Simple Swedish Podcast - #277 - Härskartekniker (domination techniques)

Episode Date: April 14, 2025

Nivå: A2-B1 Idag pratar vi om begreppet härskartekniker. Det är några olika tekniker för att dominera och manipulera andra människor till underkastelse. Ofta händer det på ett diskret sätt. Men om man har lärt sig om det här blir det mycket lättare att identifiera! Har du blivit utsatt för härskartekniker någon gång?  -------------------- Länk till Language Gym - Träna dig till flytande svenska med 100+ konversationslektioner i månaden Klicka här för att bli patron för bara 5€ per månad och få transkript till alla avsnitt  -------------------- Transkript   Hallå hallå och välkommen till Simple Swedish Podcast. Ja, idag ska vi prata om ett intressant ämne och det är härskartekniker. Vad är härskartekniker? Det här är ett psykologiskt begrepp och det handlar om manipulation. Först innan vi börjar ska jag tacka några nya patrons. Det är Erdem, Yurdagül, Michal, Veronika, och Emanuela. Så tack till er för att ni stödjer podden och om det finns någon annan som vill bli patron så kostar det bara 5 euro per månad och då får man transkript till alla avsnitt. Alla, ja, nu är det 277 avsnitt som man får tillgång till när man är patron och stödjer den här podden. Och det är speciellt bra kanske för dig som fortfarande tycker att det är lite svårt att följa med i det som jag säger. Då är det perfekt med transkript och ett bra sätt att använda det på är att först lyssna bara och försöka förstå så mycket som möjligt bara genom att lyssna. Och sen studera transkriptet och se till så att man förstår det mesta och sen lyssna igen. För då kommer du förstå mycket, mycket mer. Så gå till patreon.com/swedishlinguist och bli patron. Så, det var det. Så nu ska vi prata om härskartekniker. Okej, så vad är härskartekniker? Så härskartekniker, det är olika sätt som människor använder ibland för att manipulera och för att få makt över andra människor och ofta utan att det märks så tydligt. Så man vill helst göra det lite diskret så att folk kanske inte riktigt märker det.   ....för resten av transkriptet klicka här!

Hello and welcome to Simple Swedish Podcast. Today we are going to talk about an interesting topic, and that is the rules of the game. What are Herrskartekniker? This is a psychological term and it's about manipulation Before we start, I want to thank some new Patrons It's Erdem, Jorda-Ul, Jordagull, or... Oh, I don't need these headphones on me in the first place. Sorry, it's Erdem, Jordagull, Michelle, Veronica and Emanuela. So thank you for supporting the podcast. If there is anyone else who when you are a patron and support this podcast. If you think it's a little difficult to follow along with what I say, then it's perfect with transcripts. And a good way to use it is to first listen only and try to understand as much as possible just by listening

And then study the transcript And make sure you understand most of it And then listen again Because then you will understand much much more So go to patreon.com slash Swedish Linguist and become a patron So, that was that, so now we will talk about rules and techniques, ok?

So, what are rules and techniques? Rules and techniques are different ways that people use sometimes to manipulate and to gain power over other people and often without it being noticed so clearly. So you would rather do it a little discreetly so that people may not really notice it. This expression, Herrskarteknik, was coined by a Norwegian psychologist named Ingjald Nissen. He was a Norwegian politician Ås. And it was like that she noticed that the male politicians, her male colleagues, they had certain specific things for themselves. For example, she noticed that when they were sitting at a meeting and she was talking, it happened that they, for example, they did things that showed that what she said wasn't that important. So the way they communicated, things they did and so on. And she started im imitate these behaviors.

Okay, so she started to imitate what they did. So for example, she could go and get coffee when someone was talking. Or start to like, to get into something, to get into something, like that you, well, you, yeah, get into something, to do something, something else, and not have full focus on the person who is. Okay, and then she noticed that people started listening more to her and listening more to what she said and her opinions and so on. Pretty interesting. So she wrote about this

and she gave names to five, let's see, five or seven, I don't know, five, seven, we're going to go through them now. And by learning these techniques, or understanding them, then she and her female colleagues could support each other by understanding this and communicating with each other. So we are going to go through, it's not five but seven, the rules and that Hondo gave names to. And that's what they often talk about. First and foremost, a ruler. What is a ruler? A ruler is a person who rules, who is perhaps a king, or a president, or regent of some kind, who is at the top and has all the people under him. It has a negative sound, because it sounds like you're exploiting your power position. That you have too much power.

A ruler. So a master technique is... It sounds like... I want to be... I want to be a master. Like... So! Then we will go through these techniques. So number one is... Invisible doing.

So that you... Yes... Make someone invisible, so that the person is not visible. To make someone invisible. And that is when you are ignored or ignored. That means that you choose everyone except you you act as if you don't exist, as if you don't exist, you are invisible for example, that you say something at a meeting but people don't react.

They just ignore you or just don't react, ignore you and so on. Then maybe another person says the same thing and that person gets reactions, people listen and so on. But if the whole group has just ignored you and not listened, it seems like you are not there, then it's like they're making you invisible. And that can be a control technique. And we're also going to talk about counter strategies. Strategies to handle this. So a counter strategy can be to take place with your body, take place with your voice and say that

I said that 10 minutes ago. No one reacted, but I said it, but I said it. So, yeah, invisible doing. Number 2, making fun of someone. Making fun of someone. Funny, it's... If I'm funny, it's like I'm... I mean, you don't take yourself too seriously. You're like, how ridiculous you are. I can't take you seriously.

You don't know what you're talking about. That's just stupid. Løylig, silly in English, you could say. So that you make someone laugh means that I make you look silly, that I make you look silly, you could say. That you maybe joke about your food, like I joke about you, but in a not so pleasant way, maybe. Or you make fun of someone, that you are teasing someone. I try to make you feel stupid.

I make you feel stupid. For example. For example, you have an idea. You tell about your idea and the other person just laughs and just ask what you mean by that. Why do you say that? feel stupid, not feel ridiculous, but just just, calm, normal, okay what do you mean by that? why do you say that? yeah

so that was ridiculous, okay number three withholding of information so that you withhold information. You do not give all information. I mean, everyone else gets this information, but not you. So I have given the information to everyone else, but not to you. It means that I have kept that information from you so

it means that you don't have the same chance to do a good job you don't know as much and so on for example You don't know as much, etc. For example, a meeting has been moved, so you have changed day, changed time at a meeting. Everyone knows except you, and you come too late, or you miss the meeting, and then you get criticism for it. So that is a rule technique. And a counter strategy can be that you simply require transparency.

You demand transparency, that you demand to get the same information, that you say, I want the same information as everyone else. to withhold information. Number four is double punishment. That you get punished twice for something. So that you get criticism no matter what you do. For example, it's not that you get punished twice, but that you get punished no matter what you do. So it could be that if you talk a lot, you get criticism, but you also get criticism if you are quiet and don't talk, for example. So you get criticism no matter what you do. If you talk a lot or if you are quiet, you get criticism in both cases. So then you get double punished. So for example, I might tell you that you are not sufficiently engaged, you have to be more committed. And then you commit, and then I say that you take too much space, you have to give other people space.

So you are too committed, so you get criticism for both of them. And a counter strategy can be that you show that you would engage me more and that is what I actually do. What do you really want? You communicate it openly and say it openly and show it to the others as well. So that was double punishment Number 5 is guilt and shame the the act of guilt and shame

that you give someone guilt and shame so that I get you to feel guilt or shame Okay, so At jag får dig At känner skuld eller skam Och att du har gjort fel fast att Du kanske inte alls har gjort något fel så ja, men Du du gör alltid fel och du har gjort det här fel och du så det liksom men You always do wrong, and you have done this wrong, and you...

But then you can go against the strategy. You might have to practice beforehand little before you talk to the ruler about this. You have to answer and say that this was not my job, it was your job. And now it sounds to you like I've done wrong. Even though it wasn't my job, it was your job. So why does it sound like I'm wrong? So. So that was the introduction of guilt and shame. Then we have number 6, objectification.

So that you make a person, that you objectify someone. So instead of talking about what someone does, they talk about appearance or gender. For example, if someone is a man or a woman or how they look. For example, you are holding a presentation and someone comments on your appearance, i.e. how you look instead of the presentation itself. And a counter strategy for that could be to move the focus to what is important. So you can ask the question, for example, Okay, but how do you perceive what I'm saying? What do you think about what I'm saying? And so on. So that you move away from the focus from the outlook or whatever it may be. And that was objectification. And the last one is violence and threat of violence.

Violence, for example, it can be physical violence or psychological violence. Physical violence is that you might hit someone or do something physically or mentally. You simply hurt someone. Or threat of violence, that you say something. It sounds like something can happen. So that someone scares you with their body, with their voice or hits you on the table. Or says, now you should think about what you're saying now. It's a threat, you could say.

Yes. Now I almost got it. A counter strategy is to ask other people to support you. And, yes, to disarm the ruler. To disarm. To disarm someone is to take away that person's weapon. Simply disarming. And that can be done by asking other people for support in that situation. So that was the seven rules techniques.

And sometimes it's not quite clear if you get constructive criticism or if it is a dominant technique for certain things I think that these examples are pretty clear They are quite clear. So if it's about any of these, then it's probably a rule technique. But sometimes people talk about rule techniques, although they may only get constructive criticism. But if you listen to these, you can probably think about real situations. And it would be interesting to hear if you have any experience of master techniques

If you have been exposed to master techniques If it has happened to you If you have personal experiences So you can comment about it Feel free to comment on that. And well, I hope that this has been an interesting episode for you. See you next time. Bye!