Should I Delete That? - Is It Just Me: It's not right, but it's okay

Episode Date: February 16, 2023

In this week’s Is It Just Me? the girls discuss co-parenting, understanding your partner's kinks and Em's varied career...Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [e-mail] & edited by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello, everybody. Hi. I've bought props. For some reason, we are sitting here about to record this, and Emma's got a bunch of bananas in front of her. Okay, so I saw a video on TikTok. I told you, I'm watching TikTok now. It's been huge for my growth.

And I saw a video of this guy. I'm going to give you a banana. Okay. I saw a video of this guy and he was like, don't open it. Oh, sorry, sorry. He said, how do you open your banana? And he said, do you open it at the top end,

you know, like the stalk end, like everybody else? Or do you open it like a monkey at the bottom end? Because that's where monkeys open it. Okay. Because then there's no string. Yeah. And this guy was like, I don't do either. And he took half the banana in each hand.

Yeah. And he pulled it apart. And it just came apart clean. What barbarian? I know. And I thought, no way. Surely you can't open a banana like that. And then I thought, there's only one place I want to find out.

And that's with you. Right here. So we have a banana each. And I just want to see that it's possible to open it by pulling it in half. So you just take one that. So like tug a wall with yourself. Just tug a wall with yourself.

And you're just like pulling a cracker by yourself. So you're not bending it. No, you're just pulling. Pulling it. Oh, my God. Wait, wait. I can't do it. It doesn't work.

That's bullshit. Oh yeah, you have to tear it in half. Bullshit. I call bullshit. That's one of those. TikTok hacks. But we're in? We're in?

Well, yes. Well, what's more do you want? That was the objective was to get into the banana. Oh, I thought you're saying, like, if you just pull like that, like all the skin just like comes off and you're just like pops out. Oh, okay. Well, I mean, there are easier ways to do it, but okay. I know, but I wanted to see if this was an option.

And it is. Okay, well, congratulations. Now we've to eat, do you like bananas? I love bananas. Can I show you how I do it? And it'll work for you too because you've got long nails, right? So imagine this banana is full. Do you want another one? I've got more.

No, it feels wrong to waste. You can't do it too bananas. But look... My second banana other day. No, I don't want to do that. Use your nail to get in there and then you can like peel it off. And it's just, it feels more civilised. No, I like to use the stalk.

Okay. As I should. Now, listen, this is proper ASMR. A-s-m-m. I bet that sounds well good. I bet people fucking hate that. Do you think? No, I bet people are like, ugh.

Oh, bananas make a disgusting sign. I know, I know, I know. Oh, my God. That didn't go as well as white. Well, it did, it worked. It did work. It did work. It's just not what, you know, it's not what I was expecting.

I was hoping for fireworks or something. I'd like to talk to you about something that potentially, I won't edit it out, right? But I don't, I didn't really know how I got onto this. It was one of those things, like train of thoughts, things. And I was thinking about psychopaths, and I was thinking, you know, like, how psychopaths is psychopath and I was thinking, God, are they really? Anyway, I don't know where I was going with this, but then I was thinking, well, like, they killed people. Then I was thinking, imagine killing someone. So then I imagined killing someone who I was in the room with. And I just

thought, like, what struck me, obviously, apart from the fact that I wouldn't do it because why I don't want to kill someone and that's horrible and I'm not a psychopath. How embarrassing to suddenly turn on someone and kill them? Like, how embarrassing would that be? What, do you just lose your call that much? Or to just, like, have that person look you in the eyes and know that you're trying to kill them. I think that's more embarrassing. I felt shame. I felt shame.

Failing is really embarrassing. How embarrassing? I felt shame thinking about that. I just wanted to share it. I think that's what would happen to me. If I did try to like physically overpower and kill someone, I think I'd go like, angry eyes, and then they'd be like, step back. Do you mind?

Okay, so imagine now, right, I just turn on you and I try and kill you. It doesn't work. You overpower me. And what, we just have to get our bags and coats on and leave. Okay, how would you try? using what we have. I don't know. We've got a banana.

I haven't got a lot. Yeah, it would be so embarrassing. It would be embarrassing. And I think the initial lunge would be very embarrassing as well. That moment of realisation. Like, ugh. He'd be like, oh, God's so intimate. Like, get away.

And it's kind of embarrassing to, I think, lunging anyway. Like, going towards something with purpose is quite embarrassing. Yes. Like, yeah, that initial change of direction is quite embarrassing. It's like when you're, walking down the street and you're like, oh, I'm going the wrong way. It's like, oh, that's spin. It's that. It's like, putting your entire body weight into something. Yeah, really embarrassing. It's like ramming a door. Like that's really embarrassing.

And I wonder, I think police people have to practice it because it's really cool when it happens in line of duty and they raid the house. Yeah. But I'd say they have to do a lot of practices and how many doors do they throw their weight out of the don't open? I would die, I'd perish. Yeah, that would give me the ick massively. I saw something, well, somebody said, to me on Instagram and said, I just really feel like you need to get to the bottom of this. Today's mundane poll, it was shared by shit you should care about a little while ago. Do you do your pants up and then flush the toilet or flush the toilet and then do your pants up? Um, flush the toilet, then do my pants up.

Agree. Same. Yeah. Yeah. Sometimes I'll even wash my hands before I do my pants up. What? It seems to make more sense, you know, like, as little contamination as possible. So you leave your stall with your trousers still undone? My stool? Your stool? No, no, not like your poo.

Like your stall. Oh, your stall. Oh. Well, no, not if I'm in a public bathroom. I'm not going to go out. My trousers down by my ankles. No. But you would leave your stool.

Yes. You wouldn't leave a stall. but you'd leave a stool. Exactly. Interesting. No, I want that gone. Have you ever watched boo I have a poo? No.

She shits it out like she's just laid a little grenade and then she runs. That's me. I'm like, I want that thing out. No, pooing and then plush and then poof. We were just walking and out of nowhere, she just, she just stopped. Yeah, down, shit and then she's out of it. I also remember it being bright red. That's fucking weird.

Yeah. Nice. You did have an explanation for it, but I can't remember what it was. Maybe they're like Oh, it's bright red, sorry Yeah, I want it gone straight away So I'll flush trousers Then wash my hands

You definitely flush, flush before everything else I just feel so vulnerable My trousers is undone I wouldn't want to wash my hands And my trousers is undone Okay What if someone comes in What if a fire alarm goes

You're at home In like the comfort of your own home I'm not talking about being at home In the studio, yeah In the studio here today Oh yeah I'd probably do it up first. Yeah.

Then go wash my hands. Yeah. Yeah. Just to feel put together. I agree. And looking at yourself in the mirror with your trousers undone, it's like, ooh, it's a bit confronting.

Yeah, yeah. It's... Something really icky about having your trousers undone. Yeah, I find it very... It is, actually. Yeah. There you go. I have an embarrassing story.

Hi, Em and Alex. I've been listening since right at the beginning and look forward to the pod coming out every week so I can LOL on my walks pushing baby girl around in a stroller. I'm so happy for your pregnancy news, M. Crazy, hard, weird times, but strangely beautiful and centering for me. And I hope the same for you.

Oh, thank you. Okay, I have an embarrassing story to share with you guys, and it's about my uncle. He lives in Phoenix, Arizona, which is about a 45-minute flight from Las Vegas, Nevada. I'm translating the abbreviations here. How do you? Thank you. Where he was flying for a business trip. He had a really nice linen...

Okay, hang on, sorry, let me recap. So her uncle, who lives in Phoenix, 45 minutes from L.A., from Las Vegas. where he was flying to for a business trip. He had a really nice white linen suit on. That's his first mistake, for sure. Idiot. For an important meeting very soon after he was to land. Mid-flight, he realised that he really had to poo,

but decided to wait until the plane landed since the suit was so nice and white, and the aeroplane bathroom was so small and questionably clean. About 20 minutes before landing, he realised that waiting was not going to be an option, so he took off his jacket and went to the bathroom. In the bathroom he was careful to roll his pants and sleeves up as well as his shirt and tie

so that nothing touched the walls or the floor and sat down to do his business. Just then, an announcement came over the speaker that the passengers should buckle their seatbelts because there was going to be some turbulence. Surely enough, the turbulence hit and he fell off the toilet and into the bathroom door

which swung open as his mostly naked body flung through it. He landed in a crouched position wedged between the narrow hallway at the back of the plane. Somehow, he managed to do this in a quiet manner because no one turned around to look at him until the flight attendant behind him screamed causing everyone on the plane to turn around to see what had caused the ruckus.

He quickly got himself back, he quickly got himself up and back into the bathroom where he found himself in an uncontrollable laughing fit so much that the flight attendant then had to knock to ask if everything was okay. Eventually he built up the courage to go back to his seat as he couldn't remain in the bathroom until landing and a few people gave him a polite golf clap as he made his way to his seat. The suit was unharmed and he went on to his business meeting. Oh my God.

Okay, firstly, the confidence of this man to travel by aeroplane in a white linen suit. That is like, that's optimism at its fire. I do not own a pair of white jeans. I could not own a pair of white jeans. Absolutely no way. I would, no. I genuinely, aspirational. My favourite thing about this is, first of all, the fact that it didn't go where we all thought it was going to go.

He did not shit himself. But it's that he took so much care to protect his little suit. His little white suit. And he ended up because there's something so undignified about in the same way of something your trousers is undone as we've just talked about but having your trousers rolled up and your shirts he's rolled up like

what did they think he was doing in there and everything like was so bunched up and then he's like gollum all crouched and it's just like silent and it's worse that nobody has to come out definitely worse you'd rather come out with a big like whoa

and everyone's like whoa It's too sinister as shit to turn around and he's just like, bum a hole. Like, rolled up sleeves, rolled up trousers in his arsehole. I just love that the flight attendant screamed. I wonder what angles she had. As he would. As he would. Oh my God, so good.

I enjoyed that story. Thank you so much. Okay. I have a bit of advice. Someone wanting a bit of advice. God help her. I know. both for stomach sink.

So I did a... None more so than hers with the disappointment of what we have to say. Right. But we're love giving advice. I just wish we were better at it. I think there's a course

that we can take. An agony, agony aunts. I'm going to look into it. I'd love to be an agony aunt. Okay, so I did polls on my Instagram and someone said, I debate with my best friend about whether or not it's normal

to feel insecure about a partner watching porn slash fantasizing about others even if it's a trusting relationship. The vast majority of people agreed with the writer and said that they would feel insecure and uncomfortable with it too. And we have discussed this a bit on the podcast before. And then someone replied to this and said, Hi, Alex, I have a similar question.

Maybe it's one for the podcast. I've noticed my ex, my son's dad, is following lots of really sexual women's Insta accounts, including some that are 18-year-old porn accounts with links to their paid content. I know most people, including me, watch porn. but the thought of my ex flicking through his Insta while his son is there

and these photos popping up bothers me I also saw that he was following Andrew Tate a while ago I spoke with him about that and he unfollowed is the following of porn accounts any of my business or am I overstepping the line

as his ex also fully accept that I need to stop checking who he's following on Insta so creepy and unhealthy well you are safeguarding your kid exactly

so it is a bit different like I do get what you mean and you obviously don't like doing it. So I get that if you're not comfortable, you don't want to do it. But I do understand that you're safeguarding. I think you need to work out like, are you really doing it because you really are worried about what your kid's exposed to, or are you doing it? In part because, like, you've got bad vibes about this. Yeah, you want to keep an eye on him. I mean, the thing with Instagram, to my mind, is like, it is not a porn platform. So even though he is

looking at these accounts, I wouldn't class it. I wouldn't class if he's scrolling through Instagram in front of your son. It's not like he's looking at porn in front of your son. Like, I think that's, that does feel different. Like, obviously they've got links to their only fans and stuff. But I suppose that the argument would be like, oh, well, he shouldn't go on the internet in front of my son because he could go. You know what I mean? And like, follow a link. Yeah. Yeah. But if that's all he's following, then it's a bit fucking weird. Like if he's got, if he's got, it's interspersed, like, follows you and, like, it's mates and like the kids he went, the girls he went to school with and whatever. And then, and then he's got these dolloped in between.

It's like a bit weird, but maybe it's okay. But if it's just these people, then a bit weird. It is a bit weird. Yeah, I mean, I can't gauge how old the sun is. Didn't you say he was four? I just made that up. No. Completely made that up.

I don't know where that came from. She has a four-year-old. She's done as four. That is such a tricky one, isn't it? That is so tricky because, like you said, it's not porn. It's Instagram. Instagram doesn't allow porn. Yeah, they don't allow like nipples or explicit content or anything sexual, really.

Yeah. So they say. And it's his personal, like, it's his personal platform, but also, I mean, it wasn't cool that he was following Andrew Tate. I don't understand why he was following it. Even if he's unfollowed him now after talking, I don't really understand why he was following. That's what people do, man.

That's not good. Yeah, well, I mean, famously, like millions. Millions, yeah. So, and, you know, he was receptive to that, but I think before you take this issue to him, you'd have to work out, like we're saying at the beginning, while you care. Like, you have to really work out,

because if you're going to go to him and say, look, I'm just concerned that our son could pick up your phone and click on any of these accounts, or he might see it over your shoulder and whatever, that I think is fair enough but if you're really watching it because you are keeping tabs on him and you kind of want to know what he's up to

I think if you then take that to him he'll probably know that that's the reason and it probably won't be a very healthy conversation it'll probably be more, it'll probably end in shouting and you'll be accused of butting in or whatever and it probably won't be that mature a conversation so that you've got to work out like

and yeah if you're concerned for your son then you have to you know that's your job as a mum And you've every right to do that. That's your prerogative. But hopefully you can trust your ex as well to, you know, keep... Do the right thing. Yeah, by your son, you know. Yeah, exactly.

And if he's spending time and then I'm hoping that he's a good dad. And like, he's not going to, you know, like just because... And like you say, a lot of people watch porn. Like, so it doesn't make him a bad person. No. It definitely doesn't make him a bad father. Yeah. But watching porn.

Although those Instagram accounts, do you kind of give me... Like, I see a lot of them. Like, it's always the people that troll me or some, guy called me a, what did you call me the day? Some ugly feminist slut or something, anyway. And I looked at who was following. I know, looked at who was following it. It was like me. And then like all of these like porn accounts. And I actually, I tell you that gives me the egg because, you know, when you watch like a big popular video, like a lot of Bible video or something. And all the comments are just like, why does everyone go to the bathroom after watching my videos?

Oh my God. Yeah. And I think, who falls for that? And then I think the people that are calling me a big ugly feminist slut or whatever. They're falling for it. Like, oh God, how embarrassing to actually follow these girls. Yeah. Like, that really gives me the icks. That is so icky. Yeah.

Like, if you've actually followed them, it's like, oh, no. I guess the red flag in this is including some that are 18-year-old porn accounts. Like, that, I mean, yeah. Yeah, I didn't even remember that. Yeah, that feels really icky. In the words of Whitney Houston, it's not right, but it's okay. How does I know that you have got? I mean, iconic songs.

Yeah, to be fair. I hope that helped. Let us know what you do. Yeah. This girl says my boyfriend's fantasy is seeing me have sex with another guy. Is this weird or normal? I mean, I don't know.

What's normal? I think if you bold it down, most people are into some funky stuff. Yeah, well, yeah. Like, yeah. You walk around and you kind of think everybody's into the same stuff as you are and then you realize that, like,

there's a huge mark. it out there for feet picks, dirty underwear, use trainers. Yeah. That's what I actually didn't understand. I thought people were into feet, but I didn't realize they were into like smelly feet. Oh yeah, yeah. And like smelly of the better. And like smelly knickers and like people are into, we could make so much money.

We could make so much money. I don't want to brag, but I don't have smelly feet. Like they've never, ever smelled. What's he finally saying? I've got very stupid. That is where I'm going to make my millions. Smart. I don't have to think of feet either.

My feet never smell. It's really weird. Me too. And it's, yeah, it brings me an immense sense of pride that I can take my shoes and, like, my shoes off at the end of the day and just like on the sofa with my socks and no one's going to go. Yeah. I know. Yeah. Strangely proud.

I feel strangely proud of it. I agree. I agree. I'm completely with you. I'm not like, like, I can get smelly. armpits. You can? I don't.

Yeah. Well, no, that's not true. It's possible. But I'm lucky. I'm not one of life's stinkers. Yeah. Which I do. We've gone off topic.

Oh, God. Is it weird or normal? I mean, I don't think you can ask that because I think it's a very broad spectrum. Yeah. Do you think it's weird? Because if you think it's weird, it's not right. Yeah. It's not right.

But it's okay. I don't think I would enjoy. my partner telling me that, but... I would feel very stressed. Yeah. If I had to have sex with another man with Alex watching, I think it would be very stressful for me. I couldn't...

There's, like, no way. There's just... There's too much to it. Like, do you want to enjoy it? Because do they really want you to enjoy it? Probably yes, I imagine. But then I feel like you'd have to... I don't know.

It is very complex. Like, that's a minefield. Yeah, you've got to play it. I think communication. you have to communicate a lot and work out why they want to watch you. Yeah. But also if it's not something that you want it to do,

then don't do it. But if it is something you want to do... Then do it. Well, yeah, but also I think go to your partner with real communication around it and be like, yeah, we're not just going to do this like a bit drunkenly on Friday night. Like, why do you want to do it?

What is it about it that turns you on and go from there? because I think you could probably do it wrong and that would be a bit of a bummer because I think like rushing to it yeah and then you I think that's how feelings get hurt because I'd imagine my logic is and I've got no fucking idea

and this is not to kinkshame at all but I wonder I don't know if it comes from like an emasculation thing where maybe they want they want to watch another man pleasure their wife or their partner or maybe it's a sexuality thing

and they want to explore their sexuality I see him watch a man as well as well as I don't know. But I feel like until you work that bit out, then you don't really know why you're playing. Yeah. And that's when you can break the rules if you don't know the rules. So you need to know the rules. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And be like, what are we saying? What's at the real? Yeah, why do you want this? And plan it properly. There are, do you remember the Com Curious girls talked about apps? Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I can't remember what they're called.

Yeah, Tabby, take heart, uses Freedda or something. And it's like an app where you can find like another person. Yeah. And you can just be like, yeah, and you could, those apps exist. Because quite a lot of people are looking for like a third person to like join them for dinner or like join their relationship or like join their sex. Yeah. I mean, yeah, again.

But don't be pressured into doing it. Not for me. Same. I'm just a bit lazy. I'm not much of a performer. I think that would be where I'd, I think that's where I'd like lose it. By the end of the day, I'm just a bit like. Tired.

Yeah. Tired. That's the overwhelming feeling. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I mean, yeah, if you want to do it, it might be fun. But make sure you actually want to do it. Communication is key, queen. Communication is key.

Okay, someone's asking about the etiquette with tipping. Tipping. Do you tip delivery drivers? Do you give tips to waiters, waitresses? Do you tip your hairdresser? Do you tip your beautician? She wants clarification on tipping. Get it?

I always tip a waiter. Yeah. Like in a restaurant, I would never not. Like, I just could never not. It would just kill me. I worked as a delivery driver, and I don't know what it's like in the UK, but when I was working in Dublin, I was working as delivery driver. I made five euro an hour, which is, like, not legal.

It wasn't anything. It wasn't legal then either. Like, I think minimum wage was like $8.50 or $9. So I don't even know how it worked, but it was topped up by tips. And I drove my own car when I was doing delivery driving. So I'd do $5 an hour. If you did a five hour shift, That's 25 euro

Which by the time you've paid for your car It's like minus money Like it doesn't work So you make all your money and tips And I learned Nobody fucking tips And then it was much more cash It was more of a cash thing

So there was like some people You'd occasionally get like one euro or two euro But you wouldn't get You wouldn't really get any cash at all And yeah that sucked And I think it's even harder now So yes I always tip you know a delivery driver, but it's hard in a cash list age to tip.

And I find that with like a beautician and a nail place. Like if you go get your now it's done and it's £38, you could tip. Maybe you'd get 40 out the cash point. Yeah. And then you tip the £2. But increasingly you can add tips on card now, which is good. Yeah, hairdressers don't offer that. No, they don't, which is annoying.

But also I do think you should tip your hairdresser. Yeah. How much? I reckon like 10% of what you've paid. Yeah? Yeah. For a hairdresser. Yeah. Yeah.

I think it's 10. I think America's like 15 or 20% is standard. But that frustrates me because it's like pay them, pay your staff more. Pay your staff more. Yeah. Yeah. I feel the same about delivery drivers. But then, but yeah, in the here and now, it doesn't get us anywhere to say that.

Do you know what I mean? Like this person's still getting. It's going to suffer. Yeah. If you don't do it. Yeah. So I was actually, I went to Gordon Ramsey's restaurant the other day, one of them. and they asked at the end they were like

do you mind if we add like 1% or like they basically said they have services as standard but then included they asked I think it was like 5% or 1% it was a really small percentage to be donated to Great Ormond Street hospital

like to his charity foundation thing and the way to it was like do you mind doing that and it's like obviously not and then my friend Charlie who I was with was like does anyone ever say no to that because it's a bit awkward But if I was like, so we're going to donate to these sick kids. Do you, like, do you want to opt?

We're going to do it automatically unless you opt out. And Charlie's like, I mean, really, does anyone ever say no to that? And he said, yeah, like quite a lot. No. And people will often be like, well, Gordon Ramsey's got loads of money. So if he wants to donate it, he can do it. And it's just like, oh, fucking hell. Like, oh, it really depressed me.

Is that honestly the reason behind the line? That's, he said that's like the only rebuttal they get. Being like, well, he's a billionaire. So if he wants to donate, he can do it. I'm not doing it. Yeah, but I'm sure he does donate. Of course he does. It's his foundation.

But it's like extra money for the charity on top of that. It's actually, I think it's a really nice thing that restaurants do, can do that sometimes and run things at Christmas or whatever for like additional percentages. Yeah, great. Because most people don't notice one percent of their bill or five percent in a restaurant like that. You know, like it's a kind of up market thing. And I think a lot of the reason that people don't give to charities is like a lack of ease. Yeah.

You know, they've got to like sign up and like get their credit card out and do that. If you're paying for a bill anyway and someone wax it on the end. And, you know, providing it's not like too much, it's great. Yeah. Yeah. So, because I mean, yeah. Fuck those people who don't give to Great Ormond's street hospital. I mean, of all the fucking charity.

Oh my God. Shame on you. But then taking off the tip as well is like, it's very pointed. I could never. My British, my Britishness could never. No. So someone would have had to have like, I'd have had to have like caught them spitting in my food and then I would not tip. Yeah.

Something really like, I would like watch the chef shit on my plate. Be like, I'm not. I'm going to give you a 10%. You are pushing it a bit, expecting 10% from me. Seven. Yeah. Fine. Twist my arm, nine.

Yeah, I could, I would die. I do think it's nice to tip though. I know it's like it can be expensive to like tip, you know, everything can all on every single occasion. But I do think it's nice where you can to tip. Yeah, 100%. Yeah. So 10% is a standard etiquette. Yeah.

I do find it difficult because most nail bars in London don't. take cash and not having cash is difficult. But then if you use the apps like Delivery or Ruby, which is what I use like for nail things, you can do a tip afterwards. Yeah, which is great. And I always tap, always tip a cabby, black cabs.

Always 10% at least. And that's really pushing my maths. They give you the bill and you've got like two seconds and you have to put your amount in. I'm like, oh, shit. It's like that meme where all the like, algebra. I'm like,

so I probably like pay, Like, Alex would be like, what is this? It's like, 300 pounds. I'm like, oh, what? I've tried to do three. It would be like a 10-pound ride. We actually just got a text through from Daisy the producer who has worked in restaurants a lot. And she says, if you add tips on card at restaurants, sometimes the waiters don't get it.

So you have to check. Yeah. Shit, man. I didn't know that. It depends. Like, when I worked in a pub, the tips got divided everyone. So bar, staff. Waiters, cooks, chefs, like kitchen staff, everybody got it.

Managers as well. Like, everything would be divided. Actually, that was the same in the, actually, no, where that was in a pub. And then I worked in a cocktail bar. And you make the cocktails for the rest. It was like a restaurant cocktail bar. And obviously no one tips a bar made, like, because all you've done is, like, make a quick drink.

Like, no one's going to tip you for being a bartender. But I would make cocktails for everybody's table, like, if you ordered, like, a round of cocktails for your table. And then the waiters would get the tips, but they wouldn't share them with us. So. Oh, sorry. Yeah, no. So it depends. I do think that's good that it's standard practice for, like, it to be shared amongst everyone. Because I think even if you're paid cash as a waiter, waitress, you can't just pocket it, can you?

No, that was one of the saddest things that I've ever, so I don't know why we're just going through my hospitality career. But I worked at the, you're going to learn a lot about me. I worked when I was living in Dublin as well at the dog. I literally did one shift. It was so sad. So I was trying to get a job. I'd given up my takeout delivery driving because it was costing me money. And I was mugged.

It was really bad and I lost up. Do you know how often takeout delivery driver people are mugged or they used to be? Really? Because you've got a lot of cash? Yeah. Yeah, 200 euro in my pocket and it was taken for me. That was so bad. And it was horrible.

It was terrifying. Anyway, so I quit my job. And then I went to go and I went for a, I think I only did like two shifts there, but I went for like a trial shift at this place. And it was a greyhound racing, which was just like I've never been anywhere like. a whole new world. I didn't even know they still did it. Anyways, in South Dublin. And I was working there, and this, it was horrific. Like, you can imagine people that go to the races, like, on a weekday. Yeah. And this guy, I had to wear this uniform. And this guy smacked me on the

ass and, like, grabbed, like, literally, like, held onto my bum cheek. And, like, made me feel so gross. And I was only, like, 18 or 19 or whatever. And then he gave me a 50 euro note, because he just won so he was like all over like literally holding my body but then like slipped like 50 euro and I had like

one of those what they called like little bib things like round my waist where I could put my men where I put my apron yeah yeah

an apron and he put the money and so that was like right down and like touched your body all the way down basically Tiffany so like slipped it down

I was so like invaded in my space it's horrible very intrusive and yeah so intrusive and I was just so like and I was so nervous

And I was like having the worst shift ever. And I went back to my manager and I just gave him the 50 euro note. And I was like, this is my tip like for everybody. Like I was just, you know, I was trying to be nice. And I gave it to him. And he sent me home. And because it was a trial shift, I didn't get any of the share of tips. You're joking.

From that night. And I just got sent home. And then I was like, okay, that's so bad. I know. So I was like, I earned that 50 euro being molested. If you're working. And I didn't get it. I was gutted.

Trial shift. So you didn't get paid. at all for that night. And I didn't even get tips. Oh my God. What a scam. What a scam. Like, totally. So when you're 90, you know, I didn't, like, obviously desperate. Yeah, of course. She didn't know. No. And I thought I'd get, I thought I'd get like tips or something. Yeah. Surely. Yeah. Surely. I was absolutely gutted. I know. So, yeah, it does depend place on place. But I can't remember how we got onto that. I turned out. I've worked a lot of random hospitality jobs. Yeah, you have. That's so random. Yeah, so random. But, yeah, generally

speaking in a nice place, all the tips will be gathered and divided among everybody. But then I haven't worked since Card became king. Like, I have, when I worked in hospitality, it was a lot more cash. It was around. It's like 10, you know, I'm fucking coming up 10 years. Am I right? Am I old? It's coming on 10 years. But I only did, I did retail. And there was always the question of like, with commissioned, do you? Oh, yeah. Do you split the commission or do you earn your own commission. And? We earned our own commission, actually. Yeah. People called for it to be just divided equally.

They were probably the ones that were really shit. It was me, yeah. I was a shit saleswoman, so I didn't care. I was just like, either way. Actually, I should have wanted it split equally because I never sold anything. Yeah, 100% you should have done. Because that's what I mean. That looks nice on you. Like, you've got to sell it. I'm not a good seller. No. Fair enough.

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