Smoke Sesh - The Sex Talk

Episode Date: December 7, 2021

Today we’re covering many topics, everything from how to stop comparing yourself to others, growing confidence, and everything sex! like virginity, masturbation, orgasms, partnership, and how to stay healthy! to all my besties going through finals season we discuss mental health and academics, and the fine line they walk together! Hope you all are having an amazing Tuesday welcome to Smoke Sesh let’s light up and hang out!

Listen, everybody needs a fairy godmother, you know, someone to look out for them. Some people call me their internet big sister, others their fairy smoke mother. You can call me Hannah, the new host of Smoke Sash. So come hang out, let's light up and talk everything there is to life. Some good, the bad, the ugly, the embarrassing. I've got a story for it all. Alright, good morning everybody. It's Tuesday's podcast.

Are you excited? i'm so excited i'm about to make some coffee it's 11 o'clock in the afternoon i know crazy usually i'm like up by easily eight you know nine like up and adam sorry that's my coffee pot recording a podcast but god damn i've been working so much um they've been scheduling me so much at work literally i serve like every night except for like two or three nights a week i've been making so much money like hell yeah i'm so excited but i'm exhausted i'm exhausted as you guys know you guys are probably working a fucking regular ass job like i am too you know how tiring it gets like on my days off i'm like i need to sleep the fuck in i need my brain to recover from what the

fuck i just went through so uh that's what i'm doing i slept until um 10 30 and then i spent the morning reading this incredible incredible incredible like 113 fucking page star chart like sign report when you guys dm me you guys are so cool by the way some of you guys have some of the most like coolest hobbies you'll send me like art you do um or like a lot of you guys are intuitively talented or talented with like reading star charts and signs and stuff like that one of you dm'd me and was like hey um i would really love to like do a little um report for you do a reading i was like fuck yeah never had that done um other than like reading a little bit on cafe astrology and like the basics sorry if there's like background noise in the beginning

i should have don't give a fuck i need my coffee asap if you're a coffee drinker i'm sure you understand i'm like i'm up i need coffee now but um she's so fucking cool she sent me over 113 fucking page report literally every aspect of myself that you could ever possibly think of she uncovered it and read me to fucking filth quite honestly um things that like in my journal i've been writing about like okay these are like little things i need to work on like i need to pull this together i need to do this she called me the fuck out she like wrote that shit down in like paragraph forms like bitch pull it together or else you're not gonna get where you want to get also apologies i'm sick too um i have like a cold i'm not like sick sick

it basically i'm just like have a runny nose so if you guys hear any like sniffling or i seem a little stuffy i apologize but um this beautiful beautiful person um their website is spiritual strength co on etsy um intuitive tarot and um astrology readings incredible 10 out of 10 recommend this is not sponsored she is just so sweet and sent me over so much shit that i'm like oh my god go check her out but i'm gonna read you one of my um favorite parts of it because i think it kind of relates to what's going on here and why i feel so called to possibly even do podcasting and why i think so many of you guys relate to me as well um so um i'm gonna say this fucking wrong my you astrology bitches better not come for me my oh my god chiron chiron whatever that is c-h-i-r-o-n

in weak trine forming 4.7 degrees with ascendant she said the planetary energies flow smoothly the connection is easy and beneficial when the aspect between chi or chiron and the ascendant in your chart you are likely to experience painful realization throughout your life and have the ability to heal others as well chiron is called the wounded healer because it represents the archetype of imperfection and loss which when integrated leads to compassion understanding of other suffering the empathy and the understanding that are gained through life's trials provide the ability to serve as a helper and healer for others you are more invested in this archetype than most since chiron is in a powerful connection with your rising point symbolizing the self that you

present to the world historic historically your true self you have probably experienced a certain degree of pain and frustration relating to your self-concept possibly in relation to trauma in your early years concerning parental care or perhaps similar issues with your peers these are early experiences may have made it hard to accept the love of others in your adult life it is good to make the effort to connect yourself consciously with any painful events that may be buried in your unconscious so that these will no longer have um so much power over you you do have a great deal of compassion and empathy for others and you are likely to be someone with career possibilities and helping professions you may strongly desire to help other people and yet

be unable to give them the full benefit of your higher self it is good to integrate your past experiences no matter how painful they have they may have been and no matter how painful these feelings continue to be in your adult life when you've made a solid transition from existing in divided state to a more balanced and integrated whole you could be much more actual self service to other people since you are more available to yourself oh my god bitch bitch are you kidding literally exactly like i why i started this podcast i just have been through so much shit in my life i have so many goddamn stories and if anybody else has felt as alone as i have in this world i don't want them to feel that way or if they do feel that way i want them to know that

like hey you're not alone you're not going through this alone i've been through it up you guys 8,000 people fucking listen to this podcast now i think last week it was like 5,000 we're up to 8,000 we've been in the top u.s uh podcast charts for like a week in the top 50 like are you kidding me are you kidding me thank you thank you guys for showing up thank you guys for trusting in me for listening to me i like i am so appreciative because if you guys weren't here i wouldn't be here to be honest although this is like a really nice little therapy session for me and like getting everything out and talking about things if you guys weren't here and you guys didn't continuously show up i would not be here so thank you i really appreciate it this has been so

cathartic so fun so creative i put so much energy into this podcast and i literally cannot wait to see where we go so that being said welcome to fucking smoke sesh ladies and gents let's get the fuck into it i have so many questions um so many questions to be honest i got a lot of sex questions a lot of sex questions like overwhelming amount of sex questions so we might answer a lot of sex questions on today's episode and then thursday we have a cool sponsor that i can't wait to talk about i'm literally so excited okay let's get into today's episode happy tuesday well first of all before we get into sex someone asked me what i make my coffee with at home they're like ingredients babe i need everything girl it is not that deep you can go this is what i do i

will tell you though um I actually asked for an espresso machine for Christmas because I like espresso a lot more um if you can hear my coffee machine brewing in the background it's just creamier just better I like oat milk as well so I usually get an oat milk either just like regular plain old oat milk or I get an oat milk creamer um this bitch needs to stop it's like gurgling it's i hate that noise um but usually i'll just do splash a little oat milk because oat milk is way better in any sort of coffee it makes it like creamy oh to die for and then where the fuck is it i bought this little syrup torani classic caramel syrup that that's what i use i just use a splash of that

some oat milk and then whatever coffee you have so i'm using just like fucking plain black drip coffee like it's not fancy over here we're not doing anything fancy um but i hope hopefully i'll be able to use espresso i was real bougie this summer and i pre-bought like cute little like um plastic like iced coffee cups so i can make my own like to go iced coffee every day that was just too much i'm not doing that anymore but yeah make your coffee at home save some money girls seriously as someone who consistently lives in their head constantly every waking moment of the day and cannot escape her head i very much so feel for this question um how to stop spending so much time imagining how i'm being perceived by others oh love it love it love it love it because

i get a lot of self-confidence questions and i feel like my critical self comes through the most when i am only viewing myself in relation to other people so like imagine a group of 50 people and i am like you turn one person like it's like one out of 50 people what the fuck am i trying to convey when you're just one out of 50 people you're not super special you're not gonna think you're super cool you're not gonna thank all these things especially when those other 50 people are probably people that you're consuming on a social media basis um people who are not putting out their like most true authentic selves and i mean that by like they're probably putting out the highlighted version of themselves you know the highlights that's like what instagram is the

highlights that's kind of what tiktok is at this point um like flexing their lives it's gonna be really hard to be happy about yourself and who you are and your achievements if you're looking at like millionaires and models and other people at high levels as your peers okay because they're not your peers and that's okay those people aren't fucking real all right the best way to enhance your confidence immediately it will start happening immediately as soon as you stop comparing yourself to other people and i know you're like hannah that is really fucking hard like how the fuck do i do that it's so simple you say just stop comparing yourself but like bitch what the fuck it's really hard in comparison and to that like yes i have moments where i find

myself um concerned about how people are gonna view me if i do this how people are gonna be thinking of me how all of that stuff how i am comparing in relation to other people and when i start falling down those um negative thought patterns which are gonna happen that's just as someone who owns a brain your brain is gonna spiral every once in a while and it'll probably go down that slope and that's okay doesn't mean you're backtracking in any sort of way as long as you're able to stop these thoughts are not rational it doesn't make sense i don't need to be comparing myself in these ways and you redirect okay the only person you need to be comparing yourself to ever ever is your past self and your future self who were you and who do

you want to become is what you're doing are the actions you're making are the plans you're having going to turn you into that future self that you want to become are you acting on a behavior a life path that is going to suit you yes or no very simple questions okay your confidence will skyrocket once you start seeing yourself compared to two other people yours and both of them are yourself skyrocket skyrocket a majority of my confidence comes from knowing that in my universe the only competition is myself okay in each one of our individualized universes we're all so very different how we perceive the world is so very different the only competition is yourself yes there's other people in this world but there's no need to compete with them when there's so much

happening okay the only aspect that you should be reaching for and chasing is who do I want to become what does that person look like who was i how can i grow and is what i'm doing right now beneficial to both those people straight up it's very simple and it's okay to have those negative spiraling thoughts that comparison thought as long as you're able to redirect and refocus on something maybe more beneficial to think of okay i hope that helps i hope that is a little bit more um insight on like confidence because i do say like oh just fake it just fake it and i know sometimes it's like impossible to fake confidence so redirecting your thoughts is a great way to kind of refocus back on yourself i love sex i love sex i love talking about sex

i love the science behind sex i love the community the um like faces people make when you bring it up at like a brunch and they're like uh should we be talking about this right now like yes tell me about your sex life i'm so interested um when i was in nursing school like i found um the anatomy and the chemistry part of like the dopamine release and all that shit that goes on so interesting but then like the psychology part of it all where like how two people interact or maybe three people or maybe more like i don't know what your sex looks like who knows i'm assuming though from my perspective when i do talk about sex i need to make it clear that um i have only had like straight male female sex um i haven't really ventured out any further will i who knows

right now i have a boyfriend so not really um but when i am speaking about sex i want you guys to understand that I am speaking from like a what heteronormative relationship um because that is the only experience I have had now one of you guys asked me and was like um what do you guys asked me I was like how um thoughts on lgbtq thoughts on um well love love lgbtq I guess i would be the b um consider me this this me coming out i guess parents if you're listening to this if i show up with a woman one day then you know um but i don't know i don't really think too much about like my sexual identity i just go with what feels good does that make sense um but one of you guys asked me hi i'm 19 almost 20 and i'm still a virgin i feel really insecure

about it and like i'm behind felt valid valid um i feel like in this country or just in general young people are kind of pressured to have sex very early like we start having the sex talk not sure well here's the thing the whole entire u.s sexual um fucking teachings is all sorts of messed up okay all sorts of fucked up and they start teaching us sex at what 14 13 about when oh no maybe like fifth grade that's when they started having like the period talk like hey you guys got private parts uh shit's about to go crazy straight up it's like fifth grade and then like sixth seventh eighth it was more like sex stis all that now here's the thing they teach us don't fucking have sex

straight up you're gonna get these nasty flesh eating diseases don't have sex you're gonna have a baby at 14 don't have sex like it's scary and it's like what the fuck i thought this was supposed to be fun i thought this was supposed to be like cool okay heard it's not cool all right and i think that put me off from sex like at my early early ages um from like what 12 to like 14 that like those like scare tactics really work i was like whatever not interested moving on um um and then in high school where I feel like a lot of teenagers experience you know their first kiss or their first date um or maybe their first you know they lose their virginity a lot of my friends lost their virginity in high school either like early in high school or maybe

mid to late high school I did not lose my virginity until I was out of high school like I think it was like the summer after high school so to be quite honest I didn't lose my virginity till I was about your age so in my opinion no I don't think you should feel insecure or like you're behind in any sort of way your body is your body you need to make choices for yourself um and virginity is not something you really need to rush although i do think we need to place less of an emphasis on the whole virgin concept okay it gives 1800s vibes it gives my father is selling me off for marriage vibes okay like he's gonna trade me for a fucking goat or something you know i'm not about that like if i think we should like de-stigmatize or not de-stigmatize what

the fucking word am i looking for sorry not to just blow my fucking nose into the mic your girl's really going through it and i'm trying to power through for this podcast because i know that i gotta give the people what they want you know what i mean but not de-stigmatize i say the word de-stigmatize a lot on this podcast and it's not what i'm meaning but also what's kind of what i'm meaning i think we should place less emphasis on the whole virgin okay although when you do go to lose it it's an important conversation to have with who you are sleeping with now if we place less emphasis on it we give room for the uncomfortable for the weird for the uh nervousness which i think is very important in sex in all sex other than just

losing your virginity i feel like it's sold to especially women um it's gonna be this beautiful incredible lovely experience and rose petals and fucking i don't know bubble baths you know you like craziness that's babe you're 19 you don't have access to any of that shit you need to know that sex is going to be vulnerable it's going to be a little weird a little bit uncomfortable if it's something you're you haven't literally ever done before you know what i mean and you need to open up area for that space so when those things do happen you are still comfortable okay big big red flag if you cannot laugh during sex or the other person cannot laugh during sex uh-uh you should not be having sex okay because fucking funny shit's gonna happen straight up

weird shit's gonna happen awkward silences um the music's gonna mess up in the background a weird fucking ad's gonna come out i don't know you're gonna put in the wrong hole i don't know that's a joke that's that's joke but like the weird the uncomfortable is gonna happen and you need to be able to laugh push that off not have all those weird high unnatural expectations for virginity but also sorry let me take a sip of my coffee i love coffee also i love talking about sex because i had a really bad first um like virginity experience bitch i lost my virginity on top oh i know i know that should be goddamn illegal i don't want ever i don't want any woman to ever lose their virginity on top that should be jail time

not for the woman for the man straight up so um my first uh when i lost my virginity it was not it was not the best experience and although i waited like you my waiting period was more so self-inflicted um like middle school was not interested high school i was severely depressed so like sex just straight up was not the fuck on my mind um i was like i need to not die period um so when i did finally get out of high school something that was causing me a major stressor and i was able to finally put thought into oh i have i i've never had sex before um I just gotta jump the fucking gun I jumped the gun I jumped the gun and it was not the right person it was not the best experience I he got me like way too fucking high and then made me get on

top and it was a little painful a little not fun a little you know traumatizing one could possibly say now that didn't really deter me from any other sex it just showed me like oh there's probably better out there but i don't think there's anything wrong with you i think wait as long as you need wait until you find the right person somebody who can make you feel comfortable somebody who can laugh with you somebody who can listen to you okay and if that takes 20 more fucking years let it take 20 more fucking years okay if that takes three more months let it take three more months but take your time okay i don't think you're missing anything i definitely was at that period in my life and i was like i'm missing i'm missing out on stuff i'm missing out on stuff

i really wasn't like i totally could have focused on myself a lot longer and that probably would have been way more beneficial for me so just like do what feels best for you okay don't feel those outward societal pressures because they're probably just all in your head anyways and if your friends are giving you shit tell them to shut the fuck up pretty simple but yeah i don't think sex is something you should really rush um and it's something you should definitely feel comfortable in yourself with and with another partner before you jump into it now someone else also asked me oh we're getting into it i love it i love talking about sex it makes so many people uncomfortable because and i shouldn't here's the thing these conversations should not be uncomfortable in any

sort of light at all okay but like as women especially as a younger woman when i didn't really know where to ask these questions or how to find them out because like i didn't really go to my mom and then like the school system didn't really have anything in place and then my friends were just like other teenagers that i knew that obviously didn't know anything so like i'm glad you guys can ask me these things because i will be so fucking honest with you but someone else asked opinions on masturbation do you prefer it over sex now yes now we're getting juicy the reason i did not give a fuck about sex during high school is because i was flicking the bean constantly as you should okay as you should you need to know how to make yourself

come if you're even gonna expect that from somebody else okay you need to know the insides and outs of yourself you need to know what it feels like to touch yourself sensually and i'm not just saying like your private areas your vaheen your peen i'm talking your body feeling yourself feeling sensual with your hands feeling sensual with your arms feeling sensual with your legs with every aspect of yourself and then maybe moving on to pleasuring yourself in other ways but i did not give a fuck about high school men when i was in high school because i was like bitch i can make myself come three times in one minute and you think this pimply little boy over here is gonna make me come at all no simply put it's a big fat no okay so i was way more focused

on like masturbation now when it comes to masturbation i think it's all positive all good all whatever until kind of well i think ethical porn does exist but a lot a lot a lot of unethical porn exists and i think um uh well i'm gonna i feel like more men kind of get caught up with the whole porn consumption issue um but it's a very major big issue and it also affects i think how men view women and how men view sex with women and it's very not good um but masturbation love it 10 out of 10 in high school um senior year we would all just like sit and hang out in the lunchroom or not in the lunchroom in the art room so it's like a big group of friends and one of us turned 18 before the rest of us and now this was like before you could go to walmart and

buy sex toys or like cvs or like let alone amazon okay you had to go to the sex store the cerillas down the street so my friend turned 18 before all of us um and for christmas she went out and bought us all a bullet vibrator she bought every single one of us a bullet vibrator that has been the best christmas gift i have ever received now i've moved on from the bullet vibrator to like an actual real vibrator shout out all of my sex toys have come from my friends they've just like bought them for me they're like girl you need this you seem stressed i'm sending a vibrator to your house and honestly that is like the best gift you could ever give a woman now the full question was do i prefer masturbation over sex and although at times when I was celibate that like absolutely

I preferred masturbation over sex so I just was not interested in sex at all and I kind of feel like um low-key if me and my boyfriend ever broke up I feel like I would probably fall back into like a celibacy moment um and just reconnecting with myself sexually and like um growing my divine feminine i think that would be a very important thing to do um not that i ever hope me and my boyfriend break up but celibacy is very valid if you prefer masturbation over sex and you're not ready to connect with another person on that level that is totally valid totally okay respectfully like i hope you're having some great orgasms on your own love it but masturbation needs to be included in sex okay and not just like the you know flicking the bean aspect like

the eroticism the sensuality the um comfortable uh comfortableness in your own body that you experience during masturbation needs to be achieved during sex as well because sex is not just p and v okay sex is everything leading up to build up to that moment everything that makes those people comfortable that builds that eroticism builds those feelings that is sex especially for women okay men need to shove their dick in something to come or like need a fucking mouth or an ass or a hand i don't know women i feel like now i'm not speaking for every woman everybody's different um i am speaking on behalf of my own experiences um that like foreplay aspect and that masturbation aspect and that building a calm sense of environment between two people

is the big important sex aspect because if you just shove a fucking dick inside of somebody without building all of that up the chances of them coming are very low very low and I think that's why a lot of women aren't coming I'm so upset by this I literally get so upset when I think about all the women who aren't coming from men it makes me so angry because I know it's happening to so many women because i literally got a question oh my god i got a question i need to read it holy shit it was a great question but it was essentially like um hey girly like um oh fuck i want to read it directly for you because i i feel bad when i like butcher what you guys say because you guys take the time out of your day to like go and send me

questions and I really appreciate them I love reading through them you guys have so many like important things you want to talk about it's so interesting um holy shit why can't I find it oh here we go hey girly what do you do if you really love a guy but he can't give you an orgasm literally like women experience this a lot and like you love him right he can't give you an orgasm because in men's head they are like p plus v equals cum no no they're dumb as a fucking rock okay also they've only watched porn probably where it's perpetuated the idea that you need to dominate a woman shove your dick inside them and they are going to feel the most pressure or most pleasure they have ever felt in their entire life and that's simply not true those people are

fucking actors but to a 14 year old's mind when they're watching this porn and jerking off as like a teenager it's like a boy that is what they are going to think is real you are not able to build up that social understanding at that age to understand these are two actors that cum is probably like fucking they use like cerve face lotion sometimes to fake cum they just squirt it on the girl's face like it is it is a performance babe that is not how sex works so building up that eroticism between yourself is very important because then you need to introduce it to your partner um and you also need to be able to communicate adequately with your partner I like it when you touch me like this um this feels better this doesn't don't do this and you

need to build up a space and an environment that when you do have sex um you are in a safe comfortable environment that you can express those emotions and those feelings and there's no sense of like judgment straight up and girly it's not your fault you're not coming okay it's not your fault you love this man you love this man i'm sure he's a great man i'm sure he loves you too i'm sure he wants to make you come okay i'm sure these men like if you haven't come from a man i'm sure they want to make you come they just don't know how okay so unfortunately we have to be the teachers here because porn has warped these men's minds and um you just have to speak up for yourself understand what you want on a aspect alone and then build up a comfortable

sense environment that you can communicate it and experience that eroticism during sex now building up the foreplay very important you need to have like feel sensual in yourself and your partner um and then when it does come down to the whole pnv sex it'll feel way better okay also bitch if you can't come buy a vibrator have that man use that vibrator on you straight up toys go buy toys um your man should never see a toys competition if he sees a toy toys competition that is a red flag you guys are co-workers okay and they should treat each other like that they are working together it is a teamwork effort okay you should be coming coming is so important you need to be coming during sex i'm begging i'm begging also if you guys are a little

uncomfortable with the idea of sex or being sexual in nature i was that way too okay i was that way too i wasn't really sure like where what to do where to start go to your local sex store okay my local sex store is sarilla's love them every single time i walk in there people are very helpful so helpful um if you have any questions they're like incredibly helpful with answering them and being honest with you like they're not judging you because there's some freaks as well you know what i mean like they're freaky people too and they just want to help you feel good okay go into a sex store if you're of age if you're of age if you're 18 plus you need to make that clear because you will not be able to go in under 18 but go in there get comfortable

with like what's in that store with the items in that store with the eroticism with the sensuality um uh maybe buy a vibrator maybe buy like something that's interest you i don't know like there's so many things in there if like something piques your interest even lingerie something that makes you feel more erotic towards yourself that's something that's going to maybe make your partner feel more erotic towards you as well build that sensuality um being in spaces where it is a sex positive space will inherently make you feel more sex positive as well and make you feel more comfortable someone also asked for an embarrassing story and we're talking about sex so we also have to talk about sexual health and all that stuff so i'm gonna tell you guys an

embarrassing story i kept this with me for such a long time and i finally opened up to my boyfriend about it um because it's he's the only other person that was involved and it's so fucking funny but um okay here's the thing sexual health is very much so important i'm talking sexual health as in like ph keeping yourself clean taking care of yourself i'm not talking about like shaving whatever people have asked me my shaving routine to be fair i just take a men's razor and i go at it i've heard trimmers are great and i also really i don't shave a lot because i keep a bush i love the bush i love the bush look um i think shaving everything makes me feel like too childlike and it's weird and odd but do whatever you want um i don't really care whatever makes you feel good

um i do think men's trimmers i've heard that is a really nice way to shave without getting razor bumps or like um having it be so um like yeah razor bumps or getting any um like it won't cut you or anything like that anyways men will throw off your ph balance not all men but the act of like if cum gets inside you it's a different level of acidity compared to what your um the heen naturally is so it's gonna throw off your ph balance at least a little bit and if a man is not keeping clean that will also throw off your ph balance okay um you need to make sure that your partner is like clean like cleaning himself like washing himself off i know disgusting anyways um and if your ph balance gets messed up or anything like that it's a quick easy fix i think

you could just go to the doctor get some antibiotics or even just um boric acid supplements and drinking tons and tons of water just to flush out anything is great um but another thing i personally um don't get yeast infections really i feel like if you're worried about getting yeast infections or utis ask your mom if she has a history with one of the two if she does you're most likely going to get them more often too my mom i know gets utis quite often um and i do too not super often maybe like once a year but it's only when like i just don't get up and go pee after sex go pee after sex you will save yourself so much pain so much pain UTIs are absolutely the worst thing ever tons of water pee after sex buy some wet wipes wipe yourself off I think wet

wipes are a great thing carry them around with you buy some for yourself um and you probably won't get a uti but the embarrassing embarrassing story so when me and my boyfriend were still talking like whatever in that stage weren't dating yet you know you're like i still need to kind of impress this person i don't i still need to kind of like you know win them over you're still kind of the cool girl in a sense before you can show them that you're true crazy and i was staying over at his house one night and that day or two days before at least I had been having symptoms of a UTI you know the the cramping the constant urge to feel like you have to pee um slight burning when you have to pee feeling like you can't get everything out and I was working a lot as a

nanny at the time and I just didn't have time to think about it quite honestly so I didn't think about it and day two struck and the symptoms were getting a little bit severe and you know went to bed not thinking anything of it I was like I'll wake up in the morning I'll go to the doctor I'll take the day off I'll go to the doctor get it handled get some antibiotics so I can get back to work get back to feeling good I was at his place spending the night and I went to bed you know like everybody else does and I wake up in the middle of the night having to pee like I had a dream that I had to pee or I was peeing in my dream and I wake up next to this man full on pissing the bed like pissing like peeing the bed right next to him because my UTI I just like

couldn't hold it in like if you have a UTI you know if you gotta go that shit's coming out of whether you want it to or not and in my dream I just couldn't control it like I started pissing everywhere I woke up I was like oh my god oh my god he was dead asleep so you know what I did I literally just kind of like rolled dude piss this man's bed he was dead asleep rolled him to the side got a towel cleaned it up i i couldn't wake him up and tell him because i was like i need this man to still like me i'm sure he totally would have still liked me after like if he knew about it at the time but in my head i was like oh girl you got to handle this shit so i got a towel and i like wiped it cleaned it up put a towel over the spot that i pissed i just like went back to

bed because it's like 2 a.m i was like girl you can't you'll handle this in the morning when he goes to work because he wakes up early and goes to work he wakes up thinks nothing of it i didn't like piss on him i pissed next to him so like he had no idea anything that was happening it didn't really smell like pee because i cleaned it all up and so he's like all right off to work and i'm like bye and i get up immediately clean the sheets clean the bed i go get uti medicine he shows back up after work everything all the sheets have been cleaned i'm like oh yeah i just you know change the bed whatever totally played it off this man did not know i pissed his bed until last week when i had another uti and i told him about it because it was so funny literally i can't believe

i did that i have never pissed my own bed like other than when i was like a child so to piss somebody else's bed oh i was so mortified and i thought he would like i don't know not like me or something or like be grossed out so I never told him I was like I'm just gonna clean it up while he's gone but he thinks it's fucking hilarious so yeah if you get a UTI handle that shit ASAP go to a doctor get some antibiotics um for me personally antibiotics is the only thing that works for UTIs um the cranberry shit I eat cranberry supplements every day personally for like punani health you know what I mean um really the only thing you need to do is just like clean in the shower no soap no soap that's gonna throw off your ph balance just wipe yourself on

the shower clean it good with some water um maybe a little bit of um non-scented friendly body wash drink a ton of water a ton a ton a ton of water that will flush out anything that's not going good in your you know kitty cat also for my smokers my ladies who are smokers um like the weeds of the weeds someone asked like how do i um how do i kiss somebody when i have cotton mouth and if you keep yourself overly hydrated and if you keep a water bottle on you i always say keep a water bottle on you when you're going to any sort of sesh um you really don't get cotton mouth too bad um so just have a water bottle on you do some gum also just be like spit in my mouth like what are they gonna say no they're gonna be like hell yeah and then it's like

a it's like fun if you run out of spit i will do that like sometimes um like let's get personal if you like you're giving head and your mouth is too dry ask them to spit in your mouth boom now you got spit or like choke on it a little bit and you'll get a little bit more spit um but water very important for overall kitty cat health and to make sure you are completely lubed up at the time and ready to go literally you'll be dripping like just make sure you're hydrated i'm serious like it i will i've realized a lot of my issues straight up come from me being dehydrated like my like being lethargic and tired all the time and feeling like i have no brain power and cotton mouth and all that stuff it was because i was dehydrated i just needed to drink more water

and probably less coffee so keep that in mind but yeah straight up piss that man's bed he had no idea no idea i cleaned that shit up so quickly i was like uh-uh we are not doing this we are not doing this but yeah all right sex talk rundown if you skip through all that pretty simple build up eroticism within yourself understand yourself understand how to make yourself come understand what feels good to you before you dive into a partner um make sure your partner is open with communication honesty trust vulnerability very important you guys need to have a talk probably about stds stis are you seeing other people are you seeing other people in the future our std our std checks something i'm gonna need to do constantly consistently with you um also if

you're somebody who likes to go out fuck whatever cool awesome love that make sure you're getting tested in between partners make sure you're building up a trust a mutual respect for sex um and yeah have fun have fun that is like the main point of the entire thing if you're not having fun don't do it sex should be fun for everybody involved all right we just did sex 101 now it's time for dab 101 dab 101 we're gonna talk everything dabs um someone asked me to give a whole rundown on dabs and the kinds and what to do um and to be fair i'm still a little new to dabs quite honestly um i got into them like really got into them when i met my boyfriend because his tolerance was so fucking high my tolerance was at zero okay we met my tolerance was at zero

because i just taken a long break from smoking i was just like occasionally hitting my pen um after my serving shifts and then we met he had been smoking for like every day for four years so he was like yeah like a little dab whatever that's nothing to me he gave me nothing quote quote nothing to him oh my god on my fucking ass room spinning craziness dabs are essentially the concentrates of um cannabis so like when you take the flower and essentially how they extract the dabs is they take the flower what you usually smoke like weed they compress it so all of the concentrates um are extracted from it and it essentially looks like this thick um honey like consistency and you put that in a i'm like here's the thing although i know a lot about dabs

right now when i first started dabbing i knew absolutely fucking nothing so if it seems like i'm covering too many bases it's because there's probably some people listening to this or who are like what does that mean even though it might be common knowledge to us like what does that mean so a dab rig is not the same as like a um bong you need to be able to heat your dab rig up to a certain temperature um to use these concentrates now there's different kinds i personally am not like there's like crumble there's distillate there's a shatter like butter i personally prefer like the um crystalline like sugar um it kind of looks like crumbly but it's not crumble um the cannabinoids are still like in their pure crystal structure those are kind of my

favorite dabs i think they hit really smooth really easily um personally and they look like little crystals when you buy them in like the little jar um they're really pretty but buy whatever you want i don't really give a fuck um when you go to heat up your dab brick there's not really a whole science behind it like i thought there was like a oh you got to do very specific things like while there is specific things you have to do it's not like super specific personally i want a dab or not a dab a puff co so fucking bad because it gets rid of all the complications um because like sometimes you maybe heat your rig up too hot and then you fucking burn your lungs yeah horrible fucking experience no one should have to experience that if you get a

puff co this is not sponsored i just really want one puff goes like heat up to a certain temperature tells you when to dab when it's ready tells you when to like like it is full proof now it's very expensive so i know that's not available to everybody but i personally just use like a regular rig that i just heat up with a torch um i just heat it up till the rig is nice and like bright red burning hot baby you know what i mean i count to about like 30 seconds and then when you're first starting start with like the smallest amount of dabs you can possibly imagine and then you can kind of get into scoops like pea-sized scoops um you know you put it in there you cap it you breathe in and you are bing good to go you will be good to go but

i personally i like dabs better than flour sometimes um i switch to dabs at night after like smoking flour all day if i smoke flour all day because at a certain point the weed stops working me a full-blown addict yeah it stops working that's a joke but yeah i don't know dabs are great i love dabs but also like if you can keep your tolerance down to just flour that's probably ideal um dabs are a little intense even for me i take dabs and it like makes me kneel over like dying every single time because like they're just really harsh on my lungs and personally for me my lungs are a little sensitive um like i can't take big giant hits because um it feels like my lungs are gonna collapse and i do not want that to happen and it freaks me out so

if you like to avoid that shit maybe avoid dabs um a dab pen might be a better introduction to the way of life of dabs before you get into a whole rig system because it's a little expensive um to even see if you want to do dabs but i think they're really fun it's a great way to consume a different type of dab or a different type of weed or not type but consistency sometimes too i will roll um you can roll wax into your joints when you smoke them i think that is a great way not a lot of wax like just a little bit sprinkle it in on top of your um you can do like a blunt you can do a joint anything that you're rolling even like a little bowl you can do like a little tiny dash on top of that um crumble is probably the best for that because it's easiest to maneuver

if it's like ooey gooey it it gets everywhere but crumble is really easy for like rolling that will have you on your fucking ass oh my god first time i ever smoked one of those was with my boyfriend first time we ever hung out he rolled like two of those and went to the park i was so goddamn high i left my car keys in the park i lost them i lost my whole set of car keys and i was just like so high you know when you get so high that hold on i need to blow my nose i'm so sorry i know it's probably annoying but you know when you get so high that you're like I am so anxious right now but I need to not be anxious so I'm just gonna play it off I'm just gonna push off the anxiety and go with the flow and that's like what I had to do because I could

feel myself being like I'm gonna freak out about these fucking car keys knowing I had like a second pair in my car I just needed to go get them and then I would just be one shorter so I was just like whatever they're gone i'm moving on i'm not gonna let the anxiety get to me i will have other car keys in my car but yeah rolling them up i love that if you really want to get super fucking high roll some shit up in your blunt roll some shit up in your joint love that way of using dabs but yeah they're pretty simple i don't think they're super complicated like i used to think they were i thought it was like craziness but they're really not too bad i think it's i think it's a super fun way to smoke another weed question is does who you smoke with impact how fun it is

yes yes every person who smokes weed will say this yes listen weed in general if i take a hit of weed no matter where i am it's gonna set me into like a vibey mood okay but if i'm around people that i'm like oh the vibes the vibes here are absolutely rancid rancid horrible it's not gonna make it fun it's gonna make me probably okay so like i talked about in my um in the last podcast or two podcasts ago the side effects of weed yes side effects of weed are those anxious um feelings that like you know you feel a little bit uncomfortable that's okay as long as you're able to redirect your thoughts calm yourself down when i'm around people who make me feel uncomfortable that shit's heightened okay that shit it can get heightened or if i'm around

people who make me feel comfortable in myself and have fun and you know they're confident in who they are so it makes me confident in who i am those side effects those that anxiousness is going to be dwindled 100 it affects completely and greatly who you smoke with and i think that's why a lot of people smoke alone because they don't want that outward perspective to kind of um or that outward influence to ruin their high but also i think that's why a lot of people smoke with their friends they like roommates like oh my god girl i'm smoking come smoke is a very community-based thing um because it's like i'm inviting somebody i really enjoy and want to have fun with to come smoke with me and we're gonna have a good time you know what i mean

it's like a very camaraderie situation but yeah smoking with people who make you not have fun is gonna not be fun i think it's final season this is gonna be our last question of the day thank you for sticking with me on thursday's episode is gonna be a little bit longer i have to finish up all these questions there's like 50 more oh my god i need to talk faster about these but i'm pretty sure it's final season and i think a lot of you guys are very very stressed because i've been getting a lot of questions about academic stress and too much pressure and all this stuff and mental health and as someone who has had like straight A's 4.0 college like like incredible grades and as somebody who has completely um not enjoyed school at all and that has reflected

through my grades and I've basically flunked out um yeah schoolwork has a incredible horrible grip on people's mental health um I feel like the American education system has conditioned people to believe that they are only doing well in life if they are succeeding in school because succeeding in school means succeeding in life and that's not really how that works um someone asked me like what should i do when um i want to prioritize my mental health and although i still really want to succeed at school i need to prioritize my mental health i'm scared to see my grades fall bitch let those fucking grades fall let them fall let them fall because um like grades mean nothing when i say c's get degrees i genuinely mean that

um as long as you are reaching the quota of what you need to pass that class whatever that may be some classes it's like you can get a d and fucking get through and some of them are um you have to have a b as long as you are reaching that level to pass i do not give a singular fuck okay because when you sit down to have these meetings colleges or um jobs in the future they're not gonna ask you why you got a c second semester of sophomore year okay they do not give a fuck about that quite honestly they do not give a fuck about gpa in general it's your accomplishments it's who you are it's how you present yourself it's your passion that they are looking for okay grades really do not matter you always will have an like a chance to explain your grades as well

why you got them what was going on hey my mental health wasn't the best they aren't gonna penal penalize you in any sort of way for prioritizing your mental health and you most likely will get a reason to explain yourself as long as you are passing i do not care prioritize your mental health your mental health and you surviving and you being on this planet is more important than any grade i do not give a fuck i don't give a fuck what anybody else is saying i don't give a fuck what you are saying because i've been in those places where i've been like okay my mental health is really bad and i want to focus on it but i need the grades so i'm going to focus on the grades and i thought oh me achieving every single a and getting that 4.0 in nursing school

was going to magically solve every single issue i possibly had and you know what i received that 4.0 i got those a's and i still felt fucking empty and i had to drop out to focus on my mental health and actually solve the issues that were going on at hand if you ignore what's going on it's just going to make your life spiral more focus on yourself do good so you can be better in the future and make sure that you can be better in the future all right it's okay to want to succeed at school also it's okay to want to do well but understand what kind of workload and what you can do at the moment that is best for you and communicate that to your partners or not your partners your um professors communicate that to your teachers if they don't understand they don't

understand they can be fucking losers and lame but a lot of them really will understand when i went to the psych ward um in high school you would think like i would get back from that two week vacation lol was not a vacation but i would get back and they'd be like okay where's the work you need to do these tests you missed a project you missed these papers no they were like bitch we she needs to not kill herself so we're gonna give her some that's all the time she needs to get that shit in okay the teachers are gonna be really understanding i've i promise you especially if you're like hey i know these grades like aren't up to level i'm just in a rough place right now i need to focus on myself they're gonna understand and if they don't understand they're lame but i

guarantee a majority of the experiences will be positive your grades will never ever be worth your mental health but um like a large workload and academic stress is gonna be like a constant throughout your life and it's something you do need to learn how to balance and it's something i'm still kind of learning how to balance especially when it comes to workload and like how much you start to work in the real world and how much like once you get out of college and once you get out of high school um all of the academic pressure turns into work pressure so like it is something you're gonna need to be able to understand and work with and it's way easier to understand and work with if you do have your mental health on track um getting a planner great idea prioritizing

your weeks um what you need to do each day as someone who like doesn't like planning i know i don't like planning because it's like a self-sabotage thing and in reality i need to have a planner i need to plan my shit out so i'm not overwhelmed when it does come to the workload when you break your workload down to like instead of 50 things that you need to do to like three things every day it's a lot more manageable it's a lot easier okay plan for future stresses future work to save yourself does that make sense but i don't want anybody killing themselves over school it's just simply not worth it and i think that's it i think that's our tuesday podcast oh my gosh guys this is so fun i had a great morning with you guys i hope you have i hope you had a great

weekend um I feel like we take a large break from each other from Thursday to Tuesday thank you guys for showing up again I bitch I was like looking at the podcast charts and we have been in the top 50 for like many weeks but we keep moving up we keep moving up there was this podcast I used to listen to a lot um and like we're close to them which is like mind-blowing because I never would have thought I would be anywhere within like the listener range or the audience reach that I am and I am so incredible incredibly grateful and thankful for you guys that you guys show up and you are interested in what the fuck I have to say I'm just here to be real and honest with you guys and answer your questions as best as I could because as a woman who goes to this world and

just as a human in general past the woman part there are so many things I had like as a young person i had questions of i didn't know who to go to i didn't know who to ask i didn't know if they were normal and so like i had to like fucking google these things or reddit search them like craziness and i want you to be able to have like a real human response to things that you're questioning and i want to be that person and i want to help you guys through this because life can be confusing it can be hard there's trials there's tribulations but there's a lot of fun that goes with it as well and i want you to see every side and see that there's hope i love you all so much happy tuesday i hope you guys had a great time um thursday's podcast will be out

thursday and i will see you then i love you all so much