Soft Skills Engineering - Episode 521: negotiating . . . now? and doing good work is not enough for promotion?

Episode Date: July 13, 2026

In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions: Dwill Ainghell asks, During the golden era of software development, it was commonly stated that you should always negotiate job offers. The argument was that the company has invested significant time and resources into you as a candidate and there is always some wiggle room for negotiations. A popular article / podcast by Patrick McKenzie likened it to doing something slightly uncomfortable like “reciting poetry while simultaneously standing on one foot” with almost no downside. (https://www.complexsystemspodcast.com/episodes/how-to-negotiate-your-salary-package/) Does this still hold true in today’s environment? I’m a SWE with 10 years of experience and I’ve been unemployed for close to a year. I’m expecting an offer from a large company and I fear that I will look like a fool trying to negotiate in my current position and the current job market dynamics. Even worse, I fear that they might retract the offer and give it to someone else. That being said, I don’t want to leave money on the table. What’s the correct course of action in today’s environment? Listener Stu says, In episode 500, you said something to the effect of “working hard and doing a great job with the work you’ve been assigned is not the promotion track”. I’d love to hear you discuss what it does take to get promoted and how to do that. In my job, we have a jira queue and engineers are tasked with taking from the top of the queue and executing work. There’s also an expectation to lead pre-defined projects (define the scope, write the tickets, and shepherd it along). All of these projects have deadlines, so how do you recommend people get the defined work done, lead projects, and still find time to do whatever it is to get promoted? Why is doing an excellent job not enough?

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i can't afford fable uh dave you want to read our first question yes this comes from dwill ing hell oh man the patreon the virus has infected the questions now yes it's not just in patreon yeah it's spreading okay uh during the golden era of software development it was commonly stated that you should always negotiate job offers the argument was that the company has invested significant time and resources into you as a candidate and there was always some wiggle room for negotiations a popular article slash podcast by patrick mckinsey likened it to doing something slightly uncomfortable like quote reciting poetry while simultaneously standing on one foot with almost no downside and then he's got a url to that episode that article which by the way is

I think one of the best articles ever written in terms of financial benefit to software engineers. Continuing, does this still hold true in today's environment? I'm a software engineer with 10 years of experience that I've been unemployed for close to a year. I'm expecting an offer from a large company and I fear that I will look like a fool trying to negotiate in my current position and the current job market dynamics. Even worse, I fear that they might retract the offer and give it to someone else. That being said, I don't want to leave money on the table. What is the correct course of action in today's environment? That is a great question. Very timely. Fantastic. Congrats on hopefully getting an offer after a year of unemployment. Oh man, one year of

unemployment is like nightmare fuel for me. It's just that whole idea just makes me feel so much anxiety. It's happened to some people I know pretty well and is pretty devastating. Separate from any financial impact on your life, just like the mood and mental health stuff and routine and yes i don't know yeah that's that's awful i'm sorry man it's very hard i'm glad you're getting an offer and that advice is certainly dependent on how much leverage you have either directly or from the market as a whole and in your case i would probably not negotiate yeah very much or at least say can i have more i will still take this which is a very weak position yeah that's the zero leverage negotiation strategy hey will you just give me more money but you don't

have to and i will accept yeah i will be perfectly happy if you don't yeah that's like not the strongest negotiating position i think i read uh chris foss never split the difference and i'm pretty sure that wasn't in there that's because it wasn't in a rough hiring market after a year of unemployment that was not the context here exactly yeah there i mean there is a risk and the risk is higher than it was i still think the chances of them just saying no and you're not hired at all we retract the original offer are small but not zero certainly yeah and if you're kind of like marginally the best candidate then maybe this does push you down below someone else and they think well if they come on for the salary we offer they might be unhappy and like yeah

there's i could reason away that would cause a problem but yeah for you specifically i do not think i would negotiate yeah as long as i had if it's a big company hopefully there's some information about salary bans, or you can talk to people internally enough to know like, hey, is this in the right ballpark? Because being unemployed is way more expensive than not having a 5K raise added to your comp. Yeah, that's exactly what I was thinking. I was thinking to myself, okay, you don't want to leave money on the table, but you're risking leaving it all on the table. Yeah, I am by nature pretty risk averse as well. So I think I would not negotiate if I felt like this is my chance yeah that said what am i hmm my last job search i didn't have other offers

i did negotiate a little bit but i felt like i could still get something else you were unemployed at the time right like you did not have yeah i was unemployed yeah i got laid off was looking for a couple months and then negotiated a little bit not outrageously i think i guess i should ask them if they feel like it was outrageous in hindsight what what year was that oh what year was it 2023 okay so in in the hard times but not not deep in the hard time so it was kind of in the downturn but not yeah and like it was in the free money is gone era but not the full like ai is the only thing that exists and also will potentially destroy much value era anyways what is my point in saying this my point is i still felt like this is not my only shot though and i

could go back and keep searching i bet if it had been a year of unemployment you would have felt differently i think i would have yes and maybe this helps you think about it because i i could feel i read this blog post i felt feelings of oh maybe i missed out on money by doing this by not doing this in the past and it feels bad it's like the same feeling you get when you talk to a co-worker and realize oh they've been making more money than me for like five years yeah and if i add all that money up theoretically potentially look how much more money i could have had slash how much less money i have it just feels bad yeah of course but i think it feels worse to be unemployed for a year. Yeah. I don't know. And imagine, I mean, another year. Yeah. I think if

you can overcome that opportunity, I don't know, it's not opportunity cost. There's probably a term if I knew more about economics that covers this. The theoretical value you are passing up by not negotiating and you put it out of your mind, that might make you feel better if you're worried about just feeling bad if I didn't negotiate hard enough. I don't know. I think you're right. And there's one other key factor in this question that pushes me even harder to the don't negotiate opinion. And that is it's a big company. And the fact that it's a big company means two things. It means A, there's probably not a ton of wiggle room anyway, because they're probably following some formula. And B, they probably don't have a lot of options for handling negotiation in the

offer stage. I'm trying to think at my big company I worked at, there was still some wiggle room in the salary band but not a ton and it was much harder to push someone above like the median of the level yeah but pretty straightforward to get them to the median yeah i think that that was the feeling it was like here's our band for this role you cannot offer them above this yeah this part of the band you just can't but if you really wanted them to get more money or you felt like you yeah if if i as the hiring manager was very motivated to get them more money then i would need to turn to increasing the level yeah that was the lever i could pull more easily i couldn't like give them more equity i couldn't give them a bonus very easily yeah that was all pretty fixed

but level was my main lever you also need to understand your leverage from the other angle so i know from the angle of the employee the unemployed for a year situation makes you feel like you don't have a lot of leverage but what you do need to know about the other side of the negotiating table is how long have they been trying to fill this position? And is it, are there actually like five people all getting offers today, you know, or is it like, you know, had they been trying to fill this position for months? And that makes a huge difference in the amount of leverage you have just generally. Now at a big company, the amount of leverage you have is going to be reduced on average compared to a small company. But if they haven't been able to fill

this position for a while and, and surprise, you might be surprised to hear that is often the case right now even though there's a lot of unemployment in the software engineering market right now it's also very hard to fill positions with excellent talent yep it's kind of a weird there's a lot of weird paradoxical stuff going on right now in the job market for software engineers and that's one of them yeah i have seen that and felt that same vibe of like yes i feel like i do have leverage but also man has it been hard to find this person so far yeah and that might depend on the style of hiring that the big company does there's some big companies where you just get hired into the company and then you do some type of matching after that yeah and there are some where you're

explicitly being hired by a hiring manager to join their team and in that case you might have more leverage because you can figure out how long has this team been trying how long has this hiring manager been trying to hire this position that they want me to fill not just like do they need another senior software engineer into the bucket that they will then distribute across these other teams exactly yeah so maybe those are some caveats but i would still be pretty conservative here and And even though it totally undermines my leverage, I think I still would make it clear, hey, I really want this job. It's not quite at the comp level.

Is there anything you could do to increase it? If not, I'm still very interested. I, yeah, again, a horrible negotiating position in terms of like forcing them to. But if I'm trying to limit my downside. Yeah, I just don't know if I would do that. Because think about the position you're putting the person in. you're basically telling them you have my permission to not give me anything but i'm asking you for something now it's kind of personal because they're basically saying uh put yourself

in the manager's position you now have to make a decision this guy just told me and i say guy because we're talking about de will ain't hell which is clearly a masculine name yep sure is one if i've ever seen it yeah i mean that's that's like top 10 baby names for boys right now i think yeah yeah anyway you've asked the manager now to to say or to make a decision and they can come back and just say no i'm not going to do that and they look like a jerk or they're going to say okay i'll look into it and then they don't look into it and they come back to you and say sorry we can't do it and now they feel like a jerk so i don't know there's just i don't there's not a lot of upside here and i i'd probably just say look i'm super excited to join take what you can because

compare the cost of another month or two of interviewing, or sorry, of not having a job to the amount of leverage you're trying to get. Sorry, the amount of salary increase you're trying to get. Oh man, sorry. I just read that Dwill Inkel name so many times now I can't say anything right. And it just doesn't feel like the right move. I think take this opportunity to say, hey, I'm thrilled to join this team. I'm going to give you everything I can. I'm going to do a really great job for you. Start this relationship off on a really good foot because who knows, Maybe there's a round of layoffs coming to this company in six months, and you don't want to be on that short list. So I would probably do everything I can to minimize the negativity or the likelihood of me getting on a short list of bad employees or something to make sure I don't get unemployed again.

So that's what I'm doing in this situation. Well, I think we broadly agree, and then a faint glimmer of daylight in the space between our specifics. But either way. Right. There's a little lens flare that pops through if you hold your hand just right. like a jj abrams movie yes exactly okay i think we've done it should i read our next question let's go okay this is from a listener named stew who says in episode 500 you said something to the effect of working hard and

doing a great job with the work you've been assigned is not the promotion track i'd love to hear you discuss what it does take to get promoted and how to do that in my job we have a JIRA queue and engineers are tasked with taking from the top of the queue and executing work. There's also an expectation to lead predefined projects, define the scope, write the tickets, and shepherd it along. All of these projects have deadlines. So how do you recommend people get the defined work done, lead projects, and still find time to do whatever it is to get promoted? Why is doing an excellent job not enough? Oh, fantastic question. I mean, I was the one who picked it, so I guess this is my fault, but props to you for saying, wait, you said this thing.

how does that actually work you're trying to extract some rigor from us maybe there's none here maybe that's what you'll find we're about to find out but i appreciate you thinking about this and and countering it with some some uh maybe counter examples is this just one of those situations where we make jokes for a few minutes and i laugh a lot and then we wrap up the episode and i think we've all learned a valuable lesson here see ya maybe we'll find out in about five minutes yeah okay my immediate thought is the earlier you are in your career the lower level you are i guess maybe that's the better thing i think the the more you can get promoted by just doing a really good job at your current job i think it becomes

harder the higher your level is or the more responsibilities you have so if you're just first job out of college whatever their lowest rung on the engineering ladder is if you just do a really good work on the tickets assigned to you, get faster at it, show you, learn stuff, understand the code base and product. Like, I think that does get you a promotion. Yeah, that's a good nuance. I'm glad you pointed that out.

This is definitely level dependent. Yeah, but so I'm assuming this is a more senior level. Yeah, but I mean, I think it's a good idea to cover the whole spectrum because you're right. Entry-level positions, and I'll tell you, at the Megatech Co. that I worked for, you were expected to promote out of the entry-level positions

simply by doing a good job. and if you didn't get promoted after a certain amount of time you would be let go yeah it's the up or out thing yeah up or out and they did that because economically i had a principal engineer explain this to me but he said economically the company loses money on entry-level engineers and so unless they can promote upward and be better contributors than entry level it's an upside down economic relationship for us and so we have to time limit that but we hire a lot of them and and i'll tell you they churned through a lot of them too you know i mean some some double digit percent of entry-level engineers did not last more than a couple of years and did not

promote into the next level but then they became economically valuable to the company after that yeah so yeah that's that's and i would say let's carve that out because like you were saying james and i think you're going here but the entry-level thing it's a it's a small time in your career it's just the first few years and then you're out of it forever and it's a very it's treated very differently you know the expectations for you are much much lower and yeah like people don't even know if you can really do the job you were hired to do when you come in entry level they think you can but you have no track record yeah so they don't know so yeah promotion there really is just can you do software engineering things without a lot of hand-holding yeah and get work

done then you're promoted to the next level but once you get past that it's a it's a totally different playing field for promotion yeah another nuance i will say here is the best information on how to get promoted is probably who has been promoted recently at your company yeah and the closer they are to your role level team org the the more applicable it is so going from i don't know vp to super mega vp is probably not i don't know at my mega tech company they would send these emails about always people i had never heard of in orgs i'd never heard of at roles i'd never heard of but they were all president executive ops vp super like i could not fathom the hierarchy of these titles and the fact that i was getting an email meant i think the

new one is higher but i don't know yeah just super distinguished principal yeah vice engineer president yeah exactly so yeah not those but if you can look around at people plus or minus a couple levels from you within your same org or close enough to your same org how who has been promoted how did they do it that's great advice i guess that we cannot give yeah because it will be company dependent yeah but okay so we took the easy things off not super junior yeah yeah we'll look around but what else what else you got well i i think uh it's really important to know that when you do a good job even an excellent job at the job that you were hired and paid to do all you're doing like let's just let's just think strictly economically about this all you're doing

is providing the paid for service and so asking to be promoted while doing the job you're already being paid to do is like buying a product from a company and then being like hey would you like to pay more for this same product and you'd be like no i just want to pay the price that it that is worth to me. And so when you think about that in kind of a cold, cold, rational numbers-based mindset, then you realize, oh, I have to do something more valuable for the company to pay me more money and to give me more responsibility. And that's fundamentally what promotion means. Promotion means you are doing a different job. And sometimes it's just a bigger scope of a similar job. Sometimes it's an entirely new job, like going into management or something

could be considered a promotion. I don't think that's really what the question asker is asking about like this lateral slash upward move into a different ladder but as an engineer if you are doing the same quality of work the same quantity of work but maybe doing i don't know doing a good job of it i just don't know why you would expect to be paid more now so so what do you got to do this is where we can only speak in general terms because like jameson said every company is going to have different criteria for what they consider promotion worthy but taking on more scope think about the team that surrounds you and how you can benefit them. Let's say you work on a team of five people. What can you do to help those five people work more effectively? Now you're

producing a ton of value for the company that's paying you. And in my experience, those are the kinds of contributions that companies are willing to pay the most for when they realize that, oh, this person's work, not only do they produce 10% more tickets than everyone else on the team, But really, their work makes the other five team members be 10% better. And that's like a 50% force multiplier on the whole team. So that, you know, on the team's output. So did I do that math right? I stopped listening as soon as you started doing math.

Yes. I know it's correct space math, and I just never know if it translates down here. Yeah, the magnetic field of the Earth does mess up the math a little bit from space. It also makes me confuse Switzerland and Sweden. that's not that they look so similar from space anyway yeah so so yeah like i when i think about promotion i think about expansion of contribution to make a bigger impact and provide more value to the company that's paying you i like that that's a good a good principle you you mentioned specifically you take tickets off the task you lead these projects which is to define the scope

right the tickets shepherded along yeah so maybe a specific thing is is you help other people get their tickets done faster. The people who are leading projects lead them better because of your advice or mentorship. I mean, somebody has to pick what the projects are. So if you could influence that somehow, you could show, look, not only did I define the scope, but I advocated that this is a project we should even do. And I was right because it delivered and look at all the things it got us. So that feels like a potential next step is beyond just someone hands you a problem and says figure it out you say we should do this problem like this is the problem we should figure out yes and then you're right you know yeah and then and then you're right that's a

here yeah that's a that's a key one just saying i figured out which problem we should do and it's still in progress is not yeah i don't think that's enough that means you convinced people but not that it was correct necessarily or valuable the results were yeah we're we're not good yeah all these projects have deadlines yeah unfortunately if they're saying and you just have to keep up with all these i don't think i have a great answer besides well you just i don't know you have to do more or be more efficient somehow with your time which is again that feels like a thing potentially worthy of promotion if you if someone says but i don't have time to do all the things that are required at the next level part of me says then you're not ready like it's still it takes you too

long to do the work at this level to have time to do the next level work not always sometimes you stop doing stuff yeah and sometimes it's about you like you're not ready and sometimes it's just about opportunity and that's an unfortunate reality of the world we live in the many times you'll be on a team doing great work but there just isn't an opportunity to contribute at that next level because the the kinds of projects that are necessary or that require those skills haven't arrived for you or they went to some other team or the number of team members that you have available to assist or mentor are not just not there because your team's maybe more senior or there's just other personalities on the team that are doing those things and there's just no

room for you to get in there and so you have to make opportunities in that case but yeah it's uh it's not always your fault that you can't get promoted yeah it is your problem though yeah it is your problem yeah not your fault is your problem i do like that phrase this is also why there is a proliferation of projects sometimes at companies because these incentives broadly exist that building a new thing is more recognizable than kind of maintaining or enhancing an existing thing or even deprecating or removing things and so new things get built because then you get to say hey i led the efforts on project icarus which literally every company ever will have a project named project icarus at some point

it's true yeah there's just there's a few greek myths that people remember and then they say oh yeah that one uh sure isn't it chris the one where he flew too close to the sun and his feathers fell off and then he died yep why do people name projects this i don't know project apollo is another one i hear about a lot is it like oh it's just really ambitious yeah super ambitious and maybe we'll die yeah maybe maybe maybe you're daedalus in this situation who is icarus's father and you're like maybe my son will die but at least I learned a lot and we got to see the sign up close and I got promoted that's the real lesson from the Icarus story yeah no yeah you want to be dataless send someone else into the danger zone yeah take all the credit somehow credit I

don't know I've been playing a lot of Hades 2 recently which is a fantastic game and all about greek mythology so it's in my brain okay so you're you're there yep i'm greek pilled greek oh man this has nothing to do with this question but it reminded me that yesterday i was riding in the car with somebody and we drove by some some teenagers and one of them like stuck his hand out and flapped his fingers back and forth and pointed at us okay and then it turned out that was the driver's nephew and so they pulled over and chatted and i asked him what is that what did you do i thought you cursed us or something and he said oh i was scubaing you what and so sometimes i think i know what the youth are up to but man that was a brutal reality check

of like i have no idea what that is oh man okay in space there's none of this frim framery yeah we yeah in space we never say clock it yeah yeah in space we only do the stuff that grown-ups think is cool which is what is actually cool not the stuff that the teenagers who actually define culture yeah yeah no define what is cool no no no in space it works like it should yeah old people define old people to keep what's already there locked in forever yeah you know what's cool the thing that was cool when i was a teenager yeah for the rest of time yeah anyways hopefully that helps you get promoted scuba somebody scuba i didn't google this either is this something i don't want to be referencing it's a viral tiktok dance i do not endorse or

unendorse the people associated with this dance because i don't know who they are in other words if it's cool you endorse it right yeah yeah this is a conditional endorsement if actually it's even more conditional if you think it's cool i endorse it just for you oh it's personal but if you if you don't think it's cool then i also don't think it's cool yeah it's the most generalizable endorsement works for everybody okay that's the uh that's the p13n version of the endorsement yes yes it is i think i just blew up the question i don't have i don't remember what we were talking about or any more words have we answered this question well now we get i don't know i mean this is where the listener gets to decide did we actually follow through on our promise to just goof off and then

walk away when we were called out yeah uh i don't know i think so well you tell us stew yeah you tell us fill out the form we're going to mail you in your uh to your postal address and send it back with a stamp we won't include a stamp you have to provide and then we're so cheap we'll look at the number we'll uh manually tally all those uh responses and we'll let you know maybe we should get a po box i've thought about that before oh we used to have one if you want to send us something let us know we'll go get one again oh yeah we did used to have yeah we got some we got a great set of gifts in that p.o box once that's true i forgot about that okay well how could you maybe we'll do it again oh and fun fact i think it was from someone in sweden actually it was that's right

and they stopped listening a couple episodes ago when i confused their when i confused switzerland and sweden their unique vibrant culture that happens to start with the same two letters as another country in english it has been flattened down to the same thing i mean like sort of unique culture i would love to talk to somebody from like northern europe at some point to help me understand the distinction because it does kind of smush together in my head of like cold dark kind of serious dour norway has oil i think i know that's different about it but Norway?

Oh, are you smushing three countries now? No, I'm saying like that. Yeah. Oh, the whole Northern Europe. Norway, Finland, Sweden. Yeah. Kind of like Nordic, Norwegian area. Yeah.

Help me understand the difference. I just Googled Sweden versus Switzerland. And let me just tell you, the internet has written many things on this. So you got some weekend reading ahead of you. To educate myself. All right. And then you won't be able to remember which one is which later anyway. Yep.

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