Smoke Sesh - staying grounded, princess treatment & exes
Episode Date: July 7, 2026hello hotties and welcome back! we talk what ive been up to, summer maxing, being incredibly busy, summer activities, training your brain, path of least resistance, staying grounded, how to ground you...rself, calm cool and collected, idgaf, how to not care, detachment, year of the fire house, trusting in yourself, what to do when people don't like you, being yourself, loving yourself, not everyones cup of tea, projection, planning your life, being busy, planners, maxing out your days, princess treatment, bum boyfriends, basic respect, healthy relationships, healthy conflict, how to handle conflict, saying what's on your mind, conflict resolution, bad dreams, what to dreams mean, recurring dreams, exes, retrograde, moving on, am I the problem, running away from your problems, fixing your problems instead of avoiding them, looking forward and much much more!watch the vlogs on YouTube at hannahmarlene444join the patreon! new episodes (and more) at patreon.com/smokeseshshawtysubmit your questions and call ins every week on instagram.com/hannahmarlene
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listen everybody needs a fairy godmother you know just somebody to look out for them some people
call me their fairy smoke mother others their internet big sister but you can call me hannah
the host of smoke sesh so come hang out let's light up and talk everything there is to life
the good the bad the ugly the embarrassing i've got a story for it all
hello hello hello and welcome back to another episode of smoke sesh podcast you guys mama is
mama sleepy i am tired but like a good exhausted you know what i mean i think like peak summer
experience is being that like mid-afternoon sleepy because you've just been doing so much
all day like a little burnout from the sun and you finally get into some AC and you're like
wow what a day that's kind of how I've been feeling honestly like the past entire week
talk about summer maxing last week okay I really have been you know what taking my advice
and putting it into fruition actually taking advantage of the day getting outside going on
multiple walks going to events meeting new friends hanging out around horses girls i have been
booked and busy in the best way possible i think sometimes you know i try to avoid exhaustion
avoid being tired but really that just like minimalizes how much i can actually fit in a day
and being tired at the end of the day is a good thing i sleep better i sleep like a freaking rock
i'm not waking up in the middle of the night i'm also able to fall asleep faster because i feel
like maybe there's no more energy like we need to close our eyes and replenish and i feel satisfied
with my days i'm not waking up or going to bed going damn i wish i would have done that or oh
i wish i would have gone and done this or you know lived this experience or gotten this chore done
it's like i just have been nose to the grindstone working hard enjoying life and it's been so nice
I made a new friend we went to theater in the park this week that was such a vibe um like
Shakespeare in the park they do it for free every year in Kansas City and every single year I go I
want to go to that I want to go to that and I never do either because it's too hot or I don't
have anybody to go with or it's too late or why would I do that in the middle of the week like
excuses excuses excuses this time I was like no more excuses no more heat excuses no more this
no more of that you know she's down I'm down let's fucking go and it was a blast they were
doing Macbeth baby I couldn't tell you one singular thing that happened during that play
but it was drama there were witches I was fucking with the vibes and there was one line that's
become my new vocal stim of the week which is aren't thou a man oh my god I heard that and I
was like yeah I'm adding that to my vocabulary immediately new vocal stim unlocked but that was
amazing fourth of july was pretty freaking chill it was actually the day off and it was raining
here which is probably for the best so the fireworks weren't just igniting the entire city
on fire um there is no fireworks ban you can light them off where i'm from so we're not really
worried about like wildfires here if i'm being honest but i was so excited i was like let's go
to the pool let's go to a pool party let's go to this let's go to that and then my plans were kind
of like extinguished quite literally by the rain so it was a very chill little fourth of july day
we did end up you know i i had a hot dog bucket list things had a hot dog lit off some freaking
fireworks you know made some jello shots those were fire people really enjoyed those that recipe
is up on instagram right now if you're interested um but it was a good little celebration my brother
ended up in town so i gotta take my niece and my nephew to go meet zina my horse because they were
like it's our turn now my dad's met her my mom's met her all right now it's time for my brother
sister-in-law niece and nephew to meet her and they're still like little little like they're
probably four almost four and almost six so they're just like teeny tiny little dudes so they
can't ride okay like that's pretty young to put on a horse and like liability purposes like i don't
think you're allowed to ride horses until you're eight at least my barn where i am that's just the
insurance things so it's like what can they do what can they do and they've been doing summer
camps in my barn recently and all the horses in the pasture were rainbow like painted rainbows
like what's going on with this they're like oh it's too hot for the little kids to ride right
now for the summer camp so we broke out the paint and they got to paint the horses i was like you
can do that okay new activity unlocked get some horse safe paint yes horse safe paint human safe
paint as well and I didn't even know they made like paint for horses it's so funny I didn't know
that this was like a thing that happens people paint their horses especially before the July
apparently people paint their horses like the flag I was like I am not that patriotic but let's go
like rainbow dash version let's give her a little cutie mark and so the kids came and they got to
paint her down and make her all colorful it was so sweet they got to go meet all the horses and
give them some pets and give them some treats they were just living their best life enjoying
their time out on the farm it was so nice to also introduce them to their first ever horse i don't
think they've ever met a horse so that was so fun and xena is so good i mean she's she's been there
done that kind of horse so she don't give a fuck at all truly as long as you're feeding her treats
she's like let's go you can do honestly whatever you want so she was just living her best life
enjoying the treats enjoying the children that was fabulous and yeah i have just been
we ended up at the river we went swimming in the river i went floating in the river
me my tall boy and my sparkly inner tube against the world just floating around that was fantastic
i'm hoping to get to the pool today i'm telling you when i say summer maxing i'm not joking
there's no more time baby it is july july yes i said that out loud i feel like for so long like
all winter and honestly even through the spring i was like summer summer summer babe summer is here
summer is happening summer is summering and if you don't take advantage of it right now you are
going to miss out I'm not lying and I'm not I don't mean to stress you out we got work we got
obligations we got things to do I understand you got to be inside for your nine to five valid real
but any ounce of free time that you do have get out there go do one new thing go do one new thing
that you've been craving to do wanting to do for the past eight summers in a row and just haven't
gotten yourself to go do it it's so worthwhile it's so fun and like i said you might be exhausted
at the end of the day because you kind of maxed yourself out but what's better than living a
fulfilled life and being a little exhausted than being well rested and having no fun things to look
back on you know what i mean i also think it's the best way to really survive the winter okay we talk
about harsh winters here i'm ready to move to la i'm ready to get somewhere that there is no more
winter can't wait for that will eventually but i think i got one more winter coming up that i'm
gonna have to persevere through and if you are a person who lives in a cold place where maybe winter
lasts a little long maybe you have a little seasonal depression moment you know you don't
you don't vibe with the cold i don't know who vibes with the cold i personally do not if you
do congratulations jealous jealous of you okay i wish i could be into the skiing and the sloping
and the tubing and the and the snowmobiling no baby no i'm meant to be on a beach next to an
ocean in a forest in a rainforest warm warm okay but the best way to survive winter is on memories
and is on knowledge of past summer experiences of feeling fulfilled from summer so you can actually
take that time to rest relax from being so busy while the earth was warm which maybe it's really
warm but you know what i mean i feel like last summer or last winter wasn't so hard on me because
I was like I really did everything I wanted to in the summertime I went on a little girls trip
we went to some rodeos I got into horseback riding I we went fruit picking we went flower
picking I went frolicking we went to the river like every single week the only regret I had from
last summer is I didn't get to the pool that often so you know new activity unlocked we're
gonna be doing that a little bit more this summer but it does you know when you tire yourself out
from all the summer maxing summer activities it is so nice when you are able to like fully invest
in the relaxation of winter and you don't care so much that you're inside because baby you were
outside for a little bit too long so inside feels like a nice change of pace you get to fully rest
and relax and then there's another summer upon us but like i said i'm just taking advantage of
the weather as it comes the rain is like it's been like thunderstorming and then getting a million
degrees outside so I'm just trying to find the sweet spots where I can to be outside to enjoy
the weather to get my fingers in some dirt to go horseback riding all of the activities all of the
things and I feel so fulfilled so excited and you know what so summery I'm feeling good I hope you
guys are feeling good like I said if you haven't you know if you're like oh my god it's July I
haven't done anything there's still time baby the earth's still gonna be hot for quite some time
at least until early October at least where I'm from you have time okay do not be afraid of being
tired be afraid of living an unfulfilled life that's what you should be fearful of that's kind
of how I feel after work when I'm like should I don't want to do anything oh but you have plans
go do them you know you're going to be a little tired at those plans but you're going to feel
more fulfilled going to those things doing that activity living fully than not doing them and what
going home laying in bed and scrolling on your phone no that's not gonna make you feel good
that's for sure but yeah today was a little wild talk about tired my alarm's been going off quite
early i'm trying to max my days as much as possible and so i'm trying to retrain my brain
to wake up early because I was in a moment where my wake up call was at like 9 30 which fabulous
fabulous if I do say so myself but then it's noon and then it's four and then it's dinner time like
I feel like when I was waking up a little later my days didn't feel so fulfilling and also my work
since I work for myself most of the time my work pushed almost to like 7 p.m 8 p.m and it was like
damn all I did was work all day I have no time at the end of it to like I don't know do anything
for me you know what I mean so my parents are in Croatia right now they escaped the USA
for a little bit of time to go vacation as you do as a retired individual you know I don't blame
them at all but um I'm watching their dog right now so I have to wake up early I have to force
myself to wake up early to go walk their dog in the morning usually around like 8 a.m okay so
that means my alarm's going off at 7 a.m yes I have not woken up at 7 a.m like daily in years
probably years okay so my brain a little scrambled a little screwed a little fried right now but also
I'm getting so much shit done I'm getting all my work done by 3 p.m and then I'm like wow so much
time for activity so many so much room for activities fabulous amazing we're going on
multiple walks a day with the dog which is so nice to get some sun on my skin i get to hang
out in their backyard do a little bonfire situation i think i'm gonna do like roasted
charcuterie i saw this person make like a video on roasted charcuterie over a bonfire i was like
yup love that idea let's give it a try but trying to condition your brain to do new things is
actually the most difficult thing ever it's like i think i'd rather do anything else than try and
recondition my brain because me and my brain be fighting like siblings honestly i mean who knows
me better than myself and i mean listen when that alarm goes off in the morning there's nothing more
i want to do than roll over turn that shit off pretend it didn't go off set a set another one
for five minutes later you know push off the agony of having to get up and get the fuck out of bed
but i've been doing good because i've set boundaries with myself okay the thing about
doing hard things is your brain doesn't want to do hard things your brain actually wants to do
anything other than do hard things your brain if given the opportunity will always choose the path
of least resistance and even if you're trying to do a good thing for yourself like you know okay
implementing this new habit or cutting out this bad habit you know you know it's good for you but
your brain doesn't know the difference between good or bad or motivation it just knows damn this
is going to be hard because i'm not used to doing it okay sometimes our brains are a little lazy in
that way and we must work on our brains the same way we would a muscle i have been doing that a lot
recently with just habits um you know thought processes routines things like that and so for
me when it comes to waking up early it is like you get one alarm okay the alarm is going off
early enough that i have enough time to get up and get ready so i'm not rushing i don't like to
get up and rush that doesn't feel good okay it's like 30 minutes before i have to leave the house
the alarm goes off and baby that phone is right next to my head blaring in my ear so yes i will
wake up some people i understand if you have a hard time waking up oh thank god i am not blessed
with that gene because i have so much anxiety in my body all it takes is like a needle to drop in
another room for me to be awake okay so I'm good about waking up when my alarm goes off it's the
getting out of bed part that's hard so I've been keeping a robe right next to my bed so as soon as
I sit up from bed I throw my robe on I'm comfy I'm cozy I immediately stand up and I also force
myself to then go to the bathroom whether I have to go to the bathroom or not I force myself to
get up and at least walk to the bathroom because simply standing up moving your body getting your
brain a little bit more activated not being horizontal anymore gets you in the routine
gets that momentum going for you to then be able to actually all right next step let's let's keep
it moving let's keep it pushing let's not go lay down again you know but when you wake up and you're
laying there you're checking your phone and you're scrolling you're like maybe I should just you know
reset an alarm maybe you'll just push it back 15 minutes no no no no get up immediately robe on
no scrolling on the phone in bed in the morning go to the bathroom when you're on the toilet you
can scroll on the phone congratulations i also think a really good coffee in the morning is the
perfect little like it's like dangling a carrot in front of a horse like that's my motivation that's
all i need okay maybe yours is like a really good breakfast a really good snack for me personally
really good coffee that's all the motivation i needed in the morning a little dose of caffeine
to get me up get me excited and then it's been nice because i'm immediately outside i'm immediately
out walking the dog you know going on a little walk around the neighborhood but even if you're
not doing that getting some sun on your face walking out on your front patio on your front
porch getting some sun on your face some fresh air on your face it's a fantastic way to completely
wake yourself up but yes me and my brain we've been fist fighting practically recently and it's
been nice to kind of exert some control over myself and get used to doing that instead of like
letting my body choose whatever the fuck it wants to do because obviously it's gonna choose like
the worst things possible for me i don't know why that's my natural inclination but it is
so it's been so nice to just like all right you know what you can do it but like it's gonna take
a little grit it's gonna take a little work it's gonna take a little effort and yeah you might hate
your fucking life for two weeks as you try and figure out how to wake up early you know every
single morning might feel like ripping your hair out but eventually you're gonna be looking forward
to those 7 a.m wake up times and my goal this is crazy this is crazy this is how i know i'm becoming
an adult my goal is to hopefully eventually get to like a 6 30 alarm i know i know that's wild
but i feel like i'll be able to fully max my fucking days out at 6 30 and also if i want to
start implementing a gym routine i think i'm gonna have to be a morning gym person i do not think i
am an afternoon gym person and it is a big goal of mine to start getting into a good gym routine
like an everyday sort of gym routine I'm hoping to I think in August I'm gonna do a like 30 a 30
hard not a 75 hard but a 30 hard Hannah Hannah's way where I'm like all right 6 30 a.m wake up
times working out every morning or at least an activity every morning you know trying to eat
healthy avoiding sugars avoiding eating out cooking all my food at home um i don't know i
have this whole big list it'll be a fun little youtube video it'll be fun to take you guys along
with me i'm still trying to hone in on things but we're starting low and slow to get our way there
but yeah oh my god sorry i've been yapping this whole time as you guys know i'm very good at it
but i think that's all i have to catch you guys up on it's been a fun really fun honestly little
week but it sounds like you guys have been booked and busy as well so i want to get into
your guys's questions finally and see what is on your mind there's a lot of questions this week so
i'm gonna try and do a little bit of a speed round situation um someone asked what helps you stay
grounded when life gets hectic and big life changes are happening love you oh it's hard
because especially when like the big life changes if they're hard even if they're exciting they're
still a little bit difficult and so it's kind of hard to stay present or in the moment because
you're having to like split your brain a little bit of like okay I need to be thinking about these
things and looking at the situation fully but also like I am here and now and so I need to be present
as well and so it feels like you're doing the splits but you don't know how to do the splits
so it actually just feels like you're ripping your body in half a little bit you know what I mean
if you are not familiar with being grounded or getting into grounding okay now's the time to do
so especially because we are officially in a mercury retrograde okay not to get woo-woo
spiritual astrological here but things get crazy okay you're gonna have maybe communication
problems maybe transportation problems car problems plane problems travel problems
electronic problem things of that sort you know that sort of nature so it's good to stay present
and stay grounded in where you are in order to you know let these things pass let your anxieties
about it pass let your worries about it pass because ultimately even in hard situations or
good situations that are maybe a little bit more challenging the path of least resistance okay
it's important to stay present in the moment but also understand like this too shall pass if it's
a hard time this will pass we'll be on to something better you know you'll figure it out if you go
through a problem communication issue like we'll work it out eventually maybe tensions are high
let's step away let's come back and you might be like Hannah what the fuck is grounding what's
grounding do I go lay in the grass I mean yeah fantastic that's a great thing to do for me
grounding is all about putting yourself in the present moment but in a healthy way even if the
anxieties are about the present moment just like acceptance of the present moment great habits to
get into for grounding are deep breathing I love deep breathing especially as like a very highly
anxious individual deep breathing through situations if my you know heart rate is going up
understanding that like you know it's just a natural body function but going through some
deep breathing techniques in out counting from four to eight with your breath elongating them
you know if I'm in a high stress situation maybe like I'm hanging out with a new group of friends
or we're all at a bar maybe you're just like in a family situation whatever it is and there's a lot
of people around you and you're getting anxious from all the people around you removing yourself
from that maybe going to the bathroom stepping away from a moment doing some deep breathing
collecting your thoughts you know grounding yourself back to the present moment before you
go back out there to interact with more people even like just splashing some water on your face
getting yourself back to the moment instead of like dissociating another very very popular one
is like what is it called like the five four three two one method where you you name five
things you see around you four things you can touch three things you can hear two things you
can smell one thing you can taste and it gets you to just like either stop dissociating so hard or
also to just like ground you back to where you are you know really fully put yourself back into
your body in a healthy way that's a fantastic grounding method like i said literally go rolling
around in the dirt putting your feet in some grass great thing to do getting some sun on your face if
you're in an office building and someone's stressing you the fuck out on the phone like
pause bathroom break step away go outside walk around your building come back to it and it's
important that these are things that are not necessarily getting you focused on whatever
problems occurring or getting you focused on whatever you know issue that you are facing
anxiety that you are facing good or bad it just gets you into your body into the moment and kind
of reroutes the nervous system back into a calm cool collected space so this is a fantastic thing
to practice especially during this retrograde season where you might find you know random
um ops popping back up that you're like damn i wish i never would have seen you again random
exes in your dms um accidents communication issues random people cussing you out in the street like
literally the craziest shit just be happening especially now more so than ever and i've noticed
like the general public maybe not you but the general public's tensions have been kind of high
recently i think the heat is definitely not helping um but i've been in my car a lot recently
just driving around and i feel like people have been honking more often yelling more often not
at me but at each other and it's like okay let's not let that energy encroach on our space let's
take a moment to protect our own energy protect your own peace ground ourselves because honestly
that shit don't fucking matter it takes a lot for me to get like angry upset because it's like when
i want to exert that energy it needs to be on something that's actually important being angry
and upset and irritated all the fucking time is such a waste of emotions and like mental space
that it's like i have to kind of be picky about what i allow to piss me off otherwise i'm gonna
be pissed off all the fucking time and that's not a way to live you know what i mean i mean i've been
there where it's like damn why am i such an angry bitch all the time oh because i'm allowing myself
to be angry at everything that random person that just cut you off in traffic they don't matter
they don't matter this grant it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things you know that's not the
one thing you need to be perseverating on um the random bill that pops up it's like there's no
stress you know you'll figure it out you'll pay it off whatever you need to do like it you'll get
to it eventually the random customer who's giving you a side eye they don't matter they're gonna eat
and leave you know so the grounding really helps me realize a what's worth my energy protect my
peace a little bit and also not let that negative energy encroach on my territory encroach on my
space and fuck up my fucking day because that's the last thing I'm gonna let any stranger do
is fuck up my day okay my day no no no second half the year I'm feeling the fire galloping
with more confidence strength oh I absolutely feel this whatever shifted in the stars recently
or in the energy recently it's put me in a place where like baby I don't give a fuck and in like a
very very healthy way in a way that like something shifted in my brain a puzzle piece connected and
it's like actually i don't care in the best possible detached sense of the word where it's
like yes i'm very in tune i'm grounded i'm connected woo woo spiritual like i feel everything
but also it's like i don't need to feel everything like i said that random person who cut me off a
traffic that they don't they don't fucking matter random people in my dms cussing me out like
girl I don't care about you you know what I mean not that that really ever happens but I'm just
trying to think of random examples so yes I agree I and I work with horses so I'm around this kind
of confidence and strength often where yes they can be like highly anxious individuals but when
they're in their own territory and when they're in their own area like these animals do not give
a fuck okay they know they're 1500 pounds and they know they can kind of fuck with you and it's like
if they don't want to go somewhere some of them just won't you know I've worked with very very
stubborn horses where it's like you're kicking and trying to get them to go and baby if they
don't want to go they won't and it's all because of confidence and knowing themselves knowing that
they can also like you know exert that power over you of like no we're not going anywhere but
confident strength and understanding themselves and I truly am entering an era of my life where
it's like i have that internal confidence i have that internal strength and truly nothing can fuck
with me when i have that now is it like based in facts and understanding no not really it's really
just based in trust like whether i fuck up i mess up i find myself in a weird situation
i understand that no matter what i will figure it out i will handle that shit i will come out
on the other side stronger and through that i feel a very heightened sense of strength and
confidence and it has just been so incredibly nice also i just feel free it's like it's summer
it's hot out let's get outside let's go do activities galloping away running around with
my girls running around having fun doing random activities the fire horse energy i feel like has
fully come into fruition now that it's summer i think everybody's kind of feeling it everybody's
especially with the world cup everybody's out doing things interacting with people having a
good time trusting in themselves following through and not giving a fuck in the best possible way
because you know you cannot give a fuck and it's like okay you're just evil let's not do that let's
not do that that just don't use that as an excuse to be evil but use it as an excuse to be like you
know what no i trust myself you know what no i know what's right you know what fuck it i will
follow my intuition what do i have to what do i have to lose nothing there's nothing to lose ever
you can lose yourself that's the last thing you want to lose but ultimately it's like this fuck
it mindset of like there's only one life we only have summer for a little bit longer it's hot
outside yes there's random shit occurring in the city let's go out let's live our lives let's go
after things let's try new things let's not let this person step on step on our toes step over
our boundaries fuck it if i do need to be a little bit of a bitch here and there i will but also like
i'm not gonna let the evil people get to me i'm not gonna let the you know random happenstances
hurt my feelings or you know ruin my fucking day it's like no you know yourself i know you're
confident i know you're strong i know you have a strong sense of intuition everybody who listens
to this podcast kind of has that same kind of undertones and vibes like trust i know you because
you're listening to me and i know myself and all you have to do to tap into that energy if you feel
like you don't have it is to trust in yourself and how do you trust in yourself by following
your desires your intuition anything that you want baby if you want ice cream go get that ice
cream you want to try a new ice cream shop go try it you want to try a new hobby go do it you want
to go do an activity get outside go do it you want to try something out like you have to follow those
inclinations of like desire because that is who you truly are that's how you build confidence
how you build strength and summer is the perfect time to really hone in on that ability and dive
into it now like i said you kind of have to also have an air of i don't give a fuck doing new things
is gonna scare you but also it's like you're not actually in harm's way nothing bad's actually
gonna happen to you don't let people ruin your vibe don't let people encroach on your boundaries
you know don't let people step all over you you know who you are you know what you need follow
through listen to that run free like the fire horse you are baby okay can you please talk about
feeling stupid or other people not understanding you and making you feel stupid for being yourself
oh i hope i'm so sorry if you're going through this first of all let me say this psa if you're
dealing with idiots out there people who do not know themselves who hate themselves who dislike
themselves who are not confident who you know are not proud of themselves will project that shit
onto you so fucking hard so if you have someone in your life where it's like they're constantly
talking down on you they're constantly shitting on you they're maybe making you feel bad about
who you are or what you do or what you enjoy those people their internal world is so fucking
miserable and i don't think those are healthy people to have around you so say you're dealing
with a really close friend you're like damn they just like do they even like me like what what's
going on do they even like me the thing is they probably do like you you know they probably do
actually like you they just don't fucking like themselves and i don't think those are people
you should waste your time keeping around you because those are not going to be people who
are going to want to build a healthy relationship with you they're going to get into this weird
internal competition of talking down on you talking down on themselves you know it's not
going to be fun it's not going to be good i think it's important to have people around you that
have a good sense of self who have a good sense of self-confidence who have goals who have
ambitions they are going to make you much more driven individual they're going to make you a
much more confident individual you're also going to feel just like more secure in that relationship
but also like there's going to be randos out there who if you're out wearing a sexy ass outfit are
going to side eye you you know little interactions like that you know what i mean who maybe make you
feel bad about yourself without actually saying it those people also miserable or they just don't
understand it like you don't have to be everybody's cup of tea that's something i had to accept very
early on as a people pleaser it's like not everybody's gonna like me i know who i am
i like myself i also know like i'm not evil i'm just like being me there's nothing wrong in what
i'm doing i mean if i'm being an evil awful person and like being evil and horrible and someone
you know talk shit on me i get it absolutely valid real but it's like no i know who i am
i i know how i present myself i know i present myself to the world that's not gonna be everybody's
fucking vibe okay when i'm out in my little mini skirt my little halter top in the middle of
fucking nowhere missouri in a gas station and the gas station workers looking me up and down like
who is this slut it's like yeah no i get their perspective but also i'm not gonna let that make
me feel bad about myself like I know I'm hot and sexy sorry you hate that but like I enjoy myself
and that's all that matters and also it's a very natural reaction when people kind of try and tune
you down a little bit to go wait but but am I the problem but like am I wearing something weird but
did I do something bad but this but that it is a very normal reaction to immediately go into that
mindset because your brain is trying to fix an issue but you can't fix fake issues so you have
to let yourself kind of enter that mindset of like wait but am i and then you have to redirect
in the in like reinforce with positive affirmations towards yourself all right because sometimes the
confidence a lot of it is reworking your brain or working with your brain talk about you know
working with your brain of like you get that initial insecurity of like wait but is it me
and you redirect and you know reinforce reinstate how you truly feel about yourself with facts
the reality of the situation i know who i am i like who i am i do like my outfit i feel confident
and i'm gonna not gonna let this ugly evil bitch make me feel different about myself just because
they hate themselves you know what i mean i have that conversation a lot with myself especially
when i'm trying to figure out what's worth my mental space and what's worth actually thinking
about like if i do make a real problem i'll spend time thinking about those things working through
that conversation saying sorry doing whatever changing myself but most the time when people
are making you feel bad about yourself when people don't like you for who you are when they're like
you're doing this wrong you're saying this wrong you're you're behaving in a bad way it's just
because they don't like who you are and they want to exert control over you you do not have to
listen you don't have to listen especially with what they're saying if it doesn't sit in reality
if it's not actually something bad that you're doing and also remove those people out of your
life immediately okay even if it's a stranger walk out of the store leave them let them be
okay let them stay miserable where they are if it's a friend i mean i understand with friends
you maybe want to have like a real conversation of hey you're acting fucking weird and if you
don't like me i don't want to be friends because you're putting me down all the time or just you
know taking some space away letting them be letting them be miserable over there while you're having a
blast over here maybe eventually their confidence will build up and they'll want to reconnect at
some point but you have to protect your peace and protect your energy and through knowing yourself
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coverage. Hey, um, I just need some advice on how to just balance everything. I feel like there is
so much shit going on in my life right now. Like I work, well, first off, I'm starting my university,
my interior design program that's all online all online tomorrow so that's happening and then I
have two jobs I run a social media page for the antiques for an antique store and then I work at
a care home and then I also do a bunch of babysitting gigs and all of that it's just like
how can I stay like how do I just like schedule better I feel like I have no way of just like
organizing all of this and it stresses me out so much and it's like just like what is happening
and so I'm going to be going through all of this schooling online and then juggling these two jobs
and a bunch of other things and it's just like how like do you have any advice on balancing it all
or organizing it to an extent um thank you love you I don't know if that made any sense but yeah
oh i love you too okay well congratulations on being busy i know you're like what do you mean
you're congratulating me i'm so no these this is good things all these things are blessings so like
congratulations on all the blessings um the thing is baby you need a planner you need a calendar
you need a planner you need multiple planners you need color depends you need an organization
method okay especially with me when i work for myself when i'm doing so many things i'm trying
to balance work life hobbies activities horse things parents out of town like when i'm trying
to organize this all in my brain it feels like there's no way to do it there's no way i can do
it all there's no way i can like organize it there's no way i can actually achieve all these
things and i get overwhelmed and then i regress i avoid i i don't do them i get anxious about it
so I completely just leave it alone instead of just like handling that shit and you need a
planner you need a planner okay any simple planner will do one that has the weeks one that has the
months I like a physical planner I also like to keep things in my um my calendar on my phone just
like big things that are going on like um appointments or hangouts or work hours I keep
those on like my phone calendar so if somebody I'm talking to somebody in person and they're like
hey are you free this day it's like well let me check my phone but at home when I'm organizing
like when am I getting groceries when am I having time to paint when am I going and doing this
activity this is hobby oh someone asked me to hang out when am I actually free you have to have a
physical planner yep you do all right and when I'm organizing my physical planner you start with
non-negotiables work okay write that shit down work then you go to your appointments whatever
else is going on then you go to things that keep you sane and and like mentally available such as
like groceries laundry yes i do schedule both those things in and then you have free time you
would be surprised genuinely you would be surprised all these things are floating in your head oh my
god i have no time i'm so anxious there's so much shit going on once you take the time to write all
this stuff down you will realize just how much fucking time you have in the day okay you know
what's something that really taught me this is when i was in nursing school and i was about to
literally flunk the fuck out because i didn't know how to manage my time at all i went to my
academic advisor and they're like all right bitch let's fucking get to work welcome to boot camp
okay and she gave me this like um this schedule but it was just for one day and then i would print
off a new schedule for every single day this is crazy but this might help you just to kind of
visualize what's going on and the day would have every single moment of the day in 15 minute
increments isn't that crazy and so it'd start like uh 5 30 5 45 6 6 15 6 30 6 45 all the way to like
4 a.m and then i would get in there and i'd be like okay wake up eight then i would be like
get ready for 15 minutes all right and then it's like i have class these days all right i have
time in between for lunch this is when i usually go to the gym once you actually write down
everything you're fucking doing minute by minute you will realize how much time you have how much
flexibility you have what areas of your life are maybe you know the workload's really heavy on
Wednesdays but maybe it's really light on Thursdays so maybe that'd be a good way for you to visualize
it maybe you don't need to do that much of an in-depth dive 15 minutes at a time every day of
your life but a simple planner a simple calendar will do and will make you aware of just what you
got going on how you're gonna handle it work life balance and when you have free time to go spend
time with friends do your hobbies do your activities okay because it's good to know those
things so then you're able to actually get out and live life but just take a little bit of work
and self-awareness to be able to understand but you got this like i said also with all those things
and activities you're just gonna have to do it tired as well but you'll be fulfilled tired yes
but fulfilled okay how many blessings you have so many blessings going on so exciting how fun
what a fun life you're living you're doing so many things wow congratulations i'm very much
so like you so i'm proud of your hustle but yes stay sane by staying prepared and looking ahead
i am 19 and all my friends are dating ugly bums like no princess treatment at all baby that's
because you're 19 every man at 19 is a bum unless they're born into money and even then they probably
still are like it's a part of being young and dating and that's when you date for love i'm just
kidding i'm just kidding listen listen when you're young you fall in love and you're just like having
a good time you're it's solely off of vibes like you're working a minimum wage job you're probably
in college maybe you don't even have a job you're young it is what it is now princess treatment is
one thing because even if you don't have money and even if he's not buying you handbags and cars
all this crazy stuff you still deserve a basic level of respect and treatment in your life and
especially from your partner okay and this looks like and i'm talking like bare fucking minimum
like every relationship should look like this this looks like just like common respect and
hearing you out listening to your problems talking through it um you know low tempers
no hard conversation should ever end up in yelling throwing things physical violence
threats threats are not okay your partner should never use like curse words at you i'm a very big
proponent of that they should never call you any sort of names that is demeaning or mean in any
sort of way i understand sometimes as partners we make jabs here and there but like it should
never be anything that is like seriously harmful or demeaning um i am a big proponent also on like
not gender roles but like if i'm in a straight relationship my partner should open the door
for me i open the door for strangers my partner should open the door for me my partner should
open the car door for me they should if i'm working for walking on the street they should
walk closer to the cars those are like little things you can do for free that is princess
treatment knowing a simple facts and things about you oh they really like having this clean let me
make sure i do that they really like you know this certain candy maybe i'll go buy a dollar candy and
surprise them with it it's so simple a bouquet of flowers is five fucking dollars showing up
surprising them with that like it doesn't it doesn't take a lot of money to to have the princess
treatment i think a lot of men are like princess treatment i'm not buying you a handbag i can't
afford that it's like no how about basic respect care understanding and simply knowing your partner
and who they are it is that simple you don't need a million dollars for princess treatment
you just need cognitive ability so yeah if your friends are dating men that are like
not treating them right not taking care of them not being nice to them yes you need to be nice
to your partner not you know being kind not being kind to you as well i think how your friends
partners treat you is a big sign okay and like your partner should treat your friends well
if they're controlling if they're demeaning your partner should never tell you what to wear
I mean sometimes like my partner will be like yeah pick out an outfit for me I want to match you
that's cute but your partner should never be like no you can't hang out with that person
no you can't go to that event or if you do go to event and they cause drama every time you go to
an event that's a problem you need to be able to hang out without them without an issue occurring
um you need to be able to wear whatever the fuck you want you need a confident partner to be able
to do that not an insecure one these are all just like basic respect and dignity things that every
single relationship should have princess treatment is just taking it a little bit further and just
knowing you know what i'm gonna step up and show out for my partner you know and that can happen
in any sort of gender gender combination of a relationship sometimes i want to just like show
my partner a little extra love call it the prince treatment you know it kind of goes both ways but a
lot of it just comes from knowing your partner's interests and desires and following through with
that taking the extra step further and I mean with time they'll eventually get there but also I think
with just simply liking your partner you will naturally do that like I'm not kidding when you
like your partner you will want to go above and beyond so yes I mean if your partner's dating a
loser all you can really do is like kind of hear them out and eventually they'll complain and say
something and you can be like all right maybe you should leave them you only get a couple of passes
though you can't every single time be like leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him
otherwise they're gonna stop coming to you with your with their problems and that's a problem in
itself eventually they will leave them and then you will be there with the binder of memories of
what the fuck they've done and you can remind them whenever they want to go back you see what
i'm saying you can't have a lot of control over your friends and who they date you can just be
there for them and also like tell them what they do deserve and ask them like well do you think
you deserve this treatment if they're complaining about their boyfriend be like well do you think
you deserve that do you think you should settle for that that's a great way to kind of reinforce
make them think about it a little bit instead of being like just leave him girl it's like okay
easier said than fucking done but yeah I mean 19 there's not a lot of money there to be like
spoiled any sort of aspect but there is physical ways you can spoil your partner simply by
knowing them and wanting to show up for them and that is just basic decency and respect that every
relationship should have tips for being more vulnerable when communicating with your partner
it's hard sometimes lol it is i mean anytime you have a problem with someone it's kind of hard to
be like at least with me it's kind of hard to be like hey can we talk about something like that's
a hard conversation to have but also i think sometimes the conflict and sometimes it's the
hard conversations actually usually as long as you guys are like respectful in the conflict like
don't be afraid of conflict because it shouldn't be a big explosion that's not what conflict is
that's a fight and that's not good conflict I mean like hey let's talk about this thing let's
adjust this behavior I don't like the way you said that hear me out kind of vibes you know what I
mean those things will bring people closer together and it will strengthen your relationship
if you both are willing to take on the challenge and take on that hard conversation and make the
changes that need to happen I'm not even kidding sometimes at work even it'll be like hey girl
sorry if I snapped on you I do really apologize it's like you know what thank you for saying that
like I mean I'm not taking it personally I understand it was crazy but I appreciate you
just like coming to me and saying that you know putting your ego aside and having that hard
conversation of I didn't mean to snap sorry hope we're good maybe it's like hey I don't like the
way you're speaking to me you know it's kind of hard to say those things but if you're in a real
solid healthy relationship they will hear that they will go you know what i understand your
perspective let me make some changes and let's move forward now the real bonding happens when
that person is open to hearing you out open to changes open to adjusting open to moving forward
conflict can be extremely stressful when you're dealing with people who aren't going to listen
to you who don't give a fuck about your problems who don't give a fuck about you and if you find
yourself in a relationship or a friendship or anything where any sort of simple conversation of
you know that is maybe maybe a little bit more conflicting than the fun conversations can be
if those turn into a big fucking explosion those are people who don't love and care about you
those are people who don't have the wherewithal or emotional stability to have simple conversations
and those things there's just a waste of fucking time you're not here to train people into behaving
well or being able to understand each other or have basic empathy and I think that's a big ass
waste of time but bringing up your emotions bringing up your problems is important you know
sitting there and suffering with your problems is not going to make it easier is not going to make
your life easier is not going to make your partner's life easier it's going to turn into
resentment it's going to turn into self-hate and although you think maybe the people pleaser in
you is like well i just want to i don't want to say anything because blah blah blah even though
you think you're making the situation easier you're actually making it 10 times harder than
if you just bring it up i am quick anytime even if it's like an insecure thought of this or that
i am quick to bring it up like i'd rather just say it out loud and i'd rather get to a resolution
then let it sit and fester and get anxious about it and overwhelmed it's like i have people in my
life that i know i can bring these things up with and talk about it and things will be fine like
it's no big deal you know what i mean but when i was in a bad relationship where it was like i could
be like hey let's not slam the door and he would just like blow the fuck up it's like yeah i needed
to get out of there because that was a place that i couldn't even bring up my feelings or emotions
without being demeaned in some sort of way it is scary but also once you realize how quickly
things resolve with normal people when you bring things up you become more confident in your
conflict skills and also conflict is a very good thing to master in adulthood because it'll make
you a better person it'll make you a more understanding person it'll make you a better
friend it'll make you a better partner period point like it'll make you a better worker you
want to you want to network ceo boss queen okay yeah you need to be able to handle conflict you
to be able to have hard conversations and that just includes removing your emotions from it
and looking at the facts i feel this way i would love it if we took this turn i would love it if
this happened um hopefully you can hear me and understand my perspective and hopefully we can
move forward from this it is that simple but when you're used to things blowing up exploding huge
massive bad situations whenever you simply bring up your emotions or your feelings i understand why
you might get a little fearful and I don't want you to be fearful it just takes a little bit of
like confidence to bring it up to have that conversation I think you'd be surprised how it
goes what's the quote is it better to speak or to die it's like baby I'm speaking I'm speaking
every single time I'm saying it I'm saying it out loud I'm speaking up because what are we gonna do
sit here and hold our words to ourselves and die no baby that ain't any way to live okay I'm also
just like an external person so I'm quick to say what's on my mind but also it's like I say in a
very calm cool collected manner keep your emotions chill look at the facts of it all bring it up in a
very calm cool manner and i think you'd be surprised how easily conflict can actually be
why do my dreams bring up insecurities like my boyfriend cheating it ruins my morning for real
okay we talked about this in the patreon episode last week but like am i the only one who does not
give a fuck about dreams like dreams to me baby that's not reality that's like a fun
other side of reality sometimes not fun other side of reality but it feels like i'm watching
a movie more of those more than like being in real life does that make sense i don't know maybe
i'm like not an emotional person but i i don't care if i have cheating dreams because um dream
hannah really got my back i think because i don't take it so seriously dream hannah is like oh he
cheated on me okay well great now we're packing his shit and we're throwing it over the fucking
balcony for the homeless people to come get like she is quick to take action where it's like
like your heart kind of stops a little bit and then she is quick to take action against those
things i don't know it's like it's so not real that i think giving it emotional reality is kind
of a waste of time like i'm a highly anxious person i'm a highly sensitive person i get sad
real easily very easily last week was a very hard week for me emotionally and it really got to a
point where I was like like what matters and what doesn't matter what is worth my anxiety and what's
not worth my anxiety what is worth my emotional attention was not worth my emotional attention
and dreams are never worth my emotional attention even if it's like oh my god I got
murdered in my sleep it's like okay well I'm waking up you know you know it's like you can't
let it get to you and I think the less you let it affect you the more fun the dreams become because
I used to have nightmares all the time I used to have nightmares all the time constantly especially
when I was a child I used to have night like bad nightmares and it was because I was so fearful of
going to sleep and I gave it so much emotional reality that then like they started getting out
of control they started kind of like taking a hold of me and so once I stopped I was just like
all right we gotta we gotta like it doesn't matter if i do fall asleep when i get murdered
in my sleep i'm still waking up like if i do get cheated on my sleep that doesn't mean i'm getting
cheated on in real life like once i kind of worked through that emotional processing my my dreams
became way more fun where it's like okay silly fun good times random excursions maybe i'm in outer
space one night maybe i'm here maybe i'm there i honestly don't dream often but when i do
it's like if it is good or bad or whatever baby we're waking on we're waking up and we're moving
on with our day you know what i mean and also like if you give an emotional reality especially
like the cheating dreams it's such a waste of time like what are you gonna do wake up and fight
with your partner and your partner's like what the fuck's going on like dude i didn't do anything
now they feel bad you're making them feel like shit because because nothing happened like you
know what i mean it's just so it's a massive waste of time it's a massive waste of emotional time
and like you have to look at dreams like movies when I watch a horror movie yeah I get a little
anxious for a second but like I'm not letting that affect my life maybe I'm watching like a
like a drama movie I'm getting a little anxious for a second but I'm not letting that shit really
affect my life I'm going home and I'm moving on and that's kind of how I view dreams just for my
own sanity otherwise baby is crazy otherwise it's crazy I also anybody ever have like reoccurring
dreams so funny I used to have this reoccurring dream all the time of like this old town almost
like an old western town you would think with like stagecoaches whatever driving through and
it would be like I would wake up in my room not like actually wake up a dream wake up in my room
I'd walk outside to the forest and then like on the other side of the forest it'd be like this
old town and I would just like be hanging out whatever and then I wake up like nothing crazy
ever happened and I would have that reoccurring dream like probably once a month like often
often as I got older it was a little bit you know a little bit of distance between maybe like six
months maybe it'd be like only a year but I remember one time in high school I had the same
dream again but this time the whole town was burning down completely burning down and I woke
up the next morning and I was like what the fuck and I never had that dream again but one time I
was going through like the history of my town and you guys I'm not even kidding I like we were like
looking up the plans of the town like the history all the things I'm from like a little teeny tiny
area like there's not a lot of history babe if you if you know about it you know about it and
the thing I was dreaming of was a real place next to my house that had burned down mic drop me like
dreams aren't real that's a little spooky that's a little weird but also it's like if i look too
far into it i'm gonna go into like some weird psychosis so i'm just gonna let it be what it is
for my own mental sanity but isn't that crazy wild are subconscious mind so interesting there's
a lot more research to be done but like i am not a scientist that is not my duty to be researching
i can barely keep myself emotionally stable as it is like i do not need to be looking that far deep
okay my ex broke no contact eek how to stay focused on the future and not the past
well mercury retrograde is definitely not the time to get back with your ex but if you do want
to get back with your ex just wait till this is over not to give you the okay and also like it's
like okay you're still on his mind period but you got to keep pushing you got to keep pushing
forward you do this is why i say after a breakup you have to make a cons list of all the reasons
why it did not work out of all the weird little things that happened that you were like i don't
fuck with this i don't fuck with that vibe i don't fuck with that energy i don't fuck with the way
he talked to me i don't like i don't like the shoes he wears like whatever as small or as big
as possible you have to make the cons list so when things like this do happen you can immediately
open the files go through the facts not the emotions the facts of it all and realize damn
do I really want to let all that baggage back into my life no baby girl no you don't and
simultaneously someone asked how to healthily get over an ex is it bad if I go to another man to
forget about him here's the thing I do truly believe in the you have to get under somebody
to get over somebody that doesn't necessarily mean sleep with them I think you just have to
start interacting with like new social circles new things new vibes new people you have to get
new experiences into your life so you don't feel like you're living with one foot in the past and
one foot in the present you have to start moving into the future like i said doesn't necessarily
mean you have to sleep with anybody girl if that's your prerogative whatever i'm not gonna i'm not
gonna sit here and slut shame you that's for sure baby i'm the last person to ever do that
but I will say you maybe need to develop like a new crush a new hyper fixation a new person a new
place a new thing whatever it is maybe it's a hobby I don't care maybe it's like I'm now going
to the club all the time whatever it is like you do have to just force yourself to move forward a
little bit maybe it's a random make out maybe it's like a random thing here and there but you have to
kind of force yourself out of that like um circle that loop you've been going through that you're so
used to that you created with your partner which is very natural not a bad loop it's just what
you're used to you have to force yourself out of your comfort zone to create a new comfort
and i think that's how you truly get over people honestly genuinely and i mean that's from just
personal experience craving to just leave my town and everyone and saying goodbye without saying
goodbye am i the problem no but you might have some problems that's for sure and not like not
like real problems just like but you know what lana said everywhere you take yourself wait
everywhere you go you take yourself that's not a lie real like if you're feeling unfulfilled with
where you are you're gonna feel unfulfilled with where you go no i am a big proponent of like you
need to switch up your environment it's so important i think when you're young to move
to change scenery whether it's like from one area of town to the next or maybe you just need a new
apartment new energy maybe you need to move out of your parents house maybe you need to move halfway
across the country i don't know whatever you're feeling called to i think all those things are
very important and inspiring especially if you need to build self-confidence or to just like
follow your dreams or follow your intuition like you owe it to yourself but also it's like let's
pause and stop why are we not happy here this is something i had to work on with myself where it
was like i need to move i need to move i need to move because i'm so unhappy with all these things
and it's like well all these things that you're unhappy with are attached to your body and soul
because they're like bad habits bad beliefs bad understandings so let's work on those things and
let's figure out how to be happy here where you are so then you can be happier wherever you go
next you know so a lot of it was like oh Kansas City is so unfulfilling blah blah blah it's like
actually you're just not getting out and doing things you're not getting out you're not going
and experiencing and doing things oh I don't have any friends well you're not reaching out to people
you're not hitting people up you're not being annoying to go hang out with people oh well you
know i just blah blah blah like there's so many excuses but the thing is if you hold yourself to
like that limiting belief that limiting mindset then yeah where you are now might seem very shitty
but also it's gonna follow you wherever the fuck you go next so instead of living the movie it
follows scary like let's figure out what you're unsatisfied with let's see if we can physically
change it here and work on it and then let's also work on maybe moving forward going somewhere else
traveling whatever it may be it's like yeah you know what I want a 70 and sunny kind of place to
live forever sure LA will fix that Kansas City is not the place to be but also me being unhappy
with like social circles or not getting outside or locking myself inside too long it's like if I
don't break that while I'm here in the now in the moment if I don't work on it I'm gonna get there
and i'm gonna be even more inside because it's somewhere i'm not familiar with you know what i
mean so maybe you are the problem but that's okay i'm very much so often the problem in my own life
and honestly thank god i'm so tired of other people causing me problems it's like it's okay
if i am the problem i feel like i can work with myself better than other people but also it's like
you gotta work with yourself you gotta know what you're doing wrong why you're doing wrong bad
habits bad beliefs limiting beliefs and you gotta go you know what i'm not gonna believe that i'm
I'm not going to do that thing anymore.
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i literally love you so much i've been watching the pod and listening since literally the first
episode and i just want to say i love you so much and i'm so appreciative for all of the advice that
you give and you've literally gotten me through so many things like you don't even know for some
reason i swear we're always like in sync like whenever i'm going through something like you
bring it up in the pod so yeah i just wanted like a little advice i just turned 26 and i don't know
i'm kind of feeling like lost like i just feel like i need a little sense of direction and i
just need like maybe like a journal prompt or something to like i don't know make me like get
deep with myself and open up and just like kind of figure out what i want to do next so if you
have any advice um on gaining a sense of direction and i don't know just figuring out what i want to
do in this next chapter of life love you oh my god that was my girl daisha i think i said your
name right i'm sorry daisha oh my god we've been mutuals for the longest time on instagram but if
you need more like smoke baddie content she's the one to go to green goddess underscore az
is her instagram but oh i love you thank you for listening for so long i didn't know you listened
for this much um and also like i feel you on the whole 26 thing um i feel like 26 and 27 you kind
of hit this place where you're like now what now when you start panicking a little bit but that's
okay that's okay it's a great time for you to kind of re-center refocus and get excited about
the future you know you don't have to be so fearful about the future just because you don't
know what's gonna happen doesn't mean it's not gonna be amazing beautiful wonderful you just
kind of have to like set some goals and go after them but in order to set those goals great journal
prompt I do this a lot I do this journal prompt a lot because my mind changes a lot but I will be
like okay three years from now one year from now five years from now whatever kind of distance or
length you feel comfortable looking towards that's going to be your journal prompt let's say one year
from now where do you want to be if all of your wildest dreams came true what would you want to
be doing what does your daily life look like what kind of maybe content are you creating what habits
are you doing what activities are you up to what kind of friends do you have in your life do you
have a partner in your life do you have any animals in your life what does your apartment look like
what is your breakfast what is your lunch what is your dinner what is your what is everything where
are you living what city are you in are you traveling like literally get as detailed as
possible as you could about where you want to be in that time frame it'll give you this perception
of like what you want your life to look like if you could dream as wide as possible and also like
you'd be surprised how much of it comes true once you dare to dream and dare to look forward it also
give you a great idea and like okay well dream hannah does this so i'm gonna also do this thing
or you know i have this habit that i do so i'm also gonna do this thing it's a great little
journal prompt to do it'll get you excited about the future not so fearful not so scared and it
might actually get you excited because i know beautiful things are coming from you you just
have to set your sights on them oh but i love you thank you for ripping that bong for me speaking of
i'm about to rip the bong because this podcast is coming to an end and it's the end of the day for
me so it's time for me to smoke and get on with my weekend but with that being said you guys thank
you for listening oh new vlog for the week up i went to the thrift store and just got stoned
to the thrift store and there's a little thrift hall thrift excursion on youtube hannah marlene
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