Speaking of Psychology - How to spend your time more wisely, with Cassie Holmes, PhD
Episode Date: September 7, 2022When you feel time-poor, endless hours of free time might sound like the ultimate luxury. But psychologists’ research suggests that it’s not simply the amount of time that you have, but how you sp...end it, that determines your happiness. Cassie Holmes, PhD, discusses whether there’s an ideal amount of free time, how to increase your sense of “time affluence” and how tracking your time can help you live a happier life. Links Cassie Holmes, PhD Speaking of Psychology Home Page Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Do you ever feel like there aren't enough hours in the day for you to do the things you want to do?
Pressed by endless work and family obligations,
have you ever dreamed of quitting this life and moving to a remote beach where you could read, paint, play music, or just veg?
When we feel time poor, endless hours to do whatever we please sounds like the ultimate luxury.
But research suggests that the relationship between leisure time and contentment is a
not so straightforward. And that it's not the amount of time that you have, but how you spend it
that determines your happiness. So is there an ideal amount of free time? Is it possible to have
too much free time or too little? Who's happier? People who focus on the value of time or those
who focus on the value of money? And are there ways to increase your sense of time affluence
without making a major change like quitting your job? Is it possible to make time sucking chores like
housework and commuting, seem less onerous.
Welcome to Speaking of Psychology, the flagship podcast of the American Psychological Association
that examines the links between psychological science and everyday life.
I'm Kim Mills.
My guest today is Dr. Cassie Holmes, a professor of marketing and behavioral decision-making
at UCLA's Anderson School of Management.
She studies time and happiness, including such questions as how focusing on time or money
affects happiness and how the meaning of happiness changes over one's lifetime. Her research has been
published in top psychology journals and covered by media outlets including the New York Times,
the Wall Street Journal, and National Public Radio. Her new book is called Happier Hour,
How to Beat Distraction, Expand Your Time and Focus on What Matters Most. It aims to provide a research-based
practical guide on how to think about time and how to spend your time to live a happier life.
Thank you for joining me today, Dr. Holmes.
Hi, Kim.
Thank you so much for having me.
It's a treat to be here.
You study time poverty and time affluence.
What are those terms mean?
What makes somebody time poor or time affluent?
Is it just the amount of leisure time that you have?
Yeah.
So time poverty is defined as the acute feeling of having too much to do and not enough time to do it.
And it is a negative experience.
and it has negative consequences.
And it's also a very pervasive experience.
In a national poll that I just conducted,
we found that nearly half of Americans report feeling time poor.
Women tend to feel more time poor than men.
Folks who are working tend to feel particularly impoverished.
And folks who are working who have a partner who works with young kids
are perhaps the most time poor.
But it's not just.
being a parent or working, individuals who do not work, and individuals who don't have kids are
also subject to feeling time poor. The effects of it are negative, and so I will, in a second,
get to our research that looks at the overall relationship between the amount of discretionary
time people have and their happiness, but pulling from across studies, including some of my
own, looking at whether the effects of being time poor research shows that it makes people less
healthy because they're less likely to spend their time exercising. It makes them also less old
because they're more likely to eat fast food that is readily available and not necessarily
healthy. People delay going to the doctors. It also makes us feel or be less kind. So in some
of my work, we found that when people don't feel like they have a lot of time, they become very stingy
with their time, less likely to spend time to help others. We also have some work showing that when
people feel time poor, they become less confident in being able to achieve their goals.
And now the question is, what about the emotional ramifications? And this research was actually
motivated by a personal experience as someone who falls into all of those demographic categories.
of being someone who works with young kids, with a partner who works, I felt and feel particularly
time poor. And it led me to be like, oh my gosh, should I go ahead and quit my job? I can't really
sort of keep up at this pace. But that begged the question is, would I feel happier if I had a
whole lot more hours in my day to spend how I wanted? So hours to spend on discretionary activity.
So to answer that question, I recruited a couple of my favorite collaborators, Hal Herschfield and Marissa Sharif.
And we looked at the relationship between the amount of hours you have within your regular day-to-day life to spend on discretionary activities.
So discretionary activities being those things that you want to spend your time on, that includes relaxing, sort of passive leisure, like watching TV, taking naps.
It also includes active leisure, like playing sports, going and watching sporting events.
And it includes hobbies as well as social connections, so spending time with friends and family.
And we looked at what's the relationship between that and life satisfaction.
We looked at a couple of data sets to analyze this.
And I think the most sort of telling because it's the biggest data site and most broadly representative of folks in the
the U.S. is the American time use survey data. And that data includes tens of thousands of working
and non-working Americans. And what it does is it captures a regular day and assesses how
does each individual spend that day? What activities are they spending their day doing? And what we did
is for each individual, we calculated how much time that day they spent on a day. They spent on
discretionary activities like those that I just mentioned. And by the way, you might be wondering,
well, like, how did you come identify those as discretionary activities? And for that, we actually
went to a different sample of participants, presented them with the whole list of
100, I think, 38 different activities, activity categories and ask them, is this discretionary?
By discretionary means something you want to do or that feels worthwhile in its own right.
And we pre-registered that we would count any activity.
It was a very conservative task that any activity that more than 90% of participants identified as discretionary, we would count those.
We also had a more lenient threshold with any activity that more than 75% viewed as discretionary.
The pattern holds regardless of that particular threshold.
So we calculated for each individual how many hours in that regular day that they spent on discretionary activities.
and we related it to life satisfaction.
What we found was interesting.
The pattern of results showed an upside-down U-shape.
So that's to say that when you have very little time,
you see low happiness.
That is me.
That is those of you who also feel time for.
And in this particular data said,
it suggested that two hours in the day on discretionary activities
counts as too little time. But what was also interesting was the other end of the spectrum,
where we also saw that it dipped down in terms of happiness or life satisfaction. And what we found
was that beyond about five hours of discretionary time, people were also less happy. And so between two
and five hours, the relationship was quite flat. And so what that is suggesting is that,
except that the extremes, it's not so much about the amount of time you have. Then the question
comes in, how are you spending the hours that you have? But I think going back to sort of the opening
motivation for this is, you know, would I, and I'm using me as an example because as representative of
so many who are field time poor, would I actually feel happier if I were to quit my job?
and have a whole lot more free time.
And the answer, according to our set of studies, is no.
So people don't feel productive then if they have that much free time is what you found
that they feel like they're wasting their days and therefore in some sense wasting their lives.
Yeah.
So getting into the reason for that pattern of results, so what we found was with too little time,
it is feelings of stress.
People feel higher levels of stress and that is associated with.
less satisfaction. For the too much time, we did find that people felt less productive. They felt
like a lacking sense of purpose within their days. And this is picking up on other research
that shows that we do have a drive to be somewhat productive. And being busy communicates not only
to others, but also to ourselves, that we have accomplished something. And so having day in and
day out of having so many hours available just to spend relaxing, you see this dip in satisfaction.
What is also interesting, we see that it's not just about sort of discretionary time per se,
because there are some discretionary activities that do feel productive and do feel worthwhile.
and we analyzed the amount of time that individuals spent within the discretionary activities
on those that they viewed as productive and worthwhile.
And there we actually did not see a significant depth.
And so for activities that people identified as productive or discretionary activities
that people felt were productive and worthwhile tended to be hobbies, so things that are
personally enriching, playing sports and exercising.
So you didn't see a dip there.
You also did not see a dip, and actually you saw a sort of linear relationship with socializing.
So when you're spending your time socially connecting with others, you actually see that there isn't such thing as sort of too much.
It's really the passive leisure that you see this too much time effect.
Oh, interesting.
So you spend too much time.
with your in-laws that there's no such thing than is too much time socializing with people who make
you crazy. Yeah, I'll leave it to the individual to identify whether it was particularly
connecting and worthwhile time. But yeah, that gets up the underlying psychology, certainly.
I'm being silly. But I want to talk about a time tracking exercise that you outline in your book.
You recommend people complete this exercise for a couple of weeks, monitor the way that they spend every half hour the way somebody on a diet might track calories.
Can you talk a little bit more about that exercise, how you do it, and why it's useful?
Yeah, it's useful actually touching back to that two to five hour range, right, of where it's not about how much time you have available.
It's how you spend your time.
And so then the question is, well, what are the activities that are worthwhile,
and do produce high levels of happiness and satisfaction.
Researchers use time tracking data to assess this.
So for across individuals looking, what activities are they doing
and how are people feeling while doing those activities?
And from that, you can pull out and look at what are the types of activities
that are associated with the most positive emotion,
what are those activities that tend to be associated with the most negative emotion,
On average, when you're looking across people, you see that the activities that tend to be associated
with the most positive emotion are, again, actually social connection.
So spending quality time with friends and family, also through intimacy.
So socially connecting physically as well.
The activities that tend to be associated with the least amount of positive emotion as in the most
negative emotion are quite consistent.
It is commuting, so getting to and from work, hours spend working, so the time you're at work,
and housework.
But that data is based off of averages.
So unfortunately, for that average American, work is among their least happy hours.
But also it's averaging across category of activities.
So it's sort of chunking all of work hours into one category.
And I'm sure you can identify, like, you know, personally, if you're real,
on your work hours, there are some work activities that are more positive than others.
And so this time tracking exercise that I delineate and give sort of clear instructions in the
book as well as a helpful worksheet on my website, what it does is it leads you to collect your
own personal data. So over the course of two weeks, and I suggest two weeks more than one week
because it's a more sort of complete snapshot of the types of activities that fill your day-to-day life.
But it is how you're spending that time and while you're doing it or as close to completing the activity as possible, rating on a 10-point scale, how positive it was.
And that includes how enjoyable it was, how satisfying, how meaningful it felt so overall positivity.
And with this data, your own personalized data, you can at the end of the week.
And also, I would say, suggest that when writing down the particular activity, don't just say work,
for the reason that I just said.
Some work hours are going to be more satisfying than others.
So be more specific in the type of work, for instance, or the type of family time that it is,
so that you can look back and see what are those activities that for you,
are associated with the most positive emotion. In addition to identifying the sort of most positive
and negative activities, you can also see how much time you're spending on these activities.
So you can see, like I teach a course at UCLA to our MBA students called Applying the Science
of Happiness to Life Design. So it's pulling all of the research to share with our students so that
they can understand how to spend their time better and feel more fulfilled by it. I have them do
this exercise and a common observation among students is that they are spending way more time than
they expected on social media. And it's not as surprising to us listening to it, but it's always
surprising to them because like with this idea that is like, oh, I'll just spend a few minutes here,
a few minutes there to check. But those minutes add up two hours. And if they look, when they look at their
ratings of how positive that time is. It's not very positive. It's like a mediocre five.
And these are busy individuals. They're getting their MBA. Many of them are working full time as well,
have families. And they are time poor. They're like, oh my gosh, I don't have enough time to do
the things that I really want. Like those activities in their week that get the 10,
like having dinner with their sister. They're like, I don't have time to have dinner with my sister.
so busy, but then when you see that there was spending 15 hours on social media, it's like,
oh, actually, this is really informative. So they can sort of reallocate those hours from
activities that are not necessary and that are mediocre in terms of how they contribute to one's
happiness and reallocate to those activities that are truly joyful.
So another piece of advice in your book is about the ways in which time is a finite resource and that everything in life ends.
And in fact, you suggest something called time left, that you have a time left exercise where you count the number of times you have left of something that you value.
Like how many weekends before your kindergartner goes to college or how many more walks will you get in with your aging dog?
And this seems like it could be an exercise that might make you sad.
But why is focusing on limited time a route to happiness?
I'm so glad that you asked it.
And this is a very important and impactful exercise, even though at the face of it, it
might seem sad.
The effect that it has on how we spend our time, both the activities that we spend our time on
and even our mindset during that time to make the most of it is really critical.
in the time tracking, or you can even for yourself reflect back on the last two weeks,
what were those moments where you felt true joy? And even for those of us who are extremely busy,
there are likely to be those little snippets in the day that were truly joyful.
Interestingly, those tend to be very mundane everyday moments. And because there's such everyday moments,
we tend to assume they will continue happening every day.
But what the time's left exercise does is it makes you realize that, in fact, it doesn't.
And it actually pulls in a lot of my other research where I find that when people recognize that their
time is limited, it makes them savor the time more.
So actually, we find that older people tend to feel greater enjoyment and happiness from
ordinary moments than younger people because of their recognition that their time is finite.
But to walk through this exercise in terms of the value of it.
So using myself as an example, I will use, I have a six-year-old whom we have this wonderful
tradition, which actually started as sort of a routine, part of our morning routine,
where we would stop after dropping off her big brother in Carpool, we would stop at the coffee
shop on my way into the office and dropping her off at preschool to get a cup of coffee for me,
not her.
And we would get her a hot chocolate.
And what turned into a caffeine fix, you know, stuff for me turned into this wonderful thing
each week that we spent this half hour together, just the two of us.
And it turned into this beautiful thing that we would anticipate and enjoy and sort of reflect back on.
she's sick. So you would think that I would have like a whole lifetime of coffee dates with my daughter,
but in actually going through this exercise, which the first step is to calculate how many,
so pick something that you enjoy doing, calculate how many times you've done it in your life so far,
calculate how many times you anticipate being able to do it in your future,
accounting for the fact that, well, time, our lives are finite,
But sort of even more pressing is that the way that you engage in that activity and the sort of availability of activity is going to shift.
So she's six now, but even before she goes off to college, she's not going to want to, sadly, spend as much time with me.
She'll want to, you know, go to the coffee shop with her friends.
So accounting for that, and then she will likely go off to college.
If she's anything like me, she'll move from Southern California and, you know, go to school in New York.
and have her early career in New York. So, you know, I'm lucky if I get to visit her and, you know,
we have, say, even 10 more coffee dates a year. I calculated even though she's six that I have
only 36% of our total coffee dates together left. Now, what's the effect of that? A, at the sort of
face of it, you're like, oh, that's sad. Yes, it does make me sad. But it's actually really
motivating, right? Because it makes me darn sure that I am going to carve out. I am not going to
schedule meetings so that I'm rushing and that I cancel this time with my daughter. When I'm spending
that time, I am for sure going to put my phone away and not be distracted during this precious time.
I'm not going to be cycling in my head about all those other things that I have to do because
this 30 minutes, that coffee date, that time with my daughter is so precious.
It makes me fully engaged.
And it makes her fully engaged.
So this is actually another nice point to make show that it's not about quantity.
This is only 30 minutes that happens each week.
It is absolutely about quality and how we're spending it, not just the activity, but our mindset during it.
So it leads us to carve out, make the time.
It makes us pay more attention during that time so that that time is higher quality.
And then by sort of turning into something special, it allows us to continue to revisit those times in our minds so that those minutes have a significant effect on our overall mood throughout the week such that, I mean, the reason I'm so focused on time as the resource that's critical to our happiness is because how we spend our hours, some up to our years, those years, some up to decades in our life overall.
And yes, it's the substance of how we're spending the time, but it's also the stories that we're telling how we think about that time that influences our happiness with happiness being how you're feeling in the day to day and in the moment, as well as a more broader evaluation of how satisfied you feel with your life overall.
Well, let's talk for a minute about the value of time that, you know, you've been alluding to.
You work in a business school and you study how people think about the value of time versus the value of money.
Do most people value time or money more and is placing more value on one or the other more likely or less likely to make you happy?
I am a professor at a business school.
Now I got my Ph.D. within a business school.
And even at that time when I was a grad student where I had no money, and I didn't have.
very much time at all. I was struck that in this context of being surrounded by MBAs and a school
that was about sort of helping businesses be successful, that it was solely focused on money,
that money was the way that you assessed success, both individually and from for a business.
And that struck me as sort of not true because I was realizing that when I,
misspent time, I felt much more regretful than when I sort of misspent money. How I was spending my time
when it was in ways that felt worthwhile was much more satisfying and I think much more reflective
of me as an individual or I would even say for businesses when they are sort of investing in their
pursuits in line with what matters to them based off of their mission and values, then that's much
more impressive and compelling than sort of solely being profit-driven. So I wanted to test this,
and I did. Initially, I tested it in a marketing context of leading consumers to think about the time
they spent on products versus the money they spent on products. And what we found was that
thinking about their time invested led people to feel more connected to the product. It made them
like the product more, like the brand more, because temporal investments are much more
personally reflective than our financial ones. But then I was more interested in not just
happiness or satisfaction with the one's products, ones buys, but also satisfaction with their
choices more broadly and their happiness more generally. And in that work, what I did was I led
people to focus on time versus money and then measured how they actually intended to spend their
time as well as actually did spend their time. And what I found was that those who were led to
focus on time invested or spent their time in ways that were more fulfilling and felt more
worthwhile, more in line with their values for the most part that was picking up on, again,
spending time in socially connecting ways. And as a consequence, people felt happier.
More sort of broadly reflective, that was me leading them to think about time or money and
seeing the effects. But another work with Hal Herschfield, again, we asked people, we asked them a very
simple question. So hundreds of individuals across the U.S., which do you want more of? Do you want
more time or do you want more money? And we found that in that sample, the majority of people
said that they would prefer to have more money than more time. In addition to asking them,
which they would prefer to have more of, we also measure their happiness. So how happy they are
in their day, day, as well as how satisfied they feel with their lives overall. And what we found
was controlling for the actual amount of money they had, so their income level, controlling for
the actual amount of time that they had, which we operationalized by how many hours they work
per week, we saw that those who chose having more time were happier.
And that is picking up on the extent to which they value their time as their sort of more precious
resource.
So that is to say that, yes, the evidence does suggest that being focused on time as the resource
that is most precious, most critical, does lead to greater happiness, does leave to greater
satisfaction.
And it is because it motivates us to spend in ways that are worthwhile.
that do matter that are intrinsically rewarding and satisfying,
such that the outcome, particularly when you are successful,
is very fulfilling.
But also when you're not reaching those goals,
it becomes more motivating as opposed to the sort of general notion
of what I should be doing.
So oftentimes, you know, particularly teaching MBAs,
they come into my class thinking that success in life is money.
If only I made a bunch more money than I would be happier.
The problem with that is that a bunch more money,
there's always someone that's making more.
And oftentimes we assess how we're doing by looking at how we're doing
compared to those around us.
So this is social comparison.
And a sort of unfortunate piece of this is that when you,
Make more money, the folks around you tend to also be making a lot of money.
So once you, you know, make more money and move into a nicer neighborhood, then there's
neighbors that are also making more money.
And there's always someone that's going to make more.
When you use time as your sort of metric, and again, because it is more reflective of your
intrinsic values, then you're not subject to the social comparison.
Right.
Everybody has 24 hours in a day. They can't have 48 and you have 24. Exactly. So using your own sort of values, what matters as your gauge and motivator compared to these general notions of what success is, which in our culture tends to be money.
Well, so speaking of value, you published a paper a few years ago that found that when people give their time away, so when they spend their time helping other people, they feel like they have.
have more time. And that seems kind of counterintuitive. How did you come to that conclusion?
Yeah. And I'm so glad you asked about that because it sort of touches on one of the things that
I said at the beginning was when we feel time poor, we become less kind because we are busy
and we're like, oh my gosh, I don't have enough time for anything, let alone to slow down
and spend time to help someone else. But what we found in this work, we conducted it on a Saturday
among adults and in the morning we gave them a set of instructions.
Half of the participants whom we randomly assigned,
we told them, spent 30 minutes today doing something for someone else
that you weren't already planning to do.
We told the other participants, spend 30 minutes today doing something for yourself
that you weren't already planning to do.
And then that evening, we followed up with them as how they spent that time,
but more importantly, how much time they felt like they had.
how time affluent they were. And I love doing this study because people did nice things, both for
themselves and others. So it's like the types of things that they did for other people,
someone that they knew well, like making a nice meal for their partner, helping a friend
pull up tile in the bathroom for some reason that went out, writing a letter to one's grandmother.
Others did something, not for someone they knew, but as are more generally kind to their community,
so going to the park, picking up trash.
The types of things that people did for themselves were sort of pampering, going for a run,
reading a book.
What we found was that irrespective of the particular way they gave time, those who spent
time on someone else reported that they had more time.
And the question is why.
And what our data, follow-up studies suggested is that when we spend time to help others,
it makes us feel very accomplished, the sense of greater self-efficacy.
And so you're like, I accomplished a lot.
And if you recall, the definition of time poverty is the feeling of having too much to do and not enough time to do it.
So basically having the temporal resources to satisfy.
the goals of all the things that you want to do, when you realize how much you can accomplish
with your time, it makes that time that you have feel more expansive. You're like, oh, actually,
I can accomplish what I want to and set out to do versus spending time on oneself, which doesn't
increase a sense of self-afficacy. We also had studies comparing it to an even more stringent
comparison, so not spending time on oneself, but actually getting a windfall, a free time,
So in this study, it was among undergraduate students who were participating in a lab study.
And at the end of the study, we told half of them, please spend this 15 minutes helping a high school student by editing a college application essay.
We told the other, actually, you know, all the essays have been edited.
You have 15 minutes.
You have a windfall of 15 minutes of free time in your day.
we measured for everyone how much time did they feel like they had those who had spent the time helping the high school student edit the essay felt like they had more time compared to those who had that 15 minute windfall that is why even though when we feel time poor and we don't feel like we have minutes to spare to help others actually taking the time spending the time to help someone will make you feel like you have more time now I will
say there is such thing as giving too much time. And so if you're giving so much of your time that you're
not truly able to take care of the needs and what you need to accomplish in your day,
then you actually see a backlash. And also, if it feels like people are taking your time,
as opposed to you giving your time, then you don't see this positive effect.
So there's not our research, but in the whole field of research of caregivers,
it can be very depleting, sort of long-term caregiving, that it does feel like an obligation.
So it's not you giving it.
It's being sort of absorbed.
There you don't see the sort of positive boost in time affluence.
So here's a question for those of us who spend our weekends cleaning the house and running errands.
Are there ways to make these necessary, very time-intensive chores feel less onerous?
Yes.
And there's two different answers for that.
First is, regardless of whether it happens on the weekend, as I mentioned, activities, household chores are among our least happy.
There's a bundling strategy that you can do to make that time that you spend on chores more fulfilling.
you can also use this for commuting.
So if you bundle this unfun activity, I would say, with an activity that you do like to do
and you want to do, then those hours are going to feel more enjoyable.
So as an example, while unloading the dishwasher and doing the laundry,
if you actually bundle that time of doing chores,
listening to podcasts where you get to enrich your sort of knowledge,
particularly speaking of psychology or listening to an audiobook, and I will also say that in
our data, we find that one of the top things that people don't do because they don't feel
like they have enough time is reading for pleasure. But if you actually bundle this time
that you're spending on chores with increasing your perspective and interest through
audiobooks or reading, then that time itself becomes more fulfilling. There's another intervention
that I love with Colin West and Sanford DeVoe, where we found that simply treating your weekend
like a vacation makes you happier when you return to work on Monday, and it makes you enjoy the
weekend more. The reason that this happens is because weekends are breaks. So I will also say that
we as Americans are really bad at taking breaks. We don't take vacation. We are one of the few
industrialized countries that doesn't have legally mandated paid vacation. Even though we get less
vacation, we don't take it. About half of Americans don't take all of their paid vacation.
So we don't take vacation because we don't feel like we have time and we don't have money.
But taking breaks, taking vacation is important because it's associated with greater creativity.
It actually makes you more engaged in your work. And it makes it.
you happier. So take vacation, period. But also, we have breaks in the regular cadence of our weeks.
Every week, we have two days off. And most working Americans do get the weekends off. But why does it not
feel like a break? It's because it's part of our routine. We're not paying attention. We're sort of
rushing through all of our to-dos, rushing through our activities to get to, you know, check off items on our
to-do list. But when you treat it like a vacation, and so we ran several experiments replicating
this effect, which I love. So it was among working adults going into a weekend on a Friday.
We randomly assigned half of them. We gave them the simple instructions. Treat this weekend like a
vacation. That is to the extent possible, think in ways and behave in ways you would on vacation.
The others, we said, treat this weekend like a regular weekend to the extent possible,
think in ways and behave in ways you would on a regular weekend.
That was it.
That was our sort of intervention.
On Monday, when they were back at work, we followed up with them and we measured their happiness.
And we saw that those who treated the weekend like a vacation ended up happier on Monday.
Why?
Well, we looked at how they spent their time over the course of the weekend.
Yes, they did spend a little bit more of their time doing vacation-like things.
They stayed in bed a little longer.
So for that physical intimacy, they spent more time eating.
They spent less time doing housework and less time doing work-work.
But interestingly, it wasn't the time that they spent on activities that relayed into their enjoyment of the weekend or into their happiness on Monday.
What it was was their mindset.
Those who treated the weekend like a vacation were more present.
during their activities. So they were paying more attention to the present moment. And it's that
paying attention to the present moment made them like their activities more and made them feel
more refreshed when they got back to work on Monday. And so it's absolutely a mindset thing,
that it's not about the sort of routine of getting through things. It is about having a break,
like a vacation such that you can chill out and be in the moment, even if you're doing the same
thing, even if you're like having, you know, a pancake breakfast or even if you're the one cooking
the pancake breakfast for your family on Saturday morning, when it's like a regular weekend,
you're just sort of doing it and getting through it.
When it's like a vacation, it feels so much different.
It feels so different.
And you engage with the people that you're with.
so in a very different way.
So treat the weekend like a vacation.
Well, Dr. Holmes, I hate to say this, but we're out of time.
So I want to thank you for joining me today.
It's been really interesting and fun to talk to you.
I think you've given us all some good ideas about how we can use our time more
productively in a way that will make us happy.
Thank you.
Well, thank you for having me.
It was a treat.
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