Snapped: Women Who Murder - Nicole Thornhill
Episode Date: May 10, 2026A Florida woman’s desperate search for her missing husband takes a dark turn when his mutilated body is found in a landfill. As detectives dig into his home life, the victim’s family beco...mes a crucial link to uncovering the grisly truth.Season 34 Episode 01Originally aired: Sun, Jul 7, 2024Watch full episodes of Snapped for FREE on the Oxygen app: https://oxygentv.app.link/WatchSnappedPodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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A wife left stranded by her husband soon realizes he's gone missing.
He was very reliable, so the fact that he wasn't answering his phone,
she knew something was very wrong.
She was positive that he just would not have walked out of her life totally.
She noticed a really strong smell of bleach in the apartment.
Things were broken, thrown all over the place.
After a body turns up, detectives must look for clues close to home.
Things weren't about this way he's he's being considered crap.
Things weren't great between the four of them in the house.
Is there anything you want to say?
In my heart, I believe he was an evil person.
As evidence emerges and suspects are pressed for answers,
the grisly details of a man's final hours come to light.
They were going to surprise him and attack him with a samurai sword.
That's the word?
He thought he could judge people on who was good and who was bad,
and they were going to get rid of him one way or the other.
The small town of Stewart, Florida, isn't known as a dangerous place to live.
But just after 8 p.m. on April 21st, 2008,
police receive an emergency call from 47-year-old Kristen Jensen,
who's concerned something has happened to her husband, Gerald.
We learned from Kristen that she was in the V8 hospital, the detox off of substances.
She made arrangements for her husband, Jerry, to pick her up.
Sunday, the 20th, was the last time she spoke to him, and she was due to be discharged the next day, the 21st.
However, when she was discharged, she kept calling his cell phone, and it kept going to voicemail.
Kristen was initially alarmed because Jerry was very reliable.
He was never even late.
So the fact that he wasn't answering his phone, Kristen knew something was very wrong.
She was able to make arrangements with the VA to actually have a shuttle transfer her back to her residence.
Kristen tells police when she got home around 5.30 p.m., Jerry was still nowhere to be found.
But she does find her daughter Nicole with her boyfriend Chris and their newborn baby who have been living with them.
Kristen had been told by both Nicole and Chris Tomlinson that Jerry had gotten into a fight with somebody on the phone, like around 10.30 at night, and it was on his cell phone, and they were afraid he was going to wake the baby.
They went to the library so that they could log into the Wi-Fi, and when they came back home with the baby, Jerry was gone.
Kristen says it seemed possible Jerry had simply forgotten to pick her up.
until she noticed something concerning.
Anything that he would have taken with him
was still there, and especially with his car being there,
his keys being there, his clothes being there,
his phone was there.
She didn't feel it was normal for him just to walk away.
Kristen said she noticed a really strong smell of bleach
in the apartment, which she thought was unusual.
Also, the bedroom no longer had a door, but the bathroom did.
And so she called the police and reported him missing
and said, you know, he wouldn't do this,
wouldn't go away and you know where is he at this point she is more convinced than ever that something bad
has happened to jerry jerry jensen was born on november 6th 1959 he spent his younger years in
albany new york he came from a large family with seven siblings and then he moved down to florida
jerry made his living as an electrician and as a very talented handyman friends and family described
Jerry is extremely fun-loving.
He loved music, particularly the Rolling Stones.
He actually had the band's famous logo tattooed on his chest.
Jerry married, but the relationship didn't last.
He was settling in to life as a divorcee
when he suffered a major setback.
Jerry had an accident and broke his neck.
The recovery was very difficult, and he became more
relying on painkillers.
It was a cycle of going through rehab, being clean for some time,
stumbling, going through rehab.
It was around that time he met Kristen Thornhill,
a divorced mother of three who also struggled with addiction.
My mom, she was in the Marines at one point and got hurt.
And I think that might have been where part of her
addiction to pain pills set in, and then she was on disability.
All of my life.
The two began dating and decided to get clean together.
When I was very young, my mom and Jerry had a bit of a touch and go relationship and
both struggled with addiction, but they seemed to figure it out along the way, I guess, and ended
up getting married. Kind of one of those moments of, I'm going to be okay with this because you seem
okay. But despite Kristen's attempted recovery, the instability at home had left its mark,
especially on her oldest daughter, Nicole. Things were very chaotic. I was young enough that I
didn't really understand what was going on, but my sister did. She didn't get to live with my mom
for very long. My dad got to have us on weekends. He came to drop us off and my mom wasn't home.
Eventually, child services came and picked us up and put us back with my dad.
Nicole hadn't grown up with her mother. As a matter of fact, Kristen's addiction issues
led her to be estranged from Nicole for a large part of her child.
Four years after Kristen and Jerry's wedding,
Nicole reached out to her mother to reconnect.
When Nicole was turning 18,
graduation was coming, my dad lost his job.
And so because of that, we weren't able to get a house
that we were supposed to move into.
My dad told me I was going to go live with my aunt and uncle,
and so Nicole not really having anywhere to go.
My mom let her go live with her and Jerry.
My sister's relationship with my mom had always been a little bit rocky,
but Nicole just loved my mom.
Any opportunity she got, she just wanted to go stay with my mom growing up.
Shortly after Nicole moved in, she met Chris Tomlinson on a social networking site devoted to artists.
When my sister was a teenager, she was a little.
just very sad. So she turned to art and she found a website called Deviant Art and so she would
post all of her artwork on there. Christopher Tomlinson was in his early 20s and into Gothic,
very dark kind of art and that spoke to Nicole and she was the one who actually reached
out to him.
My son met Nicole Thornhill online while he was in the Army, stationed in Germany, and instant
fall in love.
And we're trying to talk him out, you don't know this girl, you haven't even met her.
But he said he loved her.
But Chris and Nicole's online relationship grew stronger during his deployment, so when he
returned to the States, they were eager to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to
together.
Chris was now stateside in California.
However, Nicole was in Florida living with Kristen and Jerry.
In late 2006, Chris decides to go meet Nicole for the first time.
Chris came to see her for two weeks.
He was very outgoing and was very showy.
Just eight months after meeting online, 18-year-old
Nicole announced she was moving back to California with 23-year-old Chris.
Jerry and Kristen wanted to support her and decided not to stand in her way.
In California, the couple struggled to make ends meet, and their financial troubles only got worse.
Nicole called Jerry and Kristen to give them surprising news that she is pregnant and that
she's due the following March.
Nicole was 18 and unmarried and didn't know what to do.
They ran out of money and didn't have anywhere else to go.
Kristen and Jerry say, absolutely, come live with us,
move back to Florida.
And that's what Nicole and Chris decide to do.
When they first move in, everything's going well,
but as the baby is getting closer to arriving,
attention starts to rise.
Although Kristen was overjoyed by the birth of her grandchild,
That happiness was short-lived.
Six weeks later, a relapse landed Kristen back in a rehabilitation center for four days.
Jerry would visit her every day while she was there,
and they were planning on him picking her up.
So when she was released and he didn't show up,
that's when she decided to call the police department.
Since Jerry has been missing for less than 24 hours,
police aren't convinced a missing person's report
is necessary.
You know, typically when a grown person disappears, they don't jump right in unless there's
some real fishy circumstances.
The police department did an attempt to locate, which is usually for an adult that just
can't be found.
There's no reason to think there was any foul play.
They just couldn't be found at that time.
Kristen was very adamant that something bad had to have happened to Gerald.
She was positive that he just would not have walked out of her life totally.
Jerry's keys were right there on the counter.
His favorite pair of jeans that he always wore out were still there.
His shoes, everything was there.
Something was very wrong.
Coming up, evidence suggests Kristen's suspicions may be correct.
The apartment had been, in their words, ransacked.
And a statewide search comes to a gruesome end.
They found what they believe to be traces.
of blood.
Police in Stewart, Florida, have been on the lookout for 48-year-old Jerry Jensen since his wife, Kristen,
reported him missing more than 48 hours ago.
According to his stepdaughter and her boyfriend, Jerry disappeared shortly after having a heated
exchange over the phone on the night of April 20th.
Police canvass the apartment complex, but this really didn't turn up much.
Police investigating missing persons cases
with people who have substance abuse problems
they will consider the fact that sometimes
substance abuse situations manifest
with people being gone for days at a time
while they're going on a binge.
In an attempt to determine whether Jerry started using again,
officers asked Kristen who Jerry may have confided in.
She suggests they speak with a man named Kevin
one of Jerry's closest friends.
Kevin had actually spoken with Jerry
just the day before he went missing.
And there was nothing that seemed off.
He had no plans to leave town.
According to investigators,
Kevin said the only problem in Jerry's life
was his living situation.
Kevin tells police that Kristen and Jerry
had been under a lot of stress.
And this stress was mostly caused
by Nicole's boyfriend, Chris Tomlinson.
who had just moved in with them.
Jerry told Kevin that Chris was unemployed.
He wasn't really making an effort to take care of Nicole or the baby as a father.
Jerry and Kristen didn't have a lot of disposable income.
They were both living on fixed incomes with disability.
And so they weren't in a position to have two, let alone three more miles to feed.
Kevin actually felt that all the stress with Chris is what actually led to Kristen's relapse.
Police wonder if the stress caused Jerry to relapse as well.
When police follow up with Kristen on April 25th, she admits Jerry had started taking some pain medication again.
He did have a prescription for them, but sometimes he would get them from a friend of his if he couldn't get his prescription filled or if he ran out.
But she found his prescription drugs, and there were still some pills in the bottle.
This was a clear sign that he wasn't leaving to go find more drugs.
Another thing uncovered during her search of the home left Kristen certain of foul play.
Kristen said the only thing's missing was the comforter off their bed and Jerry.
But the bathroom door was broken.
The apartment had been, in their words, ransacked.
Things were broken, thrown all over the place.
Kristen says when she asked Nicole and Chris what happened,
they said they found the apartment that way
when they came home from the library.
They thought that this is something that Jerry had done
in a fit of rage based on whatever phone call he was on.
She said that her and Christopher went ahead and tried to clean up the house as best as they could because she knew her mother was coming home the next day and didn't want her mom to be upset with the mess.
This new information leads Kristen to think that whomever Jerry may have been on the fight with on the phone could be the person that came over to the apartment and maybe assaulted him or even kidnapped him.
She just had a gut feeling something had it happened to him.
Police release Kristen requesting that she keep in touch with any additional information.
Since Jerry is an adult who has been missing for less than a week, investigators can't take
any serious steps until additional evidence surfaces.
Unless police see some sort of foul play involved, police are usually very guarded and measured
about how they investigate missing persons cases.
Another thing to add in Jerry's case is Jerry's history of substance abuse.
The wife was having a hard time with the way the police department was handling the case.
She started calling supervisors and the supervisor started contacting the criminal investigations
division to make sure that this case was going to be assigned.
My sergeant decided that the investigative unit would look into it and was able to
put together, it's called a locator poster,
and we used to put them out for missing people.
So it had his description on it, like height, weight,
body piercings, tattoos, that type of stuff.
And it goes out statewide.
The case gets elevated where a full-blown missing persons
report and a notification to all state agencies
is released.
Essentially everybody in the state of Florida
is on a lookout.
It wasn't more than an hour
after that poster went out, I got a call from the Palm Beach County Sheriff's Office telling me they believe they found Gerald Jensen in a landfill.
By April 25, 2008, less than a week has passed since Jerry Jensen was reported missing from his South Florida home.
But police in West Palm Beach County think they might have found him after responding to a 911 call.
911, where's your emergency?
Calling from southways to 30 Palm Beach County on the John Road.
and we believe we have found a body
a class in our class one landfill.
They're not 100% sure it is,
but they don't want to contaminate anything.
The man who found it drives a bulldozer.
He was looking around and he saw an arm.
The body was not in great shape when they found him.
The machinery there at the landfill that turns,
the garbage has big spikes on the tires,
and it tends to tear things up.
It was going to be impossible.
for investigators to identify it through facial features
or dental records.
Fortunately, the body still has some distinguishing marks.
They were able to see some tattoos,
and the tattoos that they saw matched the ones on my poster.
So they sent the body found to the medical examiners office
and tried to do a fingerprint comparison.
They were able to make a positive identification
of Gerald Jensen through a fingerprint.
The medical examiner is also able to determine the cause of death.
We learned that Gerald Jensen's body had been stabbed multiple times
and that his throat was slit.
So therefore it was deemed to be a homicide.
Two of the detectives went back to speak with Kristen and Nicole and Chris
and just see if they could figure out any more information.
Investigators begin by speaking with Jerry's wife, Kristen.
We did break the news to her that Gerald was deceased
and that he'd been found in Palm Beach County.
She took it very hard and was very upset and hysterical at that point in time.
Since Kristen was in rehab at the time of Jerry's death,
she is directly ruled out as a suspect.
Now, investigators point out.
their questions toward the other members of the household.
Kristen admitted that things weren't great between the four of them in the house.
How do you like Chris?
I don't.
What don't you like about?
He's so lazy and consider a crap.
I wish Nicole can see it if she can't.
Chris didn't do anything.
He wouldn't get a job.
He sat and played video games all day.
and every time my mom would nag Chris,
my sister would go to Chris's defense.
Kristen tells detectives she even suspects
Chris might be AWOL.
You supposedly just got out of the Army
and he came straight here
and he can't show me his DD-214.
You believe him?
Not enough.
She did not believe that he,
was discharged from the Army.
She kept requesting his DD-214 discharge papers,
and he would not provide it to her.
You're supposed to go through the deep briefing and all that?
He said, no, he left.
He was to go to Texas and either be arrested
or kicked out of the Army.
Fortunately, they kicked him out
with no jail time or any of that.
How did Jerry get along with Chris?
didn't at all.
They barely spoke.
What about with the baby?
How's he was a father?
He's good.
Is he protective of the babies?
Mm-hmm.
How did Nicole get along with Jerry?
She was calling Jerry dad.
And things are just great.
And then all of a sudden, Chris shows up.
Okay.
Yeah.
She doesn't want to call him dad anymore.
Investigators then asked Kristen what she thinks happened to Jerry.
Nicole and Chris
told her Jerry had been on an angry phone call that evening.
She still believes whoever was on that call
came looking to settle the score.
He went random in the bedroom to hide or something,
and they kicked the door down and made the shth out of him.
Okay, that's the same I do who was talking to.
I still can't figure out how to come up.
While I was starting my interviews,
Detective Gerwin was working on getting a search
for the records for Gerald's cell phone,
and the search warrant came back with a list of calls and times.
Jerry wasn't on the phone that night. That was a lie.
Armed with this information, detectives bring Nicole and Chris in for questioning.
They start with Nicole.
We asked her several times how positive she was.
The time of the fight was around 10.30.
The fact that he was on a cell phone, not a house phone,
a house phone that they went to the local library and she was very adamant that she was correct.
Once we informed her that that could not possibly have happened because that phone hadn't been used,
I asked her if there was anything more that she wanted to tell me and she blurted out the whole story.
Coming up, a shocking confession.
They started talking about the whole way.
I'm sorry.
I'm back him.
It had to be so terrifying way to die.
Someone coming at you with a sword and a confined space.
He didn't deserve that.
After Nicole Thornhill discovers that investigators know she and her boyfriend haven't told the truth,
she agrees to come clean about what really happened.
Both Nicole Thornhill and Chris Thomason weren't getting along with the parents.
She pretty much confirmed the same thing
that Kristen had told me that things were tough
between the four of them
and she was worried because they had a baby in the house
what was going to happen next.
According to Nicole,
one of their issues was their religious differences.
I asked her what her religion was
and she told me that she was new to the Wiccan religion
but Christopher had been in it his whole life
and he was considered a high priest.
Wicca is a modern pagan movement often associated with witchcraft, something Jerry couldn't accept.
Jerry didn't understand their wicked lifestyle.
They really couldn't get through to him.
But Chris and Nicole felt the Jensen's behavior left no room for judgment.
They felt that with their drinking and both of them using prescription drugs,
that it wasn't a healthy situation to raise their treatment.
situation to raise their child in.
Nicole says that ultimately the household
became extremely toxic,
and she and Chris started to consider drastic measures.
Money may have played a factor in their decision,
but she said that it would just
made things a little easier when they weren't there.
When did you two start talking about wanting to get rid of him?
Nicole says their first plan involved drugging him.
When I mentioned making it look like a suicide because they both did some of the drug.
Suddenly went to Walmart and he bought those weird generic sleeping bills.
So you guys never saw an effect when you put the bills in the drinks?
And there was nothing else.
When that didn't work, they resorted to a more brutal method.
And Kristen's time away at rehab provided the
perfect opportunity.
The plan was that Chris and Nicole were going to surprise him and Chris was going to attack
him with a samurai sword that he kept in the house.
Christopher decided they were going to stay up all night and attack Gerald when he woke up
first thing in the morning.
So Nicole said about seven o'clock they could hear him moving around and Christopher told
her to take the baby and go outside for a walk.
Nicole says when she returned, Chris told her Jerry was a
dead. Tomlinson said he came out of the room with the sword, confronted him, stabbed him in the front.
The sword?
Yes.
Do you tell you how many times you stand there?
I think he said three.
I think he ended up running him into the bathroom door.
I have drawn up the broken door and he turned out of his body and then I had to look away.
Okay. Where's the knife that Chris used?
It had to be so terrifying way to die,
knowing that, you know, someone coming at you with a sword
and a confined space. They didn't deserve that.
Nicole said that they then took a tarp and wrapped Gerald's body in it,
and then wrapped him in the comforter from her mother's bed
and put him in the bathtub so they could clean up the mess in the bathroom
in the hallway.
They bagged everything up then, drove it over to the dumpster on site, and threw everything
in the dumpster.
Detectives are immediately sent to the apartment to confirm Nicole's claims.
The detectives found a set of swords that were underneath the bed.
They found what they believed to be traces of blood on the sword.
Investigators also find evidence in the kitchen of the couple's earlier attempt to
to drug Jerry.
I opened up the cabinet
and saw a bottle of
tequila. I could see the bottom
had white powder
soot in the bottom
with a little bit of blue color to it.
These were the pills that were
crushed up.
I opened up the refrigerator and found
a half gallon of partially consumed
milk. I could see
blue sit in the bottom,
which was also indicative of
the sleeping pills. So those
were collected for evidence.
While the crime scene unit was searching the house, they did find a Walmart receipt.
What was interesting about the receipt, it showed that the sleeping pills were purchased
on April the 22nd, the day after the murder.
Detectives confront Nicole with the new evidence.
You had told us that the two of you had been planning something for Jerry.
ever planned something for your mom?
Yeah.
What was that?
Pretty much the same thing.
The same thing, how?
Or.
Nicole Thornhill has just confessed she and her boyfriend
conspired to murder her stepfather.
And they intended to kill her mother next.
How were you going to do with her?
I wanted to do the saving bill because she had just done it.
So many times before trying to kill herself.
She tried to do it in front of me.
Hey, why'd you want to get rid of her?
I can't stand her anymore.
According to her and Chris' beliefs,
anyone who used drugs was not a good person
and couldn't be around them,
and they also didn't want them around the baby.
What's that happened to me?
You're gonna go to jail, okay?
You're being charged with first degree murder.
Will I ever be able to see Chris again?
I doubt it.
I love my baby.
The way that both Chris and Nicole felt
that they had been impacted as children with parents leaving,
that's what they did to their own child.
Their baby's life is now essentially changed forever.
After they're finished questioning Nicole,
investigators sit down with Chris,
who was being held in a separate room.
Unaware of Nicole's confession,
Chris is sticking to a very different
friend's story.
I asked him how he felt about Gerald.
He didn't like the way Gerald acted by yelling and fighting and drinking and the drugs.
I asked Christopher about the Wiccan aspect of it, and he told me that he was a high priest.
He believed that he could see oras around people, and he did not think people with a bad
aura should be allowed to live in the same world as his child.
When investigators tell Chris they found Jerry's body, he acts surprised.
He was found in a landfill, Palm Ridge County.
How does that make it for you?
I don't wish anybody did, even if they're the biggest ass-ass- in the world.
Did you do anything to him?
No.
No.
No.
No.
But Chris changes his tune when he learns about Nicole's confession.
He was killed in that apartment.
There's no question.
To prove that.
Now, how it's portrayed is up to you.
I'd like to know what your side of the story is.
Chris, what happened?
Can I have some water?
Sure.
We got him a drink, and then after he told us that,
yes, there had been a fight, but it was self-defense.
When did this happen?
Early morning.
I was in the kitchen getting breakfast.
to go to the bedroom and he came out and started yelling like he was ready to fight,
which has happened more than once.
I instinctively grabbed the weapon and he lunged at me and I kicked him back into the hallway
and I tried to run out the door and he grabbed me and just...
I lost it.
You lost it? What do you mean, you got to describe that for us?
I just turned around and tried to break out.
He changed this story several times as to how he happened to have the sword in his possession,
where the fight occurred, who hit whom first, and we then told him that we did not believe
that's the way the story occurred. And eventually he came around and told us that they had
planned the poisoning first. And eventually they decided that if Kristen
was out of the way at the VA rehab, then they could attack and kill Gerald.
Is there anything you want to say or you can think that we haven't asked you that you think needs to go on the record?
In my heart, I felt he was an evil person.
Christopher Tomlinson believed that he could judge people on who was good and who was bad.
Once he had made that decision that Gerald was bad, he was going to get rid of him one way or the other.
Chris and Nicole are both arrested for the moment.
murder of Jerry Jensen.
I got on the computer and, you know,
Googling Nicole's name, Christopher's name, and this stuff came up
and I'm like, I am in such disbelief that my son did this.
With two confessions and a list of evidence, prosecutors feel this will be an open
and shut case.
But six days after the arrests, Nicole
Nicole makes it much more complicated.
Nicole Thornhill was trying to reach out
to the historic police department
because she wanted to speak to a detective
to tell the real story.
Nicole Thornhill has implicated herself
and her boyfriend Chris Tomlinson
in a plot to murder both of her parents.
But now that she's been arrested,
she changes her statement.
At this point, she's figured out
out after being in jail for a week that she's in a lot of trouble.
And so now she's trying to put it all on Tomlinson.
And she's claiming that she was scared of him and that he was controlling and that she only
helped because he made her help.
And he just contradicted a lot of the things that she'd already said beforehand.
The problem is she wasn't even there when the murder occurred.
But planning and doing something that would aid or assist prior to the murder could be sufficient
and lead you to be just as guilty
as if you committed the murder yourself.
A grand jury agrees.
They indict both Nicole and Chris for first degree murder.
We added adulterating a food or drug,
which is punishable way up to 30 years in prison.
We had an attempted murder of Kristen on to both of them.
A judge rules Chris and Nicole are to be tried separately,
but Nicole chooses not to face a jury.
What Nicole Thornhill did,
was in effect enter a no contest plea,
whereby she did not admit to any of this information.
She just acknowledged that evidence was sufficient
to convict her.
The deal does not require her to testify against Chris.
We didn't call her as a witness.
We didn't think that she would be credible
because she'd given so many different statements.
On May 18, 2010, the trial for Chris Tomlinson begins.
The best argument that defense had was that it was self-defense.
They couldn't dispute that their guy did it because he admitted to it.
But why did you bring a sword into the hallway if he weren't planning to attack him?
It was just another one of those inconsistencies that didn't match up to his story.
The jury takes only three hours to reach a verdict.
On May 20, 2010, the jury finds Christopher Tomlinson guilty of first-degree murder,
Two counts of attempted murder against both Jerry and Kristen.
In Florida, convictions for first-degree murder come with an automatic life sentence.
So the judge immediately sentenced Christopher to life in prison plus another 60 years.
Christopher, to this day, still has not told me in his life in prison.
told me in his words, why.
And I looked at Christopher, you can have all this,
but she got involved with Nicole
and the army messed you up.
So all of those combined, he snapped,
and he can never come back from it.
When Nicole is sentenced a month later,
there is a surprising character witness.
One of the people who show up and ask for leniency for her is her mother.
Kristen looked at her daughter and she said, I believe in you.
My mom continued to be there for my sister because she knew something was wrong.
And my mom continued to fight for my sister.
After hearing from Kristen, the judge did not sentence Nicole to life and
prison, but gave her what is almost the equivalent of a life sentence.
He sentenced her to 50 years.
Justice was served.
However, this will never bring back Jerry, who had done nothing wrong except try to take in to people that were in need of help, and he paid for that with his life.
You know, everybody has their demons, everybody has their past.
It doesn't mean that you should be brutally murdered and thrown away like a piece of garbage.
piece of garbage. I mean, think about that. What could be so bad that anyone would deserve that?
Kristen Jensen died in 2020. But before her death, she and her daughter managed to make amends.
Nicole finally got to have the relationship with my mom that she always wanted and vice versa.
My mom struggled with her grief and pain over what happened with my sister.
but they had a great relationship eventually.
