Should I Delete That? - Just Us: Alex goes fist deep, overexposing ourselves and The Great Bedsheet Debate

Episode Date: December 4, 2025

Welcome back to another Just Us - in this week’s episode the SIDT Team has been bitterly divided by the ‘how often should you clean your bedsheets?’ debate… we also reveal that Alex is in fact *fussy* - and Em’s once again feeling overexposed… Do you have any whacky suggestions about how Al can learn to enjoy doing her duvet cover? Or would you be interested in watching a livestream of her attempting to strip the bed? Email us on [e-mail] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello and welcome back to Should I Delete that. I'm in Clarkson. I'm Alex Light. How are you? I'm a bit cold, actually. It's a bit cold, isn't it? I can't. I can't.

Honestly, that's, no, no, that's so fair. I thought of you the other day as I was so miserable walking down the rain. I was like, this is what she wanted. It's not. Is she happy now? I didn't want the rain. Today? No, yesterday.

Yeah. It's sunny. Yeah. Stunning. Yeah. I bet you, I bet at a point it came up, you went, a bit cold. Oh yeah. I mean, yeah, no, the whole day.

I was like, I'm fucking freezing. I had a water bottle all day. What do you mean? No, but I think, I think what I've learned is that I'm very temperature sensitive and I don't like hot, no, I don't like cold. And I don't like much around in between. I'm like a Goldilocks. Temperature girly. I need it just right.

I don't know if that, like I don't know if you'll find that. No, I haven't known a time where it's been just right for a while. Can I ask how that is applicable to like everything else? Is it just temperature related? When we, I don't know, like you boil an egg. Like, do you feel joy at like at the egg or is it, you can only feel the joy if the egg is just right? No, I think it's just temperature.

I'm way more slapdash and like loosey-goosey with everything else. Except cutlery and crockery. Except cutlery. and crockery. So actually, I think you might be less Lucy Goosey than otherwise. I think you might actually be... Quite laid back. No, I think that is not what you are.

Yeah, oh my God, you might be right. I fear you're not who you think you are. Yeah. But like if my toast is a bit burnt, like whatever, if it's a bit undercut, like, I don't care. But if you can think of another example. I can think of another example. I can think of another example that comes up six or seven times a day. Oh, yeah.

When you ask someone for a cup of tea, you go, but can I put the milk in myself? I'm actually starting to think you're incredibly neurotic. I'm so fussy. I am so fussy. You're worse. I mean, I can't. If someone, if I say, because I always say milk on the side or can I do the milk myself?

I know. And if someone accidentally does it for me, I just can't, I just can't have it. I know I did it for you this morning. And I felt so much pressure. I was like, I think I've watched to do it enough times. Yeah. Was it all right? Too milky.

It was a little bit too milky. I knew it. I went for the second one and I thought, it's too much milk. Like dribble. Dribble is all I'm. need it's you know why ask for it i don't say i don't like to i can't get into this with you but i think in general there might be more there might be more needs than otherwise special i think actually like like don't worry anything's fine like i don't think that is actually the truth

god i feel like i'm just realizing this about myself yeah like what does your phone case say quite scary everything is good i'm not sure it is it's really not everything is good when everything is completely precise and specific to exactly what I want and need. Everything could be good. I need a little star after the good. I need to ask you actually on that. You mentioned your bed sheets on Instagram this week. Yeah.

Then you said, and now I missed the preamble. I'm not sure if there was any, but I came in at the point of the poll where it said how often do you change your bed sheets? Like a normal person, like everybody else, I said once a week because that's right. Then you said it's your next frame. I wish I hadn't Googled it, which makes me very nervous. What did you think it was before you googled it? I will shame you.

Seventy-two weeks? One to two weeks. One to two weeks. No, no, no, sorry, once every two weeks. Twice a month. You change your bit twice a month. Yeah. That was the most popular answer.

And that's what you do? Yeah. Faye. Be honest. Once a week. Quite right. L? Once every two weeks.

Right, so we are divided between the clean and the dirty. Okay, so yeah, 51% said once every two week. 29% once a week. 29%? 20% once a month. 1% more than once a week. I am prepared to offer caveats. If you are a single person, there is an argument for once every two weeks.

My mum has a ginormous bed and she's got a very economical system whereby she swaps the pillows and switches the bottom sheet round. Clever. So she's at top left and then she gets bottom right. Clever. Very clever. I like that a lot. And I see there's an argument for that. And if you're a single person, one week on one side, one week on one week on the, that works fine for me.

But two weeks in the same sport, I could never. I could never. Could you not? I could never. But what are you, like, what's germs? I like. But what's wrong with them? Like, what are they?

What's wrong with germs? It's like, it's two weeks. I can't do this with you out. What do you mean? Two weeks. It's not going to make you sick. It's not going to make you ill. It's not going to hurt you.

But it's dirty. Like, it's my, it's me. Like, I don't want to, like, like, where. all my like skins fallen off like all my I've just been like shedding shit here like you know I mean like it's just like oh like bits of me like just there and I was going to leave me Chris what does it look like when you get up from bed nothing but that's the scary thing if you not seen Kim woodburn going to your house for the UV light looking at your pillow none of my business what I can't see none of my business the things I've seen can't be unseen like because yes to the naked eye it's like when you see a kitchen

counter it's like immaculate and then you zoom in you're like germs and like I'm not but I don't want to know about that. But it's like that's fine. I can I can handle like in the moment but I refuse to fester and I feel that I would be festering. Do you know what I mean? Like what if like what if all my little sweat sweat? Sweat. What if I've sweated? Do you sweat in the night? No particularly but I wouldn't know. But that's what Google says like asking me if I snore. I don't know. It says it says you should change your week your sheets at least want something. But more often if you sweat a lot, have allergies or share the bed with a pet, which we do share the bed with the pet. Oh, that's the other thing.

Boo is bringing, I also share with my entire family. And also, realistically, I mean, I have breastfed in bed, you know, for like years and co-sleeping. And so there's just, you know, bits and bops. But generally, I just, I also, I love fresh sheet night. And I want that as frequently as is realistic. I love fresh sheet night, but I hate changing the sheets more than I love fresh sheet night. I see that for you. I hate changing the sheets more than anything in the world.

I actually would pay great money to have it as a live stream. Just come out once a week, once every other week, if that tickles your pickle. But like, just watching you put a vocation on. It would be, so that I can do. I can put the sheet on, the fitted sheet. It's the dovet. And your arm start aching and you get a bit panicked. Like, like nothing will bring me to tears quicker.

Nothing. Not much. Do you get on the bed and do it? No, and I hate all these. Oh, try this trick. Try that trick. No, no, I've tried every trick. You put it inside out, hands in each side, little grabber, either side of the duvet.

No, because something gets confused, something gets lost. There's any four corners? In the wrong corner. How? How do you know which is the right side of the, which is the long side, which is the short side? Make the bed, put the duvet on the bed like it's the bed, like it's a duvet, get the sheet, like it's the duvet. You're trying to make it sound effortless and it's not effortless. It's not effortless, but it is easy.

It's effortful, and I hate it. Like, there is an effort, but it's not difficult. It's not like doing a crossword. I honestly, I really, really need to argue this with you because I would much rather sit down and do a crossword. Is that because you're sitting down? Possibly. I fear the issue is actually the exertion rather than the mental.

No, no, no, no, it's the mental. I can't, I will always get something wrong. I will always get something wrong. But it's not, how? There's not much to get wrong. You say that. there is. And no, I just can't. I can't. What happens when you put your foot in a sock?

It's the same principle. It's just a square one. It's not. It's not the same principle. At all, do not. Do not. It fits. It actually fits perfectly. I love how that's all come together. Do you. Right. Faye and Elliot. I'm not saying it's struggle free. I'm just saying it's not as difficult as what you're making it out. Do you know what I mean? It's not a chore that I enjoy and I need to stress that before we put it to the group. It is a difficult thing to do in that it's tiring and a little bit frustrating and it can make you a bit hot and bothered. But I would argue, It's also complicated. No, that's where you've lost me. Like, I think it's difficult and they're like, oh, it's heavy and like it's an annoyance.

But I'm not sure it's difficult. We need a listener, Paul. Can we start with the two currently listening? I'm really going to expose myself here and you're probably going to say, you're going to think you're paying me too much, but our cleaner changes our bed. Good. Good for you. I like that. Yeah, good. I also have to say this is someone who has a cleaner who else change our bed too. Okay. Okay. Okay. Good. I'm pleased to be.

Fuck you. Hang on. You're going to change the show. Hang on. Hang on. Two things on that. One, I will change the sheets and I do, like, she doesn't do it every time. Like, she's, which helps when she's there, but I also do it if we have an accident with

the kids because I go sleep. Second thing, who changes your sheets? And I want you to look me in the eye and be honest. Dave. Quite. So, it's so complicated. I don't get across the word. But that's why he does it.

He knows not to even bother me with it anymore. No, he's like, it's more effort than it's worth. Can I get it? I will change a sheet. A rundown of household chores split between you and Dave. Where are your skills? Where are his? I'm really good at, like, keeping things tidy and decluttered.

Okay. So, like, I'm constantly, like, um, like... Bustling. Yeah. Yeah. Like, dishes in the dishwasher, um, sides clean down. Like, put the toys away, like, clear up, like that. And he does the big things.

Mm-hmm. Like, the shoots. Like, taking the bins out. Mm-hmm. Um... When does something go from small to big? Because I, because I'd say a bin is actually a bustle. It's a bustley move.

No, no, I find, I find that a mental block as well. Like out the, out the bucket. Yeah, taking it out. That's the fight of my life. I'm going to touch something. Like it always smells. Makes me feel sick.

And then like where do I put it? Well, I put it in the bin. There are too many steps. That's why Dave's there. So we've got Dave for cooking. Bins. No, I do the cooking now. But Dave plates it up.

Dave plates it up. Dave plates it up for the Instagram stories for Hello Fresh. Sorry, I'm just really out of you. All right. look, I'm fucking useless, okay? No, I disagree. I just want to... No, I just like...

No, I just like... One thing I've got. Now you're just lashing out. I just want to understand where the mental block comes in with the chores. Like, what I mean is, I like, I think we all play to our strength, but I want to work out what it is specifically that stresses. Do you know what I mean? Because it's like there's some chores that I love and then there's some that make me want to gouge my own eyeballs out. And I want to understand our differing.

So I think it's with like... executive function. Okay. It's not sensory. It's what I learned. No, it's not sensory. For me, sink gubbins.

Like... Yeah, I hate that. I hate that. Do you know what? I actually don't do that. I will do the whole kitchen. It will be spotless. And Dave comes in and he's like,

but look at the sink. And I'm like, yeah, but that's a you thing. I do it and I hate it. Gubbins is a horrible world. It makes me, but it's exactly what's in there. Yeah. Like there are certain things like that just make me. And I can't do the clean the loo anymore

since being sick. I was going to say, I bet when you had HG, anything like that, like the sink stuff, the bin stuff. I didn't do it. I mean, I can't, I can't, I couldn't do a thing. Oh, God, no. And I bet, because the evening I had when I was pregnant and I felt nauseous, like, if I was on a train and there was like a little bit of dried food or something, I was like, I've got a moot. I can't be anywhere near this. It's more the, it's sink gobbins, wet food.

But wet anything, because shower hair, I know it's my hair, I know it should be my problem, but Alex has to do that. and I know he's done it because bless him he'll do it with a little fork and he always leaves the fork in the shower so I know he's been in. Yeah, that's also a day job. I think there are some, that's what I mean. That's why I'm interested in our divide because I think there are some tasks

that just go right through some people that don't. Yeah, that's interesting, isn't it? Like when you have to do everything, I mean obviously if you live alone, I guess you just do everything and you just make it work. I think it's things that take too many steps for me and require me to have to have to, use too much brain.

Laundry, I can't do laundry. I cannot do laundry. But again, that's so many steps. It's too much pressure for me. You have to, you have to... I'll do it, but I hate it. I literally have to put out my fingers in my ears. When I close the drum, I have no confidence in myself.

As in, I think you've done the right setting. Okay, what did I do? Did they put my AirPods through the washing machine? Both still work, by the way. I can't believe that. I know, both my AirPods do. I very regularly put things that I love. I can't tell you how many Charlotte Tilbury-Pillow-talk lipsticks have gone into

my washing machine. Well, do you not check your buckets? Clearly, clearly not. That's what, but I find the pressure of, but I like a big task, like washing machine filter. Like, it's time to do the filter. Oh, I love that. Because you get to gather all the, that's a great job. But the actual washing, I think it's the inane relentlessness of it for me that I can't handle.

But that is so many steps. It's like, you've got to collate all the washing. Then you've got to put the washing into the right bits. Into whites and darks and whatever else. And then you've got to wash it, you've got to dry it, then you've got to hang it. I hate hanging it. I don't mind hanging it up. I don't mind it.

I can do that. Maybe I don't mind the amazing stuff. And then you've got to fold it and put it away. And it's like, that was a week of my life. Putting it away, it's so annoying. What's the point? Just leave it on a chair and start wearing it again. To be fair, I do do that a lot.

Why would you not? I know. Why would you not? Who's got the time? And the kids. And they just get through it. They get through it. But I do think, like, I often stop and think, like, will we,

we put on it and it is like such a miracle that we are each here right it's like the odds were against us to be here and it's like a very cool thing and it's it's it's miraculous and then i think were we just put here to do this constant cycle of like chores and just maintenance yeah hunters gatherers this is gathering this is what this is literally what we're meant to do do you know i mean yeah i think so i fear this is it i just think we've got more tools more gadgets more gizmos than they used to have like before they just had to like sort of sweep the leaves to the edge of the cave whereas now we've got a dice in those bad boys you know what I mean although I will die on this hill with Dyson at Hoover if you've been eyeing it up don't buy it don't buy it no thank you

Elliot it's the biggest waste of money oh really ever spent and I was excited when I bought my dyson Hoover I was like this is growth I'm going to let Henry go this is no tilting it's going to save space I'm going to charge it cordless I'm going to do the stairs in no time do I Fuck. It doesn't suck. It doesn't suck. Yeah. I know what you mean. I don't think the remote ones do. The chargeless ones do. Henry is my guy. Henry's, Henry, Henry is amazing. He's amazing. I'll go to Shark for the gizmos because they've got gizmos. They've got, they've got a mop. I've got a steaming mop from them. It excites me. I love steam mopping. I love new gizmos. Yes. And gadgets. But nothing sucks like Henry. I do think they're making is more depressed. The gizmos. Yeah. Well, they say with like industrialization and like. Moving from manual labour to like everything's automated

or everything's like using machine now. Yeah, we're losing. There is something to be said for the night I spent on my floor doing the grouting. I loved it until I didn't. There was a lot of grouting. I gave it to Alex and his friend and Ross after that because I couldn't. But I had a little tooth. I had a brush and I had a spray.

And for those first nine or ten lines, I was like, this is unbelievable. Satisfaction was huge. I'm out. There are certain, there is certain. steaming, I steamed like the sofa was a mess. I steamed that. I felt so good. I love, I love a big, like the big, I'm going to do the fridge. You know what I mean? Like, I feel amazing. No, I hate it. I have this like, like, sense of like doom that like I just, I, this is not something that's one and done. I do, I have to do this fridge. Yes. And then a week later, I'm going to have to do the fridge again.

Don't think about that. How can I not think about that? It's like, it's like climbing a hill that you never reach the, the summit of. And I know you're not supposed to reach the summit because it's about the journey, not the destination. I'm getting a bit lost here and I'm feeling so... To our really a point about everything being good except everything being terrible. I think I might have made our point. Nothing's good.

Thank you for bringing me to this point. I feel fantastic. I think there's a way to make things fun. And I actually, I spoke to, not professionally, I spoke to her. I bumped into it. I've made a new. friend. She's a clinical. She might be listening to this and think we're not friends. I don't know why you've extended that term to us because we don't know each other that well. Anyway, I'm, you know,

I'm hanging out with someone I would like to be friends with. I don't want to be, I don't want to be weird. But she's, I've made it really weird now. You've made it so weird. And also she's a psychologist. So she'll be listening to this being like, well, she's made that fucking weird because she's fundamentally broken. And this is how. And she would be right. So she, she was telling me about fun ways to communicate with a toddler. This was on the back of me being on my period and having to explain to Arlo what a period was and then a tampon, I'm completely out of my depth. I've got no idea if I'm creating solutions or problems there and we'll get on to it. But in the meanwhile, I was talking to her about communicating with the toddler, how to help create

a sense of urgency without having a fight because I've been solo parenting a lot while Alex has been manned down. I'm like, how do I, I need Arlo on my side, but I can't reason with her because she's too. So I need like actionable things so that we're not always, it's not always me fighting with her because I love her and I don't want to spend my life fighting with her. So she was giving me some advice. And she said, play a song. She said, you've got until the end of this song, for example, to put your wellies on. So I'm going to play this song and you're going to have your wedding something. That's a nice idea. Lovely. And I thought, I'm going to do that for myself. That could motivate me. That could motivate me. That could motivate me. Well, this was designed

for a two year old, but I think it's going to fit. So I'm going to try it when I get home. I left the kitchen. Again, as I say, solar parenting, I'll do it in my lives this weekend. I can't tell you the state the kitchen was on. I am going to. I am going to play for the 50 millionth time. Lily Allen. Yes, Western girl album, Lily Allen's album. And I want the entire thing. And I will not be allowed to sit down between the album starting and the album

finishing. Wait, how long's a fucking album? I can't tell you how messy it is. Oh, Jesus. When I tell you, I've been hanging by a Fred. I am on my knees. The house is disgusting. Okay.

It's more mess than dirt, but it's just messy. Right. Everything's messy. Okay. Like, there's just yogurt everywhere. It's album length messy. Yeah, well, I'm not kidding anyone in saying I'm going to get it done in one song.

Right. I'm not going to get anything done in one song. I'm going to cry for the first song. I'm going to stand around looking in despair for the second. Yeah. Shit's going to get real on the third. I think this is a really good trick. I know.

I might use it later to put my washing away. Okay. I'm going to give myself one song. Oh, you're going to be flying. Everything's going to be in the wrong place. Yeah. I like this. Okay, good.

Okay. The thing is, I don't. I don't actually listen to music any, I listen to music when I work, but I listen to podcasts. But when I'm doing stuff, I listen to podcasts, you know. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, never listen to an episode back, never will. No introspection here. I hate the sound of my own voice. I just hate everything I say.

I hate everything I say. Everything we've said so far, I'm like, I'm the fucking worst. You know what I mean? I think it's because I'm on the period. That's definitely because you're on your period. Do you think? But I also get that too. yeah yeah after studio days i can't think too long and hard about what i said because i will feel

like why did i say it i know if someone said that to me the other day quite jokes because i shared a list of like for black friday i was like here's a list of like the stuff that i link quite a lot that's like on sale just in case anyone wants a bargain and then as i was doing it was like this feels incredibly exposing like everything i did i was like what here are my favorite things oh my god yeah as i did i was like hate myself hate myself what see how much money i spent see what i like to do no anyway did it and then i was like And then I said it, I alluded to that in the story, and then someone would probably be like, after everything you've talked about on the internet, this is what you find overexposing. And I was like, oh my God, I've been crossing my own boundaries and I didn't even realize. Like the fact that I think-savage thing to say. She's spot on though. Like I have identified that this is, I feel overexposed here. And she's like, babe, this is nothing. And I'm like, oh my God, you're right. Oh my God. Yeah. But if this is nothing, what's the everything? What's she referring to? I think it's been a case of me like, like, I've got. my hand covering my vulva because I don't have any trousers on, thinking everyone's in front

of me and it turns out they're all behind. Do you know what I mean? Like, I think that's my entire career and I just didn't even realize it. I'm like, oh, no one can see anything and then it's got ass cheek the whole time. And they've had it for years. Like we're four years deep and they're just staring at my bomb crack. Oh my God. How sobering. I know. It's horrible. I know. I'm sorry. God, I saw my own phone the other day and I thought, That's fascinating. You don't see your own ass enough. I don't see anything embarrassing you enough.

I don't know if I can stretch around to see... No, I didn't do it from there. I did it... In a mirror. I'll tell you what is embarrassing. It's obviously when you're vlogging and you vlog yourself, I don't know, in and out of the shower, for example. Just like the in the shower. It's just like air cheeks.

Like fab. Can I tell you my bad? Oh, yeah. Thank you. I've had a cough. You guys will probably know because throughout a few episodes, I've been like, and as part of the IVF treatment, I have to put pesteries inside me. I'm so pleased with this. Put pesteries up, okay?

You can do them front, bum, back, bum, whichever you want, right? I love it when people say front bump, back bump. Front bump, but I go front bump. Oh, Ellie, I'm so sorry. I go front bump because it just feels a bit more civilized. That's the name of your sex tape. I'm really sorry. So, yeah, no, I tend to go, I tend to go from bum.

Can we please put these in just a series of out of context, compilations? Front bum back, bum. I tend to go front bum. Just feels more civilized. Yeah, it just feels more pleasant. I don't know, it just, it's nice. It's nice. Yeah, you go into it.

Yeah, yeah. Give you some of a treat. You're suffering enough. I got this cough. Mm-hmm. And every time I call. cough, I push the percery out. The cough pushes the percery out. Every time. Unless it's really dissolved. Like I've, unless I've given it enough time, but I'm constantly coughing. So when

the pastry goes in, I'm literally like, I can't go on, I got, I got. When you say it comes out, does it shoot out? Or just, it's just a little sad, little slow descent. Right, Elliot, honestly, just, just mentally check out for a minute. I am so pleased you brought this to me because obviously a forementioned period. We've also had a cold in our household. And I have been trying to strike that balance of blowing my nose without blowing my tampon out. It's really difficult. It's really fucking hard. Oh my God,

this is what I mean when I say my back bombs out for the whole fucking world to see. This is exactly what we're talking about. And we're going to go home and think this isn't weird and it is weird. Okay. Do you think that you had that problem before you had children? Because I don't remember, because I used to do, I did best series before Tommy. And they didn't slip out. And I didn't cough them out.

It's probably above the floor. out. It'll be a pelvic floor. I probably probably didn't. I think so. I think so. Am I not pushing them up first? Hard enough. High enough. But I'm going literally fist deep. Like I can't, I can't go further. We are at capacity. Any further it's in the womb. Knocking at the cervix's door. Coming out of my mouth. It's like a pestle. Literally a pestle. Oh, my God. I think it might be having a baby thing.

It's just literally calling it's driving me mad because if I'm out and about and I cough my purse out, three times a day. That's a lot. It's a lot. Every time I'm a cough it out. They're like tampon size. What kind of tampon?

Like a lilt or like a super. Like a lilith. Yeah, they're tiny. They're like little bullets. Like an omega-3 tablet. Oh, no, they're bigger than that. They're big. They're much bigger than that.

Well, how much bigger? because I don't think there's much between a litter. Like that? That's about... Oh, that's bigger than an omega three tabberton. Yeah, Jesus. Are you swallowing that? Fuck.

Okay, yeah, no, fine. Yeah, it's just driving me mad. And it's so that's my bad. That was a lot, wasn't it? No, that's a lot. No, I'm right there, will you? I can make you feel better. So I'm on the period thing, right?

Still having it. Two things are happening to me. First of all, and I will have talked about this on the internet. I don't know. Let's see how Alex is feeling and how many... how many children I'm looking after. The ratio, let's see, before I'm not going to promise to make any content.

But I can't believe that women go through this world functioning at the same capacity as men, whilst we're also bleeding and in agony. But then also on this note, I keep thinking, and I'm feeling this rage, and I don't know why it's only been activated fully now. But my whole life, people have been like, oh, she's on the rag, she's grumpy, oh, she's at that time of the month. I know. Yeah, you fucking better believe it.

Yeah, of course she's grumpy. out of my vagina what do you mean yeah like what are you doing so i find myself incredibly grumpy about that and i can't believe i've taken it running down for so long and then i and then i'm angry i'm even angrier with myself because i keep thinking well this whole time i thought well i wouldn't talk about it because everyone gets period so i'm not going to bang on about it but then it's like well actually that's the fucking point that's exactly the point that's exactly why you should talk about it anyway so i've come i've come to it on a journey with that okay that's exciting but more specifically, and I said earlier, I have, I don't know how to explain. I've tried explaining

my period to Arlo. Oh, that's hard. That's tough. Yeah. Because I want to be a good, I want to be an honest mum. Yeah. We're proud of our bodies. Yeah. Being a woman is powerful. Yeah. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Yeah. Within that. Mm-hmm. It's a traumatizing spectacle if you're out at that height. Yeah. Yeah. Has she seen blood before? She has now. Because I guess, So she'll scraped her knee and stuff, right? And they don't like it. Yeah, I think it's an innate response to blood. We don't, I don't think we like it.

Even when she was first little, little, when I was in hospital sick when I was pregnant, and I had to have the cannulas so that I could have the IV and stuff. Whenever I had them, if she saw, if she was with me in the hospital or whenever I came home, if I had the cannula in my hand or in my arm, she hated it. Yeah. If I had the bruising, because my eye and stuff, where I didn't. was having the cannulism, was bruising really badly, and she hated those. So it's kind of, I felt like it's quite an innate thing.

It must be. That they don't like that. So I don't want to like, I don't know. I don't want to like, woo, you know what I mean? Because it's like, she's two. Yeah, yeah, no, I know. Oh my God, that's true. Because I'm like, I'm like, oh, it's good for her to get used to it.

But she's also quite a long way from periods. Like it is super good for her to get used to it. But in between now and then, she's got a lot of innocence to have. Yeah. But it's not that it's not an innocent thing. Yeah, that's really tough. I need to read about it because it's not like, it's not a bad thing. But then, you know, you don't want too much curiosity.

I also don't want her, one of my biggest things is if she goes and communicates it to somebody else, for example, I don't want them putting shame on her. I don't want somebody else's opinion of a period. I don't want the, oh, we don't talk about that. Or, ooh, that's dirty. Or that's, I don't want any of that conversation. I want to be the only one having. you don't want any shame around yeah but i can't guarantee that so if i teach her something that's not to say she's not going to go and have a conversation yeah someone else where they'll do you know

i mean i know i can't control that but that's really hard because because i actually i'm having i'm having flashbacks now too i remember i don't i have no idea what age i was but i was really little and i remember accidentally seeing on tv like a woman giving birth and they're being blood everywhere and that's stuck with me right tell me about how this accidentally happened i can't remember i really don't, I don't know, I can't remember. I know, I accidentally as in I wasn't supposed to be watching it, obviously. Mom wasn't like here in just 10 minutes while I make the dinner, watch this. It was like, I saw it. I don't know. It's like, mom was, I actually, I don't know, but I just remember it really sticking with me and being really scared of red food after that,

like really scared of red food. And it was, oh my God, it was a time where they like, I loved quavers, but they brought out like sun dried tomato quavers or something. And they would just make me cry because it just made me think of this scene with all this blood. So that's the thing. You don't want to traumatize them or give them less like. Yeah. I don't want to put her off quavers. No, quavers are just pretty in.

I haven't had a quaver in years. Like 10 years. I love covers. Yeah, I need to find a quaver on the way home. That's insane. Yeah, that's really interesting. I haven't really thought about that. What I said, and I'm probably going to have people listening to this, probably my new friend,

the psychologist, or the she'll have turned off because she'll have called the police. I've been like, we're not friends. She's so weird. Yeah. But what I thought, I was like, I don't, we don't really need to get into it, but I thought, because she can see my seed section scar, which she loves, because it's where her and Zanth were born. So I say, her and, her and Xanthi's first home was in mummy's tummy. And just like all homes, oh, this is, I've bought us full circle. Just like all homes, they need cleaning sometimes. So every so often, we just have to clean. Oh, it's like it's another job we just hate to do. You know what I mean? Another fucking job. But, yeah, every so often this home needs cleaning. And they just have to do a bit clear out like we do here sometimes. It's like taking the bins out. So it's just basically the same thing. So it's just, oh, like, Arlo and Zanthi's house is just having a clean.

And that's what period is. I have no idea if that was right. I don't think it's supposed to speak in euphemism, but I've done it now. Okay. What was I supposed to say, like, what uterus lining's shedding? Should be like, Mommy, what's the uterus? No, no, sorry. I was a bit taken off, taken by surprise, with a home being cleaned out.

But it's not wrong. No, it's not wrong. And we call it a tampon and we caught a period. You're not dancing around the... I was saying to you before, my friend, she's got three girls and her eldest, since she was really young, like helps her clean out her moon cup. Love.

Yeah. That's nice. Yeah. Yeah. I think I've just got to be chill. I think it is chill. I think I probably feel a bit weird, so I've got to stop feeling weird. I think your new friend needs to get in touch with you following this episode and give you

some advice. I don't think my new friends listen to this episode. Do not. I got a number though. But I can't be like, hey, I'm having my period. What shall I tell me? two-year-old about it. She'll be like, leave me alone.

Stop following me. Any advice, guys? Can you know? God knows I need it. Super interesting way. On all things mentioned thus far. Yeah, advice on every. Advice on how to change the sheets, please.

And don't give me any of the tried and tested hacks. Like, you stand on the bed and you, you pinch the, you pinch the, right? You said, I want advice, but don't give me a tried and tested hack. Okay, no, but not the common ones. Guys, give her off-the-wall suggestions that you've never tried that definitely won't work. because that's exactly what she's asked for. You're mean. In the meanwhile, if we could have, please, just for us, and because it's Christmas,

did you just video the whole process? And I'll send it to Sarah to put on socials. Thank you so much. I just want to. I'm going to try. I don't want it edited. Really hard. I just want you.

I want like. I'm going to be serious. It's going to be, I'm going to be concentrated. And I think we might inadvertently create the. best incentive for everyone listening and everybody watching because we can all then set ourselves the personal challenge if we upload it unedited has to be under 10 minutes mind i think oh it won't be under 10 minutes because it's on youtube then so we've got unlimited time and then everybody watching knows that they just have to do that there to ask within the time it took you to do it okay that's

okay watch this space happy christmas watch it for 45 minutes because i didn't do it last night because i couldn't face it so tonight i'm going to change the sheets and look forward to the video guys I cannot. If that's not your next demo mattress ad, then you're just wasted in this industry. I know. Guys, we will see you on Monday. Thanks for joining us.

Love you. Thank you. Bye. Should I delete that as part of the ACAST creator network?