Smoke Sesh - influencers & edibles

Episode Date: December 14, 2021

Happy Tuesday everyone today Hannah talks home wreckers, edibles, quick money tips, influencers & follower count, birth control, setting boundaries, music and how to get over needing approval from your parents. Welcome to Smoke Sesh come hang out and let’s light up! Love you all

Listen, everybody needs a fairy godmother, you know, someone to look out for them. Some people call me their internet big sister, others their fairy smoke mother. You can call me Hannah, the new host of Smoke Sesh. So come hang out, let's light up and talk everything there is to life. Some good, the bad, the ugly, the embarrassing. I've got a story for it all. Welcome to Smoke Sesh, everybody. My name's Hannah, if you don't already know.

welcome it's wonderful to have you if you do already know and you're one of our 8 000 reoccurring listeners every fucking week welcome back it is wonderful to have you um it is currently 9 a.m on a tuesday i was really planning on fucking sleeping in today but i don't think that was really gonna work out so here i am i'm trying to get this out of my way so i can go do some Christmas shopping and do some other little things for myself do some tidying up today's technically my Monday um I worked all weekend so I'm just gonna spend I love spending like Sundays Mondays I know today is not Monday but theoretically in my mind it is time isn't real listen um I like spending those days to like recharge relax kind of rebalance myself if like

my room is a fucking mess and I have like no clothes to wear because they're all dirty I will like spend I'll get here's what I do I get belligerently high okay and people always are like Hannah how do I be productive after I smoke put your phone away put it away put that shit away because the thing is the only way you're getting distracted after you smoke is if you get distracted by your phone because that's the only thing I get distracted by if I'm getting distracted by something else it's me smoking and putting down my phone and realizing i need to clean for an hour because i'm so high and i just i'm not gonna think about it and i'm just gonna get it done does that make sense anyways our phones are literally made and created to be distractions

okay like they hand make all of these fucking apps like like tiktok like instagram like all these you know big apps so that they're addicting so that you cannot leave them and i i feel like especially when you smoke it's really easy to like sit down on your phone and then realize holy shit three hours gone by because they do it so well they make these apps really easy to just get lost in so you really do have to like put your phone down like put it the fuck away put it away put it so you won't touch it um I'll even go as far as like I'm not playing music on my off my phone I'm not playing my podcast off my phone I'll like stream it to I have like a Roku TV so I'll stream it to my TV so that if I want to change the music if I want to I don't know do

anything like that I won't even have to touch my phone I simply will just only interact with the TV because I know if I go over and touch my phone and I see like a little notification and then I'll check it out and then i'll oh well what's this and it's just a rabbit hole you know what i mean so if you're gonna smoke and you want to stay productive doing whatever it is that you are being productive put your phone away now smoking with academics i could never really be that productive with but smoking and like bettering myself oh 10 out of 10 so easy i love just getting belligerently high and like cleaning like deep cleaning it's like it's like my favorite thing to do it's like so fulfilling to my soul I don't know why but that and like journaling and

just doing little things to better myself I think that's what I'm gonna spend my day doing I have been wanting to go on a trip for like forever or I've been just wanting to do something and I live in Kansas City Missouri so there's not a whole lot to do so I was like I need like I just need to do something and I didn't know if I was like going to travel somewhere or if i needed to throw a party or like if i needed to get out i was like i need to do something though and i was talking to my co-worker and i was like oh new year's eve is coming up but she was like yeah oh my god new year's coming up what are you doing last new year's eve i threw like a little house party it was fun um but this year i was like i need to get to a

club I need to get to a club I haven't been to a club in forever like since the pandemic started I have not been to a club and I miss it I miss dancing I miss the fucking strobe lights I miss the drinks so I was like perf I'm just gonna get a table at my favorite club and we're gonna buy bottles all night and have a fucking blast I'm gonna invite all my friends out so I'm trying to see if I can work with the club to do some promotional work for them so maybe I'll be able to tell you guys where i'm going and you guys can come hang but i'm so excited i need to find a dress also i'm very stressed about that like me who i am i love expressing myself through fashion and like my clothes so like a new year's eve dress is quite literally like on the same level as like

a red carpet dress like i need something incredible something fantastic something brilliant something great and i don't know what that's gonna be because the table minimum is like 500 so i'm like girl you got a ball and a budget for a dress you cannot spend any more but i also probably will because why why do i have a job if i'm not gonna spend money you know what i mean but people are asking me if i'm excited for the holidays uh not really christmas is fun but only for the gift giving because i love giving gifts i'm more excited for new year's eve because i love getting fucked up all right we're gonna jump into this bitch um i had got a long question so i'm gonna read it to you right now and then i need to take a hit because we're about to get into it um

but um my question when oh uh how do you handle seeing someone you love and have feelings for in a relationship in my situation we were really close and had a bit of a thing before he got a girlfriend fast forward they're still together but super toxic and on and off and we are still quote-unquote friends and are in contact but the connection and chemistry is so intense and still there at one point we've told each other how we felt about each other but he was still with his girlfriend and have yet to act on anything or change bitches i read this and i was like this is a whole mess. No offense. No offense. But I don't know where to start. Okay, I'm gonna start with you. Because, um, love you. I'm sure you have the best intentions. Well, maybe not. You don't

want to be that girl. Okay? I don't care what kind of grasp this man has on you. I don't care how hot he is i don't care what he's done for you i don't care how much money he has you do not want to be the girl texting a man who is in a relationship okay like you said there were quote quotations around the friends so i have a feeling you don't want to be friends quite obviously saying you have both expressed to each other that you like each other you don't want to be the girl texting another guy while they're in a relationship because as much as he is going to convince you that oh you're different oh he doesn't love the girl he's currently with oh i can't wait to get out of this relationship and be with you he's gonna treat you the exact same he is treating

the girl that he is currently with okay okay let's get that straight i don't understand like has he cheated physically no but mentally he's pretty much cheating um he just said he doesn't want to be in a relationship with this girl what makes you think he's not going to do this again to you it's the same thing when people when girls will be like oh he cheated on her with me and now we're together what makes you think he's not going to cheat on you what makes you think you're going to change him what makes you think he's going to be a better person nothing you have to take the signs and the signals face value as they are and it sounds like he is not a good fucking person considering he is in a full-ass relationship no matter how toxic it is he's the toxic one for not

leaving straight up she can be as bitchy or whatever as he can think about her or she can be as toxic as she can possibly be but if he is not leaving that relationship and he is texting other girls on the side saying that he loves them and not the girl he is currently with there's a lot of immaturity there there is a lot of just overall i'm not ready to be in a relationship i can't emotionally handle it and i think you need to let this man go i also think you need to focus on yourself okay you don't need to chase this man the thrill of the chase will wear off once you get him and you'll realize probably how awful he is okay uh don't be the girl texting other other people's men don't be that girl i'm begging you you guys there's so

many men out there there's so many men out there so many you have no idea how many men there are like an absurd amount you don't need to go for one that's in a relationship okay i love you you deserve someone who's gonna pick you that first time okay when you were talking before the anyways yeah i just i'm very against the whole thing like if you have ulterior motives for a man do not be his friend that's just weird and snaky okay i've been in a relationship before where um the man has tried to play it off oh we're friends oh we're friends and it's like okay cool i know you're not friends and i'm very uncomfortable with her presence in your life because she has these ulterior motives the same way you do and it's very uncomfortable for the

girlfriend so quite honestly if i were you well you don't need to start drama but like tell this fucking bitch to leave this man and you need to give up that man as well okay there's no reason we need to be fighting with other girls about men literally ever that is you don't need to be fighting about a man ever quite honestly they're not ever gonna be worth that all right but you don't need to be the other bitch because you deserve more do you hear what i'm saying i'm hoping this all makes sense but so someone asked me how to make weed brownies um so let me tell you um i have had a lot a lot a lot a lot of experience um making brownies making making my fun little edible

brownies i used to used to keyword used to i don't recommend this also i'm cooking right now i need something to eat or else i'm gonna die um so ignore if there's any like random sounds in the background but i used to make and sell brownies in college to um afford college as one of my many um different things that I did to make a little bit of money on the side um that happened to be one of them for about a year and a half um so I spent a lot of nights making brownies now here's the thing it can be very very simple or it can be really really hard because the whole like brownie process like making the brownies is not the hard part anybody can just make brownies and have them taste good you know what I mean um you really just follow whatever your favorite

box recipe is or whatever your favorite um like homemade brownie recipe is but that's a little bit too intense intense straight up I'll just buy a box of the Ghirardelli um brownies the hard part about making brownies is the butter okay that's like the only hard part once you make the butter you can quite honestly make anything you've ever wanted it could be brownies it could be pasta it could be any sort of baked goods you could take a little teaspoon and stir it in your coffee in the morning like there are so many options um but personally for me right now my favorite thing is the levo oil machine um i did a partnership with them a while back on tiktok and they sent me an uh levo oil l-e-v-o and essentially what you do is you take your bud

or you can do i've done reclaim before um and it all the timing and the sensors and all that shit is already pre-figured out for you all you have to do is put your shit in there with whatever type of oil you want to infuse it with and then um you press start and like three hours later you have oil it's kind of insane now i really recommend like a real butter because the terpenes and um all that good cannabinoids are gonna bind really well to real butter like the fattier the better um also the brownies like come on you can make like unhealthy brownies like you can treat yourself um but yeah i love the leva oil now if you don't have a leva oil machine all you have to do is decarb your weed and then throw your weed in like a um crock pot

with some butter you put it through a cheesecloth strain out the weed and boom you got butter now that's a little bit harder because you have to stir it like every 20 minutes so it doesn't burn and you have to like constantly have your eye on it and that's just like a lot of work that i personally don't have time to put into edibles um you could probably find a reddit thread with all the correct measurements and shit if you really want to do it that way but quite honestly you can get like an oil machine for so cheap and just make it that way and then you constantly will have some on hand but i love edibles edibles is like my favorite way to kind of uh consume weed especially in high school and college because i couldn't smoke like in my house or in my dorm i

couldn't outwardly smoke weed because someone would come with a badge and arrest me um so i would eat a lot of edibles because you know smell proof you just sit down whatever easy peasy lemon squeezy the issue is it's really hard to dose edibles correctly so there are many times where I'm like I'll eat half a brownie and it won't be enough and there's many times where I'll be like I'll eat half a brownie and then it's like too much like craziness like I need to lay down and go to bed kind of situation you know what I mean so just be careful but also it's a fun little gamble i guess spice up your saturday night be like well i hope it goes well actually really funny story so last time i made edibles i made a cake and i made a smoke sash cake because i think

it hit like 300k on tiktok and i was like i want to make a cake this will be fun if you scroll back on my instagram you can see the uh pictures it's like a hot mess cake i love it um but i made it edible like an edible cake um and it was so cute I had a little slice you know I was feeling great I put the whole cake back in well I made it at my boyfriend's house so I put it back in his fridge and his roommate loves chocolate loves chocolate like a fiend there's chocolate in the house he will eat it it doesn't matter if it's yours or anybody else it's like gonna get eaten he went in there like late at night apparently and saw the uh chocolate cake you know didn't know it wasn't edible and he cut himself a giant ass slice of this chocolate cake ate it he said he was going

fucking through it he was like bitch you need to label these next time like oh my god i was like that's what you get for eating other people's food also you just got free weed so you should be thanking me but you know how edibles like edible trips can go real bad real quick I think it was going bad for him but goddamn so funny I haven't made edible sense really I probably should get back into it it's fun to bake I love baking like baking is so cathartic um it like especially like cooking and baking I will sit down for two hours to like make cupcakes a cake brownies whatever and i will not have one single thought the entire time like it's incredible i can just sit down and not think and bake and then at the end i have something sweet and delicious to eat

um i love cooking it is such a great like stress reliever or if you need something to kind of you need to forget about the world for a little bit and you probably shouldn't do drugs to forget about the world go bake yourself something okay go bake yourself something and then you can share out with your roommates or your friends or your family like it's a win-win situation quite honestly speaking of edibles someone asked me ways to go make quick money no i am not suggesting selling edibles i don't want to go to jail but i am also the queen of making cash very fast um when i'm in a little bit of a bind so here's some things that i've done to make money really quickly um buying and selling vintage clothes if you have like a closet that's overflowing sell half of it

you don't need most of it quite honestly just sell it get it out of your room poshmark depop do an instagram um story share or like story sale you'll make at least a hundred dollars in a day next if you're in college um i used to write people's essays for them i literally would charge like 200 an essay and i would not even proofread them i would just write the fucking essay and i knew they would probably get a b and i was solid um offer to write people's essays offer to do their work offer to do any of that sort of thing if anybody's like i don't want to do this be like i'll do it um here's my venmo literally that easy if you have any sort of like small skill now i don't think you should capitalize off of your hobbies and your small

skills but it's easy to if you're in a bind so if you're good at nails do people's nails quick money if you're good at makeup uh have a few people book makeup appointments for you it's uh christmas new year's eve coming up soon you can have them do it then um buying it i buy and sell a lot of random things though especially from the thrift store uh because i have a hoarding issue and um i will just go buy everything that i enjoy and then i will realize that i don't actually need half of it um art if you make art buy and sell art anything like that you can get creative with it you can make little clay cups you can do actual paintings you could do commission work i do a lot of commission work for art tattoo um tattoo commissions i do a lot of those

like drawings of actual tattooing I can't do that um anything like that it it's really easy to make money once you realize there's a lot of things around you you a don't need and you also realize that maybe there are certain skills that you can provide for people um also it's a holiday season and a lot of people are quitting their jobs so maybe pick up a little part-time job a part-time serving gig literally if you work maybe one friday night one saturday night a week if you really can't pick up too many shifts but you can work at least one night if you're a server that guarantees you at least one to three hundred to four hundred dollars you know what i mean like it's a lot of money even though it's one shift

a bottle girl position apply for one of those those bitches make so much fucking money and you know how i know they make so much money because my table for new year's eve is literally 500 minimum minimum i'm definitely going to spend more than that and then you have to pay 18 gratuity even though i'm obviously going to tip 20 um 18 gratuity is charged to the table so if i'm spending like six or six hundred dollars seven hundred dollars those bitches are making 18 well 20 for me because i'm obviously gonna tip well but like that is yeah easy so much money so quickly you know what the craziest fucking thing is okay do not ever let somebody's follower count influence how you feel about them okay and don't let other people influence you

based on their follower account because yesterday so i'm a server right yesterday going to work whatever i'm opening the restaurant setting up my uh manager comes in and is like oh my god apparently everybody's freaking out but there's some influencers who are supposed to be coming in and eating like our restaurant hired them or gave them a credit to come in and eat and try our food and promote us so we got to make sure we have like the best person like for serving them you know whatever they're like hannah can you serve that i was like yeah like why why are we freaking out what's going on who are these people is this charlie d'amelio she coming in he's like someone big coming in like what's happening and um you know going through my shift the two ladies pull

up the two influencers they are just like white suburban moms with a mom vlog I think and they sit down and my general manager comes in and she's like eating their ass essentially like don't don't don't don't don't it follower count literally means nothing it means nothing i do not want anybody to ever treat me the way that these people were treating these these influencers came in to eat at my restaurant okay because they were just normal ass human beings they were just normal ass like moms with a with a blog like come on why are you guys freaking out okay and then i was like maybe they have like hella followers like maybe they're gonna really really openly like super promote this stuff and so i do some deep diving some research i spot

her name on the back of her phone case i get on instagram i look it up like 4 000 followers and they just got a free meal and my general manager stopped by the restaurant to talk to them for like a long time and like sell them on our food girl if you don't go back home are you kidding me are you kidding me you are rolling out the red carpet for somebody who has 4 000 followers that's psychotic to me you shouldn't be rolling out the carpet red carpet for anybody based on follower count okay i literally told my general manager i was like girl if you need people to promote this place who are like actually gonna bring in people who might actually eat here like let me know because these mommy bloggers these white suburban mommy bloggers i work at like a

asian fusion restaurant they're not gonna like this place no offense all the people who work here have gauges and tattoos and dyed hair and it's obviously not their vibe it's fine we play music with cuss words in it it's fine that's okay but like you can cater to other people perhaps that aren't white and blonde and suburban very simple but it was literally mind-blowing to me i was like y'all are going to the ends of the fucking earth for this person because they're quote-unquote an influencer like y'all need to chill chill chill on the follower account freaking out also i've had people ask me if i've experienced different treatment because of like social media and I have and it's very weird it's because me as a person I see myself the same well I just

see myself as Hannah you know what I mean like I am always being myself I'm always trying to show up authentically I am still very much the same person I am now as I was with like what 800 followers on Instagram like nothing like I was just hanging I was just my close friends you know what I mean and I was perfectly content with that there was nothing wrong with that I'm still very much the same person as I was back then and the fact that people now treat me differently especially people I used to go to school with um like I would follow people that I went to school with and they simply would not follow me back because I I didn't have the right aesthetic I didn't have the right amount of followers like I don't know what I was quote-unquote doing wrong I really

wasn't doing anything wrong I was just being myself but I wasn't at their status quote-unquote uh yet so they like would not follow me back they would not interact with me but now that I have apparently a lot of followers oh yeah followed me back right away immediately like it's crazy you should never treat anybody differently based on their follower account okay that is so surface level that literally has no influence on what kind of person that is at all okay stop letting these influencers get to your head i'm literally a human being like people would consider me an influencer i guess i would consider me sorry the hiccups an influencer but like they're just straight up human beings and you have to treat them that way because it's weird if you don't

like, they are not celebrities, they are not, I am not a celebrity, I am so far from a celebrity, like, the influencer culture needs to die, quite honestly, it's, it's mind-blowing, anyways, yeah, that happened at work yesterday, and I was like, what are we doing, what are we doing with, with our time, and they tip me well, so, like, shout out, love them, I hope they promoted our restaurant well, I love that, um, I don't really give a fuck who eats from my restaurant as long as they tip me, um well and she did so thank you but previously apparently our restaurant has worked with um influencers before but i have waited on a table and she was talking to me and she's like yeah i'm an influencer and they gave us this gift card to try out their restaurant so i wanted to come here

and use our use our gift card um so we could promote it because essentially what the restaurant's doing is giving out free money so you can come and promote um and now the gift card you know covers about a hundred dollars worth of the meal but at the end of the meal they usually spend over so there's like a ten dollar credit card charge you're supposed to tip on that full bill right no matter if you use a credit card or if you use a um a gift card you're supposed to tip on the full price of the meal right this bitch tipped me like three dollars and left she tipped on her credit card charge after I just served them for two hours and their child like that doesn't look good on you I don't care how high and mighty you think you are you simply have to tip people like I don't give a

fuck if you're an influencer and to be fair I thought these other influencers were gonna come in and not tip me well but I don't give a fuck because they tip me well so period anyways okay interesting question but someone asked me about birth control have i ever been on it what do i use like everything about that and we might do a deep dive real quick ladies because this is a very important topic and not a lot of young women get the right birth control information first of all they don't even teach us any birth control in school if you're a man the only thing they're gonna teach you is condoms if you're a woman the only thing they're gonna teach you is don't have sex literally which is psychotic because that's simply not gonna happen

teenagers are little horny demons and like 20 year olds are little horny demons and they're gonna fuck okay i don't know who convinced this american education system that they're not gonna fuck but they're gonna fuck and if you don't teach them correctly they're gonna fucking get pregnant so let me teach you how to not get pregnant real quick you plan b should not be your form of birth control let me say that again plan b should be a last resort situation i understand it's easy i understand it's a quick fix but it fucks with your hormones and your reproductive system at a horrible horrible level it also fucks with your brain chemistry a little bit okay that's probably why you feel shitty after taking a plan b for a bit you feel gross you feel lethargic you

feel like kind of those period pms symptoms um it's because your body's hormones are freaking out straight up you shouldn't plan b is great love it if it's a last resort situation i know there's bitches who are eating plan b every week that is going to fuck you up severely in the long run okay if you're not using a condom you need a backup form of birth control actually use a condom but you should also have birth control on top of that i've been on the pill and iud i was on the pill in high school um they prescribed me the pill for my acne which was very odd i think the pill gave me severe depression because with the pill um so essentially i'm not good at taking medication on a timely manner if you are good at you know your alarm goes off it's seven o'clock you got

to take your birth control you immediately get up you take it every single day i think and you don't you don't skip those placebo pills then i think birth control pills are a great option for you great option i'm not that bitch i'm completely forgetful half the time i don't even remember i also all didn't even set an alarm so my hormones were completely fucked the fuck up because i was just playing with them i was just taking a pill whenever i fucking remembered which is not at the same time because you cannot regulate your hormones physically the same way that your body can regulate hormones and I think it made me super super depressed because my hormones were all out of whack because I wasn't taking the pill correctly now did it keep me from getting pregnant

yes it did or I'm infertile uh we'll get into that now uh I realized the pill was really really fucking me up like mentally um making me very suicidal making me not happy making me have just being a quite honestly a cunt to be around if i can say that frankly i was a cunt um so i got off of that for about a year no birth control um and then i moved on to the iud now there's many other different forms of birth control i you need to look in to what is best for you and what is best for your hormones and what is best for your schedule and what is best for the type of sex you're having okay everybody has different types of sex some people like to get come came on some people like to get come inside some people don't have sex a lot some people have a lot of sex

whatever you're doing make sure that your birth control is going to protect you in whatever situation you're getting yourself into um for me personally i need an iud well i thought the iud was the best option for me it's a low i got the skyla which is um smaller it's very small i looked into the copper iud because it was 10 years of protection um it's just very big compared to the skyla like in actual size and i didn't know if it was gonna fit well inside my uterus for some reason in my mind i was like i think i have a small uterus she could be a gaping giant uterus who knows but i was like the smaller is probably the better so you got the skyla it protects me for three years okay and um i literally got it inside of me and i have not thought about it once

well that's not true i occasionally freak myself out thinking i'm pregnant um but literally all you got to do is um stick your fingers inside yo you feel around you'll feel a little piece of like fishing wire that comes out of your cervix as long as that fishing wire wire is still like sticking out of your cervix then you know it's still like in place and still working as long as you can feel that every once in a while you're chilling now here's the thing medical procedures for women And especially birth control has not been well researched and women have not been well advocated for. And so there are very, very traumatic medical procedures in place for women at this time. Now, I know that in the medical community, specifically women of color, are completely distreated by the medical community.

That is not fair at all. But with the IUD, what I have realized is that like all women are pretty much treated unfairly because men have thought that the cervix, there's no pain receptors in the cervix. So I was forced to sit on a table for like 10 minutes while they stuck like metal rods through my cervix which is extremely extremely painful not to scare you from getting birth control because I want to be completely honest with you and the experiences that I went through but it was very traumatic it was the worst pain I have ever fucking felt whenever I explained to my boyfriend how bad this pain was that I went through I explained to him it's like taking a pencil and shoving it down your pee hole like a man's dick it that is exactly what it feels like

and they're expecting you to lay still and not cry and scream and pass out i finished that procedure and the doctor looks at me and goes wow you did really good um most people pass out that should not be the response from a medical procedure especially a medical procedure that they can quite honestly easily give you pain medication for or anesthesia for very simple I have my qualms with IUDs it was completely only mostly for the insertion process that was really painful if I get another IUD I believe I will probably go under anesthesia to get it this time but other than that I've loved it I've loved it literally incredible my my periods are very normal they're like light they're very average i don't have crazy pms symptoms um and i haven't gotten

pregnant so i'm pretty fucking happy you know what i mean i have friends who have had the nuva ring i've had friends who have had the implant um i feel like all birth control forms are very valid you need to do the research that is best for you and also you do need to be on birth control probably if you're fucking also here's the thing i do say you need to be on birth control and i feel like it's a very valid um answer like if you are a woman you should probably protect yourself with birth control um if it was up to me and like i wasn't fucking anybody i would obviously not be on birth control ever at all like no birth control would enter my body um i think birth control also in general is very harmful to women's hormones in their reproductive

systems and there's not enough research that has gone into the different types of birth control and what kind of effects they have on women and their bodies and that's a little scary but please step one is protecting yourself from obviously children okay and birth control is not gonna protect you from std so you do need to use a condom and get tested safe sex it's a very important thing so someone asked me how do i let my partner or friend know that they've crossed a boundary in a kind and calm way i love this question i think it's very valid um we talked um one of my episodes about cutting people off and how i i believe some people cut people off as a trauma response like i'm gonna um cut ties with you and leave you before you can hurt me again and that is like

no no we don't need to do that like i love this question because it's understanding that people can mess up and that's okay um we just need to be able to communicate with them that hey i didn't enjoy this can you please not do it again um and that's it's really easy to communicate um well it's not uh communication is hard but when it comes down to it it's pretty easy all you gotta do figure out what boundary that they crossed um don't text it to them don't call i mean unless you're like long distance but if you can get with them in person sit down hey i want to talk to you about something that um i noticed explain to them the situation how it made you feel and why you don't want to feel that way again and what they

can do next time if they want to follow through and continue being in your life then like you guys can work something out and have a mutual conversation but if it's something that they don't want to work on don't want to do maybe it's something you need to reevaluate and either a lose them or b i guess put your priorities aside that's up to you i can't make that decision but it's really easy if you just figure out what boundary they cost you sit down hey i didn't like the way this made me feel can you do this next time i love you very simple it's very simple if uh you are communicating a boundary very calmly collectively you're asking them to maybe change their behavior in a way and they freak out and they get crazy that's a whole separate issue

and that is a them issue um but usually if you just approach them nicely people are very understanding and they're like okay great i will uh change my behavior very simply also why the fuck are women the ones who are required to get birth control like what why is it our fault i know i get pregnant but the eggs are inside me 24 god i'm seven it's because the sperm gets inside me that i then get pregnant so i think it should be a men's job to completely and utterly uh get birth control like think about it you get put under for a vasectomy it leaves a tiny little scar and it's reversible it doesn't change anything literally you still operate and function completely normally except for you aren't going to get somebody pregnant and it's reversible

it's reversible i don't think men can actually get vasectomies until they're like 22 23 but i think male birth control should actually absolutely be more of an option because i do think birth control is in some sort of way harmful to reproductive systems and like no birth control for women is obviously obviously the best choice but that's not gonna happen because i know y'all wanna fuck so like please get on birth control this has been my psa i don't need any smoke sesh babies um although that would be really really fucking cute and if you do have a smoke sash baby I'm gonna need you to tag me in that picture so I can see it anyways a lot of you have also been asking for what kind of music I listen to um and I actually with this with this uh app the thing

I'm using to record a podcast I can directly add music to my podcast from Spotify but then they take like three to five days to review and be approved by the artist's company and if those artist's company listen to what the fuck i'm talking about i don't think they're gonna allow me to use their music so um i'm gonna post my playlist on my instagram today at hannah marlene you can check it out there but also if you go on spotify the same way that you look up smoke sash if you type in smoke sash as one word that is gonna be my spotify account um for all my music and the new playlist that i have that i've been listening to non-stop is called the new sash playlist um if you're ever interested in jamming a little bit that is what i'm listening to the

new sash playlist is has all of my music that i'm like obsessed with it's like essentially just like my top five spotify artists which is like kelly uchis like k trinata some mac miller some kanye west you know it's good i threw some rihanna in there you know what literally after you guys listen to this i'm gonna need you to this is gonna be a life-changing moment for you i need you guys to go get belligerently high okay and i want you to re-listen to the song don't stop the music by rihanna because at work the other night like mid rush they turned that song on and the way like my spirit left my body the same way it did the first time i ever heard that song in eighth grade it is like the best song to listen to while high so go put that the

fuck on or just put on my playlist it's on there the new sesh playlist on spotify i really am a spotify slut i love spotify i used to be an apple music hoe like i used apple music all throughout high school like four years of playlists actually maybe five i think i started in middle school um and now i love spotify i love it i'm obsessed i know i need to get this podcast on apple music i'm so sorry but for now i'm sticking with spotify um okay i think this is our last question for the today um we touched on this a little bit in another podcast but with final season coming up and everybody going home for the holidays and reconnecting with maybe family you don't really want to reconnect with and answering a lot of questions about your academic and personal success

I think we need to talk a little bit about this and it is someone asked tips on getting over the need for parents approval and I think that's very valid very valid question we touched on it a little bit I think I just talked about how you need to not reach out for your parents for that approval but um I didn't really tell you how to do that and it's quite honestly like you need to disappoint your parents like you have to disappoint your parents especially when you're and I'm not saying I need to make a PSA because I'm sure younger people listen to me I'm not saying cut ties i'm not saying burn bridges i'm not saying go fucking crazy and do bad things but do things that act in your best interest regardless of what your parents are going to say

because your parents are going to have a lot to say constantly you're their child they have a lot of opinions about you and a lot of preconceived notions of who they want you to grow up and be and that's okay everybody sometimes puts ideals and um things on to other people you are not required to be that person though okay it's the same way when we get into relationships and you maybe put someone on a pedestal and you realize that is not that person at all okay uh that person that i imagined in my head that i thought was amazing incredible or like was a whole different type of person than they really are that's okay usually in relationships you can kind of just leave if you don't like that person but with like family parents have a hard

time coming to terms that you are not that idealized version that they have in their head and you don't have to like break that harsh reality all i'm saying is pick yourself pick what truly makes you happy act in the best motives for yourself okay I went to nursing school because my parents wanted me to go to nursing school I did academic things because my parents wanted me to do it I did clubs because my parents wanted me to do it I did volunteer service because my parents wanted me to do it and it all I did it all made me miserable okay the goal is to not have you be miserable have you be able to make choices for yourself that are beneficial for yourself without your parents okay you'll get there it'll be okay i know the way our parents

view us can get really heavy and overwhelming sometimes it is usually because they genuinely want the best for us but sometimes you have to break that harsh reality for them um for me personally it was straight up sitting my parents down and saying you are pressuring me way too much to do things that i'm unhappy doing and i'm gonna die if i keep doing those things so i'm gonna pick for myself now are all my decisions something that they agree with are all my decisions something that uh they possibly would have thought for me no but they're my decisions to make and they can quite honestly cry about it if you know what i mean like it's my life i'm living and i cannot live it for them for them and you cannot live your life for them you need to live your life

for yourself and then those accomplishments that come and those things that come will feel 10 times better and you'll feel 10 times happier sharing them with your family i got a 4.0 at college and I came home for the holidays and I felt horrible awful I was exhausted that 4.0 was not worth it okay and my parents were so excited so happy for me so so oh Hannah you're so incredible all this stuff I felt drained I felt sad I felt unhappy with where I was did I receive this accomplishment yes was I happy with it no it was because I was doing it for my parents do it for yourself the things you do for yourself the more choices you make for yourself the more they'll get used to it the more they'll accept you as who you really are okay you gotta disappoint your

parents you gotta show them that you're your own human being if we're being honest and i feel like holiday season is a great time to do that i think that's it for our tuesday podcast you guys it was so fun while it lasted good news though there is going to be a whole another hour long episode available thursday in two days mark your calendars even though it's every week there'll be another podcast with so many more incredible wonderful questions um yeah i don't know i'm excited in my head i'm sorry i'm just kind of like planning what i need to do for the rest of the day i feel like today's a very good like you know rest relax recuperate kind of day is it a word recuperate anyways probably gonna do some cleaning go for a little walk smoke a little jay look for some

stray cats if i can find any um light a candle do some journaling read a book you know all those like little self-care things that make me feel better and feel more whole after a long ass work week not even work week i work for like three days anyways i hope you all have a wonderful Tuesday I will see you guys in two days and Thursday Thursday's podcast I'll see you then um I'm probably gonna post another questionnaire on my Instagram just to get some fresh questions in there so follow me there at Hannah Marlene and I will see you Thursday