Smoke Sesh - relationship advice, phone addiction & help! I’m too high

Episode Date: July 18, 2023

Happy tuesdayyyyyy cuties ! Today I’m hot & high & happy to be here, excited to chat about everything that I’ve been up to, the past two weeks of a bender that I’ve been on, raves & recent partying, we talk outfit planning, help! I’m too high & what to do when you’re in outer space, taking advantage of summer and bringing back the bucket list, relationship advice to everyone, Lana del Rey, jealousy, sex drive, the whore mindset and how to embody it, college advice, making time for yourself!, phone addiction and creativity, favorite drunk food, kids, navigating the weight of thoughts, what to do when they find a new girl, how to not over spend, rollercoasters, sex toys, being the other woman, skater boys, ways to manage irritability, and much much much more advice, stories & thoughts

Listen, everybody needs a fairy godmother, you know, just somebody to look out for them. Some people call me their fairy smoke mother, others their internet big sister, but you can call me Hannah, the host of Smoke Sash. So come hang out, let's light up and talk everything there is to life. The good, the bad, the ugly, the embarrassing, I've got a story for it all. Hello hotties of the world, how are we all doing today? did we survive the weekend you making it sweet easy on you i hope it has i am currently laying horizontally in bed not planning on getting up especially because today's like a perfect

little rainy day so it's nice and stormy out i'm cuddled up in my bed i got my like soft lights and plants around me i'm like i'm good this is how i've kind of always recorded the podcast i usually just wake up open my phone and i get to work girls you know like i don't i maybe get up to make coffee and then i immediately put myself back in bed i can't help it i just love being where i'm comfortable in the last couple episodes i've recorded actually in my living room just like sitting on my couch and i don't know if it's just because i'm uncomfortable but it's like no i need to physically be in like deep comfort to access certain parts of my mind to give you guys the best content the best kind of creative ability that i can in answering your

questions um so here i am back in bed where i belong my little avocado jelly cat with me what's better than that anyways i had a i've had like a crazy busy two weeks um like insanely busy last week i went to arizona partied it up for like basically just went on a three-day bender and came home and then all of a sudden it was monday and i was supposed to like jump back into the week as if nothing ever happened oh my god i walked into work after that weekend and my manager was like i don't think i see any light behind your eyes like i don't think you are mentally here like she was absolutely correct um completely and utterly correct so i did that i made it through the week and then this weekend i basically did that all over again um breakaway

festival was in kansas city and man did i have a blast i have like a 45 minute kind of recap mini vlog going up on my patreon but of course i still have to let you know how it went um just if you want more detail go there because i don't know how much longer i can talk about it my brain's like we gotta move on from alcohol and partying but it was really fun the first day we thought it was gonna get canceled because right when doors were about to open it just started torrentially raining and here's the thing before that it hadn't rained in forever and like the weather app was like it's gonna rain today it's gonna rain today and for the two weeks that it said that it didn't rain whatsoever so it was like oh it's gonna be another one of those nope literally half the city like

lost power there's trees down everywhere we were driving around and like it looked like a ghost town no lights were on in like six to twelve blocks of areas and we were just like this is crazy of course this is gonna get canceled nope they put it back on eight o'clock we get there we'd been drinking since like four because you're like we don't know how this is gonna go i guess it's just gonna turn into a little apartment party um because my friend came into town love her i was taking her to her first rave and then my nail lady came with me my first day and it was a blast but we made it we got there we had some fun we had a little too much fun i discovered what beat boxes are which are basically just jungle juice in an adult fucking juice box oh my god those had

me fucked up um there was some really cute taylor swift girlies in the crowd where we were like hit i was hit my vape not my vape a bunch you were concerned about that i do not vape as you guys know if you see me holding any sort of gadget device 21st century smoke machine it's literally gonna be my dad pen like i can't do nicotine unfortunately i can't even do like blunts anymore like i have to do plain old marijuana so yeah that's my dad pen don't worry we also bedazzled it during the little rain shower I had a bunch of crystals that I got on Amazon and I was like yeah why don't I just bedazzle my vape and very cute 10 out of 10 recommend cute little afternoon activity with the girls literally seven dollars on Amazon get some crystals

decorate your vapes so much fun anyways I was hitting that and the Taylor Swift girlies were like how did you get that in here I need to double take and I was like I don't even know need to know how old you are because you look like me when i was in high school cutie girls love you just put it in your backpack and walk in don't know what else to tell you and they were shocked they were they were flabbergasted um and then my friend was like we need to make their day better because they look like they really need a hit so she gave them a joint and then they gave me a little uh like candy wristband which i love the taylor Swift girlies have picked up on the whole candy exchanging that raves created because it is so

fun it's so fun like it's so cute and the one thing that raves have that the Taylor Swift girlies don't there's a little handshake you do before exchanging candy y'all gotta pick up on that if you do like a little peace sign finger touch a little heart finger touch and then you grab hands and then you exchange anyways peace love unity respect but she gave me this like wristband and I didn't even look at it I just saw like the cute little little charms with like the heart and the star and the smiley face and I was like oh how precious these girls are so precious I hope they smoke this weed and have a blast you know what I mean like sharing is caring that's what raves are all about I always flash forward like four hours I'm fucked up in the bathroom

and I actually take a moment to look at my wristband because my brain is moving like zero miles per hour like we're trying to focus on something and i turned it around it says cunt it was like love love they ate with that like the smiley heart bedazzled cunt like yes that is the vibes that i need anyways first day was great went to the second day brought my boyfriend along to his first rave he actually had a blast i was like yes can't wait to go with you to more raves we saw grizz that day which is like who i wanted to see 10 out of 10 recommend i 10 out of 10 recommend you going to any sort of rave or festival i used to have some you know preconceived judgments about it i can't lie like before i ever went to one i was like raves i don't know about

that like and then I went to one I was like oh fuck these people know how to have fun because no one's judging everybody's trying to vibe everybody's trying to make sure that people around them are having a good time everybody's there for the music and the laughs and the goofs and the gaffs and I just love that energy and it's so funny because like a rave where it's like the music is 10 times more intense the crowd was 10 times more loving than the Kali Uchi's concert attended like a month ago like where she sings only peace love unity respect slow songs and there's literally people like fist fighting in the in the crowd while she's giving a speech about like respect everybody and love them like what the duality anyways love the crowds at raves

they're always so sweet so nice so kind um and yeah we just had just a blast a little bit too much fun um and now i am finally having a day off to decompress and hang out with you guys but i never would have thought i'd be doing these things back to back um and really both of these activities or like experiences approached me and it was just a moment in time where i had to sit there ask myself like do i want to do this and if the overwhelming answer is yes through the anxiety if the overwhelming answer is yes to just say yes just make it fucking happen because the experiences that i had this weekend and last weekend um and how quickly they came and just from me saying yes to the opportunity and figuring it the fuck out i will remember those experiences forever and i am

so kind of proud of myself for allowing me to step out of my boundaries and like kind of step into happiness through that um because my oh my did i have so much fucking fun sometimes you just gotta say yes sometimes you don't need to know you don't need to know everything about it you don't need to know how or why just if you feel like this is something that you want to do and you want to create go for it just take the first step which is saying yes everything else will fall into place I guarantee but my god did I have too much fucking fun so now I'm very excited to return back to the real world um back to my little everyday weekly routine because I feel like I've been so out of them and there's there's when you hit these like high highs in life these points of

like experience points of exploration like outside of your home um it they kind of take a hold of you and take you for a ride which is fantastic and I love that but it really brings a new appreciation when you finally get home and back to your the real world back to your real life for how important those plateaus and those moments of silence and those moments of just like being and flow are oh my god they're so therapeutic i am so thankful for my everyday life and thankful that i have like a nine to five to come back to which i never thought i'd say and you know a home that i've built um it's just it feels so nice oh my god thank god real world and my feet are finally back on the floor i love running around and being crazy but wow i am not as young as i used to be

i'm like 24 but seriously i just i'm like wow i used to be wild love her have so much love and appreciation for her and she comes out every once in a while but two weekends in a row i'm like i need a bubble bath i need some ramen i need some tv time i need to lay horizontally in bed for a few days and then i'll be back on my feet anyways me and my boyfriend are doing a crab boil tonight i'm so excited i'm gonna get some crawfish and some crab we're gonna cook it up we're gonna have a blast and we're just gonna chill what what is better than that like i was so excited to come home and just like water my plants it's the little things for real anyways i know why you're here i know i know you have so many questions you need to answer i'm honestly gonna try and get through

as many as i can today um there's a lot of really good ones that i want to touch on so let's get into it girls first of all everybody's asking me where i got my festival outfits if you didn't see my instagram post at hannah marlene from the past weekend the fits went hard i take pride in my outfits okay like if you catch me going to a big event not dressed to the max there's something mentally wrong with me like someone checked me into a hospital asap anyways the fits for this weekend go check them out but i will let you know just the stores that i was shopping at um in order to create these then maybe you can peruse them find your own inspiration whatever it may be but uh first day i wore a set by petra collins essence collection which i have been

obsessed with for years and i finally got my grubby little fingers on this set it's baby blue tube top with a mini skirt that is ruched on the back it says i want to fight um and it's like the sparkly blue material and i was like for years i've been like that's a perfect rave fit and then when i finally started just like looking online a little bit for outfits i saw someone had uploaded it on depop for like 60 bucks and i was like snagged snatched bought immediately worn and underneath i wore a silver metallic bikini which if you're looking for like cute little small bikinis i really recommend going to your just like local sex store because they're gonna sell like the bikinis that like strippers wear which are all different levels of coverage and they

have some cute cute bikinis there are multiple bikinis that i wear throughout the summer that i have gotten at sex stores anyways i got this one from a store in portland they were having like a 50 off dancewear sale and boom got a little metallic bikini i wore it with um a cheetah print pashmina that i'm pretty sure i got off of amazon years ago and then this pink little hand fan that i actually use for my setting spray really recommend adding that into your makeup routine girls if you use a setting spray get a hand fan so you can just glamorously air dry your face in seconds um and then i wore them with my green nikes i had a little chain that i had gotten from dolls kill around my neck and then the second day i wore a purple imgia leather top so cute from

a couple years ago um but i do love them for festival wear and then i wore this skirt that i actually wore the top and the bottom to kali uchis a month ago which i got off of dolls kill but it's not by dolls kill it's by this uh this designer that i can't remember the name of but it's like this leopard print set that has like birkins and watches and cars all over it it's adorable anyways i wore the skirt with that purple top with a like heart choker chain that i got off of amazon with my green nike high tops and then the number one accessory of the weekend that i got the most compliments on were this sticker pack this rhinestone sticker pack that i got off of amazon and i just stuck all these stickers all over my body someone was like i

didn't know you got your belly button pierced i didn't i put a rhinestone right above and below my belly button so it looks like it has like a cute little piercing and i put like some rhinestones on my arms and on my cheeks um and they were like in different shapes like one was a bow and one was a heart and one were these like little trailing falling stars anyways it was so cute literally just like google rhinestone adhesive adhesive rhinestone pack and then find one with like cute ones that you like and then just stick them all over your body that was my favorite accessory of the weekend but yeah those are just all general stores that i seem to be shopping at most of it is like if i can find someone else selling it online i will buy it there just because you're

most likely gonna cut off like 10 20 from the original price um but yeah if you see something that you like online immediately just check like depop poshmark ebay usually someone's listing it for cheaper someone said in all caps i've got a bad high and i feel like my head's gonna explode help i got you girly you'll be okay i promise i promise you sometimes i'm not gonna lie if you're too gone sometimes you just gotta close your little eyes and take a little rest you know put on a movie that you've seen a million times like i'm talking like a million times like a comfort movie one that you can just turn on and not really have to think about it could also be a tv show whatever it may be something you could turn on and not think about and lay your little

head down and take a little rest that is my number one fix for for being too high but my number one or oh numbers my number two fix is okay so if you feel like that i can reverse this situation like you're not too far gone where you're like i need to pass out you're like no no i can come down i'm good i can function still cbd i know you're like hannah what the fuck i just inhaled too much of something why would i inhale more of something else but but but but the reason you were getting way too high is because you've consumed too much cbd and a lot of the strains recently or like nowadays are like very very high oh wait it means you consume too much THC I don't know what I said I'm a little high right now twins anyways they basically

produced it so it has too much THC and not enough CBD when in reality these two things go hand in hand. So if you consume more CBD, which will kind of level out how much you've taken, the CBD will work as a way of reducing the THC effects. They work hand in hand. One's to calm you, one's to get you to that spiritual level, but you really need them to work in tandem or else I feel like it's too much of one thing which is why i love cbd so much so if you're too high i really recommend just always having like a little cbd cart on you um if you're a person who is prone to weed anxiety or getting too high a little cbd cart a little half gram cart whatever it may be that you can have around you so if you feel those effects coming on you can take a quick puff and then it

will really help i guarantee because there's this one time i was way too high and you guys know the story i was like oh god oh hannah i was in like my ex-boyfriend's trailer and literally i had eaten too many brownies like i literally had eight eight brownies i don't know i don't know why it just happened i had eight brownies and i felt like you know that scene in euphoria where she's like so fucking high walking down the hallway and it's literally spinning like a tunnel that is exactly what i was experiencing wow euphoria anyways little euphoria moment for hannah not cute anyways he handed me this card i was like you dumb idiot why are you handing me a card to hit right now while i'm too high are you like you're that stupid he's like no no it's cbd

it'll help offset the effects of THC and listen that man wasn't the brightest you know the brightest one of the bunch but that was a smart moment it did help immediately like just put me to bed it was fantastic so anyways yeah I really recommend having a small little CBD cart or something or even if you know you're prone to this mix some CBD flour in with your flour maybe even just look for strains that are a little bit higher in cbd whatever it may be i like having both together whenever i smoke especially as a girl who is prone to getting a little too high or weed prone anxiety anyways you know my favorite paz packs they have the best highest quality cbd that you will literally find anywhere okay i like literally anywhere i don't trust anybody else

um i just love finding a good brand that you can trust and being like thank god i don't have to think about anything else um but yeah you can just call it smoke sesh for 10 off if you are interested trying to help my girlies out a little bit but i love having just a little cbd cart sometimes i won't even smoke i'll eat a gummy whatever it may be love cbd one of you said i don't want summer to end which i feel fully there's just like this endless abundance of creative energy in the summer that i think solely just comes from the sun and heat which i love but yeah we are you know as time does we are moving through this circle and continuing back which we will eventually but um summer's almost over and this is something i actually challenged my girlies

on patreon too i did this a few weeks ago it was just a summer bucket list um and i made a little list of all the things that I'm looking forward to doing this summer and if you feel like time is slipping by and you want to take advantage of the little moments of this heat and creative energy that we have left I recommend making a little summer bucket list not only creating it but also doing it like whether it's I want to go to a picnic with my friends in the park or I would like to go pick berries or i would like to go to a drive-in movie or i want to drink a slurpee in the sun or maybe it's like literally anything whatever it may be that brings you joy in this time of summer heat make it into a list and then do it it'll make you feel so much more accomplished

and then when we hit fall you'll be able to deep dive into those nice and cozy homey vibes which i cannot wait for but while we have summer we have this beautiful heat and sun why not take advantage of it someone said about to enter my first relationship fingers crossed general relationship advice okay i'm trying to imagine like little hannah when i was like 18 getting into my first relationship and what i would tell her a you're gonna be so full of just love and hope and peace and happiness and if you're not feeling those things if you're in your first relationship and you're like what the fuck is she talking about you're with the wrong person you need to get out of that asap but you're gonna feel so much of that just like

ah that that like first being in love feeling is so bright and illuminating and full of love and i really challenge you to tap into that don't be afraid to dive into that and to feel that fully especially about the person you're with the time um i do not ever regret being in love i feel like I love with my full heart and I jump into it deeply and as openly as I can be um but it is like the best feeling and you should be feeling that and you should be chasing that that is a real abundant energy that is just so healing and fun and I feel like everybody is deserving of feeling that. So if you are, good. Dive into it, feel it, live in it. Now, you have to understand that relationships are not always, I don't know, they all have their time and place. You know what

I mean? I grew up with friends who were in my life for a majority of my life and still are in my life. but I not only experienced that but I also experienced friends who came and who went which I think taught me a lot about relationships in the future that everybody has their time and place and whenever you outgrow somebody or you feel like this isn't working or this isn't good for me this isn't healthy for me I don't feel comfortable around this person those are signs that you two have just grown in opposite directions which is very healthy and natural and normal and if you are feeling that it is better to let go than to hold on because i feel like i stayed in relationships way longer because i was chasing that lifelong friendship feeling but

if they're not meant to be a lifelong person don't force them to be that is something i should have learned way earlier and it's something I'm you know like I'm still young and I'm still trying to learn that but it's a good thing to have in the back of your mind so when that feeling of overwhelming love peace positivity whatever ends you don't think it's a bad thing because it's not a bad thing it doesn't mean it ends forever there's so many people out there but chase it as long as you can and when you naturally feel it leaving allow it lean into trust and kind of mind your own fucking business they kind of go hand in hand but there are two things that I really had to practice especially being the nosy girly that I am but a lot of times you're just gonna get your

feelings hurt and it's you hurting your feelings it's not the other person so you know trust is important thing in a relationship and if you don't feel like you can base your relationship on trust then it might not be a good healthy relationship for you to be in and also trust is practice so every time like I still have to practice this but every time you get that like crazy bitch feeling of like i need to go through every single one of his followers and every single person interacting and liking any single piece of social media that he has or i need to track his location or i need him to update me every five minutes whatever like crazy controlling behavior that you feel like you're feeling trust is the practice of telling that internal like

crazy bitch to be like okay we need to chill we need to distract ourselves we need to do something but trust is very important and it is practice it's not it sometimes it comes easily sometimes it doesn't depends on how fucking insane you are i guess i'm an insane girly so it's a it's a it's a daily practice for me but if you can build a relationship on trust it's going to be a lot healthier and you're going to feel a way more connected to your partner than if you are basing it off of distrust um and not only is it a practice for you but it's a practice for your partner and they should give you a reason to trust them if you don't have a reason to trust them whether it's a friendship or a relationship you shouldn't be around them period um anything else

yes um a relationship is not only just like those first three months of like having to kind of i wouldn't say like win your partner over but you know you're chasing them in a sense like it's a equal race or equal chase perhaps um and it is a give and a take but that should continue throughout the relationship it shouldn't just end and die um you guys should be pursuing each other throughout the entire relationship and if you feel like you can't give that to your partner or you feel like they're not giving it to you then maybe it's not equal and maybe that's not great for you and then last but not least communication is key keeping yourself keeping things to yourself is never going to help anybody and it's definitely not going to help you

so if you have a feeling you have you know like even I will have like crazy thoughts and I'll be like I'm gonna communicate this to you so you can help me through this so I'm not just sitting here making myself crazier and I understand this is a crazy thought but I need to get it out of off my chest and my partner will hear that and be like no no totally like I hear you and I love you let me affirm you for a second if that's what you need but like that's the kind of give and take communication that you need in a relationship you shouldn't feel the need to hide what you're feeling you shouldn't feel the need to you know be a different person around your partner you shouldn't you know you shouldn't feel those things you shouldn't feel put down in any in any sort of

way you should have that equal and honest flow of communication it will make your relationship a million times easier and yes it's kind of the hard step to be like I have to communicate because I'm such a person who's like I would I would rather keep it inside than have to say anything that's on my mind but really just voicing how you feel gives the other person an idea of what's going on and then in turn will help you both move through the situation in whatever form it may be but in order for that to happen you do have to take the first step which is communication and it should be coming from both places once again major theme both people equal effort love it congrats have fun fall in love enjoy life go on adventures love deeply live fiercely

slay someone asked what's my favorite lana del rey album and it's gonna have to be ultraviolence the deluxe edition because when i tell you that's the only thing i listened to from the ages of like what 14 to 19 it's the only thing i listened to i love her she's healing she's so powerful she's like the stevie nicks of our time literally i don't know who else to compare it to but like love her the she has such a way with words she has such a connection to women i feel i feel so fiercely feminine when i'm listening to her fantastic love lana you guys are fucking crazy someone said tips on how to be a whore i'm trying to have a hot girl summer but i hate meeting men whore is a mindset okay it's a mindset it has nothing to do with men men like

to claim it because they love to claim women but has nothing to do with men like i can be a whore alone in my house without even connecting with the outside world like you see what i'm talking about like it's a whore mindset like i'm gonna feel sensual and like i'm gonna feel connected to myself um and yeah men suck i don't know what to tell you not all of them of course i think your best bet if you're trying to meet men and have a fun and flirty hot girl summer as soon as you feel the bad vibes cut them off move on like literally don't feel the need to impress don't feel the need to be overly accommodating in any sort of sense this is your life this is your direction as soon as you meet a man and you're like oh no literally cut it off move on that's my best advice because

you're not don't take it seriously like if you're having a fun and flirty summer and not taking it seriously that means not taking it seriously and like when the serious one comes along take it seriously but like as soon as you see those red flags as soon as you see that bullshit that men like to put on just be like okay bye very simple best bet just move on at first sight of that red flat girl someone asked um how the fuck do you not get jealous and ground yourself when other women are flirting with your boy i feel like my jealousy has a million percent subsided especially being a you know crazy bitch i'm just gonna label myself that so everybody knows it even i know it so then i can work through it um but a million percent my jealousy has completely

subsided because he has given me a reason to trust him and i know he's not going to be even remotely entrusted if that even possibly happens um and through that i have found peace but really is it's based in trust in him like i will have like a crazy bitch moment and i'm like no i know he's not doing anything like i'm chill and like maybe it's all of a sad that's a crazy bitch coming in re you know thinking crazy thoughts but like if it is shit at least i am in peace you know at least i'm feeling peaceful but yeah i feel like a lot of my jealousy has kind of teetered off because i know he's not gonna do anything and i know i'm not gonna do anything and i know we have that in common and we can trust each other through that so it's just

like an lol haha moment like i remember we were at a bar together and like i was chit-chatting with this girl because she had this balenciaga city bag that i really wanted and i wanted to look at it before i like ordered it online so i was chatting with her and then like this girl really fucked up came up to my boyfriend was like oh my god are you like you know that kind of tone and at first my head like snapped in that direction not gonna lie I gotta check out the situation I'm not a stupid bitch like snapped and then I was like I saw his face he was just like oh I am not having it and I was like okay we're good he was uncomfortable by the situation went back to talking about the Balenciaga ordered the Balenciaga that night

like we were chilling and it's like that kind of trust and seeing that like if i saw him being like oh equally as interested or leaning into the situation or like any sort of that then like yeah i would feel more jealous in more situations but the fact that i was just like he did not give one singular fuck in turn i'm like okay cool i can be chill i don't need to be jealous and it's funny how i have been very jealous in past situations for the ugliest of men because they didn't provide me any sort of like peace of mind and they didn't really care about providing that to me even when i communicated that and if you find yourself in that situation girl run because there is a man out there who definitely will only be looking at you and should

only be looking at you oh someone said dealing with the challenge of moving to college girl you're gonna have a blast you're gonna have so much fun you're gonna have literally the most fun you've ever had i promise you the keys are to be open to the new situation open to the new environment take it as a time to kind of like rebrand or ask yourself like who do i want to be in this phase of my life take a moment to like characterize her in a sense and figure out who you want to be and what what kind of um clubs you want to explore look at the clubs at your college look at the dorm you're staying at see if they have a facebook group ew i don't know if they do that anymore see if you have they have like a instagram group that you can join whatever it may

be get involved get connected not only to the college life but also to your life and who you want to be um reach out make friends be vulnerable have fun go to that party stay safe but explore it is like an ultimate time of exploration of who you are and who you want around you and who you want to become and what you want to do you'll have a blast don't worry it's only scary because it's new and you will fall into your new routine soon and life will be much easier also like it's supposed to be a challenge remember that it's a period in life that is supposed to be a challenge so if you find it challenging that means it's working don't be too hard on yourself don't let the challenge overcome you I am like such a sporty girl that I'm like when I find a challenge I'm like okay so I

have to get through this and do this me dropping out of college twice anyways I had fun while I was doing it because it was like it was like a little game like academic wise not interpersonally that's weird um but like academic wise it's supposed to be challenging it's supposed to be hard ask for help study with your peers meet new people chit chat discover yourself you're gonna have a blast girly okay someone said any advice for getting past a period of having like no sex drive lmao love you queen love you here's the thing i think like sexuality and horniness is really a spectrum and it's going to ebb and flow through you pretty randomly just like an emotion um because it i mean it is an emotion yes horniness emotion yes anyways it it's going to be

pretty random it's going to move through you at different paces at different times and the best advice i can really give you is to let it do its fucking thing like you don't have to put much more thought into it other than like am i am i horny right now yes no okay take the answer and move on with the situation and i feel like when you're single it's very easy to do that like you're either like i'm horny let me go around my vibrator or it's like i'm not horny let me move on with my day but when you're in a relationship there's a little bit more emphasis put on it and i understand in that and it's hard when you guys aren't meeting on the same level so my number one like tool always I mean with any relationship with any problem is to communicate I think it's important

to be like hey it's not you I'm just not feeling it maybe this is going on in my life I'm a little stressed out blah blah blah talk about it so then your partner isn't sitting in the dark like oh my god are they not attracted to me anymore or whatever it may be um and you guys know what the fuck's going on and that will kind of ease up the emphasis that you guys have on sex because there's no more misconstrued ideas or guessing game perhaps like you know what's going on you're on the same page you can move forward also remember within your relationship like sex is a probably very connecting tool that you guys are using i don't know we're human we like sex we like connecting on that kind of level maybe you don't fantastic all relationships are different

all needs are different amazing but that's kind of how I am and when you're not meeting on the same kind of level it kind of feels a little bit disconnecting so this is my moment to remind you that sex is fun okay sex is not always oh yeah we have sex at this time every single day or every other day or whatever your routine is like it doesn't have to be that sometimes it's like oh i want to explore this thing or i want to try this thing or let's get crazy here like oh my god we're in the car or like tapping into that feeling when you do have it even though it might be outside your normal normal routine it's supposed to be fun it's supposed to be exciting it's supposed to be connecting so make it that way you know step into whatever you want to step into sexually

and communicate that to your partner um i think it will kind of brighten up your lives a little bit make them a little bit more interesting but yeah i find when i have no sex drive it's just because i need to like switch it up try a new position try a new area in the house i don't know you know or sometimes you know i'm not feeling it i just tell my partner that and he should be a million times respectful he should hear that and he should love you regardless period anyway someone said working girl summer but i need peace and relaxation but i also want to have fun uh help yeah yeah i have been trying to balance all of those and i've been feeling like i'm going insane i have managed to complete all of those though so let me tell you how a i do have a nine

to five that's just an overall arching term it just means i have a job during the weekdays and a majority on the weekends um outside of you know this job which I do while I'm at home but I yeah I have a job I go to it I get through it I make money I put it in my bank you know we do what we gotta do girls we gotta have money we gotta be able to support ourselves very important anyways yeah I do that I pull teeth I get there because that that is gonna fund my fun all right that's gonna fund the raves that i go to or you know the random weekend in arizona whatever it may be that's what it's gonna fund also a roof over our head and food in our mouths important things all right but you need the nine to five in order to have the fun and the fun comes

from just simply saying yes and being like yeah fuck it my friend invited me out here yeah fuck it i've never hung out with this person sure i'll reach out uh i want to go to this thing but i'm a little nervous who cares let's go whatever it may be just say yes and then the rest and relaxation part is honestly the most important part and it comes from whatever time you have in between those two things and it's a little sparse and it comes here and there but when you do have it take advantage of it fully and whatever way you see fit maybe your rest and relaxation is like doing a face mask and a bubble bath and you can only do that after you clock out of work after you have dinner so that's what you do or maybe it's like I want to get out into nature and spend

some time there and relax and meditate and you have a Saturday morning off so that's what you do your Saturday morning or maybe it's like I would like to go to a coffee shop and read that's what you do on your Saturday morning I don't know what your rest and relaxation key thing is mine is just like eating food in front of a tv high as hell and that's what i do on my evenings whenever i have an evening off away from work um it really is just taking those moments that you do have and you do have them i guarantee maybe it's the morning maybe it's the afternoon maybe it's the evening but whenever you have them take advantage and really indulge in those moments you can make it happen be aware of your life be aware of your schedule be aware of your time be aware of your

desires and say yes someone asked how to beat phone addiction and actually be creative again great question um i do think you can be creative on the phone because that's where i do a majority of my creative work and it's still very very um fulfilling but i had to kind of retrain my brain and the content i consume a i really can't sit on tiktok for that long i can't my my brain is just like like i'll scroll and scroll and scroll and i'll get off and i'll be like oh my god i'm going insane what the fuck should i just do for the past two hours like i consumed so much and yet i remember absolutely nothing and it does not feel good other apps do that too maybe it's instagram maybe it's you know whatever i found instagram to be way more creative recently creative fulfilling

but i had to move to more long form content so it was like youtube or podcasts love you thank you shout out to my all my smoke slash listeners i love you so much thank you for including me in your day um maybe it's like um i don't know tv shows whatever it is long form content that is what i switched to i had to kind of like move my tiktok tiktok app into like a sub hidden folder in my phone so i couldn't access it as easily as i used to because it used to be a habit like boom click boom click i know where it is my thumb can literally click on it when i'm closing my eyes that's crazy move it on your home screen hide it so you can't easily access it if you feel like it's an app that is not helpful because i'm not the kind of girl who's like i gotta delete it my

real friends know where my number is posted on a black wallpaper like no no no no i'm not a move in silence girly i am a i got to work on myself girly so i'll move it around and then not only am i connecting creatively on my phone but i'm also connecting blah blah creatively outside whether it's reading whether it's journaling whether it's actually painting creating art whether it's decorating my space i am doing something fulfilling with my hands i'm moving them I'm changing my environment in some sort of way and then I'm also using my phone as a creative tool long-form content if I'm going to consume it I'm using like Pinterest as an inspiration board I'm creating collages I'm using Tumblr I'm also using Instagram for creative inspiration um but

it really is just honing in on those apps that do bring you you know inspiration creative desire I've been using Pinterest since like fucking high school same with Tumblr and although they have their moments where I'm like oh we got to put this one away which you know every app does it still has had an overwhelming creative way of driving me and providing me inspiration so I do think it's relatively healthy I also you know create a podcast on my phone I create little videos i edit photos i make collages i draw on my phone every like tote bag lighter case hoodie design i have created on my phone from drawing like there is untapped creative ability that you can do through your phone so don't count don't write it off as like phone bad phone bad burn

like no like there is nuance to everything you just have to understand the good habits you have and the bad habits you have and lean into the good habits but while you're leaning into the good habits still remember to connect to the real world whether it's drawing painting reading redecorating redesigning changing evolving whatever it is love you you can do anything really someone asked what my favorite drunk snack is literally a frozen pizza frozen pizza red pepper flakes ranch passed out with ranch like still smeared on my face waking up with pizza pimples and like my mascara still on that's usually how i end a drunk night i don't know about you someone said i want to start doing molly again but i'm scared your girl got hooked on

the feeling last time me too girl me too and last episode i talked about my like some molly stories from my past and after going through those and having that little revisit and also going to this rave this past weekend i think i've realized me and miss molly have done our time together like we are good i don't need to circle back to her i can still have fun without those crazy substances and honestly i'm gonna feel better not doing those and being as off the walls as i was so i'm chilling i'll do my little thc i'll do my little mushroom i'll do my little drinky drink sometimes um but that is the extent that i really need to go i don't need to get as crazy as i did with it i think the next time i'll do molly i'll be like on my bachelorette trip or

something like that seems like an appropriate time but other than that i think i need to chill and respect and love my brain oh my god someone said i work at a summer camp and this kid pulled the fire alarm and it went off for three hours see that's the reminder i needed that i don't need kids i do not need children around me because here's the thing children are made to test boundaries that's literally what they're doing they're learning and they're growing and how the fuck are you going to be able to do that if you're not constantly testing boundaries which is why you'll see kids like smack their mom or like scream at them or roll around on the ground in a fucking target like screaming it's because they're meant to do those things in order to learn

what to do and what not to do that's totally normal and fine and healthy thus the pulling of the fire alarm but i really don't need that around me i don't i don't and that is the perfect reminder i needed because i've been seeing a lot of really cute babies at my work and i'm like oh so cute i don't need that around me i don't need three hours of a fire alarm no thank you i'm so sorry you had to go through that someone said my self-consciousness comes out of nowhere lately like i was just vibing major buzz kill that is so funny because yes i feel like sometimes self-consciousness can like work up slowly to a big thing that like overall consumes your life or it can kind of be like an ebbing and

flowing thing where it's like i'm doing great and then like literally like dr jekyll and mr hyde like your head spins in a circle and you're a whole new person you're like whoa where did that even come from like I was doing great why all of a sudden do I feel batshit crazy and it is literally a practice that you have to do every day and listen more you practice it easier it becomes but I feel like with your thoughts you kind of have to imagine them as a scale and I'm talking the old school scales that like you put a weight on one side and you put a weight on the other side and it they'll like move back and forth but eventually they'll equal out and you have to have equal weight or else it's going to lean one way like a old school scale okay you have to do

that with your thoughts and sometimes i mean actually not sometimes most of the times we are more in control of our thoughts than we realize and i do understand that sometimes thoughts kind of come out of nowhere and you're like what the fuck so when you feel that scale that's usually you know weighted heavier in the positive side kind of shift over to the negative you have to like almost manually shift it back and put more weights onto the positive side and I do that by when I feel like those self-conscious thoughts come out of nowhere those negative thoughts or those anxiety thoughts whatever it may be I will immediately take that as a moment to like almost jumpstart my brain with new positive thoughts so say if i'm self-conscious i'll like

oh i look bad today or maybe i'm having a really bad acne day or i'm whatever those negative thoughts that you happen to have that frequent your mind i don't know i was just trying to be general but as soon as you feel this come on you have to immediately like okay i am beautiful i am gorgeous I love my smile I have great blonde hair whatever it is you have to immediately give yourself like five or six new compliments like compliment yourself in order to turn the scale and shift your brain into a more positive way because a lot of those times those thoughts don't actually have a lot of weight they'll come on to you and if you let them take over then they will start piling on and piling on and piling on and it will shift heavily into the wrong

direction. So as soon as you feel that like little weight get dropped on you, you got to manually overload the other side in order to balance those thoughts. And if you do that, and if you practice it, you will have an easier time navigating it. I'm not saying it's going to be as easy as a quick shift. That's where I am now. But that's come from time and time and time again of practicing. so very easy everyday practice as soon as you you're like damn i just ruined my own vibe you have a moment to recollect the vibe girl you have a moment to step in and fix it up okay so compliment yourself give yourself some affirmations tell yourself why you love yourself and like do like five real quick get them over with it's crazy how fast it'll recalibrate your

brain and you'll be like wow the scales are even we're chilling someone said my toxic ex is talking to a new girl i hate him but it hurts he didn't change for me please help well congrats girly i have good news he definitely didn't change for her either he is the same toxic ex that you had people didn't just change that fast and if he did this kind of weird that he would do that do you know what i mean like people don't just magically transform overnight like it's gonna take time and if he's already in a new relationship it same personality i guarantee it so consider this your parting gift of knowing that you don't have to deal with him anymore you don't have to think about him or see him you can literally pretend he's dead and move on with your life because he's

not a part of it congrats how amazing that you got rid of that you know what i mean because you you're not losing anything he's not gonna change for you he's not gonna change for her he's the same exact person find peace in that and find peace in knowing that he can literally be dead to you and you can move on and completely and utterly forget his name love you someone said hoodies soon hannah please please please please please i am releasing hoodies soon once we get out of this summer heat okay they're all gonna be one of a kind they're all gonna be so comfy cozy fun so many different sizes so many different colors but don't worry about that when i have it all figured out i will let you know so you don't miss out on anything but i am gonna be

releasing them late summer early fall hopefully so stay tuned someone asked tips to not overspend and how to stop being a manic spender a delete your card from your fucking phone i don't care if it's in your apple wallet i don't care if you just have your numbers somewhere if you have your numbers memorized go get a new card it takes a second you go to the bank you ask for a new card they give it to you you're asking for answers i'm giving you the answers sometimes they're the hardest but delete that shit off your phone or out of your mind you knowing it makes it 10 times easier for you to spend and half the time i mean a majority of my spending simply comes from my phone i don't know if you're like me but it's usually just me like oh that's cute press a

button and all of a sudden it's on the way to my house stop it cut it out get your phone get your a card off your phone delete the delivery apps whatever they may be what if if they're like online shopping or depop or poshmark whatever it is delete them maybe it's doordash or uber eats delete it literally get rid of any possible way that you're going to be able to spend money other than having a card because half the time when i think about wanting something and then i think about how far away my card is in my wallet across my apartment I'm like I'm not getting up so I guess I'm not buying it and that saves me a majority of money when I go out as long as I haven't spent online I allow myself to indulge a little bit like I will maybe go to Sephora and

I'll get a new face mask and then I'll get a coffee or maybe I'm at the grocery store and instead of sticking to my grocery list I get a couple fun little treats here and there or I go out to lunch with my friends and I allow myself to have a good fun yummy lunch that's okay those are real practical ways of using money it's the random amazon orders the random door dashing the random spending online that's what's hurting you not the every once in a while keyword every once in a while eight dollar coffee or lunch with a friend or overspending at the grocery store that's not what's that's not what's whoa that is not what's hurting you wow why was it so difficult for me to put a sentence together that's concerning anyways yeah you really it's the

online spending for me and if you see yourself falling into habits of overspending maybe it is like those eight dollar coffees every morning switch up your routine find something new and exciting something that helped me with that specific kind of example the eight dollars coffee eight dollar coffee every morning was spending money a little bit more on a espresso machine which essentially costed the same amount of one week of me buying coffee and I make myself espresso every morning and I make new ones and I make fun um like syrups or I try different flavors but that spending that kind of money saves me more than spending a different kind of money so you have to find like different avenues if you find a habit that is constantly running you dry

cut it off delete the apps get a new card forget your numbers that's kind of the key most important thing this is so niche but someone said how to not be scared of roller coasters help i go to the fair on wednesday girl i don't get on roller coasters i don't i don't i don't like them i don't like pretending i like them i don't get on roller coasters and i don't care if you look at me and you go you're no fun yeah bitch but like i'm gonna have a panic attack and that's not fun okay so i'm gonna sit my ass on the ground i'm gonna go play a little game i'm gonna get a hot dog like whatever it may be my ass is not getting on that roller coaster I knew my ex did not know one singular thing about me when for my birthday he got me a year pass to worlds

of fun a roller coaster park that i had never been to with him and upon opening the gift i looked him in the eyes and i said i don't like roller coasters like why would you get me that he's like oh i thought it'd be fun for us to do together and then i tried to be cool i tried to go to the park and i got on a roller coaster and i rode it i did the thing it had its thrills but mostly i was just terrified the whole time and i was like yep you know life experience i did it i tried it i don't fucking like that i don't like roller coasters it's not for me also this man sitting next to me knows absolutely nothing about me and that's equally as terrifying but yeah no i'm not getting on roller coasters my ass is gonna go get a corn dog and hold your stuff while you

get on it and i'm gonna laugh and giggle watching your body fly through the air at a million miles per hour that's fun to me anyways yeah if someone calls you not fun for riding roller coasters be like cool well i'm gonna go do something else girl fuck you you know what i mean but yeah panic attacks equally not as fun would rather not deal so yeah no roller coasters it's a no it's a no if you do ride roller coaster love you slay you are such a brave queen but i have to know my limits i was thinking back on like my old car that i used to drive and how much weed i smoked inside of it and recently i smoked a little jay like in with my car door cracked like in my car and the way it was like reeking for days was quite honestly insane i was like how was i smoking in my car

every night and driving it around that's wild anyways i found the most perfect spray for like any sort of situation including your car including your room um whatever it may be it's cannibalish they make like room sprays car sprays and candles that naturally like with natural ingredients offset the smell of weed cannibalish love them but yeah i took their like little lavender to go spray with me tiptoed outside to my car sprayed it down shut the doors ran back upstairs did my little thing i was about to go on errands i just don't want my car to reek when i was driving around and came back down like maybe 30 minutes later opened the car I was like wow the way my car smells like just lavender right now is incredible anyways love them check out cannibalish

they're great they're my new kind of favorite go-to um weed thing um I feel like I always have something new that I'm trying out every week whether it's like a strain or a rig or a backpack or a room spray there's always like some little fun thing that's coming out and this has been my new favorite hyper fixation oh oh someone said guy I've been talking to reblogged half-naked pic of a girl it upset me do I mention it if you're not even dating I just would take this has a red flag and if it upsets you that much then i would just be like is this a behavior i would want to happen while dating no then maybe he's not the right person for me maybe i should move on maybe this is a major red flag like if you're not even dating i wouldn't have a conversation

i would just be like i would be investigating it internally and asking myself do i want to proceed that's where i would go with it now that kind of behavior when you're dating that's something to talk about while also investigating internally but if you guys are just talking girl ask yourself do i want to be around this behavior long term and if that's the answer is no you gross that's icky and weird then you're starting to see them for who they really are take that into account move accordingly someone said just convinced my bf to get sex toys for us any suggestions um i have a lot of suggestions but my number one suggestion because here's the thing everybody's into different kinds of play you know maybe you like doing backdoor stuff maybe you don't maybe

you like doing bondage stuff maybe you don't maybe you like being the person in charge like dominatrix style maybe you don't like literally there's so many options so many avenues so many different things to try so i'm not going to tell you specifics all i'm going to tell you is i'm i'm i mean i'm assuming you guys are like of age like let's be real so go to your local sex store together go in together explore together and then pick out things together i think that is the number one way to do it or if you're like more of an online person like uh you you're just gonna order them online and have them sent to you explore the website together talk about it i'm not talking about like text it back and forth like sit down next to each other look at them together explore

your options get a little creative i think that's the ultimate way to go about it oh someone said accidentally being the other woman and dealing with guilt please so i'm assuming you're having guilt because you didn't know you're the other person you're the other woman you know the people who are the other woman knowingly usually don't experience guilt because they know what they're getting into do you know what i mean like they know what they're doing they're actively taking part of it so i'm assuming you didn't know in which a not your fault and the only thing you can do with guilt in the moment is make active steps to kind of ease it such as if you discover this like oh my god I'm the other woman letting that person know making sure they understand it

cutting off ties with the person that you are connected with moving forward and you know in future relationships double checking asking more questions those are simple ways you can move through guilt but ultimately like if you didn't know you had absolutely no idea there's no reason for you to really have any guilt that person deceived you lied to you that is not fair to you now what you can do after you find out is i'm always always always going to say tell that person a million percent tell that person like if i was ever in a relationship and that stuff was going on i would rather be told you know like let me know instead of disappearing i feel like it's just like girl code if you're the other woman you have to tell that girl um oh my god i have a story about

that my friend was accidentally the other woman and she should have known but i understand how men can just be kind of like fucking crazy and lie wildly and are very convincing but she was like at a bar and she was talking about him and the girl next to her like tapped her in the shoulder and was like hey are you talking about blank and she was like yeah and they were like how do you know him and she was like oh i'm seeing him right now that was his literal girlfriend sitting next to her at the bar and she got pissed at her which she like literally had no idea was not her fault had no clue this guy had a girlfriend eventually like started stalking his social media figured it out like he had removed her tags from his page like he went into depth to hide this girl but

she was fair and honest and even after that girl got mad at her she like reached back out and was like hey i just want to let you know like this happened i'm so sorry i didn't know and i feel like that was a really mature move to do and now in future relationships she knows to which is a fucking crazy thing to ask like hey do you have a girlfriend like obviously you're gonna assume not but like shit now maybe you know to double check things triple check things really deep dive ask but yeah men are weird and manipulative and if there's anybody who should be feeling any sort of guilt it's him okay but yeah don't keep that person in your life don't keep that man in your life be fair let the other girl know and move on that's the best you can do it sucks that you were

in that position but like he you're like you it's not your fault do you know what i mean as long as you weren't an active participant you know like you you didn't know there was a girlfriend then it's really not your fault all you can do is be honest and open and move forward this is so funny because i got like three questions like this but someone was like tell me how to pull skater boys so funny that like the skater boy trope is like the hot boy right now because i didn't even mean to pull mine like i didn't i was just having a good time and he was like she seems like a blast I'm gonna kick it with her and now we've been dating for three years like crazy how that happens right but really I think finding anybody in general the more authentic you are the better

and especially with like the skaters there's some it's like a weird crowd like they like that authenticity they like you know individuality they like creativeness they're equally as creative as i am like the shit they do with their body it's like literal gymnastics um so yeah i think if that matches you i think you just leaning into yourself will make other people lean into you and i think that's beautiful but don't chase them those boys are literally on wheels like they're gonna get away from you you don't need to chase a boy on wheels that's crazy but someone said i'm always so mean and irritated for no reason especially to my man how to stop being such a bitch when i'm in a bitch mood i either need to a be left alone for like 24 hours for me to just like chill decompress

sit on my phone not talk to anybody take a bubble bath do a face mask lay on the floor paint whatever it may be enter my own world my own space i'm too overwhelmed by every single person around me and so sorry it's my lovely man but you too and it's not your fault but i need to be alone that's like one kind of like irritated phase that i'm in and that's a way to fix it another one is i'm irritated by the world around me but i still want to connect to the people close to me such as my boyfriend and it's like i just need to be fucked and fed and put to bed oh my god like i just need dick i need some tacos and i need to just lay in bed and pass out fucked and fed and put to bed literally girls that is another amazing way to solve my irritability but yeah i either need to

be like left alone like crawl into a cave and just like do my little cave paintings and lay on the floor or i need to be fucked and fed and put to bed one of the two anyways this has been such a fun episode with you guys i feel like it's because i finally entered my like relaxation phase when i'm like up and moving and going crazy it's hard for me to kind of sit down and chill and have a little laugh and collect my thoughts because like my thoughts are going a million miles per second somewhere else so this has been fun i love that i've just been like in bed all day hanging out with you guys telling stories having a little laugh i've been high this whole time it's been great this is your reminder to get out in the sun make your summer bucket lists okay drink your

water treat yourself prioritize yourself always eat some good food have some fun hang out with your friends um and yeah what else is life about you know what i mean and if you're in this plateau phase and i'm finally entering again don't take it for granted doesn't mean just because something's like not going on that's super fun and exciting doesn't mean that this isn't an important stage and sometimes those periods of just like having time to chill and be in routine are the most important to keeping you sane so appreciate it love it remember to compliment yourself remember to uplift yourself and remember to stay sexy have fun and i will see you all so very soon