Should I Delete That? - Is It Just Me: Swifties & Mammograms

Episode Date: June 19, 2024

In this week's IIJM, the girls discuss concerts, saggy boobs and girl code hypotheticals...Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [e-mail] by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello and welcome back to Should I Delete That, I'm Alex Light. I'm Mum Clarkson, and actually, I have to admit, in all you're twatting about your technology, you've lost my attention, and I'm doing something else now. Bullocks. I've lost me to wait, and I just, I think you should have known better. Oh my God, technology is testing me. I have a few things of my own this week. that I'd like to talk to you about. Oh, good, I love that. I know, I know, how fun.

Okay, number one, a meme that really made me laugh. You know, Taylor's, Taylor Swift, Taylor. I've heard of it, yes. Taylor Swift is on her tour over here, isn't she, in the UK? Yeah. And there was a meme that said, UK weather could you sort yourself out? You're embarrassing as in front of Taylor Swift.

I feel like there's, I feel like they get it. You know what I mean? I feel like they'd expect nothing less. I think they'd be disappointed if it was, if it were too nice. 100%. She went to, she performed in Liverpool and my auntie went to see it. And she sent me tons of videos from it. And I feel like I've watched the whole concert through the videos.

It's quite fun. I need to ask something. I need to ask, is it really fun? Because I always think when I see people videoing at concerts, who the fuck wants to watch that back? I know. I so agree. I so agree.

Did you hate it? Did she put it in your big family? WhatsApp group with all of you to watch so the quality was really distorted but you had to be polite I know and be like wow that looks amazing and I bet she was like jiggling around shouting into the camera into the mic so that was the whole audio

I just knew it but I get it because when I'm at a concert I say this I'm such a grinch like what concert if I go to like a placebo concert they're the only people I'll go and watch in person now that's lots of God that's bleak No, that's not true. It is a bit, though, isn't it?

Live music is love... Okay, so like classical music. Like, that is so beautiful in person. And when I'm there, I'm like, oh my God, I'm going to film it. This is stunning. Classical music is beautiful. Where are you going to watch classical music? Yeah, I think classical music is...

What was that classical music concert you went to? Live is so stunning. Well, I went to see a quartet. And... You went to see a fucking what? Quartet. When did you go see a quartet? Last year, with my mother.

Last year, last year, you went to watch a quartet, like a concert. Yes. It was very beautiful. Yes. I really like it. And I want to go to one of these candlelight. Have you seen it? In London, they put on like a ton of concerts by candlelight. There's candles lit everywhere. Could be a fire hazard.

I don't know. I need to read the T's and C's. But, and then they play classical music and there's like a Ludovico, an Audi one. And he is, he is a very beautiful player. The fuck is happening. Can I ask what you did for the general age, like average when you went to that quartet concert?

I brought it right down. I can believe that. I brought it right down. This is it. Like you had this whole life that I just know nothing about. Like, who are you? An onion. I'm an onion.

You'll catch me at a placebo concert or a string quartet, and there is literally no in between. Taylor, who? I know, but, okay, so I feel like I've seen the whole Taylor Swift concert on TikTok. Well, you have, by your aunties, but can I ask you something? Yeah, and my aunties videos. But can I ask you something? And I don't want this to be mean about Taylor Swift.

I'm just intrigued because I don't get it. I don't understand it. Like, well, you can talk. to me on August the 19th, which will be the day after I go see her in concert. Are you going to see her? Yes, I fucking am. See, okay, you've got a whole life that I didn't know about. How have you not put this up before?

I've been yet. I haven't been yet. I thought I'd tell you about that afterwards. Where are you going to see her? In concert, in London. So is she coming back? She's been, she's in the UK now. Then she's going home.

She's coming back. I don't know. I haven't asked. I didn't check her it. I just know if she's in London at that end of August. When did you get tickets? Who are you going with? okay so now you're interested

you didn't even want to come you just want to know why you're not invited don't you exactly I'm going with Georgie I'm going with Georgie we're going with a brand and I'm sorry they didn't invite you oh my god I feel so betrayed fine have a great time

okay kiss kiss have a lovely time kiss well sorry well was my invitation to the fucking quartet last year first I'm hearing about it 365 days after it happened I don't think so What about that fun gig you went to to go and watch the podcast people

the day after our podcast show? Where were my tickets to that? That's so niche, String Quartet, and then this random podcast from America that you guaranteed I've never heard of. How do you know I don't love string quartets? How do you know I don't love basketball?

Alex, you would be a waste of a Taylor Swift ticket and we both know it. Well, yes, I did just admit that I don't get it. Okay, fine. You've also already watched the whole concert via your answer, WhatsApp messages. I don't think you need to waste a space. Okay, fine.

I just, I, right, look, I'm just, I am intrigued. I'm we've spoken about this before, but I don't think there has ever been an artist, like, in our lifetime, okay, maybe one direction. Yeah, Harry Styles is as close as I can think of. Yeah. I mean, after like the Beatles. I mean, the Harry Styles gigs, I loved. Like, obviously, we went to one, which was so sick.

but like I think he is an incredible life performer like I don't think I've ever seen anyone perform as brilliantly as he did and my favourite thing about those gigs were like watching the audience and like how much he means to people and that's how I felt about Taylor Swift like I actually I don't like I'm not

I like all the songs I like her as a person I don't well I don't fucking know but I like what I think I know I think I like what I know do you know what I mean like I like what I see yeah and I like the thing I love the most it's like oh my god i have i haven't skipped past a single concert video of people filming their loved ones or their kids like the amount of videos i've seen i've saved so many there was one little girl and she's standing outside eating a little hot dog it's on ticot and and she's got a blue

eye shirt she can't be more than 10 and she's got a blue eye shadow on and a cowboy hat and like she's all dressed up and she's just they've just gone out she thinks they've just gone out to listen to taylor from the grass like outside the concert like get a hot show dog and listen to it from the outside and her mom's filming her and then her mom says come on we better get in the key like I've got we've got to get in there and she's finding out she's got tickets and she stops and then obviously I have to sob and then there was another one I know I know I know and then there's another one I've seen of a little girl a poorly little girl who's going through chemotherapy and she's got a little like oxygen she's going into a nose and her mom's

filming her to tell her that she's got a tailor tickets and she's just so fucking made up and she's so excited and then TikTok brought me back to them and I saw her at the gig I saw her like all dressed up at the gig and she was so excited I know and then there was another little girl

who was really poorly and she collapsed at the gig so she only saw half of it so hopefully someone's gonna hook up the tickets so she can go again in August and then there was one girl who was like a teenager no I don't know why

I can't stop but there was like one girl and she was like 15 maybe or the other I can't place an age maybe I don't know how old she was but she was like all dressed up she was absolutely beautiful and her mom's videoing are singing the whole Taylor's song

and the words over was like the words over the top was just like my daughters had the toughest year of bullying like in her whole life in this song like this is her like this song like just helped her reclaim her power and I was just like oh my God like I'm so proud of you I'm so happy for you and that's what I loved about Harry's gigs and I'm really loving about Taylor's gigs as it's like you're just watching all these people's dreams come true

and don't get me started on the proposals I already did a video about that on Instagram although a lot of people disagreed with me in the end but I thought all those men proposing at Taylor Swift concerts, I just thought, I love this you are respecting your girl's fan-girling

to such a point that you're going to do this amazingly special thing like, oh, so I'm just living for it. I love it when an artist like this tours because I just love seeing the TikToks. I love seeing the audience. I know, and it is so cool but I just, I'm just I'm really intrigued, but that is so

cool. That is really cool. The people are craving this community, like that's the impression that I get from these young girls who I've seen that maybe they're like, they're going through, you know, maybe they're poorly or they've been bullied or whatever it is and it's like they're craving a community and that's what these artists give them and isn't that just so, so special? I just love it. So special. Maybe that's it. Maybe that's it. Maybe that's it. It's community. Because of Harry Stiles, I feel like, I feel like the craze, the hype stems from desire, right? They fancy him. I'm not sure, you know. I think The thing about Harry Stiles is he's so accepting

and by, you know, by virtue of his, like, I don't know, like, liberal nature. You know, there's a lot of, like, speculation around his sexuality. He's very free. I think, like, that gives a lot of people permission. And, like, I think... To be themselves. Yeah, and I think, like, fandoms have always craved this.

And it's so interesting. Like, I'm so fascinated consistently in the way that we speak societally. like we've got two things happening in tandem right now we've got the Euros going on and we've got the Taylor Swift concert all I'm seeing out of the Euros is like British fans arrested in Germany

bloody nose like six arrested in euros fight and then you're looking at all the Taylor Swift girlies like you know these poorly little girls and these girls have been bullied like having their absolute dreams come true and I just think why is a society that we shit on those people we shit on those little girls for their harmless

absolute love which is unwavering it's such admirable love and we revere this football fandom they're the same thing fan girls fan boys but for some reason when it's fan girls they're silly

and when it's fan boys they're like you're patriots for the most part you're knobs but that's just well I love it I think it's really cool

but like I want to be a Swifty this is the thing I feel left out I feel really left out. Okay, well, you will need to listen to some of her music. Maybe I will. Maybe I will. I mean, maybe I'll go to her concert.

Actually, no, I won't because there's no tickets left. No. And I have no one to go with, so never mind. But you enjoy Georgie, enjoy yourselves and have a really nice time. I just think you'd have been a wasted ticket, and I think in your heart you know that. And I think when you step back, you'll see that. I get that. We want to be involved.

Okay. As soon as placebo come to town, we are there. Hey, I'll go to one of these candle concerts with you I do not care for them at all I have no attendance fan I find it very boring but I will come I would I need you more to come to a placebo concert with me because that I really struggle

with getting anyone to come with me okay I don't want to but I'll come I don't not want to my sisters say no Dave says no Benny my ex-boyfriend he was pretty good and still has been good at coming with me but I can tell that he doesn't want to be there so okay two things first of all I'll come

but second of all I think my Alex will more willingly come yeah yeah i feel like that's the kind of thing he'd do okay excellent stunning one of us will come okay okay thank you but also i want it noted that you're so upset that we didn't invite you to taylor swift whereas you've just listed off a nice list of people that you've asked to come to a placebo concert on which i wasn't featured at least georgie was the first person that i invited i didn't get through a list of everybody i fucking knew before i invited you unlike you my neighbor said no and my ex-boyfriend won't come so I suppose I could invite you. I've asked everyone that's ever been on the podcast, they've all said no too. Brilliant. Fair. Tushay. Me and you or maybe you and

Alex. I don't care. I really don't care. Either of you will do. Ollo will do. I'll buy her little laymuffs. Fine. She's got some. I just need a friend, okay? Fine. I can't go alone. It's scary. Another is it just me? Okay. Not another action. Oh, no. No, I guess that wasn't. Anyway. Oh, no. Okay. I've got so much.

There was a video on TikTok. It's really weird to see you with this much enthusiasm, but okay. Sorry, I know. I need to calm down. It's because you had two cups of tea this morning, isn't it? I feel wild. I feel very feral. I can tell.

I saw a TikTok that was really, really divisive, like really divided people, okay, in the comments. Yeah, hit me. And it said, if you saw a girl in the gym who had a period stain, would you tell her? Yeah. You tell her. You, of course I'd fucking tell her. I'm not a dick. Yeah.

What would you do? I would tell her too. But then in the comments, people were saying like, oh, you don't want to, you don't want to embarrass her. And, like, a lot of people didn't want to tell her. Yeah, I mean, I think you'd have to do it in the way that you go over quietly and you say, not a big deal. But I think you might have leaked a little bit if you've got anything, or would you like to borrow my jumper to tie around your waist? Something like that. Because someone might tell her in a less kind way than that, and that's not a risk I'd want to take.

You are right, 100%. That is the right thing to do, right? And I don't know. I can't explain why, but if someone, if someone did that to me, I'd just die. I would rather it, like, the niceness would, I would just die. And I don't know why. Do you think you would die more when you got home and saw that it had happened and, like, worked it out for yourself? And then you realize that no one had told you? I would rather no one to, I would rather, yeah, I'd rather no one tell, tell me. I'd rather just, yeah, I'd rather just sit in my own, like, shame and pity. I'm blood, I'm blood.

Oh, I'd want to know. That was less of a debate than, but I'd want to know. Okay, yeah, I mean, that was less of a debate than I thought it was going to be in my head. I would, I mold it over for ages. I don't know why. Now I come to say it out loud, I'm like, of course, the right thing to do is to tell. If I did, what would you do? Like, if I had, what would you say, would you tell me?

Oh, yeah, for sure, yeah. Yeah. That would be so weird if I saw that you leaked and I didn't say anything and vice versa. That would be so weird. Yeah, it would be weird. I tell you what I've done today that's weird. Did you notice that we're in the studio? I'm not wearing a brawl today.

I didn't notice it, no. Isn't that kind of weird? But I did notice. Is this the Abercrombie top? Yes. It's so good, isn't it? It's a very good top, but I'm just looking at myself in the camera now. It's the first one kind of looked at myself.

and I'm like, what the fuck do I think I'm doing not wearing a bra with these things? Because they're all the way down here. They're massive. I'm like, oh my God, they should be up there. They're about three feet too low for this sort of thing. I genuinely did not notice that you weren't wearing a bra. Okay, that helps.

I mean, I was kind of sitting adjacent to you rather than opposite you, so that could be why. But I'm looking at all, I'm just like, this looks ridiculous. I think the camera is like, exas, like elongating you. No, I don't think it is how I think that's just how I look. They're so long since breastfeeding.

Oh my God. They're like, they're like little arms. Did breastfeeding make a big difference to them? Well, they were massive when I was breastfeeding. They went up to a double G when I was breastfeeding. And then they've kind of gone back down. I think they're probably back to like an E again now. But they are saggier because they were like filled up with milk.

They got bigger when I was pregnant. And then they filled up with milk because, you know, jugs. And then when the milk went, they just deflated. So I've got like here now, like, you can see, like, loads of stretch marks there at the top of my boob, listener. I've got the stretch marks kind of on the side under my armpit from where they've just sort of, like, where they got big and then just got kind of saggy. Yeah, I've got that from pregnancy, actually.

Which is why they're now sitting on my fucking waistband. I thought it was from, like, the milk. like day to day the milk coming in and then getting drained and then coming in and getting it's horrible, isn't it? But like, I don't know, I just assumed that was what it was. Yeah, it could be. I don't know. I mean, there were like, just to sum it up, the other day I was lying sideways in bed, not wearing a bra, which I cannot do in my current situation and I'm about to explain why. I was lying down sideways, all right next to me. She stood up, and because they're so fucking big and saggy, she trod on the nipple.

and what am I going to do push a one-year-old to the ground to get her off? I don't think so so I just have to lie there having a mammogram on just the nipple it was excruciating and it was

the worst part about it was how undignified it was because it's just the teat and I'm like you of all people they kept you alive solely for 13 months but by all means trample the deflated state of me oh what a betrayal what you can do to protect them is tuck that when you're lying like that and she's around tuck them under your armpits good idea no i sleep with a feckin sports bra on now i'm not

even kidding because we're sleeping yes because we're sleeping together so much and they are She just rolls over and they're so bloody flat. There's just, I'm steamroll it. It's horrible. Honestly, it's so much. I'm just imagining, you know, when like bodies melt into puddles. Like, you know, Alex, it's her name, the American show, the girl who just melted into a puddle all the time.

Who melted into a puddle? From Nickelodeon. Oh my God, do you not remember this? No, but that sounds exactly like what's happening to. me. What's her name? The listeners will be like screaming it at me. The secret world of Alex Mac. Can you remember I'm very young? Don't let my saggy tits fool you. I'm younger than what I look. She just was able like on command to just melt herself into a puddle, right? And then she could like slip underneath doors and like through windows and stuff. No, it was just a really good

TV show but anyway it just I don't know that's how I'm imagining your boobs just like puddles like very flat little puddles. Pretty much honestly they just like when I lie flat they just go like like jelly like just jelly really just it's so sad and they go so flat and then

just like the end of the balloon you know that's kind of what the nipple is now it's just like the end of the balloon and she just treads on that it's that's actually hurting yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah it's so bleak and it's to lie there saying it's fine. I bet this doesn't happen to see Anna Miller but it's

fucking fine. It's really made me laugh. Oh it's so tragic. Well look you like you said they single-handedly kept her alive for 13 months. But you know the annoying thing is should have been fine if they hadn't formula milk would have done no harm. I didn't need to do this. Special memories though. lovely it's odd you know the minute it's over i'm a bit like the fuck was that like when you when it's happening i'm like wow nature mother nature now i think back and i'm like fuck me bizarre behavior and we were at it for bloody ages i was don't ask me why because it's very weird that i was thinking about this in bed last night but i was and i was thinking um when you

when you stopped is she not like now does she just stop her as well as i was well does she just stop asking for it like she must be like what's going on okay well we I mean obviously this was a while ago now it's like three months ago we're going we went through a bit of a weird stage if I'm honest where they're obvious they're obviously still a huge source of comfort don't overthink this right when I tell you because it's not weird right okay as I'm telling you this it's just not weird don't don't make it weird right so obviously like now it's weird yeah well obviously it's weird now everything I'm about to tell you it's weird But obviously there's still a huge source of comfort to her.

And I'm not going to take that away from her. So for the first few days when the milk was drying up, like they were off limits. Like, see you later, baby. But then when she's really upset, like, and she's teething, like, crazy at the moment. Like, oh, I mean, it's like jaws. It's so intense.

Like, all of them are coming. It's like, the fuck is this. Honestly. Oh, bless it. It's mad. It's like that scene in Game of Thrones. So all the, like, things just is like, just the white walkers.

It's just like a little teeth. It's like, da-nan-n-lon. Anyway, so she's getting loads of teeth. And when she's, like, really distraught, I found that sometimes the only thing that will help is, like, she doesn't try and do anything, but it's just giving her my boo. And she just uses it as a pillow, or just holds it, or just plays with the nipple. So she does that a lot where she needs comfort, and she just holds the nipple, and I'm like, I can't, it's only weird if I make it weird. So it's, I'm not going to make it weird. It's, it's true. It was her source of, comfort for so long. I know and it's so precious and I still feel really grateful to have

it as like in my back pocket literally there's so long now. It's good it out. Please turn up to the studio and one day just one tucked into your back pocket. They're not bloody far off. Give me one more kid. That's where they'll be.

No I think that's really sweet. That's really sweet. No it is it is really cute. It isn't weird and it isn't and I love it and I mean I love it to an extent. It's a bit painful, but it's precious. Yeah, tweaking the nipple, I couldn't do that. That sounds really painful.

Well, yeah. All in all, they're going through a tough time at the minute. I'm trampled. Tommy does stroke, when he strokes mine with his left hand, when he's like, sleep on me or, like, having his bottle. He just, like, strokes wine and just like, he can't grab from. Well, he can actually, but he just kind of just like clenches at them. That's lovely.

Yeah, nipples too sensitive, though. I can't take that. I'm like, ah, no, no, it hurts, hurts. I don't know. Yeah, it's cute. It's cute. I mean, like, the, you know, we're home, aren't me? With these bodies of ours.

Yeah. So it is nice. It's one of my favorite things, you know, whenever I get, like, self-conscious about, like, you know, the sags or the flabs or whatever it is, I'm like, and I watch her and I, like, oh, would you look at that. Look how comfy I am.

You know what a, you don't want an eye on board for a lover? Exactly. She doesn't give a fuck if she thinks your boobs are like, she doesn't care. No. She doesn't care that they're reaching my knees. This is, I think that's one of my favorite stories you've ever told me. It's her giving you a mammogram. It's sad, isn't it?

Honestly, and these things all happen are like five in the morning, and I'm like, this feels wrong. This doesn't feel like the life I was living, not two minutes ago. This feels like a podcast story. Yeah. Don't they all? I love it. I don't even know how we got on to that. I think it was just because I asked about your,

if it was an Abercombe talk, because I've bought that in, because I like it, I bought it in black, loved it. I was like buying it in every colour now. So I have it in a lot of colours. It's so good.

I know, but I see you in the podcast show. I'm like, oh, that looks familiar. I think I own that. Oh, that, I like your bag. Oh, yeah, thanks for you own it. Listeners, for context. It is a black. Is it cropped up?

No, it kind of Yeah, yeah, it's kind of Yeah, cropped on Okay High neck And it's like rooshed around the waist Yeah, it's a really good basic I got it because Sarah's good

And those of colours I just copied her I don't know who I don't know where I saw I know I think I bought the Sloan pants Obviously copied from Modicampsey And then I saw that they go with it And I was like oh my god

That looks good Say less I'll buy it in 10 different colours Yeah no it's so good I love a basic Word of the wise Me put a bra on next time but free it now it was a fun day i think you know we've learned from it we've we've we've had some highs and some lows we've had we had such good conversations today actually

didn't we yeah well highs being them and lows being these literally lows so low figuratively and do your boobs hang low do they wobble to and fro can you tie them in a knot can you tie them in a bow can you throw them over your shoulder can you throw them over your shoulder like a shoulder bolder oh i don't know i lost that sounds that yeah sounds that you're right just for me which is sweet of you yeah you're welcome i feel very self-conscious now if i'm honest oh no don't oh i'm sorry no i didn't really no because of your stupid song oh just because i've seen myself they look great there's definitely an argument for like no being no like like catholics do during easter where they just come like shroud all

the mirrors like once you've gone out for the day i think there's some of to be said to just be, that's fine, just leave it now. Yeah, ignore all reflections. Yeah, like, I'm out now. I agree. I'm so agree. Like, what do you want to see at 11 o'clock? You've had food and your teeth on morning. I don't think you need to know that.

And none of your business. But this is what I'm saying about, but the period's day. I'd rather not know. Yes, but you'd need everybody else to adhere to it too. But I don't care who sees me as long as they never see me again, you know? Oh, I don't know. Yeah, but you only go to a very few amount of places. like so I suspect people that see you see you a lot that's true do not I mean that's a good point

yeah it's like you made me sound very sad you don't get out but you just said it was true it is true but I don't want to be confronted with it okay the best and only concert you went to you last year I wasn't sad I was a sad thought you made me sound so sad it's only a side I'm gonna I'm gonna get off this call and book something fun I'll tell you what, Alex's mum would love to come with you to any classical gigs that you get. Thanks, okay. Invites to in the future. I can't think of anyone else.

And don't invite me. I'll come, I could come to the, I could come to ones with the candles. I just need something to look at. I need to be simulated. It's much too much to want me in silence. And I would really be upset if you invite me to the opera. Like, I really would be sad. Oh, no. I went to the opera once and I did not like it at all.

And I was so bored. And you sit really close together at the opera And I hate to be bored Because I think it's rude And I don't want to be bored And I don't like being confronted by my bored And first of all I don't like to be bored in general life

Because I don't think it suits me And I don't think it leads me in positive places So I just choose not to be bored By filling my life But if I'm stuck If I'm stuck And I'm bored It's very so I get very overwhelmed

It's not great And I know I know I sometimes get bored Even when I'm enjoying stuff So I really don't think I should go okay well that's something we can agree on no opera okay and i won't invite you i'll invite it to the candlelight thing but only once i've checked out how safe it is i'd also i'd also quite like to go at christmas

because i really feel like candles have a good place in my year and it's christmas time yeah yeah they also love cameras no no like are you kidding like ethereal church like when church when choirs when choirs sing like this like silent night oh oh oh Yeah, no. I love it. They do all the verses. Not just the fucking amateur hour that we do. Do the first one.

No, no. They know all of them. Three, four, five verses. Stunning. What's they harmonize? Cappella. Beautiful. Stunning.

I love acapella. Yeah. Okay, let's you and I go to a Christmas concert, Christmas Carol concert with loads of candles. Pentatonics, do you know them? No. Very famous a cappella group that fucking come alive at Christmas time. It's like their time to shine.

Do they? They're American. I don't know if they're tall But I would so love to see them Okay, but we'll do it Anyway, we've got to go guys We've just charged shit to you Thanks so much for being with us And we will see you on Monday

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