Spiritually Speaking with Jessica & Samantha - Cards and Confessions: Motherhood, Marriage and the Moments You Lose Yourself

Episode Date: December 5, 2025

In this week’s episode of Spiritually Speaking, Cards and Confessions is taking over again because we are getting so many questions from you all. Today’s theme came through so strongly… the juggle of motherhood, marriage and trying to find space for yourself.This episode goes deep into the honest, raw conversations so many women are having behind closed doors. The moments where you feel pulled in every direction. The weight of responsibility. The guilt that comes with wanting more time for yourself. And the fear of losing the parts of you that existed before you became a mother or a partner.We sit with the cards, the confessions and the truth beneath it all. This is an episode for anyone who feels stretched thin, unseen or overwhelmed while trying to hold every role. The messages that came through are grounding, honest and full of compassion.A reminder that you are allowed to be held too. You are allowed to return to yourself. And you are not alone in this journey.

Hello and welcome back to spiritually speaking with me Sam and with me Jess. Welcome back. Welcome back everybody. It's officially December. Oh my God it is. No, I was about to say this was supposed to be recorded yesterday. It will. Oh gosh. Shall we share? You can share. Basically we were meant to record yesterday and I think about 30 minutes before the call I started my period and it was the full me. and my period was a little bit early and I find whenever my period's a bit early

it feels like my body's like oh God she's bleeding like oh all the hormones go into like this intense thing and I literally felt fine and then as soon as I realised it was on my period it was like all my hormones just went and the Wi-Fi wasn't working and I'm sure most of you can relate

but that basically brought me to tears and then I tried to move rooms and then Ben's like moving the washing and I was like, don't worry about moving the washing we just need to do the call and then he's like looking at me like and he was like, are you angry at me? And I'm like, no, I'm just really hormonal.

You know, when everything feels just like I can't function, it was like that and then we had to reboot the Wi-Fi but the Wi-Fi was under the Christmas tree. We've got loads of presents and you know when you're just like I am so overloaded from like a whole, I don't know, sensory perspective.

And then I basically got in the bath, had about a three-hour nap, woke up. And I was like, okay, I feel, I feel human again. And then I was able to kind of not do much. But honestly, it wiped me. And it was, yeah, I would, and I don't want to use the word dramatic, because I actually think we should honour our periods, like, more.

Like, we're so conditioned to just, like, get on with it. And obviously, if I had client calls, I probably would have worked and sort of doced up a bit and being like, no, like, I'm not going to let people down. But because I didn't, I was like, I'm actually just going to honour my period in full moon and clearly my body needed it. So, yeah, I think it's hard, isn't it? because we obviously get them every month. So like we can't schedule in our diary,

realistically, not many people can schedule in their diary every month. Like, right, I'm going to have a day where obviously when I come on a period, this is going to happen. And not everybody is obviously regular to even know when that happens. But yeah, it did make me laugh. But it's funny actually since having the girls, I, so before I had the girls, I was on the pill anyway for years. And then I had like a year or so that I was off there before,

obviously all of that jazz with fertility treatment whatever but having had them now and having like actual proper periods um i notice now when i'm going to come on because i am enraged like i literally feel this just anger towards everything for like two days i feel like and then i come on and I'm like, ah, that's why I felt that way. Yeah, definitely. I feel like I'm really inconsistent with what goes on each cycle. So I've been really happy, like really content, feeling really just like laid back. But yesterday was just like a surge of like pure, like being like a toddler where like nothing could get fixed.

everything was like just awful. I hate when that happens, yeah. And you know it's going on. So you're like, I just need to sleep to like sort of get through this day. Yeah. But my cycles have been really good for like the last year. And like I haven't really suffered with period pains for a long time.

So it's sort of I was like, oh God, I'm not used to this. You know, and I used to have that every month, like especially as a teenager and in like my early 20s. Like I don't know how I did it to be honest. But, yeah, I feel better. I just, yeah, it's one of those things, isn't it? But I feel like... Yeah, exactly. We're back today.

We're better energy anyway. Like, I think had we done yesterday, you'd have felt a bit flat. Oh, it'd have been a terrible podcast. Yeah, exactly. So it was meant to be. So here we are. We're actually recording on the day that this goes out. So very fresh content for you guys.

Thank you for everybody who sent in your questions. I mean, we're going to get to the questions anyway. We'll do a bit of a catch-all first. But thank you so much to everybody who sent them in. So it is me who gets them and Jess doesn't read them before we do this. And there were so many that I was like, whoa, okay, this is really, really good. So, yeah, hopefully we'll get through as many as we can in this episode and the next episode. And, yeah, I apologize in advance for if I've missed any.

But please, if I have, just send them back in. Yeah, yeah. We've got a theme today, haven't we? Yes. Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah, no, we have got a theme, yeah. But first, things first, what have you been up to? Gosh, Sam, do you know what?

It's been very low-key. Just sort of getting ready for Christmas as, you know, December time comes along. I've been working quite a lot. I've been working on the app, things behind the scenes, spending more time at Ben's house. So then that's like a new experience being with a boy a lot. and like the like in the you know I can't find my bra

basically not not from any sexual reason than I put it somewhere and it's disappeared and so I'm brawless right now and I have been for about two days so hopefully I find it but you know when it's like we're sort of in this this phase of the relationship where it's like we're sort of with each other a lot but I'm not fully living here and it's it's like we're moving through different phases and I'm really enjoying this phase though like I know I've lost my bra but um it feels like really sort of quite wholesome um and I feel like I'm doing a lot of healing actually like there's a lot of safety so I've been dreaming lots like I had a dream that I was spending Christmas with my ex obviously it was a full moon

and I was so upset because I meant I couldn't spend Christmas with bed and and then in my dream I decided to cancel my ex you know and it's just like such random dreams so just sort of really homely energy right now which makes sense for this time of year because obviously it's more so in the UK but like it's the winter like the winter solstice is coming so I've just been enjoying the slowness of life we've got the woods right by Ben And so I've been walking loads in the woods, which has been, like, amazing. And I feel really sort of connected to that. So, like, every day I go out and I'm feeling, I don't know, I feel more spiritual.

Like, there's a deeper connection spiritually happening right now. So that's been really nice. Year ahead readings, oh, my God, they've been so good. Really? Oh, I'm just buzzing. so like we've been smashing through them lots of people have booked in which is so nice and like it's just lovely because we're like going deep into like what's been going on for them their lessons they've been learning and like it just brings such awareness and then that obviously the planting of the seeds for

next year and it's just I don't know I think it's one of my favourite pieces of work that I've built for one-on-one client work um oh that's so great. God. Yeah, because obviously it's a bit like how I work with coaching clients, but it's nice that people can just come and have a one-off with this energy. So yeah, I've really, really enjoyed that. I've really enjoyed working on the app. I've been making lots of changes. So those of you that are in it will probably notice that things are changing a bit inside, which is because now we've got people in there. It's brilliant. People are messaging me with feedback. So it's like we're in this little cocoon stage with current members that were on Patreon. And, you know, someone

messaged me the other day and they were like, this is a bit confusing. And then I was like, right, change that. Like, it's been really, really powerful. So we're sort of in this, like, loads of work is happening, but it's really behind the scenes at the moment. So it's sort of really unfamiliar for me working in this way because I'm used to just being with clients and so yeah so that's kind of where I'm at. We go to Dusseldorf next week for the Christmas markets which is very exciting. Oh that'll be so nice. Yeah and we're watching Love actually in the theatre with a live orchestra tomorrow so oh wow yeah we're getting very very Christmassy and I'm actually taking two weeks off before Christmas as sort of from when we go to Dusseldorf because

I've just been working with clients, like continuously, I think, for about six months without a break. Like, I take time off from other things. So I am really looking forward to just having no Zoom calls for a few weeks in December, into January. So, yeah, oh, really good, really happy going with the flow. So that's me. Love that. Yeah. Yeah, how are you?

What's going on? Yeah, fine really. I've had a bit of a like, I think I've felt really like, what's the word, a bit flat like the last few weeks. I've just been a bit run down. That was what I was meaning. Like I had a time where luckily we weren't recording where I completely lost my voice and then River then got that. So then she was sick. And then Blake then got that. So then she was sick. And then Blake's turned into group and she then she then. I had to take it to A&A at like, I don't even know, was it like midnight or something like that? And you know, you're just like, oh. But luckily they're fine. Like they just needed some medicine and stuff like that. Like they're still a little bit under the weather,

but they're a lot better. And it's just hard when you obviously have plans and you have things booked and then you can't do things and stuff like that. So, yeah, I had a bit of that kind of thing going on. And like, you know, I've got ulcers in my mouth at the moment. And I always get them when I'm a bit run down. So that's a bit of. irritating but um still fine i think it's just it's obviously a busy time of year especially for

the salon so i'm trying to like be here but then it's like as the salon ramps up everything else calms down in a sense of like so andy finishes work today for christmas they finished super early here in dubai and also last this week sorry we had national day as well so he was off for national day which meant cherry was off as well which was my nanny so then I'm then off in inverted commas with the girls obviously at home so then I'm not in work so I feel like I'm less in work mode

but the salon really needs me because it's so busy so it's just a bit of a pull what's the word like a push and pull at the moment but also I guess the girls in the salon are super busy like with their clients at least they're sort of preoccupied they're you know what it was like at Christmas like yeah yeah definitely definitely a lot more going on in the salon and there's more

yeah yeah for like things to go wrong i guess when there's more people in all that sort of stuff i think that's what it is and i think now the salon has grown to what it is it's so much bigger than it's ever than before which is obviously great um but it's kind of getting used to that new normal and then yeah you kind of do need an extra pair of hands on deck i suppose on those especially crazy days but you know it is um what it is so yeah just kind of learning that new new normal really but yeah other than that i would give you some advice Samantha um just take a week off where at least before christmas that you actually i don't know could you do that and i'm looking like absolutely not or like when you can even if it's the new year but just sort of have a

bit of structure because otherwise it feels like it's like when andy's off it's like blurred lines of like you know where maybe you need to just be like I'm in the salon I'll go in Mondays and Wednesdays to check in if everything's okay and then the rest of it you're actually having your time for family time or whatever you know what I actually think that's exactly what it is because as you've said that what's just come to me is it's like when I'm at home I'm not 100% present there because when I'm at home I'm thinking about this and I'm getting messages or you know things like that and then when I'm here I'm not 100% present here

because then I'm thinking well I need to be back home for this and is this going on? Did I order nappies? I've been not got nappies of you know what I mean? So it's like I'm never 100% in each place and I mean I've never even necessarily spoken about this but I definitely think I have some form as I think everybody does of like ADHD or something like that

my brain is a million miles an hour and it does not calm down and recently it's even more so it just can't focus and like every time I try and focus on something I get diverted onto something else and I think yeah that that's probably just a little bit

chaotic at the moment but like you say I probably do need to just take a little bit of a step back and reset 100% whenever I feel like that I don't charge forward because I'm like, I'm just going to charge forward in the worst possible way and actually just stopping tends to be the thing that helps me.

I felt that with the app about, it was probably a month ago now. I just didn't, I just stopped working for a week. Now, I know everyone hasn't got the luxury of doing that and obviously you've got employees and stuff, but I was getting so consumed and obsessed

and then everything else was just not great. You know, I was sort of not focusing on other things in my life. I was like, I'm just going to take a week off because I cannot see clearly. And it was like I let, I always think of it, right? When you walk in the sea and as soon as your feet touch the sand, all the sand comes up, the water goes murky, and that's what your brain is. And then you just need to like let the sand go all the way down, all the way back. And then the water's clear again.

And then you're like, right, I know where I'm going. And I think that's, that's probably what will help you is just stopping at some. somewhere where you can that feels okay and you know you might not be able to do a week but you know work out how can you do December with Andy there so you can have family time and also feel like you're giving the salon the right amount of support you know yeah yeah definitely yeah absolutely we've got a stake-a booked the 21st the 23rd of December with his mom and dad are over so that'll be really nice so that'll feel like that but I am actually rushing back on the 23rd to get into the salon on the 23rd so it's a bit half and half but yeah no they'll they'll definitely still be some

off time um yeah but yeah anyway just long weekends being the salon Wednesday to a Thursday to Thursday like four days off of weekends yeah yeah exactly yeah 100% um but yeah I'll figure it out um but yeah just getting used to that that the new normal basically that is what how it is now Yeah, it's all from success of the business, the busy salon, but it's like, yeah, new energy, how do you work with it? Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. So should we get into these questions? Because there are some juicy big questions.

And so basically what I noticed, we've had, like I say, we have had loads of questions been sent in, which honestly, thank you so, so much. And I'm the kind of person where when these questions come in, I wish I could just reply to that person straight away to, like, give. them an answer of like or what I thought um I can't do that anyway because it's anonymous but um yeah it's um there have been some really um you know deep questions as well but what I noticed with a few of them is there was a little bit of a theme so I thought let's put these three questions specifically together um and let's speak about this obviously we'll answer each question

but also answer them as a bit of a whole um as a bit of advice because there has definitely been a big notice with these that have been kind of linked to a similar theme which has been about like with their partner these are specifically women so it's about their husband and how they're feeling in a relationship how they feel about themselves in that relationship as well um so right we'll delve into the first one anyway and we'll get into it so girls the pod is amazing love listening to you both and thank you both for sharing your lives and giving so much back I'm a new mum and so grateful for my little one,

but I feel like I have lost myself a bit. I keep bickering with my husband and feel it's changed our marriage. I've also given up my career so I feel very lost. I desperately need some direction in life. Sam, I'd love to hear how you have navigated being a mom, wife and career. Thank you. P.S., congrats on your boyfriend, Jess. So happy for you.

Thanks, that's very sweet. Yeah, so that is a lovely, um, like question as well um but also like when i read this my heart like it pulled on me a little bit yeah because i feel like i know exactly how this person feels and have been in that exact position and i just want to say it is so normal like when you have had a child you are a different person there's a reason why you then have this title of being a mum because you are now a different person and you're not just you. You're you and you're also a mum to a child. And you have a huge responsibility that is now on your shoulders that you've never had before. You become a different

person when you've gone through pregnancy, when you have given birth, when you then have a child anyway, you almost do develop a whole new identity. Throw on top of that the fact that you've given up your career, which I don't know, but say, for example, that career gave you a lot of purpose. maybe it gave you a lot of your identity and maybe it even gave you some of your happiness as well. So if you've given that up, even if you didn't have a child, you would feel like a different person. So to add on top of that, having a child, it would really make you feel lost. And when you feel lost, of course you're going to bicker with your husband. I just want adding this as well like I feel like I'm waffling a bit here but um I remember when I was

pregnant and I went on holiday with um we went on holiday with our friends who have kids and basically we're all friends in this like couple group and we all went on holiday and two of my friends the lads had gone out and two of my friends we were sat having dinner and they were basically just like and I'm sorry if you're listening girls but they were kind of slagging off the partners basically and they were like moaning about them and just like oh they're doing this I know they're doing this. And I was looking at them thinking, oh my God, is this what I've got to come?

Because I was pregnant at the time. And I was thinking, wow, like they are in loving, happy relationships and they're just like slating their partners to me. But the reality of it is that when you have a baby, it does become very tip-for-ta-ta-tah. And it's so hard to see what the other person does. And, you know, you'll be thinking, well, I've done, and he'll be thinking,

thinking, well, I do, da-da-da-da-da. And it's a constant competition and battle. And I just want to say to this person, it's so normal. Like, don't stress. It is so, so, so normal. Yeah, it is. And it's something that, like, so many clients talk to me about. Now, obviously, I can't relate. I'm, you know, I had a four-hour nap yesterday, basically, because I came on my period. So, like, you know, I, I can't relate to this situation but what I can share from working with clients is you have to find something for you that's small to start off with okay and I think as women what we tend to do is we we've been taught to like sacrifice our needs to cater for the world and and we're changing that now you know we've got careers or even if we stop our career you know we have more choice now

but with that is like we need to be this perfect woman that can be everything. Can it? It's difficult. But I find that like we all feel better if we take a small moment out of our day, wherever we can to do something for ourselves. And I know it feels simple and maybe like, oh, you know, I thought about that. But if you actually do it, you will feel better. You know, it's like just go for that swim or, you know, how can you find, I don't know,

something that fills your cup slightly and it's important that you communicate that with your partner because just because you've given up your career and you're at home all the time doesn't mean you get time for yourself. So I think the first thing would be having a conversation that you need something for you whether that's, you know, every other week, once a week, I don't know, once a day, whatever works for your sort of circumstance that can build that in. And it might feel really uncomfortable but I think that's the starting point you know and how can you do that I had it with a client the other day and I don't know if this person's in Dubai but this client was like I used to love riding my bike down kite beach and I was like right after the school run go to kite beach and ride

your bike and she did it and she was like I feel like a different woman and it's not that she's going to be doing that every day every week but now when she's a bit like bloody hell I'm doing everything you're pissing me off like I do nothing for myself in that moment she's like right I'm going to go for a bike ride at kite beach do you know what I mean or whatever like I go for a walk in the woods you know or something it doesn't need to be huge um so like you know if you can sort of bring that in because I think what it comes down to with bickering in general is resentment you know you've got this resentment to someone and you're not telling them you're just getting and everything they do starts to annoy you.

And what happens with that energy builds up. And that's where stagnant energy comes in. And then that's where the relationship can feel difficult, like, sexually. You're like, I actually don't feel like, you know, very sexual right now because I've got all this stagnant resentment, you know. So you want to clear it, you want to move it, you know. How can you release that? Well, stepping into your power in your own way.

And that's sort of the more tantric way of looking after your energy. So that's what I would say to this person Just from a sort of coaching perspective there Yeah, I think for me The things that I've done to be able to start to feel better Through this like motherhood journey Has absolutely been either getting up early Always a wake up before the kids

Because that just makes it starts my day a bit better And it doesn't even have to be an hour It can be half an hour But it just makes me feel a bit better Going for a walk on my own I put my earphones in, I reply to voice notes, I ring a friend, I listen to a podcast, listen to an audio book, whatever it is,

that for me is my time that makes me feel sane. It could be having a bath in the evening. But like you say, it's something that makes you feel good. And that can be something small every day. And then I would say take time once a week, once every two weeks, whatever it is, that's something that's made maybe more substantial bit of time. did you feel like you had to sort of have a conversation with Andy

to be like I need a bit of time for my walks or like did you need to sort of work out? I don't know if I've been I'm very fortunate that me and Andy have always had very good communication and we're very good at sensing when the other person needs some time you know so for example if he will see if I'm stressed and he'll be like, just go and take yourself off for 30 minutes. He'll be like, I'll do this and you go and take yourself off for 30 minutes.

So he's very good at that and vice versa. So we are definitely on the same page when it comes to things like that. But I think he knows me obviously well enough. Now we've been together for a very long time. So he knows like the exercise for me is something that I have to do to feel good or food or whatever. But yeah, I probably had to have a conversation with him in a sense of mine's more food, actually funnily enough so if i'm eating bad food i feel like shit but i'm also the kind of person

where if i let him take charge of what we might be eating for dinner so say for example if he's going to order something i'll just go along with whatever he wants even though i know it's going to make me feel like crap so i probably had to have more of a conversation with him to say i'm not feeling great i need to eat better but i need you to support me on it and he'd be like right yeah yeah yeah so mine's more with things like that um but yeah i probably did have a conversation with them in terms of saying like i need to take a little bit more time but i don't think it was necessarily as conscious as that because we are quite good at just being like no i need this bit of time so he knows like as soon as i finish on a finish work on an evening it's putting the girls

to bed i literally they go down my air pods go in and i'm out that door yeah yeah so you get that time Okay, that's good. Yeah, that would be my advice. Right, let's look at the second one. I'll pull some cards on this one. Do you want to read it out? Yeah, okay. So I feel disconnected from my husband.

We are just coexisting with our two-year-old. The spark has almost gone out. I find myself dreaming about a perfect life, a husband that I have more things in common with, a husband that appreciates me and takes an interest in my life. He's not a bad guy, but we have years of fertility strain on us. I've taken two years off work to be a mum, and now I'm starting to work a little bit more again. We've lost what we love about each other.

We've lost connection, and I struggle to open up to him. He's a Scorpio and closed off, and we both bottle things up, and then it blows up, and it's swept under the carpet again. I want to know from Spirit if there is hope and some guidance, and I also want to know from Sam, do I need to check myself as a mum and a wife and be more grateful? I mean, that killed me at the end. Like, I would never turn around and be like, you need to be more grateful for what you've got at all because that sounds like a really hard situation.

And in any hard situation, it is very hard to look at what you've got and be grateful because you feel a weight of the situation on your shoulders. Of course, you have things to be grateful. for everybody has things to be grateful for but you're also in a very hard situation and i think when you're married to someone you're living with someone that energy is around you every day that by the sounds of things is weighing on you along with you've said you've had years of fertility strain i can only imagine how heavy that must be and you must carry that with you literally like every day so

please don't think that, you know, there's something that you need to check about yourself or anything like that. I think that communication is always key. And I think if you're feeling a certain way, then, you know, you've said that you bottle things up and it blows up, but maybe try not bottling things up and maybe try having that conversation in a calm environment where it doesn't blow up and the more you do it the easier it's going to become to have those conversations it's not easy but if you're feeling it I'm going to imagine he is too yeah yeah definitely I think that's really good advice and while you were speaking I pulled some cards for this question and I got the page of cups and the page of swords and it's like

you're both showing up in this energy now the pages are like the apprentices so they're those that are sort of they're not they're not complete you know they've got more work to do so like what this shows me is this relationship is quite karmic and you're here to really teach each other lessons those lessons don't need to be like i'm teaching you a lesson it's more what is this teaching me what is this showing me you know so like sam said you're bottling things up that's probably not the best solution okay you know it's like you've both got closed throat chakras You need to be opening them up more communicating as things happen. And then if you communicate more regularly, then, yeah, you're going to have less opportunity

for like a massive explosion because the thing is, with a massive blow up, you say things that you regret and you can't always come back from those things, you know, especially if he's a Scorpio, you know, Scorpio's have the sting. and also a Sculpio will bring out your Sculpio. So there'll be Sculpio in your chart that's going to be a bit more fuelled by this. So, you know, it has this ability to go one of two ways. So like what comes up for me is that you're both just in your shadow

a bit at the moment in the relationship, like you're not showing up as your best selves. Now, what I would advise is it's not about really the relationship right now. It's about you and how you can show up as your best selves. you can show up as your best self for yourself and for your child. You know, if you can do that, then you're able to do that in the relationship. If you're just doing it for the relationship, it's like you're doing it off an empty tank. Like, focus on your own fuel.

It sounds like right now you're quite disconnected. Obviously, you've said that. So, you know, you've lost yourself. You're not your best self. So, you know, the page of cups and the page of swords is like, okay, it's time to relearn who you are who are you how are you going to show up um for yourself and you know and maybe by doing that you're going to feel a difference in the relationship now with your comment you've said to sam about sort of do i need to check in with myself as a mom and sort of be more grateful

do you know what like gratitude is great but sometimes you're in a situation where you're like i'm actually like not loving it like you know and i think that's quite hard to accept in life you know we're all sort of want this perfect life and whatever but you know it's okay to feel disappointed about your situation and i actually would ask you to spend a bit more time sort of acknowledging that disappointment than sort of gaslighting it with gratitude all right so don't be like you know sort of too focused on that and look at the disappointment because if you do that you might be able to problem solve it a bit more and sort of go actually i'm really disappointed that I am, you know, a bit reserved and snappy or whatever and how can I get better at that?

Now, what I would say to you as well, and this is just the more spiritual perspective, take the spotlight off of your husband and just put it on you, okay, and just look at the things that you want to improve in yourself, because I imagine what's going on right now is you're both looking at each other going, you're this, you're that, and you're missing the lesson. So, first of all, just how. have a little bit of focus, a little bit of time. It's a journey that you're on and you've chose each other for a reason.

Don't miss what's been shown to you from the spirit world because I think you are with the focus on each other instead of yourself. Yeah. I literally was just listening to you speak and just thinking absolutely exactly that. Like I think it is really hard. But when you're saying, because I'm just looking back at the question now and when you've said about you want a husband that appreciates you takes an interest in your life those kind of things you do have to look at yourself and are you

reciprocating that like are you doing that back to him because you are obviously both probably going to have that negativity towards one another and be nitpicking at each other and you have to show up as the version of you that you want to be in that relationship as well you can't just expect him to um relationships sorry sam to no relationships are so spiritual um and and and And there's such deep learnings in them, whatever layer you're at. And like, you know, when you start to look at the spiritual element of a relationship, there's so much more that you can get from it. But what we do is we stay on the surface and we go into comparison and all these things.

And especially in Dubai, I'll be honest with you. You know, Dubai has a bit of a like comparison energy. and you know you sort of think that other people have got everything and they haven't all right it's just sort of the world of social media so if this person is in Dubai like just also be mindful of you know not everything is true what's around you maybe have a break from social media as well if that's not helping you well good luck and keep us posted on how you get on so question three this one's a little bit more of a shorter one so my husband and auntie I have just reached our second anniversary, which he did nothing for, by the way. Life and marriage seems impossible. Should I walk away now for the sake of our son, or will things improve? Feel as if I'm fighting for it on my own. He blames work, stress and our child.

He is so negative and draining. Right. Okay. Well, this feels very much a heavier energy for this person. And it feels to me that you've kind of, you're sort of done, it feels. Sounds to me like you've checked out. Yeah. Yeah, definitely.

So let's have a little look at the cards with what messages come through here because, you know, we're not, we need to work out. And what's going on here. Okay. All right. So we've actually got some interesting cards. We've got the ace of sorts. We've also got the lovers.

Now, the lovers does actually represent choice. So you have got a choice to make this person. And also the three of pentacles, which is a nice card. So I feel like you're both just existing. You know, you're not connected one bit in this relationship. And, you know, you have got this choice to make whether you walk away or not. Now, I'm not going to tell you you should walk away. or you shouldn't, only you'll know that.

But what I will say to you, again, it's similar to the second one, there's loads of karma here, there's loads of lessons. Now, I don't know what this person's relationship is like with men or their dad. I'm not sure, but there's something coming through about the masculine, like they always let you down, or there's something about the energy of that. And I just want you to explore it because I think there's some lessons there. I do feel like you're neglected in this marriage like I do feel like you're not seen

and I do feel like it's not fulfilling you at all and I think you also are very reliant on this relationship to fill all of you and that it's sort of the only thing sort of serving you and actually there's other parts of your life okay there's other things you can fuel yourself with you know and this is similar it's such a theme for everyone how can you fill your own cup because i just feel like everything feels heavy for this person

you know nothing's working um and it's all their partners full and i'm asking this person i'm sorry because it might trigger you to take a little bit of responsibility for your life and look at where can i make changes to have a bit more like glimmers and and spark. And I think that's what you start with. I feel like you could walk away, like financially and things. Like I think you'll be okay. I'm not too concerned about that. But I think in general, you're just a bit, the energy's like the world's against you and it doesn't need to be like that. Okay. And so we want to explore how can you bring that free. Now, what I would say to this person, you're probably going to get a better experience if you do just have a proper reading

because this is quite a big life question. And I don't know you. Well, I might know you, but I don't know you from the anonymous. So I have to be a bit mindful of how much I share because I don't want you making major life decisions from this. But what I would say is we've got to find a little bit of your glimmers and spark and how do we do that before we make big decisions because actually your energy is quite low.

So like when we're in a low vibration, it's not always the best time to make major life decisions. We want to kind of bring it up so then we can get clearer on that. And that's what the Ace of Swords is, finding that clarity. And then from that we can work out, okay, yes, actually, now I'm in a bit more of a higher state. I can see that this doesn't serve me. And that's okay. Like, I'm not someone who is like, you have to stay in marriage forever. If it's not working, it's not serving you, then we need to look at that.

but we just want you to feel a bit more clearer from the spirit world, raise your energy a bit more so that we can see things from a different perspective. Yeah. I agree with everything you've just said. I think it sounds really hard and it sounds like you said, like the energy in it is very, very low. And you have to obviously protect yourself but look after yourself at the same time through that. And also I'm not necessarily a psychic that will be like,

my god get rid of him like i'm like look at the lessons what is this teaching you what is this showing you what do you want to do from this like this is more about me empowering you to find the strength to work it out yourself because the lovers is a choice and you do have a choice and you're scared to make it and we want to work out why yeah i think that's good good advice absolutely well thank you for everybody's questions there like i say we will be answering more on the next episode and I think to be honest the general theme of that is look after yourself make time for yourself focus on yourself on your own self-development on your own self-worth and a lot of other things fall into place when you do that definitely and it's you know the life

of being sort of a mom a wife and a woman in general there's so much to juggle but like we say we see these themes coming up for so many of us. We've got a sort of look at different paths now. Like what we've been told to do hasn't worked. We're not doing it. So, you know, I'm pleased that you're all listening to this podcast and you're more on your spiritual paths because I do think that when we're more in our spiritual path,

the divine feminine energy can flow through. You know, you're able to sort of lift your energy more because, you know, it can be difficult, you know, and you're all doing an amazing job and it's tough and I think it is just making those little moments for you and there's so many practices you can do but that involves discipline and time which is something which is a luxury you know so it's hard to manage but just give us a shout you know if any of you need a bit more support just let us know we consult something well thank you so much for listening to this week's episode if you want to

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