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Sabrina is here to help us judge these delulu people. 0:00-0:59 Intro 1:00-14:17 My friend named her baby after my ex https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/18y8oe1/aita_for_refusing_to_call_my_friends_baby_by_his/ 14:18-32:15 Should I sue my friend over her book? https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/18jr3lv/wibta_for_suing_my_friend_after_she_wrote_a_book/ 32:16-45:09 Dropped out of a dry wedding last minute https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/18sc2ii/aita_for_last_minute_declining_to_go_to_a_friends/ 45:10-53:39 Confronted my friend for taking our pic out of his wallet https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/13qluo4/aita_for_confronting_my_friend_for_taking_our/ 53:40-59:29 I asked my guest if they had sex https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/18ki32x/aita_asking_guests_if_they_had_sex/ 59:30-1:11:54 I want to steal my friend's bf https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/18zl2r4/i_want_to_fuck_my_friends_bf/ SUBSCRIBE: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshPit WEAR OUR JOKES: https://smosh.com WHO YOU HEAR Shayne Topp // https://www.instagram.com/shaynetopp/ Angela Giarratana // https://www.instagram.com/angelagiovanagiarratana/ Sabrina Brier // https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabrier/ WHO YOU DON’T HEAR (usually) Director: Kiana Parker Editor: Vida Robbins Director of Programming, Smosh Pit: Emily Rose Jacobson Associate Producer, Smosh Pit: Bailey Petracek Assistant Director: Amanda Barnes Art Director: Cassie Vance Assistant Art Director: Erin Kuschner Art Coordinator: Alex Aguilar Audio Mixer: Scott Neff Camera Operator: Jon Wong Director of Photography: Eric Wann Director of Design: Brittany Hobbs DIT/AE: Matt Duran CEO: Alé Catenese EVP of Production: Zoe Moacanin EVP of Programming: Kiana Parker Executive Coordinator: Rachel Collis IT: Tim Baker Operations PA: Katie Fink Post Production Manager: Luke Baker Production Manager: Amanda Barnes Production Coordinator: Marcus Munguia Production Assistant: Ovsana Tsaturian Senior Manager, Channel & Strategy: Lizzy Jones Talent Coordinator: Selina Garcia OTHER SMOSHES: Smosh: https://smo.sh/Sub2Smosh Smosh Games: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshGames El Smosh (Spanish Dub): https://smo.sh/Sub2ElSmosh SmoshCast: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshCast FOLLOW US: TikTok: https://smo.sh/TikTok Snapchat: http://smo.sh/OnSnapchat Instagram: https://instagram.com/smosh Facebook: https://facebook.com/smosh Twitter: https://twitter.com/smosh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Thank you for joining us today. I'm delighted to be here and I'm really I'm ready to really like for us all to really sink our teeth in to this so yeah yeah yeah for sure I'm absolutely ready. A lot of people here at Smosh are big fans of yours. Huge. That's so nice. Me and I love Smosh. Oh, thank you. That's so nice of you to say. Are you familiar with Reddit at all? Yes.

Okay. Do I have to like, I'm just going to say yes. You don't have to explain anything. That's fine. So we have a little bit of a theme today. It's kind of around friend drama, a little bit. You know, it orbits that sphere. So. All right, here we go.

First story. Am I the asshole for refusing to call my friend's baby by his first name when she named him after my ex. Oh! Right off the bat. What are we thinking on that one? Wait. Oh my God. Because I think there's an important distinction here.

Did, like, was the ax, it just, did that happen to be the name? I know, we need to always dreamt of? OK. Or was it really like no, like I love your ex. I wish you guys were still together. That's true. That changes it. And the ex now lives in my child kind of thing. Okay. Because those are, you know what I mean? That's fair. Yeah. All right. Let's see. So one of my, this is a 25 year old woman, one of my closest friends, who's 24, and her boyfriend, who's 25, recently welcomed a baby boy. Out of all the names they could have landed on, they decided to name him Luca, after my ex-Luke.

Luke and I broke up several months ago, and it wasn't an amicable end to the relationship. However, Luke and my friend's boyfriend, Ben, are best friends and workmates, and they used to live together before Ben moved in with his girlfriend, so they're extremely close. Apparently close enough for Ben to suggest naming his son after him. My friend knows our relationship didn't end well, so I was pretty hurt when I found out she was honoring him by naming her son after him. She told me that Luca was a name she'd loved forever, and that Luke is someone who is really important part of Ben's life, so the name just made sense. I don't understand why they couldn't honor any other male in either of their lives, such

as their fathers or brothers, or even just use Luca as a middle name, but I can't change their opinion, so whatever. I don't want to be reminded of my I'm playing... From his middle name, James. I even made him a blanket embroidered with that nickname. I don't see a problem because I think it's perfectly normal for people to have nicknames that are only used by one person. Even for myself, my uncle has his own nickname for me that no one else uses. But my friend got upset when she saw the blanket and heard me addressing him by that name, saying it was was childish and disrespectful and it was erasing part of her son's identity. I asked her what

she expected from me after naming her son after my ex, and she told me that I was being self-centered and that just because I had a bad relationship with Luke doesn't mean she or Ben did, so I can't expect her to take into account my feelings with everything related to her son. I think that that not that not that not that not that not that not that not that not that not that not that not that not th, th, th, th, th, th, tho, tho, the tho, tho, thi, tho, tho, tho, their, tho, the the the the, tho, the the tho, the tho, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. th the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, theat, to theat, toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, toe, theat, theat, the, the, the her to take into account my feelings with everything related to her son. I think that not naming her son after a person who I just ended a long-term relationship with is not a far-fetched request at all, and her violating that request is just an invitation for me to address her son by whatever nickname I choose. Also, it's worth noting that me and Luke were, so it's not like she had known Luke for a long period of time or had any sort of relationship or interactions with him before I started dating him. So, am I the asshole? It's so loaded. That's it's freaking it's dripping. It's dripping. That's insane. Because also it's interesting how she

end or right it's female perspective or who knew, who knows? It's interesting how she ended, or right, it's a female perspective, or who knows. It's interesting how she ended with that she and her acts had gotten together before the best, because that's actually the probably the most important piece of information is, you know, the origin of how you met someone. Of course things can change, maybe you get closer, but the origin of how you met someone, of course things can change, maybe you get closer, but the origin of how you met someone came into your life, that's kind of the determining factor. Yes, she's time stamping. I'm like really, I'm like, I have a lot of thoughts on this. Second of all, okay, my gorgeous nephew's name is Luke and I have like a friend with a

brother named Luca and another friend with a son named Luca. And to me they're not the same name. Sorry, it's different. It's truly so different. It's different. Yeah, I'm a little confused by that too, because Luca and Luke. Like maybe they just liked the name Luca, but then also they were like, and we love Luke, so we'll just make that connection. Yeah. Third of all, you can't rename someone else's baby. Okay, the Jamie thing, I think is the craziest part of it.

And you can't just be like... James is his middle name is the only defense. Okay. James is his middle name, not Jamie. Right. And now we're talking about four different names, by the way. Let's just also be talking Luke, Luca, Jamie. And those are all different, right?

So it's- This baby's gonna grow up and they're gonna be like, what's your name? He's like, I have no fucking- He's gonna have a serious identity crazy. Yeah. It's also so fucking loaded to give a blanket with Jamie on it. Yeah.

It's a lot. It's like you're putting in that extra effort while still simultaneously refusing to say the kid's. Fun fact, in terms of popularity, Luca was the number 10 boy name for 2023. So very popular name right now and also that that Pixar movie. So on one hand, the you know, OP, that's what they call it, right? Oh my god, she's a Reddit girl. Or internet. On one hand, you know OP,. could say, hey guys, this is a popular name. Be original. Like, pick something else, right? Yeah. Yeah. If you want to be manipulative in a good way. Yeah. I'm just, I guess I'm just trying to put myself in her, in her show. Right. Yeah. Would you go full force like, that's my ex? I just, I just, I mean, personally, no disrespect to this lovely, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm this. this. this. this. this this this this this this this this this this, I'm this, I'm this, I'm this, I'm th. I'm to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to their, their, their, their, their, I'm, their, their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their the their the their their their their their too. toe. toe. toe. to I just I mean personally no disrespect to this lovely I'm sure lovely girl, but I would simply never in any way suggest to someone like hey my opinion of what your child's name

for the rest of their life we may not be friends a year from now and that child will live on. It's probably not my decision in any way whatsoever. Truly, that's how I feel. The name of a child is like a forever choice. It's forever. Like this isn't just like copy of my outfit. I mean, hey, they could change it, but like this is like a huge thing. Which, yes, and I agree, it's fully nuts to me. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, the the the the the thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, the thi thi thi thi the thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi, th agree, it's fully nuts to me that she's this upset when it's like, okay, maybe a couple years from now, you're not going to be, like, time will heal things and

you're not going to care, but this is a whole new person. Last thing I want to say though, I don't know if, I guess everyone's different, but they also did name their, they're saying at least, that that they're, that they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, their, they're, their, they're, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, they've, like a friend of theirs, I don't know how long they've known for. That's a lot to me, too. Oh yeah, the whole like, we wanted to honor him. Okay, that's just why. I wanted to honor my brother. Yeah, I'm not, there are so many other men to honor. It's like, again, I think everyone in this thread is forgetting, like, you guys might hate

each other in a year. Exactly. Like, they might hate Luke. And they might, like, all of these dynamics, it's like, you probably shouldn't be naming someone unless it's like a really, like, almost basically family member. I think it's all, you could argue it's all a little short-sighted. I wonder what he thought of it. I know. Meanwhile, he has another threat, he's like, this is kind of freaking weird. This is like my ex-ies friends? Yeah, yeah, it's like I really was ever like, she says

they're close, but maybe we don't know what he thinks. He might be like, these freaks her name her child after me. Someone actually named their child out for me. Yeah. Were you pissed? No I was honored. I was honored. We're honored. And well because but okay but here's I think with the name naming with all that right it's like I feel like there's never one specific name reason you pick a name. So I remember it was a old friend of like a friend of mine from kindergarten we've grown up together and her mom loved the name Sabrina. So it was more of like she was being introduced to the name via me

and had a good association. She was like, yeah, I always think of you. You're so bubbly and I want that for my Sabrina. So like, it's not like she was like, I am obsessed with you and I'm naming my child after you. cool to me. I like your energy. I'll take a little bit of that. I also just love the name, what an S name, right? Like there's multiple reasons, but for these people to really, I feel like they're really sticking to this whole honoring Ben thing and I, and Luke, and I think that's weird. Now this is coming from her perspective, she's saying, right. So we don't know if we talked to this couple, we this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. the couple, we this. the couple, we the couple, we the couple, we this, we to the couple, to to to their, to to to to to to to their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, this couple, they might have been like, oh yeah, it's not that heavy, it's just whatever. It's like, first perspective is fire,

because she even said, they're erasing my son's identity, or they're erasing her, whatever. Sounds like maybe they're all already mad at each other. This feels deeper. This is the catalyst. The verdict, the verdict was asshole. A bunch of comments here. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the, the, their, their, their, their, they're all, they're all, they're all, they're all, they're they're they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, they's, they's, they's, they's, they's, they's, they's, they, they, they, they, they, they's, they's, they're, they's, they're, they're, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, right, their their their, right, they're their they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're, they're the verdict was asshole, that she was the asshole. A bunch of comments here. Yes, of course you're the asshole. You don't request that someone doesn't name their kid because you don't want to be reminded of your ex.

Move on, no? Sounds like you haven't. Also, it's that child's name. It has its own identity. It's not your ex. You are just a spiteful person. Are you going to avoid all Luke's and its name variations for the rest of your life? Grow up. Ope responded. It's not about the name Luke. It's about the fact that they specifically named him after my ex. If someone who didn't know my ex named their child that, it would be completely different. Five hundred and three down votes. Someone asked for some info. They said aside from the obvious, why do he dump you? I'm really curious. OPE responded. Good information to know. I like how they're like, why do you dump you?

OPE responded, he cheated on me emotionally and always blamed me for everything wrong with our relationship and I dumped him. 48 down votes. Someone else had for some info. Is this real? You're the asshole and you sound super immature. Luca and Luke are not the same name. Even if they were, you respect other people and the names they choose for their children.

Have you not moved on from your ex? Your relationship problems are yours alone and it is ridiculous that you're getting other people involved. OP responded. We broke up a few months ago, and it was really a bad end to the relationship. How do you expect me to feel that when the man that broke me is honored by having my close friend's child named after him? All that says is that she values Luke more than me.

Two hundred forty down votes. Lastly, you're the asshole and you need to grow up. What if you get a new boss and his name is Luke? Are you gonna call him something else too? Luca and Luke aren't even the same name. You really need to get over it. OP responded, if I had a new boss named Luke then we wouldn't be, then he wouldn't be named in honor of the man who made my life a living hell.

39 down votes, Bro, I think is still not pissed at this couple for naming their son after her ex. She's pissed at this couple for still being friends with her ex. She's mad also that these friends like her ex more than they like her. It's also a loyal. How long have they been together? It's like, you know, just because she was originally dating this guy, maybe the friendship that Ben and him end up having is in their lifetimes ends up being th th th th th th th th th th th thi th thi thi-up thi-up thi-up thi-up thi-up thi-up thi-up thi-up thi-up thi------------------s thi----------------------------------------s thi-s thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi-s thi-s thi-s thi-s thi-s thi-s thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii thi thi thi thi th maybe the friendship that Ben and him end up having is in their lifetimes ends up being so much more significant

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Hey, look, our baby is going to come around and that's wild. They're like how do we stop hanging out with her? All right, started off with a good one. Let's move on to the next one. So this is a preemptive one. They're asking, would I be the asshole for suing my friend after she wrote a book about me? Wow. Okay. I, a 29-year-old woman have a friend called Maya, in quotes. Maya and I have been friends for nine years after meeting at university.

Maya went through a lot of mental health issues in her early mid-20s, which impacted her career prospects. But a couple of years ago, she found an outlet in writing, and now writes and publishes her stories online. They are sort of the spicy romance variety. I've never read any of them because they're just not my thing, but I know she has a lot of regular readers.

Recently, Maya shared that she had been contacted by a small publishing company, which publishes e-books who were interested in publishing one of the stories she had been sharing online. I was ecstatic for her, as it is a move towards making writing a profession, which is what she really wants. About three weeks ago, a mutual friend of ours, Amy, contacted me and asked if I had read any of Maya's current story, as she had looked it up online and she thought it had some eerie similarities to my life. I looked it up and read a big chunk of it, and it was more than just similarities. It was basically a melodramatic reimagining of my life,

specifically about my relationship with my fiancé, and my complicated relationship with my father. I don't know how relevant this is, but she also altered their characters and certain situations to make the plot pretty toxic. I was devastated and disgusted, to say the least. I met up with Maya and asked how she could do this to me. Her explanation was that she was so inspired by my life and the things I'd told her that the ideas just came to her. I kept saying they weren't

her ideas, they were sensationalized details of my real life. She didn't have a single original thought in the whole story. Maya apologized profused for, me and that she was embarrassed by how much she had taken from life, but she really loved writing the book. I told her I wasn't comfortable having my private life aired like that. Maya said nothing in the book was identifiable as me, so it wasn't like she'd done anything illegal. And I said, well we'll see about that. I've contacted lawyers and they've said suing her would be largely pointless in terms of stopping the book being published, but starting legal proceedings might scare a small publishing company enough to drop her as an author. I am seriously considering doing this.

Worst case, I can't do anything to stop the book going ahead, but I've caused her an iota of the stress and hurt she has caused me. Best case, this creepy project never sees the light of day. A couple of my friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends friends th f f f f f f f f f f this this this thi this thi this thi thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I th, I th, I thi, I th, I've thi, I thi, I've thi, I've th, I've th, I've th, I've th, I th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. I've thi. thi. I've thi, thi, thi, thi, Best case, this creepy project never sees the light of day. A couple of my friends are saying I shouldn't sue her, because at the end of the day this is her work and an opportunity for her to make a career for herself and take care of her child after all she's been through. I know this could ruin things for her and I might be acting out of anger, but I really think it's justified after she betrayed my trust like this. I be the asshole to go ahead with suing? That's also a loaded one. She can't sue her.

She's a child. And she can't? Sorry, she has a kid. She has a kid. Yes. As a mother. And also, if that were me, I would be like, if that were my friend, I'd be like, okay, what are the things in this story that you really want her to change?

Like certain things you're like, okay, I will be more comfortable, this detail, that detail, please just for me, if you really are my friend, do that. Let her go ahead with it and never speak to her again. That's what I know. That's what I know. Just know like that's not my girl. That's not my girl. That's not my girl. That's not your girl. Yeah, but like at a certain point it is if she if it other friends and if it really is true that there's nothing truly incriminating for the girl whose details it's about just like maybe mildly embarrassing for her within the in crowd, but no one else is really gonna know. Yeah. It sounds like she's writing about her friend's sex life

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is truly her passion, who are you to squat and take a big dump on it because your life story is entertaining? I assumed that all the names were probably changed anyways. Yeah. That would be insane if they weren't. OP responded to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the to the the the th. th. th. th. th. the th. th. I, th. th. th. th. th. th. I thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, thi.A.A.A.A.A. A. A.A. A.A.A.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a. be insane if they weren't. O.P. responded to that comment. Maybe I just have my backup because what she derived was really offensive. Apart from the fact that she is using a variant of my actual name, she wrote a fictionalized version of my relationship in an exceedingly toxic way, using details I told her in confidence to make it sorted and gross. She wrote from my fiance's perspective

and turned him into a predatory weirdo. This man literally paid for her to come on vacation with us because she's my friend and she turns around and does that. And then write about our sex life, I feel so violated. I don't understand how her passion can be writing a very fucked-up version of my life. 32 up votes on that. Okay, I don't think we even like really broke it down like she's writing like sex shit.

Yeah, the vibes were weird. Like maybe she's in love with her. I think the other girls should write a rival book about the other girls life. Oh my god, or she's like, here's my story. And she writes it, she writes it about the other girls' life with her details and she says, Queen, how do you like this? But then the other girl will be like, and that's art. I love it. And the friend's like, I fucking love it. She's like, this is brilliant. Yeah, the sex aspect definitely adds. Yeah, the sex aspect. Yeah, the sex aspect. Yeah should have asked. She should have asked.

She should have asked. She made her boyfriend a predator? Well, my only defense, I'm not going to, I'm not going to defend it. But my only understanding is like, if a writer's taking something for real life, they are going to alter things and enhance things and stuff. You're not going to write word for word, you're not going to write her biography. You are taking that inspiration and amplify. It also could just be that this girl feels so exposed. That's the type of thing that no one else is going to notice,

but she just is like, well, yeah, I do have daddy issues. I didn't know that, but now I have to confront it because it's in your book. You know what I mean? It's like she's just like bearing it all. I only understand her discomfort. Oh I would I would feel so uncomfortable. I feel so weird. I also would read it. Yeah. Oh I'd read the shit. Oh my god. You'd be like wait I'm so interesting. Like look at my life. Oh my god. It's like you're obsessed with me Okay, okay. You would be the asshole. Should she have been more up front and spoken to you? Yes. Should you sue her? No.

She didn't write a book about you. It's not a biography. She was inspired by the lives of those around her. What will you gain by doing so? to sowing her? Some money? O.P. says, I don't want money. I want the publishing company to back out of publishing it so that she can't make a living off writing, a predatory and sexualized retelling of my life and things I told her in confidence. I understand that's not necessarily what will happen, but it feels worth a try. But I don't know if I'm acting too much on emotion considering this

could have implications for her financial stability. 18 upvotes. I also understand, if you tell someone a secret about your life and then they turn that into a book, that, I would end a friendship over that. Yeah. Like I would fully be like, wow, I told you a super secret about my life, my relationship with my partner or something. And then you went and wrote it and are publishing it publicly. That's so fucked. She has every right to be like, so I actually don't trust you anymore. Yeah. But you also, I think the karma of

getting in the way of someone's livelihood. Yes. You can't do that. Like, I totally agree. to live in a capitalist society and we're all just trying out here. And you can't really ever stand in the way of someone like financially supporting them. Yeah I honestly I agree with that especially because this is her first published work. Like she's a writer and she it she just hit it. Yeah. There's also the aspect of if you sue her you are going to make it very apparent to everyone that it is your life. There's the there's the option right now to be like we're no longer friends. Yeah but you do everything in. th th th th, th, th th, th, th, th th th th th th th th thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi. I I I th. I th. I I th. I I th. I th. I I th. I I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I thi thi thi thi thi thi thi to to thi to to thi thi to thooooooooooo. the thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi to everyone that it is your life. True. There's the option right now to be like, we're no longer friends. But you do everything in your power. And don't write about me again.

To never make this known that this is me. Yeah. Ever mention that? Because if you do, then I will try to make your life hell. I would then be like, yeah, that's fair. But at this stage, I'd just be like, I'm no longer your friend, but, all right. I'd be like I'm never telling you a single thing again. Yeah. So did she name you?

If not, I can't see what grounds you have for this at all. OP says, she used a little more creative with that part. But as I said, if I went ahead with taking it to court, I probably wouldn't win. But small publishers a lot of times don't want to pay the legal fees of a court process and would rather drop the project. 16 down votes. The same commenter responds that says, I think perhaps I don't have a handle on what the issue is here. She can't be that good of a friend to write about your life and not tell you she is or even after she has. I'm also still not sure exactly what makes you think the book is about you. Lots of people have sex and difficult relationships with their fathers. I don't think you have any grounds to sue at all,

but try if you want. OPE responds. Evidently she isn't a good friend, but we were close for a number of years when the things in my life were going on that she later Later chose to write about it. It's definitely about me She admitted it, but even if she hadn't it's obvious everything from the age gap in my relationship To how and why we got together to money slash legal issues. I told her about before and after my dad passed all all the same. Yikes 26 upboboats. Someone said, have you talked to your fiancee about it? You should do it before someone else does. You are not to blame for how she portrayed your relationship, but be the first to tell your fiance about the issue. He knows he's creeped out by it. He's not a litigious person, but he's not the type to let it slide. the tipip. t. t. tip. t. t. tip. thae. thae, t. thae, t. tha, tha, t. tha, thine, toe, tha, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, told, the told, told, told, to told, to to told, told, told, told, tolde, tolde, told, tolde, tolde, tolde, tolde, tolde, told. You, told. You, told. You, th. You, th. You, th. You, th. th. th. the the the thi, the the thi, the the thi, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, tolde, too, the type to let it slide either. He's not angry about her writing that about him because she's not his friend, so he doesn't care about her opinion, but he's pissed off on my behalf because of the betrayal of trust.

He just thinks she's trash and that she shouldn't get away with it. She might think he's a creep, which is fine if that's her opinion. That's obviously not how I feel. she's been in our home, he's paid for her to come on vacations with me, paid for dinners, etc. And I think it's fucked up to take things from someone if you consider them toxic and creepy. If you heard the backstory of our relationship with no context without knowing us as people, then yes, you could twist it into something weird, which she is done, but I don't think that, I don't think anyone who knows us could could could could could could could could could could could could could know, thoes thoes, thoes, thoes, tho tho tho tho, tho, tho, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thin, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thin, thin, thin, thin, thin, thin, thin, thin, thin, and, thin, thin, and, thin, thin, thi.e.ee.e.e.e. I thi. I'm thi. I'm th he did anything predatory. O.P. never shares the ages of her and her fiance. Writer is calling O.P's fiance a predator. I, I, O. P.'s comments are really weird.

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you guys were doing some weird things out here, you should have been more aware of who you were letting into that. Yeah. Because ultimately if you're revealing something that's private about yourself to someone, it's, it was your decision to do that and it's your responsibility if you if you trusted you you you you you you you you you you you trusted you trusted trusted trusted you trusted you trusted trusted trusted trusted you you te te te to te to to to to to to to about yourself to someone, it was your decision to do that, and it's your responsibility if you trusted someone who you shouldn't have trusted it. 100%, especially if it's like, if it's close to the heart. It's close to the heart. There's an update.

There's an update. Little update. Did she get her money? For everyone talking about's more of an edit than an update. Oh, okay. For everyone talking about the strisand effect An unintended consequence of attempts to hide remove or censor information Where the effort instead backfires by increasing awareness of that information I am not in the US court slash legal records here are not something you can Google or access easily that being said I realize Maya could publicize a lawsuit herself to get publicity, and that ultimately I am more concerned about anonymity and it's not worth the risk.

I will not be proceeding with the lawsuit. Some people suggested reaching out to the publisher privately, and I'm going to look into that. But either way, I won't drag it into a court process. Okay, so she's not going to sue her. Look, I think regardless, like, absolute betrayal of trust, I like writing myself, I know a lot of writers. It would be insane to me for anyone to do this. Like, to write a story, like, about secrets. Like, if someone vents to you and tells you something about their relationship, and then you go and write a fucking story about it and get it published and don't tell them about that. I'm like, you are a bad person. Yeah.

I think that's bad. It's a bad thing to do. They're both displaying unhinged behavior. Oh, 100% sure. And honestly, luckily, there's like a lot of books in the world. Oh, there's a lot of books. And it's going to get to get to get to get to get to get to get to get to get to get's going. It's going. It's going. It's going. It's going. It's going. It's going to be. It's going to be. It's a to be. It's a to be. It's a the to be. It's a the the the books. It's a the, the, the, it's a the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. It's. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's a the the th. It's a th. It's a th. It's a th. It's a th. It's a th. It's a th. It's a thi. It's a thi. It's a thi. It's a th. It's a thi. It's a th. It's a th. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's a bad th. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's a bad. It's gonna get awesome sauce. I love books. It's a hard fucking gig. There's the, and it's a small publishing company. It's not gonna make the best sellers list.

Like, that's what's likely gonna happen. It's gonna fizzle out and she's not gonna hear about it. You're like, queen, no one cares about it. You're like, don't worry because no one cares. It's like, yeah, my life's not interesting enough. We should fucking read this book. It's crazy because my sex is cooler than in the book. Hotter.

She starts like promoting it. She's like, can you believe this fucking book out there? You should read it. It's fucking crazy. Yeah. That's actually tr, this is an insane story. Um, all right, well, I don't think they're going to hang out again. No, I think that friendship is, no, yeah. Yeah, that's like a white night, let's catch up. Drama friends.

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We have known for months this was a New Year's Eve. IRSVPS months ago with my wife. Several friends and I operated under the assumption thoubs at thi, th, their, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, their, th, th, th, th, and th, and th, and th, and th, and I, and I, and I, and I, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, their, their, their, is their, is their, is tho, is tho, is tho, is thi, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is thi, is thi, is thi, is thi, is thi, is thi, is thi...e, is a thi, is a thin, is a thin, is a thin, thin, thin, thin, thi.ei.ei.ei.ei.ei.ei. thei.ei. thei.e. thei. the. the. the,that there would be booze at the wedding, especially considering it is on New Year's Eve. Well, I found out yesterday that it is a dry wedding. Turns out it is because of his fiancé and her family. I asked my wife if she knew this and said no and was pissed. I texted the groom's buddy and asked. He confirmed this. I told him this is something you should have told us a long time ago. I told him that wife and I wouldn't be going.

We want to spend the night drinking. I texted the rest of my friends about this and oh boy, the group chat went off. This led to several more people backing out. This is not how a bunch of us expected to spend New Year's Eve. Really the only ones our 12-person group that are in the wedding. Groom Buddy reached out to me and went off. Pretty much he is now overspending on catering. He is having 20-ish less guests show up than planned,

and this is all last minute. I've been called an asshole among other things for leading the charge in people not going to the wedding. Am I the asshole? I'll read it. Well, there's one comment here really quick I gotta read. Whatever happened to the throw a few back before hitting the church and or saying good night at 10, it's always nuclear options. Someone else said, well the couple wants everyone to stay for the countdown so they're not allowed to nope out early. Someone else said or what they'll get spanked? Someone else said, might stay for that. Some typical Reddit air there.

So OK, there's a couple things here. One is they planned a wedding on New Year's Eve, which I've never heard of before. I've heard of it. Huh, I've never heard of that. It's bold. It is bold. But it's actually could be a very good thing, because no one ever knows what to do on New Year's Eve. Everyone's bored on New Year's Eve.

That's, that's, that's true. And so if it's a really fun you could have on New Year's Eve. I will say it's, it's balty to be like, spend your New Year's Eve. I will say it's it's, it's, it's, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, it, to, to be, to, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be like, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to. to, to. to. to. to to. to the the th. thi. to to to thi. thi. to thi. to thi. to thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. to thi. thi. thi, everyone, everyone, everyone, to know you're popular. You have to know your good time. These people are obsessed with me. They're not missing my wedding for anything. Yeah. I. Which obviously these people are not obsessed with it. They're just not fine. Because they're like, oh no, we literally cannot be anywhere in your view without alcohol. Yeah, no, it's that's what it sounds like. It's like you have to kind of acknowledge something in yourself of life. No, they're like, I actually plan to spend my night drinking. It's like, I don't know. You are saying I like drinking more than I like you as a friend. Right. That is what you are saying. And hey, that's your prerogative. Yeah, there's a lot of layers

to this. I mean, do I think I don't know how I feel about informing people that it's a dry wedding. I think maybe, like, I think that- You gotta tell them. You have to tell them. You tell them, you tell them, and save the date. Yeah. Oh, you tell them, if the jacket is itchy, they must know before putting it on and buying it. I don't know what that was. You have to tell them. It's because they, because these people feel blindsided.

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I mean, you're really, really not supposed to R.S.V.P. asked to a we a wedding and not go. I know, that's true. It's it's it costs me a lot of money. It's people's money that you're playing with. And when you do that, you're really, I mean, I hope the people who are like, sign our, we need to go drink our New Year's. I hope they know that they're probably gonna be friends with these people. Right. It's giving that up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up. At 33, you've had plenty of New Year's Eve's where you've probably gotten drunk. This is a wedding that you're going to miss out on. This is a huge moment. It's going to be more memorable.

It's probably, it could still be really fun. It's like, guys, why do we care so much? This New Year's, I did not stay up until midnight. And it was awesome. Truly, I was going to say, like my early 20s New Year's Eve, it was like I have to do something huge. The biggest thing ever. And then you finally, year after year, you're like, I'm never going to do something as big as I feel like I should do.

And you just kind of like let go. Yeah. Well, this New Year's Eve, I did, I drank too late. I drank too late and I woke up on New Year's Day, super hungover, and I remember being just like, I hate that I'm starting the New Year like this. Oh, yeah. And so like, the thought of honestly a sober New Year's Eve also sounds kind of dope in that way. Honestly.

It's like, like, Sunday night. Yeah. Like a Monday. I mean, I'm always stuck with my cousins. and it's like whatever. You spend your Christmas at LAX? Spend New Year's with your cousins. I think we just have to stop putting New Year's Eve on such a huge pedestal. Totally. I do think it's overrated.

Okay, let's get into these comments here. The verdict was asshole for this guy. Yeah. Meaning asshaws? Like the person who is not going to the wedding. Yes. He's an asshole. And I agree. That's just for changing your arts with you. Send them a check. Someone said, info.

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Or is the fact that you don't like her more relevant than you're letting on, you don't support him, by the way. Not if you're not willing to go part of one night without a drink. O.P. said, look, we're in our 30s now, many of us with kids, not me yet. Nights where we get together and hang out drinking and having fun are not as abundant as they used to be. To use one of our nights together on a dry wedding is honestly a buzzkill. 583 down votes. Yeah, I disagree with that 100%. That's insane. I mean, it is a buzzkill, but it's like, you know, you do it, guess what?

A lot of aspects of going to your friend's wedding can be a buzzkill. Oh, everything about weddings. It's made wearing some dress you hate that you had to spend so much money on. You could be going to destination wedding where you were like like I'm traveling so far, this is so insane. That's why every wedding that you say yes to, you're really in a way making a statement about how close am I to you and how much am I willing to kind of like commit to our friendship as you enter this next phase of life, and once you make that commitment. Yeah. That being said, they definitely didn't tell these people because they knew they wouldn't want to come

and that's also like it's very not. That's very telling. It's giving no trust within these friendships. That's kind of a theme of all of these stories. All these friends are bad. hands, do some trust falls, because if we all just communicated more, you know, none of these issues would be happening. Oh, it would have been so much more respectful to find a way to still show up and find a way to drink in other ways.

Yeah, these kids aren't. But also, I wouldn't want to drink if the, if my buddy who was the groom wasn't drinking, I would then feel weird getting drunk and sober. I'd be like like like like I'm not gonna do this. He only has so many free nights with his butts. I love how he's like, some of us have kids, not me. Not me. It's like, you have tons of time. Like, dude, I didn't catch that part. Because it really is big deal to go out

to hire a baby so not, that's money, that's, again, every aspect of this is spending money that is really, you know, you're really spending it for these other people to show up for them. But again, it's like, it's giving, you guys are not real friends. Oh, they're not friends. This also like kind of feels like this like happened because of the group text like egging each other on like it feels like maybe all of these people were so

pissed and that no one really like I don't know like sometimes if I'm on a group text and we're all venting about something it feels like we're just like firing each other up for no reason and they should have just someone should have just been like guys we should put wine in a sunscreen bottle. Like, it's fine. Get out of there. Group polarity can happen. Yeah. It's also, like, if I was in that group chat and everyone was dropping, like, flies, like

I'm not going to this wedding, I'd be like, you guys, we can't do that. Yes, I would say time is the wedding? Wedding is at 5.30 p.m., reception till 12.15 a.m. O.P. Yeah. Info, why don't you like your friends' fiance? And why is it a dry wedding? Is there a history of alcoholism? Opie says, she is someone that puts her morals on us and we don't always alone. She and her family are religious and is the reason for the dry wedding apparently. We've never seen the bride drink, the groom drink with us last month, but has all but

has slowly curbed that behavior in the last year since the engagement. The bride and her family are religious. That's the impetus for the dry wedding. Someone said I love drinking and hate a dry wedding as much as the next guy, but you can show up to the wedding ceremony, spend an hour or two at the reception, and then go get blackout drunk if that's an absolute must for you. Backing out at the last minute and letting your friend know he's not worth two hours of sobriety means you're the asshole by miles and miles. I agree with that. Wedding at 530, you could hang out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out out. that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to to to th. th. th. to th. th. to th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to-a. to-a. toee. toe. to. toe. to. to-a. the. the. thii. th30, you could hang out till fricking 10 and then go

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Where there's a will, there's a way. I just can't relate. Like, I am the type that I'm like, if I'm getting married, the thought of putting it on New Year's Eve, I'm just like, that's asking so much of people. I'm like, I don't Am I the asshole for confronting my friend for taking our picture out of his wallet to replace it with his girlfriends? What?

Wait, can you say it again? Oh, took me a second. Am I the asshole for confronting my friend for taking our picture out of his wallet to replace it with his girlfriends? So, from my assumption, he's got a bro. His bro had a photo of him. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh, okay, here we go.

Oh my God, I can't wait. This is 22-year-old woman. My best friend, John, a 23-year-old man and I have been friends since we were kids. As kids, we were very close and we had a fake wedding when we were seven and eight. In high school we recreated the fake wedding picks and he had one of those picks in his wallet. Since he got with his girlfriend Dinah who's 23, around two years ago John has distanced himself from me. We still hang out but I feel like he always makes time for Dinah first instead of me. The only way I can see him now is if we go grab coffee once every few days, but

other than that, he won't come to my house when we used to have sleepovers and movie nights and won't invite me to his house either. I feel neglected and hurt because we've been inseparable since we were small kids. A couple of days ago I grabbed coffee with him at a coffee shop, and when he opened his wallet to grab his card and pay, I noticed he had the pick of him and Dinah in the place where he had our fake wedding pick. I asked him about it and pointed out how I noticed to which the only thing he said was, what about it? I was like, really? Why did you have to take our picture out and replace it with him in Dinah? He said, Dina is his girlfriend and he doesn't understand why I'm making such a big deal about it. I reminded him she might be his girlfriend, but he can't just throw me away.

I've been his best friend since primary school. My pick existed in his wallet first and he threw it away to replace me with someone he knows significantly less. He got annoyed and told me that once I stop being an immature, annoying brat, he'll talk to me again. Until then I better leave him to he. He he he he he he he th. He he. He he. He he. He he. He he. He he. He he. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He th. He. He's th. He's th. I th. I th. I th. I've th. I've th. I've th. I've th. I've th. I've th. I've th. I've th. I've th. I've th. I th. I've th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I. I. I. I th. I. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th th th th th th th th th the the the thin. He the the the the the the thin. He the the the the the the. He's the. I him to his peace because he's not dealing with my childish tantrum. Am I the asshole here? Well, she's in love with him. Mm-hmm. Yeah, I mean, well, yeah. She's like, the fake wedding, the fake wedding.

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I think she didn't. She needed to be more introspective sooner about her feelings and be honest with him and she didn't and she's missed the opportunity and that's what that is. I hate calling her an asshole though because she's really in love and doesn't know it. She's in love but or she just maybe isn't in love and she just is like you're my fake boyfriend and you have to remain that way until I find my real boyfriend. That's also also there. That is such a real possible. But also someone I someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone someone I I I I someone someone someone someone I someone I someone I someone I someone I someone I someone I someone I someone I someone I someone I someone I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I I I th. I I I I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi there. That is such a real possum- which is selfish. But also someone I think people often are assholes when they're in love. That's usually when I think people often become asses. That was beautiful. Huge mic fucking drop. It makes them do stupid. And you smile because you knew that was going to be profound. You're like...

I'm adding that I'm writing a book soon. Yeah. Tell me more about your life. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're the asshole. Why would you think a childhood photo of you pretending to get married should take precedence of him with his actual girlfriend? Properly bizarre expectation on your side. OPE said, it's not about the childhood photo. It could be any photo of me slash us. It would still make me react that way. 230 downvotes. You're the asshole. Family always comes

before friendships. You are growing up, you'll get a family of your own at some point. You will start to neglect your friends too as your friend to as your priorities shift. That's how life works. OPE says she's not his family. Let's start there. She's just his girlfriend. 159 down votes. Someone said info. Serious question. Do you have feelings for your friend? Okay.. She she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she. She she. She she. She she. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. thi. to thee. to to to to to to to to to to to to theeeeeeeeeea. the. the. the. the., info. Serious question. Do you have feelings for your friend? Okay. She goes, yes, platonic ones though. Not what everyone else assumes here. Nothing more, nothing less. I'm just upset. He puts someone else he knows for less time over our almost 15-year-old friendship. Oh, 110 down votes. Dude, okay. You are such a piece of shit. I love the like, hey, maybe when you talk about this, maybe you have feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings, the feelings, the feelings, the feelings, the feelings, the feelings, the, the, to, the, to, to, to, the, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to feelings, to feelings for feelings for feelings, the, to feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for, to, to feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to feelings feelings, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the feelings, the feelings, the feelings, the feelings, the feelings, the feelings, the, the, the, the, the, the feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for feelings for, to feelings, the feelings, to feelings, the, the, the, the,. Dude, okay, you are such a piece of shit. I love the like, hey, you, maybe when you talk about this, maybe you have feelings for

me and she's like, I am in love with you platonically. And that's completely fine. I'm going to agree with that. And we're going to have a sleepover. And Dinah has to be okay with it. Also, I think he should have picked up on it when she went, let's recreate that picture of us when we were kids, getting married. I would have been like, uh-oh.

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you're gonna choose your partner in those situations. It's like, it's a so-. It's very similar with the book thing and with a baby-------- why is everyone trying to control other people? Like, you can't control what picture he has in his wallet. You can't control the fact that he is going to live his life and end up with someone, and that's gonna take its own path. Like, I feel that all three OPs would just be happier and have more peace within themselves if they could accept the things they cannot change. It does.

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only to go into the spare room and find stains scattered across the sheets of the guest bed. So I texted my friend and asked if they had sex. She denied it at first, but after asking again, she admitted it. She then told me that it was none of my business, which is fair enough, but I don't appreciate that they didn't even strip the bed and weren't planning on telling me that it was soaked in various liquids. I do feel bad for asking, but like, I also had to clean it, so you know, I also had to clean it so, you know, just wanted to confirm to confirm to confirm to to to clean it to clean it to clean it to clean it, to clean it, to clean it, to clean it, to clean it, to clean it, to clean it, to clean it, clean it, clean it, clean it, clean it, clean it, clean to clean to clean to clean to clean to clean to clean it, clean it, to clean, to clean, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thean, thi. thi. thean. thean. thean. thean. thean. thean. thean. thean. the the the the the the the the so you know just wanted to confirm the origin of the substances found on my sheets. Oh bitch you're gonna clean it no matter what what? What? Yeah well that's what it comes down to it's like you can't say to someone

hey you're gonna sleep in my guest bed but there is a limitation of what liquids can get on. You could spill water like you could sneeze but you can't, like, no. Also, like, I just love someone, like, cleaning the sheets being like, I need to know if this is cum. Is this cum? Text me back. Did you get my note? Did you get my note?

Did you see that the toilet paper was for the come? And I had one little sheet, they, and you didn't use it for that. And I'm only asking because I have to wash the sheet. That's what I want to know. Should I give you more squares? I feel crazy. Like, what, is there a different setting on a dryer that's come-specific, so she needs to know? OK, can I say, there's so many thipes.

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on telling you about it is even worse. What kind of person doesn't strip the fucking bed after doing it? They did it in your house. You shouldn't have had to deal with that shit after they left. I wouldn't have invited them over ever again if that was me. The fact that she lied pisses me off. I think you should have a conversation with her over this and explain your feelings because this is just wrong and disgusting. I agree about not stripping the bed. If you're, if there's stuff visible on the bed, I'd be like, holy shit, we gotta fucking hide this. You're kind of supposed to strip the bed no matter what. Yeah.

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Damn, that's a story. Let's just move on from that. Yeah. Yeah. I think we got it. I don't think that couple's going to be staying there again. So this comes from relationship advice. So this isn't a person asking if they're the asshole, just they're relaying some of their story.

I, a 25-year-old woman, notice that I have more chemistry with my friend's boyfriend, a 24-year-old man than her 26-year-old woman. How should I bring it up? Okay. How do you bring it up? Okay. She's like, Queen. There's something I want to talk to you about. Your boyfriend's obsessed with me. We have incredible banter. What do we do about that? Yeah, it's still early days, like. It's for L.A.A. No, but like, keep going. That's awesome. Keep going. So I'm in a complicated situation.

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It's such a difficult situation because he's obsessed with me and she's so dumb and I'm so smart. 100%! And they can't actually connect. I feel so bad for him, this man I just met at the cabin. She's like, she's always on our phone and we're always looking at the mountains together. Yeah, we're different, we're smart, we're intelligent, we're hot, we're press for each other. She's kind of like, lesser, it's a lesser, t. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th. I, th. I, th. This, th. This, th. This, th. This, th. This, th. This, th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I, thi, thi, thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi little remlin, a stupid little idiot. It's like what do I do? What do I do? It's such an impossible situation. It's like how do I talk about it? It's just so tough because my friend is just a stupid fucking people. Right. And and her boyfriend is the best and we love the best and I'm the best. And I love the mountains. He loves the mountains. stupid. We have the same morals. And also, maybe he wants a girl who doesn't look at the mountains and looks at her phone.

Okay, maybe she's reading something important. Or maybe she's taking a selfie and he's like, yes, my queen. He's like, yes, you look stunning. I'm a mountain man, you're on Instagram. It's the duality of life. We're meant for each other. Some comments here. What's the end goal here? To steal your friend's boyfriend? Why do you need to bring this up with Tim? Opie said, steal isn't the word, but it makes a lot more sense for us to date than him and her.

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we're all going to be more happy with this situation. And it's for the best. I think it's better if you end up alone and I'm with your. Right. Also, I'm also like, how did this girl find him? Like, how did this girl, this girl is gonna be like, oh, I found him. I, like, we're like, give her a broker's fee, at least. Yes, I love that she's also like trying to talk, she keeps saying like, maybe I should talk to Tim.

Like, she talks, like, what do we do here? I love how she really, like, at least like, like, she's like, I, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, th.. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. Are you really here asking for advice on how to cheat with your friend's boyfriend? Have some respect for them and don't do it. Opie says, I'm picturing this in your voice. That's not what I'm asking at all. That is not what I'm asking the all. I am not asking for help cheating. I'm asking for a solution to the problem that my friend is dumb and not worthy of love, and I am.

That's not my son. It's not. It's not. She's like, I'm actually a saint doing the right thing here in this situation. Oh my God, that's 100% what she's saying. Yes. It's very, it's giving, um, yes, I do love him in a platonic way. Yes. Someone commented, pick me, pick me, pick me, op he responded, girl by. Oh P? I literally want to hang out with Opie. I know. I know, I know. Make sure you're not in a relationship when you're hanging out with her. She does not care. There is nothing for you to do.

This is her boyfriend, not yours. Verbalizing to them what you shared with us would throw a grenade on your friendship with both of them. This is a case where you just make note of your observations and move on. What are you hoping to accomplish anyway by telling me this?" Opie said, wouldn't he want to date a woman he has more of a connection with? Girl, I get men. I could find my own boyfriend today if you wanted to. This is about an observation that I've noticed and ignoring it will lead to bigger problems. Okay, I have to acknowledge that this could be fake because this is so insane. However, there are people like this. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I this. I this. I this. I this. I thisto acknowledge that this could be fake because this is so insane. However, there are people like this.

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that. Whereas where is like to back out of a wedding three days before it's like it's objective it's objective you they knew what they were doing. Yes as well so I'm going with them as worst friend of the day. I think so too. And the book thing, it's like, she's an artist and she is a child. I think what I love about this last story is just more as an actor, knowing someone's like righteousness towards cheating. I've never heard someone justify cheating in this way. In such a preemptive way, like I'm about to cheat on my friend. She's why I have to. That's what's th. That's th. That's th. That's th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. that's the that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's thathea. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. th. I's. I's. I's. I's. I's. I's. I's. I the the the the the the the the the the the their. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I the the the the the th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. have to. That's what's insane about what she's gonna do. I think she's I think she's both the worst person but also kind of a legend in in a in a

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Um, Sabrina, thank you so much for being here. Thank you guys. So fun. I hope I meet every single person from Reddit who these stories were about. I do. And I want to be in a room with all of them. Okay. Oh my God. That would be. I want to know what they think about each other's problem. Who all stares and mountains to you. You playing O P. P. P. In the last one. I think that was like my favorite role. Oh my god. Thank you so much. She really spoke to me. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. that. Okay, incredible. Give me some credit. Sabrina, where can people find you? I mean, I feel like they already know, but... You know, on the internet, the Twitter, the X, the threads, the Instagram, and the Tick-Tock, and just, you know, maybe around. Okay. And link, here's the link. Hell yeah. Our producers like, no, we're not doing that. We'll put it down below. Mash that subscribe button.

Smash. All right, well, thank you both. Thank you, guys. Don't be a jerk. Yeah. Be a good friend. Call people by their name. Yeah, definitely call kids by their name.

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