Should I Delete That? - Is It Just Me: Is this a personal attack?

Episode Date: January 4, 2024

In this week's IIJM, the girls dissect a list of things that should be left behind in 2023, and they disagree with quite a few...Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [e-mail] by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I was trying to do S-M-A-R. Trying to do S-M-R. What? S-M-A-R. What I'm saying? Say-M-R. Oh, my God. Are you all right?

A-S-M-R. That leads me on very nicely to today's episode. Hi, everyone, by the way. Hello. Sorry. Hello, welcome much. Should I do that? I'm Clarkson. She's Alex White. And I have something to say. Hit me. I think we could leave ASMR behind. So do I. The theme of this episode is trends to leave in 2023 or ones that we will not entertain that much in 2020.

Yeah. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. I have watched so many people take things out of boxes, but pause to... Right. Incredibly satisfying sound. Right. Right. But for you. Do you know what I mean? Not for... Yeah. Everybody else. But because I don't hate it, in and of itself, this is a lovely noise. And sometimes when I'm watching a video and there's an ASMR, like an accident, like a little, I'm like, oh, lovely detail.

When the whole thing's ASMR, I'm like, ooh. See, I like the, I actually, my favorite ASMR ones are pack an order with me. So it's like a small business that are, they're packing an order and they're doing little tissue paper and then putting a little leaflet in and putting, a sticker on and I like those sounds. What I don't like is people talking ASMR. That gives me the hit the willies. Okay. Maybe when people are whispering into the microphone,

I can't bear. I can't bear that. Is it that girl that did? Do you remember that video that went really, really viral recently and it's like, bentley. And then like, and then it was like, do you not see that? No.

Oh my God, everyone took the piss out of it. But then it's like, yeah, Bentley. Anyway, so I saw a video yesterday and it was somebody unboxing an advent calendar. bloody hell and there are some satisfying sounds in it like the candle coming out of a box or like moisturiser coming out of a fancy box

on that oh stunning but if you have to try that hard for it I feel maybe that's where the discomfort comes from me I also don't like the soft jelly sounds you know like when rubbing moisturiser on our hands like suddenly the silence is like deafening but maybe this is just us maybe there's obviously a market for it

because... But apparently it's like a... It's like with ASMR you either feel it or you don't. It either gives you this sensation that like people say it's like a warm like almost prickly sensation but that it gives you some kind of satisfaction or you don't feel it. I just don't think I feel it.

I feel a bit uncomfortable about the idea of like admitting to feeling satisfied because I think like I don't know it's a bit like... It's a bit icky. I don't know. I'm like... I don't know because... But I don't know if that... works for me because there's some sounds I love like this on a cardboard like I like

I like nail sounds nail s ASMR I love that okay so maybe maybe we don't hate us ASMR no maybe not it's just we like it I hate eating ASMR oh my god so I hate that so someone's someone one of my really good friends either day who doesn't listen to this podcast so she's not that good friend um no one of my really good friends was saying she's like I absolutely hate it when people make food on take talk or Instagram they make it and then they take the bite and they go mm yeah and as she said it all the times that I've ever made a rose potato flooded back to me and I was like oh my god I'm what else are you meant to do you have to mm I mean you wouldn't because I don't I think I think

I've talked about this before I really hate that when people try food and go mm and sometimes they do it before I know that they've tasted it it's just like it's just like an instinct I don't It's polite. I saw this fantastic video on, oh God, I sound like my mother. Yeah, Jesus God. I saw a fantastic video on TikTok. I saw a fantastic video and my mum's not posh. She's very scourced, so it's not the same.

But I saw this video on TikTok and it was like this guy doing chefs tasting their own food. And it just got more and more ridiculous. The end, he like tasted his food, then ripped his shoe off and threw it on the other side of the room. That was a fantastic video. you're right. Wasn't it? Absolutely fantastic. Fantastic.

Yeah. Okay, so maybe ASMR can stay. I don't know. I just, no, I think I think I shouts on it unnecessarily. I do remember going down a hole with ASMR and seeing there's this woman who like welcomes people into her home and like she's like, you're coming out of the cold and I'm going to put a warm scarf around you and put you by the fire and things like that. and she was saying that a lot of people find genuine comfort in it,

people who are lonely. And like a big part of her audience with people that were lonely and they felt this comfort from this woman. That's nice, but also. And she just like leave them by the fire for like an hour and it just play on YouTube. Leave her by the fire? Like the camera?

The camera. Oh God, okay. Before we carry on with things. that should be left behind. I gave myself the ick so massively earlier. I loved it. What do you say? What did I do?

Oh, wait, what? What did I do? Is this not what you put in stories? What, my earring? Oh no. No, you're influencing in the mirror. Oh, yeah, that was bad. I thought that's for you meant.

No, that's really bad. Oh, God, I just give myself the ick all the time. This morning I was trying to influence and I was filming like my morning routine, you know, like everybody does. And I put my camera in the fridge. Because I wanted to like film myself like P of E like getting my simpriv out the fridge. I was like, I had my morning routine.

And then as I did it, I had to do it like three times to get the angle right. And I was like, oh, I hate myself. Tragic. There is nothing realistic about this. I love those morning routines that people do. I love them. I like eat them up. But I can't get away from like.

They had to set it up. They had to set it up. I know. And I think way too much about them now whenever I see them. And it's like, oh, big stretch in bed. Like there's this girl I see on TikTok who's like got a newborn. baby and she does like she does like the realistic videos

of like the night but she's got a fucking ring light on so the baby's up at three in the morning I'm like I think I know why the baby's up the baby's like blinded yeah baby's lying they're like I would love nothing more than to be asleep but the studio lights

are cooking me I know who you mean I follow her too videos fucking scare me though well no I mean I rate them because it's been my like reality so it's like well yeah it's it's been kind of comforting yeah you feel us alone i do yeah but then i'm also like i imagine myself at that exact i'm not normally watching them at three in the morning and it's very dark and like i think alex would be like what the fuck are you doing but then maybe this is

just the fact maybe the fact that we have all these opinions about things on the internet and we're like oh we like this bit we don't love this bit but we like it and we kind of take comfort and we don't know and we get little you know maybe we should just not have any opinions about it I know, and those videos, I do find them really interesting. I've seen a few people do it now. Yeah, I just, it's, there's just something about knowing that you've had to set the show. I know, that's the thing. I feel, I don't know, I feel about saying this, but like, a lot of people, when they're crying on TikTok,

you had to set it up. You had to set up the shot. Yeah, I mean, I've cried on camera before and everyone's like, I don't understand how it can happen. And it's like, I actually really do, but obviously, like, because I have. But I think during my pregnancy was the one time that I cried a lot

and I did share it. I did film a lot of it not to share at the time but I'm really grateful that I've got it kind of in a weird way to look back on. Yeah and I've taken

like photos of myself crying when I'm in like a really bad time because I'm like to prove to myself that this isn't going to last I'm going to take a photo. Also I just took standing

when I grew up and I'm getting so I do. There's this one girl that I felt really bad for her because a video went so viral and it had like million stitches because she had lost her pet snake like RIP god love you but she's lost her pet snake like he'd passed well fine I'd rather that than like a snake's gone missing yeah no no he he passed away and she filmed a video like there was a video of herself like grieving and she was like

thrashing around on the floor and like crying very sad but obviously she'd have to set the shot up and people just absolutely ripped into her as you can imagine well I actually on this I think if anybody wants to try and have some respect for influences not that anybody does want that but it's only this morning as I put my camera in the fridge I realize how fucking hard the aesthetic girlies have to work oh my god make that shot no I can't like I try to film myself getting into the shower as part of this you'll see all this content it'll be out by the time this is coming out sadly um I tried to get into the show it was very confronting I was just fully naked like I just

tried to get in the shower, you know, like, as they do. Like, it's the shot from, like, turning the shower, and then it steams up, and then they twist their hair, and they put it on top of the head, and then they take their towel and they get in the shower. I know. How do you do it without flashing your ass, or just, like, making your, like, my bath, at my, I need a new shower door. I can't make my shower look that nice.

I can't, I can't, I could never be an ascetic early, ever. But I, that content, like, you look at it and you think, oh, that's so easy, that's so effortless. It looks simple. Yeah, and you also think, oh, they don't do anything with their days. Wrong. Like, that must take. it took it took me so long to prop up my own camera and it's a shit shot and they make good

shots you will have seen the girl she does what I eat in a day on TikTok I'm sure you've seen if she's gone very viral but she's don't really watch those types of things no so she's but it's it's like a it's not like a calorie one I love them like because I just find her fascinating because she's like the ultimate aesthetic early like everything is down to like the pans that she uses the way she cooks everything, like, she puts her salmon in this, like, I can't even explain, it's just incredible. And all of her veggies are in brown paper bags, and they're all like wonky veg and it's just all quite amazing.

She's absolutely nailing it. I love that for her. And then she just makes like a little ice cream cookie for a dessert. What? She gets a bit of cookie dough out and like pops it in a little baking tray with like this gorgeous brown baking paper. I mean, it's probably just normal baking paper, but it just looks so beautiful. I don't want baking paper.

How many baking paper? Honestly, stunning. And all the counters are just lovely. Clean. She's got a candle, is she? Yeah, and she eats out of, like, wooden bowls and... You know what, that's just a bulletin to wash up? If you leave baked beans sitting in a wooden bowl,

that's so you can put the thing on the fire. It's got to go. Yeah. Yeah, so it's not for me. She does that thing with... It's so humbling when I try and beat that. And the salmon and the mayonnaise and the cucumber, and then she puts a piece of seaweed in, and I just...

I don't know how people live like that. No, I don't. But I'm really... happy that they do but actually yeah it's been quite good for me i think yeah to see how hard it it is because it it makes you less i don't know it makes comparing myself less like prevalent because sometimes you look and you think oh why can't i cook like that or why can't i and when you realize how hard it is yeah you're like ah fuck it you know i mean i'm not going to compare myself to her because she's in a different league see but i always think that about your meals i always think

It looks so good. My food does look quite good, yeah. It's Green Chef, baby. I fucking love it. Yeah. You can't do it badly. Even when it's not Green Chef, I don't know. You're just like, I'll just put like beans in and this in and that in.

Oh yeah, my little, I'm really, I'm in my Earth Bowl era at the minute. Yeah, I love Earth Balls, but I just don't understand how people do them. Well, you just air fry the kale, put an avocado in, cucumber. Like, literally couldn't be easier. Cut up a cucumber, cut up an avocado. Boil some Edomami beans for two minutes, Al. Just boiling water on top of Venomami beans for two minutes. Air fry some kale.

Just a little bit of oil, a little bit of garlic. Okay. That's it. And then sometimes I, sometimes I air-fry, soy, sauce. Maybe a bit of lemon. Sometimes I air-fried some tofu, put some falafels in there. Easy. Fucking stunning.

But have you just got all of that in your fridge? Or do you have to specifically be like, tonight I'm eating this bowl, so I need to get da-da-da-da. I know, that's like my normal, like my scrappy little lunch. That's just my little like, mm. So you have that stuff in the fridge already? Well, I always have my edible barbie beans in the freezer. Okay. Always good to keep head of marby beans in the freezer.

Yeah. And peas. Oh, so good. And then, yeah, I live right next to the co-op, so just I'll pop out, get some cucumber, some kale, and yummy, avos for the win. And then I always keep tofu in the fridge because it's really good for lunches. Yeah, okay, fry that in like five minutes. Yeah, I just don't have, I don't know. I know, I get it.

I don't have a very good mind for this stuff and I hate it. And I try really hard and I keep it up for a couple weeks, but just find it really, really, really hard. Hosses for courses, baby. Looking for a community that has it all, welcome to Crossings, the urban hub of West Lethbridge. At Crossings, you'll find a vibrant village designed for living, working, and connecting. With top-notch schools, a state-of-the-art rec center, retail spaces, and parks, it's more than a neighborhood, it's a lifestyle.

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I love them. I love them. I don't know who made this list. I think it's Emma, who's doing our social media and I think she's saying they've got to, but she doesn't seem like the type of say they've got to go. She seems like the type that would love them. She's well cool. Yeah, so I don't know what this list means anymore. I think they're so cool. I am not cool enough. but I love them. You are not. Thank you.

What would you do if I showed up with bleached eyebrows? See, you've got quite dark eyebrows. Very dark eyebrows. So that would be a shock. I've got such a big forehead as well that would go on forever. Oh my God, will you do it? Is you try it? No.

Who? Oh, Fifi. Fifi looks amazing. Your photographer, yeah. She looks unreal. She looks so good. Looks fantastic. So Butler.

I love them. I think that's so cool. Yeah, other people would be making this list going, but M. Clarkson, it didn't work for her. Sorry, who made this list? All versions of crocs? Yes, this is the list entitled, Trends that Need to Stay in 20203.

I concur, I agree. Absolutely disagree. Claw clips. I've just discovered the claw clip. I want to discover the claw clip. I'm loving the co-clip. Do I have enough care for the claw clip? Yes, I've been watching trends for...

Okay. I think I might have too much for it. Oh, shut up. Sorry. Shut. The fuck out. Anyway, I just found it. I did it last week.

I think I've got too much hair. I'm just starting what to do with it because you don't want it spiking out the top because then you look like a jog, like then you just look like a teacher. Oh, I feel so sorry of me. Nothing wrong with the teacher, actually being a teacher. Why do I not want to?

I think it's because my old art teacher, she used to do it like swish and then it would like flick like way too much out the top. Pineapple, exactly. That's my fear. Tooth gems. I didn't even know they were back. Oh, I did.

I've seen a few. We had one on the podcast. We did. And I'm trying to think. who it was. It was Ruby. She looked fantastic. It was Ruby. Yes, yes, yes. They don't have to stay. They don't have to go. They can come. Yeah, welcome, welcome.

Jeans under dresses. They can go. They can go. They can go. They can go. They can go. They still horrify me. I told you about my dream outfit as a child that I designed in my head and I would love nothing woman to see in real life. No, go on. Have I never told you about this? Oh my God, I used to dream about this every single night. Oh, God, I feel sick. And I pray that it would exist. It was like pale pink chiffon. In my dream. Okay.

No, not shift on, like, kind of, that kind of fabric that's like... Carrey Badshaw or Tutu skirt? No, no, no. It looks like silk, but it feels very cheap to touch. Something? Nope. Polyester? Probably.

Anyway, it was that fabric. Yeah. And it had silver, sparkly stars on it. Oh. And it had thick straps, A-line, mini-skirt. Here's the kicker. It came with matching trousers. Oh, my God.

I've never seen it. I just dreamt about this thing. I dreamt about it every single night. Can you, are you going to sketching? Yeah. Can you sketch that for us? I will do, yeah. For the Instagram.

I would love to. I want to see it. I want to see it come to life. I would love nothing more than a designer to see it and be like, I could make you this. You can sketch it and Emma can put the colour in for us. Perfect, good idea. I honestly, I think about it all the time. I used to dream.

It sounds really disgusting, but I would have to see it. It sounds fucking horrifying. Imagine it on my adult body, I would simply have to walk myself into traffic. however as a child what shoes did you envision this with platforms platforms like you remember those pair those ones that we had as kid big ones with like a big fat strap yes I know they've come back this year yeah yeah yeah I think I own a pair actually black with your pale pink yes I like the clash I was a budding fashion design and I'm just disappointed my parents never saw my potential you are wasted my

God. Sorry, also on this list. Go on. Oversized men's blazers. I think I own about four. So that can, no, they're coming. I'm not getting rid of them. I would love to own an oversized men's blazer, but I've just, it's never worked out for me. Blazers don't look good on me. And I think it's because my boobs are so big.

I don't know why. Have you seen people with really big boobs wearing blazers? Yeah, I think I have. Have you? But I know what I mean like, when we imagine like the full oversized, we don't imagine them on, like on curvy people we imagine than like twig people. Yeah. Yeah, but then like Molly Campsie, she wears like, she looks fantastic.

Yeah. Yeah, I just fucking love her. She's an example of like the aesthetic girl. Oh my God. I want to be her, I want to be her. Speaking of Molly's, Molly May, her photos are so aesthetic. So aesthetic. But like Molly cancer shares more of their real life, of her, of her real life.

in the filming and stuff and it's like I haven't got a space in my house where I can film myself getting dressed where it looks good I've got one bit and my ceiling lights there but I haven't got any space anywhere else in my house

where are these people and I actually think when you move into a house and you are an influencer you need a house that literally has enough spare room in it that you can film yourself getting dressed and stuff

100% because I just do not have the space we recently Dave because I was moaning about this to Dave there's just nowhere for me to do anything especially like we've got no light in our house so he manoeuvred one room around so we've got this like one piece of wall

where I can do something but to fucking get there I have to like it's spent it's we spend like 50 minutes trying to set it all up and move everything around it's mad isn't it? I know see I need to live the influencers yeah I need to live in an influencer specific mansion

okay teeny tiny purses oh I like I think they're cute you would wouldn't you I mean I don't own one but I like the look of them. They make me laugh. Baby call. People have their tiny little purses, little bags, and then they say, like,

oh, this is to carry all the fucks I give about what you just... I like that thing. Okay, sorry, carry on. Tiny thin sunglasses. I am so happy for anybody that can pull them off. It just could never be me. Oh, like little cat-eye ones. Yeah, I've got a face like Mr. Tickle,

or any of the Mr. Men actually. Who's Mr. Tickle? Mr. Bump, Mr. Happy, any of them. Wait, I've got Google. Just big and round, or Miss. Mrs. Jen really had squareheads. so it doesn't work for me I wish my arms that long

Ballet pumps they can stay don't you see that though no hate ballet pumps hate them I know I know I know I know

I know we shouldn't care about flattering but the reason that I always like to have in big shoes is because it makes your legs look whatever I'm not fine sorry shoot me okay I live in a die culture world but when you wear ballet pumps I always feel like I look like

you remember when Shrek turned into a human no well that's what I felt like like or any of them like all those like men like pixel like pixel nights they always have ballet pumps on and I just feel like that and it just doesn't do anything for me they're gross they're gross I don't know if you know but I actually lived in Paris and when I lived there I lived with a friend

and she only she exclusively wore ballet pumps and they fucking stunk yeah I can believe and that is my lasting memory of ballet pumps I would literally be like can you just leave them out side of the flat because they're so disgusting. I wore them for like 15 years. I love them. I wore them in my school uniform.

You might as well be walking barefoot. Literally you're walking barefoot. You're walking on the ground. Yeah, I'm pretty, no wonder I got plantile fasciitis. Jeez. Okay, thick headbands. Fine by me. Not for me, but fine by me.

Vleur. Oh. Fine by me, not for me. No, I've got anything for a little. Tube girl effect. But again, Ruby. Ruby had, came in full velour. She looked great.

In the Jersey. Yeah, look great. Um, Tube Girl. Tube Girl Effect People aren't liking Oh okay Oh did you see the guy Do it on the plane

Yeah I died I bet that wasn't his first take Because that was like So bad Like you can't just get off The next stop at the tube Like he was on that flight Yeah

Good for him Good for him But like fuck not me Mollets I didn't know they'd come back Mullets are bloody everywhere Are they Everywhere

Oh okay Airport Maxes We can't ask people To get rid of those They're so expensive What's an airport max? I don't know But it sounds expensive

Just like a bigger version of them? They're the over-ed-year. They're the big Apple headphones. Oh. I was actually thinking about getting a pair. So. Fuck that. So fuck that.

The clean girl athletic. I mean, as we've talked about, good for them. Could never be honest. I like the clean girl aesthetic. Me too. I mean, again, it's not, it's not me. The skim's nipple bra.

I've kind of avoided all of this because I just can't be arse reading, like, going into it. It's not a joke. It's not a joke, is it? No. But like, so many opinion, pieces have come out about it and I'm like I'm not reading them I refuse to read them why

why have they come out why do you refuse to read because I'm like I can't get into this I can't waste my time reading a think piece about an opinion piece about a bra I don't know for bra okay but I believe you all what in whatever you're saying do we love it with problematic it's so controversial I'm like what's just like whatever let it be I don't go whatever I don't know why it's triggered me but there we came I know I like that you don't even know why it's triggered you

because you didn't give no information on I'm just like fucking move on from the nipple bra fair enough crochet everything fine by me oh that's Gen Z that isn't it crochet yeah no they can do what they want yeah maxi skirts

oh no I love maxi skirts I love maxi skirts all this list is doing is it's like a shopping list it's like all the things that I want I want a tooth drum German and iPod air pod I'm so old.

I want to clean girl aesthetic and airport maxis and maxi skirts and claw clips. I like maxi skirts. And bleached brows, but it could never be me. I like maxi skirts. I've just got one. So I'm going to keep that. Sleep bonds and jell back hair. I think I'm going to have to have a word with Emma.

That's a bit personal. Oh my God, that feels really personal to you. Am I going to have to send her a message? Emma. Oh my God, what a dis. Say it to my face. You don't put it in a word doc and then send it over the Google Drive.

You've got to just said it. I'm loving the sleek back bun on you. Well, just as well, because I'm not going to start washing my hair anymore. I like it like this. This has changed my life. How far does it get you? Guess what day I'm on today?

Hair wash day. Three? Seven. Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's really good. Yeah. Because it does not look greasy. No, it doesn't.

That's the thing. That's the magic of it. That's why I'm not. leaving it. I know. I want to do it. It's so good. But also, like, having, it's a Sophia Ritchie thing. Like, she's made it cool. And I thank God every day that I had a baby in this era. If I had to do, first of all I'll, I pulls my hair all the time. She just pulls it down anymore. She just pulls it all the fingers. Which is just bad. You know, it's just bad for a few reasons. Yeah, you need to be careful those earrings as well around her. Why do you think I'm wearing them today? Yeah. I can't wear them.

Yeah, I know. Tell me about it. That's why they're always in my coat, pocket. pocket. I take them up before I get home. But I have, this hair enables me like an extra half an hour that I just wouldn't have otherwise. And if it wasn't this, it'd be on top of my head. And then I'd be being shot on by the Gen Zs for having the millennial bond that they're always so rude about. What's the millennial bond? The one by the other one I always have. I have two hair options. I have this or the one where it's all on top of my head. Oh, is that the millennial bond? Yeah. And they both get shot on. So what do they want from me? What do you want from me? Jesus, let us live, guys. So you know what? I

I think we should disregard this list and we will take everything that we want into the new year. Into 2024. So I'll see you next year with my bleached brows and my crocs and my claw clips and my jeans under my dresses and my tooth gems and the teeny tiny purses with the overstance men's blades and the teeny tiny sunglasses and the barbie core with the ballet pumps and the thick headbands and the velour and the velour and the tube girl effect, mullets and a mullet and the start with the air pod max and a phone charm and a clean girl I set up with a skinned nibble bra and crochet everything and a maxi skirt and sleek buns and my hair gelved back. Can I just one thing? Not all at once. Please.

Can we stagger it? Thanks. No. Love you guys. Bye. Bye. Thank you so much for listening. Should I delete that is part of the ACAST Created Network.