Sibling Revelry with Kate Hudson and Oliver Hudson - Kate and Oliver Answer YOUR Questions

Episode Date: May 27, 2024

Kate and Oliver open up about their fights, their vulnerabilities, and even therapy sessions that didn't help when they were butting heads. Plus, they talk about the one thing that is taking over their personal lives and what they want to do about it!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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we're breaking down the very interesting ways psychology applies to real life, like why we crave external validation. I find it so interesting that we are so quick to believe others' judgments of us and not our own judgment of ourselves. So according to the study, not being liked actually creates similar pain levels as real life physical pain. I'll learn more about the psychology of everyday life and, of course, your 20s, this September,

Listen to the psychology of your 20s on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Kate Hudson. And my name is Oliver Hudson. We wanted to do something that highlighted our relationship. And what it's like to be siblings. We are a sibling rivalry. No, no. Don't do that with your mouth.

Sibling, revelry. That's good. All right, I'm very excited. This is a solo episodeo. Yeah, I think this is our first solo episode, right? I think so. I don't think we've done one. I think we're kind of overdue for this.

We are. There's a lot to chat about. Well, there's, you know, you, you popped this thing on me before we, you know, we just finished with an episode with somebody. And then before we were doing that episode, you were like, oh, I started reading the Alan Carr. I thought you were going to see the smoking thing because Alan Carr did the smoking. Yes. But I guess he did a drinking book. Well, he's done a few how to stop books, you know.

And there were two of them in the drinking space, which was how to quit drinking. And then there's how to sort of moderate drinking. I'm assuming you want to moderate? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Is it because when you start, it's like you drink too much? No, I just think I, when I do drink, I maybe drink too much and I don't feel good.

And then. Right. Well, you've always had that. Yeah. Since you were young. You know, you drink, you don't. you usually don't feel. It's almost like you admit it might have a little bit of an allergy.

Maybe, but I just know that when I work out and I wake up and I feel good and I don't drink, I feel great. Oh, great. Yeah. Well, alcohol is not great for you. I don't know if you know this. I mean, it's alcohol in moderation, obviously, you know. Yes. But like if you're drinking daily.

Right. And sometimes I. Great. I get into a habitual pattern. Right. You know, it's like 5 o'clock. It's 5.30 or 6. I sit down on my little chair and I put my computer on my lab.

And I like have a cocktail. Yeah. And then I look up the fishing reports and I'm like, whew. Like, I'm loving my life right now. Yeah. And then I wake up in the morning. I don't, I need to cut it. Just cut it off.

I think actually. I think, yeah. Be more moderate. Right. Not stop. I have because. Yeah, you're not really. I just don't want to drink as much.

I have a friend who recently just decided to stop drinking. He just was like, I've done a lot of drinking in my day. Like, I'm just going to stop for a bit and see I feel. And like, it went from like two weeks to a month to like three months. And I was like, are you sober? And he's like, no, I just now I'm in this like, it's almost like I'm competitive with myself. Like if I have a drink, then like. It starts over.

Over. It's shit, right? Done. Yeah. No, I know. So, but he was saying that he feels the best he's felt in years. That is true. Yeah.

Because I'll go, you know, 10 days or whatever. Like, I'll go 10 days. It's incredible. How great you feel. But then there's the flip side of like, I miss that like feeling of sit down, having a couple cocktails. I know, but why can't you do both? I can.

That's why I'm, here it lies. That's my Alan Carring. Yeah. I think Alan Carr is one thing. But it's also just about, this is one of the things that I always get asked all the time. It's like, how do you balance your life? How do you balance, you know, your career and kids? How do you balance like your career and kids and working out and food?

And the thing is like this lifestyle concept, like the concept of living a certain lifestyle really exists best when things are in moderation the second you start stressing over anything is is is where things start to become and balanced I think this is just my own dumb theory so you can you can take no it might be good it might be not but you know so for me it's like you know is it about okay the super regimented you need to be like very structured and regimented I would want to go deeper and to trying to understand what it is in their life that's caused them to have to have so much structure in order to live healthy versus people that can, you know, have a very like normal routine and sit in it and have ease and, you know, I think there's like, I think

there's a way that we can balance our lives where we're not kind of trying to overthink things yeah and then then when you get into that sort of like excessive like hedonistic approach of like i need everything like i need oh my god consumption of all vices yeah that's also uh just it's an imbalance yeah oh so what is that with how do we create balance without having to feel the stress of like oh i'm not doing it right or you know and i think That is, that's the sweet spot. Yes. Right.

I agree. And it's hard. Well, everyone's a little bit different. Some people need more structure. I think for me, structure is better. When I can structure out my day and say, I'm going to do this, this, this, this got a podcast. I'm going to meditate at this time. I'm going to write in my journal here.

I'm going to sit down and write for an hour. And then once that time is up, if I keep going great, if not done it, I got the kids. And there's an accomplishment, you know, idle time is no good. We're just sitting around. You know, I need structure. That's better for me. And it's just about, it's going back to the drinking. It's having like one or two drinks.

You know what I mean? And now having like 10. Oh, well, maybe you are an alcoholic. No, I mean, not 10, but like, you know, you get in, you're boring and they're like, I know. I was thinking about this the other day and now we're talking about, I know, like, I posted this like stupid thing right and I was like dancing and I literally

was dancing in my in my in my gym to I was putting on all my old favorite songs like I posted it like not thinking about what it was right it was just like fun I thought it was I think it's funny right

it's like us right it's our thing being stupid and I realize that things like that get the most attention yeah the most likes Yeah. And then like the random people who are like, have don't, they don't understand it at all. The sense of humor or what it is.

They just, they don't get like having fun. Everyone has an opinion. Everybody has something to say, you know, comparing you to other people. And you realize like, oh, this is just, people are just bored. Yeah. And the bottom line. is that it's sad because we really we really should be celebrating people's like openness and and and you know we should just be celebrating each other yeah 100% and then there's but there's

so many there's 330 million people in America and then more in the world obviously and so you're going to get cross sections of all kinds of people who are going to look at that or look at some of the things that I'd say and be like, hey, no, he's just speaking him's truth, whatever. The fact that it matters is problematic, meaning like there's a lot of things in the world that really matter for us to be focusing on, right? For one to really be honing in on. And when anyone's focus becomes something that ridiculous, it's kind of problematic. because it's like, you know, that's what grabs the interest of somebody.

And if that's really what's grabbing somebody's interests, like, our world is really spirally. You know, and so it kind of highlights, it kind of highlights this sort of microscope that everyone thinks they're under. they forget like nobody's under a microse just like live your life just have fun yeah see what you want to say yeah if you're if you know in your life that you are living a good you're a good person if you're living a healthy life if you're a good person if your goal is to make people feel good happy if you're if you're raising your children the best you know how putting you're all to it. If you're working as hard as you possibly can, then

you're winning. Period. It doesn't matter what anyone chooses to see or how they choose to see it. What matters is that that is that is the absolute best thing you could be doing

in your life. And like even kids, the pressure that kids are feeling with social media and they're looking, like all of the stuff, we have created a disaster of people like only seeing themselves through these other lenses when really they should feel the freedom of just seeing it through their own lens and not worrying about what other people think yeah because social media is interesting sort of creating clones like I see a thousand

of wilders walking down the street you know the hair and the clings the whole thing we had that too that's just like also but now I think it's just it's just it's It's just spread, you know. Yeah. Just because it's all the trends. It's all the stuff. I mean, Rio knows way more music, current music than I do. Songs come on.

She's singing and working for work. What is this? Yeah. It's just in the world. YouTube Reels or whatever the hell is nowadays, you know? Yeah. I think the biggest thing for our wellness is to shut these things off. Mm-hmm.

I think the one thing we're missing. in the home for a lot of families is that five o'clock dinner time. Yeah. That, where families gather, where you have to eat, you have to talk about, you're kind of forced to talk about the day, you're forced to gather out of sustenance. I know. But that sustenance of the family unit, no matter what your family unit looks like, doesn't matter if it's some antiquated concept of family unit,

has to be husband-wife kids could be whatever it is. That unit, that time is where you shut down and you connect. And like, I think that that is it is like when people talk about wellness, like family dinner, even if it's like with your friends

on college, like, hey guys, every day on Thursday, we gather at this person's dorm room and we sit with our, you know, ramen and we're going to. And the phones go away. Like, that's the thing that's missing. And I read this great article, I think is in the Atlanta or something, about the dumb phone,

that they're all like on the rise. That's awesome. And it's the flip phone. Yeah. That they're on the rise because people are putting their smartphones away because it's too distracting to their life. And people who are getting on the dumb phones, the flip phones, the ones that don't have basically a computer. Yes. to it are finding that they're significantly happier, way less anxious.

So basically they use it for phone calls, like not even text. Like, let's say you're going out with your family to dinner. Yeah. You take your dumb phone. Yeah. And the only way someone can read, it's like texts, like only you're really like, I mean, you can use it however you want. You have business on there too.

But you're not going to be doing like emails and shit when you're on your dump phone. Right. Someone has to call you to be like, hey man, sorry to just turn your dinner. but you really got a call so-and-so because they're waiting for your call. I love it. And so when you're sitting there with your family, instead of talking to, instead of going like, oh, wait, let me look and, hey, let's look on our phone to see, like, what's going on over here. You're actually forced to just completely be present with your family.

I like the dumb phone. I know. I think that they should only allow those in school. Yeah. Is there a market for the dump phone? Yes. It's like booming. Like the dumb phone's becoming a cool thing.

I'm going to give my kids the dump phone. I'm taking their phones away from them for school. It might be fun to see what I think we should do that for for for the new for for for for for back to school. Yeah. And see what happens. The first month of school. we're going to give all of the Hudson kids the dumb phone and they can leave their iPhone

and when they get home they can get back on their iPhone I like it but the phone to me is almost a sense of anxiety these days where you're looking at it's like oh my God like it's so nice when it's not near you oh yeah email emails are are that's why I like my computer better well that's but I've only started looking at them. I've done this thing now. I think it's different for people who work in different fields. Right, sure. Okay, so, so if I, like,

if I was day to day on any of my businesses, I wouldn't be able to, nobody cannot look at their emails and run a business. Like, it's just, that's just insane, right? But as a creative person who has to, like, learn lines, be on set, be present, like, create characters, or when I'm writing, like, music or whatever. I have to, I have to, that has to go away.

So I've kind of had to create days that are my business days. That's what I've been doing lately. I, I change it up all the time to see what works. Lately I'm like, Monday is my office day. And I do all my emails and I do all my stuff. And then I basically let everybody know that I will not be looking at my email. Yeah. Yeah.

Well, you're also working now. I hate them so much. I know. I don't. But you're working. You've got to learn lines. You can shut it down easier. You have better excuses. Oh, God. That's hard to shut it down. Will you promise me? No. That you will. Promise. Yeah, you have promise. Let's just, let's just, let's make this pact that even if it lasts a week for the kids, that we are going to get them from school. So from like eight to three. In September, we're going to have a little get back to school gift with them. We're going to get them all flip Nokia's that are quite different now.

They're like newer and other things. And we're going to be like, you guys are going to start a trend in school and you're going to be the cool kids go to flip phones. So you're going to have a dumb phone from eight to three. And then you can have your iPhone when you come home. your iPhones left at home. Yeah. When you go to school. I like it.

I'll do it. Okay. I'll do it. I'll do it. And then we can talk about it. That'll be fun. Around October next this year. But do we have to have dumb phone?

I'm getting a dumb phone. Because I want to go to dinner with my family and not have my cell phone. Right. Not have my smartphone. Yeah. I want to be in Greece with you guys with a dumb phone. Yeah. I get the other pictures

It might be in the pictures And it might be nice to like I'm going to sit out and look at the news No it's not You know what Let's try Let's try to make it cool for the kids And get Nokia flip phones

By the way Those were cool back in the day And the next thing you know At Christmas time we're going to get them pagers I know Just keep going back and back and back and back By the way, the pay for the pager.

The pager would be really cool. If they all have pagers, there's no way. Yeah, like doctors do. Doctors, of course, but those whole role is a pageer's a great idea

because you can actually get to your kids in class. You can like text them one, four, three. Yeah, I'm going to look into the pager. But you can text them on their phones, too. Yeah, but they can't bring their phones in class.

The page they can look at all. The page they can look at all. page or they can look down and see a number 187 like I'll kill you we're like heckling our kids in class

I do like we like you know it's like 3008 8 5 we get called in to the administration they're like oh like Kate

we gotta talk about this like we're just having so much fun okay I like this conversation I feel like I overtook it. I feel like I talked the whole time. That's good. It's good.

I feel like you needed. I'm down to do the dumb phone without a doubt. And then as far as my alcohol is, goes, this like Alan Carr does the smoking thing, you read the book. And then when you're done with it, you sort of just drink when you're reading the book. And then when you're done with it, you know, then you have moderated your drinking or you have a better idea of why you. should. Okay. The thing is, I can stop drinking, meaning I like it, but if I say, I'm not going to drink for seven days, it's not a hard thing. I just don't drink for seven days. Right. It's more lifestyle. Yeah, it's more lifestyle, more volume. Like, I have a couple

glasses of wine. Don't drink the whole bottle. Right. I know what I get going. I have like two glasses. I have a whole family. It's like, let's go, or laughing and nang and nang. But when we're together, that's kind of what happened. No, I know. But I know what you're saying. Like, You wish you could just have like two glasses or glass and a half. That's an apple wine. It's good. And then you're good. A bupah, pop, pop.

Yeah. Okay, well, let's do, okay, let's see what happens. Yeah. September always feels like the start of something new, whether it's back to school, new projects, or just a fresh season. It's the perfect time to start dreaming about your next adventure. I love that feeling of possibility, thinking about where to go next, what kind of place will stay in, and how to make it feel like home.

I'm already imagining the kind of Airbnb that would make the trip unforgettable, somewhere with charm, character, and a little local flavor. If you're planning to be away this September, why not consider hosting your home on Airbnb while you're gone? Your home could be the highlight of someone else's trip, a cozy place to land, a space that helps them feel like a local. And with Airbnb's co-host feature, you can hire a local co-host to help with everything from managing bookings to making sure your home is guest ready. Find a co-host at Airbnb.ca slash host. I had this overwhelming sensation that I had to call it right then. And I just hit call, said, you know, hey, I'm Jacob Schick. I'm the CEO of One Tribe Foundation.

And I just wanted to call on and let her know there's a lot of people battling some of the very same things you're battling. And there is help out there. The Good Stuff Podcast Season 2 takes a deep look into One Tribe Foundation, a non-profit fighting suicide in the veteran community. September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so join host Jacob and Ashley Schick as they bring you to the front lines of One Tribe's mission. I was married to a combat army veteran, and he actually took his own life to suicide.

One Tribe saved my life twice. There's a lot of love that flows through this place, and it's sincere. Now it's a personal mission. I wouldn't have to go to any more funerals, you know. I got blown up on a React mission. And I ended up having amputation below the knee of my right leg and a traumatic brain injury because I landed on my head. Welcome to Season 2 of the Good Stuff. Listen to the Good Stuff podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

Hi, I'm Jennifer Lopez. And in the new season of the Overcover podcast, I'm taking you on an exciting journey of self-reflection. Am I ready to enter this new part of my life? Like, am I ready to be in a relationship? Am I ready to have kids and to really just devote myself and my time? I wanted to be successful on my own, not just because of who my mom is. Like, I felt like I needed to be better or work twice as hard as she did. Join me for conversations about healing and growth. Life is freaking hard. And growth doesn't happen in comfort.

It happens in motion, even when you're hurting. All from one of my favorite spaces, The Kitchen. Honestly, these are going to come out so freaking amazing. Be a part of my new chapter and listen to the new season of the Overcomper. podcast as part of the MyCultura podcast network on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. So we asked some of our listeners to ask questions, and now we're going to answer them. Next time you had a great idea. I want to get their audio reporting. Yeah, which is fun. So we get it. It would really be fun to do live, but that might be

a little nuts. Oh, I would love that. We'd like take sounds. Yeah, it's like Jenna Rochester from Albany, Texas. They're on the air with Kate Oliver. That's like Ryan Sechrest. Isn't Ryan Cicrest? Yeah. I mean, he's got a whole setup. You know, but it would be fun

to do live call. It would be hysterical. I think we should do that. We should go totally off the rail. We should do that. Okay, this is from Susie. Susie's question is, how long have you gone without talking to each other because of a disagreement. Great

question. Not long, but there was a moment where I was like I was not having it with my brothers. Me too. What? Yeah. When? I don't want to say. What are you talking about?

I was just not having it with you at some point. When? I don't know, a few years ago. Where was I? in England? No. Was that in town? Was that even around?

No. We were together. It was a deal situation. Oh, yeah. I was not having you. And then similarly, it seems that it was just everything, yours was work related and mine was work related, right? Because you said brother's plural.

Right. So it's sort of a work related thing, both of them, both separate, but it seemed to be. work out or how you're feeling still um god susy why did you have to bring this up no no no um honestly fine um but but i i think to answer susy's question being the only girl is probably more challenging with disagreements especially if it's family related then never had a disagreement where we have not spoken to each other that is a more of an emotional personal thing to be honest I think that as communicative as we are we're not that communicative I well we had a therapy

session we did yes and I got nothing out I feel like it's hard for you to confront things you're not exactly like you don't like talking about stuff i don't i'm not a very talking it out you don't like talking it out i can go off the rails i know yeah and it's like instead of just like actively listening and then you know what you know what we should do you know we should do which be really good is dr john gotman for like love relationships they also do it for family yes have this active listening uh tool which is you write everything thing that you can't say anything well that's how i communicate best and so well no you have to no it's not i'm out no you you basically if i'm like okay this is how i feel when you did this and you have to write

every word out of what i'm saying to you and you can't say anything you then have to repeat you have to read it read it out you know when this happened you felt like this and then you you validate as you go along. So if I say, you know, when that happened, I felt so alone, then you'd have to go, I totally, I really understand why you would feel alone. Even if I don't. No, no. If you don't, then you don't validate it, you know, but you don't try to tell someone

how they're supposed to feel or that they shouldn't feel that way. Right. And usually that doesn't happen. But I understand that concept for sure. but aren't people's feelings sometimes irrational even though you might feel that way or I might feel that way you respect that it's that person's feelings but what if those feelings are like well dude I mean I respect that you feel that way but you're not right well that wouldn't work I'm just saying that that's how that's how you think that's not what you would say no it's

more like it's more like okay so that that's the first part of the of the tool And then after that, there's a series of questions. And part of that is, is there anything about this that triggers anything from your childhood or that is there a reason why you're more, you know, sensitive to these things or something I should know about? And you would go, yeah, because like growing up when, you know, I don't know, this happened with that, this person in my life, it made me feel like this. And so I'm very sensitive to that.

So instead of it being like, oh, your feelings are irrational, you kind of get to know the person. And you do this with like your family? You can do it with your relationship. You can do it with your family. You can do it with even like a business partner. But it's really in conflict. So it's like, okay, I need to, I need to, I have to talk this out with you. And it allows the other person to act.

listen versus defend because you're sort of forced into this right it's really honestly it's like in a relationship it's fucking amazing and you do it when you're calm and everything's good and right you kind of look at it and you're like oh yeah and it brings you closer you get to know people deeper right you know that's good all right i'll try susy thanks we're going to figure out that disagreement because you just brought up that we haven't. Once this episode ends, no words, I'm just getting in my car and getting out of here.

September always feels like the start of something new, whether it's back to school, new projects, or just a fresh season. It's the perfect time to start dreaming about your next adventure. I love that feeling of possibility, thinking about where to go next, what kind of place we'll stay in,

and how to make it feel like home. I'm already imagining the kind of Airbnb that would make the trip unforgettable, somewhere with charm, character, and a little local flavor. If you're planning to be away this September, why not consider hosting your home on Airbnb while you're gone? Your home could be the highlight of someone else's trip,

a cozy place to land, a space that helps them feel like a local. And with Airbnb's co-host feature, you can hire a local co-host to help with everything from managing bookings to making sure your home is guest ready. Find a co-host at Airbnb.ca slash host. The Super Secret Bestie Club podcast season four is here. And we're locked in.

That means more juicy chisement. Terrible love advice. Evil spells to cast on your ex. No, no, no, no, we're not doing that this season. Oh, well, this season, we're leveling up. Each episode will feature a special Bestie, and you're not going to want to miss it. Get in here! Today we have a very special guest with us.

Our new super secret bestie is The Deva of the People. The Deva of the People. I'm just like text your ex. My theory is that if you need to figure out that the stove is hot, go and touch it. Go and figure it out for yourself. Okay. That's us.

That's us. My name is Curley. And I'm Maya. In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreak, men, and, of course, our favorite secrets. Listen to the Super Secret Bestie Club as a part of the Michael Tura Podcast Network available on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I had this overwhelming sensation that I had to call it right then. And I just hit call.

I said, you know, hey, I'm Jacob Schick. I'm the CEO of One Tribe Foundation. And I just want to call on and let her know there's a lot of people battling some of the very same things you're battling. And there is help out there. The Good Stuff Podcast Season 2 takes a deep look into One Tribe Foundation. a non-profit fighting suicide in the veteran community. September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so join host Jacob and Ashley Schick

as they bring you to the front lines of One Tribe's mission. I was married to a combat army veteran, and he actually took his own mark to suicide. One Tribe saved my life twice. There's a lot of love that flows through this place, and it's sincere. Now it's a personal mission. Don't have to go to any more funerals, you know. I got blown up on a React mission.

I ended up having amputation below the knee of my right leg and the traumatic brain injury because I landed on my head. Welcome to Season 2 of the Good Stuff. Listen to the Good Stuff podcast on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Okay, you do the next one on. I'm Alexis. How do I try to relate to my brother that's eight years older than me?

I'm a 24-year-old girl, and we don't have a lot in common. Oh, well, that's actually probably for me. answer because I have a brother that's seven years younger. And there was actually a time where I felt like, not that we didn't have anything in common. I actually feel like I have a lot in common with Wyatt. But I just felt like I didn't feel close to him because we were so far apart in age and hadn't spent a lot of time together. So I feel like I think that you have to make an effort. When you're 20, that means he's 32, right?

Yeah. Years older. An effort has to be made. Yeah. Or as having a lot in common. It sounds like you've got to find out what you have in common, really sort of get together. I also think these are moments where you being vulnerable matters. Where you can say your brother, like, I want to feel closer to you.

You know, I want to feel more connected. I miss you. And I want to get to know you better. and I like that Yeah I think that's great Because like I think that's the hardest part For anyone is to just be that

It's fucking hard To be vulnerable Yeah It's not easy Yeah I mean especially for me Maybe men I don't know

But I think that's a good I think that's a good You know Because you might not have a lot in common I mean But I guess if your siblings You do have a lot in common

Like the very foundation of your childhood is similar and that's a huge commonality. You can build things as well if you're willing to. Yeah, I would say that would be my advice is to actually just be vulnerable and say, you know, I've been thinking a lot about this and I know you're 32 and I'm 24 and we're in different like seasons of our life, but I really want to get to know you better and be closer. What is this whole seasons thing?

the different seasons of your life you know sometimes season can change from day to day that's right that's the whole point of the words no no seasons aren't like a day to day seasons are like where you are in your life like in one moment you're single and you know in this place and then the next

you know you're in the a grieving season because someone passes you're the next year in you know a divorce season Like a time in your life Yeah Well time where things are happening That are like really changing

A season means Yeah Changing seasons Yeah you don't want you I can tell about your face You hate that I don't know all the mindful buzzwords Sometimes get I don't know

I don't know but it's good I like it because I just come in and out of season every Every other day I mean so what do you call that Well What season are you in right now? Oh, I'm in my, I'm in my, I'm in a big changing season.

For me, mine is like coming into that place where I really like am putting myself out there creatively. And that's big for me because I feel very exposed. Like having my first interview about the album was like I left and I had I had to like really kind of like remember like okay fuck it I'm doing this for a reason I have to put myself out but more yeah yeah yeah but it feels exposed right for people just to be like you know as they do anyway yeah judge and I know what I mean but like yeah so anyway okay um this is for you okay from okay Kendall Kate as a sister

how do you tell your brother to have better hygiene without hurting his health? I'll answer this. She doesn't care of her to her feelings. All of your fucking breath spinks. There you go. Right there.

Yeah, we're not very sensitive with those things. No, no, no, no. I want to be told straight up. I wouldn't want to be sensitive about it. It's your brother or your sister or whatever. If something's bad, say, hey.

Yeah, like if I go in. Your teeth are fucking yellow. Or, like, you need to get your shit together. Right. Yeah. You smell. You know both of the box. What's going on here?

Like, get a fucking facial. Do something. I don't know. I don't know. What are these shoes? Get new shoes. Yeah, I'm super, I'm super honest. I think to answer the question, you will not hurt his feelings if you're being honest.

But if he's sensitive, because, I mean, there are. we also aren't very sensitive about those things. If he has a sensitive spirit, then I would say, you know, I love you and I want you to like be in your best self and I just have to tell you

that you have to get your you have to brush your teeth. Like it's driving me crazy. Or you're doing it in a humorous way. You know, there's a way to lighten the mood maybe. Yeah, take him to coffee and go I'm taking you to coffee to tell you that you're disgusting.

All right. Or you just ask him a simple question to say, when you go and sit on the toilet to take a poop, do you smell your butt before anything comes out? Ew. Why would you say that? Because then you know his bad hygiene because he doesn't wash his butt in a while.

Oh, why didn't you have to go to the butt of all hygiene? That's disgusting. I don't know. No, but here, honestly, the thing about hygiene is it does reflect someone's mental, state as well. Like people who aren't showering or aren't like brushing their hair or you know, they're not putting, you know, I don't even brush my hair in my life. No, but I mean like, you know, like, for women, I understand my brother, but like for women, like you can tell when

someone is not feeling good about themselves. So like if that's what's happening, then I think that it's a bigger conversation than just like, you know, Oliver and, you know, I don't know. Right, I, like being out fishing, right, like not, stinking. Yeah. I would just say, use humor, be direct, see what happens. Okay. From Emma. Yeah.

How would you handle if you don't like your siblings significant? Oh, we don't have that. I know, we don't have that. That would be a tough. That's brutal. That would suck. That would be really rough. I mean, I don't know.

I don't know what. We have the best. All of the in-law? Yeah, or yeah, in-law, sisters and brothers. Everybody, like, even the families love each other. Yeah, it's pretty, we got lucky. You definitely got lucky, but I don't know. I don't know what I would do.

Imagine if you were married or with someone who I just did not like when I'm like this person and stuff. How do you deal with that? I'd probably leave him. You would? Yeah, my family didn't like the guy. I'd be like, this isn't. Yeah.

I feel like a lot I don't know that's a tough one okay from a different perspective how would you handle it if you don't like your sub you know what I would say

what would you say I can't stand your wife I'd be like Oliver Oliver she's terrible I really would I'd be like I don't know what you're doing like she's so mean

or or like how do you connect with her she's like How would you, what if I'm, what if I'm like, hey, I'm sorry, you don't like her. I appreciate that, but I'm in love and this is, I don't know what the fuck you want me to do. So you're going to have to deal with it. And how are you going to deal with her?

I'd probably tell her. You'd just be like, you need to be nicer. I probably would just go up to the sister-in-law and go, here's the deal. I love my brother. I have a hard time of you. And I don't know what that is. I hope it changes. But I think you're kind of mean sometimes.

I don't know. I'm making these up. Or like, or like you don't get our sense of humor as a family or really funny. Or how about I don't like how you berate my brother or I don't like how you boss my brother around. It bugs me. And it and I have a problem with it. So I just want you to know that. And let's have a good Thanksgiving.

Enjoy the cranberry. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. See, you. I think honesty is the best. You were very direct that way. I would probably cold shouldered a little bit.

You know what I mean? God, it's too passive. It's passive, aggressive, but I'd be like, I don't want to deal with it. So I'm not going to, you know, I'm not going to fake it. But I'm going to kind of be like, oh, yeah, yeah, okay. Because what am I going to accomplish by telling the significant other than I don't like them? Oh, well, I think it just, it's like, it's not like you don't like them. You're saying I have a hard time with this.

And so, you know, I want you to know when I don't want to talk to you. It's because you're bothered. If you want to get to know me and understand why I don't like this, like, I remember one time I had to say to my friend of mine's husband, I didn't like the way he was talking to her. And I said, in front of them. I said, I'm going to stop you guys. If you're going to talk to my friend this way, you need to get out of my house. I love you guys. but like I'm not doing that

right because I by the way you might love it you guys might love this but like I can't sit here and watch my friend get spoken to like that and he actually took it really well

he was like I'm so sorry and I was like yeah I just honestly like this isn't fun for me this is supposed to be a party so like no and and that's my girl that's my girlfriend

and she might not be in a place to stand up for self, but you're in my house, so I'm going to do that. And I do that to my brothers, too, even if you were mad at me, I'd be like, I'm sorry, I don't, I'm this, I don't like this. Or you send, I'd send an anonymous letter to the significant other, just saying, leave someone so or you're dead. Oh my God. I would also like to do that. And then I'd be like, okay, and I'd like put on like the Rolling Stones.

I'd be like, let's party. Okay, that was so fun. We should do those more on. 100%. I like how the quick they are like, bang, bang, bang. Yeah. You know what I mean?

They're not like the long emails, which is fun too. Yeah. But these are like the quick questions. Like they're almost rapid fire from me and you. Yeah. Which I really enjoyed. Thank you guys for sending you in.

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