Smoke Sesh - sex, astrology, insane men & baddie on a budget

Episode Date: November 28, 2023

Hiiiii hotties welcome back to another episode of smoke sesh, so excited to be back on this beautiful Tuesday! We catch up on what I’ve been up to, surviving the holidays, movie marathons and winter activities I’ve been up to. We dive into all your deepest questions including mental health medication tips & tricks, phone addiction and healthier ways to scroll, backdoor play in the bedroom, surviving the service industry & protecting your peace, gaining weight and body changes, full moon tips and tricks, fun Christmas gifts, hot girls save money and how to be a baddie on a budget, heartbreak and time heals all, mind games and how to get his attention, crazy men, maintenance routine, astrology 101 and where to find sources, fuck mary kill, dining hall food and eating in college, video games and relationships, new to sex and how to explore, fighting in relationships, what I’m thrifting for winter, and you don’t have to wait for it to get bad before you get better! Today was such a fun episode and I can’t wait to hang with you all again next Tuesday, chat soon! If you want to keep up on what I’m up to follow me on instagram @hannahmarlene for more, MUAH!

Listen, everybody needs a fairy godmother, you know, just somebody to look out for them. Some people call me their fairy smoke mother, others their internet big sister, but you can call me Hannah, the host of Smoke Sash. So come hang out, let's light up and talk everything there is to life. The good, the bad, the ugly, the embarrassing, I've got a story for it all. Good morning, hotties of the world. welcome back to another oh my gosh beautiful amazing wonderful episode of smoke sesh i am so excited to be back with you guys hanging out chit chatting catching up on all the hottest

gossip latest most craziest things not only in your life but my life too um i hope you guys survived the holidays I hope they weren't as stressful as they usually are I feel like the general consensus has been Thanksgiving was it went mostly well for everybody who had to go back home and see family I was stressing because I thought other people were gonna stress me out but everybody was on their best behavior thank god everybody was there for a good time and not for the drama of it all uh my brother came into town so I got to hang out with my niece and nephew for a bit which was so fun we got to go to like the children's museum explore that brought out my little inner child which was so really really fun um it finally snowed here the thing with global

warming is in the midwest like growing up i was used to i'm talking feet of snow like every week up until february and then after february you know it kind of tapered off slowly started to stop um but it definitely started in like november and we would get feet like i'm talking could not open the front door and we haven't had that for like 10 years like it has been an occasional snow but it cleared up pretty quickly but we got our first snow here pretty early and honestly thank god I feel like it kind of helps with the seasonal depression because snow's so pretty you know everything's clean and white and there's like cute icicles and it's all shining in the sunlight like beautiful you know cover up all the brown dead trees leaves dirt you know what I mean um so it

snowed on Friday and it snowed quite a bit we got like six inches so I'm just living it up in my little winter wonderland another thing that I've talked about to kind of combat the seasonal depression is like decorating your home so we finally took a moment to get our tree up we put a bunch of tinsel on the tree put up all of our ornaments hung up some wreaths some cute little you know sparkly things here and there if you're trying to ball on a budget dollar tree has some pretty good um decorations for every holiday and i always go there and just stock up because when you go to dollar tree and you fill up a basket you're like oh shit this is gonna be i'm thinking like target money here you know like this is gonna be 150 it's like 20 every time most you know

so shout out dollar tree we got our place decorated we got it set up we've been cooking a bunch of food at home living our best life another thing that i have been doing as an activity or something that me and my friends did is we did like a little movie marathon situation on sunday i had the day off and so did they and we were like fuck it i guess we just go to the movies and spend a whole day there you know what the fuck else is there to do I tried to read the Hunger Games prequel before seeing the movie but I made it to chapter like 21 and there's 30 chapters I was like you know what I did my best so we went and we saw I got my little popcorn I got my little you know cherry coke sat down we watched the Hunger Games Hunger Games is pretty

good you know I feel like the ending was a little anticlimactic I'm not gonna spoil it don't worry don't turn the podcast off um but also maybe i should have read the ending of the book and i would have had a little bit more insight perhaps um but also like it's literally a prequel of course like the next four fucking movies are gonna be like the climax the most intense situation um but no it was really good love any sort of movie with a hot man that i get a stare at the entire time speaking of hot men i get a stare at the entire time we saw the hunger games and then we went to the bar if you guys ever go to amc girl hit the bar up this little bartender lady was hilarious some little old lady we got a bottle of wine drank our wine watched some

football and then which i needed to drink before the next movie we went and we saw salt burn i don't know if you guys have been seeing the tiktok reviews of salt burn on your for you page but going into that i was like okay this is gonna be one of the most insane movies i've i'm ever gonna see you know what i mean and there's just like the movie magic of being in your seat next to your friends in a dark room with a giant screen in front of you with surround sound like you literally cannot escape that puts you into the movie and makes it so much more intense and it was so good it was so good the main actor who whatever's Barry I don't know his name he's a little fucking freak in the movie but the movie is fantastic the soundtrack is fantastic Jacob

Elordi is so fucking fine you're just gonna stare at him for about two and a half hours it was amazing you are definitely going to be shocked and you're gonna see some scenes that you're like what the actual fuck is going on which is why i recommend going with friends do not go with family do not take your parents to see this it is like a very classic a24 shock psychological thriller film but honestly it was so good it was so good i cannot wait to see it again just because of how insane it honestly was so salt burn was definitely a 10 out of 10 i saw it at 67 on Rotten Tomatoes I was like boo no way I would have given it at least like you know I would give it a 95% it was good it was definitely more intensive and like edge of your seat than The Hunger Games

The Hunger Games was good it's a classic my little 13 year old self was really living her best life with her popcorn and her dab pen um but Salt Burn was insane I love a good just like crazy fucking movie that you have no idea what's going on and that was definitely definitely one of them so yeah we spent about like i don't know eight hours in the movie theater it was a fantastic time now i am just trying to get back into the swing of things i feel like it's so weird when you have a thanksgiving and then you're like well get back to work for like three weeks that's it and then you have another big holiday get some more time off I'm like why can't we just do like a month long situation so I don't have to like flip-flop back and forth and try and get my life back in

order just for it to get thrown back out you know what I mean anyways we're doing our best here we're trying our best I have about two espresso shots in my body right now I'm feeling good feeling great I hope you guys are feeling fantastic as well but we have so many questions to get to so many different thoughts topics ideas to get to and I'm not here to waste any more time so let's dive right into it oh this is a fun one happy holidays someone said Alexa pro I just started it today and I need tips and tricks not the mental health medication tips and tricks um so I am not currently on any medication but I am absolutely not against it I think it is such a life changer for people who have a very hard time regulating their mental health you know uh my mom has been

on mental health medication my entire life and I think has done nothing but great things for her um mental health medication really saved me in a spot where I just had zero regulation and my brain and my body were really really struggling and it really put me back on my feet um I think it is a fantastic tool and the thing with any sort of medication no matter what it is and especially the mental health medication is you kind of have to try it out and stick to it but you can always tweak it here and there and figure out what works best so you really are kind of in for the long haul um it's like trying on a pair of pants if it doesn't fit that's okay don't stop but like let's try on a different pair of pants you know um and if it's not working for you that's okay there

might be something else out there talk to your psychiatrist be honest with them about how you're feeling how it's making you feel they know what's best but I think the best tip that I can really give anybody who is on mental health medication is when you are on it and this kind of goes for like the birth control pill as well but when you are on it make sure you are taking it at the same time every day depending on what time they tell you to take it some mental health medications make you a little sleepier so determine what time is best maybe morning maybe afternoon maybe evening and then make sure you are taking it at that time every single day um i had kind of a hard time with my medication because i was younger and i was a little less regulated and i had a hard

time taking it consistently and the brain zaps and the way my brain would just get so exhausted because i wasn't regulating my brain with the pills because i was like skipping them or you know forgetting or taking them too close together or whatever the more consistent you are with them the happier your brain will be um and that really goes for honestly any sort of medication birth control too i feel like birth control made me really fucking insane when i was on the pill because i'd be like oh i'm gonna skip my period this week i just won't take them you know like dumb shit like that that's gonna fuck with your brain and your body so try and stay consistent so your brain and your body can keep up and they can live a happy healthy life as well um but yeah

if it doesn't work for you you can always try something else but i do think um mental health medication has an amazing effects on a lot of different people um and i really enjoyed the time that i did spend on it so i do hope it treats you well be honest with your doctor if it's working if it's not working tell them what's up they will know where to go but you need to be cognitively aware of how it's affecting you and in order to really understand how it's affecting you either positively or negatively you need to be taking it at a consistent time every single day that's the best piece of advice I could give anybody when it comes to any sort of daily medication how do i stop phone time i feel like i spend so much time on my phone it's hard to stop

so as a also like a phone addict i've found and with any sort of addiction cold turkey really never works you need to kind of like supplement with a healthier addiction and specifically when it comes to your phone it's like okay instead of scrolling mindlessly on tiktok for two hours maybe i can make like a mood board for two hours and collect pretty pictures or maybe i can watch a movie instead you see where i'm going with this like supplement with something a little healthier um and especially when we're stuck inside and we don't know what to do and we just want something to do with our hands i really recommend picking up like a little hobby that um gives you something to mindlessly do with your hands something you don't really have to think about such as like

puzzling or knitting crocheting painting drawing writing literally anything that you can do with your hands mindlessly that you have been like maybe wanting to try or maybe wanting to you know test out now's the time like you you don't have any time to waste like you might as well start today um and anything you want to do you can honestly figure out and do that's the whole part of it it makes you feel very accomplished and it really just um brings a lot of trust and um confidence within yourself which i really really enjoy so yeah pick up a little hobby with your hands and then you can like have a movie in the background have a tv show in the background something where it's like kind of still including your phone or whatever but you have something to

do with your hands somewhere to put your brain that's a more healthier direction or like when you are on your phone try and redirect your brain to something a little bit um like healthier a little bit more constructive such as mood boarding such as collecting you know poetry reading i like read the Hunger Games book on my phone so whenever I wanted to pick up my phone I would just pick up my book instead of scrolling and that really helped at work when we were dead and I just basically read 20 chapters in one sitting it was fantastic. P.S. you can find any pdf for a book online you literally google the book and then pdf at the end you will find the whole book scanned into a pdf document and you can read it there pro tip especially my girlies who are like in a bind

sometimes and just want to read something fantastic maybe pick up a fan fiction addiction you know like start reading fan fiction put it into like a little better healthier addiction a little healthier route when it comes to your phone rather than just like mindlessly consuming because you can like use your phone to create to do really inspiring things um to use as a tool to help you it really just depends on how you direct that thought process and how you stick by yourself okay vibes someone said my boyfriend recently started putting a finger in my butt during sex why was it amazing no no no because this is really slept on and 10 out of 10 recommend like obviously don't recommend if you just ate chipotle and like just use the restroom but if

you had like a good solid bm in the morning you know you cleared your pipes it was it was not not loosey-goosey very solid very clean exit then i think you are good for like backdoor play because a lot of people get freaked out they're like i'm gonna shit on him no no no pay attention to like how your body's reacting and if you feel like you had like a good solid you know clean exit that morning you will probably be good for any sort of backdoor play but if it was a little messy a little loosey-goosey you know I would maybe advise caution but also if a man is going to be doing backdoor play with you like butt play you should understand that that is not like a spotless clean area and there might be a little bit of something okay and if you are a real man

you will accept that you will clean her up you'll wipe her up clean it up and not say a fucking word because we are being open with our bodies we are experimenting and no one should feel shame for anything that's happening especially if it's between two partners who are loving to each other pro tip now when it comes to exploring yeah yeah yeah like finger in the butt fantastic fantastic whether it's doggy whether it's on top and then you're like writing not only his dick but also his finger love um i've talked about my usage of butt plugs on here love that that's super fun as well maybe if he doesn't want to stick a finger in tell these man also before this man ever touches you his fingernails should be clean his fingernails his hands should he should be clean he should be

washing his hands okay because you don't know where that man's been it could be days since he's washed his hands okay make sure that man cleans his hands cleans his fingernails has them trimmed no long fingernails are allowed down there and have some fun you know what i mean but yeah finger in the butt fantastic 10 out of 10 recommend it's just like anything down there's gonna be pretty pleasurable especially if you're turned on and you're with someone you love and you want to explore it's gonna be pretty pleasurable and like a finger is pretty small a dick that's different doing anal that's way different it might be a little bit more intensive you know it takes a while to adjust but a finger girl like a shit is the size of a what like

sometimes it's the size of like i'm trying to think i don't know they're big though like a fingers nothing compared to that so have fun enjoy explore and no shame no shame is allowed in the bedroom hi Hannah my name is Giselle not my first time turning in um a call-in but my name is Giselle calling in from Miami and I just want to ask you girl girl girl girl I know that you're a server I know you work in hospitality and I know you've been doing it for quite some time enough time to pass on some wisdom to a newbie in the hospitality field I've worked with people but right now I actually really work in hospitality I work at a hotel um I really hope that nobody that works with me listens to this especially a manager but I work as a pool attendant at the five-star resort

and it is not easy because a lot of these people are rich I have to deal with a lot of rich people who have never worked a day in their life so they lack sympathy and they give you a hard time and the amount of tears that I have held back while working here are quite a lot I'm still here because I enjoy the tips though so if you could just pass me some of your wisdom girl I would really appreciate it thank you love you yeah talk about class consciousness rich people I can't even luckily I work at a restaurant where the people who come in are very chill relaxed like it is not fine dining it is very much so just like casual good vibes and so people like a look like a quirky server you know they're not looking for you to set the fork down correctly

but i could not handle a fine dining restaurant because i have an attitude problem so much so that i've had men threaten to literally shoot me yeah because i because i talked back and you know you know the help doesn't talk back bitch shut up anyways sorry sorry it it really gets me angry first of all if you're going into hospitality if you're going into serving if you are working as like you know the service industry i think the best thing that you can really do is make sure you have a good manager and good co-workers that are going to stand behind you because if someone's sitting there and they're being like mean to you so just when that man threatened to shoot me my co-workers immediately stood up and were like you are not gonna speak

to her like that i don't give a fuck what you think or who you think you are get the fuck out of the restaurant like you need people who are going to stand up for you and if you don't feel that way it kind of sucks to work in one of these places because it's like honestly service industry is like us against them you know what i mean it's us against the customers so like you got to be able to have like a little laugh here and there in order to make it through the chaotic times You got to be able to have a little giggle with your co-workers here and there to make it through, you know, those hard, long shifts. And if you can't do that, girl, find a different place. I pinky promise there are so many different places with, like, good energy.

It feels like a family, you know what I mean? And there's an endless amount of service opportunities out there. I promise you. Now, when it comes to customers, sometimes you just got to, like, giggle about it. You know what I mean? Like, when somebody says something crazy to me, I, like, laugh. like I can't help it I'm not like oh I'm so sorry because that's what they're looking for I have like a laugh because honestly like how dare you speak to me like this how dare you say something

as crazy as you just did to my face like I have to laugh and then immediately I'm gonna walk away you know what I mean I'm not gonna stand there let them berate me let them talk down on me as soon as they say something crazy I'm like lol girl what and then I like leave you know I leave the situation if they want a manager congrats i would be happy to get her i'd be happy to find somebody you know what i mean but as soon as somebody is rude mean disrespectful bitch i don't care i don't care i don't i don't get paid to deal with this shit i'm walking away as soon as possible i will find someone else to deal with you that is always an option if you have a mean disrespectful customer who's going to sit there and berate you the first thing i do is i'm like

give me one second i am going to get my manager for you they're like oh manager and then guess what i get my manager she handles the customer i don't even have to speak to them again because that is way past my fucking pay grade and some of these people out here especially post-covid are insanely entitled and it's all me me me and like i get i'm serving you but also don't scream at me and threatened to shoot me because i set your fork down on the table wrong that psycho behavior i'm gonna have a little laugh and i'm gonna walk away immediately as soon as i can but yeah i don't really take disrespect like you can be crazy but that doesn't mean i'm gonna put up with it especially being in like miami with all the people coming in and out and being a pool

attend it like of course be there help them out try and like humanize yourself as soon as you possibly can you know introduce your name to them tell them your name give them a laugh give them a smile compliment them that's the quickest way to kind of equalize any sort of situation when it comes to service industry oh you guys look like you're going to this event i wish i could go i hope you have a great time humanized immediately my name's hannah you know i've been here for this many years i know everything so if you need anything let me know literally lie whatever but like introduce yourself don't be afraid speak to them from like a humanized standard equalize yourself in some sort of way oh my god i love that bikini where is it from oh my god i

love your hat you look gorgeous by the way i hope you have so much fun immediately they think you're on their side and then they won't want to disrespect you you know what i mean they won't see you as just like another pool attendant you will have humanized which sucks that i have to literally humanize myself to other fucking people but you will have humanized yourself in a sense where they don't feel entitled to behave that way towards you and if they do feel or if they do feel entitled to behave that way towards you immediately girl turn around walk away find a manager that's literally what they're there for say hey i don't really know what's happening i don't know why they're upset good luck hello you're the manager this is your job i don't get paid for this go deal

with the angry customer because i don't have fucking time you know most of the time it's not personal you didn't do anything wrong i promise you you're just doing your job do what you get paid for get the fuck out of there don't really think any deeper about it you know what i mean it's just another job who cares if they get angry or upset a lot of these people out there are angry and upset at everything so if you take it personally like it's only gonna harm you i promise it's not personal keep moving do your best get those tips girly make that money live your best life you've got this i promise someone asked how do i gain weight well for me personally it was just realizing that food is something that you are meant to enjoy and you

are meant to enjoy consistently um not only do i use food as fuel which it should be but that's not all it is like you're supposed to be in this life enjoying and tasting as much good food as you possibly can um and yeah once i was like you know what bitch i'm gonna be eating good guess what i started eating good and i started enjoying food and realizing that food can be an experience it can be something you share with people it can be a way to show love um and it doesn't have to be like eating out at mcdonald's every day it can be like cooking your favorite childhood meal at home for people you love and inviting them over or trying a new cuisine that you've never tried before trying a new restaurant that just popped up in town and going out for an

experience and trying their food food's meant to be enjoyed it's meant to be shared um and is one of the oldest forms and tools that we as humans have used to really indulge and share with each other and to connect with each other, whether it was simply baking bread and delivering it to the neighbor or inviting your friends and family over for a giant meal or simply cooking your favorite comfort food when you're home alone one day. Food is meant to be enjoyed. It is meant to be consumed it is meant to be shared it is meant to be loved um and once i started looking at food as a form of love i feel like my relationship with food really healed um instead of looking at it as calories and fuel and i have to eat a certain way like of course sometimes i will do that

especially when i'm feeling like i need to regulate myself a little bit i'll have my go-to you know healthy eggs whole wheat toast cottage cheese i'll have my healthy you know like little breakfast burrito whatever it may be but that's not the point of it all of course you're supposed to feel yourself but also like dare to enjoy you know what I mean that's all life is about um and then also another tool that I've used because I put on like like 20 pounds which honestly I needed because I was stick thin and it was because I was mentally and physically kind of suffering um but I've realized that the happier I have been with myself and the more I've enjoyed life and enjoyed myself and enjoyed the people around me the my body has responded in a way that

um of course I've gained weight because of these experiences but it's because I'm healthy now it's because I am putting time and energy and space into my body rather than taking it away and understanding that mindset is very important so when you do gain that weight you don't start like freaking out and then regress back into a unhealthy state um understanding that yes your body is going to change when you get older yes you know you're going to have more of a womanly figure you're going to put on weight in different places you're not going to have that teenager body forever especially if you are like actually enjoying life and indulging a little bit and that's okay your body's going to change your mind's going to change change is a part of life

it's simply accepting and loving yourself through that that will help you grow and develop and become a better human being so yeah i don't know i feel like it's been something that's been a very important step in my journey is learning how to love myself and appreciate myself and appreciate food and share that with people around me but that was like step one and now step two is kind of I am now focusing on how to step back into my body into more of like a physical form and like moving it and adjusting it and working it out so then my my muscles are treated fairly and my body is treated fairly and I'm not just like sitting all the time so I've been practicing every morning doing just like a 10 minute stretching 10 minute little yoga flow 10 20 minute little pilates

routine um and that with everything else that I'm doing such as just simply enjoying life enjoying food um treating my body fairly accepting change has really put myself in a in a place where honestly now that I'm thinking about it I'm pretty proud to be where I am um I didn't think I would ever get to where i am when it comes to body simply neutrality and acceptance and being happy with where i am um but i've i think i'm getting there you know what i mean and all it takes is putting a little time and effort into yourself and a shit ton of acceptance okay fuck what everybody else thinks as long as you love and accept yourself that is really all you need because if you stand by yourself and you accept yourself and you love yourself then anything else

that anybody else says literally will not matter to you and will not hold any weight with you because the only thing you will care about is how you feel about yourself and if you love and stand by yourself that's all that matters i love you oh someone said happy belated full moon yep we had a full moon in gemini last night i'm sure you guys saw it um it was an interesting full moon luckily i didn't have anything crazy happen to me shout out but that's mostly because i kept my mouth closed my thoughts inwards and i just like did my own thing and that's kind of the vibe that we need to take on for the rest of the week because that residual energy is going to be sticking around we are in a mercury retrograde shadow phase so everybody's very much so looking

inwards and asking themselves like where am i where do i want to go and then making the desired steps but also as gemini's like we have big fucking mouths so don't say anything that you don't mean don't say anything without kindness and compassion don't say anything that you think is going to cause trouble during this time because trust me it's going to cause a lot of fucking trouble okay so this week i really recommend just like doing your own thing focusing on you spending some alone time some tlc time especially after all the family stuff um and don't say any crazy shit period someone said christmas ideas for the girlies made my boyfriend an advent calendar with a

new position every day see i love women because we are just so crafty we will figure something out that's for fucking sure i love that idea honestly because like what man is going to receive that and not be just like so happy it's like a blowjob coupon you know you're like here you go redeem whenever but like here's your christmas gift jesus christ um i remember one year for like valentine's day i did um i had my boyfriend show up and i was in lingerie and i handed him a disposable camera and i said we're not you're not allowed to touch me until this all 30 pictures or whatever on this disposable camera are taken and taken by you that was a fun one that was a fun one as well fun little like sexy activities like that men will be like yep

love this is the best present you could ever give me like ps5 i don't know her like fun activities like that amazing beautiful 10 out of 10 recommend especially for christmas someone said how to save money while still being hot that is such a funny way to word a question because like i feel you i feel you i feel like especially living in like a capitalistic society like to be hot you need to spend money especially nowadays like you have to spend money on lip injections you have to spend money on botox every six months you have to spend money on the newest trend cycle that's going around break that thought process i feel like the hottest bitches are the bitches who like simply do not fall into that capitalistic trap and still find a way to be themselves outside of it those

like unique girlies are my favorite girlies and honestly the hottest because they are undeniably themselves even if they're wearing like full 2016 beat with the large oversized you know urban outfitters t-shirts with the ugg boots like giving 2016 if they are giving themselves and that is who they are that will they will pull it off so well and be the hottest bitch in the room it is simply about working with what you have and leaning into that individual app individuality whoa that's a big word for my brain this early in the morning leaning into that individuality leaning into who you are and working with what you have i you do not need to spend money to be hot break that idea in your brain you do not have to have the newest things especially like this

christmas season i everybody has their wish list that's cute it's fun it's funky and fresh but you don't need those things in order to be a better version of ourselves i feel like we as women have this idea that we like need the newest lip gloss or else we're not going to be hot we need the newest shoes or else we're not going to be hot we're not going to receive our like societal stamp of approval but you do not need those things and the sooner you break that idea that construct in your mind the freer you will be okay i have a challenge for you guys and this is also a challenge for me i've kind of been stuck in this mindset for a while you know that oh i need this thing or else I won't be hot or I need this thing or else I won't be you know the cool girl

that's just simply not based in reality and I need to put my feet back in reality so I've really been challenging myself to like work with what I have you know um work with the clothing I have work with the makeup I have work with the you know 10 year old hair straightener I have and do fun things with my hair put it up in a fun claw clip put it up in pigtails um try new eyeliner um you know put together a new fun outfit and doing this for every occasion that I possibly can because it's a good practice tool like of course when I'm sitting in at home like I'm not going to be dressed up but as soon as I have to step out of that house I really try and use it as like an exercise tool and be like okay let's see what I have and let's

put together a good outfit with what i have and 10 times out of 10 i'm gonna put together a good fucking outfit and i'm gonna feel hot in what i have i don't need that newest item that newest thing in order to feel like a complete version of myself or like the hottest girl around no when you lean into yourself and who you truly are that's how you feel like the hottest girl around when you know same thing as like with the body positivity when you accept yourself no one can deny you so once you lean and learn into accepting yourself and finding a way to express yourself in your own way outside of capitalism you will feel so in tune with yourself so loved by yourself and really no no one can take that away from you and it is a very important skill

to learn within this real world so yeah I just recommend you know taking the time and of course it takes energy to look around give thanks for what you have but also like work with what you have break that cycle that ideal that you need to buy something in order to feel like you belong that is just brainwashing at its finest okay um and I got all my Christmas shopping out of the way thank god i just have to get my niece and my nephew something i'm getting the little jelly cat stuffed animals so cute but i have all of my you know christmas shopping basically done so i'm gonna try and spend this december not i'm not gonna shop at all like i'll get necessary things such as groceries gas you know maybe a vaseline chapstick here and there because in my opinion

that is necessary um but i'm really gonna try and step away from the online shopping delete those apps get them off my phone so i'm not tempted delete my card off my phone um and try and find happiness in a space that is not spending money because sure clicking that button feels real good and getting that package here feels real good but looking at my bank account after definitely does not it's a tricky cycle you find yourself in when you base your self-worth off of whatever purchases you're making so little what is it what month are we in november challenge well december it's going to be December here soon December challenge don't spend money find happiness where you are at the present moment express yourself with what you have because trust me you have enough I love you

hello miss Hannah so my question for the pod slash confession is getting over a man oh I know that you've known for a few months again I know but has told you that they have strong feelings for you yet is now being forced into an arranged marriage well i don't know maybe you do or don't have any like previous background slash experience with that type of stuff i would love your advice because now i have feelings for this person and i don't know what to do but also i have some of my things still left over at their place and i need to get it obviously not like a hairband like a nintendo switch so let me know what i should do and love you so much girly oh my god girl this is crazy i'm sorry not to say that but like whoa no i have never

been with a man who is now possibly going into a arranged marriage a i don't know if you have contact with him but like yeah we gotta get that nintendo switch back the most you could probably do like if you don't want to run into him speak to him like resurge those old feelings just be like hey leave it on your front porch illy you know like write him an email text whatever you guys have contact in i'm gonna need you to leave that on the front porch because i need that back asap or ship it to me one of the two i feel like that's the best way to kind of go about getting your stuff back from your ex without resurging those old feelings or having to interact with them whatsoever um and I understand wanting to interact with them but ask yourself like is that

the best thing for you to be doing so you know we got to get that back step one step two is obviously like distance they're getting married you are you know you got to respect that whether it is I guess wanted or not but like obviously there's no space for you here and if you stay there you're only going to get hurt because there's no space for you and you should go to places where there are space for you where there is space for you um so i think the best kind of advice i can give you about just like breakups and old feelings and things not going the way you are or where you wanted it to go is feelings come and go okay you need to feel them fully understand that they are there for a reason and the way you are feeling is very valid and yeah you might be

hurt or you might be sad and that is a very normal feeling to feel after a breakup but that's not how you're gonna feel forever okay we have so many years on this planet we have so much time to meet new people to fall in love again and I truly believe that like I'm I'm very much so in love but if this relationship was to end like of course I would be hurt and it would suck and like I mean I'm happy and I've been in a relationship where I where I've had the rug pulled out from under me you know like I thought things were going good and then we broke up and the one thing that I can always rely on is I have so much love in my heart and I have so much hope and trust in myself and I know that as long as I keep that hope and that love and that trust in myself and the world around

me open I will be able to fall in love over and over and over again because I bring good people into my life and I love connecting with people and I love getting to know people the same way I love connecting and getting to know myself and I believe that people will fall in love until the end of time love is one of the most strongest powerful drivers that there is especially emotionally and if you lean into that and open your heart fully you will find love again of course right now it sucks and you got to feel that for now you got to feel that hurt as much as you can so you can release it but there is hope out there you will fall in love again you will find a better situation i think right now you got to get your nintendo switch back you got to get on

your hot girl single shit you got a delete block forget about that person especially because they are going into a marriage right now that is a lot um and that is a lot that they're dealing with but not something that you should be dealing with simultaneously you know like it's not your marriage um and you are so amazing and beautiful you do not deserve to be the other woman in that situation it's not fair to anybody involved so sometimes it sucks but you gotta pack your shit up you gotta hit the road you gotta start over fresh but honestly there's no better feeling than getting to start over fresh and getting to kind of like reopen your eyes to the world and be like you know what that didn't work out but that's okay what the fuck is out here because

I'm excited to discover it and to discover something new for myself and make a new life for myself and you will make a new beautiful life for yourself I love you how do I get my dirty thong back from a skater i fucked last week he's being difficult he's holding it hostage because he wants to see you again that's my theory unless he's not responding at all then it's long gone but so when i was back in my you know like streets phase my hoe phase in order to like play a little game and see these men again if i wanted to is i would always leave a little something at their place if i want to get the fuck up and get out of there they would never hear from me again of course i'd be like you're weird bye but like if i wanted to

play a little mind game you know like figure out a way to see them again without outwardly saying it which you should have no problem with but you know it's all about the games i guess when you're young and you are just looking to have some fun i would leave like a lighter over or like a thong is sexy that's fun um or like my claw clip i don't know something little like your lip gloss it's 25 leave it there so then you're like oh my god i totally forgot i left this there i really need it back is there any way i could get it back if they don't say anything most of the if they're like you they'll be like hey you left this you won't like do you need it back do you want to come get it and then there you go now you got the opening to be like yeah i would love to

hang out again literally it's that easy but you know if he's holding your thong hostage and he's not letting you have it back or responding girl it's a lost cause but if he's like yeah i have it you gotta come get it girl go have some fun again you know what i mean and then take it home with you anyways speaking of crazy men this girl dm'd me and i actually screamed out loud this morning reading this but she said hannah i need to tell you my ex keeps sending me poetry and it's the funniest shit ever he's gross we don't like him okay vibes but in short he cheated and when i asked when he knew he loved me he said when i got you naked and knew you were worth it like great thanks okay yeah so piece of shit all around men will do anything but say i'm sorry and in this

case he sent her like paragraphs of poetry paragraphs you know what find you a man who says i'm sorry even when he's wrong that's how my man is he knows i'm fucking insane and like sometimes i'll just like lose my mind over quite literally nothing not even based in reality i started crying the other day because i was on my period and the bed was made differently and i was like why were you in bed like who was in bed with you like just not basing reality losing my mind post shift you know just like you know when you have those moments and you're like i know this makes no sense but i need to cry and let it out like let the crazy thoughts out and i need you to hear me and be like yeah babe i love you i'm so sorry get you a man who does that who says i'm

sorry no matter what because this man definitely is not one of them the poetry is sending me let me read it to you okay so he said head never empty but always alone with these thoughts not sure if it's loneliness or if this is what contentness rots i like myself when i'm alone social standards got me stressing at a party like what she say is this joke too dark got me second guessing if my own morals in line right what or am i just being an edgy fuck boy making people laugh and smile like a jack-in-the-box toy never know when or what will come out will i make her smile or will i make her pout i can't help being me but i can't help what i say all i try to do is make people laugh and be a better me each day some days i prosper others i am a detester

this is the life of a king jester bitch men men will do anything but say i'm sorry also a man who's like addressing himself as the joker is very scary and i think you need to run as far as you possibly can oh my god literally that shit had me giggling and kicking my feet this morning men are so unpredictable and so insane if you if you ever receive poetry like this run as fast as you fucking can as fast as you can am i just being an edgy fuck boy yes yes you just wrote paragraphs of poetry about not being able to make people laugh yeah that's exactly what you are anyways thanks for sharing with the class that was very fun to read oh someone said what is your beauty routine maintenance schedule skincare routine etc i feel like we talk a lot

about the um maintenance routine especially as girls like it's so i don't know sometimes i like the maintenance routine where you just have like a day to get all of your self-care things out of the way because it's really indulgent and you're gonna spend a lot of alone time just doing your own thing but then also the days where you don't want to do it it is literally like oh my god I'd rather rip my eyelashes out of my fucking eyes and have to self-tan and shave and do my hair and you know what I mean but on the days where it is like a vibe I do enjoy it but I'm pretty low maintenance I'm not gonna lie I feel like being proactive is the best thing you can do for your body and your skincare and proactive in a way such as finding makeup products that are skincare

friendly that aren't gonna break you out so then you don't feel like you need to do more maintenance because you're breaking out all the time because you're wearing makeup all the time or like finding a really good shave routine so you only have to do it once a week you know what I mean um for me personally yeah finding makeup because I do have to wear makeup to work and I work quite often um finding makeup that doesn't break me out and everybody's skincare is going to be different the way you react to different makeup is going to be different for everybody but finding a really good base routine that doesn't cause like cystic acne doesn't break me out has been fantastic um so then I can wear it and I don't have to worry um as well as finding a good everyday

skincare routine that I can do in the shower and do pretty quick finding a face wash I enjoy finding a moisturizer that I enjoy and then when it comes to the in-depth kind of maintenance days those are really just like my shave days I do that once a week I make sure I have a very sharp clean razor I don't reuse razors because I found that they dole out so fast and then they cause ingrown hairs because they're just going to drag the hair rather than cutting it so use a new razor every time and as soon as that razor gets stole like get a new one you know don't be afraid to like I don't know have a few on hand and so I'll use like two razors whatever I'll shave my whole body not my whole body basically just like belly button down um and then lotion up find a good

lotion that you enjoy that's a nice little fun smell in the summer I um I'll do like a little spray tan situation not spray tan self-tan uh but right now in the winter girl i'm gonna be pale and i'm just gonna own it i don't have time to self-tan and yeah have a good self-care routine every night when it comes to like just your face and making sure your skincare is being taken care of and prioritizing that every night that's really the biggest game changer in my life because i've dealt with acne for such a fucking long time i'm talking since like third grade i still have it i have a giant pitbull growing on my face right now but i have found that taking the time to understand your skin and understand how your body reacts to things is very very important don't just

buy the newest thing don't just buy something that someone is recommending you on tiktok look into the ingredients look into the way your face reacts to them okay you don't need that 60 product i promise you every single one of the drunk elephant thing or items break me the fuck out just because it's cute skincare doesn't mean it's gonna work look at the ingredients look at the way your skin reacts find what's best for you um i feel like that is the best tool that you can use when it comes to like beauty routines maintenance care um especially for my acne girlies um but yeah oh and finding a signature scent that will make you feel beautiful even if you haven't showered for days finding a signature perfume signature lotion that smells yummy

icing on the cake hi hannah love you so much i've been listening for a while from canada so good morning from here um i've recently been getting into astrology i'm born march 16th so i am a pisces and i definitely fall into that category i'm a major dreamer um and i was just wondering more about my horoscope you seem really knowledgeable in astrology and I'm just kind of trying to get into it what are some resources that I can look into uh to learning about that and what do you think about the Pisces girlies thanks so much bye astrology I love astrology I love you know checking in with the moon seeing what's going on with the stars but I feel like if you're new to astrology the first thing you need to look into is not not what's going on around you

but what's going on inside you okay learning about yourself is the best way to kind of form a overall understanding of astrology so then you can apply it to the things happening in real time you know you learn more about the signs you learn more about the planets and then when new things happen such as like you know full moon and gemini you know what the full moon means you know what full moon in gemini means and you know how the other planets are affecting it so i really really recommend going to this website called cafe astrology i think they have a free birth chart reading and it is so interesting go in there type in your name type in where you were born what time make sure you get specifics i'm talking like call your mom call your dad call your grandma whoever

ask them what time you're born make sure you're very specific about it because you'd be surprised how quickly the planets change depending on just like a simple you know switch in the minutes so look into that explore it will give you a full reading on every single planet where it falls what house what time how it affects you in what way you can also if you're crazy like me you can put in your birth time and then like somebody you are in love with's birth time and like see your compatibility as well but I really recommend just going to cafeastrology.com typing in your birth time where you're born looking into that discovering more about yourself reading into it looking and see how it affects you and then when it comes to events happening in the real world

and astrology changes the main person that I really really get a lot of my astrology information from and updates is on instagram her instagram is called mercurial sarah m-e-r-c-u-r-i-a-l-s-a-r-a-h amazing so fantastic um she does weekly updates on everything happening in you know the cosmos at this time and it's like a weekly update with every single day what's going on during that day what to expect she gives the most a free shout out in-depth advice and like understanding of the cosmos and the world around us that really keeps me in tune with astrology updates day to day and I really recommend that but first get to know yourself you know put in your birth time discover where different things fall on your charts understand how they affect you how they

affect your relationships how they affect your money or your housing everything um i feel like it's so fun to discover yourself through astrology and to get to know yourself a little bit more and i recommend everybody do it but yeah those are my two biggest resources when it comes to um astrology especially in my everyday life love you also biggest red flag in a man is if you tell them about astrology and they just roll their eyes and go oh that doesn't matter i don't care about astrology who cares about astrology boo lame boring l that man did not pass the test because if a man's gonna shit on astrology it kind of just means he hates women's activities and he hates women's hobbies and like there is some very scientific real basis in astrology so

you can't just push it off because a lot of women like it like i'm sorry you are mean and awful and you maybe have a bad sign and women have let you know that and that's why you hate it but i think the biggest red flag a man can have is if he like diminishes your interest in astrology because it's just a little misogynistic i'm not gonna lie it's actually very misogynistic because guess what if a man came out to me and he's like i just won this video game round i'd be like cool babe congrats thumbs up do i know anything that's happening no do i really give a fuck no but i'm you know what i'm gonna give you a thumbs up and a pat on the back and a little smooch on the cheek and move on with my life you know what i mean i'm not gonna sit here and diminish you for your

hobbies your activities your ideas if a man is gonna sit here and make fun of you for things that you're interested in he does not give a fuck about you and you should run as fast as you possibly can the opposite way that matt rife situation what a piece of shit literally how fucking stupid is he i when i saw him on the wild and out episode where he grabbed zendaya's face and like got really close to her i was like oh no he doesn't he's an awful human being he needs to be taking off television immediately i don't know how he rose to this like semi-fame where he's like going on tour and doing stand-up comedy i knew it wouldn't be good so when it came out on netflix and he was making fun of women who do astrology and women who get beat by their husbands

and laughing about it yeah piece of shit jail time l loser lame oh yeah no i it was that was the first red flag i saw years ago i was in high school when that wild and out episode came out and i was like yeah that means a piece of shit yup and guess what he absolutely was so learning from that situation if a man makes fun of your interest and hobbies especially especially uh astrology he is a walking red flag and you need to run as fast as you can oh someone said fuck marry kill a bong joint dab i'm gonna go ahead and kill the dab i know i know just because they're so like if i take dabs every night but i really want to get into edibles dabs are just like a little too

much for me i mean i love them but also like i really have been thinking about like my throat my lung health and they just kill my throat my lungs so i think i'm gonna have to kill the dab because i don't know it's just it's just too much it's too much i'm sorry it's too much i would rather eat an edible dabs are just too intensive so kill the dab we're going to fuck the bong because she's cute she's very casual she's like an everyday situation but she's not like that sexiness that i need to marry and like a joint is just like so sexy i love a joint a joint is so nice like having your own personal joint going for a walk with a joint a joint before a day a joint after the bar like it is such like an everyday anytime situation and that's exactly

what i want to marry so marry joint fuck bong kill dab slay someone said dorm food wrecks please I can't do this dining hall food I have a microwave and rice cooker help um so when I was really broke in college uh and I'm assuming you have a communal kitchen I really use your communal kitchen um I would do like boiled eggs or fried eggs and um rice like all the fucking time or really cheap ramen and eggs and that was like fantastic especially like late at night post bars um leftover rice heat it up in the microwave um maybe get some eggs to pre-cook them get like a little egg cooker for the microwave you pro tip you cannot put a egg in the microwave whole and try and boil it trust me it will explode and it will feel like a literal like fart bomb went off

in your room. Do not do that. So lots of eggs, cheap, love. Lots of ramen, cheap, love. Lots of rice, cheap, fantastic. I would do like cheesy rice sometimes. I would throw some shredded cheese on some rice. Listen, when you're broke and you're a college student, you make do. And then in the dining hall, I would make sandwiches all the time. I know you got a sandwich station. I know you do you got bread in there i trust me make as many sandwiches as you possibly can bring some baggies put them in your bag take them out they're not watching that closely and if they are there's some freaking freaks take them anyways make sandwiches take them home so you have like snacks for later and also biggest pro tip i can ever give you if you feel like your dining hall

food sucks go to the dining hall that is made specifically for student athletes okay we had two dining halls one was the huge main dining hall you know uh the big one with all the fucking cafeteria tables with like all the different stations like that was the big one and then we had a smaller one that was a little bit further down from campus that was over by like the um the athlete student center and by the like sophomore dorms you can eat there as well but they're gonna have healthier options they're gonna have more like hot like better cuisine because the student athletes need to be eating good um i would go there and i would get like roast potatoes roast green beans roast chicken every single day and eat so well and also like

steal food from the dining halls girl you're paying so much and fucking a tuition bring a little to-go box with you my right when i left college they implemented the like green um clear boxes that you could fill up with food and take with you like you were allowed to take a box with you um but prior to that we just had a steal so feel free to take from that fucking dorm that uh dining hall okay because holy shit you were paying so much intuition you might as well take some milk and make some cereal later you know what i mean anyways yeah i feel like the snacks are really what would get me when i was in college because like i'd have lunch but then i'd be like starving after my 3 p.m um so make sure you have like little things on you some like cheez-its pack

a sandwich for later whatever it may be bowl of ramen do what you gotta do but make sure you stay fed because the best way to study the best way to remember everything is to make sure you are eating food so your brain can function oh you know what lana del rey was so right when she made video games like it's you it's you it's all for you everything i do and you just play your video games like she ate with that one someone said what do i do if my boyfriend plays video games non-stop it makes me feel boring illy so i talked about oh fuck what's it called a parallel play on a couple podcasts ago god i can't remember anymore like literally these podcast they all I'm like did I talk about it a year ago did I talk about it last episode who

knows parallel play I feel like the best way to strengthen any sort of relationship or to feel comfortable in a relationship is being able to parallel play which means you were in the same room maybe you were just like existing next to each other but you're not necessarily interacting like you're both doing your own thing within the same space um you're not having to do an activity together it's like maybe you're knitting and he's playing video games you're not really talking there's a tv show in the background but you're parallel playing you see what i'm saying here and i think a lot of men assume like oh my girlfriend's sitting on her phone doing nothing and i'm playing video games like this is us parallel playing but i think a lot of women are

like just sitting on their phones because they have nothing else to do because their boyfriend's playing video games and like bitch i don't really care about video games maybe you're one of the gamer girls who like plays video games with your boyfriend shout out love that i'm glad you guys can do something together but for all the girlies who are like i don't understand video games it's lame it's boring it's all he wants to do with his time when i come over i am not one to give toxic advice yes i am but you guys sometimes like if you don't want to fucking do that you have to make it known like you can play video games when i leave but this is getting out of control like sometimes all my boyfriend wants to do with his evenings is play video games vibes that's okay sometimes i

don't want to be spoken to and i want to lay in bed and scroll on tiktok for four hours that's okay but sometimes i don't want to do that and i have to make that very clear you know what i mean and sometimes i gotta be like you're on your games too much like i just want to spend time with you you don't want to spend time with me like i just want to hang out and you're just like succumbing to the video games like let's just hang out together like make them feel bad a little bit and then like if they're a normal human being they will hear what you're saying and be like no you have vibes let's do something like let's go out let's let's have some fun let's cuddle let's watch a movie together you know what i mean but you have to make it known that you do not want

the video games happening tonight happening this day be like hey it's your night your your night to plan a date night surprise you're planning date night um on thursday so i hope you have something fun planned i will see you at blank like put him on the spot fuck it but yeah i think a lot of men assume that when they're playing video games and we're just sitting on our phones it's like parallel play it's like fun interactive we're experiencing time together but you know sometimes i like to get off my phone sometimes the video games can be put down and he should be able to recognize and understand that but when you are feeling that let it be known okay tell your boyfriend get off the fucking game and trust me if he loves you he will hear you and be like

yes ma'am yes ma'am i will get off the game let's do something let's have some fun but yeah you gotta make him feel bad about it a little bit my boyfriend makes me feel bad about sitting on my phone sometimes and i'll be like you know what bitch you're right i'll get up i'll get up right now what do you have planned let's do something and sometimes it's all it takes in a relationship but yeah those video games they really just like soul suck man it's insane it's insane but let it be known bitch i'm over the games let's do something and if that man can't like plan a date if he can't put time aside for you if he starts like making an argument of it being like well i just want to do this fuck that man fuck him okay get up as soon as he's like no i don't want to do

anything i just don't play video games all night after you make it clear that you would like to do something and you come over and you allot your time to him if he's like no you know just get some the fucking video game quietly put your shit in your bag put on your shoes look him in the eyes tell him i think we have different priorities and walk out the fucking door watch how quickly he gets his shit together and if he doesn't his loss girl move on you can't have a man who's like physically addicted to video games for your entire life okay I get having hobbies fantastic amazing but we gotta live in the real world sometimes so make him feel a little bad I think it's good for the soul hi Hannah first of all I just want to say I've been probably

listening to your podcast for over a year now I believe and it's been really helping me with a lot of things in my life really I've been have I had more self-worth now and also I really gained a lot of more confidence and I learned a lot about myself which I'm really thankful for um so for my question for today is I'm in my first relationship now I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 and turning 20 soon um i'm from europe by the way so yeah um the thing is it was his first time and my first time too but we're just not as experienced with sex so i just wanted to ask like do you have any tips like for non-experienced people who have sex yeah i love you bye okay hi queen welcome so excited to have you thank you for listening I think the best best

advice I can give to anybody who is kind of like you know just getting into their sexual awakening just learning about themselves and I think you're in a particularly good position because you are new to it and your partner is also new to it so you're kind of exploring together is to just like okay a protection we don't need babies protection protection protection condom birth control something at least something please i'm begging you please i'm begging you pull out does not work not from personal experience but just like that's not something you should rely on of course have protection step number one and talk to your doctor about what's best for you condoms i feel like are the easiest especially for younger people like just throw one on please i'm begging anyways

have fun okay i get like sex is new you're a little nervous it's gonna be a little awkward but that's okay you're discovering it together and i feel like there's something really wholesome about that and you should lean into that you know you were learning to discover your bodies together you're learning to try new things together being vulnerable together and i feel like that's so beautiful and so fun and so just like lean into being new okay you're not going to be professional like flipping it turning it you know slurping it sucking it it's not going to be like second nature you're still learning you're trying new things you're experiencing new things so i say just like a be communicative with your partner um set boundaries if you need to show up for yourself

if you're not feeling it let that be known if you are feeling it let that be known but also like just dare to have a little fun sex is supposed to be fun it's supposed to be like connective you're supposed to connect to your partner and connect to yourself in that way make sure it's pleasurable for both of you you should both be getting off and dare i argue you should be getting off before him but also if you don't know how like do some self-exploration see what you like and then bring that to your partner so then he knows what you like but I really think for people who are just like kind of learning to discover their bodies don't put too much pressure on yourself but just have a little fun you know it's supposed to be a very exploratory time

you're supposed to be getting to know yourself during this time and learn what you like so understand you're not going to have it all figured out um don't pressure yourself to try like hard things like you should not be doing like anal at this time like girl we're just learning how to have sex you don't need to be like getting into anything crazier than that um but yeah have fun explore your body explore your partner's body make sure you have a good established communication there where you can speak up for yourself speak up for each other during that time make sure you are protected okay and yeah definitely have fun that's what it's about okay i feel like there's always a lot of pressure when you're young and just learning how to have

sex but really the basis of it is to have fun and get some pleasure out of it and make sure it's pleasurable for both of you so yeah i think that's the best advice you can have don't put too much pressure on yourself have some fun enjoy it explore yourself explore your partner explore your body um that's what it's about love you oh someone asked scream yell fights normal in a relationship question mark question mark question mark no i'm gonna say not normal at all i used to be in a relationship where we would do this like twice a week like just scream at each other um and i thought that was normal because like we're working through it like sure we don't communicate well but we're working through it no bitch you're

not you're being emotionally fucking abused girl run run when there are disagreements within a relationship which will happen and should happen i think disagreements are healthy and normal but during that time it is you and your partner's job to be respectful to each other to not demean each other just because you are not getting along during that time does it give your partner space to be rude disrespectful mean disregarding I don't care what kind of fight you're having you should be able to sit down and talk about it like normal fucking adults and sure you know you might get angry you might get sad you're definitely gonna feel an array of emotions but it should never open up to being disrespectful and demeaning to your partner that is not okay

in any sort of sense like me my partner right now sure we get into it sometimes that's normal that's healthy that's fine but we're having a very we're working together if you know what i mean like sure it's a fight but we're trying to find like a common ground we're trying to figure it out we are hearing each other maybe we need to take a break we need to walk away for a second come back together keep working if tensions are getting a little too high because trust me i have my toxic side and sometimes I want to scream and yell and I know that's not healthy so I need to step away but the overarching theme is we are working together to find a common ground to fix the situation and if your fights are just you guys screaming at each other demeaning each other

using terms that you should not be using to people you love that's not healthy that is not okay and maybe that means your communication styles just simply don't work and you need to leave the relationship anyways yeah yup someone said what are some winter staples that you're looking for at the thrift store this year you're a thrifting goddess illy queen wow thank you um yeah i i go to the thrift store pretty often but i've been really trying to you know reduce my consumption so like most of the time i go there i don't get anything it's fun to look it's fun to see things but like If I do not need it, then I don't need it. I'm not going to add it to my wardrobe.

But really the only main thing that I've been looking for, especially at the thrift store, is A, little decor items for my house. That's always something that I'm trying to find. Any sort of decorations, fun little trinkets, knickknacks, things like that. Planters for my plants, fantastic. But when it comes to clothing, in the winter, the main thing I'm looking for is fun winter coats.

fun thick warm winter coats that is all i'm hunting for because listen no one's gonna be looking at your outfit other than your coat because a you need to be warm and b we gotta be a little stylish so like right now i've been rocking my furry thick cheetah print coat um i have a longer furry thick cheetah print coat i love a long coat because it keeps your legs warm um i have like a really long penny lane coat that i love um and these are all things that took me a while to source but as soon as i get to the thrift store i run to that coat section and i hunt through it okay i hunt through it that and a good pair of shoes i'm talking a good pair of shoes i don't know if you can thrift i feel like a lot of my thrift shoes are more like stylish fun little

you know heels but I think a great winter staple is having a good pair of shoes that you know can get a little wet can get a little dirty that have some tractions you're not going to slip in the snow and are going to keep your feet warm but when it comes to thrifting yeah cute fun thick warm winter coats oh I feel like I've been high my adult my whole adult life my grades are good my life isn't affected only in my mental state how do you find motivation to change when things aren't falling apart I love this a I think you're at a very healthy place um you know you feel like things are going good you'd like to make some change you're recognizing it next step you got to do is make some change but I think a lot of us kind of you know when we're in an okay spot or

we're in a good spot we just wait and we wait and we wait for things to get chaotic and bad before making a change towards good and this is me making a psa to everybody out there are which is things don't have to be bad in order for you to take a step towards better you can be at good and in fact, I encourage you to be at good and want to make a step towards being better. So, I mean, in any place, of course, make the step towards better, but you don't have to wait for things to be chaotic and bad and ugly and awful for you to be like, okay, this is the time that I need to make a change. Because in fact, it's going to be a little harder. Like, of course, it's going to be a little bit harder to make a change during that time. But no matter where you

are there's always just going up as long as you are willing to put in that effort and that time and that energy to push yourself into a better direction so I recommend I mean I think you're at the perfect place you're stable you feel like you're doing good but you want to do better and every day is an opportunity to do better all you got to do is figure out you know what change would you like to make how am I going to implement and implement that in my daily life and simply wake up and start doing it i've been doing pilates every day for the past like three weeks and you know before that i was like i could never i could never like i just am not the person to work out i just don't enjoy it and i have been loving it of course those first couple days sucked my body is

really sore i don't really want to get on my yoga mat and do this i don't really have a lot of time to allot to it but the more i do it the more i interact with it the better i'm feeling because I'm feeling proud of myself for implementing a new routine a new item into my routine I am feeling stronger because I'm moving my body I'm doing something that I've been wanting to do I am challenging myself in a way that I've been wanting to challenge and it's pushed me from a place of good to better and of course you know that better is going to turn back into good because it's going to normalize and this new routine is going to become a staple part of your daily routine but guess what there's gonna be something else that comes into your life that you're like my life

would be better if I implemented that then you keep moving up the ladder you know what I mean you don't have to fall down the fucking ladder in order to move up you can move up at any point in your life you can implement new ideas new things new thoughts into your life at any point it is simply just a choice of is today the day and guess what every single day is a new opportunity so you have endless amount of possibilities to start doing it I love you but yeah you don't have to wait around for things to get bad in order for things to start getting good or to start making a change either you can do that any single possible day of course if things are bad you know let's let's make a change but also just because things are good doesn't mean they're not going

to get better and only you know what to implement to make it better so lean into that trust in yourself um it will bring so much confidence and respect and understanding to yourself if you listen to your needs and then implement them you have to work on your relationship with yourself like you would a friendship and being able to hear your needs and react accordingly will bring you just so much peace and confidence into your inner world and I recommend it to everybody anyways this was such a fun episode you guys I am about to my boyfriend's about to pick me up we're gonna go get some pho go get a little coffee I'm gonna deep clean my house a little bit put on a cute outfit i don't know what tonight holds for us i think we're just gonna stay in i'm

gonna watch a movie cook some dinner very chill chill activities i really want to do some art tonight too that's on my to-do list is dabble in some painting and stuff um thursday i'm going on a little double date cutesy fun i think we're gonna go get korean barbecue oh i love korean barbecue korean barbecue a little soju shot on the side literally what is better honestly um and then friday night me and my boyfriend are going to a rave i'm very excited about that i just want to get out and dance and have some fun i doubt i'll be out late but i definitely want to like get dinner with a friend beforehand and then we're gonna go out and dance i've been really trying this winter to kind of like plan activities plan things in advance so then i have little

things to look forward to and little things to get me out of the house i feel like it really helps with the whole seasonal depression shit where you're like oh i'm stuck inside and outside sucks but when you're just traveling and you only have to be outside to get to another place it's not so bad it gets you out of the house get put on a fun outfit explore the world around you try new things hang out with new people that's what life's about you don't have to stop enjoying life just because winter is around you know what i mean but i love you all this has been a fun episode we went a little longer than usual but hey i'm sure you guys love that as much as i love that and yeah with that being said i hope you have a great rest of your week enjoy stay strong

power through you guys got this we're almost to christmas break for all my college student girlies and then you'll have a real break but i hope you enjoyed the holidays i hope you are staying strong through this last little stretch before we do a little holiday break and yeah i will see you all very soon