Smoke Sesh - shopping addictions, finding friends & weed etiquette

Episode Date: August 10, 2022

Happy Tuesday everyone! Hope we all had a wonderful weekend, I recap the lions gate portal and manifestation techniques as well as full moon ritual ideas as we approach the Aquarius full moon on Thursday. We also talk jewelry and the silver vs gold girly debate, how to find friends, what makes a good friend, and nurturing current friends, sex rooms and building comfortability, reading a how to be a confident reader, period sex, getting messy and how to handle a heavy flow, shopping addictions, growing as an individual in a relationship, favorite recipes right now, giving people and yourself space and last but not least weed etiquette and everything I’ve learned over the years of being a responsible and caring member of the weed community. ILY all and I hope you have an incredible rest of your week, I will see you all again next Thursday when I get back from vacation MUAH!

Listen, everybody needs a fairy godmother, you know, just somebody to look out for them. Some people call me their fairy smoke mother, others their internet big sister, but you can call me Hannah, the host of Smoke Sash, so come hang out, let's light up and talk everything there is to life. The good, the bad, the ugly, the embarrassing, I've got a story for it all. Good morning everybody, how- oh my god, big yawn, how the hell are we all feeling today, if you can't tell, I'm feeling tired, I can't lie, um, full moon is coming up, I'm feeling a little exhausted, I can't lie,

Lionsgate portal was last night, that was super fun, um, I just got off, uh, like a week of work, i finally have a day off so i'm taking today to like rest and recuperate you know what i mean i am not used to well this is gonna sound really privileged but i'm not used to working i worked four days in a row which is crazy and you're like bitch what that is not crazy because like i get it i used to nanny like eight to eight five days in a row like monday through friday that shit was fucking insane like love those kids to death greatest job ever super amazing but like by the time i hit the weekend i was fucking exhausted okay so tired so when i uh got my next job it was like a priority in my life to be like okay i need to be you know minimal effort

high value you know and unfortunately serving is the only option when it comes to that um and so I like specifically set up my schedule knowing that you know I don't want to work multiple days in a row so I was just working like every other day still getting basically like five days in four days in but I was giving myself like ample breaks every other day just because I do um do so much work outside of work too like i'm constantly you know i'm uploading on patreon a lot i'm trying to do this a lot i'm trying to you know reach out get creative new hoodie designs um working on you know getting the hoodies here so i can ship them out to you guys i just do like a lot of shit outside of work so i you know try and make sure i have ample room to get that shit done

um and not feel exhausted from work that is funding these kind of um experiences but holy shit i just picked up some shifts from my co-workers because they're going through some stuff and yeah i just got off a four-day work week and i am very exhausted to say the least to say the fucking least but today's my day off i'm gonna spend it with you guys i'm gonna spend hanging out um trying to rest rejuvenate myself yesterday was really cloudy and rainy and kind of brought me down and today it's nice and bright and sunny and it's not too fucking hot thank god it's only like 90 out i was gonna go to the pool this morning um and i literally i got up got my little swimsuit on you know got my coffee walked over to the pool and that shit was closed i was

like fuck like are you kidding me but i'm not gonna let it bring me down i'm probably gonna go on a little walk here soon after this after we hang out for a bit um get outside and then probably get some tacos later with my boyfriend and that's really all i have planned um i just started my period so pretty pretty out of it she's on schedule though thank god because every month i just work myself up into an anxiety I don't know why I think all my period having people can understand that um but yeah I hope you guys had a great Lionsgate portal uh last night um sorry we didn't really have a podcast you know before it so I could inform you guys and give you guys some tips and tricks um but the full moon is coming up I believe it's a full moon in Aquarius so it's

still a great time to manifest to focus on you know those future dreams and desires if you are a part of the patreon even like the lowest tier patreon i was uh i uploaded like a little sunday journal prompt for everybody so they could you know focus on the lionsgate portal and focus on some of their desires and i talked about using i am statements so it's like you're declaring to the universe who you are and who you want to be not asking um i think that's kind of the best way to approach especially during like a leo sign kind of um experience um and star change so yeah if you're on the patreon y'all saw what was up love you guys i love interacting with you guys on there i've basically been using it as like a little diary almost um lots of writing so if you are

interested go take a look but if not no worries i totally get it i will still be here every week sometimes two times a week if you know i'm feeling extra rejuvenated and extra talkative there'll be two times a week but for the most part i think we're gonna stick to once a week uh for now while i get on schedule with everything but very exciting stuff i believe the full moon is let's find out let's do some research i think it's in like two days um i think it's yeah aquarius full moon do do do um oh that's some tea i don't know if this is okay the aquarius full moon is really gonna have people around you showing their ass friends family whoever if they subconsciously slash secretly hate on you for anything you have who you are etc

see a spirit will be showing you that you need to do what needs to be done you'll know aquarius represents community full moons bring illumination the true intentions of your collective will be revealed they're either on the winning team or not there's no space for gray areas um so keep that in mind um i feel like we've kind of been seeing this listen i've been getting on tiktok a lot a lot recently um and I shouldn't you know what I mean I really shouldn't but so many people I feel like are going through breakups right now especially like big kind of couple creators that I've seen around I think we all kind of notice this like there's kind of a switch going on and like everybody's breaking up I think this kind of has to do probably with this you know true

intentions are being shown you're gonna have to switch up some things in your life um whether it's you being drawn closer to people and you realizing that and you need you needing to step up and take charge of those relationships and how important they are to you or you realizing that maybe these relationships are not what you thought maybe you need to do some re-evaluation really look at them ask if they're serving you if you're serving other people correctly um and go based on that um but the full moon is in a few days let me get the exact date um sorry dead space dead space Aquarius full moon da da da why is it so hard to find full moon dates like me just trying to get basic information

and they are so against even trying to give me any sort of information august 11th so thursday very exciting maybe i'll do a little uh full moon ritual video on patreon you guys let me know what you want uh to see from me but with that being said not a whole lot's been going on in my life i can't lie um just been hanging out working overtime so i'm a little exhausted like i said um and i have been working overtime because i do go on vacation i leave sunday um i'm going to baltimore to go visit some childhood friends of mine we're all doing a little meetup at one of our besties apartments gonna hang out there for a few days with that being said i also should probably say that being said i should also probably say um i'm going to be there until

Wednesday um so next week there will probably not be a podcast on Tuesday but there will be a podcast on Thursday so apologies in advance but mark your calendars keep in mind when you're a little upset that Tuesday rolls around and there's no podcast don't worry don't fret it will be coming um I will just be probably out hanging out with friends and will not want to sit down and record for four hours and I will like to spend all the time that I do have there with them connecting with them and I will update you guys on all the fun activities and shenanigans we get into on Thursday so love that little updates also hoodies if you ordered a hoodie I'm getting a few emails of people being like hey I paid for like expedited shipping or you know I bought a hoodie

and they haven't arrived yet it's been a week and i do want to clear up some things like i said previously and i posted on my instagram stories about this and put in the product description these are made to order hoodies so um my supplier is finishing up the designs right now um they are it's like so many colors so it does take a little bit a little bit to get the perfect printing to make sure everything looks perfect to hand dye the hoodies for you guys um but they will be here in a few weeks thank you guys for being so so patient thank you guys for being so trusting with me they will be to you soon i pinky promise and with that being said if you did miss out on um you know the first drop i will be restocking them a limited quantity once i ship

out everybody who has ordered some I will be restocking based on what I have left over from what I ordered um so keep that in mind couple weeks if you missed out don't worry you got an extra chance on some grinders and on some hoodies and also maybe if this wasn't your style don't you worry I will be coming out with more hoodies maybe some more like gothic babe hoodies you know what I mean around Halloween when it gets a little colder so love that so many things I'm planning for you guys. So many exciting things as well. I'm looking into maybe designing journals just because the type of journal I want is like so specific and no one sells it. So I've been reaching out to some suppliers right now to see if I can find the specific journal that I'm looking

for. Maybe some like smoking supplies such as papers. Maybe some little pipes. Maybe some more lighters i love getting creative i love designing so keep in mind those will be coming soon um but yeah with that being said 11 minutes intro um sorry i've just been rambling but i know what you guys are here for i'm here to answer all your questions so let's dive right in actually you know what before before we dive in me like let's get into it every single time then i'm like psych psych we're gonna um actually load a little bowl i know we haven't really hit a bowl um early on into the pod and that's because i'll smoke and then i'll just like completely just be like space the fuck out i don't know what kind of weed my boyfriend got um last time but that

shit just made me so spacey and i was like okay we gotta save that for the end of the pod or else i literally will not be able to give any sort of answers at all and i will not make any sort of sense so now that i got some new stuff in um it's a little better for functioning um and we can actually smoke at the beginning of the pod i know so i'm loading a little bowl right now if you guys would like to do so as well i'm just gonna get that situated and then we can get the vibes right and then we can jump right into all of the amazing questions you guys have submitted um yesterday for the Lionsgate portal I was like I know I should probably be doing more this is how I feel for every like astrological event that happens I'm like I should be out dancing like

naked under the moonlight like I should be doing more witchy shit but I'm busy and I'm exhausted so I don't I don't know I don't have the time or energy to do so and I feel like that's totally valid totally okay it's all about just setting your intentions and feel and doing what feels right so like something simple that i worked into my routine and on patreon i did a little altar space tour and kind of talked through how i go about setting it up and how i go about talking to the universe but literally my favorite thing to do for full moons for new moons for any sort of astrological event where i want to connect to myself and connect to the spiritual world i you know just sit down on my altar and i just talk i talk i talk you don't even have to talk

out loud you can talk in your head i you know um we'll just like ramble about my hopes my dreams who i want to be where i want to go and um kind of use that as a tool to kind of set my intentions and really focus on where i want to go and also at the end of it i will do a tarot poll just a one card poll to kind of talk to have the universe talk back to me and to really get some sort of sense and symbol on you know how things are gonna go um to kind of reevaluate my emotions and my feelings and that is my favorite favorite favorite way to um just really honor whatever is going on within the astrological realm um very simple like my altar has so many different things on it but that's simply because i've been collecting since i was 12 um so if you're just starting it's okay

to have one thing or two things or zero things as long as you make a space for yourself and hold a space for yourself where you feel comfortable and you feel confident talking between you and you know your future self or your dreams or just whatever you believe in then i think that's the most important thing so with that being said let's hit this bowl and let's actually dive right in cheers okay love it all right a little easy first question someone asked what are your opinions on gold versus silver for jewelry just curious for the uh love the pot love you um okay so i see myself as more of a gold jewelry person but if i'm gonna be honest i'm just a jewelry

person period i do not discriminate against gold or silver i think you can mix them i think you can mix and match i think you can do whatever and i think it all looks good um because i believe the more you're wearing the better um at least for me personally i'm a very eclectic person um but i do tend to gravitate towards gold if i'm gonna go towards jewelry it's usually gold um but i do have a gold hand and a silver hand um and then i do wear all gold necklaces and i have like these silver hoops i'm wearing now like silver big hoops and then gold small hoops that i'm wearing so i think it's totally fine to mix and match just whatever it calls to you i say go for it um but yeah on my right hand i have a silver hand because i feel like a lot of the

gemstones that i like are always framed by silver um and sterling silver so i have like a gemstone sterling silver hand where i have some jade i have some moonstone and i have some various other stones both from my grandmother and then another one that i got on this trip with my boyfriend to arkansas and then on my left hand is my gold hand which only has a few rings i can't lie and also i don't really recommend gold rings because gold is such a soft metal that my rings are bent the fuck up like they are so misshapen but i have a gold diamond and emerald ring that my mom gave me it was her promise ring from my dad and then i have my fingers are so itty bitty but i literally wear a infant ring on my pinky like i bought it off of ebay as a infant ring and it's an infant

signet oh fuck oh my god you know what i mean they're the specific type of rings where it's like people usually get their initials in it i'm trying i literally will not be able to pronounce I'm too high but uh yeah I literally just looked up infant rings because my pinky is so small they don't make like women's rings that small so and then I get all of my jewelry either in like random stores that I find like random witchy stores or I get them on Etsy or eBay those are really the only two places that I buy jewelry um I haven't really found like a mainstream modern jewelry company that i really enjoy and that has quality pieces for low prices um so i don't really have any specific shops i can recommend i do just recommend going on etsy um or ebay making sure

you are looking at like used items or like gently used items so then you know it's not like drop shipped and then literally just scroll page after page after page like the best shit is on page like 14 like i swear to god like you have to go through so much shit but it makes it so fun because it's like it's like a hunt you know i was looking at gold pendants this morning and there's some good ones on ebay but yeah i think you can wear gold or silver and you can wear them both dare i say um but really just whatever calls out to you is what you should go with hey anna my name is anna too i love you so much you've helped me through literally so much i listen to your podcast every single time it comes out within like an hour but I'm just okay so I have this I have these like two

main best friends one who I hardly ever see anymore we like known each other for like our whole lives like we'd be like 16 years 15 whatever and this other one I we recently got close this year and it just feels like I don't know I feel like I don't have like a real best friend in a sense because like I feel like no one like understands me or even like knows like a lot about me and I'm just wondering like what do I like how do I communicate with them that like I'm feeling like a little off or like how do how and where do I like make like real like genuine nice friends because it just feels like everyone in the city is fake as fuck okay i think this is a great question and i think it really emphasizes

how much we kind of value like the singularity does that make sense um how much we value that one person who really really just stands out and appreciates us and shows up for us here's the thing that is hard as fuck to find straight up i'm not gonna lie to you that is really really hard to find what i think is more beneficial than you spending your time searching for this singularity and feeling like you aren't you know like special enough to find it or like wasting your time on other things is to appreciate the aspect of community i don't think there's any reason for you to need one friend that gets you in every single possible way because that's very hard to find and you know sometimes people have differing views and that doesn't mean they aren't

good friends um i think it's okay to have multiple friends and lots of friends and you know some that don't know you super well and some that do know you incredibly well i think it's just really beneficial and really incredible to get to know so many different people who come from different walks of life who have different views who have different priorities who see you differently you know and obviously you know in a good uplifting way as friends do um but i think that is more beneficial to you and to everybody involved is the community aspect rather than the singularity um i just think there's so much more to gain from it um and there's so much more love that you're gonna feel from that as well so you know maybe if you have these people in your

life that you do enjoy but you're like you said you know they don't know you super well or maybe you don't know them super well maybe take the time to reach out randomly be like hey do you wanna go do this do you wanna um go try this and like don't get put off if people turn you down on the first time you know they get busy people have lives um not all schedules are gonna align but you'd be surprised like what happens when you just like take the chance of just being like you know what that person seems cool i regret not getting to know them well enough um hey you want to hang out you know um ask them to go do something um you know bring them along on a thrift trip that you're going on or bring them along on a little new coffee shop that you want

to try but you're too afraid to go alone i think it's really important to you know nurture the relationships we do have rather than dismiss them before we even get to know them um and try and move on and find something different now you know if they're not benefiting you if you're not benefiting them if it's just not a good relationship you don't click like i get it it does happen not everybody is going to click with one another and that's totally fine and totally understandable but like i said those people who do come to mind where you're like i want to hang out with them i want to you know uh i want to get to know them better i regret not getting to know them better just reach out that's the best way that you can ever really make friends because you never know

how you're gonna click and like yes it's gonna be a little awkward at first it's gonna be a little uncomfortable you gotta get into the natural flow of like talking and getting to know each other but don't hold yourself back don't let your anxieties hold yourself back um be your true honest self show up as your true honest self because that's the best way to get to know people because guess what if they accept you at who you truly are and at who you truly express yourself to be then there is no you know hidden motives there is no like will they like me it is i showed up presenting myself honestly and openly and this person responded well and they enjoyed it and you know that feels better than you showing up and being like i'm anxious and i need to put

on a front because you know i want them to like me um they want you to like them too and i feel like the best way for you guys to build a true relationship is to show up be your honest self be your truthful self and if they accept that then boom bam you know they're not gonna never accept you um and if they don't accept that then that's totally fine maybe your personalities just don't mesh but the trick is to just put yourself out there i'm not a huge bar person my friend is um she lives like all the way in arizona she's like a really good college friend of mine but she meets a lot of people just going out and hanging out like after work she'll just go to bar hang out um and just like you know randomly strike up conversation and you know you guys seem

to mesh and then you know you meet up again and that's how a beautiful friendship is formed now you said one of your friends you've had like for 16 years and you maybe aren't that close and i feel you on that but in order for friendships to work um you said you know like they maybe don't get me or they don't they don't understand me but it's like are you opening yourself up to being understood are you showing yourself and your true self to these people every time you hang out or every time you talk are you only going to them when you need help or are you showing up to support them when they have successes as well like it has to be a very equal back to forth or back and forth but a lot of my true great best friends that i have and have had are people who we've gone

months without talking are people who you know i haven't hung out with in person in like a year because we live in different areas um but the key to making that friendship work is you guys are constantly willing to show up for each other even when you know things you know it's okay to drift away for a little bit people get consumed with life people get consumed with jobs with school like oh my god like that stuff's overwhelming it's hard to keep up with your friendship sometimes but we never hold that against each other and when we do need support or when we do you know have something funny to share or when we do you know have a success we share that with one another and we support each other and we uplift each other whenever we can like these are friends

that i've had for like since i've been born straight up like and these are friends that i'm going to visit next or yeah next week like on sunday um even though we haven't hung out in a while or you know don't talk as much as we used to when we lived literally on the same street and saw each other every single day after school that doesn't mean they're not still your friends and that doesn't mean they don't still want to show up for you so maybe reach out maybe you be the one to break the silence um everybody wants to be wanted but sometimes you have to be the person to go after what you are um curious about and what you are wanting so if you want a friend i say go for it i say reach out i say ask somebody you know to go hang out with you ask somebody how their day

is send them a fucking funny meme whatever it is just go out of your go out of your way and try it out and see how it works um but also don't get down on yourself if you can't find that singularity i think the beautiful part of this earth and being able to experience is um connection and connecting with people and connecting with different people um so keep trying keep reaching out to people um and you know try and build that community for yourself but if you wait around you sit down and you hope someone reaches out to you they will reach out to you but it won't be probably as often as if you just went out of your way and reached out to someone when they were on your mind and when you were thinking about them you know we only have a hundred years why not fucking just go

for it why not try it out you know what's the worst they're gonna say no cool that's fine that doesn't have any intrinsic meaning on who you are or your worth or anything like that it just means maybe they're busy maybe it doesn't work out and that's okay because there's millions of other people on here on this planet who want to get to know you and want to be friends with you so don't give up but also don't push people away and be open and honest with yourself and be truthful with who you show up as because i think that builds the strongest and most genuine connections oh my gosh someone asked i've been meaning to watch this show too what are your thoughts on sex rooms you should watch the show how to build a sex room i should my room has always been a sex

room like i can't lie like whenever i design my bedroom i am instinctively designing it for what is going to go down in there i can't lie i'm a very sexual person um and when i am into it like i want to have fun um so like my ideal my ideal sex room would probably have like lots of mirrors like mirrors on the ceiling mirrors on the wall i like mirrors a lot because it helps me like i think we've all been there you know when you're like in the middle of it but you're also like you feel like your body is a part like a part of it but you're floating above everybody and you're kind of disconnected and you know you're out it's like an outside of body experience but not in a good connective way or a new observation way more of like in a disconnect way yeah that

happens a lot but i feel like it's just my it's like a byproduct of my adhd i have a really hard time focusing it's not that i don't enjoy it so the best way for me to kind of connect back into it and like stay stay on topic basically is i love mirrors i love them i love being able to like watch and see and like understand from like uh like a perspective of like it happening but also being able to watch it so if you uh have adhd and have a hard time you know staying what's the word just like non-dissociative i guess during sex then yeah mirrors are your bestest friends um i i don't know i just think about the 50 shades of gray room and it's like so like mom's fantasy like black and white leather like so funny but mine would just be like lots of pillows

and lots of fluffiness and lots of comfortability and ideally there probably like wouldn't be a bed like the ground would be the bed so you can just have fun and yeah just making yourself comfortable i feel like that's so important and if you have your own space like why not do it you know what i mean why not go for it um it's all about you know like sex doesn't have to be boring you don't have to do missionary every single time like if you enjoy that great love it's amazing but also it's a great time to connect and try new things with your partner and build that trust i think it's a very important time to do all of that so if you have the chance why not go for it you know what i mean when i become a millionaire and i can hire somebody to buy all of the sex toys of my

dream then yes i will have a sex room but for right now i feel like the best thing you can really do for yourself is just make sure your room is comfortable and inviting and you feel safe there um and you can build good connections there so with that in mind oh and someone asked any books i've been liking yes i got um the book my body by emrata like the other day and i'm already halfway through it i need to get back into reading more i need to get back into you know falling into books i used to love reading like my parents have to take my books out of my room from me to make sure i got sleep before school so because you know i didn't grow up with like iphones like i had books or like the maybe like dress-up games on the family computer but books were my go-to

and yeah i would stay up all night probably the same way like i stay up on my phone now but reading and i needed to get back into it uh one of my co-workers actually lended me uh if you guys haven't seen the show the boys it's really good but it's based off a comic book series and they lended me the comic books and it's like honestly a hefty amount of reading in the comic books i can't lie like it's like paragraphs it's like damn this is not a picture book but it helped me kind of like force my brain back into that style of reading and that style of engaging um so now i'm reading this book and i'm flying through it it's a collection of short stories about her relationship with her body and not in a like like i feel like in a surface level

way like the things she's dealing with are very valid and very interesting and a lot of the commentary are things that you know you maybe have thought about um like through misogyny or through like the patriarchal standpoint but never really deep dived into it and it's interesting hearing her deep dive into it and also like tell her stories um so very good i will be doing a full review on that once i'm done on my patreon and i'll probably give you guys an update but if you're interested in a good book it's a very easy read and a good like way to dive back into reading also if you're a reading type of person i really really and you have like adhd i really recommend annotating while you read and you're like bitch annotating that's for like fucking school what

are you talking about yes it is but the only reason i was ever able to do well at school and do well at language arts and do well at reading especially as someone who's adhd was because of annotating because it forced me to stay on script to stay on the page for my eyes to not wander and for me to engage okay it helped with that double thinking of like okay i'm reading but also i'm thinking about like okay how does this relate to me is there anything i want to circle or underline or anything like that so i really really recommend doing that if you have trouble reading but yeah my little adhd brain cannot look at a page full of hundreds of words and stay on track with where i'm going like i will just get lost so annotating has saved me i've gotten back

into it with this book and i can't wait to do it with all the other books that i'm hopefully going to read but if you have any really good recommendations let me know please dm those to me at hannah marlene and on instagram you already know and um yeah we'll see what i get into next but someone literally messaged me and was like girl i've been putting off looking you up for like a year now because i didn't want it to ruin the like image of you i had in my head um but then everybody's always like but you live up to it like period a lot of you guys think i'm brunette for some reason no i'm a little blondie i can't lie um but don't don't put off looking me up i promise i'm a cutie okay you're missing out on so many good instagram photos but yeah my body

by emrata pretty good hi hannah my name is liz and i just wanted to say thank you so much for the shout out you gave to teachers a couple episodes ago I'm not even gonna lie I did start tearing up because it's so nice to hear from someone who also has such a deep appreciation for teachers and the lengths that we will go for our students I know not every teacher is like this but I would straight up die for like any of my students I know I haven't started legit teaching yet but I student taught and I would have died for any of those kids even the ones that were annoying um yeah so just remember if you're starting back school soon your teachers love you unless some of my teachers were cunts I'm not gonna lie I went to I was in high school

during the Trump 2016 election and I went to a private Catholic school and my teachers were not private about how much they loved Trump and I would argue with them so if you have a cunt teacher feel free to argue with them but all your nice teachers love them be kind I love you Hannah bye period shout out teachers seriously though i feel like whenever i say that people like give me eye rolls but it's like come on these people are getting paid fucking like forty thousand dollars to raise this generation like parents send their kids to school because they're like holy shit i can't put up with them all day and then we don't pay them shit and also expect them to spend all of their time outside of school doing things for school and then spending the

money that they barely make on the school because the school isn't funded enough and they don't have enough books or have the equipment to teach their kids correctly so they put that on the it's like a whole thing and i literally wouldn't know it unless i was raised by two teachers and i feel very lucky to have been um so i can see that insight but yeah shout out teachers and there's really no reason you should be afraid of them um like i said there are a few bad apples but really a lot of them love you like you yourself you know you're showing up for your students you're there for your kids um and i feel like we need more of you out there so love you thank you for everything you're doing all right someone asked thoughts on period sex

plus having uh plus heavy period flow tips love you love you okay period sex should you have it yes absolutely there's no such thing as like not getting corny on your period sometimes i'm like cornier on my period than i am like the days leading up to it like i will go through phases where i'm like i just don't want to have sex and that's valid that's totally fine you should not feel pressured into ever doing anything my partner loves and understands me like if i'm like i'm good he doesn't take it personally like sometimes you know you're just not in the mood you got other things going on you can't connect fully and adequately enough um for it to be you know a beneficial sexual experience for both of you so that's fine take those days but straight up

sometimes i'm like super horny on my period and what am i gonna do like not fuck like obviously if my partner wasn't comfortable with it that's fine but before me i don't think he had a lot of period sex because he was always terrified of blood like blood and him do not mesh well and i have a i had a heavy flow when i met him i can't lie so was i about to give up period sex no but he was really willing to you know work with me and if you have somebody who's maybe a little icked out by blood shower sex might be your go-to love shower sex it's great it's great to get hot and steamy in there easy cleanup you know what i mean if there is a lot of blood or dare i say clots because listen it's gonna happen you gotta accept it just naturally part of the human body

and the process and what goes on it just goes right down the drain easy peasy you can keep fucking um just make sure you're not in the water because obviously the water is going to wash off whatever natural lube you're going to create and then you're just going to get real raw down there so or like run a bath oh my god a bath would be incredible like like great ways to integrate it with your partner and not make a mess um or not even see the blood now if he is comfortable with it doesn't give a fuck i say just you know go for having regular sex like you normally would um when i'm on my period we you there's not like a go-to like position i really would suggest i say just literally go for whatever is most comfortable for you um based on where you're you know your

cervix is sitting at the time because you're already crampy and you don't want to add more cramps um best bet would probably be missionary i can't lie and just lay a towel down if you're afraid of a mess lay a little towel down or even have a towel next to you so when you guys are done you know easy you can just wipe up go shower go do whatever even baby wipes can be your best friend but i don't think you should be afraid of period blood i've never really made like a huge fucking crazy mess you know i'm not like bleeding out across the room like you know it's just like a little bit of blood at a time even if you are on a heavy flow like it's not like fucking mason jars full of blood spewing out of you at all times um it's just you know a little bit here and there

some clots it is what it is but it's not gonna really trigger anything crazy going on down there um and if anything it's just gonna be extra wet you know what i mean like it'll be fun it'll be great but if you're feeling it go for it no reason you should be afraid i'm not gonna be like yeah go 69 on your period because obviously but if your man's not afraid that's a blessing do whatever feels comfortable talk with your partner ask them how they feel put a towel down you put a heating pad under your back while you're in missionary with a towel under you so then it's like extra comfort oh my god the dream anyways go for it have fun get a you know don't don't be afraid to get a little messy sex is already messy as it is don't be afraid

now heavy flow tips i used to be a heavy flower when i was on birth control i well i'm on birth control right now but i specifically the pill i don't know why it made my flow so incredibly heavy um but i was going through a super plus tampon in 30 minutes to an hour uh so yeah i was basically like bleeding a shit ton i was having large clots i was also like super lightheaded all the time because of this and like an anemic because i didn't have enough iron in my body i like was on the verge of passing out multiple times because you know you're losing a lot of blood straight up um and the best thing i can really suggest for when it comes to your time of the month and you are a very heavy flower is just make sure you're taking iron supplements i feel like that will

really offset a lot of the negative things that are kind of happening when it comes to you know feeling lightheaded or feeling extra lethargic or even passing out just make sure you know you know you're gonna lose a lot of blood so make sure you're supplementing somewhere make sure you're taking care of yourself but when it comes to a heavy flow it's just you know you just got to be extra on top of it i can't lie like i've been there having my iud has really really helped my my flow and also for the days because i would have a heavy period for like seven days and now i have a fairly light period with only like one heavy day two heavy days for like four days max um so if you're uh using a birth control that maybe isn't the best for you maybe go talk to

your doctor if you have a heavy flow see if you can get that switched up maybe get put on a different birth control where you know it's going to help out with that so you aren't constantly having to deal with you know bleeding out but I've been there I feel you I feel like it also is a part of just being like uh going when you're younger and you have periods I feel like they're just a little bit heavier while your body kind of regulates and gets used to this process every month um but yeah now that i'm older they've really regulated out they're a little lighter um but you really just have to stay on top of it lots of ibuprofen i eat a lot of ibuprofen on my period i get crazy cramps um i'm like straight up like 800 milligrams ibuprofen like a day um

lots of heating pads lots of heating pads i saw this thing on tiktok the other day where it's like a little heating pad it's like the shape of a heart so it's like literally the shape of your uterus and you can just stick it right under your belly button and that looked incredible like i'm going to have to invest in those and let you guys know how they are um i also have to get a new iud soon so i'm thinking maybe of like wearing one of those to the doctor so then everything's kind of just like relaxed down there but heat is your best friend ibuprofen is your best friend tampons were my best friend when i had a heavy period because that was just the best thing for me to kind of um you know take care of all the blood and do it the easiest whatever you use is totally fine you

can use pads cups whatever um and also if it is like really bad maybe talk to your doctor because there is a lot that ob-gyns can do for you and it's okay to have questions about your body and to you know ask someone who is a little bit more knowledgeable on that also period sex yes love incredible don't be afraid to get messy seriously i if you're horny go for it like shit like i was gonna say something really gross but like listen men will just like like literally like come everywhere and like on you or i'm not gonna say in you but because you don't need to be doing that but and like they aren't afraid to get messy so like why should we be afraid to get messy when it comes to our time of the month why because it's blood like it's not unsanitary

like we all have blood so who cares go for it easy cleanup jump in the shower buy some baby wipes you'll be fine you'll have fun love you oh someone asked shopping addiction advice love this question love it because i had to come to this hard realization a little bit um as well for myself so let me tell you some tips and tricks that i uh have found to work first of all i felt called out by this post whereas it's called why are you lonely a text game by mallory ordenberg and the specific one that i saw that called me out was confused self care with self-indulgence again you are incapable of experience genuine refreshment or restoration but you do spend a lot of money at nail salons and i was like damn they are wrong they are not

wrong self-care is not self-indulgence okay because i well specifically self-care is not self-indulge when you are constantly self-indulging all right it's okay to spoil spoil yourself every once in a while but it very quickly spirals into yes a shopping addiction I get it um so my best kind of advice that I can get you give you is a delete your credit card out of your phone okay that was a big thing for me delete it out of your phone make sure there's no like automatic you know payment system delete paypal or whatever you have on your phone make sure there's no payment system that you have on your phone I'm lucky because I'm stupid and I i don't have my credit card memorized thank god but or not my credit card but my debit card

memorized um but hold on let me hit this yeah i just had to make sure there was no way i could pay with anything on my phone and that was step one for me now if you can't do that maybe step two is better delete all the apps that you are constantly shopping on okay delete them delete them delete the apps all right very easy to get on ebay and see this one thing that you really want that's a hundred dollars and it only has two days left and oh my god what if someone outbids me or oh my god what if someone buys it or oh my god this is on sale and you know no one's bought it it's like i need to do it for someone else oh my god just don't delete the apps whatever it is depop

ebay poshmark any like urban outfits any of the shopping apps that they have get rid of them okay make sure you do not have them next thing if you do happen to find something you find yourself online shopping you find something you find yourself adding it to cart do not buy that thing in your cart for a full week okay let it sit there if you think about it every single day as soon as you wake up and you're like oh my god I really need that or oh my gosh but I'm really interested in that let it sit if you wake up every single day and you're thinking about that thing maybe you're actually going to really enjoy that thing and it's going to be a good part of your life and you're going to find practicality in it but if it's an impulse purchase the practicality

measure really lowers and it's probably just an impulse purchase that you're going to barely use or barely wear or barely see or barely do so if it sits in your cart for a week a month two months and you're constantly thinking about it then sure indulge a little bit that's okay but there's an you know let it sit enforce this rule so then you don't have those random impulse purchases showing up that you have no idea what to do with and that you're just losing out on money because a lot of the times i'll add something to cart and then i'll forget about it and i'll go like through my browser like a month later and be like oh my god i forgot i was gonna buy this and then it sets in that oh yeah i really did not give a fuck about that thing as much as i wanted

it in that moment like a month later i'm like thank god i didn't spend a hundred dollars on that outfit that i literally never would have worn so sorry i needed a sip of coffee shout out swamp water a lot of you guys are asking me what swamp water was um the other day it's literally a matcha latte but not just matcha latte you add a couple shots of espresso in there as well and it gives it this really swampy gross watercolor um but yeah 10 out of 10 my favorite because a lot of other caffeines just give me so much bad anxiety and it's just something that i do not want to fuck with and also caffeine has a tendency to give you bad skin as well um green tea is actually a great antioxidant and pretty good for your skin and your digestive

health and it's a uh great thing for anti-anxiety so keep that in mind the espresso shots don't help straight up but I feel like the matcha kind of offsets it um what was I talking about oh impulse purchases don't eat out a lot that's where I feel like most of my impulse purchases come from I love eating out I love treating myself to a good meal you know you've seen my Instagram photos like I'm eating good okay I can't lie but plan some meals a week plan a meal that you're gonna eat you know like for the full week plan uh to having groceries for coffee so you're not spending seven dollars a day on coffee plan you know bringing a snack out with you like a bagel or something so when you do get hungry you're not impulse purchasing a 17 meal that

you're gonna eat half of and not even take the rest home and you know when you could have just had a fucking bagel from home that's 95 cents you know little things like that when i was younger my parents always had snacks on hand i was always pissed because i'd be like fuck we can't go to mcdonald's when my mom packed a sandwich for us but like i get it now like you got a budget you know you got to make sure that there isn't unnecessary money being spent in random places it's fun to treat yourself okay it's fun to go out every once in a while but you there has to be a balance between you taking care of yourself and honestly taking care of yourself like sitting down and cooking yourself a meal at home and saving yourself forty dollars and also feeling um you

know feeling successful and nurturing yourself because you cook something from start to finish and it's pretty healthy because you used all fresh ingredients and whatever and there's the balance between that and you know every once in a while treating yourself to a great meal because you deserved it and you work hard but there can never be too much of one thing because then the balance gets overthrown but if you do have a shopping addiction i feel like it kind of it'll slip into also like a going out addiction and spending money wherever you happen to be here's the thing we're on this planet you know we're working till we die and why not make it enjoyable yes but also we got to make sure we're taking care of ourself responsibly okay sometimes

self-care means going home and cooking yourself dinner and that's okay sometimes self-care means adding the thing to cart and looking at it and smiling and then closing the browser you know what i mean but listen you got to just make or take those precautions and take those steps for yourself delete the apps delete your card off your phone um make sure you have adequate groceries at your house so you can fuel yourself and feed yourself and yeah I love you good luck you'll make it through I promise hi Hannah my name's Courtney I'm calling in from North Carolina unfortunately um and I'm also getting an inspection right now so I'm sorry if you hear any noise in the background but I was just wondering if you could talk about keeping your individuality while

you're in a long-term committed relationship I definitely am a people pleaser so I'm always putting others wants and needs even in platonic relationships above my own and I also like to show my love through acts of service so sometimes it's just a slippery slope making sure that I'm still putting my own wants and needs you know prioritizing that as well so I was just wondering if you had any tips for how to make sure that you are making that time for yourself and how to best do that but yeah I love you and I love the pod and yeah hi Courtney I love your accent that is so cute it's also queen getting her inspection her car getting taken care of hopefully I need to do that i need to go get an oil change so thank you for reminding me um okay so love this question

very great question i've succumbed to this in the past when i based my worth on how i thought my partner felt about me and constantly was behaving in ways that i hoped he would like me but but long story short he just didn't like me so so i was constantly pining after this sense of security and this sense of like appreciation when he could never fully give that to me because he just simply did not like me and that's totally fine i had to move on and realize that he was a piece of shit but now um i don't think that's a situation you're in if i'm assuming you know you have a good relationship with your partner you maybe just have some codependent tendencies which is fine you know it's good to realize them so we can get

through them but i feel like my boyfriend is a lot like you okay big people pleaser you know acts of service is very much so his love language he always wants to be there for people and the best thing that i can do for him is to give him space to kind of fumble not fumble in a bad way but i'm trying to think of the right word to maybe have to maybe like force him to make decisions you know if your partner is constantly like yeah go do this or hey come do this or whatever it's great it's awesome but also you have to exist as an individual as well and be able to exist outside of a relationship and if you're constantly waiting for that call waiting for that oh i gotta do this or oh i gotta do this for my partner or for this person you will never have time to experience who

you are and when you finally sit down with yourself and are forced to sit down with yourself you'll be like what who am i what do i do you know and that's really frustrating and it gets hard so the best thing i can probably suggest is time away from each other shocking crazy i know um i just feel like it's important to spend quality time away from each other and have that time with yourself so then you're forced to kind of get to know yourself a little bit better and get to know what hobbies you want to try and get to building a life you know outside of your partner as well it's important to yes you know be a partner be there for each other show up for each other but you cannot only be a partner you have to be yourself and also be part of a partnership

does that make sense um or else you just lose yourself in the relationship and that puts a lot of strain on both people um but i think you're in a good place you seem to be mentally pretty healthy you seem to be wanting to make some change so my advice to you is just give yourself time to do whatever you want to do don't be afraid to say no you know what i mean if you don't want to do something and you maybe want a night alone or want a morning alone or want an afternoon alone be like hey i'm gonna go try this thing you know and your partner should be supported supportive of that and supportive of who you are and your hobbies and what you want to do um uh if there's like a class that you want to take i encourage you to go try it or if there's a you know workshop that you want

to do go try it out there's a new restaurant you want to go to go do it if there's a friend you've been meaning out to hang meaning to hang out with but you've kind of got swept into your relationship go hang out with them reach out to them again it's like you gotta rip off the bandaid you know what i mean but you've tied yourself pretty tight to this person it is good to do acts of service it is good to be there for your partner it is great to have that love language and be that person but it is not healthy to be a servant okay service is provided both ways servant is provided one way and i don't think your partner is asking that of you and i don't think you should feel that way towards your partner you should not be a servant towards them

so start serving yourself as well the way you would do acts of service for another person you got to show up that way for yourself um to um express that towards yourself the things that you know you need or are too afraid to ask for from yourself do it you know what you want you know what you want to try just rip the band-aid off and get to it i believe in you i get it it's very easy to get lost in a relationship or a little too close as one might say um because relationships are fun they're inviting they're exciting love is a great feeling but also you have to be able to know yourself in order to know your relationship and know how you feel about your relationship so give yourself a little date night babe go hang out with yourself put on your favorite

movie do the things that you wish you could do when you were like 14 and you're stuck in your bedroom at fucking 3 a.m and you're on your third movie and you're bored scrolling on your phone or doing whatever and you're having them in your like imagining your future in your world what were you imagining then what were you wanting to do then go do it if you're like i'm assuming you're an adult i'm assuming you're older um i'm assuming you have some control of your life so give yourself that experience go for that walk go to that place that you want to try um and yeah take yourself on a little date night but you'll get it i love you and good luck speaking of saving money my stomach started doing like fucking flip-flops in my in my stomach obviously so I've been loving making

myself sandwiches for lunch I'm such a sandwich girly I'm such a breakfast girly and I'm such a sandwich girly I can't lie I think it's because my parents just like force-fed me sandwiches every day for lunch because like what else are they gonna cook me um so I've been loving like making customized sandwiches recently my fave has been i take like a loaf of italian bread okay slice it up throw that bitch in the oven okay you're gonna get that bitch crispy because i don't like soft bread if i'm gonna have soft bread it better be white bread so i want that shit crisped up like a crouton and then i throw some pepper jack cheese on it and then once it comes out of the oven i'll toast the cheese a little bit i throw some sour cream and onion

like sauce on one side and then i'll dice up some lettuce like a shit ton of lettuce i love a lot of lettuce on my sandwiches lettuce and red onion mix that with mayo so it's almost like a little salad with some salt and pepper and then i'm a turkey girly so i throw some turkey on it boom pow throw that bitch together oh my god i love it love and then also someone was asking me for some breakfast recipes my new favorite breakfast recipe for a while i was on a breakfast burrito kick making them for myself um but my new favorite breakfast recipe which maybe i'll do a little like cook with hannah kind of video um but it is scrambled eggs but when i'm scrambling them i'll throw some black beans and corn into it just a little bit and then while i'm doing that i'll

throw some potatoes in the oven with just some like laurie seasoning on it um and i'll fry those up real nice and crispy in the oven make that the base throw the scrambled eggs and beans and corn on top and then some salsa and then some sour cream and some fresh chives oh bitch you could even throw some guac on top and it's like a little like scramble like a like a like a like a little i basically copycatted it from this restaurant that i went to they called it the southwest scramble which i feel like is very fitting so we'll go with that but holy shit it is so good speaking of that sandwich i just talked about i just made and destroyed it um i am now so fucking full i cannot lie i need to turn off my oven too hold on

um god it's so yummy i love a good sandwich like i said cooking for yourself is so nice um just like once you find that specific recipe that you love it's like chef's kiss um we do got more i'm like ready for a nap we do have many more questions that i do want to get to that being said let's take a little hit and then hopefully dive into the rest cheers ladies yummy okay what else hi hannah um i'm a 23 year old tourist and i've been having issues with my friend and shaman who's a 34 year old aquarius she has really big insecurities due to her alopecia but she broke our bond by accusing me of wanting to cheat with her ex-boyfriend who's also my friend even though I literally have my own boyfriend of four years. I had a party last

night for my brother's birthday and she caused so much drama because her ex was there and I had to babysit since it was my house. She ruined my night by being belligerent drunk and trauma dumping on me and she even told me multiple times that she hated me. I don't know what to do because I want to be there for her since she's hurting but she's hurting me too and I have a pattern in my life to be the martyr and I don't know what I need to do for myself and the people I care about thank you um love you hi I am so sorry that your friend is lashing out on you I understand how it feels to you know have somebody kind of 360 on you and it does not feel good that is all I can say but sometimes it gets to a point where some people don't want to be reached and they have

decided in your head that maybe you are the villain and in that case there's no winning them over okay like you said you kind of like to be the martyr sometimes you like to be you know the one put down but then also the one who's kind of pining after being lifted up and in this point in time I think you need to lift yourself up especially when it's coming from a person who seems to be very against you right now and is against you in a way so that is just not in reality which is extra not great um accusing you of doing things calling you horrible names to your face saying horrible things to you at this point this is just not beneficial in any way this sounds very toxic and I think the best thing that you can really do is to completely disconnect um give

them that space that they seem to be needing away from you that's totally fine but also give yourself that space as well um and allow yourself to not be treated like that you got to stand up for yourself and sometimes especially when you do care about the other person standing up for yourself is not you going off on them and winning the argument and putting them down and now you're put up above them sometimes you truly love somebody it is simply walking away and clearing the air and giving the space that is needed okay and here's the thing when you walk away you're also giving that person the choice to either come back or to never speak to you again which is ultimately up to them but here's the thing if they are having that in their mind where

they never want to speak to you again and they never want to talk to you ever again and you are continuously pining after that and pining after that and trying to appease them in any sort of way which is ultimately putting you down you are never going to win you are never going to feel good you are never going to win that person over it is going to be a constant battle and you're not going to feel good about yourself so you know if you want them in your life that's fine um but if they are not willing to be in your life right now and be a positive impact in your life right now that is not okay and i do really really encourage you to take the space that is needed um also maybe you need to you know not talk to her ex-boyfriend as well if you're taking space

from her i think it needs to be deliberate space from the like her circle as well and things that she includes in her close circle um just so it doesn't seem like you are like overstepping any boundaries or stepping on any toes that seems to be a you know space that she is overly sensitive about so maybe there's nothing good that really comes with talking to that man maybe you just need to switch it up talk to new people um invite new people in your life and give this person the space that they need to heal to figure out where they're coming from because there's no way you're going to get any sort of anything that makes sense relatively soon unless you do allow that distance between you guys and you might be able to work it out you might be able to reconvene and get together and

figure things out but for right now you definitely need some space because she is not treating you well and you do not deserve that girl i don't know if it's just me or if it's everyone might be something with the stars but i'm just gonna leave it up to the universe because i'm loving it but recently i felt this very like powerful shift where i just like love myself so much i have so much confidence in myself and do you know like the horny you get when you're horny because you look good like you're horny because you're like oh my god like i am so fucking hot like anyone that wants this would be so lucky to have me but like i'm so hot i want someone else to like enjoy myself do you know what i mean does that make sense i don't know if it's just me like i don't

know if it's just like me being a slut or like what but i've just felt this major shift and yeah i love you bye this is peak leo season energy that's all i have to say like leo's and i don't know you might have leo placements and that's why this is kind of heightened right now but leo's like look in the mirror and yeah get horny for themselves so that that energy is very much so in the air right now whether you are you have placements connected to it or you're just picking up on it it very much so is the peak energy right now i feel like a lot of people are feeling hot and horny and into themselves which is great i think that's a great kind of energy to encompass and to tune in on so you're very lucky you are a lucky one hi hannah i don't know if

you're going to see this, but I really hope you do. First, love the pod, been with you since quarantine. That's besides the point. I cannot tell if I am in a toxic relationship. I know toxic is a very strong word, but the thing is I'm in a very loving, affectionate relationship with my boyfriend. We've been together for over a year. But the thing is, is that he gives so much more than I do and I feel awful for it like he will make grand gestures for me he'll always pay attention to me he'll always say give affirmations to me and I just don't return it on the same level as he does the thing is that I feel bad for not doing it because it always hurts his feelings but it's simply not like in my nature and I feel bad turning down his grand gestures because it

hurts his feelings but i want to be independent and i want to have a little more freedom and space love you hello okay do i think this is toxic no do i think this is a love language conflict yes absolutely so when you are getting into a relationship you both are going to have different love languages and you are going to behave and show your love in the way that you want to be shown love does that make sense so it's kind of about finding a either equal balance of oh you both have the same love language or you have love languages that work together or you learn that hey this is just not my partner's love language they just simply are not going to do this but that doesn't mean they are not showing up for me just because they don't

have that love language doesn't mean that they don't have a love language in general it just means it's different and that the way that they show love is different it's okay to be independent it you know it's okay to not make these grand gestures and you know maybe you're a little bit more quiet or reserved or shy like I get it absolutely um but I would ask yourself how am I showing up for my partner in other ways and if you are still showing up for your partner in other ways um and maybe not in ways you or them are expecting then I still think it's healthy maybe identify your guys's love languages talk about it if it really is bothering your boyfriend tell him like hey i'm sorry i don't do those things but it doesn't mean i don't do things for you and here's

how i kind of show my love and then here's how i kind of enjoy being shown love and talk it out but if it comes to the end of the day where you two just cannot love each other in the way that you want to be loved then maybe this is like a bigger conflict that needs to be solved in a different way but do i think it's toxic no i think there's just a little confusion going on um and you guys simply have different love languages which is totally fine but yeah you can look up love languages online read them out talk about them with your partner identify them and then you know maybe bring up the bigger conversation of are these okay love languages to show each other and do we feel appreciated by each other and how can we show up more for each other um

or yeah whatever direction you need to go but definitely not toxic you can figure it out babe i believe in you oh this is a fun one and one we haven't touched on in a while and a great way to end this episode but let's talk weed etiquette I feel like a lot of people have been asking me about this getting into it you know curious interested so let me tell you everything that I have learned over the years and I can't tell you the rhyme or reason or why I just know it's how it's worked so when i was younger um it would be like one of my friends was picking up or i was picking up um if you were the person picking up or if someone else is the person bringing weed they're the person who gets the first hit now also if they're the person with the weed i personally

like if i'm bringing it i don't want to be the person to deal with it and i would appreciate if someone else rolled for me i feel like that is just general vibes like if i'm bringing it someone else does the rolling someone else does the packing someone else does like the the labor kind of but you know the person who brings it person who supplies it they're the person who gets the first hit traditionally if you are smoking from a joint smoking from you know a little like blunt it is the simple very very ever simple puff puff pass rule you don't want to be the person hanging on to it for the full story talking talking take a little hit talk talk talk you know you don't want to be that person okay take a hit take a hit pass it

traditionally pretty sure you pass it to your left could be wrong whatever the vibes are of the circle or whoever you're with pass it back and then finish your story okay if you're smoking from a bowl you never ever light the full bowl don't ever torch the top because then when the other people go to take a hit it's gonna taste super burnt and it's gonna taste bad and they're not gonna get a lot um so you corner it you just light like a little corner of the bowl or just a little piece of it i promise you'll get a big enough hit but don't toast the top okay and i think it's absolutely okay to ask for help lighting stuff if you have a hard time lighting things people should be more than happy to light it for you to help you corner it whatever it is whenever you

are in this position it is absolutely okay to ask for help if you're the person who is also helping roll helping pack a bowl never ever go into someone else's keef stash okay never open someone's keef like like the compartment you know what i mean you should ask if you can open it but usually the person who's bringing the weed or has the grinder will be like oh throw some keef on it i got keef in there it is always a offering okay make sure somebody is offering it to you but never go in the keef compartment unless you are specifically invited so sharing is caring obviously if you're all putting in that's awesome if one person is putting in that's awesome as well just keep in mind hey maybe i'll bring some next time since they brought this time now if i'm a host if people

are coming over to my house um and i am smoking them out i will always offer it to i mean my guests okay so then people feel comfortable people feel at ease um i feel like that is just general kind of you know just just being nice to people being a good host you gotta be courteous to your guests and offer them a little hit you know what i mean um another good thing is if you guys are smoking together you're hanging together you know what i mean don't show up smoke someone else's stuff and then dip out immediately i mean like it's fine if it's like a party or whatever or anything like that but like don't ever show up to your friend's house who's smoking take a hit and then just be like peace bye thank you it gets to a point where it's like okay

is this like a using situation what's going on also before you ever toss anything like the end of like um end of a joint you know the rest of the bowl always offer it to other people and be like does anybody else want the last hit is anybody else want the last you know whatever because like there are bowls where i think they're cached or there are like joints where i'm like this is basically all filter like i cannot smoke this anymore but i have friends who like literally destroy the last bit of it so i always offer it before just like tossing it i'm not gonna lie i don't mind when the joint gets like wet like obviously not fun when it's from saliva that's gross but i smoke with girls so much and we all wear lipstick and like lip gloss that like i get

when it's like a little you know moisturized um but like when you're puffing on something no reason for you to put your tongue out or like get it wet in any sort of way like that um drooling might happen once you hit a bong but you know wipe it off before you hand it over if you have a joint or a blunt ash it before you hand it over so then you aren't like ashing on the person as you hand it to them because i've been there it's not fun um be nice be respectful if someone says no don't pressure them make sure everybody's comfortable make sure everybody's included always pass to the left always offer to people you know how it is it's basic um pretty basic etiquette if i know what i'm smoking like if i know the strain i like to

tell people so then they can get interested in it or if someone's like on the fence about it then they can kind of like figure out if it's an indica or sativa then go from there based on comfortability levels um if someone asks also to hit my shit i'm usually always gonna say yes i can't lie the fact that you have the balls to come up and ask me like yeah babe you can have a sharing is caring i really don't mind um i'm also the person to ask so you know i feel like it goes both ways but it's all about being open-minded sharing with people really building that community making sure everybody's comfortable and that's about it but weed etiquette is very simple um there's not really any like specific rules that you have to follow other than making sure

everybody's taken care of um and making sure that no one is like mooching off of anybody um when it comes to dabs there's little things like when you heat up the banger make sure you wait 30 seconds before taking it so you're not burning yourself um but if you have trouble lighting shit figuring anything out always just ask i feel like there's never any issue with asking i would rather you ask me then um you know you look like you're confused and then me unsure of if i should offer help or if you know what you're doing you know just ask it doesn't matter sorry of the hiccups oh my god but yeah and always like if i'm taking a dab from someone else um i always have them you know get the dab for me so i'm not like just scooping out a fat dab and they're like what the

fuck they just took half of my fucking like stash you know what i mean um it's always up to whoever is providing um how much you guys are rolling up or how much you're smoking or what you're smoking you know just general general life rules but i feel like everybody already knows this if you didn't happy to help um i personally didn't really touch on any cart cart etiquette i don't really like carts i can't lie i like carts occasionally for convenience and i really really love cbd carts i think cbd carts are awesome because when you do get too high you literally just take a hit of the cart because it's like concentrated and you're like chilling it really it sets you back into you know base level non-anxiety mode um so i do recommend carts if you are interested in the

cbd you can also try out paz packs as amazing carts um once again you can use code smoke sesh for 10 off and it's pazpacks.com but um yeah i really just avoid carts altogether when it comes to smoking just for my own personal lung health and just for you know they're they're too convenient i feel like i would be using them way too often and that's actually how my tolerance got way too fucking high um and i became way too numb to life was i was just constantly using a cart and hitting a cart no matter where i went um and that just wasn't good it wasn't so now i'm back to flower and dabs and things are going great for me i'm feeling great and that's really what i would recommend um out of anything and always cbd i love cbd but with that being said i have to get on

with my day and you know might take a nap as you can tell my energy is kind of dipping down that sandwich is settling in my tummy the weed is settling in my brain getting a little sleepy i can't lie so i'm gonna let you guys go so i can finally get this uploaded to you guys if you're one of the people who listens within the first hour thank you that is fucking crazy because i like uploads shit on here and then i'll be like oh my god did i upload it like i don't know and then i'll go and check and i'll be like 400 people have listened to this in the past 30 minutes and i'm like holy shit that is crazy so many of you guys show up every week and support me and i really appreciate it it is just mind-blowing the community we have built here and how many of you

guys constantly show up and you know support me and support each other we're literally almost to a million streams like this podcast has been listened to almost a million times just fucking crazy so thank you i love you all so much i hope you are having a wonderful week um i don't think there will be a podcast on thursday as i am going to spend the rest of my week focused on my patreon if you are interested in my patreon um it is under the name smoke says shoddy but if not i will still be here every week do not fret um and i might even put out some extra youtube videos for free in the coming future once i get used to um you know recording and all that stuff i also teased on my patreon that i might be doing video podcasts soon i know i uh might hire a videographer to

help me edit and put together um video podcasts so those will be free um in the near future but for like vlogs any like day in the life stuff like that little chats journal prompts um weekly ideas that is all on my patreon but i love you all have a wonderful wonderful rest of your week don't forget i will be posting um well the full moon is on thursday so don't forget all those manifestations focus on those i'll be posting some more information about that on my instagram though i handle marlene if you're interested and yeah love you all thank you for your questions we'll post another sunday recap for any questions you have and once again my dms are always always open if you have longer questions but love you all have a safe and wonderful rest

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