Something You Should Know - The Power of Being Brief and to the Point & Why Your Reality May Not Be Real at All

Episode Date: November 4, 2019

Do you let your dog sleep on the bed? Some experts claim it is bad for your health. But I am going to start this episode by explaining why it may be just fine. http://www.purewow.com/entry_detail/national/22018/7-Reasons-Its-Actually-Betterto-Let-Your-Dog-Sleep-in-Your.htm When you are trying to communicate your idea or pitch your proposal it is easy to over explain it. After all, it is your baby and you want people to understand every little detail. The problem is that people don’t really want to hear all that detail. Brant Pinvidic a producer who has sold more than three hundred TV shows and movies, run a TV network, and ran one of the largest production companies in the world with smash hits like The Biggest Loser and Bar Rescue. He is author of the book The 3 Minute Rule (https://amzn.to/36uNAHI) and he is here to explain how and why your ideas will always go over better when you are brief and to the point, No matter how good a person you are, you are probably a better person in the morning than you are after dinner. How can that be? Listen and I’ll tell you. https://www.medicaldaily.com/morning-morality-effect-you-are-more-likely-lie-steal-and-cheat-afternoon-261482 What if what your reality isn’t real? What if real, objective reality is something humans can’t possibly perceive? And what if our inability to perceive objective reality is what has helped us to survive? I know it’s a bit hard to get your head around. That’s why Don Hoffman is here. Don is a professor at the University of California in Irvine and author of the book The Case Against Reality (https://amzn.to/2Nb2r2L). Don joins me to explain this theory which is more than just an academic exercise. There are some fascinating practical implications as well.  This Week’s Sponsors –Airbnb. To learn more about being an Airbnb host visit www.Airbnb.com/host -3 Day Blinds. For their “Buy 1/Get 1 at half-off” deal go to www.3DayPodcast.com and use promo code: SOMETHING.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Also, even if you're a good person, you're probably a better person in the morning. And one scientist makes the case that the reality you see in front of you right now isn't really what's there at all. I'm saying that there is an objective reality, but the nature of that objective reality is utterly unlike anything in our perceptions, that the very language of space and time and objects is simply the wrong language to describe it. All this today on Something You Should Know. Since I host a podcast, it's pretty common for me to be asked

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with Mike Carruthers. Hi, welcome to an all-new episode of Something You Should Know filled with fascinating information you can use in your life. We start today talking about dog people. There's really two kinds of dog people. Dog people who let the dog sleep in the bed and dog people who don't. I've never minded having the dog in the bed, but my dog now, Taffy, she doesn't actually like sleeping in the bed. She'll stay on the bed for a little bit and then she jumps off and sleeps in her own bed. But you've probably heard, if you're a dog person, that there have been several reports that say that letting your dog sleep in bed with you is actually a bad idea for health reasons. But there's one thing you have to know about dog people, and that is that they're unlikely to change

the way they treat their dog. So if your dog sleeps in your bed, it's unlikely I'm going to change your mind and convince you to stop doing that. So here instead are some reasons that should make you feel better about letting your dog sleep in the bed. First of all, it can calm you down. It's known that dogs help fight anxiety and depression. Just look at service dogs and pet therapy. Allowing a dog in your bed is a soothing presence that can help you de-stress after a

hectic day. It can make you feel safer. There's a reason people have been sleeping around dogs since ancient times. Just the physical presence of a dog around you may help you feel more secure because if something were to come and sneak up on you, your dog would probably alert you. And it could help you sleep better. Some people swear, and studies have shown, that the rhythmic breathing, heartbeat, and soothing presence of a dog is the best sleep aid around. And that is something you should know. So here's the problem. You have something to say.

You have a message to deliver or a pitch to make or you're applying for a job. Whatever it is. And the people or the person you're trying to talk to to hear your message or pitch or appeal, well, those people are being bombarded by messages from a million other people. So how do you get heard? How do you get your message to rise above the noise? The simple answer may be not to talk more or to talk louder, but to talk less. Be brief. That's the message from Brant Pinvidic. And he would know. Brant is a producer and pitchmaster who has sold more than 300 TV shows and movies.

He's run a TV network and ran one of the largest production companies in the world with hit shows like The Biggest Loser and Bar Rescue. He's author of a book called The Three Minute Rule. And in his nearly 20 years of experience, he's developed a simple, straightforward system that will get you heard. And as he is about to tell you, it's not about saying more, it's about less. Hi, Brant. Hey, happy to be here. So describe the problem as you see it and as you have experienced it in your work.

Well, I think the problem is that our attention spans have been shrinking astronomically. And I think what goes on is that it's harder to get people's attention, it's harder to get them to focus, it's harder to get them to engage. And so traditionally, I think we've been trying to overshout and talk louder and say more. And I think what the three minute rule does is show people that there's another way to do it is to say less, get more, to not be the one shouting, to use simplicity as your sort of the power that you have to make figured that the more you say, the more information you throw at people, the better. When in fact, as you're about to point out, it's the opposite. Yeah, it's the total opposite. Now, it's mostly because we used to do what was called the state-improved method, right?

Which is like we're going to tell you the big idea and then I'm going to prove to you how it works. And yeah, 20, 30 years ago, that's that, that was working enough to make it happen. But now we've been bombarded with marketing and messaging and click baits and click funnels that we are completely distrustful. We're skeptical of everything and we just, we have no time or energy for neuro-linguistic programming or clever ways of leading to your information. We just want to know what it is, how does it work, are you sure about that, okay, how do I get it? We just want the simple things as quickly as possible. And those who have figured out how to do that, amazingly, they're the for myself, but I think I speak for a lot of people, especially today, who hear so much stuff coming at them that they would just prefer if you would get to the point. Just say what you want to say. Tell me what this is, what you want, and let's move this along. It's a little bit of a confidence thing. And I always say, like, the more confident you are in the core of your information and the value you bring, the less words you need to explain it.

And I make this joke all the time on stage where I say, like, if I was trying to get you to let me cater your wedding and I had Gordon Ramsay as a chef, like, how many words would I need to convince you? Four. I have Gordon Ramsay. Whereas if it was my brother-in-law who was an ex-convict who had never really cooked before but really needed a job, how many words would I need to try to sell you that? I'd go into an entire thing. And so what I tell people is, your information is somewhere between my convict

ex-brother-in-law and Gordon Ramsay. And the more words you use, that's how you show people where you fit on that scale. You're going to indicate it to them, how your level of confidence by the more words you use. And do you think you could get your ex-brother-in-law convict to cater a wedding? Could you, could you convince somebody? No. And that's, it's funny because a lot of people will use that like, oh yeah, you could sell ice to an Eskimo. And it's like, well, why would I do that? Like, no, I couldn't because even an Eskimo at this point is going to be like, listen, like you're not fooling me. You're not tricking me with any of Like, no, I couldn't. Because even an Eskimo at this point is going to be like, listen, like you're not fooling me. You're not tricking me with any of your things.

Like I don't need ice. Right. And that's kind of the point where it's like, I can, I can't, I don't sell you anything. I can give you the information and the needs and the wants and the value of it. And if I give that to you, you'll make the decision. And if you see it the way I do, you'll probably make the right decision. The same one I did. That's why I'm sitting here trying to sell you is because I believe in what I say so much that I'm taking time out of my life to do this. If you understood my book the same way I understood it, you'd a hundred percent be buying it. And so that's the only goal,

right? Is to try to make other people see things the way you see them. The world is filled with people. This audience is filled with people who are saying to themselves, what this guy doesn't understand is my thing can't be explained in three minutes. My thing requires much more time. It's much more nuanced. It's much more sophisticated. Three minutes would never do it justice. And is i get that every single client says the same thing well what do we do is so complicated i can't

do it's not eight minutes is about as much as i can get and the truth is is like your story from a to z does not need every letter of the alphabet and one of the hardest things to learn how to do is to separate everything you want to say from only what needs to be said. And that's a real skill and it's hard to do, but every business, every idea can be simplified to the point where you can give it to people in a format that they'll understand it and they'll build their level of information. Then they can engage later. That's after the three minutes, of course, then they want to talk. You might have four other meetings and six other presentations to do. But at the core of it, until they understand what it is and how it works and some of the verification,

they just can't get to that level of engagement. And so when you adopt the three-minute rule, I mean, what's the thought process here? When I have something that I need to condense down to three minutes, and as you say, you don't need to use every letter in the alphabet, but you have to know which letters to leave out. So how do you approach this in some sort of, you know, deliberate fashion where it works? And the formula really starts with the bullet points, is what I call it. I basically get people to grab a post-it notes and a marker and start bullet pointing out the simplest two and three word explanation of what they do in the simplest forms. Just a couple of words. List them all out there.

Now you can see it. There's nothing that takes the place of that tactile feel of moving post-its or index cards around, right? That's step one. And then I have what is called the WAC method, which is W-H-A-C. And I categorize your information based on that. W is what is it, which is literally what is it? Just explain what it is or what you're doing in the simplest way. Then H is how does it work? Again, literally, how does it work? How do you operate? What do you do? What makes you unique? How does that function? The A is a question I always ask, are you sure? And this is where people, once they understand what it is and how it works, they want a sort

of a validation. They want a verification. And this is where I have my clients use sort of their logic, their reason, their facts, their figures that sort of bolster the sort of elements that they were explaining. And then the can you do it is how does it actually get in my hands? When's it available? How do we work together? What does it cost? All of those things. And those are the four categories and how we make decisions as human beings. And when we rationalize something, we conceptualize it first so we understand what it is. Then we contextualize it as how does it relate to me? And when we rationalize something, we conceptualize it first so we understand what it is. Then we contextualize it as it, how does it relate to me? And then we actualize, meaning, how do I make it real for myself? And that process is so simple. And when you start breaking everything down, you can see it right in front of your, right in front of your eyes, you can see it

come to life. Sometimes I think though, people get too close to their own stuff. Like, like I interview lots of people and i could i could do that interview better than they did because they're so deep into the weeds here that they they don't get what people really want to know yeah yeah no and that's i listen i'm it's taken me 20 years to learn to say things in three minutes so it's definitely not easy from that standpoint and the book's a good guide. But I had trouble with it myself because when you live with the information and you know it so well,

you see all the intrinsic value of every nuance. And it's like a movie that you love, that you've watched 20 times. When you watch it, you see every detail, every breath of the actor, every move the director made, the way the music comes in. That's because you've seen it 20 times and you love it and you appreciate it. But the person

who sees it the first time doesn't see all that, right? And even myself, when I wrote the book, the intro was supposed to be the idea and it is now. The idea is that like, hey, the average book reader decides to read a book in the first four pages, right? That takes about three minutes to read, coincidentally. But the average intro on a business book is like 14 pages long. So for me, I got three pages to make you want to read the rest of the book. And my first pass when I wrote that intro

was 11 pages long. And it was like, it was because I'd just written the entire book and I was trying to go back and give an intro. And I got it to seven pages and I thought to myself for a moment, okay, well well this intro is so good and the information is so valuable and it's so important and I put so much work into it

maybe this intro can break my own rule and I started rationalizing myself for a moment then I was like no I guess I got to go back to the drawing board and I literally put post-it notes on the wall and rebuilt my entire intro from scratch because even a guy who's an expert at it still has to take it back, take it back right to the very core and start and see it in its simplified methods. And I finally did get it to the four pages it is today. I'm speaking with Brant Pinvidic today, and we are talking about being more effective in your communication by keeping things short and getting to the point. He's author of the book, The Three Minute Rule.

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So, Brent, you work in television and I work in the audio medium. And sometimes we have to create, whether it's commercials or programs or whatever it is, that have to fit in a certain amount of time. And, yeah, you could take hours to explain it, but you don't have hours. You have to get it in 60 seconds or you have to get it in a minute and a half and and somehow you can when you have to that is at its core is like anything can be simplified and more importantly than it can be is it should be it must be it has to be because your audience demands that i know with the attention spans people think that like we're mindless zombies but it's not like it's the opposite we focus so much more intensely and so much more efficiently than ever before.

If you don't give the audience that core information and hold their attention, they are gone onto something else. But so often when you're asked to deliver a speech or make a presentation, people expect more than three minutes. And I do talk about that a lot. Like it's not like it's an elevator pitch. I don't teach an elevator pitch. Elevator pitches don't work anymore. The idea that I'm going to tell you, I have this amazing new software that's going to save you 50% on all your accounting needs. And then you lean in and the elevator and go, Ooh, tell me more. That's, that doesn't work anymore. You know what I mean? It's the total opposite. You don't lean in, you lean back and you basically say, please just stop talking. Right. And so

this is about your, the three minutes. If you're lucky, if you can lead your audience and feed them your information in a core format that they start to understand, you might get three minutes of their attention. And if you do that, that's when they start that decision-making process of whether they're going to engage further. So that's what I really work with clients. Like, yeah, you're going to have 15 meetings later, or you might have to do seven more presentations or whatever. The world was run by decision by committee now. But those first three minutes, that first impression, that first, here's what I do, here's how I do it, here's why you should dig it, and here's how we work together, that creates engagement.

And then you have an audience asking questions and being involved from an engaged perspective. And when I pitch a TV show, I'm not trying to sell the TV show in the first three minutes. I'm trying to get the buyers to ask the right questions, to be interested, to be engaged, where they're like, okay, I want to ask questions about how this show works on my network. And that's been the opening. And that's why I've had success. I've been able to put that together consistently. So how do you do that? And not necessarily just you pitching a TV show, but how do you, what is it you say that gets people to think, oh, I need to ask this question? Well, that really becomes what I call the hook of the story. And a lot of Hollywood storytelling techniques are used because

Hollywood's really good at that, right? Like James Cameron got you to watch a three-hour movie about a boat that you knew sinks, right? So the leading of that story is really effective. And so what I find is, is when you have a hook of a story, the thing that makes it the best, like Bar Rescue was John Taffer is the Gordon Ramsay for bars and restaurants. So my goal was to lead my audience to the point where they're like, oh, he could be the Gordon Ramsay of bars and restaurants as opposed to starting my pitch with that. I don't start with the grand conclusion because then your audience is looking to disprove you the entire time. So really what you want to do is what is the most valuable thing? What is that hook of your story? And what information would the audience have to have so that they will be thinking the hook when you go to say it? You almost don't need to say it, but it's right there. And after I pitched Bar Rescue and I showed them what John does and I

explained the concept, the network president literally said, oh, he could be our Gordon Ramsey for bars and restaurants. And that's how leading your audience with a story really works well. And so what is it you said that got them to ask that question? So for me, it was building the structure of what the show was. So I explained how the show works. Then I explained John's background and how he had the expertise and the history in bars and restaurants. And then we showed him some, some clips of how he worked so that they were feeling the, in the impending build to that moment where they could see like,

okay, I know what the show works. I know where he's going to be. I know how he's going to use that personality. So now the next logical thing is he's the Gordon Ramsey of bars and restaurants, because we were building to that moment the entire time. And you did all that in three minutes. Oh, we were, we were in that room by the time they were thinking that was less than three minutes, for sure, because it, I just laid it out. And then we talked for another hour with John because he had all these great pieces and, and amazing stories. And we went in and we got excited and

we sold the show in the room and everything went from there. But those first three minutes put those buyers in the right frame of mind to engage further. Now we could have been at other, and I've been lots of time with great pitches where the network goes, yeah, this doesn't work for us. It's not the right fit for our network. That happens all the time. But at least they're making the decision based on right information, the information that I wanted them to have. They saw the idea the same way I saw it. Does it help to have some disinterested third party to help you find that? Yeah, it's almost impossible without that. And I play what I call the telephone test, where we'll be I've been in the conference room with a client, I was like, just call up

random people that I know and be like, hey, I'm going to have them explain this idea to you that I need you to call one of your friends and then have them call one of their friends. And then here's the number for the conference room, call us back and tell us what it is. And I've done it where I've had to buy people like $25 Starbucks gift cards to get them to actually, you know, call us back kind of thing. But it's shocking what you think goes out the telephone as clear, pertinent information that should be obvious. And what comes back four degrees later is shocking. And when you, when you get that right, you know it right away. And I've been in rooms where there's eight of us cheering like we won the Super Bowl because some random person in Albuquerque

calls up and says like, oh, I got this number. I'm supposed to call you and tell you this idea. And they basically relay it back almost exactly right. It's like this huge celebration. And so having a third party and getting it run out there and trying it out is really important. It hurts and it's unpleasant, but it's so valuable to do. So when you're putting those three minutes together, what's the lead? What's the best way? What's the thing to keep in mind that you're trying to do in the first? Because I imagine that even within the first three minutes, the first few seconds of the first three minutes are pretty critical. Yeah. Two things. One is don't open with your grand conclusion. Don't start with your hook.

Don't start with a big promise. Just don't. The actual way to open is it's called the reason for being. And I do this thing on, on stage where it's like's like you know if you think about the movie Bambi like Bambi's mom didn't need to die in the very first moments of that movie it actually had nothing to do with the story and really didn't you know you could have found that out any other time it didn't have to have that happen at all Bambi could have just got lost but it's the reason for being it's the reason why Disney's now going to tell you this story because Bambi's mom's just died Bambi's all alone and so the reason for being in the opening is sort of like literally why am I sitting here why am I talking to you why am I involved why am I passionate about this how did I come up with this

where did this come from what brings me to this moment now so that you are it's persuasion it's called so you're basically letting the audience or the buyer or whoever it is understand how you want them to feel before the story begins and that's how why movies do it so brilliantly is they set up a stage in those first seconds to be like okay here's the tone here's the setup this is what i want you to understand now let me explain the story to you and in your first three minutes it's that's the sort of the opening piece of it is how do I get here today in a real presentation? And then it's sort of like, here's what it is. Here's how it works. Here's how I know it works. And here's how we can move forward. And literally, that's

really all you need to do. And I'm sure people are listening to be like, oh my God, the world would be a better place if people just stuck to that. And yet there will always be those people that say, yeah, but my thing's different. I still get that to this day. You don't really understand. I've spent so much time doing it now. It's like, I actually hear, I think I hear differently. Not only do I communicate differently in this world, but I think I hear differently. Like I've actually become better at listening to people's long winded crap and siphoning through what they actually meant or what their real information is. And part of that's from all the consulting and doing a lot of these assessments. But even when I'm listening to my wife or my kids or my friends, I'm like, I can start to filter, okay, here's what I think you're really meaning, or here's the value,

here's what you're getting at. So it's interesting how our brains are starting to process this, sort of everybody's in that same boat don't you get to the point in your own head where you just are saying and to these people get to the point get to the point get to the no never i actually say just stop talking on my keynotes is one of my first slides is just stop talking it's one of my it's the thing i might say the most when i sit with a company tell me what you do and it it's like, okay, just stop talking. Whoa, like you've said enough. That's it. What are we doing?

And it's the same thing when people ask me how to close, right? And it's like, they have this idea that the close of a pitch has to be some clever thing. And it's like, no, you just stop. You've basically said everything. There's nothing else to do. You don't want to remind your audience that you've got some clever sort of pitch material that you've been working on for three weeks. Like, no, you just, once you get the information,

that's enough, they've got it, you've won. Now let's hear what happens next. Now we engage. And I think it would be difficult for anyone to argue and disagree with what you're saying. I don't think most people would say that, no, I need more information. You need to explain this much deeper.

Most people like a short, sweet explanation when they're listening, but when they're delivering, it's so much harder to do. It's so hard to get it down into those, into those three minutes. Well, and you can imagine how frustrating that is. I mean, listen, you're one of the best in the business, obviously, but when you see that, that like i see the frustration on these like ceos face big companies like you know multi-billion dollar companies and they just can't explain what they do to others they're like biotech scientists or oil and gas research guys by their nature they're not pitching and presenting people that's not what they want to be doing. And the frustration of like having something you believe in so fundamentally and not

being able to express it to others so that they understand it the way you do. Like I've seen that frustration across PTA presidents and fortune 100 CEOs. And it's like, I, I know how difficult it is. And that's why it's sort of like, it's kind of, I'm addicted to this process now because I can really help people. You know, I imagine it's pretty exciting when, for you personally, gratifying when you see that light bulb go off. Well, it changed my life. I was pretty deep into television and I had my first, very first client I reluctantly

spent time with because he wanted me to redo his presentation and after he left me a voicemail and it was just like you've changed my life my wife's happier like i used to hate going on the road now i love it because i can explain this to people and i'll never be able to thank you enough and i was like oh my god no network president has ever said anything like that to me before like and as a you know a guy who's almost a caveman it's like my ego starts talking. And the next thing you know, it's like, I could be really important to people. Like I could change people's lives. And like, that's addictive. It's hard to not want to do that for everybody that asks me. It's, it's, it's, it's really addictive. Yeah. And, and this is one of those things that

everybody knows what you're saying is true from our own experience. We've all been on the receiving end of someone telling us what they want to tell us, and we know that we like it when people are brief, they get to the point. And it's good to get the confirmation that, yes, in fact, it really does work. Brant Pinvidic has been my guest. He is a producer who has sold more than 300 TV shows and movies. And his book is called The Three Minute Rule. You'll find a link to his book

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and the limitations of your other senses. As a simple example, what if there are more colors in the world than we can ever imagine? It's just that we're limited by the ability of our eyes to see those colors. It's kind of like a black and white movie. You only see black and white when you watch the movie because of the limitations of the film. But there were plenty of other colors when they filmed it. It's just you can't see them. Donald Hoffman is a professor in the Department of Cognitive Sciences at the University of California at Irvine, and he's spent a long time exploring this idea and has written extensively

about it. His latest book is called The Case Against Reality, Why Evolution Hid the Truth from Our Eyes. Hi, Professor, welcome. Thank you, Mike. Great to be here. So explain your idea in more depth here that what we see and perceive is not necessarily what's there. Most of us believe that we see reality as it is. I look up and I see the moon. You look up and you say you see the moon, and we both believe that we're seeing the same object and that the moon really exists, even if we don't look. That's very, very natural. It seems very unnatural to even question that. But I looked at that question using one of our best theories, evolution by natural selection, and I asked a simple technical question. Does evolution by natural selection favor organisms that would see the truth, that

would see reality as it is? And I found the answer was quite clear. The answer is no. That the very language of our perceptions, the language of space and time, of objects and colors and shapes and so forth, is simply the wrong language to describe objective reality. So it's not simply that we might get the shape a little bit wrong or the position or the color a little bit off. It's rather that in that language, one could not frame a true description of reality. So when we look at the moon, when I look at the moon and you look at the moon, and we both say there's the moon, you're saying that's not, what are you saying, that that's not real?

Yes, I'm saying that there is an objective reality that would exist even if there were no creatures to perceive it. But the nature of that objective reality is utterly unlike anything in our perceptions. That the very language of space and time and objects is simply the wrong language to describe it. Rather, what evolution has given us is a user interface. Instead of showing us a window on reality, we have a desktop interface. So if you're writing an email and the icon for your email is blue and rectangular and in the middle of your screen, does that mean that the email itself in your computer is blue, rectangular, and in the middle of your computer. Of course not. Anybody who thought that misunderstands the point of the interface is not there to show you the truth. In this metaphor, that would be the circuits and software and voltages. It's there, in fact, to hide that messy reality and to give you simple eye candy that lets you control the reality,

even though you're utterly ignorant about the nature of that reality. And that's the point. Evolution has shaped us with a user interface specifically to hide the truth. We don't need the truth to survive. And we have just simple eye candy that lets us to control reality as much as we need to survive and reproduce, even though we're utterly ignorant about the nature of that reality. And so the question I think many people would then ask after hearing that is, so what? If our reality is our reality, even if it isn't objective reality, even if what's really there we can't perceive, we perceive what we perceive. We're all pretty much in agreement on what we perceive. And so why is what you're talking about important?

Well, this is important in certain practical and theoretical ways. In a practical way, understanding that our perceptions and our psychology is a user interface means that once we understand that user interface, we can play with it. So for people who are involved in marketing and product design, this is critical to understand exactly how we've been shaped not to see the truth, but to see what we see is critical in understanding how to grab people's attention in marketing, how to affect their opinions. And also in product design, it's critical if we want to make people's attention in marketing, how to affect their opinions. And also in product design, it's critical if we want to make people, for example, look

attractive in clothing to understand how this interface works. So I've actually consulted with several companies doing just that. On a political level, understanding that we don't see the truth, that this is just a user interface, has deep implications for in-group and out-group and the psychology of politics. And so understanding this is really critical for international relationships and politics. For the more geeky side of things, for those of us in the sciences who are just very interested in understanding objective reality for its own sake, to recognize that the language of space and time is the wrong language is first a major blow, a major shock. But it's also the first step toward trying to come up with a better language for understanding objective reality. So this sort of dovetails with recent work in physics, where physicists are realizing that they've assumed that space-time is fundamental reality for many centuries, at least since Newton. And now they're realizing in their own words that space-time is, quote,

space-time is doomed, as they put it. Space-time is doomed. It used to be what we thought was the foundation of objective reality. It's not. So physicists are now looking for something deeper, a deeper level of reality. And, of course, with each new advance in our understanding of reality, we get new and far more powerful technologies.

So those are some of the payoffs. So are you saying that objective, when I look at the moon, I don't see objective reality and you don't see objective reality. And is the point that I see a different reality than you do, or we're both just way off or what? We probably agree quite a bit in what we perceive. Just like different users of, say, a Mac operating system agree about the kinds of icons that they see on their desktop. That kind of agreement doesn't mean that they're seeing the truth.

They're not seeing the circuits in the software. They just have the same kind of user interface. And so you and I, when we both say, yeah, I see the moon, it's very much like that. We have the same interface software as members of the same species, and so it's very likely that we see very similar things. But whatever we're seeing doesn't resemble the objective reality, just like the icons on your desktop don't resemble the circuits and software inside. There are 4% of humans who have what's called synesthesia. They have dramatically different perceptions than the rest of us.

One gentleman, Michael Watson, everything that he tasted with his tongue, he could feel as a three-dimensional object with his hands in space. Like mint was a tall, tall cold smooth column of glass Angostura bitters felt like a basket of ivy you could fill the leaves the shapes the textures the the temperature and the weight so evolution is not done with tinkering with our interface and at least 4% of us have different kinds or at least variations on the human interface. And so it's a very simple idea in some sense. We thought that we were seeing the truth. What we're seeing is not the truth.

It's just a user interface that lets us control reality even though we're ignorant of reality. If you had to toggle voltages to craft an email, your friends would never hear from you. Seeing the truth gets in the way of doing what you need to do to stay alive. So let's go back outside and look at the moon again, you and me. What is it you think I'm not seeing? Oh, so that's an interesting question. If reality is nothing in space and time, and it has nothing to do with space and time, what is the objective reality? And of course, the right answer is I don't know. But I am playing with the idea that consciousness is an objective reality. And I'm trying to get a mathematical model of consciousness and think of objective reality as a vast social network of interacting consciousnesses.

We'll see. I'm probably wrong. But that's the way you play science, is you try to be precise with mathematical precision in your theories so you can find out precisely how and why you're wrong. When I look at anything and I'm not seeing objective reality, it seems to me I'm seeing my object. I've evolved. I'm part of this evolution that has evolved to see the reality I need to see to function in my life. What I don't see is kind of by definition irrelevant to me. So isn't this just an academic exercise? Well, that's a great point.

So most of my colleagues would say that we see reality, but not all of reality. We only see those small aspects of reality that we need to survive. And I'm saying something far more radical. I'm saying that nothing inside space and time could possibly be at all related to objective reality. It's the wrong place. It's like if we had a virtual reality headset on, everything that we see as we move around looking in our virtual reality headset is just a virtual reality, including the three-dimensional space that we perceive. The reality itself is far beyond. And the reason this is going to be important is if we've been this fundamentally mistaken about the nature of objective reality, once we get a better theory of objective reality, it's going to first tell us a little bit more about who we are and what we are and where we are.

But also it will lead to new technologies. Every time we understand better what reality is about, we get fabulous new technologies. And so what do you think reality is about that I don't think reality is about? Well, I'm playing with the idea that reality is about consciousness. And the reason I'm going there is, and this is one thing that motivated me to start thinking about this problem in the first place. One of the biggest unsolved problems in science is the so-called hard problem of consciousness. The problem is this. We have hundreds of correlations between brain activity and conscious experiences. If I take a very, very powerful magnet and touch it to your skull on the right side, just above your ear, a place called area V4. And if I put that magnet in inhibit mode, you will lose all color experience in the left visual part of your world.

When I turn the magnet off, all your color experience will come back on. And we have hundreds of correlations like that where we can manipulate brain activity and we find immediate changes to your conscious experiences. And so there are all these correlations between brain activity and conscious experiences. The hard problem of consciousness is this. We have no idea how brain activity might cause conscious experiences. None. People have been trying, brilliant scientists, Nobel Prize winners have been trying to solve that problem for decades, even centuries. We've known this problem for centuries. Leibniz knew it in the early 1700s. All we know is that there are correlations. And so I'm proposing that the reason we've got this wrong is we've assumed that brains and neurons and space-time itself exist when they're not perceived and that they have causal powers.

And I'm saying that's a mistake. We have a nice useful fiction of causality. If I take my icon for my email, my blue icon for email, and drag it to the trash can, my file will be deleted. And I could intuitively say, well, it's the movement of the icon across the desktop that caused the file to be deleted. And for a casual user of the interface, that's perfectly fine. It's literally false. The movement of the icon on the desktop has no feedback into the computer. It causes nothing.

And so our idea that objects in space and time have causal powers. I hit the cue ball, it knocks the eight ball into the corner pocket. It's a useful fiction to say that the cue ball caused the eight ball to move. But strictly speaking, it's a fiction. We do not see real cause and effect in space and time. We need a deeper scientific theory to get at that. And so that's what I'm after here is a deeper understanding of the true cause and effect in reality that might allow us to then understand this hard problem of consciousness and solve it. Thinking about this hurts my head. Mine too.

Yeah. It's been a very painful odyssey. It's not just been an intellectual geek exercise for me. It's been quite an emotional odyssey because I've had to let go of some deeply held assumptions. Like? Like that this table in front of me will exist even if I don't perceive it. I mean, that's something that Piaget, a very famous child psychologist, pointed out gets wired into us very early. He called it object permanence. That, you know, when we're first born, we, you know, when something disappears,

we effectively assume it doesn't exist. And at a certain age, he thought it was around 18 months. We've now discovered it's more like three or four months of age. We are wired up by evolution to just assume now that even if I don't see it, you know, you take that baby doll and put it behind a pillow. The baby will now look for the doll behind the pillow after about four months of age. We believe in object permanence. We believe that the moon exists even if we don't perceive it. We believe that because we've been wired up before we had a chance to even argue about it. We were wired up to believe that. And so when we contradict that,

when we say, no, this is just an interface, none of this stuff exists when we don't perceive it, that's really, really hard for us because we've believed that since before we were rational. And so that's why it's such an emotional one. But think about it this way. It's like having a virtual reality headset on. Suppose you're playing virtual tennis. You can take the ball and hold it up in virtual reality. You see it. You know that if you turn your head, you will no longer see the tennis ball, but that doesn't mean that the tennis ball is still there, even though you're not looking. There is no tennis ball. Only when you look back, you will see a tennis ball, but that's

because you're creating it on the fly when you look. And that's what I'm saying is true about everyday life. Just think about this. We've always had a headset on. It's a virtual reality headset that evolution gave us. It didn't give us a window on reality. It gave us a virtual reality headset that simplifies everything and gives us just what we need to act to stay alive. As you said in the beginning of this conversation, if what you're saying is true and there is an objective reality that we can't see, we evolved not to see it because by not seeing it and by seeing what we actually do see, that has helped keep us alive. So why bother with this? And in fact, could you be playing with fire here that we don't need to see objective reality? We do just fine without it. In fact,

if we see it, that could cause a lot of problems. So maybe we shouldn't even see it. One obvious objection to this that people have that they think is an obvious dismissal is, look, they say, you know, Hoffman, if you think that that train coming down the tracks at 200 miles an hour is just, you know, an icon on your interface, why don't you step in front of it? And after you're dead and this silly theory with you, we'll know that that train is real and it really can kill. And I wouldn't step in front of the train for the same reason I wouldn't carelessly drag my blue rectangular icon to the trash can. Not because I take the icon literally. The file is not literally blue and rectangular. But I do take the icon seriously. If I drag that icon to the trash,

I could lose all my work. And that's the point. Evolution has given us icons and an interface to keep us alive. We better take it seriously. Those who don't take it seriously, don't pass on their genes. We have to take it seriously, but that does not entitle us to take it literally. And that's the logical mistake that we make. We assume that because we have to take what we perceive seriously, that therefore we're entitled or even required to take it literally. That's an elementary mistake. Well, it might be, but isn't it also possible that even though what you call objective reality isn't the reality we perceive, it doesn't mean it's inconsistent with the reality we perceive. And your train example is a good example. Maybe what we're perceiving is that train coming down the tracks isn't exactly right,

but boy, if you don't step out of the way, it's still going to kill you. So the two realities may be different, but they may not be inconsistent. Donald Hoffman has been my guest. He is a professor in the Department of Cognitive Sciences at the University of California at Irvine, and his book is called The Case Against Reality, Why Evolution Hid the Truth from Our Eyes. You'll find a link to his book in the show notes for this episode. Thanks, Professor. Thank you, Mike. It was a pleasure. You're probably a very good person, but chances are you're a better person in the morning.

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