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Episode Date: October 7, 2023

Go to http://factormeals.com/pitreddit50 and use code pitreddit50 to get 50% off. Ian and Anthony are back on the couch to talk about these friendships and relationships on Reddit! 0:00-0:44 Intro 0:45-7:25 I dressed up for a date and my friend didn't like it https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/16h5dt6/first_time_i_dressed_up_for_a_double_date_and_my/ 7:26-17:29 I sang a song at my friend's wedding https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/169qxbo/sang_a_song_about_gay_sex/ 17:30-28:02 I deleted my friend's 100-hour game save https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/162mtpp/aita_for_deleting_my_roommates_100hour_game_save/ 28:03-36:31 I told my wife to stop crying at Home Depot https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/16ie32r/stop_crying_at_home_depot/ 36:32-37:42 Sponsors! 37:43-54:31 Did my daughter catch my husband cheating? https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/1646d3o/concerned_my_daughter_may_have_caught_my_husband/ 54:32-1:02:04 I kept "weight loss" prize money https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/1693xub/give_it_back_you_weirdo/ 1:02:05-1:11:35 My guy friend doesn't understand women's safety https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/166gavt/do_guys_really_just_not_get_it/ 1:11:36-1:22:38 Critiquing my coworker's food https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/167mb4j/im_one_of_the_good_white_people/ WEAR OUR JOKES: https://smosh.com WHO YOU HEAR Ian Hecox // https://www.instagram.com/ianhecox/ Anthony Padilla // https://www.instagram.com/anthonypadilla/ Shayne Topp // https://www.instagram.com/shaynetopp/ WHO YOU DON’T HEAR (usually) Director: Kiana Parker Editor: Vida Robbins Director of Programming, Smosh Pit: Kiana Parker Associate Producer, Smosh Pit: Kimmy Jimenez Assistant Director: Jacqi Jones Art Director: Cassie Vance Assistant Art Director: Erin Kuschner Art Coordinator: Alex Aguilar Art PA: Oliver Wehlander Audio Mixer: Greg Jones Director Of Photography: Brennan Iketani Camera Operator: Vida Robbins Camera Operator: Cameron Dunbar Director, Design: Brittany Hobbs Director, Marketing: Rachel Evans DIT/AE: Matt Duran Post Production Manager: Luke Baker Production Manager: Jacqi Jones Production Coordinator: Heidi Ha Production Assistant: Marcus Munguia Senior Manager, Channel & Strategy: Lizzy Jones Talent Coordinator: Selina Garcia OTHER SMOSHES: Smosh: https://smo.sh/Sub2Smosh Smosh Games: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshGames El Smosh (Spanish Dub): https://smo.sh/Sub2ElSmosh SmoshCast: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshCast FOLLOW US: TikTok: https://smo.sh/TikTok Snapchat: http://smo.sh/OnSnapchat Instagram: https://instagram.com/smosh Facebook: https://facebook.com/smosh Twitter: https://twitter.com/smosh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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The boys are back. We are back. The boys are back and ready for some Reddit stories. And now, now, Anthony, you're a veteran. You guys have both been on here before. So you know what's up. You know the deal.

We got it. Nothing's going to surprise you this time. No, pretty basic stories. No terrible. No terrible that that that that that that tha, that tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, the the the the the tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, thi.. thi. thi. thi, thi. tha. tha. thea. thea. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. to surprise you this time. Nah, just pretty basic stories. No terrible behavior that can be solved with years of therapy. Right. Right. Right. Yeah, these are going to be normal.

All right, let's hop into it. First one comes from true off my chest. the confession right out the bat. First time I dressed up for a double date and my friend didn't like it. Okay. Huh. My friend Joel, a 20-year-old man, asked me, 21-year-old man to join him for a double-date with Gene, a 20-year-old woman.

And her friend, Sam, a 19-year-old woman. Joel got a date with Jean, to make it a double date, as she wanted to introduce to introduce, to introduce, to introduce, to introduce, to introduce, the to introduce, to introduce, the to introduce, to introduce, to introduce, the to introduce, to introduce, to, the to, to, the to, to, to, to, to, to, toe, toe, too, to, the, too, too, too, too, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, to, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thooo,au.e.e.e.e.e, the the the the toole, too, too, too, too, too, wanted to introduce Sam to the dating scene in a more friendly kind way. I agreed to it, but Sam wasn't amused by the idea of me being her date, but agreed because she was happy with just the experience. Why? Well, me and Joel are two totally different types of guys. He is the charming and athletic guy while I am the chubby and more reserved one. Doesn't help that I am balding this thia in thia in the the the the the the the the the thiiiiiii. their. thii. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. tape, tape, tape, toyoyui. tie, tie, tie, tie, tie, tie. tie. tie. tie. tie. tie. tie, tie, tie, tie, tie, tie, tie, tie, tie, t, t, t, t, t, t, t, t, t, t, t, thii. t, thi. t, t, t, t, tie. tie. tie. tieuuiiiiiiiiiiauuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuthis early in life. The times I have met her at university have been while I'm wearing the same clothes. I have a set of clothes only for university, sort of like a self-imposed uniform. Every day is different but I repeat weekly. So yesterday I got my haircut as low as possible without going into shaving, fixed my beard and I have to say I was looking mighty fine. Got out my brand new clothes. Now, today we had our double date after 2 p.m.

I arrived late but only by five minutes. Joel was texting me like crazy until I arrived, holding a rose for Sam. I am a bit corny, but I thought it would be a nice gesture. Joel wasn't happy for some reason. Jean looked surprised, but Sam, she smiled widely and her eyes sparkled a bit. We start our date and Sam and I are having a bit of a blast. We decided to go out bowling before going for ice cream on recommendation from Sam. We got along but not really enough to say I like her

more than a friend. Maybe a second date solo this time would be nice. As we were hanging out I could feel glances from Joel and small smiles from Jean. I know Gene is smiling because Sam is having fun, but I didn't know why Joel was so angry with me. After the date, Joel unloaded on me, how I was cringed for bringing Sam a rose, that I was there to entertain Sam not distract Gene from him, that I dressed too formal and too fancy. I was only wearing a white shirt, flannel over shirt, and jeans with my converse. He also said I should have stayed at home if I was going to act like I did on the date. I just talked with Sam, shared a meal with her, and went to get her favorite ice cream from her favorite store.

He was there and Jean was 100% on board with the ideas. I barely talked to Jean. He had all the playing field for himself. Not my fault, Gene was more interested in seeing her friend happy. Wow. Okay. Yeah, I mean, you know, a shirt with flannel jeans and converse, that's as formal as you can go. Yeah. I was, for some reason, like, just with the lead up and like the explanation, I'm like, he's a Reddeter, I was like, I was expecting like a full-on like suit. Like a tux. Like a dumb and dumber like, yeah, like a dumber like, like suit.

But um, no, it sounds like he had like a pretty like casual sick fit. It sounds like he was just angry that he wasn't wearing, his friend wasn't wearing like slubby clothes. I'm wondering if this friend was hoping that this guy would make him look good. Oh right. And I think I think this dude showed up and kind of killed it and his friend was like, now even my date is like thinking this guy's cool. I need to bring a rose to a first date. Is that a genuine question you're asking? Yeah, kind of. Because I'm like I've never done that and it seems like, I mean, like, I guess it's like a, it's a nice gesture. I think it leans into romantic territory. Definitely. Yeah, I don't know about a first date. Second date, I think that could be.

Yeah. I would need to know, I would need to know the person. If I knew the woman and I was like, okay, she might like this, then that's a fun thing to do. But what also my head goes to is then she has to hold that rose. I could, I would probably give it to him and be like, you could throw it out. You get to like, you can take it to the bowling alley and take it to the ice cream. She trys to set it the the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She that is that is that is that is that. that. that. that. that. that, that, that that that. that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, th. th. th. th. th. She has th. She has has th. She has th. She has th. She has th. She has th. She has th. th. th. that, that, that. that. the that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that that that that that that. Do you not like that rose? Keep holding the rose while you bowl. I gave you the gift of burden Some comments here reconsider the friendship Someone else said it sounds like he was annoyed that you showed him up on the date He is probably used to attention and thought being next to you would make him look better think Duff designated ugly fat friend. Sorry just going based on your description girls care way more about thoughts and effort than just attractiveness.

That's why you were getting the attention of both girls. O.P. responded, I knew from the start he was planning to use me to look better, but I wasn't expecting him to be rude about his date with Gene and blaming it on me. Lastly, someone said, L.O.L. Well, maybe the only reason Gene agreed to date date to date to date to date to date to date to date to date to date to date, to date, to date, to date, to date, to date, to date, to date, to date, to date, to the to the to the to the to to the to be to be to be. the the the to be. toe, toe, toe, toe, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th. th. the, the, the, the, the, the, theateate. theateate.e.ean.ean. theatea. theatea. theatea. thea. the. the. the.O.L. maybe the only reason Gene agreed to date your friend was so she'd have an excuse to get Sam out on a date with somebody and Joel is salty about it. Don't worry about it. Sounds like you and Sam had a nice time and Jean is happy that Sam enjoyed herself. Joel is just being insecure.

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I'm big into retro games. Yeah. Have you heard of Slender Man? Yeah. Oh, God, it is. Oh, God, yeah. I feel like Joel should have come to tha tha tha tha tha th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. th th th th th th th th th th th th thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I th. I th. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I'. I'. I'm thi. I'm thi. I''a. I'a. I'm theeee. thi. the. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. God, yeah. I feel like Joel should have come to him and be like, Yo, here's the plan. You're going to be looking real slubby so that you make me look good. But obviously it's unfair to assume that he's going to look one way. Yeah, if he was looking for a wingman situation, he should have told him.

Yeah. But he prefaced it so differently. Yeah. I mean, if you're anything but supportive of your friend in a double date, you're just like shitty. Yeah. He probably didn't realize that that was a red flag that Jean might have caught. Oh, I'm sure she picked up on him looking evilly at over a. Yeah. I think it's just clear like this dude's a bit of a douche and these two girls knew it. Also it sounds like he was spending more time being frustrated about his friend than

actually in the day. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well. Maybe he's in love with his friend. He sounds pretty great. I don't know. Pretty good guy. All right here we go. Am I the asshole for singing a song at my gay friends wedding and outshining him? This is a lot of outshining, right? These stories here. That's a good title. Why is it important that his friends gay? I guess we're gonna find out. I guess we're gonna find out. But why does he have to call all your gay friends? Gay friends? Like gay weddings? Wildly different from regular weddings. That's starting to be a new trend I'm seeing in these stories is when someone adds adjectives

that are completely unnecessary to the story. But maybe we don't know. Maybe it's important. It might be important. Hi everyone, this account is a throwaway. You know it's going to be good. This is a 25-year-old woman. My friend, Mark, a 25-year-old man, married his boyfriend, James, a 26-year-old man, last week.

The wedding was beautiful and one to remember for sure. However, something happened during the reception, and now Mark is upset with me, so I came on here to ask if I was in the wrong. Mark didn't have any bridesmaids or groomsmen, but he did have a select group of people close to him to help out with the wedding planning, which I was part of. During this stage, Mark approached me and asked me if I could sing at the reception. I have been singing since I was little, so I was honored to be asked to sing at my close friend's wedding. I told Mark that I gladly would. Well, the wedding day arrives, and the reception gets going to well. However, during the dance floor portion of the night, Mark came up to me, and it was clear

that he was upset about something. I asked what was wrong, and he claimed that my singing took attention away from him and James on their big day. I was shocked. I told Mark that he was the one to me for the rest of the night. For the past week, I have been messaging James to no response. I don't know if he's reacting this way to just stress, or if something happened between

him and James that he's taking out on me. Or if it really is just that my performance outshown him because Mark thought it was too good or whatever. Am I the ass the ass the ass the ass the ass the ass th th is th is th is th is th is th. I th. I th thi thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I tho tho tho tho tho tho, I that, I tho that he that that he that he that he that he that he that he that he, I that he, I that he, I thoing. I, I, I thoing. I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I that, I that, I tho, I don't tho, I don't tho tho thoan, I don't thoan, I don't thoan, I don't thoan, I don't tho. I that that that Am I the asshole? There's so much. There's some context we're missing here. I sang some song and it went really well and now everyone's bad. I feel he's got to be a detail that matters that's not being mentioned, right? Oh absolutely. Still missing the importance of it being a gay wedding. Yeah, no, it was that, yeah, never I would have picked that up. Okay, way So the verdict was asshole Which with that context that doesn't with what they told right? Yeah if someone told me this in person? I think I would just be like? Huh, I wouldn't be like, oh, man, what the what the fric? They suck. I would I would not really trust them, but I'd be like, yeah, damn, that sucks. that. that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that th. that th. that that that th. th. th. that th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th's thus thus thi. thi. thi thi thi thi thi thi thi. thi. the verdict. the verdict. their their their their their their their their their their their th is th is th is th is th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. the th. th. th. thi. thi. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thi. the. the. the. the what the fric? They suck. I would I would not really trust them, but I'd be like, oh damn, that sucks.

It's not adding up. But the verdict here is asshole, so I think... So there's more context. I think in the comments we are probably going to get some insight. Someone said, info, did you agree on songs and length of time to sing and did you stick to what was agreed? The reason I ask is to try and figure out any way that you could possibly upset him. On the face of it, the situation is bizarre. O.P. responded, nope, no requirements. No requirements. They didn't specify anything. Okay, but that's leading me to believe that she's saying like a 45-minute song or something. She's like, hold on one more th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi. tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho thi, thi, thi. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to thoo. tho. th me to believe that she's saying like a 45 minute song or something.

She's like, hold on one more song. One more song! She like did her whole set. Yeah, yeah. She brought her band. Yeah, with all her songs. An entire radio head album. Someone else said, there's a difference between singing a song and a full-on performance.

If this were simply a song, she wouldn't be doubting herself. O.P. responded, it was just a song. You know what? That brings up a good point. Why would you even ask, am I the asshole with what was written there, right? Yeah. Like, I would, if I, if that was the entire story, there would be no reason to even question, Am I the asshole? Right. It sounds like this person came on here saying, please tell me I'm not the asshole,

but I'm not gonna give you full context that would show you that I was the asshole. I think, I think there's also, we're still missing context because that first reply from OPE that said, nope, no requirements like that, 98 down votes. It feels like you would volunteer, it was this song, this is like the time it was. Or is it Mark and his friends and they found the thread?

Oh yeah. They're voting it down. Yeah, 98 times. Someone else said, info. Did you pick the song choice or did Mark and James? OP responded, I picked the song. Uh-huh. 255 downbo. There is a seeming like this person just needs to volunteer what the song was.

Yeah, just tell us to tell us what the song was. So someone goes, info. How long did you sing? And what did you sing? They're just demanding it out right. Yes. You were asked, I can't help think that there's more here to this story. OPE responded, I sang good looking by Dixon Dallas, which has 244 down votes. I don't know that song.

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I think this is this reminds me of we had a story where a woman wanted to wear a dress to her gay friend's wedding that that was covered in rats and stuff. There's a there's a meme online called like gay rat wedding. Okay. She wanted to wear a whole dress that was like we support gay rats. And it's it's once again's like, hey, you're thinking you're doing something and you're not. There should, yeah, there should be like a, there should be like a sub-writer called like, when being an ally goes too far or whatever. Because like, it's like, it's trying too hard to the point that you become like big. Right. What I love is, she's going, he's mad that I outshined. that he's that he's that he's that he's that he's that he's that he's that he's that he's that that that that that that that that trying too hard to the point that you become like bigot. Right.

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Am I the asshole for deleting my roommates 100 hour game save? What the fuck? Why would you do that? Holy shit! Using a throw away... Hold on, which game? Oh, Ian, I already know how upset you're going to be. Is it Skyrim? No, hold on. Ian's, we're, Ian's gonna be so upset in a second. Using a throwaway because my roommate follows my Reddit account.

I, a 23-year-old man, recently moved in with my college buddy, Mike, who's 24. We've both been avid gamers for years with a shared love of RPGs. When we decided to live together, we pooled our resources to get the latest gaming console and some shared titles. The Witcher 3, Wild Hunt, was one of our mutual favorites. Mike Duffin before I did and got incredibly immersed in the game. Over a month, he mentioned he'd put in over a hundred hours, completing side quests, obtaining rare armor, and progressing significantly in the main storyline. A few days ago, eager to start my own journey in the game, I accidentally overwrote Mike's game save, thinking I was creating a new slot for myself. By the time I realized my mistake, his entire progress was gone. Mike was understandably

livid when he found out. He explained how he painstakingly completed challenging parts of the game and my mistake had undone all his effort. I apologize profusely and even offered to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their. their. their. their. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the tea. tea. the tea. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the game. the the the of the game, and my mistake had undone all his effort. I apologized profusely and even offered to buy him a new game or help him replay parts of it, but he said it wasn't the same. Some of our friends believe it was just an unfortunate accident on my part, while others think I should have been more careful, given how much time Mike invested in the game. I genuinely thought I was setting up my own save slot, had no intention of erasing his accomplishments. But seeing how hurt and upset Mike is, I'm starting to feel like my negligence might make me the asshole in this situation. Am I the asshole? No, I don't think he's the asshole, but God damn does that hurt.

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having designated save slots for different people sharing a console died in 2013. On all modern gaming consoles even if one person digitally purchases a game on a console, all consoles are set up so that any other account can play that game and enjoy it with zero interference with any of the save data of anyone else. Everyone has their own free account and gets access to only their own saves. If it's downloaded? I think so. I don't know about that.

It comes from 2023 too. So this is a PS5. It might be true. My download to the console. I just haven't checked, but. By being in a position to delete Mike's saves, it implies that you are playing on Mike's account instead of your own free account, whether it be a PSN or Xbox or Nintendo profile. This is simply negligent. I'd give you a pass if you just didn't know any better better but you describe yourself and Mike as avid gamers and this is how console games have worked for over a decade, so you should have absolutely known better. This is just complete negligence on your part. You're absolutely the asshole in the situation. Get your own account and leave Mike's saves alone. I think yeah, he definitely probably didn't change over to his account. But still, like if he hit new game and th, and th, and th, and th, and th, and th, and the game, and the game, and the game, and the game, the game, the game, the game, th, the game, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, tho, tho, tho, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th is th is th is th is th is th is th is th is thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, theeeeeean, thoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, the, th, at the very least he didn't change over to his account, but still,

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Maybe he didn't realize, I don't know. I think it was definitely negligent. It's definitely negligent knowing how which or three works too with saves. Someone said, info, how did this actually happen? Do you not have your own game profiles on the console? That's why game profiles exist to stop exactly this problem. Someone else said, not to mention which or three asks before it deletes a save. You have to accept before it will proceed. So, no matter way it shakes, I feel like he had a moment and he was, maybe he was honestly,

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well, it's not even a real thing. Like, it's like I wasn't trying to hurt him. And it's more than that. That I was going to say, up until that comment, I was like, he's, he he he he he he he he, he, he, he, he, he, that, that, that, that, that, that comment, I was like, he's not necessarily the asshole, like, because he's offering like, hey, I'll buy you a game, I'm so sorry, like, but stuff like this comment is like, hey, man, all right, don't now disrespect the situation. Like acknowledge that you messed up. But it's a bummer.

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but I was like, I'm gonna get all these side quests on. Kind of got burnt out, I stopped playing it. And then I forget exactly what happened. I think I got a new console, or something happened. And I might have accidentally overwrote my save, and I lost all of it. And I was just like, oh. Did you replay it? No.

It's, it, that game, specifically, can't. Skyrim, I would do it because there's like different things. But which whichc, three is an awesome game, but to replay it, it's so much. Very expensive. Just log, right? It's very cinematic, which is cool, but it makes replaying it like, all right, I got to really invest in this. And I don't, you know, you spend 100 hours on something you've already done. Yeah, as a whole other basis. Have you played the expansions?

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I thought you were to say like stop crying at Home Depot ads. That's funny. Just so good. My wife, a 27-year-old woman. My wife, sorry, it got me. My wife, a 27-year-old woman, and I, a 27-year-old man, have been making trips to Home Depot to renovate our backyard. It's become a little date for us, and we enjoy the quality time.

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It's like, obviously he's not thinking about what is the outcome going to be if I say this, but I'm just thinking in his head, he's like, okay, I'm just going to tell her doesn't look like her dad and she's going to be like, you're right. Yeah. You're right. I'm good. He was like, he was like clearly embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed embarrassed and wanting to protect his own embarrassment. Dude, it's Home Depot. Like, who cares, man? You're never going to see any of these people. Oh, wait, maybe they go there every Sunday. They're on their Home Depot, Dave.

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Yeah, for him to be like, I comforted her through her grieving process. Like, grieving just ends after like six months. It's like, the process ended. Yeah, it's over. That guy's like, at least like 20 pounds heavier than your dad. Looks nothing like them. That guy's way handsomer than your dad. Yeah. I mean, his wife was all, she was so respectful still saying that he was disrespect like she could have blown up on him

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Yeah. So that's what I'm worried about. Someone else said, I hope you're trolling, especially with the vibe comment. You're the asshole. Grief hits at different times and anything can trigger it doesn't have to be logical to be logical little as a mannerism, a walk, or how they were standing, and it brought forth emotions, have some empathy and compassion. O.P. in response to a now deleted comment, thank you. I understand I was insensitive, but these comments are also making me think I was indeed

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Okay. All right. Hey. I was bathing our two daughters five and two about a week ago. When I was drying them off, my daughter was talking about being naked and how you're only naked in private and for things like taking a bath. I told her, yes, that's true. Then she said, that lady was naked on Daddy. I was confused.

What do you mean? Daddy and that lady were naked there. She pointed to our bed. What the fuck? I asked her who the lady was, and she shrugged like she obviously didn't know. I can't think of what she claims she saw. He's on his phone a lot, always texting people.

I haven't asked him why he's always has his phone glued to him, even in the shower. I feel uncomfortable demanding he handed over his phone. He gets up very early to go to the gym now. Going to the gym isn't the the the the the the th for the thue thue thue thoom is is the th. He. Hee th. Hee thoom is thoom is thoom is the thoom is thoom is thoom is the the thoom. He's thoomb. He's thoom. Hea up very early to go to the gym now. Going to the gym isn't new for him, but he used to go after work. Now sometimes he goes before work and after work, supposedly. He is constantly horny and has been for the past few months. I've asked him what's wrong with him. He says he doesn't know, but it's like he's 18 again and he's constantly getting hard, and can't stop thinking about sex. He never had a problem in this area, but he was also never like this.

He's become obsessed with sex and constantly wants it. At first it was flattering, and I felt desired, and he wanted it seemingly from me so often that I never imagined he could be cheating. Now I'm wondering why did he suddenly go from being a normal man with a healthy sex drive to being like a teenage boy. None of these things by itself is super suspicious, other than what my daughter said. She doesn't know anything else and had nothing further to share with me about what she saw or what daddy was doing,

and I don't want to involve her any further. What would you make of this? Do you think I'm being overly suspicious? Should I just come right out and ask him what in the hell our daughter was talking taki talk it, but if he has something to hide, I don't think he'll admit to me that easily. Thank you for any help with this one. Who? Oh, man. I don't know why like the image of like,

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is like this. I don't know what that could be. The like going to the gym before and after work, I'm like, okay, man. As someone who goes to the gym every day, I'm like, that's a lot. There's a specific type of person who does that and you know who they are, but for that to just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just suddenly suddenly suddenly suddenly suddenly suddenly suddenly suddenly suddenly to just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just to just that to just suddenly be a behavior that you do is, that's a big leap. Yeah. Especially when you have a two, when you have a two, I do think, I do think when you have a two and five year old, it's a little, this is my personal opinion, I think it's a little

irresponsible as a parent if you're going to the gym before and after work, unless you're literally a professional athlete. I'm like, hey man, that's like an hour or two, you could go home and help your wife with a two and five-year-old. Sure. Yeah, I mean, it really does depend on a lot of factors, but yeah, if you're leaving the kids with the wife, just so that you can work and go to the gym, the gym and be gone to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to work to go to go to work work work work to go to work work work work work. to work. to go to work work work work work work work work work work work work work to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to work work work work work work work work work work work to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go to go and the the the the the the the the to go. to go. to go. to go to to to to to to to to the to to to to the to to to the to the to the to go the to go the not paying any attention. You're on your phone in the shop. Yeah, yeah, for sure. Water blasting. They can barely hear him. He's like, yeah. Yeah. For sure. I truly don't understand. Because like when you get water on your phone, you can't like text. Like, it's like, you have to be talking. I would assume he didn't want to, to be texting it's just really bad. to, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. That's true. I mean, I was assuming that he just wanted to see any notification that came through. It kind of didn't want his phone to be out like on a countertop for his wife to see. Yeah. It feels like all signs are pointing to something fishy being up.

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then the and invaded his privacy. That is 24 down votes. I don't know if I think that the relationship's done but I think when you are that suspicious like work needs to be done. Yeah, yeah. Whether something's happening or not, it's like, hey, there's a lack of communication. If you are assuming this person could be doing all this stuff behind your back. OP responded to that. I did slash do trust him, but it's hard to shake what my daughter said. I can't stop thinking about it. I thought we had a great relationship. Yeah. Sounds like he's become very distant in many ways, but then also wanting to just have sex all the time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. th. th. th. th. to. to. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. to. to. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the.then also wanting to just have sex all the time.

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Let's find out. This was posted like about a week after the original post. This past Friday night, I brought it up. I didn't really want to bring our daughter into it, but I felt like mentioning this strange thing she said that she saw would be the least accusatory way to bring it up. Like, you'll never guess what she said. His reaction was just to laugh, but it was a genuine laugh, not a nervous laugh. He said, yeah, probably when she peaked in the door like two weeks ago, but you were busy. He was laughing the whole time the whole time he toled th. He. He. He was. He was. He was. He was. He was. He was laughing. He was laughing. He was laughing. He was laughing. He was laughing. He was laughing. He was laughing. He was laughing the whole. He was laughing. He was laughing. He was laughing the whole. He was laughing the whole. He was laughing. He was laughing. He was laughing the whole. He was laughing, he laughing the whole. He was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing, he was laughing the whole. He was laughing the whole. He was laughing the whole. He was laughing the whole. He was. He was laughing the whole time. He was. He was. He was. said, that time it took me like 30 minutes to finally come, that's why. I lost it.

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She only peaked in and was probably very confused and wouldn't imagine her mommy would be naked and doing whatever weird things she just saw me doing, acting so funny. I kept telling him I didn't believe him. I didn't believe him. He was insistent on yes, it happened, and I didn't notice. I was really enjoying myself, and he's sorry if it makes him an asshole for not stopping me so I could run after our daughter who probably needed something and just wanted to come sleep in our room, which she frequently does.

He was like, seriously, you think I'm cheating on you, and that I'd bring somebody here when I was alone with our daughters? He handed me his phone. I told him I didn't want to look at it. He insisted I look at it and go through everything to prove himself. I asked him what about his increased sex drive. He claims he doesn't know why he's so horny all the time. He's just been working outto me lately, like I got even more attracted to him since I gained about 10 pounds. I asked him about the multiple gym trips per day.

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I mean, there are ways to be that at that level. If you are that nuts, yes. It would just be a lot of calculated things in order to make this cheating thing happen and to be able to cover it up like this. Someone in the comments said, classic Reditor plot twist, he saw the original post and deduced it was about him and had time to figure out what to say to justify it with help from comments. No. Crying laughing emoji. I mean, oh sure, sure, sure. Someone else said everything he said was reasonable and he was so quick too. Didn't turn it back on you, didn't deflect, didn't accuse you of craziness, then he just offered up the phone. I'd say, believe him, he doesn't seem suspicious.

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But she's not describing any sort of pattern. Someone else said, it sounds like you are the problem in the situation, to be honest. He sounds like a pretty reasonable guy to humor the amount of scrutiny you are putting on him. And someone else said, are you okay? He answered all of your questions, no matter how ridiculous. I think you need therapy or a glass of wine to chill out like for real. Now what I will say from her side is like, I think we've all been there where we, something happens and we get suspicious about something, even if it's crazy and if your heads in it for like a week, that kind of becomes your reality. And you are delusional, but it's impossible to just like jump back.

It's hard to just be like, oh, you're right, I'm being crazy. All right, I'm good. Also, it kind of creates a riff in the relationship. Even rift in the relationship, even if it was a today, theymeat. Even if it was just all in her head, you know, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, th, th, th, th, th. th. th. th th to, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, th. th th th where it's like, I thought this was the case, so then I started behaving as if it was the case and now the relationship is kind of, our interactions together are as if it were true at this point, even if it's not. Yeah, because suspicion can really rip a relationship apart because it's all built on trust. So if you don't have that trust, that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship that relationship will

because it's all built on trust, so if you don't have that trust, that relationship will start to decay. So she has to try to remedy that on her side and maybe it'll just take time. It's good that she just like put it out there. Yeah. And it seems like now it's out there, they can move on. Right, and he could now cheat without her knowing. All right, next story here. Am I the asshole for keeping prize money that my sister and her friends asked me to hold on to while they did their weight loss challenge and all ended up gaining weight? Oh. Oh! Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. You're like, I guess I'm the winner here.

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Basically, they each paid $700 into a fund, and the one who lost the most weight this Labor Day would get the entire $2,800. To keep it neutral, they wanted an impartial party to hang on to the money. I told her absolutely not, that I didn't want anything to do with this. She basically begged me saying that this was going to be her motivation to finally turn her life around. So I agreed. The way it was supposed to work is they were going to text or email their numbers once a month, I would enter them into a spreadsheet and email it out. First month, everyone was enthusiastic and sent stuff right away. The second month, I had to remind them.

The third month, I had to remind them again, and only one even bothered to reply to me, and it wasn't my sister. The next month I didn't care, and no one asked me about it. So we went for eight months, and no one mentioned it again. My sister called and asked me who won. I said no one as far as I knew. She said I should give the money to her. I said that was ridiculous and she needed to get her friends involved before I did anything. That turned into the nastiest group text I've ever seen with caddiness, backbiting, accusations,

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but it's a damn good story. And I'm sure stuff like this has happened. We have already dealt with so many stories of money, just being a huge problem for people. It reminds me to of any story I've heard about people winning the lottery. Or it's just, boom, nightmare. Ruins lives. So this next story, a bit of a trigger warning.

Women in unsafe situations, so you can skip to the next story if you want, if that's not something you want to hear about. So here we go. True off my chest. Do guys really just not get it? I was out with my friend Mark a little while ago, and we had gone to a very popular restaurant downtown, so we had to park three blocks away from the restaurant in a parking garage.

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to my car at least. He sighed an annoyance and rolled his eyes and finally agreed. I pulled out of my keys and arranged them so there was a key between eachched my fist. This earned another sigh from my friend. I got out of the elevator and half walked, half ran to my car, hugging the outer wall to put as much distance between me and the group of guys. I waited until I was almost at my car before unlocking it, hopping it, hopped in, and got out of there as quickly as I could. A few days later we were hanging out at my house, having a game night, and Mark decided to share the story of the story the story the story the story the story the story the story the story the story the story the story the story and Mark decided to share the story of our last night out and how ridiculous I had acted. One of the other guys laughed and said,

we're not all looking to jump a girl in a parking garage. One of my girlfriend spoke up and said, we have no real way of knowing if someone is dangerous or not, that most girls have had a bad experience with someone that they never would have thought that they were the type type type type type type type type type type type type type type type the the the the the the the the the the the that they were the type to do that, friends, family parents, friends, coworkers, etc. The conversation quickly moved on to another topic, but I was sitting there thinking of a few of the times that guys in my life just didn't seem to get to get that we have rules that we follow. My ex-husband would get so frustrated when I would ask him to lock the door if he was leaving if I was going to be to be going to be going to be to be going to be to be to be the only going to be going the only going the only going to be going the only going the only going to be the only going to be the only going to be the only to be to be the only to be the only only only only only only to be to be the only to be to be to be the only only only only only only only only only only only only only only only only to be to be to be to be to be to be to be the o' the o' the o' the o' the o' the o' the o' the o' the only going the only going the only going the only going the only going the only going the only going the only going the only going going going the only going, the only going, the only only only only only one one one one one one one one one one one one one one one one to be to be to be to be the only one one one one one one one one to be the only one one one one to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to for apartments on a budget and not understanding that I will not take a garden or first-level apartment as a single girl. A tinder date not understanding why I check in with a nearby

friend the first few times going out with them. My friend who is my roommate for a couple of years not understanding why I look out the people and put the chain on before opening the door if I do not know the person knocking. There are many other examples but thinking about all this just makes me wonder do guys really not get it? Edit I am not trying to bag on men with this question. I know there are decent people. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Sadly I think a lot of guys don't. I think it's, yeah, yeah, sure. I think oftentimes maybe it's like, if men don't have close relationships with other women,

like that aren't, you know, maybe they're like significant other or something, like maybe that's where it comes from. I don't know, because I think if you're in enough situations where you're like listening to your friends talk about life, those stories always come up. Yeah, I mean, because I've had a lot of friends who are women since I was a teenager and you just would hear about it constantly. For sure.

I mean, just every single girl I know has stories from last week, you know, like it's not just like, oh, this one time 10 years ago, it's like, no, here's a constant thing that happens. I mean, if you're out anywhere and you just kind of observe, you'll see that men just, you'll see that men behave strangely around women all the time, you know. And I think one of the issues, and one of the issues, and one men just don't get it is because many people were taught when they were young, treat others like you would like to be treated or like think about if you were in their shoes and the issue is that you can't just be like, oh, but if I were you, I wouldn't be scared when you are not a woman of whatever size and

shape and whatever, like you, you cannot actually imagine what it would be like to be them unless you think outside the box of who you are. Right. So you're like, I wouldn't care. So why do you? Like, that's just, it's, right. Or, or putting yourself, like, they, that person putting themselves in the shoes of like being that guy in the parking garage. Me like, well, if I was in a parking garage with my friends,

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Why don't you? And it's like, okay, if you feel safe, then walk them to miss the elevator, whatever. Who cares? Yeah, yeah. They were more concerned about their, you know, 30 seconds than safety and their friend. They're not really aware or considerate of their friend's feelings, it seems. I think they're just lacking empathy. Yeah. Really.

Yeah. Comments here. I'm a man, and everything you describe seems sensible to me. I think a lot of people, both men and women, sort of have this attitude that things happen to other people. I think it's kind of a coping mechanism so you can look out at the world and say, nope, that's just that stuff that happens to other people. I live in a safe world. Yeah, OPE responded. Most women I know really do not have the the the the the the the the the their thagued, I thagued, I thired, thired, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, tho, thi, thi, thi, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, tho, tho, th. And, I th. And, I th. And, I th. And, th. And, th. And, th. And, th. And, th. And, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thin, thin, thin, thin, thin, the. I the thean, thin, thin, is is, thean, thean, is, thin. I'm, is, is kind is thin, is kind is kind thi of thinking that way. I was essayed when I was nine and have taken reasonable precautions ever since and still had other things happen as I've gotten older.

I know out of my girlfriends out of probably ten of them, nine have been harassed or assaulted. Someone else said, my favorite comment that made everything click for me as a guy was when a woman said, imagine you as a guy walking down the street and half the people on the street are 300-pound NFL linebackers. They also want to fuck you. Not going to lie. That did make me feel very uncomfortable to go outside, but that's how it is. Nothing against 300-pound linebackers, just not my jam.

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The mindset that Mark in this story has is a privilege of not having ever experienced. Yeah. You can believe you live in a safe world if your world has always been safe. But someone who's gone through something, they're like, well, I can't convince myself of that. Right. And I have experienced stuff. If something happens to Mark, he might, unfortunately, you know, that situation could be the thing that completely changes his point of view.

Oh, I get it now. Right. All right. Moving on. Here's our last story. Ooh, it's going to be spicy. I feel it. Am I the asshole for ass ass ass the a a a the a the a the a the a the the the the the the the the the the the thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. I. I. I. I thi. I thi. thi. thi. I'm. I'm. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. I. I. thi. t. t. t. t. t. t. t.a.a.a. t.a.a.a. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. that. feel it. Okay, let's see. Am I the asshole for looking out for my new co-worker by telling her that her food might be upsetting to others?

Oh, I already know what this is probably gonna be. We've experienced this before. We love, we love a good, like, okay, here we go. Is it spicy? Hold on. I, 32-year-old man, white. Okay. We already know what it is. Should we take bets on what kind of food this is? Okay, I can't, I'm, you guys can take bets though if you want.

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My co-worker, Anna, 23-ish, female, Asian, is new at our office, and she brings her lunch on days we don't have a food truck. On Thursday, yesterday, she brought in a homemade stir fry and used our shared microwave in the break room to do it. I was in the room when she took it out of the microwave and it smelled heavenly. I asked her about the recipe and she told me it was just a bunch of ingredients and spices thrown together so as to not waste any veggies that might go the the the the the the the the to the to the the to to the the the to not waste any veggies that might go bad soon. When I was telling her how good it smelled, I also mentioned that some other people at the office might think it would be too smelly or ethnic. As in, racist people tend to look down on ethnic things.

I have read those kinds of stories on here about microagressions when it comes to people of color, and the food to bring it in anymore, so it doesn't happen to her. I emphasize that it smelled good to me personally, though. I guess a couple of other co-workers in the room overheard our conversation because after Anna left the room, some of them sort of quietly told me how it was inappropriate for me to have said that. I told them that it's true that ethnic food gets ridiculed for smelling too strong and that I disagreed with that sentiment,

but I also think she would face less harassment if she didn't bring in that food anymore. Wow. One of my other co-workers then said that I was the only one harassing her and making insinuations that her food is problematic, plus the fact that she hasn't even been been the the their own food that often since she just started last week, so there couldn't have been an opportunity to have had this hypothetical harassment happened to her. I just wanted people, yes, even the assholes at the office, to make her feel

welcomed. I left work that day, not thinking anything of it, until the following morning where I heard from a different co-worker that Anna talked to our HR department about the conversation and how she was hurt. I'm a bit frustrated as to why she didn't talk to me about it first, since it was just a misunderstanding and that I'm looking out for her. I did notice that today she was trying to dodge me, which is unusual and a bit heartbreaking. I just want to work things out. I wanted to be a friend to her and help her out since this is one of her first jobs out of undergrad, but this has been blown out of proportion. Now my co-workers think I'm racist, but I really try my best to be an ally. But then again, what do I know?

So am I the asshole for telling her that her food might be too much for other potentially racist people in the office to handle? Okay, this is so funny. This is like, he's like, just, I read all about micro aggressions. So, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, look, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, thi, thi, thi, th. thi, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to, th. to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to, to. I'm just trying to prevent you with your smelly ethnic food from offending racists. Look, I've read all about microaggressions, so I'm really good at it. Yo, that food, that food smells amazing, but watch out. There are racists here who don't like ethnics. Like you. You better be careful.

Now, none of them are gonna say it, but I'll say it for it. Everyone's thinking it. The food was stir fry. Stir fry? Stry fry, vegetable stir fry. With vegetables and spices. Vegetables and spices. And this guy's saying it smelled incredible.

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But instead he's going, you shouldn't bring this in. You just did the racist thing. By you should start bringing in more white people food here. We don't want you to offend the white racists. I'm not racist. I think it smells great. I love it. But for those other people, you got to stop. Look, I love whatever this, this thing, what do you call this?

What do you are that? What are vegetables? One thing I'm good at identifying is stuff that might offend the racist. Yeah. I'm very good at that. Dude, insane. Insane to be like, yeah, other people are racist in here. You need to do the work and change your lifestyle for that. You might offend a racist.

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micro-aggression. And he said it in front of everyone too, like not even a private, not that that would have made it much better. He really, he really pissed off everyone at once. Yeah, pretty cool. By being an ally. Damn, this what I get for being an ally. You're the asshole, you are not protecting her from racists. You yourself are being a racist. If you're trying to convince us slash her, slash yourself that you're an ally, you might be more than a bit delusional. Also, stop trying to hang around your young co-worker. That also is in my head. I'm like you saw an opportunity to be like cool to the to to the opportunity. th. th. th. th. th. You. You. You. You th. You th. You th. You th. You th. You th. You th. You th. You th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thin, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, thi, thi, thi, thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, you saw an opportunity to be like cool to this 23-year-old. Yeah, yeah. I got life figured out up here.

Yeah, I know things around here. I've been on this earth for nine years longer than you, and if there's one thing I know, is that racist or here. Look, I watched the green book. So. Okay. You're the assuil. You came the the the you came off like this. Some people might say that your food is smelly.

Not me though, but some people. And then you proceeded to call her food ethnic. You might as well have worn a shirt that said some people on it with an arrow pointing to your face. Doesn't sound like you were ill-intentioned, but sometimes you just have to give a compliment and let it be. Yeah, like, I don't know, what the hell? There's an update.

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What I said was really stupid. If it means anything to you guys, I remember entering the workforce as a young man shadowing assholes and I didn't know how to express how shitty I was treated since I thought it was normal to be treated a certain way or overhear certain things. I just thought she was a sweet girl who didn't deserve to see the nasty side of corporate life so quickly. But I guess I ended up being like the guys that made my earlier career so god-au-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-s...... I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I's. I'm thr-s. I'm thr-s. I'm thr-n't-s. I'm thr-n't thr-s. I'm thr-n't-a-n't-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-n. I was th. I was th. I was thi. I was thi. I was thrc. I was tree. I was a treat. I'm treate-s. I'm treaty-s. I'm tr-s. I'ma-s. treaty-s. treaty-s. treaty-s. treaty-s. treaty-s. I treaty-s. I'm to apologize to her in the most HR-friendly way this Tuesday. Hopefully she doesn't quit, but I also don't want to be the one that gets fired. Fingers crossed, thank you for opening my eyes and I hope to do my due diligence to be a real ally. To be a real ally. A real? Yeah.

Um. Okay. Yeah. I mean, like, I think some people just try too hard and they just don't realize like their own biases and like, I don't know, like when you're like going like too far off the deep end and into like allyship where where it's like you're making everything about this interaction about their race, which then in turn is a micro question. I also think in my mind, like I said about this being a young, like I said, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, th, th, like, the like, their, like, their, like, like, their, like, like, their, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, about their race, which then in turn is a micro-agency. I also think in my mind, like I said, about this being a young woman is I think this wasn't

him being an ally, this was him being selfish, and he thought this was an opportunity to make himself special. Like she's new, look, I don't know what the situation, how he feels about this girl, but I just thought it's like, oh, she's, oh, the new girls here. Let me show her that I'm actually the coolest guy in this office. It wasn't about making her feel safe. It wasn't about being an ally. It was about him. Yeah. Is my personal interpretation off this story?

I could be wrong. like 23, she's like, she's an adult. She's, she's, like, for her, for him to say like, oh, she's like sweet and I didn't want her to like be ruined by this corporate environment. Like, she chose a job there. There's also some mild racism in that, of like, the sweet, innocent. Yeah, there could be some, some of that. My take on this is like, look, man, as an ally, like, if you witness racism, then stand up for that and like fight back against that, don't preemptively tell this person to change their lifestyle.

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Ah, well, man, a couple insane allies in this one. The whole ally. And a bad ally who was like, I gotta get the elevator, dude. I'm sorry, you, you're fine. Well, crazy stories. Wow. Nuts. Yeah. Yeah. I want to hear that whole bussy song. Guys, we're gonna go listen to the bussy song. Yeah. Thank you both for being here. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for teaching me about kissing my bussy. You got it man. Anytime. Thank you for being here. Thank you for teaching me about, you know, kissing my bussy. You got it, man. Anytime. And thank you for watching. Let us know what other types of themes, subreddits. If you want to see a bad ally episode, let us know in the comments.

Or a gay wedding episode. Ooh. And next week we have Zach from the Try Guys here. Let's go. It's gonna be good. So we'll see you then. Bye. Kissing all my pussy.