Simple Swedish Podcast - #283 - Det vi ångrar mest på vår dödsbädd

Episode Date: June 4, 2025

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Hello there and welcome to episode 283 of Simple Swedish Podcast. Today we will talk about what people regret on their deathbed. What do people wish they had done in their life when they were going to die? And I think that is a very interesting topic for everyday life. We are very absorbed, we are very distracted, we are in routines and habits. And we don't always think about what is actually important in life But when you are on your deathbed, I think it becomes very clear very clear. There are certain specific things that almost everyone regrets when they are going to die. So I think it can be very important and interesting to know and to think about. Before we start with that, I would like to thank a couple of new Patrons. Carol and Erkin. Thanks to you two for supporting the podcast. We are grateful for your support.

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And yes Now we will go to today's topic which is What do people regret regret their death. So when people are going to die soon, what makes them regret that they did or did not do in life. What do they wish they had done differently. And I think it is important to think about this. Because this is what is important in life.

It's not often that we stop and really think about what is really important in life. But when you are on your deathbed, you know it, you see it clearly. And I have used an article from The Guardian. This article comes from a person called Boniware. I don't know if I have written it wrong. She was a nurse in Australia and she worked for many years with people who were dying. She worked with people who were going to die soon. People who only had a few weeks left to live. She wrote about what these people told.

She wrote in a blog, and this blog became popular. And then she wrote a book called The Top 5 Regions. And she wrote about the called The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. The top 5 things that people die of. The 5 most common things that people mourn before they die. And she says that many people got a very

clear and wise view of life when life is almost over. And when she asked what these people regretted, these five things were the most common ones. Yes. So, number 1, the most common thing people regret when they are on their deathbed, was that I wish I had the courage to live my own life and not the life other people wanted me to live

the most common thing is that you wish you lived your own life do what I want to do with my life not what other people want me to do with my life. So when people soon, when you are soon to die then there are a lot of people who look back at their lives and realize that they did not follow their dreams.

Many did not even do half of what they wanted to do. Not even half of their dreams had they done. And instead they did things that were expected of them. The society expects you to do this and that. It's very easy to just do what is expected of you. What people expect, what society expects and not what you actually want to do

and I personally, I really try to do what I want to do to do what I want to do. One expression, or a quote, that I like is Live life as if no one's watching. And that is almost impossible to do, but I try to do what I want to do. And not what others expect me to do. So that was number one, the most common Number two is I wish I hadn't worked so much And this was clearly mostly men who said

It was almost all men who said this. They worked so hard that they missed their children's upbringing. They missed time with their partner. partner and yes there were also many women who also said this that they wanted that they had that they had not worked so much but yes because yes this was people from an older generation older generation, it was more common for men to say that. Because in that generation, there were more men who worked a lot. But it's the most common thing that people say, that they wished they hadn't worked so much, so that they missed the upbringing of the children, they would miss quality time with the family and stuff. And I'm thinking a little bit about that right now, because I work quite a lot. But... Well... It's also... I'm also building something

And I don't have any children yet So when I get children, I hope I can work less Of course So... Number 3 The third most common thing people say on their deathbed. So you show your feelings, you dare to talk about how you feel. So many people don't dare to say what they really felt. Because you don't want to create conflict.

So you say nothing, you are quiet But the result was that they didn't live the life they wanted to live They often felt angry, bitter and some even got sick of keeping their feelings to themselves. If you keep your feelings to yourself too much, negative feelings, you can actually get sick of it and... yes... and then it's also the case that the more you hold on

the harder it gets to let go because it builds up and builds up and yes, it's important that you really let go because it builds up and builds up. It's important to be genuine and say it, to feel it. To take difficult conversations. I know that can be very difficult, but I also know that when you actually do it, when you actually take these difficult conversations, and you are open and honest and genuine,

then it feels very good afterwards, even if it can feel very difficult in the moment. So that was number three, that you wish you had the courage to show what you felt. Number four, the fourth most common thing people regret on their deathbed, is that I wish I had kept in touch with my friends. So many of these people realized late how important it was to have old friends. with old friends. Because you are busy with work, you are busy with family,

you are busy with... you are busy with... and you lose the contact with friends. But in the end when you

are about to die these people realize that they regret not putting more time and energy on their friendships. It's actually pretty hard to keep in touch with friends I notice now, now when I have a permanent relationship, a stable relationship and live together And we don't have any children yet, but I can imagine that you get children and it becomes a lot And it can be difficult to keep in touch with friends Because you don't have that much time and you have to create time But... People regret it later.

When you are about to die, many regret not keeping in touch with their friends. And then the last point, number 5 I wish I had allowed myself to be happy I wish I had allowed myself to be happy because many people didn't understand that you can actually choose to be happy They understood it very late

that you can actually choose to be happy. Because they were stuck in old habits, old fears and so on. To be stuck means that you are stuck, you can't get out, you can't get away, you're stuck in the same place, or you're stuck in the same situation, you can't get out of there. So they were stuck in old habits, in old fears and insecurities, and so on. And they pretended that everything was okay. But inside, inside, they wanted to laugh more, they wanted to do funny things. But they didn't do that. Because they didn't dare to be afraid or feel insecure or have, is very much a choice you make every day. And this is clearly very common, that you regret, that you don't let yourself be happy.

And I really try to think about this. Especially the last time actually. So it's very easy to be completely focused on your everyday life, your habits. You may have different goals, especially if you are an entrepreneur like me. You have certain goals and you work and work to achieve these goals and you have a daily routine and you are maybe very much on autopilot but you feel a lot of stress

and you distract yourself to not feel the stress but then you don't live in the present and you don't enjoy life but the fact is that you can actually enjoy life every day, all the time. You can allow yourself to be happy and content in the moment, every day. And a lot is about living in the now. The now is actually the only moment that exists. Because the present time does not exist anymore and the future does not exist yet. So you have to live in the moment to enjoy life.

Those were the five things people regret the most. One, I wish I had the courage to live my own life. I would have dared to live my own life, follow my dreams and not do what other people want and expect me to do. Two, I wish I hadn't worked so much so I would my children's upbringing, quality time with my partner and so on. 3. I wish I had dared to show what I felt and been open with how I feel. 4. I wish I had kept in touch with my friends and number 5 I wish I had allowed myself to be happy So when you hear these five points

is there any point that you think you would regret Say, if you continue to live the way you do now do you think you would regret any of these points? and in that case, which one? So please comment and write which point do you think you would regret if you continued to live as you do now because that can actually

make you realize things and it can give you a motivation to actually improve your life So I hope it was an interesting episode So see you and see you soon, have a good one!