Smoke Sesh - staying grounded, princess treatment & exes

Episode Date: July 7, 2026

hello hotties and welcome back! we talk what ive been up to, summer maxing, being incredibly busy, summer activities, training your brain, path of least resistance, staying grounded, how to ground you...rself, calm cool and collected, idgaf, how to not care, detachment, year of the fire house, trusting in yourself, what to do when people don't like you, being yourself, loving yourself, not everyones cup of tea, projection, planning your life, being busy, planners, maxing out your days, princess treatment, bum boyfriends, basic respect, healthy relationships, healthy conflict, how to handle conflict, saying what's on your mind, conflict resolution, bad dreams, what to dreams mean, recurring dreams, exes, retrograde, moving on, am I the problem, running away from your problems, fixing your problems instead of avoiding them, looking forward and much much more!watch the vlogs on YouTube at hannahmarlene444join the patreon! new episodes (and more) at patreon.com/smokeseshshawtysubmit your questions and call ins every week on instagram.com/hannahmarlene

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Starting point is 00:00:01 listen everybody needs a fairy godmother you know just somebody to look out for them some people call me their fairy smoke mother others their internet big sister but you can call me hannah the host of smoke sesh so come hang out let's light up and talk everything there is to life the good the bad the ugly the embarrassing i've got a story for it all hello hello hello and welcome back to another episode of smoke sesh podcast you guys mama is mama sleepy i am tired but like a good exhausted you know what i mean i think like peak summer experience is being that like mid-afternoon sleepy because you've just been doing so much all day like a little burnout from the sun and you finally get into some AC and you're like
Starting point is 00:00:52 wow what a day that's kind of how I've been feeling honestly like the past entire week talk about summer maxing last week okay I really have been you know what taking my advice and putting it into fruition actually taking advantage of the day getting outside going on multiple walks going to events meeting new friends hanging out around horses girls i have been booked and busy in the best way possible i think sometimes you know i try to avoid exhaustion avoid being tired but really that just like minimalizes how much i can actually fit in a day and being tired at the end of the day is a good thing i sleep better i sleep like a freaking rock i'm not waking up in the middle of the night i'm also able to fall asleep faster because i feel
Starting point is 00:01:44 like maybe there's no more energy like we need to close our eyes and replenish and i feel satisfied with my days i'm not waking up or going to bed going damn i wish i would have done that or oh i wish i would have gone and done this or you know lived this experience or gotten this chore done it's like i just have been nose to the grindstone working hard enjoying life and it's been so nice I made a new friend we went to theater in the park this week that was such a vibe um like Shakespeare in the park they do it for free every year in Kansas City and every single year I go I want to go to that I want to go to that and I never do either because it's too hot or I don't have anybody to go with or it's too late or why would I do that in the middle of the week like
Starting point is 00:02:28 excuses excuses excuses this time I was like no more excuses no more heat excuses no more this no more of that you know she's down I'm down let's fucking go and it was a blast they were doing Macbeth baby I couldn't tell you one singular thing that happened during that play but it was drama there were witches I was fucking with the vibes and there was one line that's become my new vocal stim of the week which is aren't thou a man oh my god I heard that and I was like yeah I'm adding that to my vocabulary immediately new vocal stim unlocked but that was amazing fourth of july was pretty freaking chill it was actually the day off and it was raining here which is probably for the best so the fireworks weren't just igniting the entire city
Starting point is 00:03:13 on fire um there is no fireworks ban you can light them off where i'm from so we're not really worried about like wildfires here if i'm being honest but i was so excited i was like let's go to the pool let's go to a pool party let's go to this let's go to that and then my plans were kind of like extinguished quite literally by the rain so it was a very chill little fourth of july day we did end up you know i i had a hot dog bucket list things had a hot dog lit off some freaking fireworks you know made some jello shots those were fire people really enjoyed those that recipe is up on instagram right now if you're interested um but it was a good little celebration my brother ended up in town so i gotta take my niece and my nephew to go meet zina my horse because they were
Starting point is 00:03:57 like it's our turn now my dad's met her my mom's met her all right now it's time for my brother sister-in-law niece and nephew to meet her and they're still like little little like they're probably four almost four and almost six so they're just like teeny tiny little dudes so they can't ride okay like that's pretty young to put on a horse and like liability purposes like i don't think you're allowed to ride horses until you're eight at least my barn where i am that's just the insurance things so it's like what can they do what can they do and they've been doing summer camps in my barn recently and all the horses in the pasture were rainbow like painted rainbows like what's going on with this they're like oh it's too hot for the little kids to ride right
Starting point is 00:04:39 now for the summer camp so we broke out the paint and they got to paint the horses i was like you can do that okay new activity unlocked get some horse safe paint yes horse safe paint human safe paint as well and I didn't even know they made like paint for horses it's so funny I didn't know that this was like a thing that happens people paint their horses especially before the July apparently people paint their horses like the flag I was like I am not that patriotic but let's go like rainbow dash version let's give her a little cutie mark and so the kids came and they got to paint her down and make her all colorful it was so sweet they got to go meet all the horses and give them some pets and give them some treats they were just living their best life enjoying
Starting point is 00:05:20 their time out on the farm it was so nice to also introduce them to their first ever horse i don't think they've ever met a horse so that was so fun and xena is so good i mean she's she's been there done that kind of horse so she don't give a fuck at all truly as long as you're feeding her treats she's like let's go you can do honestly whatever you want so she was just living her best life enjoying the treats enjoying the children that was fabulous and yeah i have just been we ended up at the river we went swimming in the river i went floating in the river me my tall boy and my sparkly inner tube against the world just floating around that was fantastic i'm hoping to get to the pool today i'm telling you when i say summer maxing i'm not joking
Starting point is 00:06:00 there's no more time baby it is july july yes i said that out loud i feel like for so long like all winter and honestly even through the spring i was like summer summer summer babe summer is here summer is happening summer is summering and if you don't take advantage of it right now you are going to miss out I'm not lying and I'm not I don't mean to stress you out we got work we got obligations we got things to do I understand you got to be inside for your nine to five valid real but any ounce of free time that you do have get out there go do one new thing go do one new thing that you've been craving to do wanting to do for the past eight summers in a row and just haven't gotten yourself to go do it it's so worthwhile it's so fun and like i said you might be exhausted
Starting point is 00:06:46 at the end of the day because you kind of maxed yourself out but what's better than living a fulfilled life and being a little exhausted than being well rested and having no fun things to look back on you know what i mean i also think it's the best way to really survive the winter okay we talk about harsh winters here i'm ready to move to la i'm ready to get somewhere that there is no more winter can't wait for that will eventually but i think i got one more winter coming up that i'm gonna have to persevere through and if you are a person who lives in a cold place where maybe winter lasts a little long maybe you have a little seasonal depression moment you know you don't you don't vibe with the cold i don't know who vibes with the cold i personally do not if you
Starting point is 00:07:24 do congratulations jealous jealous of you okay i wish i could be into the skiing and the sloping and the tubing and the and the snowmobiling no baby no i'm meant to be on a beach next to an ocean in a forest in a rainforest warm warm okay but the best way to survive winter is on memories and is on knowledge of past summer experiences of feeling fulfilled from summer so you can actually take that time to rest relax from being so busy while the earth was warm which maybe it's really warm but you know what i mean i feel like last summer or last winter wasn't so hard on me because I was like I really did everything I wanted to in the summertime I went on a little girls trip we went to some rodeos I got into horseback riding I we went fruit picking we went flower
Starting point is 00:08:15 picking I went frolicking we went to the river like every single week the only regret I had from last summer is I didn't get to the pool that often so you know new activity unlocked we're gonna be doing that a little bit more this summer but it does you know when you tire yourself out from all the summer maxing summer activities it is so nice when you are able to like fully invest in the relaxation of winter and you don't care so much that you're inside because baby you were outside for a little bit too long so inside feels like a nice change of pace you get to fully rest and relax and then there's another summer upon us but like i said i'm just taking advantage of the weather as it comes the rain is like it's been like thunderstorming and then getting a million
Starting point is 00:08:57 degrees outside so I'm just trying to find the sweet spots where I can to be outside to enjoy the weather to get my fingers in some dirt to go horseback riding all of the activities all of the things and I feel so fulfilled so excited and you know what so summery I'm feeling good I hope you guys are feeling good like I said if you haven't you know if you're like oh my god it's July I haven't done anything there's still time baby the earth's still gonna be hot for quite some time at least until early October at least where I'm from you have time okay do not be afraid of being tired be afraid of living an unfulfilled life that's what you should be fearful of that's kind of how I feel after work when I'm like should I don't want to do anything oh but you have plans
Starting point is 00:09:43 go do them you know you're going to be a little tired at those plans but you're going to feel more fulfilled going to those things doing that activity living fully than not doing them and what going home laying in bed and scrolling on your phone no that's not gonna make you feel good that's for sure but yeah today was a little wild talk about tired my alarm's been going off quite early i'm trying to max my days as much as possible and so i'm trying to retrain my brain to wake up early because I was in a moment where my wake up call was at like 9 30 which fabulous fabulous if I do say so myself but then it's noon and then it's four and then it's dinner time like I feel like when I was waking up a little later my days didn't feel so fulfilling and also my work
Starting point is 00:10:32 since I work for myself most of the time my work pushed almost to like 7 p.m 8 p.m and it was like damn all I did was work all day I have no time at the end of it to like I don't know do anything for me you know what I mean so my parents are in Croatia right now they escaped the USA for a little bit of time to go vacation as you do as a retired individual you know I don't blame them at all but um I'm watching their dog right now so I have to wake up early I have to force myself to wake up early to go walk their dog in the morning usually around like 8 a.m okay so that means my alarm's going off at 7 a.m yes I have not woken up at 7 a.m like daily in years probably years okay so my brain a little scrambled a little screwed a little fried right now but also
Starting point is 00:11:24 I'm getting so much shit done I'm getting all my work done by 3 p.m and then I'm like wow so much time for activity so many so much room for activities fabulous amazing we're going on multiple walks a day with the dog which is so nice to get some sun on my skin i get to hang out in their backyard do a little bonfire situation i think i'm gonna do like roasted charcuterie i saw this person make like a video on roasted charcuterie over a bonfire i was like yup love that idea let's give it a try but trying to condition your brain to do new things is actually the most difficult thing ever it's like i think i'd rather do anything else than try and recondition my brain because me and my brain be fighting like siblings honestly i mean who knows
Starting point is 00:12:07 me better than myself and i mean listen when that alarm goes off in the morning there's nothing more i want to do than roll over turn that shit off pretend it didn't go off set a set another one for five minutes later you know push off the agony of having to get up and get the fuck out of bed but i've been doing good because i've set boundaries with myself okay the thing about doing hard things is your brain doesn't want to do hard things your brain actually wants to do anything other than do hard things your brain if given the opportunity will always choose the path of least resistance and even if you're trying to do a good thing for yourself like you know okay implementing this new habit or cutting out this bad habit you know you know it's good for you but
Starting point is 00:12:52 your brain doesn't know the difference between good or bad or motivation it just knows damn this is going to be hard because i'm not used to doing it okay sometimes our brains are a little lazy in that way and we must work on our brains the same way we would a muscle i have been doing that a lot recently with just habits um you know thought processes routines things like that and so for me when it comes to waking up early it is like you get one alarm okay the alarm is going off early enough that i have enough time to get up and get ready so i'm not rushing i don't like to get up and rush that doesn't feel good okay it's like 30 minutes before i have to leave the house the alarm goes off and baby that phone is right next to my head blaring in my ear so yes i will
Starting point is 00:13:36 wake up some people i understand if you have a hard time waking up oh thank god i am not blessed with that gene because i have so much anxiety in my body all it takes is like a needle to drop in another room for me to be awake okay so I'm good about waking up when my alarm goes off it's the getting out of bed part that's hard so I've been keeping a robe right next to my bed so as soon as I sit up from bed I throw my robe on I'm comfy I'm cozy I immediately stand up and I also force myself to then go to the bathroom whether I have to go to the bathroom or not I force myself to get up and at least walk to the bathroom because simply standing up moving your body getting your brain a little bit more activated not being horizontal anymore gets you in the routine
Starting point is 00:14:21 gets that momentum going for you to then be able to actually all right next step let's let's keep it moving let's keep it pushing let's not go lay down again you know but when you wake up and you're laying there you're checking your phone and you're scrolling you're like maybe I should just you know reset an alarm maybe you'll just push it back 15 minutes no no no no get up immediately robe on no scrolling on the phone in bed in the morning go to the bathroom when you're on the toilet you can scroll on the phone congratulations i also think a really good coffee in the morning is the perfect little like it's like dangling a carrot in front of a horse like that's my motivation that's all i need okay maybe yours is like a really good breakfast a really good snack for me personally
Starting point is 00:15:07 really good coffee that's all the motivation i needed in the morning a little dose of caffeine to get me up get me excited and then it's been nice because i'm immediately outside i'm immediately out walking the dog you know going on a little walk around the neighborhood but even if you're not doing that getting some sun on your face walking out on your front patio on your front porch getting some sun on your face some fresh air on your face it's a fantastic way to completely wake yourself up but yes me and my brain we've been fist fighting practically recently and it's been nice to kind of exert some control over myself and get used to doing that instead of like letting my body choose whatever the fuck it wants to do because obviously it's gonna choose like
Starting point is 00:15:47 the worst things possible for me i don't know why that's my natural inclination but it is so it's been so nice to just like all right you know what you can do it but like it's gonna take a little grit it's gonna take a little work it's gonna take a little effort and yeah you might hate your fucking life for two weeks as you try and figure out how to wake up early you know every single morning might feel like ripping your hair out but eventually you're gonna be looking forward to those 7 a.m wake up times and my goal this is crazy this is crazy this is how i know i'm becoming an adult my goal is to hopefully eventually get to like a 6 30 alarm i know i know that's wild but i feel like i'll be able to fully max my fucking days out at 6 30 and also if i want to
Starting point is 00:16:35 start implementing a gym routine i think i'm gonna have to be a morning gym person i do not think i am an afternoon gym person and it is a big goal of mine to start getting into a good gym routine like an everyday sort of gym routine I'm hoping to I think in August I'm gonna do a like 30 a 30 hard not a 75 hard but a 30 hard Hannah Hannah's way where I'm like all right 6 30 a.m wake up times working out every morning or at least an activity every morning you know trying to eat healthy avoiding sugars avoiding eating out cooking all my food at home um i don't know i have this whole big list it'll be a fun little youtube video it'll be fun to take you guys along with me i'm still trying to hone in on things but we're starting low and slow to get our way there
Starting point is 00:17:23 but yeah oh my god sorry i've been yapping this whole time as you guys know i'm very good at it but i think that's all i have to catch you guys up on it's been a fun really fun honestly little week but it sounds like you guys have been booked and busy as well so i want to get into your guys's questions finally and see what is on your mind there's a lot of questions this week so i'm gonna try and do a little bit of a speed round situation um someone asked what helps you stay grounded when life gets hectic and big life changes are happening love you oh it's hard because especially when like the big life changes if they're hard even if they're exciting they're still a little bit difficult and so it's kind of hard to stay present or in the moment because
Starting point is 00:18:06 you're having to like split your brain a little bit of like okay I need to be thinking about these things and looking at the situation fully but also like I am here and now and so I need to be present as well and so it feels like you're doing the splits but you don't know how to do the splits so it actually just feels like you're ripping your body in half a little bit you know what I mean if you are not familiar with being grounded or getting into grounding okay now's the time to do so especially because we are officially in a mercury retrograde okay not to get woo-woo spiritual astrological here but things get crazy okay you're gonna have maybe communication problems maybe transportation problems car problems plane problems travel problems
Starting point is 00:18:47 electronic problem things of that sort you know that sort of nature so it's good to stay present and stay grounded in where you are in order to you know let these things pass let your anxieties about it pass let your worries about it pass because ultimately even in hard situations or good situations that are maybe a little bit more challenging the path of least resistance okay it's important to stay present in the moment but also understand like this too shall pass if it's a hard time this will pass we'll be on to something better you know you'll figure it out if you go through a problem communication issue like we'll work it out eventually maybe tensions are high let's step away let's come back and you might be like Hannah what the fuck is grounding what's
Starting point is 00:19:36 grounding do I go lay in the grass I mean yeah fantastic that's a great thing to do for me grounding is all about putting yourself in the present moment but in a healthy way even if the anxieties are about the present moment just like acceptance of the present moment great habits to get into for grounding are deep breathing I love deep breathing especially as like a very highly anxious individual deep breathing through situations if my you know heart rate is going up understanding that like you know it's just a natural body function but going through some deep breathing techniques in out counting from four to eight with your breath elongating them you know if I'm in a high stress situation maybe like I'm hanging out with a new group of friends
Starting point is 00:20:24 or we're all at a bar maybe you're just like in a family situation whatever it is and there's a lot of people around you and you're getting anxious from all the people around you removing yourself from that maybe going to the bathroom stepping away from a moment doing some deep breathing collecting your thoughts you know grounding yourself back to the present moment before you go back out there to interact with more people even like just splashing some water on your face getting yourself back to the moment instead of like dissociating another very very popular one is like what is it called like the five four three two one method where you you name five things you see around you four things you can touch three things you can hear two things you
Starting point is 00:21:05 can smell one thing you can taste and it gets you to just like either stop dissociating so hard or also to just like ground you back to where you are you know really fully put yourself back into your body in a healthy way that's a fantastic grounding method like i said literally go rolling around in the dirt putting your feet in some grass great thing to do getting some sun on your face if you're in an office building and someone's stressing you the fuck out on the phone like pause bathroom break step away go outside walk around your building come back to it and it's important that these are things that are not necessarily getting you focused on whatever problems occurring or getting you focused on whatever you know issue that you are facing
Starting point is 00:21:50 anxiety that you are facing good or bad it just gets you into your body into the moment and kind of reroutes the nervous system back into a calm cool collected space so this is a fantastic thing to practice especially during this retrograde season where you might find you know random um ops popping back up that you're like damn i wish i never would have seen you again random exes in your dms um accidents communication issues random people cussing you out in the street like literally the craziest shit just be happening especially now more so than ever and i've noticed like the general public maybe not you but the general public's tensions have been kind of high recently i think the heat is definitely not helping um but i've been in my car a lot recently
Starting point is 00:22:34 just driving around and i feel like people have been honking more often yelling more often not at me but at each other and it's like okay let's not let that energy encroach on our space let's take a moment to protect our own energy protect your own peace ground ourselves because honestly that shit don't fucking matter it takes a lot for me to get like angry upset because it's like when i want to exert that energy it needs to be on something that's actually important being angry and upset and irritated all the fucking time is such a waste of emotions and like mental space that it's like i have to kind of be picky about what i allow to piss me off otherwise i'm gonna be pissed off all the fucking time and that's not a way to live you know what i mean i mean i've been
Starting point is 00:23:19 there where it's like damn why am i such an angry bitch all the time oh because i'm allowing myself to be angry at everything that random person that just cut you off in traffic they don't matter they don't matter this grant it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things you know that's not the one thing you need to be perseverating on um the random bill that pops up it's like there's no stress you know you'll figure it out you'll pay it off whatever you need to do like it you'll get to it eventually the random customer who's giving you a side eye they don't matter they're gonna eat and leave you know so the grounding really helps me realize a what's worth my energy protect my peace a little bit and also not let that negative energy encroach on my territory encroach on my
Starting point is 00:24:01 space and fuck up my fucking day because that's the last thing I'm gonna let any stranger do is fuck up my day okay my day no no no second half the year I'm feeling the fire galloping with more confidence strength oh I absolutely feel this whatever shifted in the stars recently or in the energy recently it's put me in a place where like baby I don't give a fuck and in like a very very healthy way in a way that like something shifted in my brain a puzzle piece connected and it's like actually i don't care in the best possible detached sense of the word where it's like yes i'm very in tune i'm grounded i'm connected woo woo spiritual like i feel everything but also it's like i don't need to feel everything like i said that random person who cut me off a
Starting point is 00:24:51 traffic that they don't they don't fucking matter random people in my dms cussing me out like girl I don't care about you you know what I mean not that that really ever happens but I'm just trying to think of random examples so yes I agree I and I work with horses so I'm around this kind of confidence and strength often where yes they can be like highly anxious individuals but when they're in their own territory and when they're in their own area like these animals do not give a fuck okay they know they're 1500 pounds and they know they can kind of fuck with you and it's like if they don't want to go somewhere some of them just won't you know I've worked with very very stubborn horses where it's like you're kicking and trying to get them to go and baby if they
Starting point is 00:25:35 don't want to go they won't and it's all because of confidence and knowing themselves knowing that they can also like you know exert that power over you of like no we're not going anywhere but confident strength and understanding themselves and I truly am entering an era of my life where it's like i have that internal confidence i have that internal strength and truly nothing can fuck with me when i have that now is it like based in facts and understanding no not really it's really just based in trust like whether i fuck up i mess up i find myself in a weird situation i understand that no matter what i will figure it out i will handle that shit i will come out on the other side stronger and through that i feel a very heightened sense of strength and
Starting point is 00:26:21 confidence and it has just been so incredibly nice also i just feel free it's like it's summer it's hot out let's get outside let's go do activities galloping away running around with my girls running around having fun doing random activities the fire horse energy i feel like has fully come into fruition now that it's summer i think everybody's kind of feeling it everybody's especially with the world cup everybody's out doing things interacting with people having a good time trusting in themselves following through and not giving a fuck in the best possible way because you know you cannot give a fuck and it's like okay you're just evil let's not do that let's not do that that just don't use that as an excuse to be evil but use it as an excuse to be like you
Starting point is 00:27:05 know what no i trust myself you know what no i know what's right you know what fuck it i will follow my intuition what do i have to what do i have to lose nothing there's nothing to lose ever you can lose yourself that's the last thing you want to lose but ultimately it's like this fuck it mindset of like there's only one life we only have summer for a little bit longer it's hot outside yes there's random shit occurring in the city let's go out let's live our lives let's go after things let's try new things let's not let this person step on step on our toes step over our boundaries fuck it if i do need to be a little bit of a bitch here and there i will but also like i'm not gonna let the evil people get to me i'm not gonna let the you know random happenstances
Starting point is 00:27:51 hurt my feelings or you know ruin my fucking day it's like no you know yourself i know you're confident i know you're strong i know you have a strong sense of intuition everybody who listens to this podcast kind of has that same kind of undertones and vibes like trust i know you because you're listening to me and i know myself and all you have to do to tap into that energy if you feel like you don't have it is to trust in yourself and how do you trust in yourself by following your desires your intuition anything that you want baby if you want ice cream go get that ice cream you want to try a new ice cream shop go try it you want to try a new hobby go do it you want to go do an activity get outside go do it you want to try something out like you have to follow those
Starting point is 00:28:36 inclinations of like desire because that is who you truly are that's how you build confidence how you build strength and summer is the perfect time to really hone in on that ability and dive into it now like i said you kind of have to also have an air of i don't give a fuck doing new things is gonna scare you but also it's like you're not actually in harm's way nothing bad's actually gonna happen to you don't let people ruin your vibe don't let people encroach on your boundaries you know don't let people step all over you you know who you are you know what you need follow through listen to that run free like the fire horse you are baby okay can you please talk about feeling stupid or other people not understanding you and making you feel stupid for being yourself
Starting point is 00:29:20 oh i hope i'm so sorry if you're going through this first of all let me say this psa if you're dealing with idiots out there people who do not know themselves who hate themselves who dislike themselves who are not confident who you know are not proud of themselves will project that shit onto you so fucking hard so if you have someone in your life where it's like they're constantly talking down on you they're constantly shitting on you they're maybe making you feel bad about who you are or what you do or what you enjoy those people their internal world is so fucking miserable and i don't think those are healthy people to have around you so say you're dealing with a really close friend you're like damn they just like do they even like me like what what's
Starting point is 00:30:12 going on do they even like me the thing is they probably do like you you know they probably do actually like you they just don't fucking like themselves and i don't think those are people you should waste your time keeping around you because those are not going to be people who are going to want to build a healthy relationship with you they're going to get into this weird internal competition of talking down on you talking down on themselves you know it's not going to be fun it's not going to be good i think it's important to have people around you that have a good sense of self who have a good sense of self-confidence who have goals who have ambitions they are going to make you much more driven individual they're going to make you a
Starting point is 00:30:48 much more confident individual you're also going to feel just like more secure in that relationship but also like there's going to be randos out there who if you're out wearing a sexy ass outfit are going to side eye you you know little interactions like that you know what i mean who maybe make you feel bad about yourself without actually saying it those people also miserable or they just don't understand it like you don't have to be everybody's cup of tea that's something i had to accept very early on as a people pleaser it's like not everybody's gonna like me i know who i am i like myself i also know like i'm not evil i'm just like being me there's nothing wrong in what i'm doing i mean if i'm being an evil awful person and like being evil and horrible and someone
Starting point is 00:31:33 you know talk shit on me i get it absolutely valid real but it's like no i know who i am i i know how i present myself i know i present myself to the world that's not gonna be everybody's fucking vibe okay when i'm out in my little mini skirt my little halter top in the middle of fucking nowhere missouri in a gas station and the gas station workers looking me up and down like who is this slut it's like yeah no i get their perspective but also i'm not gonna let that make me feel bad about myself like I know I'm hot and sexy sorry you hate that but like I enjoy myself and that's all that matters and also it's a very natural reaction when people kind of try and tune you down a little bit to go wait but but am I the problem but like am I wearing something weird but
Starting point is 00:32:25 did I do something bad but this but that it is a very normal reaction to immediately go into that mindset because your brain is trying to fix an issue but you can't fix fake issues so you have to let yourself kind of enter that mindset of like wait but am i and then you have to redirect in the in like reinforce with positive affirmations towards yourself all right because sometimes the confidence a lot of it is reworking your brain or working with your brain talk about you know working with your brain of like you get that initial insecurity of like wait but is it me and you redirect and you know reinforce reinstate how you truly feel about yourself with facts the reality of the situation i know who i am i like who i am i do like my outfit i feel confident
Starting point is 00:33:12 and i'm gonna not gonna let this ugly evil bitch make me feel different about myself just because they hate themselves you know what i mean i have that conversation a lot with myself especially when i'm trying to figure out what's worth my mental space and what's worth actually thinking about like if i do make a real problem i'll spend time thinking about those things working through that conversation saying sorry doing whatever changing myself but most the time when people are making you feel bad about yourself when people don't like you for who you are when they're like you're doing this wrong you're saying this wrong you're you're behaving in a bad way it's just because they don't like who you are and they want to exert control over you you do not have to
Starting point is 00:33:58 listen you don't have to listen especially with what they're saying if it doesn't sit in reality if it's not actually something bad that you're doing and also remove those people out of your life immediately okay even if it's a stranger walk out of the store leave them let them be okay let them stay miserable where they are if it's a friend i mean i understand with friends you maybe want to have like a real conversation of hey you're acting fucking weird and if you don't like me i don't want to be friends because you're putting me down all the time or just you know taking some space away letting them be letting them be miserable over there while you're having a blast over here maybe eventually their confidence will build up and they'll want to reconnect at
Starting point is 00:34:40 some point but you have to protect your peace and protect your energy and through knowing yourself you will have that internal confidence you will be able to you know understand what's worth your time what's worth actually redirecting what's actually worth reinforcing and also which people are stupid and just simply put don't like you you're not going to be everybody's cup of tea you aren't but that's okay because you're a good person and you're probably going to be a lot of people's cup of tea. Two in five Canadians will hear the words, you have cancer. That's why every step and dollar raised matters. On September 19th, join thousands in Toronto for the Princess Margaret Cancer Foundation Walk. Challenge yourself, friends, and family to walk 21 kilometers
Starting point is 00:35:26 in support of life-saving research. Together, we can carry the fire and help create a world free from the fear of cancer. Register today at pmcfwalk.ca. At Desjardins Insurance, we know that when you own a nail salon, everything needs to be perfect from tip to toe. That's why our agents go the extra mile to understand your business
Starting point is 00:35:51 and provide tailored solutions for all its unique needs. You put your heart into your company, so we put our heart into making sure it's protected. it. Get insurance that's really big on care. Find an agent today at Desjardins.com slash business coverage. Hey, um, I just need some advice on how to just balance everything. I feel like there is so much shit going on in my life right now. Like I work, well, first off, I'm starting my university, my interior design program that's all online all online tomorrow so that's happening and then I have two jobs I run a social media page for the antiques for an antique store and then I work at
Starting point is 00:36:40 a care home and then I also do a bunch of babysitting gigs and all of that it's just like how can I stay like how do I just like schedule better I feel like I have no way of just like organizing all of this and it stresses me out so much and it's like just like what is happening and so I'm going to be going through all of this schooling online and then juggling these two jobs and a bunch of other things and it's just like how like do you have any advice on balancing it all or organizing it to an extent um thank you love you I don't know if that made any sense but yeah oh i love you too okay well congratulations on being busy i know you're like what do you mean you're congratulating me i'm so no these this is good things all these things are blessings so like
Starting point is 00:37:28 congratulations on all the blessings um the thing is baby you need a planner you need a calendar you need a planner you need multiple planners you need color depends you need an organization method okay especially with me when i work for myself when i'm doing so many things i'm trying to balance work life hobbies activities horse things parents out of town like when i'm trying to organize this all in my brain it feels like there's no way to do it there's no way i can do it all there's no way i can like organize it there's no way i can actually achieve all these things and i get overwhelmed and then i regress i avoid i i don't do them i get anxious about it so I completely just leave it alone instead of just like handling that shit and you need a
Starting point is 00:38:10 planner you need a planner okay any simple planner will do one that has the weeks one that has the months I like a physical planner I also like to keep things in my um my calendar on my phone just like big things that are going on like um appointments or hangouts or work hours I keep those on like my phone calendar so if somebody I'm talking to somebody in person and they're like hey are you free this day it's like well let me check my phone but at home when I'm organizing like when am I getting groceries when am I having time to paint when am I going and doing this activity this is hobby oh someone asked me to hang out when am I actually free you have to have a physical planner yep you do all right and when I'm organizing my physical planner you start with
Starting point is 00:38:59 non-negotiables work okay write that shit down work then you go to your appointments whatever else is going on then you go to things that keep you sane and and like mentally available such as like groceries laundry yes i do schedule both those things in and then you have free time you would be surprised genuinely you would be surprised all these things are floating in your head oh my god i have no time i'm so anxious there's so much shit going on once you take the time to write all this stuff down you will realize just how much fucking time you have in the day okay you know what's something that really taught me this is when i was in nursing school and i was about to literally flunk the fuck out because i didn't know how to manage my time at all i went to my
Starting point is 00:39:46 academic advisor and they're like all right bitch let's fucking get to work welcome to boot camp okay and she gave me this like um this schedule but it was just for one day and then i would print off a new schedule for every single day this is crazy but this might help you just to kind of visualize what's going on and the day would have every single moment of the day in 15 minute increments isn't that crazy and so it'd start like uh 5 30 5 45 6 6 15 6 30 6 45 all the way to like 4 a.m and then i would get in there and i'd be like okay wake up eight then i would be like get ready for 15 minutes all right and then it's like i have class these days all right i have time in between for lunch this is when i usually go to the gym once you actually write down
Starting point is 00:40:36 everything you're fucking doing minute by minute you will realize how much time you have how much flexibility you have what areas of your life are maybe you know the workload's really heavy on Wednesdays but maybe it's really light on Thursdays so maybe that'd be a good way for you to visualize it maybe you don't need to do that much of an in-depth dive 15 minutes at a time every day of your life but a simple planner a simple calendar will do and will make you aware of just what you got going on how you're gonna handle it work life balance and when you have free time to go spend time with friends do your hobbies do your activities okay because it's good to know those things so then you're able to actually get out and live life but just take a little bit of work
Starting point is 00:41:24 and self-awareness to be able to understand but you got this like i said also with all those things and activities you're just gonna have to do it tired as well but you'll be fulfilled tired yes but fulfilled okay how many blessings you have so many blessings going on so exciting how fun what a fun life you're living you're doing so many things wow congratulations i'm very much so like you so i'm proud of your hustle but yes stay sane by staying prepared and looking ahead i am 19 and all my friends are dating ugly bums like no princess treatment at all baby that's because you're 19 every man at 19 is a bum unless they're born into money and even then they probably still are like it's a part of being young and dating and that's when you date for love i'm just
Starting point is 00:42:10 kidding i'm just kidding listen listen when you're young you fall in love and you're just like having a good time you're it's solely off of vibes like you're working a minimum wage job you're probably in college maybe you don't even have a job you're young it is what it is now princess treatment is one thing because even if you don't have money and even if he's not buying you handbags and cars all this crazy stuff you still deserve a basic level of respect and treatment in your life and especially from your partner okay and this looks like and i'm talking like bare fucking minimum like every relationship should look like this this looks like just like common respect and hearing you out listening to your problems talking through it um you know low tempers
Starting point is 00:42:57 no hard conversation should ever end up in yelling throwing things physical violence threats threats are not okay your partner should never use like curse words at you i'm a very big proponent of that they should never call you any sort of names that is demeaning or mean in any sort of way i understand sometimes as partners we make jabs here and there but like it should never be anything that is like seriously harmful or demeaning um i am a big proponent also on like not gender roles but like if i'm in a straight relationship my partner should open the door for me i open the door for strangers my partner should open the door for me my partner should open the car door for me they should if i'm working for walking on the street they should
Starting point is 00:43:43 walk closer to the cars those are like little things you can do for free that is princess treatment knowing a simple facts and things about you oh they really like having this clean let me make sure i do that they really like you know this certain candy maybe i'll go buy a dollar candy and surprise them with it it's so simple a bouquet of flowers is five fucking dollars showing up surprising them with that like it doesn't it doesn't take a lot of money to to have the princess treatment i think a lot of men are like princess treatment i'm not buying you a handbag i can't afford that it's like no how about basic respect care understanding and simply knowing your partner and who they are it is that simple you don't need a million dollars for princess treatment
Starting point is 00:44:25 you just need cognitive ability so yeah if your friends are dating men that are like not treating them right not taking care of them not being nice to them yes you need to be nice to your partner not you know being kind not being kind to you as well i think how your friends partners treat you is a big sign okay and like your partner should treat your friends well if they're controlling if they're demeaning your partner should never tell you what to wear I mean sometimes like my partner will be like yeah pick out an outfit for me I want to match you that's cute but your partner should never be like no you can't hang out with that person no you can't go to that event or if you do go to event and they cause drama every time you go to
Starting point is 00:45:07 an event that's a problem you need to be able to hang out without them without an issue occurring um you need to be able to wear whatever the fuck you want you need a confident partner to be able to do that not an insecure one these are all just like basic respect and dignity things that every single relationship should have princess treatment is just taking it a little bit further and just knowing you know what i'm gonna step up and show out for my partner you know and that can happen in any sort of gender gender combination of a relationship sometimes i want to just like show my partner a little extra love call it the prince treatment you know it kind of goes both ways but a lot of it just comes from knowing your partner's interests and desires and following through with
Starting point is 00:45:49 that taking the extra step further and I mean with time they'll eventually get there but also I think with just simply liking your partner you will naturally do that like I'm not kidding when you like your partner you will want to go above and beyond so yes I mean if your partner's dating a loser all you can really do is like kind of hear them out and eventually they'll complain and say something and you can be like all right maybe you should leave them you only get a couple of passes though you can't every single time be like leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him otherwise they're gonna stop coming to you with your with their problems and that's a problem in itself eventually they will leave them and then you will be there with the binder of memories of
Starting point is 00:46:32 what the fuck they've done and you can remind them whenever they want to go back you see what i'm saying you can't have a lot of control over your friends and who they date you can just be there for them and also like tell them what they do deserve and ask them like well do you think you deserve this treatment if they're complaining about their boyfriend be like well do you think you deserve that do you think you should settle for that that's a great way to kind of reinforce make them think about it a little bit instead of being like just leave him girl it's like okay easier said than fucking done but yeah I mean 19 there's not a lot of money there to be like spoiled any sort of aspect but there is physical ways you can spoil your partner simply by
Starting point is 00:47:13 knowing them and wanting to show up for them and that is just basic decency and respect that every relationship should have tips for being more vulnerable when communicating with your partner it's hard sometimes lol it is i mean anytime you have a problem with someone it's kind of hard to be like at least with me it's kind of hard to be like hey can we talk about something like that's a hard conversation to have but also i think sometimes the conflict and sometimes it's the hard conversations actually usually as long as you guys are like respectful in the conflict like don't be afraid of conflict because it shouldn't be a big explosion that's not what conflict is that's a fight and that's not good conflict I mean like hey let's talk about this thing let's
Starting point is 00:47:54 adjust this behavior I don't like the way you said that hear me out kind of vibes you know what I mean those things will bring people closer together and it will strengthen your relationship if you both are willing to take on the challenge and take on that hard conversation and make the changes that need to happen I'm not even kidding sometimes at work even it'll be like hey girl sorry if I snapped on you I do really apologize it's like you know what thank you for saying that like I mean I'm not taking it personally I understand it was crazy but I appreciate you just like coming to me and saying that you know putting your ego aside and having that hard conversation of I didn't mean to snap sorry hope we're good maybe it's like hey I don't like the
Starting point is 00:48:35 way you're speaking to me you know it's kind of hard to say those things but if you're in a real solid healthy relationship they will hear that they will go you know what i understand your perspective let me make some changes and let's move forward now the real bonding happens when that person is open to hearing you out open to changes open to adjusting open to moving forward conflict can be extremely stressful when you're dealing with people who aren't going to listen to you who don't give a fuck about your problems who don't give a fuck about you and if you find yourself in a relationship or a friendship or anything where any sort of simple conversation of you know that is maybe maybe a little bit more conflicting than the fun conversations can be
Starting point is 00:49:25 if those turn into a big fucking explosion those are people who don't love and care about you those are people who don't have the wherewithal or emotional stability to have simple conversations and those things there's just a waste of fucking time you're not here to train people into behaving well or being able to understand each other or have basic empathy and I think that's a big ass waste of time but bringing up your emotions bringing up your problems is important you know sitting there and suffering with your problems is not going to make it easier is not going to make your life easier is not going to make your partner's life easier it's going to turn into resentment it's going to turn into self-hate and although you think maybe the people pleaser in
Starting point is 00:50:10 you is like well i just want to i don't want to say anything because blah blah blah even though you think you're making the situation easier you're actually making it 10 times harder than if you just bring it up i am quick anytime even if it's like an insecure thought of this or that i am quick to bring it up like i'd rather just say it out loud and i'd rather get to a resolution then let it sit and fester and get anxious about it and overwhelmed it's like i have people in my life that i know i can bring these things up with and talk about it and things will be fine like it's no big deal you know what i mean but when i was in a bad relationship where it was like i could be like hey let's not slam the door and he would just like blow the fuck up it's like yeah i needed
Starting point is 00:50:54 to get out of there because that was a place that i couldn't even bring up my feelings or emotions without being demeaned in some sort of way it is scary but also once you realize how quickly things resolve with normal people when you bring things up you become more confident in your conflict skills and also conflict is a very good thing to master in adulthood because it'll make you a better person it'll make you a more understanding person it'll make you a better friend it'll make you a better partner period point like it'll make you a better worker you want to you want to network ceo boss queen okay yeah you need to be able to handle conflict you to be able to have hard conversations and that just includes removing your emotions from it
Starting point is 00:51:32 and looking at the facts i feel this way i would love it if we took this turn i would love it if this happened um hopefully you can hear me and understand my perspective and hopefully we can move forward from this it is that simple but when you're used to things blowing up exploding huge massive bad situations whenever you simply bring up your emotions or your feelings i understand why you might get a little fearful and I don't want you to be fearful it just takes a little bit of like confidence to bring it up to have that conversation I think you'd be surprised how it goes what's the quote is it better to speak or to die it's like baby I'm speaking I'm speaking every single time I'm saying it I'm saying it out loud I'm speaking up because what are we gonna do
Starting point is 00:52:12 sit here and hold our words to ourselves and die no baby that ain't any way to live okay I'm also just like an external person so I'm quick to say what's on my mind but also it's like I say in a very calm cool collected manner keep your emotions chill look at the facts of it all bring it up in a very calm cool manner and i think you'd be surprised how easily conflict can actually be why do my dreams bring up insecurities like my boyfriend cheating it ruins my morning for real okay we talked about this in the patreon episode last week but like am i the only one who does not give a fuck about dreams like dreams to me baby that's not reality that's like a fun other side of reality sometimes not fun other side of reality but it feels like i'm watching
Starting point is 00:52:55 a movie more of those more than like being in real life does that make sense i don't know maybe i'm like not an emotional person but i i don't care if i have cheating dreams because um dream hannah really got my back i think because i don't take it so seriously dream hannah is like oh he cheated on me okay well great now we're packing his shit and we're throwing it over the fucking balcony for the homeless people to come get like she is quick to take action where it's like like your heart kind of stops a little bit and then she is quick to take action against those things i don't know it's like it's so not real that i think giving it emotional reality is kind of a waste of time like i'm a highly anxious person i'm a highly sensitive person i get sad
Starting point is 00:53:41 real easily very easily last week was a very hard week for me emotionally and it really got to a point where I was like like what matters and what doesn't matter what is worth my anxiety and what's not worth my anxiety what is worth my emotional attention was not worth my emotional attention and dreams are never worth my emotional attention even if it's like oh my god I got murdered in my sleep it's like okay well I'm waking up you know you know it's like you can't let it get to you and I think the less you let it affect you the more fun the dreams become because I used to have nightmares all the time I used to have nightmares all the time constantly especially when I was a child I used to have night like bad nightmares and it was because I was so fearful of
Starting point is 00:54:25 going to sleep and I gave it so much emotional reality that then like they started getting out of control they started kind of like taking a hold of me and so once I stopped I was just like all right we gotta we gotta like it doesn't matter if i do fall asleep when i get murdered in my sleep i'm still waking up like if i do get cheated on my sleep that doesn't mean i'm getting cheated on in real life like once i kind of worked through that emotional processing my my dreams became way more fun where it's like okay silly fun good times random excursions maybe i'm in outer space one night maybe i'm here maybe i'm there i honestly don't dream often but when i do it's like if it is good or bad or whatever baby we're waking on we're waking up and we're moving
Starting point is 00:55:07 on with our day you know what i mean and also like if you give an emotional reality especially like the cheating dreams it's such a waste of time like what are you gonna do wake up and fight with your partner and your partner's like what the fuck's going on like dude i didn't do anything now they feel bad you're making them feel like shit because because nothing happened like you know what i mean it's just so it's a massive waste of time it's a massive waste of emotional time and like you have to look at dreams like movies when I watch a horror movie yeah I get a little anxious for a second but like I'm not letting that affect my life maybe I'm watching like a like a drama movie I'm getting a little anxious for a second but I'm not letting that shit really
Starting point is 00:55:47 affect my life I'm going home and I'm moving on and that's kind of how I view dreams just for my own sanity otherwise baby is crazy otherwise it's crazy I also anybody ever have like reoccurring dreams so funny I used to have this reoccurring dream all the time of like this old town almost like an old western town you would think with like stagecoaches whatever driving through and it would be like I would wake up in my room not like actually wake up a dream wake up in my room I'd walk outside to the forest and then like on the other side of the forest it'd be like this old town and I would just like be hanging out whatever and then I wake up like nothing crazy ever happened and I would have that reoccurring dream like probably once a month like often
Starting point is 00:56:30 often as I got older it was a little bit you know a little bit of distance between maybe like six months maybe it'd be like only a year but I remember one time in high school I had the same dream again but this time the whole town was burning down completely burning down and I woke up the next morning and I was like what the fuck and I never had that dream again but one time I was going through like the history of my town and you guys I'm not even kidding I like we were like looking up the plans of the town like the history all the things I'm from like a little teeny tiny area like there's not a lot of history babe if you if you know about it you know about it and the thing I was dreaming of was a real place next to my house that had burned down mic drop me like
Starting point is 00:57:15 dreams aren't real that's a little spooky that's a little weird but also it's like if i look too far into it i'm gonna go into like some weird psychosis so i'm just gonna let it be what it is for my own mental sanity but isn't that crazy wild are subconscious mind so interesting there's a lot more research to be done but like i am not a scientist that is not my duty to be researching i can barely keep myself emotionally stable as it is like i do not need to be looking that far deep okay my ex broke no contact eek how to stay focused on the future and not the past well mercury retrograde is definitely not the time to get back with your ex but if you do want to get back with your ex just wait till this is over not to give you the okay and also like it's
Starting point is 00:58:00 like okay you're still on his mind period but you got to keep pushing you got to keep pushing forward you do this is why i say after a breakup you have to make a cons list of all the reasons why it did not work out of all the weird little things that happened that you were like i don't fuck with this i don't fuck with that vibe i don't fuck with that energy i don't fuck with the way he talked to me i don't like i don't like the shoes he wears like whatever as small or as big as possible you have to make the cons list so when things like this do happen you can immediately open the files go through the facts not the emotions the facts of it all and realize damn do I really want to let all that baggage back into my life no baby girl no you don't and
Starting point is 00:58:42 simultaneously someone asked how to healthily get over an ex is it bad if I go to another man to forget about him here's the thing I do truly believe in the you have to get under somebody to get over somebody that doesn't necessarily mean sleep with them I think you just have to start interacting with like new social circles new things new vibes new people you have to get new experiences into your life so you don't feel like you're living with one foot in the past and one foot in the present you have to start moving into the future like i said doesn't necessarily mean you have to sleep with anybody girl if that's your prerogative whatever i'm not gonna i'm not gonna sit here and slut shame you that's for sure baby i'm the last person to ever do that
Starting point is 00:59:29 but I will say you maybe need to develop like a new crush a new hyper fixation a new person a new place a new thing whatever it is maybe it's a hobby I don't care maybe it's like I'm now going to the club all the time whatever it is like you do have to just force yourself to move forward a little bit maybe it's a random make out maybe it's like a random thing here and there but you have to kind of force yourself out of that like um circle that loop you've been going through that you're so used to that you created with your partner which is very natural not a bad loop it's just what you're used to you have to force yourself out of your comfort zone to create a new comfort and i think that's how you truly get over people honestly genuinely and i mean that's from just
Starting point is 01:00:13 personal experience craving to just leave my town and everyone and saying goodbye without saying goodbye am i the problem no but you might have some problems that's for sure and not like not like real problems just like but you know what lana said everywhere you take yourself wait everywhere you go you take yourself that's not a lie real like if you're feeling unfulfilled with where you are you're gonna feel unfulfilled with where you go no i am a big proponent of like you need to switch up your environment it's so important i think when you're young to move to change scenery whether it's like from one area of town to the next or maybe you just need a new apartment new energy maybe you need to move out of your parents house maybe you need to move halfway
Starting point is 01:00:50 across the country i don't know whatever you're feeling called to i think all those things are very important and inspiring especially if you need to build self-confidence or to just like follow your dreams or follow your intuition like you owe it to yourself but also it's like let's pause and stop why are we not happy here this is something i had to work on with myself where it was like i need to move i need to move i need to move because i'm so unhappy with all these things and it's like well all these things that you're unhappy with are attached to your body and soul because they're like bad habits bad beliefs bad understandings so let's work on those things and let's figure out how to be happy here where you are so then you can be happier wherever you go
Starting point is 01:01:32 next you know so a lot of it was like oh Kansas City is so unfulfilling blah blah blah it's like actually you're just not getting out and doing things you're not getting out you're not going and experiencing and doing things oh I don't have any friends well you're not reaching out to people you're not hitting people up you're not being annoying to go hang out with people oh well you know i just blah blah blah like there's so many excuses but the thing is if you hold yourself to like that limiting belief that limiting mindset then yeah where you are now might seem very shitty but also it's gonna follow you wherever the fuck you go next so instead of living the movie it follows scary like let's figure out what you're unsatisfied with let's see if we can physically
Starting point is 01:02:14 change it here and work on it and then let's also work on maybe moving forward going somewhere else traveling whatever it may be it's like yeah you know what I want a 70 and sunny kind of place to live forever sure LA will fix that Kansas City is not the place to be but also me being unhappy with like social circles or not getting outside or locking myself inside too long it's like if I don't break that while I'm here in the now in the moment if I don't work on it I'm gonna get there and i'm gonna be even more inside because it's somewhere i'm not familiar with you know what i mean so maybe you are the problem but that's okay i'm very much so often the problem in my own life and honestly thank god i'm so tired of other people causing me problems it's like it's okay
Starting point is 01:02:59 if i am the problem i feel like i can work with myself better than other people but also it's like you gotta work with yourself you gotta know what you're doing wrong why you're doing wrong bad habits bad beliefs limiting beliefs and you gotta go you know what i'm not gonna believe that i'm I'm not going to do that thing anymore. I'm going to work on it. And you can work on it. You can do it. Two in five Canadians will hear the words, you have cancer.
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Starting point is 01:04:44 alberta i-gaming corporation standard message and data rates may apply my god queen i've never sent a voice memo before so i didn't really know how to record it so i just wanted to record a video but i want to take a bong rip first because i think it just makes sense so cheers i literally love you so much i've been watching the pod and listening since literally the first episode and i just want to say i love you so much and i'm so appreciative for all of the advice that you give and you've literally gotten me through so many things like you don't even know for some reason i swear we're always like in sync like whenever i'm going through something like you bring it up in the pod so yeah i just wanted like a little advice i just turned 26 and i don't know
Starting point is 01:05:29 i'm kind of feeling like lost like i just feel like i need a little sense of direction and i just need like maybe like a journal prompt or something to like i don't know make me like get deep with myself and open up and just like kind of figure out what i want to do next so if you have any advice um on gaining a sense of direction and i don't know just figuring out what i want to do in this next chapter of life love you oh my god that was my girl daisha i think i said your name right i'm sorry daisha oh my god we've been mutuals for the longest time on instagram but if you need more like smoke baddie content she's the one to go to green goddess underscore az is her instagram but oh i love you thank you for listening for so long i didn't know you listened
Starting point is 01:06:21 for this much um and also like i feel you on the whole 26 thing um i feel like 26 and 27 you kind of hit this place where you're like now what now when you start panicking a little bit but that's okay that's okay it's a great time for you to kind of re-center refocus and get excited about the future you know you don't have to be so fearful about the future just because you don't know what's gonna happen doesn't mean it's not gonna be amazing beautiful wonderful you just kind of have to like set some goals and go after them but in order to set those goals great journal prompt I do this a lot I do this journal prompt a lot because my mind changes a lot but I will be like okay three years from now one year from now five years from now whatever kind of distance or
Starting point is 01:07:06 length you feel comfortable looking towards that's going to be your journal prompt let's say one year from now where do you want to be if all of your wildest dreams came true what would you want to be doing what does your daily life look like what kind of maybe content are you creating what habits are you doing what activities are you up to what kind of friends do you have in your life do you have a partner in your life do you have any animals in your life what does your apartment look like what is your breakfast what is your lunch what is your dinner what is your what is everything where are you living what city are you in are you traveling like literally get as detailed as possible as you could about where you want to be in that time frame it'll give you this perception
Starting point is 01:07:46 of like what you want your life to look like if you could dream as wide as possible and also like you'd be surprised how much of it comes true once you dare to dream and dare to look forward it also give you a great idea and like okay well dream hannah does this so i'm gonna also do this thing or you know i have this habit that i do so i'm also gonna do this thing it's a great little journal prompt to do it'll get you excited about the future not so fearful not so scared and it might actually get you excited because i know beautiful things are coming from you you just have to set your sights on them oh but i love you thank you for ripping that bong for me speaking of i'm about to rip the bong because this podcast is coming to an end and it's the end of the day for
Starting point is 01:08:28 me so it's time for me to smoke and get on with my weekend but with that being said you guys thank you for listening oh new vlog for the week up i went to the thrift store and just got stoned to the thrift store and there's a little thrift hall thrift excursion on youtube hannah marlene 444 if i didn't answer your question you want to answer join the patreon patreon.com smoke says shoddy i post a lot there a lot all right and we do extra episodes every week where i answer every single one of your questions i also upload the vlogs early there if you want to see what i'm up to follow me on instagram at hannah marlene and with that being said stay sane stay sexy and i'll see you all so soon two and five Canadians will hear the words you have cancer that's why every
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