SOLVED with Mark Manson - 7 Underrated Habits for a Better Life (and 7 Overrated Ones Too)

Episode Date: April 17, 2024

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from readers and listeners asking, what do you think about X? What do you think about morning routines? What do you think about saunas? What do you think about meditation, affirmation, manifestation, enter whatever you want under X. And so we're going to play a game today, overrated, underrated. And we're going to go through things that you see influencers and authors and scientists, always recommending the people to be happier and more productive. I'm going to give my opinion on whether it's overrated or underrated.

And I've got some really cool printouts here. So we've got the Nicholas Cage underrated. Because, I mean, what is Nicholas Cage if he's not underrated? If you don't believe Nick Cage is underrated, go watch leaving Las Vegas. We've got the Will Ferrell overrated, and he's very upset in this picture. And then finally, we've got the, it depends. This is going to be a fun one. Hopefully I don't upset too many snowflakes in the audience when I shit all over their favorite personal development habit or practice.

100% chance that's going to happen. Do you have your biohazard suit on, Drew? Are you ready for this? The pure toxicity is about. begin. The podcast that's saving the world, one fewer fuck at a time. It's the subtle art of not giving a fuck podcast with your host, Mark Manson. Oh, I'm, I'm ready for it. I don't know. We'll see. We'll see how this goes. But yeah, I got a stack of cards here. They're random. I don't know. I don't know what the order is. We're just going to machine gun right through

them. Okay. Are you ready? Let's do it. Goals. Hmm. Overrated. That's not going to surprise you. We have a very popular article on the website called Goals are overrated. That's not to say that they're not valuable. Goals are definitely valuable, but I think people mistake what the value of the goal is. The value of the goal is that it gets you motivated to go do something and it gets you pointed in a particular direction.

The goal itself isn't what's valuable. You know, if I decide I want to lose 20 pounds this year or whatever, the 20 pounds doesn't really. matter. What matters is, am I exercising, am I eating better, am I drinking water, you know, am I taking care of myself? And if I lose 16 pounds instead of 20, that's still great. Or let's say I lose 10 and then I realize like, well, 20 is probably unrealistic. It turns out actually I need to add muscle mass. So I'm going to up my gym workouts and I'm going to drop that goal and I'm to set a new goal now that I have new information based on pursuing the first goal. I think people get too attached to the goal. They're like, well, I can't quit now because I got halfway there. It's

like, no, you can quit anytime you want. You quit the second the goal stops being the optimal thing for you to do, that's when you quit and you set a new goal. So I actually think you shouldn't be achieving all of your goals. You should be quitting a significant percentage of your goals, but you should also be setting a good amount of goals regularly, completely understand. that at least half of them you're not going to hit or nor should you hit yeah i think you said it best with uh derrick zibbers you said your goals should serve you not the other way around that kind of just sums up what you just said and that for me i was like yes that's that's what we all need to think about when we we sat and worked towards goals is let them serve you and and this is why i didn't run the

marathon on my birthday i i instead ate a marathon of tacos and no regrets you got to do a follow-up episode on that, Mark. I'm interested to hear more about that and your decision around that, but we'll get to that. We're going to do, we'll do the six-month goal episode. Okay, here's a good one. Self-care. Okay. It depends. Philosophically, I think the concept of self-care is good. You need to carve out space in your life to take care of yourself. You need to know how to set boundaries and give yourself a break. That is very, very true. What bugs me is what passes for self-care is usually just self-indulgence. It's like spa weekends every other month or spending your savings on a three-month trip to Europe because it's hashtag self-care.

You know, it's just the way it gets portrayed online, it really does not look good. It looks like really narcissistic self-indulgence. So the concept is good. There are important lessons around it, but the way it's practiced and promoted online, it just makes me want to puke sometimes. The one I saw recently was bed rotting. Have you seen that one? No, what is that? I guess you just stay in bed all day and you like order Uber eats, like the worst food imaginable and just sit in your bed and pick out. And that's a form of self-care. How is that self-care? Like there's nothing caring about that. I mean, at least a massage is arguably good for you. Don't even get me started on this. I went on the Drew Barrymore show. They did an episode on self-care. I went on and my whole

thing was like, this is all bullshit. Real self-care is paying your credit card bills. Real self-care is waking up on time. Real self-care is going to the gym when you don't want to go. Like, self-care is doing things for yourself that are good for yourself. That is what self-care is. And most things that are good for yourself are not necessarily pleasant. It's not, it's not enjoyment. It's not indulgence. It's not eating pizza at a four-star resort. You know, it's like taking care of yourself. And I think what people don't realize is that the burnout that they feel like they need to escape to self-care for, that burnout wouldn't exist if they just took care of themselves a little bit each day.

Yeah, definitely. One thing around exercise that I've found is I treat it more is like, that's my self-care. Like, and sometimes I don't want to do it. 100%. But I see it. 100%. This is self-care. I know it's going to make me feel better and make it.

make me happier in the long run, even if I don't want to do it right now. A message that needs to get shared more is self-discipline is self-love. The way you love yourself is almost parenting yourself. It's like forcing yourself to do the things that you don't feel like doing but are good for you, that are in your best interest, that are going to set you up for long-term success. That is the way you love yourself, is by being disciplined, is by doing the things that you don't necessarily feel like doing. Laying and bed eating pizza all day, like that's, that is not self-love.

That is self-indulgence. That is being a child. Sorry, not sorry. For real. Oh, good one. Romance. Romance. That's easy.

Overrated. So much relationship advice, particularly women's relationship advice, revolves around maximizing romance or optimizing for romance. Romance, don't get me wrong. It's nice. And especially in like a long-term committed relationship, once you've been together for seven or eight years, It's nice to be able to turn on the romance every now and then, you know, go on like a nice little getaway, get the honeymoon suite in Vegas for a weekend.

But overall, I think romance derails more relationships than it rails. No pun intended. Oh, that's a good one. I think a lot of people have a tendency to mistake romance for love itself. They mistake romance for things like respect or trust. They mistake romance for a healthy, thriving relationship when actually some of the things that maximize romance are completely unhealthy and toxic. You can have a very dramatic and toxic relationship that has a lot of romance in it because

you're writing the emotional ups and down. So romance for me is an easy, overrated. There's an article on the website called Love is Not Enough. I advise everybody who may be triggered by this. answer to go check those out. What do you think about like certain situations though? Like maybe romance needs to be injected back into some areas. Like I don't know, especially with the whole, you know, online dating thing and the apps and everything. It's like you meet somebody up for a drink or coffee or whatever and that's it. Like go to a fancy dinner, get dressed up. Go for it. Yeah. I mean,

look, there should be some romance. It's just that romance is the supplement. It's not the, it's not the main thing. There should be, especially in the first year, there should be a lot of romance. There should be like a lot of juices flowing. No pun intended. I've been with my wife for 12 years. It is romance is definitely a practice that you have to, I mean, we've reached a stage in our relationship where it's like we kind of have to plan romance. Otherwise, it doesn't happen organically past a certain point. And it's, it's nice to plan it. It's like, I think it's important. It's nice to have those moments. But again, it's the icing on the cake. It's the cherry on the cupcake. It's not it's not the cake itself. Yeah, we do a lot of stupid things for romance. We sacrifice a lot of ourselves. We sacrifice some

of our values just for romance. I would agree with this one. Totally. Yeah. There's actually an old article on the website called Romance is like alcohol. And it's the whole piece is basically just a bunch of sentences that if you replace the word romance with alcohol, it still makes sense. Basically, all of your worst decisions were made while on romance. You quit alcohol? It sounds like you've quit romance too, Mark. No. No, no, no.

I'm just, I'm an old romantic, Drew. How did you not know that? Sparkling water, the cold moonlight. Nothing gets better. Sparkling water? Okay. I was going to say sparkling wine, but, you know, I don't drink anymore. So next one.

Next one. Okay. Oh, friendship. Oh. Underrated. Underrated. This is another. easy one. We actually just did an entire podcast on friendship, particularly adult friendship.

And I think we ended that podcast discussing actually just this thing that we just talked about, how people tend to overestimate their romantic relationships and underestimate their friendships. I think just the most stark example of this is that if you look at mental health data and happiness data of people who are single, they're generally happy and healthy as a cohort. If you look at people who don't have any friends, they're horribly unhealthy as a cohort. In fact, there's a statistic that gets passed around a lot that says that social isolation is just as adverse for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, which is shocking. You wouldn't assume that, that being alone and not seeing people is as bad for you as smoking almost a pack a day. But statistically it is.

Yeah, I think you can also feel very alone in a romantic relationship. If when it, you know, gets sour, I think it's hard to feel alone if you have even halfway decent friends around you. So true. I mean, it's, it's almost like the definition of friendship is not feeling alone with somebody. Ah, yeah, yeah. Quote that shit. Put that shit on Instagram. Let's go.

That's what we're going for. We're going for quotable shit today here. Share Mike. Yeah, we're going for Instagram virality. That's what we're optimizing on today's podcast. All right. Next one. Therapy.

Ooh, the mother. of all interventions. This one depends. In aggregate, over a large population, it has one of the highest hit rates for the most people, but it doesn't work for everybody, and even the people it works for,

it doesn't work forever. But what's difficult about therapy is that so much of it really seems to depend on the quality of the therapist and your personal relationship with the therapist. One of the most maddening things about therapy is that there are dozens and dozens of modalities

and philosophies around therapy. And if you look around enough, you'll hear all sorts of arguments of why CBT is the best or DBT or psychodynamic or psychoanalysis. Like it's really when you look at the data behind everything, none of that shit matters. What really comes down to is,

is the therapist good and empathetic? Do they listen well? Do they respond well? Do they ask pointed and useful questions in a non-judgmental way? Do they not insert their own values and beliefs aggressively? And do they have, are there incentives straight? You know, like, I didn't dig into this research,

but I saw somebody post recently on a substack. They said that in a meta-analysis, they found that the best therapists are produced 10 times the outcomes of the average therapist. So the very best therapists are responsible for like 90% of the results. and the worst therapists actually make people worse on average. There is a small minority of people who get worse in therapy, but A, it never gets talked about or acknowledged

because it's, I think it's just therapy is under attended in society, and so people don't want to talk about how it doesn't work for all the time or it can actually make things worse occasionally. But two, I think the complicated thing with therapy is that when it makes things worse, you aren't aware it's making you worse. It's unclear that you're getting worse. In fact, in a lot of cases, you feel like you're getting better, but you're actually getting worse. So therapy is a complicated one.

I think it's really, really important. Like, I get people in my personal life come to me all the time saying, I'm looking to get therapy. What advice do you have? The advice I always give them is this. Completely disregard the background credentials and school of thought. Just fuck it. Think really hard about what type of therapist is. going, like, think about the problems that you're facing, and then think about the type of

therapists that you think will understand what you're going through. And you'll actually see this, like, there are therapists that, like, there's LGBTQ therapists who specialize in LGBTQ people. There are couples therapists, therapists that specialize in relationship problems. There are therapists who particularly specialize in anxiety problems. So look more towards, like, the subject matter that they tend to specialize in, but also just look at who, they are as a person. You know, like, if you are a 22-year-old guy with, like, a lot of sexual insecurities, I don't know, maybe think about finding a male therapist who can relate to your sexual insecurities. Or go the other way and find, like, a 70-year-old woman who has no idea

what your sexual insecurities are like and is going to give you a completely objective opinion. So just think hard about that. And then the second thing I tell people is I say, don't just jump in with the first therapist you talk to, like most therapists will give you a free or discounted consultation, like a first session. Try out two or three or four and see how you vibe with them,

see if you feel like you're being heard and understood and that empathized with and that you're not just, you know, signing up for the first person who comes along. I think that's very important. They have a whole bunch of therapist friends and they will back this up. They're like,

it's all about fit. They don't want to take on people who don't fit well either. That's a big thing to you. They're not just in it for the money. Like, I know a lot of people think that's what it is, but they don't want anybody who's a bad fit. They don't want anybody. They can't help. They're not hurting for work either. So, you know, it's one of those things. I think the other thing, too, is that people need to, again, about setting expectations, you will get as much out of therapy as you put into it. That was the other thing I was going to say, yeah, for sure. These people are not superhuman, they can't just like magically mind read and pull insights out of your brain. You have to go in there willing to dig deep and share and think hard about your life, think

about uncomfortable things, ask questions about yourself. And ideally carry those questions into your life. Like I remember my therapist, we would have like a very deep conversation and he would ask me a lot of difficult things that confused me on the spot. but then over the course of the week I would continue to think about them and I would slowly develop insights over a number of days

and then I'd come back into the next session and I'd be like, so I really thought about that question and I had a few ideas and then we would pick up from there and so it's like the work continues outside of the office and then you bring it back with you and the best therapist will tell you when you're done that's the last thing

is the best therapist will be like it seems like you don't have a whole lot to talk about maybe we just end this now. One, two, the one I really like, she told me, she's like, look, we don't have to resolve every little thing here. And I was like, fuck yes, thank you. Like, yeah, thank you for saying that. She's like, you know, you realize that, right?

I'm like, yes, okay. Amazon presents Jeff versus Taco Truck Salsa, whether it's Verde, Roja, or the orange one. For Jeff, trying any salsa is like playing Russian roulette with a flame thrower. Luckily, Jeff saved with Amazon and stocked up on antacids, ginger tea, and milk. Habaniero?

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I think today, it depends. You should have some sense of purpose in your life, but not everything in your life is going to feel purposeful all the time. You're still going to have to do a lot of shit that feels unimportant and it's not fun to do. And I think at some point in the last five or ten years that got lost a little bit. You know, I wrote an article, I think back in 2015, 2016, called Screw Finding Your Passion, which is basically this argument that you don't have to love every minute of your job or every minute of everything you do. and in fact, trying to optimize that is probably actually making yourself miserable. There's a lot of bullshit in life.

There's a lot of bureaucratic nonsense headaches. You know, you got to like do the dishes and take out the trash and file your taxes. We all have to do this shit. And it's not going to feel purposeful or meaningful most of the time. And that's okay. There's nothing wrong with that. So I would say it depends. I would say if you are underweighted in purpose in your life,

if you feel you have no purpose in your life, then it's crucially important. But if you do feel like you have a sense of purpose in your life, but you're trying to make everything seem meaningful and purposeful, then you're probably overdoing it. Yeah, I think when you're overdoing it too, you tend to like if everything revolves around your purpose and everything in your life is going towards that. You miss out on a lot of just like simple pleasures in life,

or not even pleasures. Just like, I don't know, I'll find myself in standing in line being super bored and then just be like, oh my God, it's like, I'm alive, right? Like, just something like that. There's no purpose to it. There's no deeper meaning that has to be there. It's almost like the inane things are actually in a way more profound for that reason. I might be a little bit sensitive to this as well because this is one of my gripes about L.A.

is that, you know, you'll go to a dinner here on the west side and you'll be having a perfectly fine, normal conversation with a group of people. And then somebody will like interrupt everything. And they're like, let's go around and state our intentions for the evening. Let's all say something that we're grateful for this week. And I'm like, can we just eat food and fucking talk like normal people? Like, does everything have to be optimized all the time? You're going to piss off the Californians again. I did not get canceled for that episode.

So I'm going to keep working on it. Okay. Okay. We'll get you there. We'll get there. One of these is going to happen. Oh, maybe this one will. Maybe this one.

Dancing slash music. Underrated. Okay. All right. I'm biased on this one. So really interesting meta-analysis came out like a month ago. And I posted about it on social media. I don't think we've talked about it.

The meta-analysis looked at physical activity as it relates to depression and mental well-being. And what it found was that over a large population, over a long period of time, simple physical activity is just as effective as pharmaceutical intervention. Now, that's not to say that it's just as good for everybody as a pharmaceutical intervention, but it's fascinating that such a simple, free, available 24-7 intervention as something as simple as walking around the block can have as much of an impact as, like, pharmaceutical shit that we've spent tens of billions, hundreds of billions of dollars on. But what was interesting about that meta-analysis is that it broke it down by physical activity.

And, you know, was at the top of that list? Fucking dancing, which is kind of not surprising. It's impossible to dance and be unhappy. And I don't know why that is completely, but I've never seen an unhappy person dance. I mean, I haven't seen you dance, but I was just going to say other than shit. I'm usually crying by the end of it. It's, yeah. I hate this.

Seriously, like if you imagine somebody who's like dancing and like really into dancing, it is impossible to not elevate your mood while dancing. So I think that's really interesting. And I also think there's a lot of under discussed data around music and the positive mental and emotional benefits that music brings. It helps a lot of people with focus. It helps a lot of people with happiness. It helps a lot of people with ADHD symptoms. Music really enriches people's life. a bit. I mean, it's one of those things like people kind of know intuitively, but like you'll see a YouTube video or a book like drone on for 20 pages about, you know, the importance of gratitude and writing in your journal, which we'll get to those in a minute. Nobody's like, just put on a really good song and go outside and dance in your backyard. Like that's probably going to accomplish something, you know? It sounds silly and stupid, but it sounds a little new agey mark. I don't know. It's the California in me. It's happening. Now, I did recently see there's been some pushback against that study.

People have kind of taken it to task a little bit. And I think some of the results might have been overblown. I don't know. I haven't dug into it very much, so I won't get too far into it. A psych study overblown? No. Getting up and moving and dancing is not going to hurt. I will tell you that right now, like obviously.

I'm just not sure if like it's as impactful as they said it was. But we'll see. It probably is not. but it's free and easy and you can do it anytime. I still think it's underrated, yes. Yeah. Yeah. All right.

Politics. Ooh, overrated. I completely match the expression on his face when I, as soon as this topic comes up, we're like, what, 20 episodes into this show, something like that. I think one of the most poignant things that was said on this show was when we had David Brooks on, when he said that our culture is in a crisis. of connection and a large percentage of people have tried to fill that void with politics and it's not working. I think the thing that is damaging about politics is that it creates unrealistic

expectations of what should be the case in the world and what could be the case in the world. I used to be very much wrapped up in politics when I was younger and I think as I've gotten older, I've backed off quite a bit for two reasons. One is just I'm old enough to see how wrong everybody is about everything constantly. Like I'm old enough to like reserve judgment and be like, you know, like maybe let's wait a year before we decide who's on the right side of this issue and who's on the wrong side. But also I think I've just intuitively understood like how big and messy society is and human systems are and how imperfect they're going to be no matter what.

And so if you kind of naively bang your head against the wall expecting you know, this one solution is going to solve everything. You're just setting yourself up for disappointment. A, because that solution is probably never going to pass into law. And B, even if it does, it's not going to work. So you're going to be incredibly disappointed at that, too. I think politics is, it's become almost kind of a drug. It's become like reality TV for the masses.

And I don't think that's a healthy way to govern a society. I don't think it's a healthy way for people to find purpose. and meaning in their lives to bring back the purpose piece. I think you need to find something more localized and something more in your control to feel meaning and purpose. And I think people just need to revise their expectations drastically, both in terms of what is possible and also what is plausible.

It's like take any issue. I'm not going to pick a single one, any issue. You can name any issue across the board. And it is so much more complicated and nuanced than 99% of the discourse you see about it. And it just feels like people don't want to dig into that nuance. They just want to get angry and yell at each other. Again, to bring it back to like psych data, mental health, well-being, the data around

news consumption is absolutely horrifying. I mean, if you want to depress yourself as soon as possible, maybe the most effective way is to like start a drug habit and watch news 24-7. Like those are probably the two most effective ways to ruin your life and ruin your happiness. One thing that I started doing during the pandemic, which in hindsight is like one of the best decisions I ever made, I stop watching news. And instead I replace that information consumption with history. So instead of like watching and reading news every day about like what the new thing was happening in Europe or the UK or whatever, I went and bought books about previous pandemics and plagues. I went and bought books about previous constitutional crises in the United States.

I went and bought books about, you know, the cholera plague in 1793 and what George Washington did to handle it and why nobody believed him and nobody wanted to stay home either. And you start to realize that none of these problems that we have in society are new or particularly novel or unique. And none of them cause the end of the world to happen. So, you know, take a chill pill. Yeah, for sure. I think we all, I mean, most people, if they know any history at all, it's all from like World War II forward. And that's it. Right.

That's all they know. If that at this point. Moving along. Journaling. I'm going to, I'm going to do depends, but I'm going to do it because I think it's probably properly rated. I think people value journaling quite a bit. And I think it is genuinely helpful. There are a lot of interventions or practices that have very real downsides.

There's like potential for abuse or misuse. I think journaling is probably one of the safest things that you can do that is probably going to be net positive, 99% of the time. It's not always going to be super useful. There are definitely been times in my life that I've journaled and I'm like, I don't really feel like I'm getting a whole lot out of it. But there are other times in my life that I've journaled that I'm like, God, this is so helpful. Just like getting your thoughts on the paper, getting clarity around the stuff that you're thinking and feeling, being able to go back and look at stuff that you wrote like four or five years ago, seeing the stuff you were concerned about at the time, seeing how far you've come.

I think it's all really, really useful. So thumbs up on journaling, and I think I would say it's properly rated because people understand the benefits of it, but you don't see this hype and like hysteria around journaling that you do around some other things that I'm sure we're going to get to. Yeah.

For one, I think it's harder, so people don't hype it up. You know, it's like, oh, psychedelics, all you got to do is take a drug and you're, you know, it's going to be all of a sudden change, but you're not. Is there a certain kind of journaling, though, that you think is more useful than others? That's a great question. So I have seen, there are a lot of journals on the market that, for lack of a better term, they just seemed a little bit self-indulgent to me. You know, when we were putting together the subtle art journal, I bought maybe 10 or 20 journals on the market and kind of

look through them. And I was a little bit appalled by how many of them, particularly the ones marketed the women, I have to say, how many of them were like, what are your three favorite foods? What is your favorite vacation? Who's your best friend? You know, it's like, it's stuff you ask like a six-year-old. Yeah. And I think the best journals are the ones that force you to ask difficult questions of yourself and confront uncomfortable situations in your life.

So I would simply look at journals that do that, that probe more into your feelings, that ask questions like, you know, what is something that, you know, what is something that, you know, you are unsure of at the moment and why do you think you're unsure of it? Or what is something you have said recently that you kind of regret? Is there something you can do about that? You know, like stuff that's a little bit more personal and emotional and serious and not just like, you know, write down 10 awesome things about yourself today. Right. Yeah. It's, that's probably not helping a whole lot. I heard a musician one time talk about how he would journal and he's been journaling since he was a teenager and he would go back he's like if I want to he's in his 30s I think now he's

like if I want to write a song that's about being a pissed off 21 year old or something like that I go back to those journals and I see what that pissed off 21 year old was thinking I was like oh that's good that's that's a good yeah that's a good sales pitch for journaling I will say the older I get the more I wish I had journaled when I was younger because I've journaled in sporadic periods you know so there were a couple years when I was a teenager there were a couple years when I was in my 20s and I've done it on and off throughout my 30s. Every time I go back and look at stuff that I wrote, you know, 10, 20 years ago, I'm like, fuck.

Like, I could just read this whole day. It's so fascinating. No, it's great. It's great when you come across something to you wrote and you're like, God damn, that was good. That was actually good. Yeah, yeah. You're like, I was pretty smart. Yeah.

And then you turn the page, you're like, oh, my God, cringe. Yeah. But the cringe is good, too. As we discussed that before, the cringe is good, too. Cringe is underrated. Cold plunges and saunas. Ooh, okay, I'm excited about this one. I'm going to go both.

Underrated on saunas, overrated on cold plunges. These two get combined a lot because people like to do them together. Give you an idea of how funny L.A. is and why it's so easy to be healthy in L.A. So in New York, people's idea of like hanging out is going and drinking somewhere. And in L.A., people's idea of hanging out,

is doing sonnas and coal plunges together. So I can't tell you how many times I've texted somebody and be like, you want to hang out? They're like, yeah, you want to do sauna coal plunge? Like, yeah, sure. So both of these kind of became popular around the same time a few years ago with Huberman and Rhonda Patrick and a few other people.

What's interesting is like, I think as more data has come in, the data on saunas and heat exposure is very good and continues to be very, very good. It's great for longevity. It's great for heart health. It's great for immune response. It's great for all of these things. The data on coal plunges is not great.

The studies that I've seen at least, the sample size is very small and it's very homogenous. You know, it tends to be like, you know, 13 athletes did coal plungers for a week and this is what happened. The data around coal plunges is a little bit more suspect. But part of my rating on these, too, is because I, I own both of these. I have a sauna. I have a cold plunge. The sauna is amazing. You turn it on. You can turn it on from your phone. I can be like sitting here in the studio and turn it on now and like go hop in the sauna after the show and it's like get a great sweat in. I can be in there. I can get some email done. Listen to a podcast. Do whatever. It's very relaxing. It's a really nice. It's a good way to decompress. You can do a little meditation in there. Big ups on the sauna. The cold plunge is such a pain in the ass. It's a very relaxing. It's a good way to decompress. You can do a little meditation in the ass. I'm a big ups on the ass. The cold plunge is such a pain in the ass. I Like you don't think about this, but you're dealing with water. Water that sits in the same spot for days and days and days. So you have to constantly clean it or you have to leave it running like 24-7.

Refrigerator on it is loud as fuck. So like you've either got this loud motor running in your backyard 24-7. Like I can honestly say I've spent more time cleaning my coal plunge than I've spent in it. And because you get in for like two to three minutes and then you're done. But then every week you have to spend like 30 minutes fucking cleaning the thing, replacing the water, adding like alkali, balancing the pH. It is such a pain in the ass. It's not fun to do.

You feel great after you've done it. But honestly, if I could go back, I wouldn't buy one. So overrated on the cold plunge. I feel horrible for you, Mark. That sounds awful. Your life is... I know, man. Come at me, Huberman, bro.

So I'm waiting for the Huberman bros to come in and be like, you just stop doing it, right? You don't understand. You got to see, the way you got to do it is blah. Well, you're right. You do feel amazing after one of those. It feels great. If that's what you're going for, go for it.

You do, but I think a lot of that is that it just releases a lot of adrenaline. And adrenaline fucking hypes you up like a motherfucker. Releases endorphins too, which makes you feel good. But like, there's a lot of things that release endorphins that aren't necessarily good for And so it's, I'm skeptical. There's not really a whole lot of good long-term data on it. And like I said, a lot of the studies that people reference are like not great studies. With the heat exposure stuff, like, Scandinavian's been doing it for like 100 years.

So like you can actually go look and see like, this guy does a sauna every day and this guy does a sauna once a week. And this guy never does a sauna. And you just see when they die and what they die of. Right. Now, I'm a big proponent of the heat. exposure stuff. I've been doing hot yoga for a few months now and my God. Nice. Yeah, it's awesome. And it's one of those things too. I just, I really look forward to it. So it's super sustainable for me anyway. So on my off days when I'm not working out, I'll go do hot yoga. And it's I'm just like, yes.

I don't know. There's a lot of the claims around that too. It's like you sweat out toxins and stuff. I'm like, I don't know about that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Toxins. Just it feels great. I mean, activating your sweat glands too. I think it's just a good thing. It's good to get your heart rate up. That's really what most of this boils down to is that it's, it's good to get your heart rate up and create a stress response, like a modest stress response in the body periodically. It's just good for you. So anyway, RBC Training Ground has discovered potential in over 20,000 Canadian athletes and counting. Your story could be next. If you've got the drive, they'll help you find your path to the Olympics. Let's see what you've got. Sign up for free at RBC Training Ground.

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As someone who's done a lot of psychedelics when he was much younger, had a whale of a good time. I can't hate on psychedelics. I think they're awesome. I think they should be legal. And I do think, you know, the research around the therapeutic benefits of psychedelics is really, really exciting. It's pretty, especially like the stuff around PTSD is like, it's incredible.

But what people don't understand is that these are controlled clinical trials with patients who have deep-seated mental health issues, very intransigent depression issues, very severe PTSD issues. What worries me is when I go somewhere, either here in LA, the Bay Area, New York, Austin, and people are just like microdosing every other day to optimize their health, right? This comes back to my old, like, there's bad to okay interventions, and there's okay to great interventions.

You know, the okay to great is like the optimizers. Those are the cold plunge people. Those are the people who are like, I want the 1% edge so I can, you know, start my side hustle or make my business more profitable. That's a completely different category than the bad to okay intervention. But those two things get lumped into the same categories. They all get lumped into mental health, personal development, self-help, etc. So all of the research on the incredible profound

effects of psychedelics and the effects that it can have on mental health, all of it is in the bad to okay category. All of it is with people who are in a very dark, and bad place and getting them to a place that is okay. It's also done with trained professionals, clinicians, people who have spent their entire career working with this stuff. That's not to say that psychedelics can't help take you from okay to great. That is possible. The research around that is much spotier.

It's much more inconsistent. There's much less of it being done. And the research around stuff like microdosing is it's just like non-existent. It's basically a placebo. So I would say if you are somebody who struggles with a very serious mental health issue, psychedelics are something to be very curious and potentially excited about. If you are already a high functioning individual who is simply looking for that next thing to give you a 1% edge and hope you fucking crush your morning routine or whatever,

I don't necessarily think it's appropriate to look in this area. or if you do just like understand that what you're doing is like mostly just for fun. It's mostly a hobby. And if you get some like profound insight or side benefits from it, great. Awesome. You know, like I said, I did a bunch of them. I had a couple trips that were very profound and meaningful for me. But I definitely don't necessarily think it was like, you know, it didn't like 180 my life or anything like that.

Last thing I was going to say, and this is super important for the Depends. This never gets talked about. There is a small minority of people who have very, very intense negative reactions to psychedelics. And it rarely gets discussed. It rarely gets talked about. But it happens and it exists. It tends to be people who are predisposed to a certain category of mental illness. But it happens.

And if you search online and you look for blogs and articles, like you will find people who did a bunch of psychedelics. and it like completely fucked up their life. And it took them years to recover and some of them still haven't recovered. So I'm not saying that. I'm not trying to be like finger waggy and scare people away from it. It's just you can't just talk about the positive part

of an intervention without talking about the negative. So there is a very small minority of people who do have negative reactions to it. I think it's important to be aware of those and understand the types of people that have those negative reactions and just be informed before you like, run off the burning man and fucking, I don't know, do whatever they do with birdie man.

No, for sure. I think, too, one of the, you talk about going from bad to okay, okay to great, I get a little concerned when I see some of the data coming out of these studies. The results are very similar to like the antidepressants and anti-anxiety medicines that came out in the 80s. we're seeing like 70, 80% success rate in those early trials. I think it was because they were using these trials on people who were, you know, majorly depressed or had real serious problems. And these interventions help them a lot. And then it started, we started, you know, prescribing these medicines to people who

weren't quite as bad. And so they're not quite as effective then. I see a similar parallel to that right now. I don't know if there's anything to it, but it just, it kind of concerns me a little bit that they're part of the hype around that is maybe getting generalized. a little too much. This actually raises two really good side points. One is selection bias, which is selection bias happens when you experiment on a non-random group of people, right? So it's like right now all the trials being done on psychedelics are being done on people with very intense

mental illnesses. Those people are not representative of the general population, so we can't generalize the results to the general population. The second one, which is also doesn't get talked about a whole lot, every psychiatric medication or intervention that at least I think every has lost efficacy over time and I think some of that is what you just described is that it starts with the worst cases and slowly moves to the milder cases and then at some point just starts getting overprescribed and starts having no effect but what's interesting is there also might be a little bit of a you know there's this concept of the expectation effect of like when something is rare and new and special, people tend to have higher expectations for it

because it hasn't been tried before. And when something is very commonplace and has very mixed results across a large population, people's expectations lower. And your expectations when going into any psychological intervention affect the results of that intervention because the human mind's just fucking crazy like that. So that's the other thing to keep in mind.

Good one. Good one. Oh, Mark. God. Just God. For the record, Mark came up with these. I don't know what you're talking about, Drew. I have no idea what we're doing. I will preface this by saying, I am atheist and not religious.

I'm going to say underrated on God. And keep in mind that I am saying this as a practice or habit or intervention for mental health or personal development purposes. When you look at religious populations or highly religious people, they tend to live longer, they tend to have better relationships, they tend to commit fewer crimes, they tend to get divorced less often. And what's interesting too is I believe the more religious the group, the higher they index on most of those things.

That's absolutely fascinating. The rub here is to bring back the selection bias, right? Is there's two ways to look at that. Either A, religion causes people to become happier, have better relationships, live longer, etc. The other way to look at it is that people who tend to be very happy and have good relationships are very drawn to religious communities. That would be the selection bias argument, is that people who tend to be a little bit more disagree. agreeable, skeptical, are on average unhappier and don't live as long, and they also happen to not be attracted to religious communities. So it's not that I don't think we can say that religion

causes people to be happier and healthier and all those things, but there's certainly a lot of evidence suggesting that. I also just think, and maybe this is some of my bias as somebody who grew up in a religious community, as I've gotten older, I really, I look back and I really admire the community aspect, especially in this day and age where it's so hard to build a sense of community in the world, I kind of look back at the church community that I grew up in. And even though I fucking hated church and didn't believe any of it, I kind of envy what my parents had with their group of friends at their church. It was a really cool thing to have those people to come together like that.

So I think in the world today where the arguably, the biggest crisis of all is lack of community and connection among people within society. It's hard for me to not say that religious communities aren't underrated. As a kid, did you ever do church camp, like a summer camp or anything? Those were the best. Oh, yeah. Those are a good time. Well, I had won, when I was a teenager, I loved it when I was a teenager.

Yeah. Jesus camp as a kid was not fun. Yeah, I know. When you got older, like, yeah, you get the teenage. Like, then you're doing cool activities and, yeah. And people are just nice. I don't know, this was the funny thing is like, as a rule, teenagers are just fucking mean people.

And I was not a cool kid in high school. So a lot of my peers were mean to me. But then you go to Jesus camp, and everybody's so nice. They're so fucking friendly and nice. And there's no, like, there's not the cool kids and the jocks and the nerds. Like, it's just everybody's nice to each other. And so it's funny because even though, like I said, I was atheist, I didn't believe in any of it. Even after I stopped going to church, I would still go to those camps when I was in high school

because I'm like, people are cool. They're like really nice. I'm not going to get like judged for my hair or made fun of for my shirt. Maybe you get a like water ski too or something like that. I don't know. They always have these like really not religious anything related to, you know that. Oh yeah, dude. You play capture the flag and build like crazy go carts.

And it's fun. It's just good, wholesome fun. So you don't think necessarily that maybe if the causal direction is that people get into religion and then it makes them happier. Is religion just the opium of the masses? You know, is it just a salve for a lot of other problems? I personally think, and I guess this is like where I would differ from Sam Harris is like, I personally think that religious thinking is simply a part of the human condition and afflicts all of us to a certain degree. Some of us fight very hard against it and develop a little bit of a resistance to it. But religious thinking is an inherent part of human nature.

And basically it either gets applied to some sort of traditional religion, Or it gets applied to a government, politics, which I would argue is worse than a religion. Or it gets applied to something super fucked up, like a cult. Or some like scummy business, multi-level marketing thing. Oh, here's a good one. Gratitude. I'm going to go with it depends. Yeah.

I personally think this is overrated. but, you know, we've talked about this on the show before. I think there's a lot of things like gratitude that if you're the type of person who tends to take everything for granted and just tends to be kind of a selfish person, I think gratitude is a really, really good exercise to kind of train your brain out of that. But if you're not, then I think it's kind of superfluous.

Like I've never really felt, I've tried gratitude journaling and gratitude meditations and all this stuff. And like I definitely don't feel like I get a whole lot out of it. But I can see why some people do. Just I've never been able to connect with it. I've even tried like, okay, sit down, write your three things, really think about them, everything like that. It just never has like seemed to generalize to any other part of my life very well.

But I think part of that is because I'm just a fairly grateful person to begin with. Like I said, earlier, if I'm standing in line somewhere, sometimes I'm just like, oh, wow, I'm alive. This is awesome. This is great. I'm experiencing a moment right now. This is amazing. I don't need to sit down and write the three things out and force myself to be grateful.

So I think you're right. It depends on who you are. We got some flack for this one too before. So people were like, this is bullshit. My grad tube journal like saves me. And I'm like, I'm sure it does. That's great. It's a tool.

Use it. If it works, use it. If there's a simple takeaway from this entire episode, and this is true, by the way, the simple takeaway is that nothing works for everybody. and nothing that works for you is going to work all the time. Like, it's not a single intervention. You can dig up studies and data on everything, everything. Nothing works all the time.

And nothing, and the things that do work don't work forever. So try things. When you find something that works right until it stops working and then try something else. That's the name of the game with this stuff. There's no, like, final answer. That's it. Cool. Well, this was fun.

I enjoyed it. I enjoyed, you know, my Nick Cage and Will Farrell. Do you really like Nick Cage that much? It's embarrassing. You are really into Nick Cage. Dude, raising Arizona and leaving Las Vegas. Like, the Rock and Conner, you know, he kind of started getting a little bit goofy with the action movies. But so he won an Oscar for Leaving Las Vegas.

It is incredible. It's an absolutely incredible movie, incredible performance. Nick Cage is a legit top actor. He just, I think he just likes money. So he keeps doing stupid movies for a lot of money. Shout out Nick Cage, if you ever want to come on the pod. Happy to have you. That's it, everybody.

Be sure to leave a review, subscribe, follow the show. We will be back next week. Say goodbye, Drew. Goodbye, Drew. Till next time, everybody. Peace.