrol whatever else yeah all sorts and they're being a great friend to you you can't then be like okay so you're my best friend and as a reward you have to spend all this money and go buy your own dress i wouldn't have done that no way i think it's really wrong all my girls offered did they they did yeah but i was like no this is this is my idea yeah i can't make you pay for

my idea yeah not in a because like with mine i said wear whatever shoes you want yeah because i was like i also don't want to force you to wear like i was mean i put more but you're you could see your shoes you couldn't because mine were full floor length so you couldn't see them so i was like just wear whatever's ever's comfortable but but yeah if you but then if you want them to wear a certain type of shoes again then you have to you have to buy them a shoes yeah yeah that's just that's just what i i felt so guilty for my bridesmaids because they just had so much to do like for me and i was like oh god i'm a fucking nightmare like i just need you all the time i don't normally need people this much and like they just have to do so on the wedding day i was like i bought them more bracelets

and like their dresses i was like keep the dresses and we got dresses deliberately that they could wear again because like yeah yeah and and people were saying as well about hair and makeup like they don't think that the bride just have to pay for hair and makeup and I think that is let that is like maybe a bit more of a gray area but I do think also you're making these people stand up with you in a room in front of everyone yeah I feel like it's kind to pay for them to have hair and makeup if you no I'm not so agreed on that one but I think if you're telling them that they have to have hair and makeup then yes you have to pay for it If you're saying, if you want to get it done, then go for it, but I can't, you know, whatever, then that's fair enough.

Yeah. Yeah. If you're telling, that's the thing. If you're telling someone you have to wear the dress and they have to pay for it, you're telling them they have to look a certain way and they have to pay for it. Like, that's, that's, that's the perfect effect. But if it's like, if someone's like, oh, I'd rather do my own makeup, like, absolutely fine. Yeah, totally. I feel like, I feel like it's nice to give them that option of being like, we're kind of putting you, we're putting you on the stage a little bit here.

And if you want to feel, like, I want you to feel your best. So I'm definitely going to pay for her makeup. Yeah. I don't know. I think like wedding budgets get tight so I can see how that one doesn't happen. Yeah, and it is expensive. Yeah, I can see why that one doesn't happen.

But the dresses, I just think if you don't want to pay for it, then don't have them as your bridesmaids or have them wear their own dresses. Yeah. Because it feels a bit unfair. Definitely. You know what I was telling you earlier about me not being able to feel my gums. Yeah.

Pretty sure a piece of hail just came from somewhere. Oh, gorgeous. Gorgeous, there we go. Lovely. Pretty gross. Yeah, the hen do thing. I just feel like you just have to suck it. out. Like, my worst nightmare is being on bad form at one of my best friends, Hendos.

Oh, my God. It's genuinely, like, I lose sleep about it. I got really emotional on the first day on my honeymoon. I was like, what if I can't be as amazing for my friends is what they've been for me. Like, honestly, I have to be like the best. I have got to be like, a great form. Yeah. And like keep the vibe. Because I'd hate to be the one that like drags the vibe down. It's such a shame that you didn't come to my Hendoo, isn't it? I know. It's such a shame I wasn't invited. We didn't know each other as well back then. We didn't know each other very well at all.

We weren't like fully. And even I remember when I said like, I want you to come to the wedding. Do you remember we went to that restaurant in London? And I was just like, I just really wanted to come to the wedding. You're going to need to be more specific about which restaurant in London. It was Riding House Cafe. Where?

Riding House Cafe. The Riding House Cafe. Like up by Mortimer Street. Up on Great Titchfield Street. On the hot day of the hottest day ever. Yeah. It was really hot, and then afterwards we went and got piercings. Yeah, and you made me sit inside.

On the hottest day, it was fucking, probably, gorgeous, best day, and I wore my pretty little outfit. I was so excited to go to sit this on, I didn't know you that well, and you were like, okay, we have a table inside, please? And I was like, why am I fucking having lunch with this, psycho? And then we got much of your piercings and that was solidified. Yeah, a jacket. A full tuxedo, yeah.

Toxedo. And a scarf. And long boots. Yeah. Yeah, I just, I think, if you. you're going to a Hindu, you show up, you pay up, and you're just, you're on great fucking form. Yeah, you've got to be. And if you're not on great form, you've to have an excuse and you've to tell that to the bride and to the maid of honour. Because they've tried really

hard, like it's huge pressure on the maid of honour. I feel, isn't it? Yeah, so much, because it's like, it's the best weekend of your best friend's life. Yeah. And you've got to organise their friend. Imagine Ellie having to organise all of you lot. You know how many times I had to apologise. I know, I know. Like, honestly, I bet it was just horrendous for it. And she's so nice. She'd never have told me. She's like, no, no, fine. Do you know what, I feel like it went really well though. No, I mean at the weekend, I just mean in the run-up. No, I know, but I feel like it was quite like smooth and everyone paid and yeah.

Nice, yeah. Because I'm quite good like that with admin stuff. I pay straight away and I do my admin straight away. I'm trying to get better at that because as you know, I'm not very good at that. But with a hand-do, it's a different situation. You just got to go. Yeah. Did you see, sorry, we're jumping around, but did you see I put the post up about a girl who was,

um, her cousin, who she said was like a sibling to her. was getting married and this girl was supposed to be her maid of honor and she said you can't be unless you lose weight. Did you see that? It's like this tweet that went viral. Yeah. And it was real, it was true and she was just, yeah. So the bride, the cousin, the bride said to her cousin,

you can't be my maid of honor unless you lose weight. Yeah. What a fucking went. Yeah. Imagine. So this girl said, well, I'm not going to the wedding anymore. I was like, good on you. Weddings can bring out the worst in people.

Honestly, they really can. Really can. Yeah. That's horrendous. Isn't it? but I've heard honestly I've heard this before like I've heard some stories about this before about people like in circles like close to me and people being mad that like their bridesmaids dared to like get pregnant and stuff before the wedding and I just think like they're dead

I know how dare they you the cheek of you but like the audacity of the bride to be to think that the world revolves around you when someone's not going to get pregnant because you're having a wedding like that's crazy like people can't put their lives on hold no but that happens a lot and people get upset, like genuinely annoyed at people for getting pregnant when they know that their wedding's coming up and they're a bridesmaid, which I think is crazy. Wow. Yeah. One of my friends is a bridesmaid at like eight months pregnant and it was the most like baller thing I've ever seen. She's absolutely stunning. Yeah. She's had a six inch heels on. Love it. I know. I was literally like this is the most iconic thing I've ever seen in my whole life.

Love it. Yeah. That's also cool then you've got like your friend's kid at your wedding. I know. It's really nice. I don't know why that would be a problem. Okay, they can't drink but like whatever. that's not like you know that's them that's something that they've decided to do and like cool you know that's really yeah brides brides get weird that happens a lot yeah that happens that does happen a lot i don't know what it is like sometimes like you know you i don't know what it is about hindus too because it does bring out like a like a badness yeah it does i'm going on one this weekend are you yeah interesting but i'm looking forward to it because the girls seem super chilled and relaxed and i don't know anyone there i only know the bride so it's going to be interesting

I've got one in a couple of weeks where I only know really like properly well yeah like I've met the others like at the pub and stuff but not for years and years and I only know the bride and his sisters I'm a bit terrible I'm not very I surprisingly I don't thrive in those situations I find it quite hard to be on no I find it quite hard like even last night like when we were out last night

but I find it quite hard to be like on with people that I don't know all the time I think because when I'm on I'm really really on so I'm literally like I'm like one of those like blowy men and like, woo, and then you just, like, give me a second. I'm like, woof, and I just, like, deflate. And then I have to, like, pump myself back up again. Yeah, that's funny, isn't it? Yeah, because you are so social.

Like, I feel like you'd be good in those situations. I am good, but it physically tires me. Yeah, yeah, it's exhausting. It's not natural to me. Like, I do okay. Yeah. Like, I'll probably come away with a new friend or two at lunch day or something. I walk in the park.

Yeah. But, yeah, it hurts my soul. Do you know what? I used to be so scared of, like, going and like not knowing people there and being like oh and like having to be social but i think my job because i used to have to go to events where i didn't know anyone and i would just be alone at an event and i think that's like fast track yeah it's trained me to be now like i just don't care because i also know that it's okay to be by yourself like we think like fuck what if there's

like no one there and i literally have to be by myself i remember going to a ball not even kidding you i had to go for the magazine i went to a ball and i didn't know a soul there and I was for the drinks beforehand I was literally there completely by myself completely by myself and actually when you do it you're just like well it's actually okay there's just there's nothing I can do like I don't know anyone here and

no one's talking to me and I'm not just going to go into like a circle and be like hey what's going on and it is actually just fine do you know what I mean yeah I'm so much better at those things now like yesterday I went to that event without you I got in early yeah without you and I did great friends

everyone was very nice to me yeah because you always do But yeah, but in the olden days, like before I'd had to do this for a long time, like I would go, I remember going to, before I went to events for my work, Alex, like Alex works in PR and he used to do events all the time. And he would invite me to go to them or whatever. So I went to this one and I remember going in. And it was, he invited me in a work capacity and it was like when I was kind of like journalisting. And I was like, not a word.

And I was like, okay, I'm here for work. Like I'm here for work. So I need to like, whatever I got in. And I just looked at them and I was like, I sat in the room. by myself and i kept in text malics been like you okay i was like yeah i'm just chatting with people and i completely like lied about what a fun time i don't believe the whole time they must thought there was something really wrong with me like Jesus Christ I'm poor girl um so yeah I've got a lot better at doing that but it is hard like when you just go in somewhere and you don't know anyone you see everyone's going to look at you but actually people don't really

do that and people are really nice generally like super nice and people aren't nice it's because they're not nice exactly you don't want to spend time with them anyway I'd rather sit on my own them with a not nice person. Totally. So, worst case scenario, I'm on my own. And we have phones now, which is great, because you can always, you're never on your own, you're always with a phone.

No, I never want to sit on my phone because I look like I'm having a stroop. Like, if I'm sitting on my own at an event, I'll never look at my phone. Because I always just think that's what shy people do to make it look like they've got something to do. So I'm trying to trick the system. I don't want to do that.

I just want to stand there and just look. Okay. At the environment, like, I'm choosing, like this is an active choice. Love the thought back. Yeah, because, do you know what I mean? I'll tell you why, I've started watching the Kardashians, don't at me. I just, I've needed some, I'm outing you, go on.

I've just needed, I've just needed, I've just needed them. Okay, I've never watched it before. I wanted to understand the hype. I actually have been fascinated with them from a psychological standpoint, and I was like, I actually want to better understand how this came to be. Yeah. Rather than just lagging them off sometimes. So I've started watching in season five to better understand them.

Anyway, Kendall Jenner is always very anxious in her as a teenager. Yeah. She's always on her phone and she always looks really rude and grumpy. But when you talk to her, not that I talk to her, When you talk to her? When you talk to Ken, when you get to know her. Kenby. Tell me Ken.

When the camera talks to her, it's always because she's shy and anxious, but she always just looks really rude and surly. And I was like, I don't want to look like that in an event. Okay, fair enough. I don't want people to look at me and just be like, all right, she thinks she's too cool to be here, does she? Like, scrolling. What's she got to do?

Okay. But now I don't scroll. Watch me get caught scrolling the second of those. But now I just try and make it look like I'm cool and I'm ethereal. I'm just pervaying the situation yeah I've just chosen to take this like beat for my second for myself the second for my oh my god am I okay I've just chosen to take this moment for myself do what I mean I love that okay I like that I probably look even sadder than I would if I just was on my phone but I'm rolling with it but in conclusion yes I think that some people do just think the world revolves around them

and make other people send do as difficult because yeah they're just dicks yeah it's really annoying and I'm sorry you're having to do that and like I love that chasing them like a bloody lone shark it's always the groom's sister or the brother's brother's girlfriend or it's always like it's never a direct friend you know who I think it is I think it's people who feel like they should have authority in the situation and they don't that's who I think it is it's people who like sisters of maybe or like girlfriends of a brother or you know i don't know or other in-laws yeah and they feel like i should have i should have more of a say in this than i do and so i'm going to make i'm going to assert my authority there are people that just like they just think they know more than they do or they think

they know more than everybody else i'm like okay cool but do you know more about like like bollocks bingo or whatever we're playing like you do you need i don't know hendier games penis chores who cares like Okay, great, you're the expert. Well, my Karen. Yeah. I should always get in trouble. You know, I called someone Karen. Yeah.

I called someone Karen. And I got a message from a woman called Amy being like, can't do this. People call Karen. It's so unfair. I was like, it's so insulting to people call Karen. I was like, I mean, you're not called Karen. I do feel sorry for Karen.

You would be gutted if you were called Karen in this day and age. You would be devastated. Devastated. I would change my name. I wouldn't. Sorry to any Karen's listening. I wouldn't change my name. I know so many really nice Karen's.

Do you? Yeah. Karen Hobbs. We love Karen Hobbs. She's coming on the podcast. Right. Well, we can leave now. We can leave now.

Pissed off what with Karen's. I'm really sorry. I do know some lovely Karen's. But also, you know what Karen do? Love to all the Karen. They do. You want to get to the front of the queue in the post office. Call the Karen.

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