Smoke Sesh - situationships, sensitivity & how to get hotter (video episode)

Episode Date: February 15, 2024

Hello hotties! Hope you had a wonderful Valentines Day on Wednesday, im here to catch up with you all and get right into all of your questions for today. We talk situationships, saving yourself, level up your life, let’s get hotter, daily tips to uplift your life, sensitivity, favorite quote/daily inspiration, consumerism & love, Valentine’s Day, gift giving, sugar daddies, sensitive & dramatic, vulnerability & strength, saying no, setting boundaries, will it always be this good? how to get better, body goals, does size really matter? being open to receiving the universes blessings, 3 somes, break up with it! stop complaining, show her off! spring time energy, immature adults, stealing men, all bodies are perfect, plus much much much much more, thank you for joining me on this beautiful Thursday afternoon remember to follow the instagram @hannahmarlene to see what im up to and Patreon.com/smokeseshshawty for extra content for the week! Love you all have a beautiful and safe weekend, MUAH!

listen everybody needs a fairy godmother you know just somebody to look out for them some people call me their fairy smoke mother others their internet big sister but you can call me hannah the host of smoke sash so come hang out let's light up and talk everything there is to life the good the bad the ugly the embarrassing i've got a story for it all hello hotties welcome back to another beautiful little smoke sesh video episode i am so excited to be back with you guys on this bright and sunny beautiful thursday morning um long time no chat not really i hope you enjoyed um i hope you enjoyed tuesday's episode i had a blast filming that with you guys and getting up early and getting to hang out with you all i hope valentine's

day treated you well um i also hope you enjoyed the video or not the video the audio episode i was a little delirious that day and the deliriousness is it's carried over a couple days if i'm being honest um work on valentine's day listen i'm a server work on valentine's day is always fucking insane not to mention the parade was happening um in kansas city for the chiefs so everybody was just drunk all morning and then starving by that evening and that just makes for a insane day for me to experience safe to say listen make a lot of fucking money work my ass off it's worth it let me just say that but anyways i hope your valentine's day was good to you i hope everybody treated you well and was kind to you and i hope if anybody treated

you nice at least maybe yourself that's really all that matters um i hope that man bought you flowers or at least a nice dinner that is what is required of him and once again like i said on tuesday if he is blind to everything going on around him he's stupid and do you really need a man that stupid in your life no okay you deserve your flowers you deserve to be celebrated and yeah i hope you guys had a fantastic valentine's day thursday now it's finally time for me to celebrate so excited for that thank god um because let me tell you this i put my work in now it's time for me to go out and party and play a little bit um and thursdays are kind of my weekend especially since i work all weekend um and during the beginning of the week so i got

some good plans today gonna hang out take some pictures there's not I love being a girl because there's nothing more satisfying than simply smoking a bowl putting on your favorite show podcast music whatever it is doing your makeup picking out a cute outfit taking some hot sexy photos that is just such a ritual that is a design to make you feel immediately better but also it's such a part of girlhood that i just appreciate and love so much and it is such a great way to honor myself in that sort of ritualistic way also valentine's day nails ah fuck hold on aren't they so cute aren't they adorable like are you kidding me she killed him megan i love you nail shot um but listen a good nail girl will change your life also just like bestie status

love her every month i don't need a therapy session i just go over to her house and i do my she does my nails for three hours and we chit chat about life what is better than that if i'm being honest um so yeah i got my valentine's day nails my pink and my red got my valentine's day balloons i love love got my red on my little lounge set speaking of um we have some fun new merch coming out not really merch merch but a little something fun i wanted to release for you guys um one of my biggest goals in even just doing any sort of online work was to kind of create things that i wanted and then be able to share them with you guys um and i hate the idea of merch where it's like says someone's name across the front or it has their face I just

I can't wear that personally so I like to make something that's like merch adjacent and by merch I just mean I'm selling it so we are gonna have a small restock on our gotweed baby tees literally how hot um I have a few of the appliques left and t-shirts left so I'm gonna do a small restock in that I am releasing more colors you just have to be patient for those they're in the works but I'm assuming they will be done before 420 so for my hot girls that want to go out celebrate for for 444 for 420 um they will be available in a couple months be patient be patient um but you have some hoodies coming soon um I will be able to tease those next week on the video episode I will be wearing one of those but I'll have some hoodies out for you guys that I think also it's

not related to weed because I had some people asking I want to buy a t-shirt buy whatever but I don't want it to have a pot leaf on it or I don't want it to say weed across the front and I hear you I take criticism well I take you know ideas very well and I wanted to create that for you guys I'm not gonna spoil it just yet I want to kind of debut it on the video episode next week so be patient but i do have some fun little you know a gift for me to you in honor of our cute little valentine's day celebrations but with that being said hope you had a great night hope you indulged a little bit and whatever you seem to look forward to and yeah with that being said let's get into some of your questions how to handle situationships please i'm dying he's so

fucking annoying what happened to just dating what happened to dating I feel like dating turned into situationships because people just simply don't want to commit they don't want to open themselves up they don't want to be vulnerable oh scary but maybe you'll hurt me yeah bitch this is life enjoy connect get hurt eventually at least you had the decency to build a real lasting connection okay I hate that situationship I hate the whole term situationship I hate the idea of a situationship okay i feel like especially i don't know dare i say i like it when somebody commits to me what happened to commitment okay i just want to know you're not fucking other people and you're not going to come home and give me an std that's literally all i care about i want to

make sure you're not out fucking around on me um and i feel like the only way to really make sure that's not happening is to be dating and no one wants to commit anymore um and so many of these girls get stuck in these situationships these I don't know what we are I don't know what I want and if I am being honest the best thing you can do for yourself when you find yourself in that situation is a you know what you want you do either I feel like you're one of two people you're either the person who's like I'm just having fun I don't want to get connected I don't want to get roped into a relationship that I'm not super excited for I'm just having fun with the people around me right now or you're the person who's like I'm in love I'm fully in love with

this person I'm infatuated with them I want to spend the rest of my life with them why the fuck are they not committing both of those perspectives absolutely fine and dandy it really is just all about how you go about it and I feel like the situationship doesn't work out for either parties because one wants like a friends with benefits like situation they don't want to be dating anybody they know they don't want to be dating anybody they want to go out have fun meet new people no connection okay you need to make that clear though okay there's not I don't know what I want you know what you want and it's I don't want to be connected which is why I'm assuming you're probably annoyed with this man right now it's because he's like i just i don't know these men

aren't stupid they know exactly what the fuck they want okay and whether they're brave enough to verbalize that to you or not you know what the vibes are especially if he uses the term i'm just having fun let's just keep it fun i'm just having fun right now i don't know what i want run especially if you are the girl who's like no i'm deeply in love with this man like i need him but he just seems to be running away from me you don't deserve somebody who's gonna be sprinting away from you at full force that doesn't mean you run after them okay i don't know why so many people like feel the need to chase after people now like if they want to be a free stallion in the great plains let them do so but if you are a monogamous person there's other monogamous people out there

for you don't get dragged through the mud just because someone else wants to drag you through it behind them but yeah the situationship i hope my girls didn't find themselves in any bad situationship situations this valentine's day but if you did like i said on the audio podcast if he ain't treating you right it is time to go and the best way to decipher that is on valentine's day okay you'll learn their true intentions then let's be real um but yeah best way to figure out if it's a situationship what are we ask them ask them oh you're confused ask them hey do you want a relationship with me crazy crazy who thought you could ask that right are you kidding me how dare i ask do you want a relationship with me and if they don't know the answer is no

and they say i just they give you some roundabout answer that really has no meaning it means no and if you want more you deserve more act on it uplift yourself don't settle for a man who doesn't know if they want you or not bitch you're a queen you're gorgeous you're beautiful you're amazing you're really gonna let a man be like i don't know no no no not this year girls that's not allowed if you found yourself in a sticky situation on valentine's day maybe it's time to pack your bags and go tell me how to get exponentially hotter so fast um oh my god so fast i feel like a the hottest thing somebody can do is simply feel themselves um when you're in an outfit that you don't like you're not going to be feeling

yourself you're not going to be putting out hot hot energy if you are you know not presenting yourself in a way if you're not doing something you like if you were just acting not in accordance to your true self or what you truly want to do you're not going to feel hot and like there's validity in that like of course you're not going to feel hot um you're doing something that isn't in alignment to you but also let's move in alignment girls let's step it up you want to go out and party get your girls together put on a cute fucking outfit do your makeup together smoke a little bit of weed put on your favorite music dance around take a couple shots go out with your girls have a good fucking time okay exponentially i will feel hotter talking to a

drunk girl in the bathroom i'm gonna feel like the hottest bitch in there because we're just gonna be drunk looking at each other in the eyes like god i love you so much you're amazing you're beautiful fuck that man you deserve the world you want to feel hotter in two seconds go have a drunk kiki with a girl in the club bathroom best oh my god best experience ever um some small things though take care of yourself make sure you're fed make sure you're eating good food okay when i'm hangry i feel like a gremlin i feel like a sea witch i feel ugly and i feel nasty because i'm starving and i feel like the whole world is against me so make sure you're eating good food taking care of yourself that way being fed make sure you're eating also good food in the sense

of like you're getting all of your vitamins and minerals and you don't look like you're succumbing to the plague because of your dark circles because you have no iron in your body let's take a couple multivitamins maybe just a couple make sure you're getting enough sleep drinking enough water you want to feel hotter and better about yourself i know annoying but drink some water your skin your hair your nails are all going to look fantastic your brain's actually going to be able to function and work because you have enough water in your system to actually fully hydrate yourself and there's also the surface level advice which is just let's pluck our eyebrows let's cut our bangs in the mirror depending um sometimes I'll just like randomly

box dye my hair a little blonder if I feel like I'm out of it I have I feel like I'm gonna have one of those moments coming up here very shortly um a little box dye blonde moment where I'm just having a breakdown in the bathroom guess what I come out of that bathroom feeling hotter little self-tan moment put on a cute outfit go for a walk in the park go sit in the sunshine I'm immediately gonna feel better about myself but yeah I think the overall consensus is you want to feel like a hotter badder version of yourself in a couple days it really is about the little things it's not about oh I need to buy a one-way ticket to Italy and be on a beach right now right the second like sure that make me feel really hot but also is that a tangible

thing that can happen for me not really so let's focus on finding joy in the small things all right let's make a good avocado toast let's make a sexy cappuccino let's go pluck our eyebrows let's go put on a cute fucking outfit let's go sit in the sun and smoke a joint let me take some selfies let me be a little selfish for a moment and stare at myself in the mirror for a little bit take some hot sexy photos edit them a little bit spend some time staring at myself eat a good fucking meal get dicked down go to bed get a full eight hours that you give me 24 hours of that I'm immediately feeling like the baddest bitch on the planet immediately anyways what's your favorite quote okay this is a little weird and this is where my weird girl energy is

going to immediately jump out um but when I was younger and I was going through my not no it's not a phase mom okay it's a lifelong illness um but when i was going through my deep dark depression i had a hyper fixation on the mad max movies i don't know he was crazy he was a little tom hardy little hot man crush um and there was this one quote at the beginning and i think it's why i enjoy the movie so much but it's it was um where must we go we who wander this wasteland in search of our better selves that is the only quote i have actually been able to memorize and it stuck with me all my life um it was actually supposed to be my first tattoo and then i was like too many words um uh but i was gonna get it tattooed but it's something that

has definitely stuck with me because it's like where must we go who knows but we're all gonna search for it and we are simply not gonna stop stop searching for um our better selves throughout this fucking wasteland anyways mad max who thought it could be that deep okay i love this question someone said is consumerism killing love too busy wanting more forgot how spiritual love is i could not agree more i could not agree more at all i feel like this whole idea that is running rampant mostly on people who are online way too much and especially in the just like straight female community when it comes to dealing with men is a lot of people are prioritizing their happiness and their relationship based on what their partner is buying them or what their partner

is gifting them very materialistic consumerism ideals well I love him because he bought me a new bag well i love him because he bought me this and i love him because he bought me that and i get that is also some people's love language and there's validity in that but that is not all that love is and i fell into that trap for a long time in my past relationship with a very abusive emotionally narcissistic man um but i was like well he loves me because every time he makes me cry he buys me a bouquet of flowers well he loves me because when he was screaming at me for three days straight he bought me a ring well he loves me because he's the only man to buy me a diamond necklace yeah after he made you cry all of valentine's day that does not mean he loves you

sure it could be a little icing on the cake if he does love you and treats you well and is there for you and supports you and he buys you a louis bag bitch you're winning okay that's where i am i'm like oh i can have both oh he can be nice to me and buy me things like cool it feels amazing i i love getting gifted stuff fantastic but that's not all that a relationship is and that's not all you should base your relationship on because then you start overlooking the things that actually make a relationship serious which is the connection the communication understanding each other simply being able to spend time with each other like it's not fun to think about but like if you were poor and broken on the street would you be able to put up with this man and if it's no because i only like

the handbags he buys me is it really love do i want to be on the streets of the man no do i want to be on the streets in general no but also like do i love him and stand by him yes fantastic you got to think about what really makes a relationship an actual relationship and it's not stemming from money it's not gonna stem from the gifts he buys you it's gonna stem from the connection you guys can build together and if that connection is missing no amount of gifts that that man buys you is ever going to be able to fulfill that trust me but yeah i do think consumerism is killing love um i also think men not wanting to step up and men wanting to be treated like the princess is also killing love the princess treatment is for the princess how to manage sensitivity as an

anxious girl how to see it as a strength than a weakness illy i think well here's the thing i'm a very anxious sensitive girl i like i would hear someone's footsteps change and i start crying don't know where that stems from i think i'm just too much of an observer um of along with some childhood trauma now that it's popping back up into my brain we'll work on that later this is a fun podcast. I'm sure there's topics that I bring up and you guys are like, whoa. I don't want to think about that one. Valid. Valid. I hear you. One day you will. You'll be better for it. But hold on. What was the question? But yeah, I've been a very sensitive, very anxious girl a majority of my life um and I it was a big weakness of mine for a long time

I would let people walk all over me I would be way too sensitive to other people's emotions more sensitive than they even were to their own emotions um I was a little too sensitive to like my own emotions as well taking them too seriously when sometimes emotions just need to come and go and you need to let them go um but I was a very sensitive sensitive sensitive girly for a long time and it was I think like of course there is strength in that um being so connected to the world around you um being able to notice so many little things about the world and people and just where you are being constantly connected to the universe in that way but also it can be very very overwhelming if you're taking it so seriously all the time and if you are that sensitive all the

time that's when it starts becoming kind of a hindrance that's when I found myself um being so involved in other people's lives that I wasn't taking accountability accountability for my own putting myself out there so much worrying so much about making other people happy that I didn't stop and ask myself if I was happy um taking things just way too deeply that people did not mean that way um or just kind of like losing days and weeks to this over emotionally state that was not putting me into a better place it in fact was hurting me um and it became a weakness of mine it did and then I started working in the restaurant industry and you quickly learn that there are certain things you need to be sensitive to that are very valid and there are certain things that

you just gotta be like not sensitive to whatsoever you get your ass in a kitchen and you have a chef yell at you scream in your face uh yeah you quickly learn okay there's some things I need take seriously and then there's sometimes i need to step up not be so sensitive and scream back and i think working just like in the service industry and most importantly putting myself out there more and practicing kind of allowing myself to be sensitive but utilizing it only in moments that it was necessary really really helped me um not closing myself off to the world once again like Tuesday's episode being a little bit more vulnerable with things but in a healthy way establishing boundaries in a healthy way allowing myself to say no to situations that I didn't want

to involve myself in or emotions that I simply did not want to take on or people's problems that I didn't want to take on saying yes to things that maybe scared me but excited me giving myself new opportunities in that sort of way that's when I started seeing it as a strength um is when I kind of got a little bit more of a control on it and realized yes my sensitivity like I'm a very sensitive person yes fact real it can either hinder you or you can use it to persevere um depending on how much control you let it overtake you and after it overtook years of my life I realized we cannot let it have control anymore girl we got to stand up we got to say no we got to set some boundaries and once I did that and kind of put more of a emphasis on my own life

that's my sensitivity became a strength that's when I was able to really become sensitive in a positive way and yes connected to other people's emotions so I can develop deeper connections to them allow myself to be vulnerable so I can develop deeper romantic relationships and friendship connections even with just strangers be able to have deep conversations and get to know them a little bit better or read situations for as for what they are and allowing myself to kind of harden my shell in a sense allowed me to decipher between positive sensitivity and negative sensitivity like is this something that I really need to be worrying over or is this something that i'm just overthinking um maybe overemphasizing and maybe i need to cut myself

some slack here but i think sensitivity is a gift but if you find yourself being over consumed by it um valid i hear you you really got to pick and choose your battles your life can't be one long tough battle it can be if you choose that but sometimes you got to pick and choose should i really worry about this or is there something else that i can divert this energy to that's a little bit more meaningful and will give more of a positive reaction to my life but to my sensitive girlies you are seen you are loved you are heard it is not something that you need to be over consumed by and it is something that you can change and kind of push into a better kind of push into a better direction in your life if you simply choose what deserves your attention and

what doesn't um you do have an active choice in that sometimes if someone's screaming in your face you can be like I'm not dealing with this I'm not taking this on and you can choose to walk away instead of allowing them to treat you that badly allowing to take on their stress their negative energy um and then carry it with you through the rest of your day and let's be honest it's not the rest of your day it'll probably be the rest of your month so if it's worth fighting for fantastic let's get a little sensitive let's get a little connected let's work through it but also if it's not learn to walk the fuck away learn what deserves your time your attention your energy because the majority of it doesn't so you got to learn how to decipher through that

finally ordered now nowadays with your code and got sent the 10 milligram instead of the six milligram on accident lol to this your lucky day happy valentine's day girly um um haha that's awesome i just finished my bottle and i'm so sad i'm about to order another bottle um i think my code is all caps hannah m 15 if you are interested in trying it um but yeah i love nowadays it's been also so fantastic because we talked about my drinking situation on um a super bowl and how like anxious and uncomfortable it made me um the next day especially with like anxiety nowadays isn't going to give you anxiety it's just a little bit of thc fantastic but yeah the code is hannah m 15 all caps if you would like to try nowadays it's

fantastic maybe you'll get set the 10 milligram bottle in accident i got the six one last time and that shit was fucking me up it was fantastic someone said how do i not let my parents shitty relationship impact how I view relationships please dare I say you should and I mean this in a healthy way if you are aware of what a bad relationship looks like and you know what you don't want in turn you're gonna know what's good for you and like what you do want you know what I mean like if you're in a relationship and you see things happening that you used to view as a child and like past relationships or you know your parents relationship that you're not a fan of you can see that and decide to make a change you can see the red flags because you've seen them

before choose to make a change choose to find a relationship that's good for you um and i think more so when you are aware more so of what a bad relationship looks like than a good one the good ones are gonna make you a little bit more uncomfortable and that's okay it's just because you're not used to it i don't think you should immediately write it off um but the bad ones the bad relationships those reoccurring red flags you will know those because you've seen it before you know what you don't like that's easy you know what you don't want look out for those make sure they don't reoccur within your life um someone said his uh eggplant emoji is shrimp emoji but i love him what do i do but mom i love him uh i don't think you should write

people off based on dick size body shaming 101 let's not write people off based on dick size ass size titty size we are more than our bodies period now the practical part is does it fit inside you if it does we can work with it if even if it doesn't you like if you love them you can always make it work depending on how how much you love them but like everybody's everybody's body is different and i didn't realize this until you know you have the adult experiences but everybody's vagina is like a little different length sometimes they're like this there's this much space inside sometimes there's like a lot of space inside sometimes there's like a medium amount of space for the

vaginal canal so if you have a small one and you're trying to take a eight inch peen that's not gonna feel good that's gonna be pretty fucking painful but if you have this you know big of a vagina canal and you find this big of a dick perhaps shrimp emoji size magic can happen it really is all about finding the right partner um and making sure you guys mesh sexually interpersonally and it seems like you know you said you still love him doesn't seem like a huge issue um so I think there's ways you can work around it and I also think you're willing to work around it which is important as long as he treats you well takes care of you in that sort of way the sexual things can be figured out pretty easily as long as the initial attractions there

the body you know works don't really matter there's always um you know head toys including another partner I don't know I don't know get crazy with it but take your partner go to a sex store see what you guys can incorporate in your little routine maybe get a fun little vibrator strap on I don't know I don't know butt plug I don't know I don't know but go have fun find some new fun funky things to play around with I don't think dick size matters as long as you're willing to make it work if you're not interested in making it work and it's a huge problem for you that's also valid but see your way out of the relationship sooner rather than later and when you're breaking up I don't think you should necessarily say it's because of their dick size

I think that will only hurt their ego not even their ego just like their brain in general and their heart you're gonna shatter their heart that is not what I would lead with if you were breaking up I would just lie and be like just I don't know if it's working but no I just that would not might kill them if you say they're dicks too small that's why i can't be with you but if you're willing you can make it work that's what true love is about someone said how to deal with knowing that it won't always be this good what do you mean what do you mean what do you mean like it's gonna it's gonna get worse that's not that's not how that works that's that's not how that works it won't always be this good

because things are going to change and you might go down a little bit you know ups and downs to life you can't always ride that high for forever but it does in fact get better and that's what i was not realizing when i was in my phase that's when i was in my we gotta take myself out of the world phase i thought it just got worse like you know every single day it was gonna get worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and i mean it can if that's what you choose if you choose to go out and do horrible awful things not only to yourself and to other people um and choose the worst possible situations for yourself over and over and over again then sure it might get worse but overall if you have a little bit of hope a little bit of a dream and you persevere and you

push through and you work towards a better life every single day in however that looks for you it's gonna get better and it's gonna get so much better when I was 14 I was in my deepest darkest depression fucking pits I thought I like looking at me in this viewfinder is insane because I never thought I would be here I never thought I'd be this hot this cool this funny this outgoing I didn't think I could be the person that I am today I didn't think I had it in me I didn't think I had the support I didn't think I had the drive I didn't think it was possible for me but we made it fucking happen if it's possible for me it's a thousand percent possible for you the only thing I changed was my belief in myself no I can do that instead of immediately thinking

down on myself no I can do that if they can do it I can do it if I want to do this sure fuck it I'm gonna make it happen for myself if I want to go travel the world I'm gonna make it work if I want a cheetah print couch I'm gonna make it happen if I want to wear this outfit I'm gonna make it I'm gonna make that happen for myself if I want a beautiful amazing apartment I'm gonna go hunting for it if I want to work in this job field fuck it we're gonna do it we're gonna get our degree we're gonna go after it if you want it you can have it that's the funny thing about life we are in control of our own lives what we can choose what we do with it oh my god what who would have thought are you kidding me that's a choice I didn't think that and I think that's

because a lot of our early life is kind of pre-planned you know you go to middle school you do your sports you do your extracurriculars and you go to call or high school and then they start making you think about college and your major and it feels pre-planned and you feel very out of control but then all of a sudden you have all the control and you're like okay now what the fuck do i do and that's the exciting thing about it is because now all of a sudden you can drive you're in charge of your car that is life and you can go wherever you want you can make anything happen it will get better and better and better and better but once again you can't look at those low points you know your pitfalls you're gonna fall down eventually but you will get back

up and you will rise higher than you ever had before but you can't look at those down moments as starting over or as like almost like a such a negative impact on you that it doesn't make you work harder in the future everybody's going to fall down once in a while everybody's going to you know have the downs in their roller coaster it's a part of life the more you learn to accept them the easier they're going to be able to ride whenever i smoke i get a lot of phlegm in the back of my throat for days after how to prevent um edibles you're smoking you're inhaling smoke your throat is going to be a little upset your lungs are going to be a little upset that's a very normal body reaction um the best thing you can really do to break down that phlegm is to take

what is called guafenicin i believe it's the active ingredient in mucinex um that'll help break it down and kind of get out of your system faster water will also naturally help it break down and get out of your system um but also i think if it's something that's really really annoying you just eat some edibles and not a lot do not have an experience like what i talked about on the audio episode on tuesday that was not a fun edible experience eat a little amount small amount advice on letting go of expectations the less you expect the more the universe throws at you um of course you should have like minimal expectations i need to be treated kindly i need to be treated like a human being okay you gotta have like very basic level of expectations for

the people around you or else you're gonna let yourself get walked all over like a fucking doormat so of course some expectations baseline expectations necessary necessary for being a human being but also i think the less you accept the more the universe gifts you um or the less you expect the more the universe gifts you um because if you place so many rigid rules and ideas around your life and things that you need to experience you're never going to experience those magical moments that happen in the in between the random gifts the universe throws at you um whether it's small or big if you're not looking for the small things you're never going to see the small things if you're only looking for big things you're going to miss out on all

those small fun moments that make life worth living um same thing where it's like if you're only looking at the small things you'll never see the big things you're gonna open yourself up to every possibility to receiving the universe gifts um and the less you expect the more you really will get i promise you but also you gotta have expectations in the sense of we need to be normal human beings and I deserve respect oh no oh no is a foursome with your boyfriend his housemate and his housemate's girlfriend a bad idea yeah yeah yeah absolutely I think if I was ever to have like a threesome foursome I would want it to be with somebody that I will never ever see again ever in my entire life um not somebody that I gotta wake up and brush my teeth next to

or share the kitchen with because one little thing goes wrong one little thing goes wrong girl you got an eight-month lease with them maybe it's not even you your boyfriend has eight-month lease with them and that seems like a fucking mess if you want to have your little foursome you want to have your little threesome with your boyfriend fantastic girl have fun do your thing but go pick up a girl from the bar go pick up a couple from the bar somebody you can just i don't need to have a interpersonal relationship with you outside of this i think that's the best idea possible because i can see a lot of things going wrong here and then you gotta like cook eggs in the morning next to them no no thank you okay also girls listen listen to me very

clearly i'm like shit let me light up while we talk about this next topic listen i had an experience this weekend that I was like I've been this girl I've been her there's only up from here but we gotta talk okay listen I've been that annoying person who comes up to their friends every day and complains about the same thing constantly but doesn't realize it because I'm trapped in this world of being obsessed with a situation that my infatuation and hurt seems like normalcy thus the overthinking and all-consuming thoughts thus the constant complaining and honestly i wrote this when i was high honestly it's just really fucking annoying now being on the other side of it and i'm not talking about oh i just ashed on myself

hot girl problems that and burning like my thumbnail with my lighter anyways i'm not talking about you guys who submit me questions this is a safe space i love you thank you for submitting questions to me every single week and sharing your problems with me girl i'm more than happy to share my problems with you too i'm also a constant complainer so this is where it it's a little muddy for me but when you are constantly only talking to your friends about how much you hate your boyfriend or how much you hate your situationship or oh this problem happened or I'm facing the same problem again with the same person because it keeps happening over and over and over and over and over again and that's the only reason you talk to your

friends is to complain about the same situation over and over and over again i'm not here to tell you listen like i'm i'm a complainer i've been there but i'm here to tell you now that i've been on the other side of it it's really fucking annoying and it's not annoying that you're bringing it up it's annoying that i have told you okay babe all you gotta do is abc and i believe in you and i love you and you're like yeah yeah yeah i'm not doing any of that though i'm just gonna keep going through the same thing keep getting hurt and keep complaining about it at that point that's all your fault especially from like a friend perspective where it's like I simply want the best for the people around me and I'm gonna be honest with you about how to get

that I'm gonna be honest with you about how I can help and what you should do and I'm gonna give you the best advice possible if you do not take my advice my ability to keep hear you complaining about the same fucking thing starts dwindling so i'm here to tell you that if you find yourself in this position where it's like damn i really keep complaining about the same thing the only reason that is happening is because you are not making a change you cannot wait around for forever for somebody to get their shit together or for somebody to finally treat you right or for somebody to finally see your value you need to know your value you need to know what you're worth and you need to not settle for less and if you find yourself constantly complaining about the

same fucking issue over and over and over again it's probably because you're settling for less it's probably because you're annoyed that you know you deserve more but the annoyance needs to switch from oh well this person's not doing it for me or this thing's not doing it for me and to i need to be doing it for myself i know what i want why am i not seeking it out why am i delaying instant gratification by waiting for someone to get the hint when they simply are not getting the fucking hint please you guys i want you to be the hottest baddest babes possible i want you to be and i know you are i'm saying this because i know the baddest bitches listen to me i know the hottest bitches listen to me i know you guys have it in you you need to believe that

you have it in you this isn't me complaining about anything specifically that any of you guys said just oh it's just annoying to hear um like now that i'm on the other side of it like interpersonally like please i'm begging just break up already like seriously your boyfriend the job the family member the bad habit please i'm begging you break up with it realize what you deserve break up with that bad fucking habit and move on and do better that's really all you can do if you find yourself in the same position of hurt that you were yesterday or maybe a week month ago over and over and over again please break up with it believe it or not you do have a choice and there is a reality on the other side that is good for you please choose it that has been my psa for the

day that's my personal rant for the day literally there's nothing more heartbreaking than seeing a bad bitch get dogged and her being like well yeah but no no buts you deserve the best you deserve the entire world the only reason you're not getting it is because you're settling for less also another random complaint boyfriends should be showing you off and i'm not talking this isn't coming from a place of oh he needs to post you he needs to brag about you i just think needs to make you at least easy to find because i hate when someone posts a bad bitch and i can't find like find her page and follow her immediately it is my biggest annoyance this has been something i've been noticing more recently on instagram like or tiktok or whatever i'll be like scrolling and

i'll see like a girl she has a cute fucking fit on right and then i'm trying to find her page and i realize oh it's her boyfriend posting her or she's in his videos or she's in his photos and I can't find her why the fuck can I not find her I don't care about you I want to find her and the way that you're hiding her is embarrassing not for her but for you like you're not trying to show a bad bitch off come on there's this one guy that I keep seeing on TikTok and he like makes cooking videos um it's like cooking videos but he'll like smoke with his girlfriend before I don't know if you've seen them um occasionally they'll show up on instagram and i cannot find that bitch i don't care about the man making the video i simply want to know who your girlfriend

is so i can follow her and when i have to put 30 minutes into finding that that's a red flag okay if you're dating someone very simply that should be obvious they should be able to find you within their social media pretty fucking quickly dare i say but yeah that was my biggest annoyance this week because i was really trying to hunt down this bad bitch and i could not find her because her boyfriend was being stingy not wanting to share oh not to get into complaining not me complaining about complaining and now i'm complaining listen sometimes it's good someone said hi hannah just sending huge love from japan love you love you japan wow i've always wanted to travel there i feel like i need a good guide though so maybe one day i'll end up there that'd

be so fun someone also said in all caps hannah life is no longer monotonous and boring i love it again springtime things i was looking at the trees the other day and there's like little we were on my boyfriend on a walk and i was like oh my god all the trees have little buds on them like they're all about to bloom and grow leaves we're on the other side of it ladies we've made it to the other side of winter i feel like it was a very quick winter but honestly who am i to complain the only thing i'm scared of is global warming and i know that's why that's happening but early spring let's look on the bright side of things that's all i can really do i also love that you guys ask me questions that you should be asking your doctor because like i get it me on reddit

every night from the time of 1 a.m to 3 a.m and not in like a the reddit like the whole up uptick recently of like reddit snark pages um is insane and it's a new way for girls to be mean on social media um that's scary to me that is not what i'm spending my time on and i don't recommend doing so that is just a black pit of despair that no one should subject themselves to but i do love a good like reddit deep dive like i'm googling random doctor questions and getting advice from anonymous strangers online like that shit that is peak internet existence i love that shit that is so funny um anyways what did they ask me oh they asked they say not to smoke on birth control but is that just nicotine or can i not smoke weed either um i think if you're on any kind of

medication they're going to tell you not to smoke weed i think that's just a general rule of thumb when it comes to doctors and giving advice uh but i definitely know you shouldn't smoke nicotine on birth control i don't think you don't necessarily once again i'm not a doctor but i don't think you don't necessarily get in the way of how well it works i think it's just overall birth control is pretty rough on your body as a body um and the kinder you can be to it through substance less substance abuse the better so someone said i'm tired of being 18 and being more mature than most adults why do people yell so much oh there is nothing more annoying than someone yelling in a public space or yelling at me oh how dare you oh you're uh instant turn off

and not like towards myself like i when people used to yell at me i used to like turn into a turtle going into its shell like I get scared but now I'm a turtle staying outside of its shell and I'm more so just like slowly walking away like this is embarrassing this is way more embarrassing for you than it is for me because you I upset you that much that you're screaming in my face right now that's that's insane that's wild yelling is so embarrassing and yeah if an adult yells at you they're not an adult they're a child if we're adults we'll talk we'll communicate okay if you need to take a break and walk away because you're that mad fantastic that's the adult thing to do but screaming at each other talk about childish um if you find yourself around adults like that

i say get away as fast as you possibly can and if it's like parents or people that you can't really get away from i am so sorry you will find yourself free of that sooner or later at least you know it's embarrassing and you shouldn't do it oh it is so embarrassing why are we yelling why are we yelling someone said is it okay to steal someone's boyfriend if she's a huge bitch who's super mean to everyone including him um no no because even if she's a huge bitch if he is willing to cheat on it cheat in a relationship instead of being a grown adult and leaving the relationship because she's a huge bitch and doesn't respect or love him he'll probably do that to you too no matter how good you are to him um so no i don't think it's

worth it i think if anything you should be like i'll be waiting but you're waiting your karma's gonna come back to you no matter what no matter how good your intentions are um you're it's still stealing slash cheating and that will never have good repercussions for you listen i've said this once and i'll say it again boobs are boobs are boobs are boobs and all boobs are fantastic and lovely and literally never ever will i complain about a pair of titties in my face ever someone said boob insecurities i'm so insecure that my nipples point down and my boobs sag a little girl once again boobs are boobs all boobs are fantastic no one will ever complain about boobs ever ever literally ever the only person who's thinking about it too much is you because they're

attached to you and like valid of course you're gonna overthink things that maybe you can't help or um you have time to overthink because you're constantly in your body attached to it but boobs are boobs are boobs you're beautiful you're lovely no need to overthink it at all okay literally so funny i had to go to brunch for my grandma on saturday morning um she was turning 80 crazy shout out to her um she's a little cuckoo for cocoa puffs but i'll probably be the same fucking way at 80 let's be real um but we went to brunch and i was yeah had my couple mimosas hanging out chit chat and I was going to make my plates and keep in mind I was at my very catholic aunt's house very catholic she's also like she's like catholic hippie adjacent I don't

know definitely catholic values so I'm a little on edge but I was making my plate whatever they just redid their kitchen they had a bunch of beautiful plants and stuff out I was making my plate and I look up and I look at the planter in front of me and the planter had little boobs all over it little little boob carvings on it listen even my extremely catholic aunt loves boobs all boobs so if she's not overthinking it i don't think you should be that's for sure and also if somebody is making you feel bad about your boobs get them away from you immediately immediately if your man ever says anything negative about your body about your boobs about anything of the sort that is such a just like to me that would be such a disrespect that

I like you need to value my body as well as my mind and my spirit and all of the sorts you need to value me as a whole human and if you are going to say rude hurtful mean comments about me in general you're not someone I need to ever have around me so if you find that it is because of someone else get that person out of your life immediately thank you guys so much for being here loved hanging out with you guys i hope you had a wonderful valentine's day um and a beautiful little love week i hope you celebrated a little and if you didn't it's not too late there's always time to uplift yourself celebrate yourself a little anyways i'm gonna go eat a big hearty meal i'm gonna go have a good time dress up do my makeup and i recommend you uplifting yourself

the same way do a little something for yourself that's your homework challenge for the week but if you want to see more from me you know where to find me patreon.com my instagram is at hannah marlene and i will see you all so very soon