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Episode Date: August 19, 2023

The level of delusion some of these people have. Go to http://shadyrays.com and use code PITREDDIT for 50% off 2 or more pairs of polarized sunglasses. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp — go to http://betterhelp.com/pitreddit to get 10% off your first month. 0:00-2:11 Intro 2:12-9:10 My bf cheated and claimed bodily autonomy? https://www.rareddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/14hmo4q/my_boyfriend_23m_cheated_on_me_21f_because_he_can/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button 9:11-21:49 I cheated with an escort https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10zxwtm/i_cheated_on_my_girlfriend_of_2_years_with_an/ 21:50-31:08 I refused to meet my bf's friends https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/14mtj05/aita_for_refusing_to_meet_my_bfs_friends_unless/ 31:09-33:22 Sponsors! 33:23-43:19 I called the cops on my fiance https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/y1h40p/aita_for_calling_the_police_on_my_fiance/ 43:20-50:01 I wish my husband would cheat on me https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/13uw2ng/i_wish_my_husband_would_cheat_on_me/ 50:02-52:56 I laughed at my brother's tattoo https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/14sme7v/aita_for_laughing_at_my_brothers_tattoo/ 52:57-1:01:41 I think my gf is cheating at this musical festival https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/156lnte/my_m21_girlfriend_f23_is_currently_working_a_food/ 1:01:42-1:17:53 Am I too harsh? https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/uevd9v/aita_for_being_very_harsh/ WEAR OUR JOKES: https://smosh.com WHO YOU HEAR Shayne Topp // https://www.instagram.com/shaynetopp/ Amanda Lehan-Canto // https://www.instagram.com/filmingamanda/ Angela Giarratana // https://www.instagram.com/giovanagiarratana/ WHO YOU DON’T HEAR (usually) Director: Courtney Miller Editor: Kortney Luby Director Of Programming, Smosh Pit: Kiana Parker Pit - Ap: Kimmy Jimenez Assistant Director: Heidi Ha Art Director: Cassie Vance Assistant Art Director: Erin Kuschner Art Coordinator: Alex Aguilar Audio Mixer: Greg Jones Director Of Photography: Brennan Iketani Camera Operator: Vida Robbins Director, Design: Brittany Hobbs Director, Social Media & Marketing: Rachel Evans DIT/AE: Matt Duran Post Production Manager: Luke Baker Production Manager: Jacqi Jones Production Coordinator: Heidi Ha Production Assistant: Marcus Munguia Senior Manager, Channel & Strategy: Lizzy Jones Talent Coordinator: Selina Garcia OTHER SMOSHES: Smosh: https://smo.sh/Sub2Smosh Smosh Games: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshGames El Smosh (Spanish Dub): https://smo.sh/Sub2ElSmosh SmoshCast: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshCast FOLLOW US: TikTok: https://smo.sh/TikTok Snapchat: http://smo.sh/OnSnapchat Instagram: https://instagram.com/smosh Facebook: https://facebook.com/smosh Twitter: https://twitter.com/smosh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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We react. The show where we read a bunch of Reddit stories, we react, we give our thoughts on it, our opinions, and we relate to them. Today I'm joined by Amanda and Angela, my Dungeons and Dragons friends. So there is a theme today. The theme is cheating. Oh, yeah. That was the theme of my last birthday party. Oh, hey?

What? I'm kidding. Um, I don't think you are kidding. So almost I think all of these stories involve cheating in some way or another, whether they were being cheated on, they cheated on someone, I don't know. I will say for context, I have been cheated on and it does suck. But and so I have a lot of opinions on cheating. But I also got cheated on when I was like 16 and I was like it's the end for me. I literally was like I should just quit quit everything and it was like it was so brutal. I think what's hard for me about that

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Do you have anything to say? Yeah, I was going to say, yeah, sure. I was just honestly waiting. Do you want to talk about what happened? And Angel is like, I'm like, I'm a to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. Yeah, to. to. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. to. to. to. to. too? Yeah, to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. Do you. Do you. Do you. Do you. Yeah, do. Yeah, do. Yeah, do. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. to. Yeah, to. to. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. Yeah, to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. the.'ve never been cheated on. I mean, I do feel like emotional cheating. We all started learning what that was, I think, recently. It's up for debate. I agree. I agree.

I think emotional cheating, cheating. I think we'll learn that today, probably. I think we'll learn that today. I think we'll learn I do think it is. I think so too. Yeah, I think. Right. Okay, here we go. My boyfriend, who's 23, cheated on me, 21-year-old woman, because he can choose who has access to his body. All right. This was posted on relationship advice. I found out on Thursday that my boyfriend of two years was cheating on me for months my boyfriend of two years was cheating on me for months with one of my childhood

ex-best friends, a 20-year-old woman, and it has completely and utterly wrecked me. In all honesty, I don't know if I'll ever be able to recover from this. I loved and trusted him so much. Our relationship was literally perfect. And he had the nerve to cheat on me after telling me daily how he's never loved anyone as much as me. I could barely even talk because I was out of breath from crying so much. When I tried my best to formulate a coherent sentence and ask him why he would do this to me,

he simply responded by saying, I can choose who has access to my body. What? This has mentally fucked me up, and I still can't comprehend this situation. He texted me today that this doesn't have to end our relationship. And some paragraph asking me, why do I care when it's his body and not to the body and not, to the try to explain to him that I valued him being faithful to me as a fundamental part of our relationship and not sharing his body with anyone else, as I would be faithful to him. Also, we never agreed to be Polly or anything. He now says that he understands how much I value his physical body.

I never said that, and we'll be fully aware of that going forward in our relationship. I honestly don't think I can give him another chance, though. I literally thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him, but, the, the, and, and, and, and, and, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, I, I, and I, I, I, and, I, I, and, I, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, and, thi, thi, thi, and, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, thi, thi, thi, thr.a, thr-a, thr-a.i.i.i.I.e. toe. thr. thr. thr-a. thr-a. thr-a, thr-a, ththough. I literally thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him, but after what he has done, that's all out of the window. It's just tough because I can't, I can think back about how I never loved or cared about my ex-boyfriends to the level that I do him. And it almost feels like I do still love him, even after he completely violated me. Are there any reasonable ways that I can go about this from here? The way you go about it is not being a relationship with him. I mean... Did he just discover the definition of body? I... this sounds... That he like wants to keep using it in a sentence? So something I've been

seeing a lot of people talk about now is people who, you know a lot of psychological and therapy terms and just therapy speak is being thrown around around around around around around around around around around around around around a tooedededed............... to. I. I. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. to. A. A. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. I. they. to. to. to. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. the the to. I. the the the the to. the the to. the tttttttte. thea. thea. thea. the the the the the the the the the the the they. thems and just therapy speak is being thrown around on the internet now. And I do think a lot of people try to use it for their own benefit. That's what I was thinking. He's being manipulative and he's trying to be like, well, no, see, and he's using some weird wording as opposed to being like, yeah, I, I, he understands why th.......... He's just manipulating like monogamy and it wants an open relationship it sounds like physically. But he's not communicating that. But it's just being like this is my body and I have permission of that. Like it feels like he's just

using words, you're right. He sounds really stupid. Sounds like word salad. He sounds very stupid but he's trying to essentially tell her that it's like, well it's you don't have control over my body. It's like, th. He, th. He, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi's th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thee. theeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. the. th. th. th. th. th essentially tell her that it's like, well, it's it. You don't have control over my body. It's like, that's not what we're talking about here, man. He read one book like on bodies and he was like, that is correct. He did not read a book. Let's be honest. He googled body. He googled body.

So that's what this is. To be clear, when you're to cheat, when, you are putting them at physical risk of STDs and everything. And you're not, especially when you're not communicating with them and she doesn't know how this was all going down. Her body is at risk because he wants his body to have another body on his body, but her body is not being respected. This feels like an idiot that like listens to the Me Too movement with one ear and goes this is what it's about And he comments mission for the buddies

there's some some comments here also ex-friend. You said X oh is with his it was with her friend. It's her ex friend. It's her ex friend. Oh, it was with his it was with her friend. It's her ex friend. Oh, it was the threat. It was he cheated on her with her friend. It's now. He's. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was. It was with with with with with with. It was. It was with with with the the the the the the the the the. It was. It was. It was. It was in parenthesis. It was, he cheated on her with her friend, who's now not her friend. So he's, he fully gets it. I always feel so sad though in these and I understand the people, the headspace people are in, that she's like, is there any way that I can, it sounds like she wants to try to live. Is this, and it's like, this, and it, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th. th. thi, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. It, th. It, th. It, th. It's, th. It's, th. It's, th. It's, th. It's, th. It's, thi. It's, thi. It's, thi. It's, thi. It's, thi. It's, thi. It's, thi. thi. thi. thi. tooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. It's, th. It's salvage. And it's like, this is gone. Yeah, I also feel like this just reeks of 23-year-old and 21-year-old dating. Yeah, it sucks. It disrespect. But I am of an opinion.

I am an opinion. And people might disagree. That's OK. But when you're in your early 20s, and especially if you don't have kids, you don't have, like a house, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, their, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, and, and, to, to, to, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and I, and I, and I, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, the the the to, the the the the to, the the the to, the the to, they, the to, they, they, they, they, they, to, they, they, they, they, to, the, even much less caliber than this happens, it's like, walk away. Walk away, experience other relationships. Experience other relationships do not stick with something that is making you feel horrible. That is great advice.

I just don't think it's worth it. Not when you're that age. Yeah, man, and you don't realize how young you are until later. But even also, even if you're in your 30 30 30 30 30 something like this to you walk away. Just like walk away. But they're destroyed. I feel like this is I do think that this is what we have to go through like these like hardships to kind of grow but like I feel so bad because they're destroyed and now their level of trust with not only their boyfriend but a friend is totally th..... their their their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level their level their level their level. their level their level their level their level. I'm their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. their level. I I. I. I. I. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm not. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. their level of. I'm. their level of. I'm. their level of. their level of. I'm. their level of. I'm. their level of. their level. their level. I'm. their boyfriend but a friend is totally shattered. Yeah I don't think that friend was a friend. No, not at all. So we got a bunch of comments here. The first

comment, this is a very Reddit comment thread here really quick. I see this all the time. And someone commented, and you get to decide that he no longer has access to your body. Someone replied to that and her heart. And my axe and someone replied that saying, and my that, and my that, and my that, and my that, and my that, and my that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that, the is toe is that, to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to thomomomomomomomomomomomomomomom is the is the is the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the is the is a the is a throwne is a throwne is a the is a thea thea thea thea thea theauuuuu., thea thea to that, and my axe, and someone replied to that, and my bow, and someone replied to that saying, and my sword. Oh my God. Yep. Those types of comment threads happen on every post.

Okay, so here's some serious comments. Someone said, he's trying to play mind games with you to downplay the situation. Make no mistake, it's cheating and he cheated. His refusal to say I cheated is how he's trying to avoid accountability. No one says after two years of monogamy, oh, I didn't realize that our monogamy extended to sex with others. You're better off without him. Someone else said, O P. You will laugh at this some day, though not now for sure, but you will get over this and him. You can comprehend this. He can't th and he he he th and you can't th and you can't th and you can't com you can't com you can't com you can't com you can't th th th thin thin thus thus thus thus thus and thus and him thus thus and him thus. thus. thus and him. thi. thus, and him th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the to to to to to to toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toeoooooo. toe. toe. toe. toe. to toe. to the the the to the, you can comprehend this, he cheated on you. He gave a lame, ridiculous excuse to justify it. That's all. You didn't have a literally perfect relationship, you had a relationship with a sweet facade that has been ripped away. You do need to break up with him. You want monogamy, he toobey. toobey. He is not compatible. He is lacking in ethics, he would have been honest and up front about having sex with your ex-best friend from the beginning so you could

have decided if you wanted to stay with him. That's the therapist that he discovered the word body from. Yeah and let's also be 100% clear he doesn't want an open relationship because if she slept with someone else, this guy would lose his mind. Let's, I'm not, I do not question that for a second. He would would th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, the the the the to be the to be to be the to be to be the to be to be to be to be to be the the their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the their, their, their, their, their, th. the. the. theat. toeate. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. the the the their, I, I, I'm not, I do not question that for a second. He would be very jealous, I think. Yeah. Here's our next story. I cheated on my girlfriend of two years with an escort, and the only thing that saved me was a trip to Panera bread afterwards. I'll never ever do it again.

La Punk, what you're a this is mine. We had two very different reactions to that title. What was going on there? No, sorry, I just got excited and then I said an inside joke, maybe that wasn't appropriate. No, it's okay. Can you say it again? I got excited because I was like, oh my god, they're getting juicier. And this happens to me all the one I got, Hold on, here we go. This one is, this one is insane. I cheated on my girlfriend of two years with an escort

and the only thing that saved me was a trip to Panera bread afterwards. I'll never ever do it again. So this comes from True off my chest, where people can anonymously post confessions. So he's posting a confession here. So me and my girlfriend have been dating for two years now. I really love her, but I've had a sex addiction side to me that's taken over my life. Guess I don't really love her if I'm cheating on her, right?

Well, after months of research, I wanted to meet this escort who I've been seeing online and ads. So I told my girlfriend good night and instead Uberd to the hotel where the today was was was was the escort is staying at. She was beautiful, but the whole time I was imagining my girlfriend. It wasn't the best experience. After we finished, I left, contemplated telling her, but didn't. So after I left, I uber to Panera bread to get something to eat. My girlfriend knows I like going out to restaurants by myself. I actually prefer eating alone as I get a lot of enjoyment out of it. I finish and Uber home home. to to to the home. the home. the home. the home. the home. the home. the home. the to to to the to to the to to the the to to to the the the the the th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I the the th, I the the th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the t, I, I, I, I, I, I'm, I tell, I tell, I tell, I tell, tell, tell, tell, tell, the, tell, the, the, the, the, the, the, I the the, So did you go anywhere of note two days ago? I say no.

She then pulls up Uber receipts from my email showing I ubered to a hotel. I logged into my email on her computer a couple months back. I was shocked. I was caught, I felt ashamed, and I was shook. I didn't know what to do, me to the wrong location, since I'd only been there 20 minutes before Ubering to Panera. She found that plausible, I guess. I gasslet her saying that she doesn't trust me and that she doesn't love me. That ubering there was an honest mistake. She knows it wasn't an affair because she's been with me the entire month. It was just a quick 20-minute escort visit. She couldn't ever imagine me their. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. I. I. I. I. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. I, is. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. A. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t.. So we argue, but ultimately we agree that I went to Panera Bread and came home. It's

been two months since then. I got an SDD test and it came out clean. I want to love my girlfriend the way she deserves, although I know deep down I don't deserve it. But again, who said this world is just and fair? We're both extremely happy and in love I don't feel much regrett to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the to to to to to to the to to to to to the to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the te. te. te. te. te. te. te. te. te. te. te. te. te. toe. toe live happily ever after. Okay, 20 minutes? Okay, that doesn't allow for going up the hotel, going up the elevator saying hi. Yeah. Getting going. Foreplay. I can off your boots. My God, if you had boots on, that's 10 minutes. What the hell is that? That also means like, yeah, dropping off all the way up, calling an Uber to leave from there. The boy saw tho th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th. Okay that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the the the and the and the and the and thin the the the the and the and the that that that that that that the and th hell is that? That also means like, yeah, dropping off all the way up, calling an Uber to leave from there. The boy saw this escort, did the thing immediately. And then left and went to Panera? What do you get?

Broccoli cheddar? Oh, we haven't even got into this yet. I haven't even addressed the restaurant choice yet. Amanda, I'm still on how fast he pee pee pee pee pee pee. Okay, because that's what people do when they come, right? They pee pee pee pee. And then, no, pee pee and come are not the same thing. And then we'll get to how, how late this Panera's opened and how... Wow, I didn't think about that aspect. What if he, what have he met the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort the escort he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he peep he he he he he he he he he he he he he heep peep pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee pee he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P. P.... Wow, I didn't think about that aspect. What if he, what have he met the escort at 6 p.m. Also if my boyfriend was like, how to to tick?

Well, she went to bed. It's after the girlfriend went to bed, I think, or he said goodnight to her. So, either she's lame and goes to bed early and goes, oh'm gonna take an Uber to Panera to get broccoli cheddar soup and eat by myself because that's what I prefer. Why did you Uber to Panera? Well, I got drunk. Yeah, I got drunk. I got drunk. I got off soup. The broccoli, the chetter makes me so nauseous.

You know I don't need to be behind the wheel. My God. I can't believe he even wrote, like, I don't feel much regret anymore. Like, uh, because in denial. Yeah, he's gonna like that. Well, it makes you a worse person, I think, when you have to do that to yourself, and you have to like shove it away. You then, I think you lose a part of your soul

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an Uber home. This guy sucks, man. I like how he- He-pee-pies and fucking pipses. You know what's funny, he talks about, he gets a lot of enjoyment out of eating alone. I think he had more enjoyment from Panera bread than with this. Oh, 100%. It sounds like he did. 20 minutes he was probably at Panera for two fucking hours. Dude, wouldn't it be so funny if the escort went to Panera bread too and they both were

just like, shit. It was like, the reason I've never cheated on someone and the reason I can't is because I wouldn't be able to like I can't keep secrets like that. I would I would have to crumble. The only way I could like get away. I would have to. I would have to. The only way I could like get away with not tell them as if I just broke up with them immediately. I'd be like, we're done, I'm done, we're breaking up, I gotta go, and I'd have to leave.

We walk into a wall. But I would still feel horrible, I would have to tell them. That's why I think this guy is literally using panana, banana. Panana bread. Whoa, where did you go? like your brains like trying to like heal itself and like not go into trauma and like use it as like that's the only reason why I went. Yeah, so we have a bunch of comments here. Your girlfriend is only happy as you say because she doesn't know how disgusting you are.

You lied and gaslighted her and you're making light of it in the comments. Consider the pain she will feel when she finds out and she will because you will become more sloppy and careless. Consider the irreparable damage you're inflicting on her self-esteem by lying and gaslighting her and leave her alone. He said, he responds, exactly my point, it's been done. I can live with the guilt and hurt I've caused. Why does she need to be in the crossfire? I've changed and am trying to be the best I can to her. Sometimes it's not as simple as black and white morals. She won't be able to live with herself if she knew. I don't want her to feel that pain. What a fucking asshole. God, crossfires. Someone else commented, she needs to leave you before you do it again. Opie said, good things she won't and she'll never find out. I have her right where I want her. Smiley, winky face. I'm happy, she's happy, and she's th, and she's th, and she's th, and she's th, and she's th, she's th, and she's th, and she's th, and she's th, and she's th, she's th, she's th, and she's thi is thi, she's thi, she's thi, she's thi, she's thi, thi, she's thi, she's thi, she's thi, she's thi, she's the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, I's thr, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, too, too, thean, thean, thean, thr-s, thean, thi, th happy, she's happy, and I don't plan to do it ever again. So the commenter said, I'm sorry, but I have her right where I want her gave me

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Do you want some of this blanket? I can't tell. Here we go. Here we go. Okay. I am the girlfriend. I left him. Don't know what to do next.

Parenceus. It wasn't Panera bread! What? I have made so many broccoli cheddar jokes. What the hell? If he lied about Panera bread, I don't know what to believe. Oh my God. Is it like apple bees? How did she find this? Okay. the last six hours for me. Thanks to Reddit for doing your thing. I was tipped off by a girlfriend who saw the thing come up on her recommended feed. I searched his phone and

came across all kinds of messages with girls and escorts he didn't even bother deleting. Coming across these things in the boyfriend who I thought was the most sweet guy on planet earth felt like a gut punch. We were together for four years actually. I thi thi. th the th, the th, th, the th, th, the th, th, th, th, the thu, the thu, I thu, I, thu, I, thu, I thu, I, I tho-a, I tho-up, I tho-up, I th. I thea, I'm tho-a, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm the th, I'm, I'm th. I'm th. I th. I th. I th. I th, I th, I th, I th, I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I'm thi, I'm thr-n, I'm thr-s, thr-s. I'm thr-s, thr-s. I'm thr-s. I'm thr-s. I'm thr-s. I'm thr-au-s'ean. I'm thr-augh, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s. I can't believe he did this to me. He looked at me and tried gaslighting me again about how that was all a work of fiction and that none of it was true. It was just to provoke a reaction on Reddit, but after seeing the messages I couldn't believe him anymore. Gathered some things, left our apartment and am staying with my parents right now. Lesson learned y'all, don't trust true te, thex, thex, thex I've never felt so distraught and betrayal in my life and betrayed in my life. The pain I'm feeling can't even begin to describe be described by words. Maybe I'll feel more and explain later, but for now I'm just sticking to the grieving process.

He was the love of my life. He even met my mom and dad and my two younger brothers. I thou thou-today. I th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thin. thin. thin. thin. thin. thin. thin. thin. thin. thin. thin. thin' thin' thin' tho-I th tho-I thin' thin' the the th th the th the the the th the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thin. thin. th thin. thin. thin' thin' thin' thin' the the the to to the to te te teeeea tea tea' tea' tea' toea' thea' thea' thea' theee the going to be able to marry him and make him the happiest guy on earth, but it turns out he had other plans. He ate at a pot belly, not a Panera by the way. Weird way to try and disguise it. Thanks again to Reddit. You guys saved me. I'm grappling with what to do next. I don't know where to go with, I, what the hell? Confession, I've never heard a pop belly either. It's only in the airport and it sucks. I don't think they

make restaurant only, only for airports, Amanda. You know what? I think you're the weird one here. I think you're insane and your dad playing me right now. This is a, look, this is the thing that I have noticed is like, I think like if you're in a a a a a a relationship a relationship a relationship a relationship a relationship a relationship th a relationship th a relationship th a relationship th a relationship th a th a th a th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. It th. It th. th. It th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. I th. I thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm, thi. I'm, the. I'm, thi. I'm only. I'm only. I thi. I th. I th. I th. I the thing that I have noticed is like, I think like if you're in a relationship with someone or if someone's talking to you and they're like, oh yeah, like I cheated, but I'm not gonna do it again. It's like, you're probably gonna do it again. Like they, they, especially if you're not telling them and you're not communicating and you don't feel remorse.

Like he was lying to Reddit. He clearly was, as you were saying, he was lying to himself. He loves like telling this fiction to himself of like, I did it once and it's fine, but he's actively doing this all the time. Why did he lie about Pop-Belly? That is the biggest. He was trying the in the thing. Have you? We've had, like when someone shows up in the comments as a party of the story? This type of thing does happen on Reddit a lot. I know, I've just never seen this. People find Reddit. Like if you're going to post on Reddit being like, oh, I cheated on my girlfriend or I lied to my girl. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. the. th. th. th. th. th. th. th th. th th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thee. the. thee. theeeeeeee. theeee. the. thi. the. the. thi.'s like, there's a good chance. She's gonna find it.

Not because she's, they'll often be like, my girlfriend's not on Reddit or like throwaway accounts so my girlfriend doesn't find it. It's like, but you might have friends who have read it and like, they're gonna see it. Or they might be watching a smoshed video. saw this and like, that's, that's Steve, that's Steve, for sure. It went some piece of trash that Ubers to a Panera? I know who that is. Potbelly.

Oh, no disrespect. Important information here. Potbelly is a sub-sandwich chain originated in Chicago in the 70s. They do milkshakes. Only? No, they do thethe sub sandwich changed, but they also, but they also have milkshakes. So he wanted a sandwich and a milkshake after a boink in it? Probably because his boiq was only little, little, because it was like, five minutes, and he probably was like, I need something else.

Okay. I need something else. All right, look, that one seems done. I'm happy she found out. I feel bad for her but like dude she dodged a massive bullet. But what? This this asshole was like we're gonna spend the rest of our lives together. No, I got her right where I want her. She got out of it. Thank God. That is some big betrayal legacy. No, no. No. No. No. Next story. Am I the asshole for refusing to meet my boyfriend's friends unless they apologize to me? Okay.

A couple of weeks ago, this is a 24-year-old woman. My boyfriend, who's 27, friends found a tinder account with my pictures and matched with it. I have not met my boyfriend's friends yet, but they know what I look like because my boyfriend showed them pictures. They showed my boyfriend the account and my boyfriend called me immediately to tell me about it. I haven't used Tinder in over a year and Tinder is supposed to delete it inactive accounts after seven days, so I knew it wasn't mine.

His friend also messaged with the account that weekend, but I was with my boyfriend watching a movie, that exact time, so my boyfriend didn't really believe the account was mine either. But his friends weren't convinced that I wasn't cheating. I could hear them yelling things through the phone like, make that bitch prove herself. Your girlfriend is a whore, along with other really degrading names. My boyfriend told them to shut up as I was on the verge of tears. I went on face time with all of them while the friend messaged the account. They made me show my hands and my phone on video call the whole time. The Catfisher messes back and I was proven innocent.

None of them apologized to me. They only apologized to my boyfriend, which felt even more disrespectful. Apparently those friends are hosting a party this weekend and my boyfriend wants me to meet the group for the first time. But I don't want anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything anything to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to their their to their their their their their, their, their, to to their, their, their, their, their, I, their, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, and, their, and, their, and, and, and, their, and, and, their, the group for the first time, but I don't want anything to do with them until they apologize to me for calling me names. My boyfriend understands but also says that it would mean a lot if I could at least give his friends another chance, since they were actually just doing their best to support him. He has been cheated on in the past. Would I be the asshole if I refused? You still don't call a woman a whoreore, I, I, to call, to call, to call, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, the to, the the th, th the the th the thi, the the thi, th tho, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, to to to to to to to to to to to to to to thooooooooooooooo, to the. That, that, I think like...

This makes me mad. It'd be one thing if they were just like, hey man, like, I'm mad. We're concerned for you. I don't know if I trust her, whatever. This shows that he's friends with a bunch of misogynistic people. Like, he's by proxy probably, it's. Yeah. You're a thorough, put, put, put, put, put, put, put. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. tho. tho. tho. th. thi. tho. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. they. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. tha. tha. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. th said. No, they... They hold her hands up as they DMV account. What that? It was a full body slate.

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That makes me really mad because the fact he... That sucks. That makes me really mad because the fact that just shows that he's not going to support her in a time of need. Yeah, I also get, I have personal things with like, I feel like in my dating history when friends, when your partner like gets like protective of their friends when their friends are kind of being like like I've never had something like that disrespectful but when they're just like it would mean a lot if you just let that slide or it would mean a lot if you were still friends if

you were friends with my friends and like I just think I get it and friends mean a lot to people but like when they do something as blatantly disrespectful to a woman like that bro. bro. bro. bro. bro. they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they to they they to to to they're they they're to to to to to to to to th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're to to thi thi to thi to to thi to to to to teeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I thi thi. I thi. I thi thi thi th lot to people, but like when they do something as blatantly disrespectful to a woman like that, bro, the lines are pretty clear. And manipulative too. Yeah, they've been dating for like a little over a year it sounds like because she hasn't used tinder in over a year. Cut that shit down. So we have some comments here. The verdict was not the asshaw for, she wouldn't be an asshole for if she refused to go see his friends. to go. to go. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. the to. the to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to be. to be. to be. to be. And, to. to be to me. And, to me. And, to, to, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. And, th. And, th. And, th. And, toe. And, toe. And, toe. And, toe. And, toe. And, toe. And, toe. And, to. Someone said, not the asshole, stand your ground. You humored them and went so far as to prove you were innocent. The least they can do is apologize. Red flag that your boyfriend doesn't think they owe you an apology.

Someone else said, what the fuck? Time to dump the boyfriend and his buddies. Not the asshole, but you're the asshole to to the to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the to the the the the to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the leastss. Yeah, I fully agree. I'd say like maybe just don't go to the hang, just give it a bit. Yeah, or just be like, I don't feel comfortable going to the hang after they called me a whore. And they didn't apologize. A bunch of dudes were like, you're fucking hoar, I'd be like, cool. I'm not coming over for a barbecue. Yeah. What are we talking about here?

Also, look, my advice from earlier, she's 24. I'm just like, dude, that's that big of a red flag? Walk away. Walk away, man. Walk away, man. I just, I'm just a believer in that. I am. Yeah, walk away.

But if people disagree, that's's an update. Ooh. Update on this one. We've got a lot of updates today, I think. These are so good. So much crazy shit has happened, and I've just been trying to process at all. I don't even think y'all are going to believe what went down. After reading through the comments on my last post, I told my boyfriend again to me and made it up by spending the weekend with me at my place instead of going to the party. He told me that after he quit his job, he would not contact any of his friends who refused to apologize to me. None of them did.

His apology seemed genuine and him not going to the party convinced me that everything was good so I didn't break up with him. Flash forward to a few days ago. were laying together in bed, he was on his phone, messaging some of his friends while I was watching TickTox. At one point, I glanced at his phone while he was scrolling through his text and saw that he had sent a bunch of screenshots of my pictures from Instagram to someone. Even from far away, I could tell that they were pictures of me. I didn't think much of it, and even thought, sleep, I jokingly asked him, hey, why were you sending my Instagram pictures to your friends? He went white, and there was so much panic on his face. I immediately knew something was up and made him explain.

Apparently, he sent my Instagram pictures to his friends so that they could make a fake Tinder account to see if I was really cheating on him, because he had been cheated on in the past. He felt so insecure in our relationship that he wanted to make sure I didn't have any dating apps or was doing anything shady behind his back. He thought the confrontation would scare me into a real confession. But he didn't want to seem like the bad guy with major trust issues, which is what he is, so he had his friends confront me for him while he pretended to be on

my side the whole time. They saw my reaction to it all. I was literally on the verge of tears the entire call and did not confess to anything they accused me of. And they decided to play it off as a catfish. So congrats to those of you in the comments who guessed right. The friends made the fake account. I didn't believe it at first because I had no evidence and I hate making false assumptions about people. I also thought that they had no way to get pictures of me since my Instagram is private.

But how the fuck was I supposed to know my own boyfriend was providing them to frame me? Needless to say, I dumped his ass. He cried the whole time which was admittedly satisfying to watch but also painful. Thanks for all the support. Wish me luck in therapy. Whoa. Wait. So he was still. I'm confused. So still make a message. Yeah, he was sending stuff.

So, so the tinder account. So, the tea. Yeah. That she was like, they, that he came and he's like, hey, we found a Tinder account, your girlfriend has. They made it. Why? Why? To test? They wanted, they wanted to see if, the boyfriend was, the boyfriend masterminded it. He was, he had been cheated on the past, so he wanted his friends

to create a fake Tinder account with photos of her, to then confront her with it so that she would go, okay, yeah, I'm cheating on you. Yeah. But she wasn't, so they just they had this big elaborate plan to make her come clean. That obviously wasn't real. What is psycho! Yeah, she's going to therapy now, which is great, and he could have done that in the first place. He's going to hell. I just, it's like it's crazy to me. Like when you get to that point, it's like, oh maybe I shouldn't be th. th. th. th. to to to to to to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be th. to be th. th. to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be thr. to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be crazy. to be crazy. to be crazy. to be crazy. to be crazy. to be crazy. to be crazy. to be crazy. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the. the. the. the. the. the. that the. that that that that that that that that that's that's that's that's that's that's thr. the. when you get to that point, it's like, oh, maybe I shouldn't be in a relationship. Maybe I'm not ready for this. Maybe I should go talk to a therapist for a while and work through this. Yeah. And then, does his friends have girlfriends?

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They're also hurt it feels like. Thank God she ended that. Like, can you imagine if she got married and the shit he would come up with? I'm so glad a lot of these people are like discovering and like walking away from these relationships. And like I'm also a believer in like when you have that level of suspicion, it's like, oh, I need to work on this or like this relationship won't work. Like when you're at that level of suspicion, you're, it's not working. Like something, something's got to give there.

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One-thirty rolled around and my anger had completely transformed into worry, not answering my calls and texts not read. Around 145, I called the police. I have always heard that the first 24 hours of someone being missing is the most important, so I didn't want to delay. I asked him to let me know if there had been any traffic accidents involving her car, and the operator told me that they would put out the word and send some cops to check along the routes she would to the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the the the the the the the the the, and the the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, and the, the, the, I.................. the, I, I, I. the, I. the the the the the the the the the the t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t the the t the t the t the theirs, the hospitals in the area to see if she had been checked in, and I waited outside watching the road for her car for three hours. Partially because I didn't want the kids to hear me on the phone with hospitals, and secondly because I was sick with worry. At 7 a.m. she came home. She apologized for being out and said she had no excuse. She was driving home and felt tired like she was falling asleep at the wheel, so she pulled over to the side of the road to sleep. When she did that, she found

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relatively new to her job. A police officer showed up and asked to speak with her. She is now enraged at me for calling the police and sending a cop to her work and making her look bad. She is saying I overreacted and that she wasn't missing and that I was punishing her for doing the responsible thing and not driving well drowsy. She is saying that she is never going to leave the house again except for work because she is afraid I'm going to call the cops on her again. So did I overreact? Should I have waited two days like she suggests? No, the first 48, everyone knows that show. First 48 is very important to catch a suspect and find the missing person. We don't talk about this a lot.

I don't think we said it on camera. We're obsessed with the same TV. We're obsessed with Dateline, we're obsessed with the True Crime. Lest the true crime is a god. Yeah, believe it or not, we're true crime junkies. I finished it. We're tousands of episodes. I finished it. I'm waiting for the next one to come out. Now I'm on a weekly. So those are obvious things.

I don't think he overreacted. I don't think I think he actually did everything right. So I haven't scrolled down yet to see if there's an update. Yeah, because. But I feel pretty certain she cheated. I just, you know what actually seems to be the most telling for me is the like, the getting angry and like making him feel bad and the like putting it on him. That's such a like tell-tale sign. Exactly.

And that's what, it's so consistent. Guilt. Because if I had actually fallen asleep, that probablythe next day, I bet I would have been like, you know what, this all makes kind of sense. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. So we have comments here. No, you're not the asshole, but you know she's lying, right? Someone said, not the asshole. I don't believe her story one bit.

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Was she there for only 20 minutes? Stop, Ellie. Okay. We have an update. Of course. Wow. I think I'm watching a movie. So, all right.

Because women can cheat too. Yeah! First of all, thank you to those of you who offered kind words and solid advice. This update is likely to disappoint some of you as it does me. My fiance and I have been fighting solidly since before I posted my last thread. It's been exhausting. I called her out on her obvious lie and she fumed at how awful I was for calling her a liar. From then on, it was as if she was falling down a smooth well, desperately clawing and

grabbing it anything she could to blame me for. As she went deeper and deeper, I'm not a perfect man, but in this particular situation I was an angel so she had nothing to grab on to. I did a lot of soul searching, and I made a call that most of you will hate. I decided to bury the hatchet. I love her very, very dearly. I had no proof of a lie, and I wasn't too concerned about what she was really up to anyway. Our relationship is open, so even if she fucked around, I'm, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, and I, and I'm, and I'm, and I, and I, and I'm th th th th thi, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I th. thi, and I thi, and I thi, and I thi, and I thi, and I thi, and I, and I thi, and I, and I, thi, and I the the the the the the the the the the the the thi, thi, thi, thi, thi. that that th that th that that that that that that that that that that that, that,. Okay, that's okay. She still fought with me though.

The fight continued to the point where she broke up with me, but not really, which was a common tactic she had used before. I called her on it and she fought with me still. I asked for space for a night so I could sleep off the exhaustion and she got upset and told me I was neglectful and selfish for not going to her and making it up in person and making up in person. I am stupid, I am aware of it. Even through all of this, I was apparently able to believe that what she said in emotion wasn't really her talking. Today I was having lunch. Money had been, has been tight lately for some reason, weird,

so I flipped through my wallet to find my credit card, which was missing. Well, you see where this goes. She had stolen it. She cited our desire to join lives together and merge finances and that when I lent her my wallet once, she took it so she wouldn't have to bother me by asking again. This credit card is mine, under my name and for emergencies only. She was using it for the last month and a half. While she has been decent enough to pay back some of it, there was still a $1,500 balance on it that hasn't been paid. She says that it's hers just as much as mine and resents me calling her a thief. A lot of the uses were spent at ATMs for cash withdrawals, and some interesting ones at the casino. Those of you who guessed gambling were probably right on the money. At that point, I admit I lost it. I am a very very very very very very, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th. I'm th. I'm a thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, the, the, the, the, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, the, and, and, and, the, and, the, and, th. th. the, th. th. th. th. th. th. the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the the the the the the the the the, the, the the, the the the. the the the thea. thean, thean, thean, thea. thea. thea. thea, the. th money. At that point, I admit I lost it. I am a very calm person, but there was only so much denial of reality that I could take. It's still blurry, but I said a lot of horrible things to her and am in the process of evicting her from my life.

I am canceling everything that is in my name, that she is her and she has trashed. Apparently I can handle lies, cheating, and secrets, but who knew theft was my line? Learning experience. Now thinking back, I can identify lots of sketchy shit that my love goggles blinded me to. But there's a pretty strict character limit. You know, gambling addiction is it also fits so perfectly into that story that I did not.

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an addiction that is very well as he described but like really she sounds like a horrible mess. I mean it's sad but also he's... But he's recognizing, now he gets to recognize all the flags like, oh I gave her the car, she trash it, she's on my phone line. Yeah, and also like, you know, this stuff like even with an open relationship, like not communicating and lying and like disappearing and then making them feel bad is still not acceptable, you know, they still got to call it quits on that.

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husband would cheat on me so I had a valid out. Oh. Ouchy, wowcie. I hate being married. My husband would rather spend time with his brothers and parents than with me. We've been at his parents' house for the past three weekends. Once we leave there, he gets on video games with them until all hours of the night.

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that is not active in your marriage is a totally valid reason, to get to get to get to get, to get, to get, to to to to thi. Someone else said, as someone who was in your position and dealt with it for four more years, please don't wait for a valid reason. Your reasons are valid, move on with your life. I spent four years unnecessarily miserable. Someone else said, why do y'all get married in the first place? File a no fault divorce. She responded, being raised Mormon, we never lived together before we got married. Beyond that, we were pushed into marriage really fast. We started dating officially in March

and were married in October. We had dated in high school, so I felt like I knew him. It was definitely a rushed decision. Had I live with him before we got married, I never would have married him. God. That's tough. She needs to divorce him. She does. And I also get, so she probably worried about about about about about about about about about about about about about about about about about about, the, th, th, to, to, so, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, to, to, to, to, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, to about how people are gonna view her, and she's that moral dilemma, you know,

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Wait, what? But this is the cheating episode. Does she have a second wind? Wend? Um, well, there is an update. And it's called Second Wind. There's an update. It's a short update, so I don't know what happens here.

I decided to try to talk to him today about how I was feeling and ultimately packed me and the kids up. I'll be staying at my moms for an undecided amount of time. Therapy around here is either very expensive or very hard to come by, but we both agreed to give it a shot. I know it's weird to need to need to need to need to need to need to need to need to need to need to need to need to need to need to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the to to to to to give to give to give it, the to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, and to give to give it, and to give it, and to give it, and to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, to give it, to to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the to me, the the the the the the the to me, the the the the to me, to me, the the to me. to me, to give you the extra push, but thank you for giving it to me. I genuinely didn't feel like I deserve to leave without a good reason. I've been told, all men are like this, so I've just dealt with it. Whatever happens next is for the best. Okay, that's awesome.

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Well, I hope they work out. All right, next one. Am I the asshole for laughing at my brother's tate. I guess it's cheating involved, maybe? This is a pretty cut and dry scenario. It's a 32-year-old man. My little brother, who's 25, has been in a string of relationships since he was young enough to know what dating was. On several occasions, the relationships ended because he was caught cheating with another girl. These are just the ones that I know about, there could be more. In fact, his current girlfriend, who's 19, was the other woman from his previous relationship. He, I'll call him Danny, still lives with my parents,

and I headed over on the fourth for barbecue. When he reached out for a hug, I noticed his arm was super red and he showed me his brand new tattoo that he had literally just gotten. In huge words, it said, loyalty in cursive. Where I might be the assel is that I kind of laughed as soon as I saw it and didn't try to hide it at all. It wasn't a dramatic laugh. He said what's so funny and I just said his tattoo was really ironic. He got pissed and stormed off to his room and didn't join my parents and die plus our sister for dinner. I told them what happened and they said I was being an asshole and my sister said people are allowed to change. I personally think he's acting like a child by locking himself at his room

and that I shouldn't be blamed for a 25-year-old storming off. Dude, that's ridiculous. That reaction makes me think he's probably definitely still cheating and gonna cheat. This guy sucks. No, that guy sucks so much. He's like loyalty, love death, room just like, you guys are so mean. It's so funny how consistent that shit is, like people who project that stuff of like, like, it's like the, it's like the, it's like the pastors who are like specific on a certain

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My girlfriend, who's 23, is currently working a food truck at a music festival this weekend, and I think she's cheating on me. I'm losing my mind. My girlfriend, Stella and I have been together for a year now. I love her so much it's stupid, and this situation has brought such a crazy amount of anxiety. I had a full panic attack yesterday because of it. She had the opportunity to work on a food truck this summer, which has allowed her to get into a few festivals for free, and I hate it so much. One of the guys she works with is an attractive dude who's in his late 20s and I'm convinced the thrante this current trip is my girlfriend, another girl about the same age, the older guy, let's call him John, and the couple that owns the truck slash business. We ran into John in public once and

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That feels a little demanding and like controlling. But yeah. Yeah, I think he's's he's overthinking it personally. And I just, this level of trust is not gonna get there. He's admitting like, I don't trust her there. It's like, well, you don't trust her, so you shouldn't be in a relationship with her. Like, then you're not, you've got to work on that.

Maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. He's 21. It's one, it's one, it's one, it's one, it's one of those things where it's like, you need to work on this or you need to walk away. So got some comments here. This is funny and it's true. You think she's fucking him in a tent with five people in it? A music festival sounds like a pretty logistically inconvenient place for them to be doing it. During the day she's working, during the night there are others literally inches away. Plus some of what you regard as evidence sounds frankly unhinged.

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It fucks with me. You have a half-sister? Go to fucking Paris and have a tah. good time and meet your half-sister. No, I've never been cheated on, but I'm halfway through Breaking Bad. What? Like, what dude? Also, she probably loves her co-worker because he doesn't fucking try to control her and she probably gets a rest.

Yeah. But sometimes when one parent has a kid that you've never met, do you know how that fucks with you? What are you saying? I'm making it. Oh. I have a half-sister in Paris, France. Go fucking live. I, I, no, I've never been cheated on, but like I own a pair of jeans that I'm still breaking in and they just won't break in. It's just so far, France.

It's so, that just feels like very, I can't get a ticket right now. So someone else said, If you don't trust her, then break up. You cannot put her in a cage to put your mind at ease. That is exactly how I feel. He made an edit here, adding some justification to my feelings. I know this sounds a bit controlling,

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He was silent the entire ride to his dad's house and I thought I fucked up until we arrived and he said, I love you too, mom. It was so hard to keep to keep to keep the to take a break from driving home because of how emotional I was. Monday and Tuesday were calm and nothing out of the ordinary. Wednesday night was different. My husband and I were out while the girls were with my in-laws when I got a call for my son. He was quiet but asked if I could pick him up. I called my ex who just told me that our son was being dramatic, but I was welcome to take him. It was obvious that he and his the the the the the the the the the thoe, tho, tho, th, tho, th, th, th, tho, tho, thi, thi, thi, thi, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, thi, thi, thr, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, th. th. th. th th th th thi, thi, the, the, to, the, to to the, to toe, toe, too, too, too, toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. too. t t bad argument about something. I asked him what happened since ex kept telling me it was nothing.

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Thanks for being supportive. I'm so deep expecting that ending. I thought it was gonna get worse. Thought the sun was gonna like kill someone. That makes me want to cry. I thought he was gonna cheat on everyone at school. What? That's your indie movie talking. That's not real.

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Like that's what I mean like and her having that talk and making him do that really uncomfortable thing probably stops that uncomfortable feeling and making that a comfortable thing that his dad probably started young, you know what I mean? Like, it's just... Yeah, I mean at 14, hopefully, hopefully he will not turn out like his dad. Like because of that really influential parkhead. I was so deep into that, of course, make him sit on the grass. And have that moment that he'll remember for the rest of his life where your mom is like, I want you to know that that doesn't feel good. Yeah.

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Yeah. And you teach that behavior. And it's a behavior. they who loses in this story. Oh absolutely. He's gonna end up with nobody. He'll be 70 and there's gonna be nobody in his life. Correct. That's just what happens. And his son is not gonna want to go visit him or hang out. There was one comment here, former 14-year-old heat here, divorced home and all the fun stuff. Great job, Mama. I'm 36 now with a 1.5 year old of my own, one and a half year old of my own. My mom fighting my ignorance, bullheadedness, peacocking, and all the other nonsense I put

her through has made me a much better man. Boy do we have our blowouts. I am so close with her now. talk with her daily. grandson. She recently moved across the country to be closer to us and I couldn't be happier. I can't say how smooth the rest will be for you, but I have faith you and him will have a stronger bond for all of this. Yeah. Okay, this makes me want to cry. Uh, don't don't let the damn break. Uh, like I felt it welling and now I'm like, uh. Yeah. You know, you know, it's, you know, it's. that's so it's so it's so it's so it's so it's so it's so it's so it's so it's so it's so it's so it's so. That's so it's so. That's so. That's so. That's so it's so. That's so. That's so. That's so. It's so. It's so. It's so. It's so. It's so. It's so. It's so th. th. th. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this this this this. this this this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. this. It's, this. It's, this. It's, this. It's so this. It's so this. It's so th. It's so th. It's so th. It's so th. It's so th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th sweet that he messaged her that because... Because I think that moms feel like they're not doing the right thing probably and they're like, ah!

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first. Well, your demons, they never go away. You have to, once you can confront is like, I love you and I don't want you to be hurt. And you're like, listen, I love you so much, I don't want you to be hurt, it wasn't. It wasn't a Panera, it was a pop belly. That one was sitting in the driveway and the car engine was just on and you're like, I'm going to heat up that felt new. Well, this has been great.

And thank you both for being here. You both are, you both are insane. Thanks for having us goodnight. Okay. This is actually where we slip off now. Okay. People are know this, but this is our apartment. Yeah, you guys can get out of our apartment.

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Please, we're off to Panera Bread. Get out of our apartment. Thanks, Shane. You can't leave now. You can't plug, Shane. If you want to watch, if you want to play games on the iPad, you can't. Yeah, just don't talk to us. I'll play some games on the iPad. All right.