Single Ladies In Your Area - Going To A Singles Event

Episode Date: January 11, 2026

Harriet and Amy bravely attempt yet another singles night in London and ask questions like: Does a group setting work to find love? Why are the men to women ratios never right? And how do you avoid being approached by a magician? We want to hear your dating stories! Email in at [e-mail] Single Ladies In Your Area on Instagram @singleladiespodRecorded and edited by Aniya Das for Plosive.Artwork by Welcome Studio. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oh, hello, this is Harriet Kemsley, and I'm very excited to be back on tour around the UK with my new show, Flusi. As listeners of the podcast will know, I am really trying my best to be a bit of a flusie, but it's not going particularly well. The dates are on sale now. It's going to be autumn 2026. For tickets and information, head to plosive.com.com. Hello, I'm Amy Glethal. And I'm Harriet Kemsley. We're both single and in our 30s. And we've found ourselves back on the dating scene. And the landscape has changed. Everyone has settled down. But we're back out there.

And we're desperately trying to figure out what the hell we should be doing. So we're going to speak to experts. Chat about dates we've been on. If we managed to get any. And share your tips and horror stories. So we all feel less alone. We might even get our exes on. Yeah, we'll see about that.

This is Single Ladies in your area. Hello. Hello. Hello. Are you okay? Yeah, we've been, we've been through something. It's only going to make us stronger. Yes, yes, it is.

It is. We went to our second singles event. We're averaging one a year. I think it might be one too much. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I feel, look, I feel proud of us that we did it.

Me too. Each time I feel sick. We felt a bit less sick this time. Yeah. But I think we should stop. I think we've got to stop. We've got to stop. at two.

It's too too many. Do you know what it is? The two that we've been to have been similar in structure and this structure does not work for us. No, no. And the structure that I'm talking about here, you're just saying, no, no, no.

And I get it. The structure that I don't think works for us is where it's a very slow process as in like you go in, on both occasions, you're sat at tables in groups and you're with that group for an hour. Everything in me wants to scream right now. I hate that.

I hate that. It felt like a position. I have not let myself be in since university. Like I do not like going places, having organised fun. I don't want to sit at a table and get to know people in a fake environment. It's everything that I hate.

And also you're just kind of threat. It's like you'll have like a project or something. But the project is do you want to make a life with me? And it's so horrible. It's so horrible. And I hate it so much. And I am kind of cross with myself for putting myself in that position. When in life I'm not putting myself in that position.

And it also, I feel so lucky that I found stand up and like doing things like this. Like it's so mad that like I feel so comfortable like talking here. But somewhere like that I just, I shut down. I become like polite small talks person until I just stop speaking and then I sit there and I don't know what to say and I don't know how to handle these situations and I'm never going to find my match in these situations

because I can't be myself. I will say you are in a uniquely difficult position in that I have never been with such a recognized celebrity before. From the sort of second we went in like our first interaction was someone going, like basically pointing in your face, going, I know you, I know you, from Netflix. And it's like, that's the wrong streamer, but yeah, yeah.

Don't worry, he came back and apologise later. He did, yeah. I'm so sorry, I got the wrong streamer. I don't care about the streamer. And this happened consistently and throughout the evening. My favourite, by favourite, I mean, the worst one was me and Harriet were talking. and a man walked behind me looking at Harriet and just said, sort of to know one,

and just went, famous person. And we sort of looked and he walked off. And then he came back later as well and he said, I apologise for my famous person to arrest. And it's like, yeah, do you know what? Like disrupting your evening once is annoying, but like, okay, fine. But then coming back to a podcast,

it's actually more annoying. Yeah. No one was being, no one handled it well. It's not even that. I didn't even, like I don't even mind that. It's what I hate more is just the setup. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But the small talk's harder when they're just going,

wherever he knew from. Because that's not like two people getting to know each other. That's a man frothing with excitement to be near you and saying stuff that they think is a positive, but he's actually like really socially kind of inappropriate when they're like, I didn't think you'd be here. I didn't think someone like you'd be here. Like someone like you, you should be with Bram Pitt.

Not with us scumbags. Oh, trust me. He doesn't walk me. So it's like I'm stuck with you guys. Yeah, it all felt so, like that all felt like so much. But it wasn't that. It wasn't even that. It was just the situation.

Like I just can't do organized fun. I can't do getting to know people in these manufactured kind of ways that go on for so long. It's the longevity. That's the killer for me. I have so many issues. Yeah. I have so many issues of it. It's a match.

Should we talk through the process? Let's talk through what happens. Let's talk through the process. So we had a lovely, a lovely dinner. We had a lovely dinner. It was like the last supper. Yeah. We knew something terrible was coming.

We didn't know who it would be. We had a lovely dinner with the team, the team at Plosive, and then they sent us on our way. And we felt so much less sick than last time. Yeah. Also because we felt so much less hopeful. Like that's... Yeah.

The first time I really was like, I think we might meet the loves of our lives. It's probably going to happen. And there was none of that. It was none of that. There was no hope. Yeah. But I was kind of, I guess I was hopeful for fun. Yeah.

I was hopeful for like a, just like a fun, chills. Silly old you. Sh, stupid idiot. Idiot, idiot, idiot, idiot. Yeah, should we hear what we had to say on the walk there? Okay, off we go through the bustling streets of London. Here we are. We're walking to the scene of the crime.

To our own deaths and demise. No, it's going to be fine It's going to be fine I feel just like very negative about it I'm sorry I don't want to put the negative energy on you You can put any negative energy down that you want I feel tired Yeah

But in a good way Like the last time we went to I was so nervous Yeah I had so much nervous energy I genuinely couldn't give a shit Yeah Harry I couldn't give a shit And it feels brilliant

I'm coming in with a really A bad bad vibe coming in with bad vibe that's where we're at you know that's where we're at and the only thing I'm sort of nervous by it's but I don't know what to expect yeah it's just so always putting yourself out there is so hard

it is isn't it it's just but I will say it must be getting easier because I'm just like this is definitely easier than last time like last time there we just it's so pathetic how much hope we had we were so just like giggling just like we could you know what if we need something and then now it's like there's none of that

I put so much effort into how I look yeah and today it's like, well, we've just done the podcast. We're both wearing trainers. We're both wearing trainers and socks. I almost brought a rook set. So it's, you know. Yeah, it is what it is.

Yeah, let's see if anyone can guess how this is going to go. Place your bets now. It's brilliant, though. Yeah. There's like probably 3% of me that's like, it might be brilliant. I know, I hate that part of me. Yeah, what an absolute loser. It's embarrassing.

Bye-bye. Okay. So you can hear from that. We're not positive. No. I feel bad because I feel like I bring a more negative thing. Like you bring so much. You're really good at it.

Like you're really good at like chatting to people and you bring like so much sunshine to it. And then I'm just like, I've got that owl vibe. Again, you know, like the owl at the sex party that's just like looking around and it's just like, oh my God. Whereas you are so, you are so good and I don't want to bring negativity to your doorstep. Don't be silly. Not at all. Not at all. I was sort of numb rather than I wasn't positive.

I was more just like, me. Yeah. Which I think, do you know what? I don't think that's actually, I think going into these situations more realistic than hopeful is probably in the long run better. Yeah. Because I think if you go in so giddy and hopeful, you're going to be crushed to a million tiny pieces.

You know what I think is better though in these situations? It's like to do like a hobby or to do something where you're like just going and, yeah. Like the one before where. We were saying that we had the pizza. Yeah. Like, you had some, like, great food at least. But, like, I think if you're having an activity, it's the sitting down and talking.

Let's go through the journey. Let's go through the journey. Yeah. Let's take ourselves back. Turn up. We looked in. It's scary. This moment is the scariest of the entire night.

And we came together. And we came together. So many people came on their own. Heroes. Genuinely so impressive. So we were, like, stood at the gate, looking through. There's like a whole. collection of people.

It looks nice, but it looks scary. Yeah. It's a scary thing. You get your tickets checked. You put on this absolutely illuminous band just to make you feel like an absolute loser. And you walk in and we walked past

lots and lots of big tables with A4 sheets of paper with names on. And it's like a sort of school dinners vibe and we was walking past. And we didn't see mine but we saw your name on one of the tables and it's like, oh, what does this mean? And then we got there,

went to get a drink. And we will say at this point, no drinks are included as far as we can see with the ticket price. Yeah. And they very kindly gave us free tickets. Yeah. But the tickets are £30 each. 33 pounds. Which is a lot of money.

Yeah. Maybe there was a free drink that I didn't know about. I don't think there was. I don't think there were any free drinks. And that's so much money for, I don't know what you got for that, apart from to walk into a bar, which you could do at any other place. Well, you got to sit to be people you didn't want to sit with. Yeah.

Well, I got on a table with all. women. Which is crazy. Women that were so nice, but like I barely get to spend time with my own friends. Yeah, I know. I know. Anyway, we'll get to that later. Yeah.

We got there. We're excited because they had like, those slushy drinks. We got like, and slushy margaritas. I spilt mine everywhere. From the morning, I hadn't been home, so I had my helmet. Watching Harriet clean up slushy margarita that was dripping into her bike helmet. I was like, this is perfect. Like, this is already perfect.

What on earth could make this better? I tell you what could make this better. A magic trick. A magic trick. Yeah. We met a really friendly, nice guy when we first got that. And he was so good at coming over and saying hi. Like, how hard is that to approach?

He was fantastic. I'm so impressed by people that can do this stuff. Yeah. They can walk into places and just go up to people. Because my instinct is always like a stranger, like, stay away. And I really, like, I really respect that. And then a magician approached. I think the problem is, I think that because...

Approached. It's like a predator. Like a bear. That is how I approach magicians. Don't look. Don't look. Don't look. Is it make yourself big to scare them?

Or is it a little to be dead? Me and Amy just drop to the ground. Is it looking? Has it gone? I think because we've done open mic comedy for so many years, we've had our fair share of magician interactions. Yeah. And this guy was actually, he was very sweet.

He was very sweet. But it is hard. not to have a prejudice against magicians. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm sorry, I'm magicianist. What can I say? Yeah. I don't trust them.

Yeah, I'm magaphyphobic. Yeah, why are they trying to trick us? I don't know, but he always trying to get me. But he did get you. He did get me. This is the thing, I'm so gullible. I have to try and build up a wall because otherwise I'll be sucked in

and I'll be a magician's assistant in Devon somewhere. It'll be a nightmare. I'd be getting cut in half every evening. I have to build a wall up. I was watching the trick. I was at a very different angle to you. So I could like see what was going on, bless him. And how are it?

I was like, she's putting in the performance of her life. Because she's doing gasping and that is my card. And I was like, oh wow. She's, I knew she should be a good actress. She's even better than like four. And then you're like, that was amazing. And I was like, oh, right. Oh, you.

Okay. Okay. Yeah. Could you not see all right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. This is why I have to protect myself against magicians. But he was sweet. And the guy that we started talking to,

I didn't know if maybe I liked him. There was a little bit of a vibe between you two. Do you think? There was a little bit of a vibe. Well, he's doing a little bit of like tapping on the arm. Like, ha, ha, ha, ha. He tapped him back. He had a cool job as well.

I thought back because they asked what you do, and then I said, stand up. And, like, usually my instinct is to just avoid the question or say nurse. But I know where that's got me before, and I know I could end up in... And you'd already been recognised about eight times before they asked. There was already a few men, like just, just, I could see them just staring. He's got Netflix.

Netflix. Netflix. Famous person. Netflix. No, it's actually, I'm... Netflix. So when the nice guy said to us both, what do you do? We both looked at each other and there was this pause, because I realized that I hadn't thought of my lie.

Yeah. And you realized you couldn't lie. So you said stand up. And also if you want to meet someone, you just have to say it. Otherwise, what two days later you have to say. I'm a stand up and the liar. Two terrible things I can't do on earth. Yeah, but in these environments it is weird.

Yeah. But he was nice. He was nice. Yeah. And I was like, oh, well, this is good. And then because this was like when we was just at the bar, I was like, Oh, well, I've already felt like he's maybe an option. It's like, this is cool.

This is going to be great. Been up too much this weekend. At half past seven on the dot, you are sent to your tables. Mine was far away from yours. Yeah. And I walked past my table. I did a loop. I walked back and I walked straight back to you.

It was like a child. Like I used to be at like birthday parties when I was in child. Just like, if my mom had been like, you go play over there. And I'd be like, yeah, I'll go play over there. Walk around and straight back to my mom. I walk straight back to your table. I was like standing kind of like, not behind you, but like kind of like just be over at you. And you looked really happy and you were doing so well just like chatting and you just were being so warm.

And I was like, I can't interrupt. I have to let her. Like in case she finds love. I can't like she's been matched with this table. Like this is her table. I can't. And so then I went and so then I was like, oh no. And so I was like, you've got to, then I was like, I can't walk out, I can't just leave her.

I can't leave her, I can't join her. I'm going to have to go and sit at my table. And then my table, it turned out, were just women. And they were great. They were great. But it was just, what is the point of this? I don't understand. Yeah.

And then a guy came over and he arrived with this like, look, he wasn't a bad guy, but his attitude felt slightly condescending that he was like, oh, I've just seen that you're a table just of women. So I thought I'd just come and, you know, like keep your company, even out the numbers a bit. And then he was like, yeah, I wasn't even meant to do this. But like, I got invited by the person that runs it, you know, to even out the numbers. She was worried there's not off people. So you're like, he's coming at it from like a position where he's like above us and is doing us a favor.

I just feel so cross for women that like firstly it should be, you should determine that it has to be like 50-50. Like it has to be if it's like straight women and straight men. Like that's what it should be. Because otherwise you're like paying this money. Yeah. And you're going to this place. And it's so disappointing. And you're being punished for being proactive in finding love

because men can't be bothered to do it. And then it's just making money out of something that statistically is difficult. And it's also like disheartening. And then for someone to come with that attitude, like, oh, I'm only here, like to do a favour. Like, I'm not actually in this with you. Also, he was a poet and, you know, I feel about poets.

Christ. They were all out that night. He was at a full moon. It was quite cool the way he did it. But yeah, I just again, I can't trust. them. Oh gosh. Well it's like you, and like you say like it's a lot of money. If you've paid 33 pounds to go into a bar to go into a bar. They said they set you up with people. How? I'm on a table with straight women. Yes. How is this? And there was a few tables like that because one of the

women on my table, she joined the table late because she'd been at a different table, the wrong table and she was like, well, that was just women. And I was like, oh, gay women. And she was like, no, all of us were straight. And every time another person came to sit down on the table and it was another straight woman, we're all like. What? Yeah. And it's a Friday, it's your Friday night. It's your Friday night.

It's precious. People have travelled. We spoke to a lady that had come from Essex. Yeah. And you just come with this hope and it just makes me cross. And I know that people, I think people go into it with good intentions. They're like, I want to set people up. Like, this is a lovely thing.

Yeah. 100%. I think you just, maybe shouldn't be on that scale or it needs to be a bit kind of. And you could go between the tables. But to have the balls to just go and sit at a table, I don't know. To have the ball. to get up from a table of women and go, I'm going to go where there's more sausage.

Like, excuse me, ladies, just mind if I sit here? Like, it's crazy, but also like on my table. Budget, love, let me sit next to this guy. On my table, it was mainly women. There were a few men. And the men were, like, nice. But I didn't, like, find them sexually.

I thought it was, like, good looking and stuff. I just didn't, there wasn't a spark there. It's a long time to be sat with either women you don't know. Yeah. Or men you're not attracted to. Yeah. You can tell so quick. You can tell within 10 seconds and it's like, oh great, so I'm here for an hour.

And it's the group set up. It's very difficult to forge a connection in a group, I think. Yeah, 100%. And also, on like long tables, you can kind of speak to the person who sat directly opposite you and either side of you. But like if you fancy someone down there, unless you get up and make such a, like a commercial, yeah. You're quite attractive.

Can I interrupt? Excuse me, do you mind interrupting this conversation? Like I don't think it makes it easier. I don't think it greases the social wheels in a way that you expect it to. I think it actually probably makes it harder. It is not often that I long for dating apps. Yeah. And I think, oh, this is better the one-on-one-ness,

the fact that you can click on somebody that you like. It's not, yeah, I will not go to one of these again. No. At least have like a worthwhile thing. Like you go do a hobby. You do something that you're interested in where you can come out and have like had a wholesome evening. It felt like there was a sadness.

I don't know. It felt a bit sad. It felt like a sort of family wedding. Do you know where it's all these people who are like, oh, you're my great cousin's partner, I guess I have to talk to you. Do you know when you're like, I don't want to be? Yeah, you're stuck on the table with the unmarried. Yeah. With the unmarried.

The whole place was full of it. It was like just 10 of those tables. Yeah. A wedding full of the misfits. It was a misfit wedding. And look, I had a brilliant conversation with a woman I sat next two. and a guy who sat opposite me and hopefully these two

because I really liked birthdays I'm praying that them to hit it off because they were just quite a good map and we could see some people that were we kind of went away and we sat in a corner for a bit and we just saw people like connecting well let's just say what did happen you did come over

I did come back I gave you at least like 40 minutes I think like I did give you time yeah and then I was like I just what happened is two guys did come and join that had moved from another table. They all made small talk and I just kind of sat there because I'm just so bad at it.

And then they said, what does everyone do? And the job went from each person. And the girl next to me had already said, I feel like I know you. It's really weird. And I went, oh, where are you from? And then we managed to do that. And then it, like, went round of what everyone's job was.

And then it turned to me. And then I just went, well, I've got to get out of here. And then I just, I was like, I've got to go fire my friends. And then I picked up my bag and my helmet. And like, it's like, I can't, I just can't, I can't, I can't. And also, because I'd not said anything funny or interesting. So then to say, I'm a comedian.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I felt so mad. Like I was like a lunatic. Yeah. And so, yeah, I just ran to you and then I kind of like stood behind you. And I was like, Amy, please, can I come to you? Because I can't do it. But it was perfect, actually, because then we went and sat on a little table by ourselves. And I got to leave these two people, which I think may have been a match on that.

And then I was kind of third wheeling their conversation. So I think it actually all worked out perfectly. And then probably my favourite moment of the evening was when we were sat at the table, approached by Emma. Emma. A lovely woman who, in a very funny turn of events, was like, I love your podcast.

We were like, oh my God. Sat in the corner as we always say that we're doing these places. And it was like, we're meant to be like inspiring people to go out and do it. And we're like, we've taken ourselves out of it. the activity was sat on the table drinking. But she was great. She'd gone on her own, so impressive.

Honestly, all of the people there that turned up on their own, or even, it's so impressive that they've done it. And like, I'm so proud of them for, because it's hard. It is. And I think, look, I think some people are built differently. Like, I am not good. Like, I went to university and I didn't live at university, but I, like, I did not make many friends.

Like, I'm not good unless I know people and I'm in a, an environment where I can interact, then, and I know the terms, like, then I'm fine, but like something like that is just not built for me. That's not how I, and I just learning that about myself, I think, was really good. Yeah. And just being like, oh, I could keep working on this aspect of myself. Or I've got to this stage in my life, maybe I just, this isn't for me, like, this isn't a thing. And I think there were some women who are confident.

And if you can go and be like, oh, this man is attractive, I will go speak to him. And if you are somebody that knows that you have that, then this is a way that would suit you. Yeah. But I just want to say. Like, I think outwardly you are really good at it, but you're obviously not enjoying it. And you shouldn't push yourself to do stuff that you're not enjoying. But Amy, you're so good at chatting to people.

And then I'm just like, oh, God, my drinks and my helmet. I'm just shutting down slowly. No, you were so good. But then, like, speaking to Emma, that was so lovely. But you're so much more patient. When, like, when it's us two and a guys coming up going, sorry, I got the wrong streamer, I can't hide, like, my face.

I can feel my feeling my feeling. facial expression being like, do you want to fuck off? They've done nothing wrong, but I'm just a bit like, oh, just go it. But you're so great. Well, that's an interaction I can kind of control maybe. It's like when I have to, I just don't know how to do. I can only share all my shame and stuff. That's the only way I know how to.

And it's not the place for it, you know, it's not the place. So, yeah, I think, yeah, speaking to Emma was so lovely. A single lady was there and that was so nice. That was so nice. I did like, when we came in, the lady it was running it that was like, look, you guys need to separate. Yes. And you need to do that. And I think if you were to go to something like this on your own, I do think you could thrive.

Like, every time we've gone to something like this, like, you're attracting, like, people, you know, like, you are good at it and able to do it. I'm comparing. Yeah. I'm comparing. Yeah. Yeah, you're hosting the event. I was getting, the only guy that I thought I'm like, I was getting him served at the bar. I'm like, I was facilitating again.

I can't like. Yeah. Maybe you could get a role like working for one of these countries. And then you dismay me love by chance, like through that. I was like, this guy's next at the bar, recommending dress of this other woman. And that must be a defence mechanism. Like that's me opting to not do it authentically. It's me opting to like take a side swerve at it.

But you do have like an energy that is so appealing. Like I can see where these guys are like approaching, you know, like. She looks easy. No, you have a warmth and you're like, you're bringing fun to it, whereas I'm just like peering. Like, you've got to get in there and sniff them. And so, yeah, I think it's just like with all this stuff, it's just good to know and not to be like, oh, it's me, you know, like I'm not. It's like, no, this just isn't an environment that I could meet somebody. That I would be relaxed enough or have the space to meet somebody.

But what we were saying is that maybe something like speed dating might be good where you're one-on-one with something. the D and you have like a little thing and then you're out. Like that actually... That's all you need. Maybe that's our next approach. I'd like to do that where it's just like, is it a good vibe? No. Never have a...

Ding, ding, ding, ding. Ding, ding, ding. Next, next, next. Yeah, they're like, you just sat down. Ding, ding, ding, ding. I can see a packet of cards in your top pocket. I know you're going to do a trick. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.

And then I end up. I'm like, Amy, I'm just going with this magician. No, Harry. But yeah, I let's do that. I'd like to try to be dating. Yeah, that's the next thing where, yeah, at least then it's like a one-on-one thing, the group thing I find very difficult.

The group thing's really hard. But then equally, it was really hard. When we walked in before we went to the tables, I feel like if I wasn't with you, I don't know what I would have done in that situation. I think I would have just, I would have got a drink and then I would have stood and I would have panicked and I would have felt all hot in my body

and I wouldn't know where to put my hands. And all I'd want to do is like check my phone out of like insecurity and not look at anyone. And I think that would be hell. But equally, going with a friend, if they hadn't put us on them tables, I wouldn't have left your side the entire night. Yeah, as you know, it's very difficult for me.

So it's like, I just don't think that's our method. Yeah, I think, like, being single at this time, and, like, I do feel like I am, like, on a journey and I'm trying to push myself. I'm trying to go to places on my own and do things like that that I'd never done before. But it almost felt like a form of, like, self-punishment, like going to this.

It was like, no, actually, you don't have. to just make yourself feel like sad. Like we did leave quite quickly. And there was going to be, there was going to be a band and stuff. And then I guess it's easier to approach because you're dancing and you know that everyone's single. That is the good thing. That is a good thing.

It's a bar where everyone is single. Yeah. It costs £33 to get into. That is the... But maybe that's just, maybe that's better. Just having a club night where you can only go for single. Yeah. Well, they do have that.

So maybe, oh God, maybe we go to that. I'd go to that. Yeah. But where there's no formalised. sitting down chatting. You just know that everyone's single, so you don't need to be like looking for wedding rings and then going having a nice chat with someone

and then they go, yeah, my wife and you go, oh, fuck off. Yeah. But then I find it so hard because if men approach you and they're talking to you, all I'm thinking is I'm not attracted to you but I know that that's why you're talking to me and I don't know what to do.

And so then I'm in these conversations where I'm like spiraling in my head because I don't know what to do. But how do you let them know that you don't like them? Maybe like a little flag or something. They should be a little flag. We should take some little flags saying, no, thank you, sir. Yeah.

No, thank you, sir. Yes, please, sir, yes. Yes, yes. Follow the flag. Red flag. Red flag. I'm just bathed in a red flag. But there's them traffic light parties, aren't there?

Did you ever do one at you? Yeah, yeah, where you were like green, your single orange. It's complicated. Red. You shouldn't be there. Just go home. Just go home. Yeah, what you're doing.

Show off. Also red is, um. more attractive colour as well. Yeah. If you're turning up in green. They're like a teladubb or something. The lepricorn. Dipsy is here.

No, I'm just very available. I'm a sexy available lady. The Jessica rabbits in red. Sorry, I'm taken. Yeah, so speed dating next, I think. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

Yeah, let's find another way of having a terrible evening. Yeah. But no, it was so nice with you. And then we went and had a dream. And we just sat on a table outside and it was so lovely. And it felt like, oh, wow, this is great. And then it was like, why are we, like, time is so precious. It's so hard because you want to meet someone.

But you feel so, like, disheartened. People were only there. Like, we left. And I was like, wow, we really put in a good shift. And you were like, we were there for an hour and a half. Oh, fuck. I thought it would be number three hours. You were there well over two hours.

And then we looked and you were like, no, it's half eight. Because we were like, woo. Oh, God, it must be midnight, 1 a.m. No, it's half past day. And maybe if we'd left and then we'd gone back again, like that is a different thing, maybe. But also, on the walk out, we had a little look around, and there were so few men, and of the men that were there,

and obviously this isn't the be all and end all, but I was like, oh, I don't think how, there's no one where I'm like, oh, I find you instantly physically attractive. And I know I don't find, like, tons of people physically attractive, and I can find people attractive via personality. alone. Much to our curse. Much to our fucking curse, these charming men. But, um... Yeah, I was just walking out like, I don't see anything happening with one of these four men at the event. Yeah. Yeah. So we didn't go back. But I did go on the

apps that night. Yeah, and I think that's good. It made me, yeah, it made me be like, oh, actually one-on-one dating where you're just like in it together. It's not like a weird, like, scramble. Yeah. I think that's really good. And I think I'm just going to do a video chat on an app to get that vibe. Yeah. Just to get that vibe because I actually

so I went on an app and matched with someone and we did a video chat for like five minutes and I was like no. Oh. I was like yes, yes? No.

Okay great. But we'd hardly chat and say do you want a video chat and I was like normally I'd be like no and I was like oh great I did not find you attractive perfect.

That was it it just wasn't attractive. Perfect. Great. So easy. Perfect. Otherwise, you spend like a whole time traveling there coming back. Yeah, it's done.

Yeah. Thank God. That's great. Yeah, because I've been on quite a few dates recently. But I go on first dates and then it kind of, like I kind of, I'm like, oh, I could kiss them. But it's like, oh, I don't think it's my person. But like, oh, maybe I'd kiss them. And then we text for a bit afterwards and then it just kind of fizzles out.

And often, like, I'll have sent a message, maybe not the most interesting message, but then they won't have replied to it. And then I'm like, I'm not messaging them again. Like, there's no way. I'm not chasing anybody. And so, but it's if you don't have a connection or any kind of thing, it's like it's hard to build something or like care from it, you know. Yeah, 100%. And it's confusing because they're like, oh, you know, like I'd like to see you again or whatever.

And then you're like, yeah, I guess. Maybe I'd see them again. And then when no plans are made, it's like, well, who. They've got to make the effort. They've got to make the effort. But then it's like, oh, but I guess it's a two-way street and I'm not putting in any effort whatsoever. But you've messaged. But I mess it and then they didn't reply to the message.

And so, yeah, I don't know. I just take that. That's on them. Oh, I'm not chasing anybody. I'm not doing anything. But then they've planned the first one maybe. And then maybe it's a, I don't know, I'm just learning. But I just think if it's your right person, then it's just easier maybe.

Or you have to put an effort in at the beginning. I don't know. We're working it out. We're working it out. Yeah. We're working it out. But we didn't find love that night. So I guess the podcast can go on.

I guess that's the positive. The podcast continues another day. Every morning I wake up, I think, is today the day. podcast ends. It never, ever is. Podcast. Season 72. They go to an old people's speed dating event at the Care Home.

Oh, God. It doesn't have to be this hard. And I don't want someone enough for that. No. To waste our precious evenings. Yes. Lovely to spend time with you. Love you spent time with you and your helmet.

Without. So weird. It's so weird that I didn't find love. Famous. Person, helmet. Okay. All right, let's get you out of here, hurry it. Hello, I'm Lucy Beaumont.

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