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Starting point is 00:01:00 Right here. Ha ha ha. You didn't know I was there. Ah! Hey, red shirt. Hey, red. Well, are you guys good at catching red flags? Are you good at noticing red flags? I love to notice and then go, huh? I love to notice to go, well, let me give them a benefit of the though. Well, and then years later you go, ah, the red flags were all there.

Starting point is 00:01:25 Granted, I'm walking around going, Yeah, Tommy's a red flag. So today's theme, all about red flags. Different varying kinds of red flags, people ignoring them, people catching them. So we're going to hop into this. If, as I'm telling the story, you notice a red flag, or you feel free to lift up your their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their If, as I'm telling the story, you notice a red flag, or you feel free to lift up your flags.

Starting point is 00:01:49 There's also green flags. Which means? He looks at me in the eye. Yes! Here's our first red flag story. This comes from am I the asshole. Am I the asshole for canceling my girlfriend's birthday dinner because she burned my Wagyu

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Starting point is 00:02:15 I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend, who's 27, for about a year. We cohabitate and have done so for the past six months. A couple weeks back, I blew about $200 ordering some Wagyu steaks. I was looking forward to them coming so much because I love cooking and have never had a real Wagyu steak before. They arrived on Thursday evening last week, and I decided we'd have them for dinner on Friday, night. My girlfriend seemed generally uninterested as she's not much of a steak person, but she said she'd enjoyed them with me. On Friday morning we had an argument before I went to work.

Starting point is 00:02:46 It was really stupid. She disagreed with me on a project that I'm working on involving the garage, and despite the fact that I owned the house we live in, kept trying to assert authority over the decisions I made. She then brought up the wague steaks as evidence that I was wasting money on the project and expensive food. I went to work in a bad mood, but I sent her a text in the afternoon saying that I'd like to talk it over a bit when I got home with a cool head. She didn't answer. I left work around 5.30 looking forward to the steaks, but when I walked into the door,

Starting point is 00:03:16 there was this horrible smoke smell. My girlfriend greeted me, and led me to the table. She said, dinner is served. Oh, ah! The stakes were pitch black, completely inedible. Eating them would have been a health hazard. I asked what the hell she was thinking, and she theatrically gasped with her hand over her mouth, and then said, oh, me? mea!

Starting point is 00:03:39 Now, let me get one thing straight here. There is no way she accidentally got those steaks to that condition. Based on our frying pan, she probably turned the heat up as high as it would go, threw them on with no oil or butter and just let them sit. This was completely intentional. I called her on her lie. She kept being obtuse. She kept using little phrases like, oh, aren't you happy? And, oh, weren't you looking forward to these steaks?

Starting point is 00:04:06 I've never been so disgusted with her. Well, her birthday was on Sunday, and I had reservations at a really nice French restaurant for her, her parents and me. I just flat out told her that I was canceling the reservation. She immediately flipped and tho' that her parents were going......... the.. toe. toe. they. told. told. their. their. told. their. their. told. their. told. their. told. told. told, told, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their. I, their. I, their. I, their. I, their. I, their. I, their. I, their. I, their. I, their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. too. t t t t thea. thea. thea. thea. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their parents were going to be super upset, but I didn't care. She grabbed the stakes and threw them in the garbage where they were going anyway and then stormed off. Sunday came and went, she didn't say a single word to me, opting to lock herself in another room. Her parents have had full radio silence. I'm starting to feel bad about my decision, but did I go over the top here? Oh my god. What's that? What's that? Oh, what that? Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, th. Oh, th. Oh, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the the, the the, the the the, the the the the the th. th. thi. thi. thi. th. to. to. tho. to. th. th. tho. they. the. the. the. the. the, the, the? I can picture a... How obtuse of her. My goodness, big words. Oh lord. This one's tough. I mean... Like the steak? Yeah. Well, like the steak. Yeah.

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Starting point is 00:05:51 up for some difficulty. That can be factually correct, but it's not like spiritually correct. Yeah. Yeah, it should be a... maybe he's been saying it since can't, sorry, can't touch the man closet. Sorry, what? Don't talk about my past. Their relationship is a little fucked because they communicate by getting revenge on each other. Right. So she was like, oh I'm mad at you for this thing, so I'm gonna burn your $200 stakes. He's like, well now I'm mad at you so I'm gonna cancel your birthday plans. Yeah, and the poor parents. So so so so so so the the th so the th so th so th th so th they th. So th. So th. So th. So th. So th. So th. So th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. they're th. their they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they's they're they're they're they're they're they're they're their their their their to to to their to their to their their to they. their toe. their their their toe. toe. I's their to their to cancel your birthday plans. It's like, okay, so what, you guys are just going to keep one-upping each other.

Starting point is 00:06:26 Both situations, I'm like, why didn't you break up with him? And now I'm like, why aren't you breaking up with her? What is this? Why would you rather do this bullshit than just leave each other? Right. So the whole thing is red flag. I mean if because it's written from his perspective and he's really painting her as this villain. Yeah if we're to take him at his word then she is a super villain. Yeah. They're like oh me? Oh no he comes home she has gloves on on a cape. Uh oh what? I go gadget., gadget! Go, go, fuck yourself. I, I'm having a, on my second read through of this, I'm having a little bit of a hard

Starting point is 00:07:10 time believing him because I'm like, he's painting her as being like, like, psychopathic, but he's not leaving her and not going, oh God, I should go. He's, it's like, yeah, it just seems like he wants to be like, yeah, look at her, she's a nightmare. Yeah. And I'm like, if this is true, you need to go. She's crazy. Yeah, but also it's like, yeah, Wagoo is special, but it's she, to her, it's not that big of a deal. So it's like he's, I feel like he has high ex, he wants her to feel the way that he feels. And it's like, he, he, he, he wants, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he wants, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to be like, oh my god, Wagoo, and she doesn't care and Wagoo's great, but it's like, I mean, she shouldn't have burned it, but That's why it's like this this one's hard to comment on because the whole thing is right. We don't know what that like initial argument was like either. We don't know anything. I feel like this is a loaded relationship. Yeah, for sure. I can understand why he's pissed though because of the waggue. I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I the, I th, I th, I th, I mean, I mean, I th, I mean, I mean, I mean, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I shouldn't, I th, I th, I th shouldn't, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th, I th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I thi, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, thi, thi, I mean, I mean, I mean, I thi, I mean, I thi, I mean, I mean, I thi, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, this is a loaded relationship into it. I can understand

Starting point is 00:08:05 why he's pissed though because of the Wagoo beef but to then like cancel the French dinner the parents probably got outfits. Right. The mom has like a beret. I think in a relationship getting revenge like that is just stupid. It's just stupid because you're only going to make your relationship worse. Revenge within a romantic relationship is never the right answer to me. Six months in? Yeah, there's six months into moving in together. Okay.

Starting point is 00:08:36 They've been dating. So I've been in relationship with my girlfriend for about a year we cohabitate and have done so over the past six months. So they moved they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they've they've they've they've they've they've they've they've they've they've they've they've they've they have done so over the past six months. So they moved in together into his house after six months. One year. I mean, there's nothing. No, they moved in after six months. That's, oh, I mean.

Starting point is 00:08:51 I mean, everybody goes. I'm sorry. Oh, my God. People go at different paces. Yes, that's super fast and moving in together is like maybe the biggest step. For sure. Like I think I think that's arguably bigger than like marriage and stuff like moving in together is it's... That's intense. Moving into his space. Right. And I think that's the problem. That's tough. I think that's really tough. I think when you move into a place together, it's like, if it's not both of yours together, then I just think you're gonna have resentment at some point. Right, and she's not gonna feel

Starting point is 00:09:27 comfortable because she's like, this is he still has ownership, this is his furniture, whatever. I think it might have been the last straw. The verdict here, the verdict here was not the asshole, which I, given the information we have. I kind of agree. I'm like, g g g g g I, but it's one, this is one of those where I fear that if I met them both, I'd be like, you didn't write that truthfully. Yeah. But I also think burning someone, like fucking up someone's things, you know, for some that, that was really rebuttal. Then, oh my god, then yeah, she's an asshole. Some comments, I I I I tha. I tha. I tha. I tha. I tha. I tha. I tha. I thiia. I thi. I thi. I'd thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi's thi. this is thi. this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is thi. this is thathea. thathea. thathea. this is this is thathea. thathea. that, that, that, that, that, that. that. that. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thee. theateateate. theateate. the. thi. thi. theate. thi. thi. thi. my god, then yeah, she's an asshole. Yeah. Some comments, I'd break up.

Starting point is 00:10:05 I couldn't handle living with someone who would be destructive just to hurt me, deal breaker. Someone else said, your relationship is more burnt than that stake. And it should be thrown into the garbage bin too. Save yourself a whole life of this. Six months and already showing you she is a only get worse from now on. Someone else said, not the asshole, and why on earth would you want to be in a relationship with someone who handles minor conflict like this? But that's ultimately, my ultimate take is just like, I'm like, why are you both, you both, both, you both sound like you, after a year, you both hate each other.

Starting point is 00:10:34 Right. Why are you together? Yeah, but what about that person, that car, that, that, that, that, th. for the parents. See, this is my problem. When I watch a movie and like something goes awry, I'm always like, yeah, but what about that person, that car that they just hit? They never go back to it, you know what I mean? Like when Transformers like, who's like, who's like, my car? You're like, that person's up all night thinking of the hud. I'm like, God. There's an arguments you made that's like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that you're thinking too much and it's about yeah things it's like as opposed to well no they treated me wrong and I should oh yeah right my murders like do you want to come in for a cup of tea and you're like yeah because people don't feel bad they don't want to let them down right it's like everyone needs love and that's like they're like thi they they they they they they they th I th I th I th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi they're they're they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they're like like like like like like they're like they're like thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi the thi thi the thi the thi thi thi thi thi they're they're like like like needs love and that's why he killed her. Yeah. And then you're like, maybe he is a good guy.

Starting point is 00:11:25 As we're going like this, huh? Maybe he is a good guy. You're thinking about it for too long. The red flag is waiting. You're like, all right. Something's hitting me, huh? Well, whatever. Okay.

Starting point is 00:11:39 Next story. This comes from relationship advice. This is a 23-year-old woman. My boyfriend, who's 25, thinks my dad's, who's 59, thinks my dad's gifts are creepy. Red flag? Okay, so this woman thinks, she's saying, my boyfriend thinks my dad's gifts are creepy. Every year for Valentine's Day, my dad, who's 59, gives, sands me flowers and a box of chocolate. He has done this every year since I've been old enough to remember. He'd

Starting point is 00:12:09 always give them to me when I was little, when I went to college, and beyond he had them delivered to me. It's just a tradition for us. I think it's sweet. I grew up in a really tight-knit-knit-closed. I started dating my, I started dating my boyfriend my boyfriend my boyfriend my boyfriend my to-a-s-s-s-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-in-s. I th-s. I th-s. I th-s. I th-s. I th-s. I th-s. I thi. thi. thi. He's thi. He's thi. He's thi. He's thi. He's thi-s. He's th-s. He's th-s. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He-s-s-s-s-s-s. He. He. He th-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-s. He's th-s. He's th-s. He's th-s. He's th-s thi-s thi-s thia-s thea-sea-sea-seasease thia-sease thia-s. He Valentine's Day, I got the usual delivery from my dad. Mark saw and said, oh, your dad sent you those? Oh, okay. And that was it. Fast forward to this year, last night, Mark and I were discussing our Valentine's Day plans for this year, like what restaurant we should go to, and he made a passing comment about hoping I don't get any creepy gifts in the mail th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, th. thin, thp, thp-a, thin, thin, and, and, and, thr-a, and, th. th. th. th. th. th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th............... And, th. And, th. And, th. And, thr, thr, thr, thr, thr, thr, thr, thr, to, to, toea, toean, toean, toean, toean, toean, thr-a, thr-a, thr-a, ththe mail this year. I was confused and asked him what he meant and he said, you know, how you got that stuff from your dad last year. It's creepy for a dad

Starting point is 00:12:48 to be sending his adult daughter Valentine's Day gifts. I was taken aback because it's not like my dad sent me lingerie or something. It was just flowers and some chocolate. I tried explaining to mark that this is a tradition I have always shared with my dad. He stands stands, I, I creepy and weird, and he said he asked his friends, and they thought it was weird, too. I tried to let it go, but it has been bothering me. One, I have never heard these kinds of negative comments from Mark before, and I'm not sure whether it's a red flag. I have never been in a serious relationship before, and I'm still figuring it all out. When my dad's delivery comes this month, I don't want Mark to feel uncomfortable. Three, is it actually creepy for my dad to be sending this stuff? I have never found it so, but would like to hear other perspectives.

Starting point is 00:13:31 Thanks. Okay, can I speak to this real quick? Yeah. My birthday's on Valentine's Day, and ever since I was little, my dad gets me the heart box of chocolates and flowers. Ew! Hey! Oh, they're both! Mark! And I think it's sweet.

Starting point is 00:13:50 I think it's so sweet and it's her tradition. It's a tradition. It's a tradition. And I, oh, this just kind of frustrates me. It's like, this is her thing. Valentine's Day is, I guess many people have very different opinions on Valentine's Day. I've always taken Valentine's Day to be very like innocent and sweet. Because like when you're like a little kid, you're like giving each other like hearts.

Starting point is 00:14:15 It's like, it's not really like a sexy heart. It's just like, oh, you're a sweetheart. It's like, that's just like, oh, you're my sweetheart, you're my daughter. Like, that's always been my interpretation of it. I think that's the majority's interpretation. Yeah, I don't think it's weird. Mark's going around being like, that Easter Bunny keeps laying eggs in the yard. I should be laying eggs in your yard. Yeah, crack open a couple beers. This, my, my lady's father keeps sending her fucking chocolates.

Starting point is 00:14:45 I think it's a... I think it's a red flag because it shows how this guy views like just relationships in general. This, this feels like it might fall in the same category as like a lot of other thoughts that guys can have of like, I wouldn't be surprised. This is a, maybe a little bit of a reach, but if Mark is the same type of thinker of like oh men and women can't be friends right you know what I mean just like this this types of views of the world and yeah if the dad can't send that type of thing what if like a friend a male friend got you a gift I think Mark think Mark would have a problem. Yeah, Mark.

Starting point is 00:15:27 Some comments, these are some interesting perspectives. Maybe he feels forced to do more than he wants to compete with your dad or whatever. Don't change your tradition with your dad. It's sweet and great proof of your good bond. It's not creepy at all. Someone said, my dad sent me and my daughter flowers until he passed away a couple of years ago. I'm 53 now. Your dad is making sure you have also known that he loves you and thinks of you. This is not creepy or weird. Your boyfriend is making an issue out of nothing. What is wrong with him to think in this way? Oh that makes me want to cry. Oh that makes me want to cry. That's so sweet. Someone said, your dad's Valentine's Day gifts are sweet, not creepy.

Starting point is 00:16:08 Your boyfriend's reaction though, kind of creepy. He's sexualizing a completely innocent gesture of affection from a father to his child. I don't know that it's a red flag necessarily, but it is a good reason, a good reason to really pay attention to his ability to give and receive affection outside a romantic or sexual context. That's a doctor. That's really like a good point. Yeah. That's what I mean where it's like men and women can't be friends.

Starting point is 00:16:32 It's just like affection is only sexual. Yes. And I'm like, no. Not true at all. There's an update. Big surprise here guys. to have a legitimate conversation with Mark, Big surprise here guys. We broke up. Oh no. Wow.

Starting point is 00:16:46 I tried having a legitimate conversation with Mark, ex-boyfriend, about why he found the gifts creepy. He is close with his family. They show a regular amount of affection for a close American family, so it wasn't that. He could not articulate to me why he found it creepy. He just kept saying it made him uneasy. No further explanation. There is only so much I can't tha th I gave up on trying to find the root issue. He originally said he talked to his friends about it and they all found it weird. Yeah, he

Starting point is 00:17:11 never did that. He admitted that. He admitted it. He a cheated on me with two different girls, which took me by complete surprise. I got tested. All is fine in that regard. So yeah, I endedededed it it it it it it it it it it thedededededededed. the the to th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. th. thi. thi. th. thi. th. th. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the th. the the th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I th. I th. I th. I thi. I t t te. I te. I te. I te. I'm tean. tean. tean. tean. tean. tean. tean. tea. tea. tea. I'm tea. I'm te. I'm tested, all is fine in that regard. So yeah I ended it. He begged me to stay and said I was the one. I refused. I said something along the lines of you cheated on me, you lied to me, and we have different core family values. When he realized I wasn't coming back he told everyone I cheated on him. My friends were furious on my behalf and wanted to give him a peace of their minds, but I told them I just don't want to deal with him ever again. I am so done, I just don't care anymore. He is blocked. So basically, I still have no idea what his problem with the gifts was,

Starting point is 00:17:50 but good riddens. And for everyone who said I had a good dad, trust me, I know and I am so lucky. I'm the one. Yeah. It's like, no, you're the three. You're the third. No, I'm the third, yeah. Yeah, but you're the one out of those three.

Starting point is 00:18:11 Yeah, you're the one out of those three. Oh my god. What the hell? You know why he didn't tell anyone because he probably deep down knew that he was being crazy. Right. Yeah, he's he's jealous of the dad because he's cheating and is projecting that onto the family. Yeah. Something's going, something's going, ricket-tooling back in the background of his brain. Yeah, circus sense. A little circus in there. Yeah. Wow. That one just made me like, ugh. Yeah, shitty guy.

Starting point is 00:18:47 But she broke up with him and she blocked him. Good night. That's good. All right. Here's our next story. It's also from relationship advice. It's a 28-year-old woman. My fiance, who's 28-year-old man, th-old man, th-old man, th-old man, th-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-old-in-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-s. old man has some huge requests in order for me to regain his trust. Is his

Starting point is 00:19:05 request too far? Hmm. We've been together six years now and during the third year of our relationship I cheated on him with a close family friend. I had started taking him for granted and it became easy to cheat because I didn't value the relationship. He broke up with me and we were split for months and during the time I was single I realized he is a great boyfriend. I begged for him back and he took me back but I had to promise to never speak to the guy again. I'm happy to say I never cheated since then and haven't been tempted at all. I understand how great of a partner I have.

Starting point is 00:19:41 That being said, the guy the guy the guy the guy the guy the guy said, the guy I cheated with was a close family friend and recently I rekindled our friendship behind his back. Nothing romantic. Have you ever met someone who is a terrible partner but a great friend? That's him. I hated the fact that I let a stupid mishap ruin our friendship. My fiance found out and was angry. I apologized and we talked and he needed space. He sent me a text of his demands to continue the relationship and I copied and pasted it. His text. After doing some thinking, I can't trust you.

Starting point is 00:20:14 Whether it was platonic or not, this is the second time that I know of where you have violated my trust, thus the second time of where you have violated my trust, thiol, the their, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, their, thi, and I their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, thin, thin, t tog have you violated my trust or done something behind my back that I don't know about? You claim this is it, but how can I believe you? I love you and want to work on this relationship, but it's going to require a lot from you. We are postponing our wedding indefinitely. When we first got back together, it took 10 months before I felt secure in the relationship again. I have no idea how long it will take to feel secure again. 1. Eli, who I guess is a close family friend,

Starting point is 00:20:50 will be blocked on everything and you are to never speak to him again. This now includes family events. If you know he will be there, do not attend. If you didn't know and he attends, you are to ignore him. Two, I have unrestricted access to to to to to to to to to to to the to the to the the to the to the thia, thi, thuance, thuance, thu, thu, thi, thi, thu, thi, thi, thi, tho, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, their, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the, the, the the, the, the, the, the, the th... too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, tooeooooooooooooooooooe, tooe, too, ted access to phones, social media, emails, etc. Every password I want to know for any device you have. Three, no hanging out with male friends alone. Four, you are to be home by one if you do go out with your home girls. There will be more, but these are my demands and they aren't up for discussion.

Starting point is 00:21:22 If you aren't willing to do it, then the relationship is over. Take your time to think about it. I called him, but he said he's not arguing with me about it, and I can't call him back until I decide what I want to do. I feel that this is extremely harsh, considering the fact I didn't cheat this time. Ever since we got back together, I tod to to to to to to to to to to to to to follow those bogus rules. Let's get out of here! Yeah! Helicopter? Pick us out!

Starting point is 00:21:47 Um, okay, this is, there's a lot. This is crazy. She cheated. She cheated. She cheated on him. She cheated on him. They got back together. Right. And they're going, they're doing their thing. And then, despite the fact that they had said, she's like, I'm not gonna

Starting point is 00:22:06 talk to that guy. She then became friends with him behind his back. That sucks. And didn't tell him that that she was now talking to him again. But she's like, we're just friends. But regardless, she's like, she's like, she's like, she's like, she's like, I. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. they's like, I I I I I I I's like, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm th. I'm th. I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm th. I'm th. I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I I I I'm th. I I I'm th. I I I I I I'm th. I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I, I I I, I'm th. I, I'm th. I'm th. I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I'm not th. I's still a secret. That's what, that's what. And I would argue like to me that's, to me it's like lying is the cheating. Right, exactly. Do something like that behind someone's back. So she did all that. Now, so once that happens, he now says, okay, the only way we continue is if you follow all these rules, right? There's no toxic and not possible tha tha tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho th's not healthy either. That's so toxic. Right. That's also bad. It is so

Starting point is 00:22:46 toxic and not possible we're human beings and obviously if she's doing that, why don't you guys look at your relationship? You think restricting her is going to be better for your relationship? Right. No. Yeah, I mean in my limited understanding from what I remember from reading some stuff, like when cheating happens, I do believe, I mean, I'm someone that in my past when someone cheated, I'm like, well, I'm done. It's over. I can't. I know my level of trust. I know I can't.

Starting point is 00:23:18 And that's, but if, for one, you need to go to a therapist, a couple's counselor, if you're going to do this type shit........ Shagagagag.. That shit. That shit. That shit. That shit. Like. Like. Like. Like. Like. Like. Like. Like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, to to to to. to to to to to to to to to. to. to. to. to. to. to, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to to to to to to to to to to to the to to to toe. toe. toe. to, to, to, to, toe. to, to to to to to to to to go to a therapist, a couple's counselor, if you're going to do this type of shit, legit. Like, if someone cheats and you're like, let's get back together, I think a couple's therapist is like the only possibility. And they will tell him to not put those rules on her. I do think to both of them. I'm also of the mindset that when someone cheats that that relationship is over no matter what and that in order for it to move forward it's a whole brand new relationship. Right.

Starting point is 00:23:54 Yes. But this is so messy and shitty and just bad. It sounds like she's 100% going to cheat on him again. Yeah. She seems to me unhappy. I don't think she's getting fully what she needs. And what she's doing isn't right, of course, but like, there are bigger issues here. Like you, it's like telling someone that they can't have something. Of course they're going to want to now go for that. I do think, yeah. I think if think think think if think if you think if you think if you think thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. tho thoes. thoes. thoes. thoes, thoes, thi. I thi. I thi. tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. th. thi. th. th. th. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. tho. tho. tho. thee. the. theea. thea. toea. toea. thea. thea. theeea. I's thea. thea. the. the. th. I do think I yeah I think if you're in a relationship and it comes down to being like I have to tell you you can't do that. That thing you

Starting point is 00:24:28 want to do you can't do that. That is extremely like then I'd I if I'm at that place in a relationship I'd be like well then we got a breakup yeah this is bad this is never that's a I think I think you're lying to you're thr- I thr-I I thr-I I thr-I I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thin I thi I thin I thi I thi I thi I thi I thi I thi I thi I thi I thi I that I thin I that I that I thin I that I that I that I th I th I that I th I th I thin I th I thin I th I thin I th I th I thin I thin I thin I th I thin I thin I thin I th I thin I thin I th thi think think thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi I thi I thi I also think I agree with you of like she's not happy. I'm like that's why people cheat. They're not happy. Now I don't think it's something's wrong in the relationship. It's not their fault necessarily but it's like they're not happy and they're gonna find a way to fill the void and she's not happy and he needs to go you're not happy andthink every relationship is different like I think there's no one hard-fast rule but I also think putting rules on your partner restrictions like that I think is extremely unhealthy. I can agree I can agree with it for me personally like I don't want rules like that but then again I haven't cheated on my partner I haven't gone through that but I do agree like a couple's the therap rules like that, but then again, I haven't cheated on my partner, I haven't gone

Starting point is 00:25:25 through that, but I do agree like a couple's therapist, I don't think would say the best solution is, well you're right, she cannot do this, this, this, and now report back to you, Sire. But I also think it's a, but I also think he needs to recognize, oh she doesn't she she wants to continue to maintain a relationship with this person that she cheated on me with it's like okay then then I'm out. She's missing something in a relationship. If I'm I'm not going here's all these rules I'm going I'm out because you clearly aren't serious about. Exactly. It's like she doesn't really respect him I don't. I think she's like, this is my journey. Right. And this is what I'm doing. And I think that's common with a lot of people who cheat. They're like, well,

Starting point is 00:26:07 this is my journey and this is what I need. And it's like, you're focused on your needs. I'm of the mindset that cheating doesn't mean the relationship is kind of what we talked about. It doesn't mean it's over. I agree. These these these these these these these these these these these these these these these these people these people these people, these people, these people, these people, these, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, these people, th. These people, th, th, th. These people, th. These people, th, th. These people, th, th, th, th. These, th, th, th, th, th, th. These, th, th, th, th. These, th. These, th. These, th. These, th. These people, th. These people, th. These people, th. These people, th. These people, th. These people, the. These people cheat, theat, theat, theat, theat, theat, theat, theat, theat, theat, theat, the. These people people people cheat, theat, they're missing from the relationship and they chose the wrong avenue to highlight that. Or they're looking for an eject button out of the relationship so they go and fuck the whole thing up. In a way in ways it's often like the relationship is already over. Over, right. And they're just not acknowledging it. There's a lot of stuff and I don't believe like if someone's a cheater they're a cheater forever but it's like, th. th. the the the the the the the the they. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. they're, they're, they're, thi. thi. they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, they're, they're they're they're they're the the the the the the their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, th. thi, thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. they're thi. thi. they're thr-I's thr-I's thr-I's thr-s. theyy like, I'm just always of the mindset of like, when you start making moves in a relationship where it's like, oh, you don't trust the person you're with, that's tough. That's tough to get out of. And that was for me, like, whenever I've, and people I know when, and people I know Because you're in a relationship you're supposed to, that's supposed to be the person who you trust more than anyone who just makes you feel good all

Starting point is 00:27:06 the time and if that's the opposite, holy shit. And it's exhausting. Yeah and things happen that you have to like build up your trust again and work together but it to me it doesn't sound like they're t that's why he's doing those rules, those are like very restrictive rules on her because it's coming out of fear and distrust. But like... Well, because I think he knows she's probably going to cheat on him again. Of course. I don't think she's past that. Based on the way she's writing this, I don't think she's past it at all. If I cheated on someone and I came back and I'm like, I'm sorry I cheated, I would be like, I'm an open book forever and always now and forever. Like, it's a new relationship now.

Starting point is 00:27:50 And then she goes and does that again. Like, you can't do that. No, that's a second strike. It's, to me, he stupidly forgave you, and then you went and broke his trust again by getting back in touch with the guy you cheated with. And you are still so incredibly selfish that you don't think it's wrong that you did that. He never should trust you again, you are awful. Opie said, I think I was wrong,

Starting point is 00:28:14 but I think I think I was wrong for going behind his back. Going behind his back is the cheating. That's I know everyone I know people have different views of this stuff but like he clearly views it as cheating. Right. She's she needs to acknowledge that. She's cheating his trust. Yeah. That's what someone said he'll never regain trust if you agree to these you'll just grow resentful and cheat again. Yep. Learn from your mistakes and let him and let him heal. I do agree with that. That's my take on it. That's where I think he's not thinking about the future.

Starting point is 00:28:50 Yep. Someone said some of the punishments may be a bit on the harsher side, but rekindling the friendship in between you and your affair partner was crossing a line,to choose your fiance or your ex-affir partner. It may suck, but your own choices are what brought you here. I think that they need to take space away. I think that they need to find a therapist

Starting point is 00:29:16 that works for them, they know all the ends of it out. Because we only know one story about this relationship. story about this relationship. Yeah. Update number one. Whoa! Whoa! I know.

Starting point is 00:29:27 Buckle up. Buckle up. Buckled up! The helicopter's coming to pick a side lab. We had a really great conversation and he was vulnerable and said it made him feel like I didn't value him. He was crying and it really hurt me to see the pain I caused him. He told me that please let's not go forward forward the the the thofff. tho the pain tho tho tho the pain tho tho the pain the pain tho tho tho tho tho the pain tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. toe. too. told, thi. too. too. too. too. too. too. too. to, to, to, to, to, to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. t. t. t. t. t. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the th. the th. the the the tho. t t t t try. t try. t t try. te. te. te. te. te. te. te. te. too. te. to. We. to. We. to. t t see the pain I caused him. He told me that please let's not go forward with this unless I can promise that I won't go behind his back again because he can't go through this pain again.

Starting point is 00:29:50 I told him that I promise I will never hurt him again and will always be honest and upfront with him now. We talked about the rules and he said they will be temporary and will be adjusted when we go to to to to to to to to to go to go to go to go to go to go to go therapy. Now it's time to put in the work to repair the relationship. I know it be a lot of work, but I'm prepared. Update number two. I went behind his back. I cheated. I cheated. Uh-oh.

Starting point is 00:30:14 Okay, update number two. So next month, I'll be married. I've been with an amazing guy, and we worked through a lot of issues together. I thought I loved him, and I think I still do, but not in love with him. Hello? About three months ago, okay. Here we go. Oh, about three months ago at my job, we got a new co-worker who is very handsome and extremely attractive.

Starting point is 00:30:38 What did I say? I have never been so physically attracted to someone in my life. We started to deepen our friendship, but romantic feelings came. I repressed mine, but to my surprise, he confessed his feelings to me as well. I told him we've got to think about our spouses, but our feelings continue to grow. He told me he stopped being affectionate with his wife because he feels like he is cheating on me when he does that. He only wants to be affectionate with me. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, th, told, I, I, I, I, I, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, I, I, I, I, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is... I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I, is, is. toe, is. toe, is. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. I toe. I toe, 't been intimate with my partner. The big thing is a lot of people will be hurt when this comes out. He can't divorce his wife right away because of finances, but he will as soon as possible.

Starting point is 00:31:11 I have to call off the wedding, but I really don't want to hurt my current fiancé. Okay, so now there's two couples cheating. But she also... Don't want to hurt your fiance. It took took took took took took took to to her three months. She's just she's just not ready for marriage or ready to be in this type of relationship and like go off girl go explore but like just leave everyone out of it. Yeah your poor little fiance boy. It was like so we have the appointment and she's like hey

Starting point is 00:31:39 someone so attractive. I've actually never been this attracted to someone okay so I I so I took it again but he's really hot. so I th the th th th th th th th th th th th th he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he th. thi the the th. th. the th. the th. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the th. the th. the th. th. the the th. th. th. th. th. the the the. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the. the. the the. the. the. th been this attracted to someone before. Okay, so I, so I, so I, so I cheated again, but he's really hot. So, so, and he is a wife too, so. And he has a wife, so, so it's kind of, it equals out. Yeah. It equals out because he's also cheating, so it's actually not a big deal. God. Um, the wife and the husband are, boom, boom, find each other and go. Maybe the other two, the ones that got cheated on, can get together, and then it's a double weaweatter! Yeah! Wedding!

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Starting point is 00:33:14 October 8th and 9th. Okay. I want everyone to know how much this hurts. I really wish I didn't fall in love with someone else. I wish I could make myself fall in love with my fiancee, but I can't. It took me so long to to to so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so to so to so to know how much this hurts. I really wish I didn't fall in love with someone else. I wish I could make myself fall in love with my fiance, but I can't. It took me so long to accept this. I hope you guys can understand that I can't convey this enough that I care about my ex-fiance. I know this will be best for both of us even though it's hard right now. Okay, it's just fastened the update. That's the end. That's the end. That's the end. That's the end. the end. the end. the end. the end. the end. the end. the end. the the the th. the th. thi. thi. thi. thathea. thathea. thathea. thathea. thathea. thathea. thathea. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. took. took. took. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I's took. I's too. I's too. I's too. I's. too. too. too. too. too. I. too. too. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'ma. tooee. I'm. I'm. I'm's the end of the whole story. So she, well, she dodged the red... She didn't make these decisions. It just happened to her. I know, poor her.

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Starting point is 00:35:05 Yeah, sounds like that's gonna continue. And that'll last. What were you hoping for? Were you hoping they would get back together? Oh no, I was absolutely hoping they would break up. Me too. Oh my god, no, I'm just very skeptical. I think, especially because they're both, they're both, 28.

Starting point is 00:35:26 Yeah. So I'm like, just break up. Just go yourself. You got time. Like, I am, me personally, I know I'm biased. I am very harsh on like cheating, just because I'm like, I know I know mea. And I know I couldn't do it. But I think if someone's like, if they've been married and they have like kids and whatever,

Starting point is 00:35:45 I'm like, then you're, and you both, and it, but it's also like, it's got to be, it's the type of cheating too. It's like a long affair where you kept a secret for months. Oh, different than I'm like, I'm like, that's very different. I. It. It. It. It. I fucked up. I did a thing and now I'm telling you right now immediately and I'm like if I heard that I don't know what I would do. I don't think I could handle it, but but if someone if someone was telling me they're like that happened my partner did that and we're both going to go to a couple's therapist and try to work it out. I'd be like, okay like I, I believe there is a thr-I believe there. I th. I believe there is a there is a there is a th thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi tho tho. I tho. I tho. I thi thi thi. I thi. I thi thi. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. theeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I'm th. I I'm biased, I'm a little skeptical, but I do believe it's possible.

Starting point is 00:36:27 But you know, you have to both really have respect there and you have to really like, yeah, such open books and communicate. It's so complicated too. It's like, what were their parents like? What was like, what were they around when they were younger? What coping stuff did they develop to? It's so complicated. And that's they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they th. thi? I thi? I thi? thi? thi? thi? thi? thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. to both to both thi. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. I thi. thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to thooooo. tho. they develop to... Exactly. It's so complicated. That's why with cheating it can't just be like, I cheated and I promise I'm never going to do it again. It's got to be like, I cheated and I

Starting point is 00:36:52 figured out fully why I did. Yeah. I've, you know, talked with a professional, we've we've just sorted it all out and here's what I need to do to fill the void in myself without cheating and all the, there's just so much. What a therapist would say? You did what? Well, I, I, well, you're gonna have to pay me. Pay me more. Pay me more. Why about all of our people from the, from the party?

Starting point is 00:37:16 Well, well, helicopter? Well, all right. OK. Next story, this comes from Two Hot Takes, our friend Morgan over at the Two Hot Takes Podcast. Great stuff, check it out. But they have a subreddit that's very active and gets a lot of really good stories. Here we go. How do I get over my boyfriend finding other women attractive? That's an interesting one. That's an interesting one. This is, okay, I'm excited for this one.

Starting point is 00:37:45 I, a 23-year-old woman, have been with my boyfriend John, who's 25, for a year. I like to think I'm pretty laid back when it comes to our relationship, but I do have an issue with the videos he sends me. Sometimes, up to multiple times a day, he will send me videos, reels and to their male audiences, from dressing like cat girls and meowing saying generic phrases like, good boy or do blank for mommy or acting feral, but in a very convenient male gaze way. The comments are all men losing their minds over the content, and John will send them to me saying, why does this turn me on? Or, I agree with the comments. And the comments are just saying some of the most out-of-pocket borderline harassing shit.

Starting point is 00:38:26 Now I want to be clear, John can find what he wants attractive so long as it's legal, but I find it super disrespectful to me and the relationship to flaunt it. I would never send videos of men who look nothing like him and thirst over them. And it's been destroying me because I don't want to get mad at the women, the women, the women, the women, the women, the women, the women, the women, the women, the women, the women, the women, to to to the women, to their, to to to to the, to to to the, to to the, to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to, to to to to, to the, the, their, their, the, thin, the, thrace, the, the, thean, thean, thean, thrace, thea, thrace thea, thean, thracea, the, to 't want to get mad at the women making the content, but I hate how much weird borderline fetish content he sends me. I just feel so guilty because I'm starting to harbor negative feelings towards these girls who, at the end of the day, are simply working the system and taking advantage of lonely men. But I don't get why John would turn to this content. I do so consider without him. It's all consensual, though. It just makes me feel like shit,

Starting point is 00:39:06 and he doesn't seem to understand why I'm so annoyed with him. The one time I mentioned that I had a crush on a fictional character, he got moody, and I had to apologize. Not that I have an issue with apologizing if I do something wrong, but it goes to show the double standard he has between us. standard he has between us. Should we just break up or is it worth trying one last time? What the fuck?

Starting point is 00:39:25 Which fictional character does she have a crush on? That's what I want to know. Courage the cowardly dog. Garfield. Probably Tamlin. You think I know who that is? See? Anyways, see?

Starting point is 00:39:38 Ah, that's for the book nerds out there. Listen. There's so many red flags in this story. Men. Okay, at first I was, I thought this was going to be, I thought this was going to be, I thought, I thought this was going to be one of those situations where she's like, do you think Scarlet Johansson's hot? And he's like, yeah. And then she's like, sends her fucking weird shit. I think I'm like, this is fucking awesome. I think he's sending it so she will do it.

Starting point is 00:40:08 Right, obviously that's what the intention is. Yeah. He is a fucking walking red flag. I think if they together want to come together and he's like, this is what turns me on. But can, first of all, it's fine whatever but it's like him continuously sending it being like I don't know why this turns me on right and then she's like okay I guess I can't like I guess now right that honestly it's a red flag because yeah it's a red flag because it's a weird way of communicating shit right that's also just yeah it's a little disrespectful yeah if you want to dress like a feral cat well that's a conversation don't don't the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's a th. Yeah. It's a th. It's a th. It's a th. Yeah. It's a th. Yeah. It's a th. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's a th. It's a th. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. that's a that's a th. I's a th. I's a th. I's a th. I's a th. I's a th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. the th. the th. th. th. th. the th. the the the th. the the the th. the the the the. thi. the. thi. the. thi. th. yeah, it's a little disrespectful. Yeah, if you want to dress like a feral cat, well, that's a conversation.

Starting point is 00:40:46 Don't keep sending videos. Yeah. It's like, we all know there's always someone hotter. There's every, there's, okay, well. Well, but I don't even think that's what's going on here. I know, but like, just to be receiving like, I came to th. I, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to be, to to to to to to to th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th. th, th. th, th. th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the, the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. th. th. th girl. It's like, it's like, okay, fuck me then. I don't know. Look what I come to just now. I'm not gonna send Garde a Tommy Lee Jones pictures constantly and be like, I came to this guy. Every movie that he's ever been in, I'm not gonna do that. He's looking me old and men in black.

Starting point is 00:41:25 He walks in on you watching no country for old men just like, you know you send him no country for old men you're like, this is hot. We should try this. We should try this. He's like, t was far beyond what I was expecting yeah this is some weird ass behavior yeah yeah I'm suphitting her fucking videos so much that's so weird he sounds I don't know I'm also yeah there's a lot like you could read into on this but it just sounds bad it sounds like she should dodge this bullet yeah she's also like I'm doing a lot of stuff for him fetishes I'm likeoh you're building you know resentment maybe you

Starting point is 00:42:06 don't want to be doing. And also no the the absolute deal breaker for me is when she's like and I mentioned a fictional character once he got moody. I'm like okay then right. I have to know who the character is though but oh yeah. Comments. My ex would often point out. the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the absolute the absolute the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the absolute the absolute. the absolute. The the absolute. The the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the. the. the. the absolute. the. the. the absolute. the absolute. the absolute the absolute the absolute the the the absolute escalated that to tell me how easily he could get a woman like that. Okay. That was another tactic to control me by diminishing my self-confidence and self-worth by constantly reminding me I'm not as good as X-women so I need to do X thing to make up for that because no one else would want me. That shit destroyed my confidence and it took years to build it back up. Don't let them him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him. the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the the thr. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. th. th. th. th. the. to. tm. try. tm. try. tttry. ttry. tm. I. I. I. I. I'm. I'm. I'm. try. I'm. I'm to. I. I'm destroy your confidence. This isn't the behavior of someone who cares about you or your feelings and boundaries. Yeah. Yes. Love that. Yeah. Someone said, up to multiple times a day? What the fuck? This is weird, babe. This isn't seeing him catch a glance at a woman or knowing he thinks Angelina Jolie

Starting point is 00:42:59 is super hot. This is just straight bizarre behavior. Someone lastly said, sounds like he's trying to make you feel like shit and it's working. My boyfriend sends me dog videos. Get a boyfriend like that. Right. Yeah, you're supposed to send each other like shit posts and dumb shit. Garda sends me people like falling into like bogs of water. They're like, hey, come here. I'm like, awesome.

Starting point is 00:43:21 Awesome. That's a green flag right there, right? I said like little hedgehog sunbathing. Oh yeah. They got little flip-flops on there just like. That's so you. No, if you're not sending stupid shit, then. Yeah. I thought at first I was like, oh is he sending it because it's like kind of funny in a way?

Starting point is 00:43:43 Right, like cringy or something. Yeah. Yeah, no. All right. Update. Yes. Oh, okay. Here we go.

Starting point is 00:43:52 I'm a cat now. Yeah. Yeah. I broke up with him. Yeah. I asked him why he sent these videos. that they don't turn me on and make me upset. We've had talks like this before, and he would stop for a few days before starting up again. I expressed all my feelings about the videos and how I find it disrespectful.

Starting point is 00:44:12 I brought up the incident where I merely mentioned that I found a character in a video game attractive and his subsequent meltdown. Oh, was it Arthur Morgan? Oh, was it Arthur Morgan? Sorry, that's from another. It's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's. It's that's that's? It's that's? It's that's that's that's. It's that's that's that's that's that's it Arthur Morgan? Sorry, that's from another, it's from another Reddit thing. Okay, and he had a subsequent meltdown, how it was all a huge double standard and rude. Obviously, I can't get into everything we talked about, but we talked about a lot, including his insane kinks that I only really do for him, and how sex is never about me or even the both of us together as a unit.

Starting point is 00:44:45 We ended up talking in depth the most about the videos because I wanted answers. Why did he think his comments about these random women were okay? Did he seriously think I was attracted to his misogynistic remarks? He proceeded to tell me that he was attracted to the women in the videos and their feral and weird behavior was a turn on. Apparently he used to like Belle Delphine a lot when she was on YouTube, but since she disappeared, he needed new quirky girls to make his material. At this point, I had checked out the conversation. Checked out of the conversation. Liking Belle Delphine told me everything I needed to know. He said he still found me attractive, but these girls just did it for him and he needed a break from me. The next day while he was at work I left. During our discussion I think he could sense it

Starting point is 00:45:28 but I never told him I was leaving him. I wanted to leave quietly. I'm currently staying with my parents and I'm going to focus on my life. Thank you to everyone who helped me snap out of it. Oh this makes me sad like no she got no she got away from that guy. Because he was about that that that that that that that that that that that that was that was that was that was that was that was that was that was that was that was that was that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the they. they. the. the. the. the the they. the they. the the. the. thee. the. thee. the. the. he I'm so glad that she got away from that guy. Because he was about to, that was gonna start to like break down. That guy's messed up. I agree with her, like, you know, people can make the content they want to make and stuff. But there's a lot of guys out there who just have this, they already are coming from an objectifying POV of women of women, yeah. And then this content is kind of influencing them going, oh so I want that. I can do whatever I want to the women in my life. Well she's a

Starting point is 00:46:08 human being also. She's not just like a feral corky chick. Right. Well also that that comment she said towards the end is all you kind of needed of just like sex is never about me or us. Yeah, definitely. Next story. Wow. These have been wild. These have been weird. Oh, they're red flags. Well, for sure.

Starting point is 00:46:31 Wow. All right, let's move on to our next story. I should give a trigger warning on this. This definitely involves an uncomfortable stalking situation. at all something you not want to listen to. You can skip to our next story, time code right here. All right, here we go. This comes from Best of Reader Updates. Original poster's delusional cubicle neighbor keeps a journal about her. There's a note here. This post is formatted through journal entries and commentary from the original, original poster. Additionally, names were added by me to make it easier to understand due to OOP

Starting point is 00:47:09 censoring the names out. Okay, so this isn't the person who originally posted this story. Someone found this story on Reddit and they're posting it here with all the updates and compiled it all. How do they know the updates? They found them all, they found all the updates and stuff. Basically just, that's how best or very updates works. You put it all into one post. Got it. So they're saying OOP as in... Original, original.

Starting point is 00:47:31 I received these journals and pen, don't forget the pen, plus flowers, candy and a huge stuffed bear from my former cubicle neighbor at a job I worked at a job I worked at for three years. you'll see, the guy is knucking thuts. They worded it. These are just selection. Most of the entries, 221 total, are rather mundane, just notating what I wear and anything that pops into his crazy head that he feels I want to hear him blather on about. Our cubicles were next to each other the whole time I worked at his firm. We were kind of friendly the first six months I was there. Then he asked me on a date.

Starting point is 00:48:07 I very politely declined, very firm that I don't date coworkers and whatnot. After that, besides a friendly hello, he said almost nothing to me. We were on different teams, so it wasn't a big deal to me. But after I turned him down, he started keeping this journal. This entry also takes a turn at the end. Up until now, he called me pet names and talked as if we were currently dating. This is the first time he really reveals that he's planned the rest of our lives out for us.

Starting point is 00:48:34 The last nine months of the journals get really bad. Consolidated journal entries for the sake of time, so we kind of compiled this a little bit. It's a lot. Entry number one, February 26, 2016. Wearing, brown wrapped dress with silver buckle on belt. Three-inch heels also brown. Hair up, little too much mascara. You and Catherine were talking about that dumb show, pretty little liars. I tried to get into it for you, but after two seasons I just couldn't take it anymore. Holy moly is it some vapid crap. When we are together, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I toge, I toge, I toge, I toge, I toge, I toge, I toge, I toge, I toge, I toge, I t, I will t, I will tha, I will tha, I will tha, I will, I will, I will, I will, I will, I will, I will, I tha, I tha, I tha, I tha, I tha, I tha, I t, I t, I t, I t, I t, I t, I t, I t, I t, I t, I t, I t, I toge, I toge, I toge, I will toge, I will toge, toge, toge, toge, tried to get into it for you, but after two seasons, I just couldn't take it anymore. Holy moly, is it some vapid crap? When we are together, I will introduce you to amazing TV and movies. Take Madmen. The sublimeness and stunning virtuoso performances will bull you over.

Starting point is 00:49:16 Although I should be careful about what I introduce you to. The way they try to show the antithesis of how the proper housewi house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house house the the the house to the house to to to the house to th th to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the try, the the try, the the try, the the the the to to to to to to to to to the to show the antithesis of how the proper housewives should act is disturbing and clearly done for dramatic license, not rooted in reality. I know you won't mind staying home to raise our children properly. It is what women are built for after all. Certainly you need to work now but have no fear my love I will take care of you the second you are ready. I will lavish you with all you to support love and cherish me and our children. This is the first entry. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. that, that, th. th. they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they they th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. th. th. th. th. th. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. they they they first entry? That's the first, that's the first entry. Uh-oh, we have problems, go-go gadget. Yes, we do. I like how he's like, uh, yeah, Madman, it's a little messed up and delusional and weird,

Starting point is 00:49:57 and then it's like, hello. Anyways, when we have children, yeah. Entry number two, June 29th, 2016. Wearing, green silk blouse, black tight skirt that doesn't make your knees standing. I can only imagine how short it is when you are sitting. Black, two-inch heels, hair up. The flirting thing with Mike needs to end. I try to be understanding. Women are evolutionarily wired to flirt,

Starting point is 00:50:19 but hearing you banter with him two or three times a week when you know I'm listening makes my blood boil. What does Mike have that is attractive to you? I just don't get it. It makes me sick, hearing his disgusting innuendo and your positive response to that kind of talk. Be modest. Be meek and pure, like you should. I feel like I need to stand up and remind you that your perfect mate is right here, inches away. I'm everything you need and everything you need. thiiiiiii. the thi. I thi. I thine thi. I thi. I'm thine thi. I'm thin, I'm thin, I'm thin, I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thin, I'm thin' thin' thi. I'm thi, I'm th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I's th. I'm th. I's th. I's th. I's th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm to to, thee. I'm to toeeean, tean. tean. tean. tei. tei. tei. tei. I'm te. I'm the. I'm the. I'm the. I'm everything you need and everything you will come to understand you want. I struggle with your behavior, my sweet, I truly do, but it doesn't get me down because I know the end game even if you don't yet. That we will be together forever. You are getting there too, I can sense it. Your inability to date anyone more than two or three times, and the fact that even you recognize Mike as just a work boyfriend, a plaything, means you are getting there. I am patient, I truly am. After all, we'll have the rest of our lives together. Entry number three, October 24th, 2016. Wearing blue slim sweater with white colored shirt underneath, light brown slacks, hair up brown three-inch heels.

Starting point is 00:51:20 Just to make sure you understand in regards to our discussion on Friday, I do try to limit my masturbation. And have no fear, it is only you I think about when I just have to release. All my previous material is nothing compared to you, my love. There is a difference between you and me when it comes to masturbation. When you do it, you are preparing yourself for me. I know you also have sex, but I do my best to not think about you letting other men have you. It upsets me, but at least you are seeing how awful other men are compared to their nirvana. That will be me. But I am saving my seed for you to implant your sweet flower. God!

Starting point is 00:52:01 Sorry! There's nowhere to hide on set. I know they say sperm regenerates every day, but I've seen men say their loads are larger when they wait. And it feels that way to me too. Not like I measure or anything, ha. But a part of me mourns all that poor sperm, who just wants a chance to be the one that creates Andrew Peter, our first child and instead finds themselves in a tube sock or going down the shower drain So I will do better abstain as much as I can for you my love This is this is like a 24 horror movie. Yeah Who make it every next sentence was a new Yeah Yeah, like, crazy thing.

Starting point is 00:52:45 This is, this is bad. Entry number four, November 23rd, 2016. Waring, who the hell knows? How can you do this? How? How can you abandon your one true love? How can you abandon our life together? How can you doom our future generations to nothingness? How? with a ton of question marks.

Starting point is 00:53:06 I am bereft without you, adrift at sea. I can't be without you. I won't be without you. I will follow you to the ends of the universe. Know that. I will find you and help you understand. For us to complete the truly most important relationship. I see I need to to to to to to to to to like other women you need your man to take charge. No more waiting. I will show you what

Starting point is 00:53:28 you have been too blind to see with your own eyes. What has been sitting patiently listening documenting for you, for posterity. Fine, I get it. I understand you are telling me to be the man. Stop crying, creep. You are saying, stop being a goddame pussy. Have you been talking to moms? Ha ha, fine. You want me to take control, well, here. Here is all the evidence you need. I understand that you want me to stop you. A grand gesture for you. OK, I'm sorry, my love, for how I'm writing here.

Starting point is 00:53:57 Messie. I promise to read to you where whatever you can't make out out out out out threw me for a loop, but your message is loud and clear. I'm coming for you my love, coming for us. Okay, so OP now, she now gives an update on this stuff. Were you breathing? I wasn't breathing. I have, I have yet to breathe. Okay. That's the last entry that we have here. So she now says, so that day, I went to my supervisor and gave my two weeks notice and that I was planning on using on on to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the the to to the the to the to be the to be the the to be the the their toe, their their th. thi. their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. the the the the the the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. tooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. toe. th. the th. the th. the I went to my supervisor and gave my two weeks notice and that I was planning on using my accrued vacation days during that time. Without getting into all the gory details I wanted to get out of that place and I didn't even know about the psycho yet. So I packed up my stuff and was gone before this loser came in. My friends in the office told me

Starting point is 00:54:41 that psycho cu boy was late because he had a doctor's appointment or something and absolutely melted down when he found out why I wasn't there. He got sent home where I assume he wrote this last entry. In the office the next day, he contacted HR and said that I was moving and that I had asked him to bring me my paycheck stub. So a since fired HR person gave him my address. He left work at lunchtime, bought a th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I. th. I. I. I. th. I. I. th. th. th. th. th. th. I. th. their. He's, thi. He. He. He's, th. He's, th. He's, th. He's. He's. He's. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He's. He's. th. th. th. t. t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t the the lunchtime, bought a bunch of things he thought would win me over and came to my apartment. Thankfully, I wasn't there as I was flying to another city to rent an apartment for a new job.

Starting point is 00:55:14 He camped out in front of my building for three days. Finally, someone called the cops on him and he had to abandon whatever his plans were. I got back the next day and found that he UPSed me all of this stuff. Suffice to say, I didn't react in the way he wanted. Long story short, he is currently in jail. Two to five years and I live in a new city, only now able to laugh about what happened thanks to a kickass therapist and some amazing drugs. Edit. After I received a restraining order, he violated that restraining order and attempted to kidnap me so that he could prove his love to me in whatever twisted way he thought that was

Starting point is 00:55:49 possible. Thanks to the outstanding law enforcement officials in my city, his attempt was known ahead of time and I was being monitored so that as soon as he started his kidnapping attempt, he was apprehended and arrested. Geez. Whoa! Yeah. Yeah. So she didn't see these journal entries until when? It was he, I was after, I am a little confused by that, but so that day I went to my supervisor and gave my two weeks notice that I was planning on using my accrued vacation days. It wasn't about him.

Starting point is 00:56:24 So it was, she was quitting and and leaving and then he freaked out and then got her address, sent her all of that stuff and then... She probably read it and then did the restraining order. Oh yeah, I mean yeah. Got the restraining order and then he tried to violate that restraining order of course. And yeah, I mean this is, this is thing. I thing. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. thi. thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thr- thi thr- thi thi thi he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he he. he he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. he. th. th. th. th. thr. thr. thr. thr. thr. thr. thr. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thr. he th. he he he he he he ining order and then he tried to violate that restraining order of course. And yeah, I mean this is this is terrifying. Severe, severe stalking. So scary. Super scary. I on a side note she wore some really cute outfits. True. I think this original post was from 2018 so I think if he's out. If more were to happen then we would know. I think the rest. the this this this this is this is this is this this th. th. this this th. this this th. th. this this th is this this th. this this th. this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this this this is this this th. th. th is th is th is th is th is th. th is th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the are the are their their the are the are the are the are this this is this is this is this this is this this this the are, so I think if he's out if if more were to happen then We would know There's a couple comments. Unfortunately, I can't even pray that this is fake because I've dealt with a fraction of that sort of crazy

Starting point is 00:57:17 Women have to deal with this sort of thing all the time and it's just scary now. Now I need to bathe and bleach to rid myself of that i think well someone said I read all of them and I want to take a shower again Someone said nope we're done here everybody nothing tops this one we're done End of subred it. Thanks for all the laughs, but I think it's all over after this There were other entries that you put in but we didn't include them. No, I mean, I mean really that that type type. type. type. type. that type that type that type that type that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that type. that that that that th. th. th. th. thi. th. th. th. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the to the they. they. the the the the they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. they. th. they. th. th. th. th. th. the the the to. tha. tha. tha. tha. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. I. to. I to. I the type of behavior is like, I think that's red alert. I'm like, do whatever you have to do. There's not enough flags. Yeah, this isn't big enough. This is not big enough. What was he going to do when he, if he kidnapped or like. I just think, I mean, look, there's that show baby reindeer.

Starting point is 00:57:57 Like, this, there's just very deletional. I understand like this person may not be living in reality, I understand that. I want to have empathy for that, but there's no room for that. Well, when you go to a kidnapping place, you lose some empathy. And unfortunately with that, even at the beginning, even that entry number one, I'm just like, yeah, you have to assume that that's what's going to happen. We started that. You can't have any, any like benefit of the doubt for people that are in this state. You have to immediately go to, all right, they are a huge threat. And it's really scary. He's probably watching her every day.

Starting point is 00:58:40 Was he getting his job done? Probably not. That's the worst. I am. No, I th, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, like, like, I, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I th, I th, I th. That HR person! I know, that's... Well, that's the worst I am all of them. No, I think this is, this is, okay, this has happened a couple times in Reddit stories, and I think the biggest thing ever is never give anyone, anyone's address, unless that person has said, hey, can you give that person my address? Don't, ever.

Starting point is 00:59:07 Just text that person your address. Yeah, right, don't have someone else give their address. Don't give anyone someone's phone number or address. Just don't ever do it. I don't think ever. Like it's like, why are you asking me for their address? Like, it's just, especially a co-worker. That's not, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, I I I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, th. thi. that's, that's, that's, th. th. th. th. thi, thi, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, thi. threat. that, that, that, too. too. too. toe. toe. to. th. thanks, that, that, not like a, that's, even family members, because you don't know what's going on.

Starting point is 00:59:29 Even if someone's like, oh, you use that, you know, bartender or whatever, it's like, oh yeah, here's their website, or like here's their email, maybe, but like- For Link Tree. Yeah. No, it's, it's, I, because I'm like, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, th, th, th, th, th, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, th...... th. th. th. th. th. th. th. that, that, that, th. that, that, that, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that, that, that, that, that, that,, because I'm like, don't give someone, someone's address, especially for an HR person, what a failure. This is so scary. So, so scary. I wouldn't just say just women.

Starting point is 00:59:52 There's a lot, like, men also deal with this too. Oh, it's, it's a thing that happens. And it definitely happens in like, work scenarios, right? It's unfortunately very common in our industry. Right. But it also happens to people every day. Oh that made me so sick. Yeah. Hey, everything's bad, be scared all the time. No, just kidding. Hey! No! No, no. No, I mean just don't read the journals. I mean just don't read the journals. That should have gone in our horror episode. That is straight up a horror.

Starting point is 01:00:30 So scary. So, that's straight up a horror script. I'd be like, whoa, this is scary. You know, I sincerely hope she's safe. Well, it sounds like she's a badass. She's like, yeah, she's like, she's like, she's a badass. She's like... She hand... like yeah she's tough. She's like, I'm out of here. Yeah, and you know, that HR person fucked up by giving them her address but hopefully if she's moved to a new city, it'll be a lot harder for him, but

Starting point is 01:00:57 yeah. It's terrifying, man. I just like, she's gonna have to like go, I hope she's free of going the rest of her life, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, thi, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, th. And, that's, th. that's, that's, that's, that's, th. th. th. th. th. thi. th. thi. th. th. th. th. th. I hope she's free of going the rest of her life like being like holy shit is he like nearby. Yeah, I hope she has her freedom of this is like yeah yeah but wish the best hope she's well. Yeah me too. Okay final story here we go. My wife bought a fancy set of laundry a few months ago without telling me am I the asshole for being slightly suspicious of this? Great story to end on. This also comes from two hot takes, so once again, thank you Morgan. Sorry, fancy set of what? Laundray. She bought a fancy set of laundry a few months ago without telling me.

Starting point is 01:01:38 Am I the assuble for being slightly suspicious of this? My wife. Hey, yeah. Yeah. Thanks, the the the the the the the the the th th th th th th th th th th th th th th tha tha tha tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, thus tha, tha tho a tho a tho a tho a tho a tho a tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho th th th th th th th th th th th th, th th, th th tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha, tha tha tha tha tha tha tha a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta a ta ta a ta t My wife... Hey, yeah! Yeah! Thanks guys. Thanks guys. Yeah. My wife and I, she's 34, I'm 37, have been married for six years and together for 10.

Starting point is 01:01:55 We have two children and my wife is a stay-at-home mom. So a couple of days ago I was digging around our closet and our wardrobe for my wrist sleeves, which I had lost. I really wanted to find these sleeves, so I dug the entire place up, and luckily found the sleeves. However, whilst searching, I also found a hidden set of laundry. It was in a plastic cover, it had the box and the laundry. It clearly wasn't a gift because the box had been opened, and the lajuretie was outside

Starting point is 01:02:19 the box. Now my wife has full liberty to purchase whatever she wants, and I usually never track what she purchases. However, for this particular item, I went through my credit card history to check for what that specific brand name purchase was made, and it was made five months ago. Am I the assu for being slightly suspicious of this? Like, how, like, I love my wife so much, and she loves me too, but clearly, my wife has been wearing this laundry for months and I have never seen her wear it ever. Is this just to feel good about herself? Do women just buy a fancy set of laundry for themselves and keep it hidden from their husband?

Starting point is 01:02:52 What's the purpose of this? We also can wear stuff that makes us feel good? But also, also who says she's wearing it all the time. Maybe she bought it. It's clearly been worn. Yeah, she probably tried it on. When he leaves, she puts on hot music and puts it on and dance in front of the mirror. Hello? She's like, still got it. Yeah, still got it baby. Oh God, he's home. It's just for her. Yeah. I mean, it's not. I don't know. That's just one take. She puts it on, she's in front of the mirror going. Would would th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th the th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th. She th. She th. She's th. She's th the th th the thin thin on. tho th th th th th th th th th tho thin on th. thin on thin on thin on thin on thin on thin on. th. th. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the to the. the the to the the the the theee theeeeeeeeeeee th, I thought this was a good story. Okay, am I the asshole, my wife is Buffalo Bill. But gross, no. I don't think it's bad that he's suspicious.

Starting point is 01:03:37 I agree with that, too. That's fine. Like, he hasn't like done anything crazy based off of that suspicion. What? Right, exactly. And that's fine. Well, that that that that that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's tho. It's tho. thooooooooooooooooo. that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's off of that suspicion. He's just like, what? Right, exactly. And that's fine. You're allowed to feel things. Is it a possibility that like, well, five months, yeah. Is it possibility, maybe she's doing a boudoir photo shoot.

Starting point is 01:03:56 Right, she's putting together a calendar for next year. My take, my take, not nearly this complicated. Okay. Because using my detective skills, he was digging way deep in stuff. So he found this like probably underneath a bunch of things. It had been taken out, put back in, like whatever. My thought is maybe she bought it, tried it on and it was like, I don't like how I look in this, put it back. Oh, I kind of thrown it out just kind of was like, I don't know about that. Let me give it some time. Forgot about it maybe. Yeah, maybe it's like kind of bought it on a whim, tried it on, was like, I don't know. It's like 35 bucks.

Starting point is 01:04:29 She's like, yeah. 35, honey. Um, some comments here. Probably. Is it? I am sorry? Yes. I forgive you. Okay. You are forgiven. Okay, thank you. 35 bucks.

Starting point is 01:04:49 Some comments. I've done that. Thought I would look hot as hell and then it just made me look like a potato. So back into the closet it went to rot. Someone else said, you have to pull a power move and wear it in front of her. Someone said, this is not at all weird dude. She likely is either trying to build up the courage to wear it for you. It doesn't fit how she wants it to and either hopes it one day will or

Starting point is 01:05:14 can't return it, or she keeps putting it on in hopes to wear it for you, but you do or say something wrong, so she just goes and changes into her PJ's and says forget that. Damn, That last one was unnecessary. Okay that last one was like this happened to me. Actually, actually maybe it's all your fault. Yeah. You know what that? Damn. Update. So a quick update. I was definitely wrong to overreact and I'm really glad I came on here to get opinions first. So the day after I posted I casually asked my wife about the lingerie I found and she was actually excited about it and said she had bought three more sets which she had hidden and she was planning to surprise me on our wedding anniversary which is in a week. She said she had bought these sets on Black Friday last year. She was blushing about it, it was hilarious. I know I'm I'm going to catch a lot of flack for this but I completely to to to toe. toe. I'm the wnanananananananananananananananananananananananananananana. th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm th. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm to be a toe. toe. toe. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to be the to be to be the to be toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe a lot of flack for this, but I completely forgot that our wedding anniversary was just a week away.

Starting point is 01:06:05 I've been extremely busy with work, and I'm not the best at date, so I'm actually really glad about this divine intervention, because I can now plan a proper wedding anniversary for my wife. My wife? So no calendar, no photo shoot. Yeah, that's okay, good, good, that's not a red flag. It's like October, it's just earned a pumpkin. December.

Starting point is 01:06:28 So I'm a very sweet little end. That's a green flag. Finally, I get to take those out. Oh, finally get to take those out. Oh, she just wanted to look hot. Yeah, she got it on sale. so that's why it was five months ago. Right, right. Maybe it was $35.

Starting point is 01:06:50 Okay. You're right. Probably just the thong part was 35. I was going to ask, we know what the, there's some big red flags in this. Oh yeah. bigger than others. Huh, was there? Yeah. Journal entry. Was I terrified for half of this? Was I gonna throw up in that pillow? A little pail? Yes, I was. Damn. Well, these- What was the biggest red flag? Okay, Journal doesn't count. Yeah, okay, let's bar the journal doesn't count. Yeah, because it's the top. Yeah, the journal is nightmare fuel. That's not even a red flag.

Starting point is 01:07:26 That's just blatant crime. Crime. At this point, Wagoo Beef is like another Monday. Like, wow. Definitely videos sender. Yeah. The videos were real weird. That guy, yeah, I just think there's red flags in a relationship where if you're like, oh yeah, we don't communicate ever.

Starting point is 01:07:52 It's like that's a relationship red flag. Or like, the sex is completely about him. I'm like, that's a red flag. And if like, you don't feel comfortable talking about it, that's a red flag. And it's like, if there's like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, the the the the sex, the sex, the sex, the sex, the sex, the sex, the sex, the sex, th.. th. th. th. the the the thi, th. th. th. th. the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the. that's, that, they. that, the the that's the the.. the.. the the the.. the the. the. the the the. the the. that's a red flag. Like, yeah. And it's like if there's one that's enough, but it's like, if there's three, yeah. It kind of felt like most of the stories, there were a lot of little red flags everywhere. Oh yeah, yeah.

Starting point is 01:08:13 Yeah, no, these, it these, it takes a lot of little red flags for a big red flag like that to appear. up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.. Yeah.. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well, thank you both for being here. Oh my God. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Really. Wea.

Starting point is 01:08:31 Well. Well Thank you all for watching. Let us know what are the themes and subredits you want us to cover. to the themes to cover. to the theatse the the the the the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. tho. tho. tho. tho. the. to. to. to. to. to. to. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to be. to to be. to be. to be. to be. toe. toe. toe. toe. th. th. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. to. the. to. to. the. thea. thea. thea. thea. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to and subredits you want us to cover and we'll see you next Saturday. Goodbye. Goodbye my wife.

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