Spiritually Speaking with Jessica & Samantha - Showing Up as Your Best Self

Episode Date: October 3, 2025

In this week’s episode of Spiritually Speaking, we’re shifting the spotlight to health and wellness — exploring the small but powerful changes that help you show up as your very best self.Sam takes the lead in guiding us through this conversation, sharing her wisdom on simple upgrades to your daily routine, easy shifts that support both mental and emotional wellbeing, and how to create a lifestyle that makes you feel good from the inside out.We talk about what it really means to prioritise yourself in a busy world, how to find balance without overwhelm, and the little choices that build true confidence in everyday life.If you’ve been wanting to feel more energised, grounded, and authentically yourself, this episode will give you the inspiration (and practical tips) to start showing up in a way that feels aligned and empowered.

Hello and welcome back to spiritually speaking with me Sam and with me Gis. Welcome back. Welcome back guys. Does this actually go out today? It will do, yes. You're right. Yeah. Okay. So we're literally recording and then it's going to go out. That's good. I thought that this morning. I was like, are we recording on the day it's going out? I couldn't remember. Live and ready. We are indeed. So at least you're literally finding out what's going on in the moment and not like a week before. so yeah how are you i'm good babes i'm good i am working very hard at the moment which is like quite consuming for me but really good and i had a really nice meeting yesterday with the team that are working with me to help build out the app and i got my first visuals which was sent to

you it looks so good like honestly i'm buzzing i'm just so excited because it just feels like for the last however many years of my business, it just feels incredibly inefficient now with all these changes is just, it's going to be like a whole level up, which is very exciting because whether you're in like the academy or you're having coaching with me or if you're part of the circle community, you just go into this app and it's all there. I'm just buzzing. Like I'm proper over the moon. It'll be so accessible for people. And like me and Jess would just saying that sometimes, you know, you can have like, say it's a monthly call or whatever kind of program that you're in. And then between those months, when you want to do more

things that are aligned to that, now these people have got access to that all the time, which will just be so good. Well, there's so much like self-led things in there so that you're able, because I think when you're on your intuitive and spiritual path, it's not like you're always on it, like you can come on and off it quite regularly. which is the whole point, you know, it's intuitively led. So then having it there just means that when you're really on, you've just got all this stuff. And then, you know, and when you're not, it's okay.

And it just, it's there and you just do it at your own pace. And I don't know, I'm just really excited. I just feel like really proud of myself. Like I know that sounds like really excited for you. No, you should be proud of yourself. You've done so much hard work. Like not just even just recently. Like, given years that I've led to this to be able to be possible.

But especially now. It's nice. It feels good. So I'm feeling very, very excited, really happy in that side of things, less overwhelmed as I was when we last recorded. And it's become like way more enjoyable, which is really nice. I think I just, I think I had a bit of a pep talk with myself because I could see myself spiraling quite a lot. I think this was also over the eclipse season, which I think quite a few of us had a bit of a rocky time over the eclipse portal. But I just felt so out of control. So I've just been catching the spirals a bit more when they appear. And the other day there was like something with like HMRC and this code. And I just couldn't get access to it. And you know when you could just like cry? And I just thought, no, it's it will work out. You will get the code.

And then I just sort of like caught it. And then like two days later the code came in the post. It was all sorted. And I was like, I'm growing. Like. Yeah. you know I've just had a few little wobbles so that's that but like really excited feeling very positive I'm buzzing for Christmas I know it's already you know October I know it's not that

we've got a bit of time but I'm definitely maybe that's been in the English now I was just about to say that is that because you're in the UK and you've had that first feeling of like coldness and you're like oh my God Christmas autumnal vibes and I have cooked booked the Christmas market in Germany in Dusseldorf, which I'm buzzing about. I've always wanted to do that. Oh, well, nice. Yeah, so that's really good. So that's like, I think, 10 days before Christmas.

So that would be lovely. Yeah, I know very cute. Yeah, which is nice. So that's all good. Ben and I went to Parma, which was really nice. First little holiday. Loved it. Really nice.

Really like Palmer, but I prefer Ibifa. I feel like it's massive. Like I didn't, I was sort of excited for Ireland. life how I be fulfilled but I felt like I was sort of in Barcelona or one of the big cities but it was a bit more built up yeah and like the old like the main town where the cathedral is is really cool it's really beautiful we went to like a really nice beach club and had like a really lovely day like a bit of a bougie day um which obviously is always you know at the core of who I am you know to have that in my life so that was good um and and

And yeah, it was just really nice, nice to spend time with someone. And I think also, obviously, I've travelled so much on my own. It was just really nice to experience it with somebody, which was lovely. He was like, oh, look after the passports. And I was like, okay, this is weird. Like, I know I did nearly lose my passport of Gatwick on the way to Mexico. But that was, like, weird, but a funny way, it was really sweet. Yeah, I bet.

He's a capable adult, so am I. But do you know what? you can have the passports. Yeah. So it's just like, you know, being with someone at the airport's actually really weird. Like I'm just so used to being on my own and headphones on, you know, just so it was nice, really different but really lovely. And last little bit of sunshine before, autumnal vibes.

And yeah, just I feel happy. I feel content. I'll be honest with you. I just feel very at peace right now. and grateful for that feeling. Good. Yeah. So that's me.

How are you? What's going on? I am good. I'm glad that we're reporting now, and not last week, because last week would have had a very different me on this podcast. But today I feel really good. The nail side of the salon is actually turned in one today.

I know. Congratulations. Thank you. I didn't even realise it until, this morning and then I was like oh shit it's been a year like today so that's really nice it's been a year Sam I know yeah a lot obviously has happened in that year um so yeah it's really nice really nice to um notice that recognize that I suppose mark the occasions so that's really nice um last week I had a really shitty week like you know and you have

everyone who's listening to this and follows me on Instagram will be like the amount of stuff that happened was just not normal and everybody just kept saying to me like surely this has got to be it and then it wasn't and I actually didn't even post the main thing that happened to me that week either

and it was just one of those weeks where you like in pure survival mode yeah so I mean I'll share it on here because I'm not bothered but so literally on the Monday I just as normal sat down and went to start my work and the short version of this story

is that one of my staff members fucked off to the Cayman Islands and I'm sorry Lindsay Jess's mum for swearing but that is what she did and has moved to the Cayman Islands and disappeared I have not heard from her she has not handed a notice in she's not said bye she's not said sorry.

I literally have not heard one word from her since she was supposed to be in work on that day with clients booked in and is now living in the Cayman Islands. I obviously did a deep dive stalk on Instagram, found the salon that she's been working in, everything. And yeah, the reason I found out is because she told one of my other staff members who told me.

And obviously she just didn't come to work, I assume. She just didn't turn up to work. She was during work at 12. She had clients booked in, and at 10 a.m. on that day, I got a text from my other nail tech. He was like, please don't be, you know, upset, but something has happened. And then I was like, what? And she sent me screenshots of her messages with her, but they're all into Garlog. They're not in English.

So I was like, Cherry, my nanny, like, come and look at these messages. Can you translate for me? Then in the end, I put them into chat, GPT, and it translated them all. And I just couldn't believe it. Yeah. It's such a shame. It's really, I think that when this was happening, Sam had message me. And I was like, I think this is sort of the nature of Dubai in this sense with work and things.

There's a little bit less commitment maybe at times. I think as well, I think there's, we deal with a lot of different nationalities in Dubai. Everybody has different experiences of where they've come from. And predominantly some nationalities really struggle with communication because they have been met with not very nice people in the past. And it's really sad because on my side, I know that had she just come to me and said, I've had this opportunity to move to the Cayman Islands and I really want to go.

I'd be like, look, I'm so proud of you for doing something different and doing something out of your comfort zone. But we do have a protocol that we need to follow. so you just need to do you notice, and then you can go. It's simple as that. But instead, she told me her mum was sick, asked borrow money,

which obviously Muggins here sent her, and just left. So anyway, it is what it is. I was dealing with that. It is a betrayal, and that was probably the hardest part of the whole thing was because if I had to think about who could ever do that to me,

I mean, I'd never think any of them would, but I really wouldn't have thought that she would. So, yeah, anyway. So we're dealing with that. then alongside that both the girls were really sick and to the point where Blake was actually in A&E and I know obviously we've spoken about this before on the podcast and how I have probably projected

some of my own experiences of being sick and fears from when I was a baby onto Blake and that was very much mirrored to me on that day because she had croup and I had croup when I was exactly her age and I was in intensive care for five days. So when she was showing signs of it, at first I didn't really think that it was crew,

but it was just really scary. Like she was up through the night. And when she was breathing, she was literally going like, like that. And it was like she was really struggling to breathe. So that was that anyway. So I was dealing with that. Then River got an ear infection.

Then I didn't have a car for a week. Then when I did go to get my car, car i then got locked in the car showroom for an hour and a half while they went to go and pray um yeah it was just one thing after the other but anyway i survived it i'm here and this week i'm having a fabulous week so so this week we're gonna have a bit of um sam's gonna you know sort of share some insights into sort of living your best life in a way and how you can sort of show up in the best way and last week i was like just i don't think the energy going to be on point for this episode so we ended up just having to catch up

talking which is obviously what's so lovely about our friendship is that we definitely take it in time to be each other's therapist which is always lovely yeah yeah exactly it's it was needed and yeah it's so helpful to have that definitely and to have that relationship with you is a absolute blessing in my life but I feel very ready to talk about it this week pretty here yeah last week just wouldn't wouldn't have been, wouldn't have been the vibe. Why don't you share with the listeners what the topic is today and what we're going to discuss?

So we are going to be talking about how you can do, create small incremental changes in your life to make a big difference to how you feel, to how you attract the life that you want to live. So when I say small incremental changes, These can be habits. These can be things that you can change quite easily. Everything is quite different. But when we think about attracting the life that you really want to live, to be able to, you know, if we all kind of romanticise and visualize the goal, right, or the end post that you think about and the life that you really, really want to live,

it might be quite far away from where you are now. It might not be. But if it is really far away, then there's obviously a lot that needs to change to get there. But actually what needs to change can be very small, minute things that over time add up and add up to big changes. Yeah, definitely. And that's why I want people to realize that it doesn't have to be huge things like quitting your job or, you know, start in a business. It doesn't even have to be those things.

It can be just very minute things, which is what you do in your everyday life. Absolutely. And I think that's it, like, I've definitely got better at making small changes and knowing that sort of with time you see the results of those changes and it can feel Absolutely. I mean, think about you now with not drinking alcohol. Yeah. Or, you know, very limited compared to what?

A few drinks in Palma, but nothing crazy. I mean, who doesn't on the holidays. But what I mean is before you were probably having a glass of wine maybe every other night. Oh, good. Like when I was, I was drinking beer all the time. I'm in Thailand and Vietnam. But yeah, like those sort of gradual changes and the same with coffee, you know, that's definitely a big thing.

But it took me time to bring habits. I think I'm less of a proactive habit changer. I have to really force it. And this is why I think people need to remain like be kind to yourself through this process. because just because you decide that you're going to wake up every day at five and then one day you don't do it doesn't mean you failed. Yeah.

It just meant that that day you didn't do it. Like that's okay because some days you need a little bit of extra sleep or, you know, that's okay to do that. And even for me, for example, before summer, I was waking up at five every day going for a walk and then through summer didn't do that. When I got back, didn't. And then I've only just started doing it again now.

So just give yourself a bit of grace, but just try and stick to these small changes that we're going to talk about because they really can amount some big changes in your life. Yeah, definitely. Sorry, just really quickly to touch on that. But I think you're way more disciplined than a lot of people I know. So, like, you're, there is an element of you that discipline works quite well for you, I think. Like, when you have that control and discipline, you really flourish.

that's a thing I noticed with you in your life. Yeah, you know what? I think the big thing for me came from with that was when I, so when I was about 21, it became very strict that I couldn't have milk in my diet. And it was really affecting me really badly. And I'd had a lot of time through my childhood where I couldn't have it, but then could have it. And then from 21 it was like, you can't have it.

And I had to just not have milk. And I found that really hard. Because at that time, when you were going to restaurants and things, it wasn't as easy as what it is now. There wasn't as many alternatives. They had cheese and everything. Like, it was really difficult. And at the time, I also had to try and cut out gluten.

Now, to try and cut out those two things together was just horrendous. And I would literally leave restaurants just in tears because I just couldn't eat anything. It was quite like a really sad time. But what it really showed me was how much discipline I had. Because I thought to myself, If I can give up chocolate, if I can give up cheese, if I can give up butter on toast, if I can, you know, give up all of these things that I love, then I can really do anything.

Yeah, yeah, definitely. So I think that's the best thing ever. Yeah, exactly. So I think that's where like the discipline really came from. But so the first part of this, we are going to talk about how you show up. Now, when I say show up, I mean how you show up to life every day. I don't mean how you show up to work, but that can be part of it. I mean how you show up as yourself to yourself every day.

So I always remember going to go and see one of my friends who lives in Dubai. She's a doctor. And I remember going to go and see her one day and walking into her office and just looking at her and thinking, God, she dresses well every day. Like I've never, ever seen her and she's not dressed well. like she's always dressed so smart and even if it's casual it's smart you know like she just looks good every day and i remember thinking to myself i literally walked out of her office and in my head said to myself you dress for success yeah you do and she shows up every day as that

version of herself and i've never even said that to her but it really made me start thinking about the way that I show up for myself every day and what that can mean is when for example you're even if you're just working from home for the day wear something nice yeah it doesn't have to be a suit but it can be something nice that can be either full of coordinated or comfortable or something that compliments you or something that's not your pajamas basically like get dressed and really take time and energy into that changing into something else to show up for yourself into who it is that you are going to be that day. I think so.

Like growing up, my dad worked from home, which was obviously less common. And he used to wear his suit every day in his shoes. That is so good. And like, because we had wooden floor, he'd have his shoes on. And, you know, that was his discipline for working from home. home and I think for me like I obviously I basically work from home my whole business is at home just work online I'm wearing jeans today on this call and because I do find if I wear jeans I feel a little bit more I don't know like just it's different to wear my pajamas but I will be honest

I'm more of a comfy babe when I work from home but what I have done and anyone in England and actually do you have a next in Dubai I can't remember yeah we do I do. They've got this new brand within Next called The Set. And basically it's like, it's their own brand. And it's like lots of sets of t-shirts, jogging bottoms, leggings, hoodies, coats, everything, right? Yeah. I just did this big haul from the set.

And they're all the same shades of like creams, pinks, browns and sort of soft, sort of white, grey. And now I'm like, right, I can wear those. leggings with that top, that jumper, and then I've got a little jillet. And I feel like I have this little capsule wardrobe for being at home now. But every time I look at myself, I'm like, oh, like, you know, really nice. Like, yeah, it's casual and comfy, but I sort of have done that and it has made a difference because I just have the fear of COVID where I would look in the mirror every day and be like, you minger, sort yourself out, you know? Like, it was bad. And I think that that is a big part of it is that, you know, it doesn't have to be, like we say,

like a suit. It can be casual clothes that are really comfortable, but just something that looks, that little bit smarter, and just says to yourself, I am getting dressed for today. I am ready for today. I am energized. Yeah. You know, I'm not half asleep. It makes you feel a bit better. And I think starting to just look at yourself each day, and think, what am I dressing for today? Definitely, I think that's really important. I do. Yeah, and then, so that is one of the points that I've made on it.

Now, I've then put some little, like, small changes and big changes in how you show up. So, for example, some small changes in how you can show up is things like upgrading your knickers and socks and throwing away your old ones. Yeah, I did that the other day. Yeah, and doesn't it make you feel better? My underwear, these are from George, so again, I'm doing some shoutouts for the UK brands. They're like really good quality, really nice fabric. And I hate wearing wired bras, like I've got big boobs.

I hate wearing wired bras. They just, and then I was sort of wearing sports bras. And of the guys, I've got a boyfriend now. You know, I need to be, I need to show up a bit more, you know. And they've got these really nice, like sort of soft kind of skims fabric, I think, kind of triangle, but fitted for big boobs. they're that unbelievable so I'd really recommend them but I have always been a bit terrible with underwear even to a point that I was in a village hall with a psychic like in front of a group

and she told me you're really bad with underwear you need to buy new underwear and I was like you're actually right like you're spot on babes I'm a naked girl like any chance to be naked but yeah you're right underwear is very is a good one so yeah throw away your old stuff like I had, this morning actually, I'd put socks on and then I went to and get changed to get ready for work and I realized that my sock had a hole in it and I was like, right, you're being thrown away. And I just put it straight away in the bin. So I was like, no, we're not keeping them. Like throw away your old stuff that you've had for like 10 years and just you don't have to spend a lot of money. And this is why I'm saying it's a small change. It doesn't have to be a big investment, but buy yourself some decent underwear. And then again, with the small change, changes. I've said wash and blow dry your hair. Yeah. If you wash and blow dry your hair, I can guarantee you will feel better than before you did it. It makes you feel so much better and stop letting it dry naturally and it getting really like frizzy and just, you know, yeah, blow dry it. Just blow dry it. I can't be asked. I've

got so much hair spent file. What I do, can I just give my thing? I fringe plat it. I've got a French plat in right now because Sam's point of face. she's like, come on, get on, I can't do a bit more than that. I just can't be asked, especially living in hot countries. I don't, I actually don't own like a hair utensil anymore. Like, it's that. I have got a Dyson hair dryer because it's cold now. I just can't be asked.

My arm aches. Also, when I blow dry my hair, I start thinking about scenarios from like 10 years ago. It's a really weird thing. Do you have that? Okay. No, I don't. I would start booking in for blow dryers then if I was you. Just every now and then, booking for a blowdry.

Because these things, that was actually on my big changes, but these things make a big difference. I will do that. Honestly, it really does make a difference. Like I very much used to, you know, like on the days when my hair wasn't as nice, I'd like scrape it back and it be, you know, in a bun or a ponytail or whatever, and I could kind of get away with it still looking all right. And don't get me wrong, once a weekish, I'm still doing that, maybe twice a week.

but I notice on those days I don't feel as nice and I don't necessarily want to show up the same way and because I've been having to record a lot of videos for different contents of things recently I've been like no I need to wash my hair like you know I can't do it as well when I've not done my hair

and I think just washing and blow drying your face makes a big your hair sorry makes big difference I will say one thing I and this is probably also really bad and whatever I have to wash my hair every day because I feel dirty otherwise like I really do. Okay well that surprises me. Yeah like I am a every day. Why does that surprise you spend fun?

It surprises me because you have a lot of hair and you shouldn't need to wash it every day. I have so much hair. It's ridiculous and it's like so hard to manage. But I just find if my hair's greasy, I feel gross. And the minute there's a little bit of grease, I just feel like I'm the dirtiest human. So I get that then. in terms of, obviously, I wanted to blow dry every day. But that's where, again, then, just washing it. Because some people will just not wash it. And it's like, just wash your hair, makes you feel better.

Wash your face, make it feel like it's a facial. When you're washing it, you know, treat your skin nicely, do those things. And apply makeup on a day where you ordinarily wouldn't. And it doesn't have to be a lot. It can just be a little bit of something, but it can really just make you feel like you're showing up to the day in a different way. Definitely. The big changes that I would say along this would be,

buy in investment pieces that last you a long time so when it comes to your clothes for example you might decide to buy something that you ordinarily wouldn't spend as much money on but then it's going to last you a really long time you could invest in weekly blow drys or monthly facials and again these are more bigger changes bigger investments but can lead to long term you know definitely like when I was in Dubai I was I still get my nails down here because I think is really important. I don't know why. I've always liked to having my nails done. And do you know what? There's part of me that's like, as women, we have so much pressure to be, you know, well kept. And part of me gets annoyed about that. But another part of me is like, do you know what? I look

at my nails and make me happy. So, you know, the feminist in me can handle that. I feel like when it comes to all these things, I'm useless compared to you. So like all these things, I'm writing it down. Oh, yeah, that's a good idea. Dubai is much easier. to get facials. I know you can do it at home, but it's always a little bit more ag. I think, like, for me, putting makeup on does actually make a difference.

Like, when I put a bit of foundation and fill my eyebrows in, I'm like, oh, do you know what? I feel nice. I feel much better. And I know that now, like, to do that, especially not having a tan as much. Like, a braudo would never wear makeup at a home.

I feel a little bit more. And I actually did think to myself, I might sort of have the odd spray tan every now and then now I'm home because I know when I get pale with my dark hair, I look, I look ill, you know, I give it a few more months. I'm not going to be thriving. Everyone has got their thing, right? Whether it be your hair, whether it be a maple, whether it be a tan, whatever it is that makes them feel good. But you can guarantee whatever it is when you do it, you show up as a better version of yourself. And that's not because

you look better. Like I'm not saying this from a vanity perspective. I'm saying it from a way that you feel because when you feel better, you show up as a better version of yourself. If I came into work, I've had it actually before where like I've come into work and I've just come from the gym, for example. So I'm in my gym wear or whatever. I literally want to like hide away in my room because I don't really want to be seeing like out in the salon. Whereas if I come into work and I'm dressed for work and my hair and makeup's done, I will happily walk around the salon chat to everybody in there because I've got that confidence behind me. and I'm showing up as, you know, a business owner that day.

And I think it's just starting to notice what your patterns are and think where can you make some small changes that will in time make a big impact. I also think, and this is coming from someone who's not very good at all this stuff, and I think I've definitely got better, like, we've not wearing black all the time. I used to always wear black, that was it, you know, all these sorts of things. I just need to make my life easier. So like I, with the clothes I've ordered, like I said,

I've got all these clothes now. And I'm like, right, it's just, there's always something that goes, like, in the wardrobe, whether it's casual, or I've got nice jeans that can dress it up. And then I've got trainers, then I've got these healed boots that then dress up, the casual top. You know, there's all these different sort of things I've got. And I've found, for me, it has to be easy or I just won't do it.

So, like, I just bring ease into my life. So with my knickers, for example, I bought like 15 pairs, which I know is a bit ridiculous. But I hate when like I run out of my knickers and then I have to use like some rubbish pair or whatever. So I was like, right, just have enough, you know, that you always just have nice knickers. And because that makes my life easier. So I think like energetically I need simplicity in things to do it. And then I feel like it flows more. Yeah.

Yeah, everyone needs that as well. Like, no matter who you are, everybody needs it to be made easy. Like, your toothbrush is next to the sink for a reason. So then it's just easy to then brush your teeth. Like, you're not going to put your toothbrush in a completely different room to where you need to brush your teeth. Like, it's just simple, isn't it?

Yeah, exactly. So, yeah, I think just making it easy for yourself, but definitely creating those small changes is going to lead to some big results. Another one that I really wanted to talk about, which you actually briefly did mention and you probably didn't even realize that you did it is speech.

Now you said before, you would look at yourself in the mirror during COVID and, you know, say some awful things in your head to yourself. We have spoken about this, I think, before on the podcast, maybe many moons ago, but the way that you speak is such a huge part of who you are, who you become, the life you live. because anything that you say,

you will speak it into existence without even realizing. And the more you do it, the more you say it, the more you believe it, the more you become it. No, you're right. It's as simple as that. And there was a really interesting part,

there was a podcast that I listened to the other day with Matthew McConaughey on it, on the diary of the CEO. I don't know if you heard that one. It's a really good episode. Yeah. Yeah. And he was saying about how his parents didn't

let him say the word can't he was not allowed to say it and like he would literally get battering if he said the word can't and he said to his dad like I can't get the lawn mower to work or something and he was like his dad had said to him like you don't say can't you're not it's not that you can't do it you're having trouble doing it and the difference into that for what I took away from that is that it's not impossible instead you just need to need to ask for help to make it possible. So when you're talking about yourself or you're saying, well, I can't do that. I can't do that because I'm too slow or I can't do that because my brain doesn't work that way. I can't do that because I'm not healthy enough or whatever. Like you

absolutely can do anything. You just might need assistance with it. Or for example, say that you say about yourself, I'm always late. Well, you're never going to be on time. are you? If you brand yourself as somebody who's always laid and you say that about yourself, then you're never giving yourself the opportunity to be anybody different. Definitely. And I think it's so true. Like I catch myself a lot now when I'm talking about things and, you know, I would say, oh, in the past, I wasn't as disciplined where now I've really learned to be disciplined, you know, like I'll sort of catch myself because, you know, maybe my old version would be like oh i'm not very disciplined oh i'm oh i'm so whatever and you know that's not the case

and i think like so one thing that i have worked on like i've in the past i would look at my belly and be like oh like i just really don't like my belly like i always would look at it and just sort of feel like it was fat and like you know just really sort of talk about it in a negative way and do you know what i just one day was like my poor belly like it's just getting like all this abuse constantly and I was like so I definitely sort of checked in with that and um and then I was just like do you know what my belly is lovely it's mine and I kind of the way that I sort of shifted the perspective on my belly was you know my womb's there it you know is the core part of who I am as a woman like and do you know what I don't often look at my tummy now

and every now and then it creeps in, but it's very rare. Like, I feel like I've got a bit more loving towards my body in the last sort of year, I would say, because I could really see how without realising, I was sort of talking not very nicely to my tummy. And I think that's what's, it's so important to just, like, be mindful of it when you are doing it. Like, just catch yourself when you're saying things like that

and just refrain the way that you're saying it, you know, and really think about what it is that you say because your words do have a lot of power and you think of it in terms of if you were speaking to somebody else or saying something, speaking to your best friend, for example, I would never say to you, oh, your tummy looks like this but yet you would say it to yourself

and you would never say that to me for example but you say it to yourself and I think that's what you've got to always remember that you need to be your own best friend and treat yourself like you would your best friend. I actually have a really good example of one that I'm working on at the moment that's sort of being shown to me, which is that I would say about myself that I'm not very clever. Yeah, so it's common that I would say this, especially to people that I think are like smarter than me or whatever because at school I was really average and I had to really try really, I'd say below average.

So I had to try really hard to like pass maths and English. Like my grammar, I can say this and it's okay, is not great. And thank God for AI that can help grammar check my writing. But like because of that, I always had felt a bit stupid and not very clever. But obviously as I've grown, especially in my 20s, you know, I've realised my emotional intelligence is incredibly high. and I am a grafter and I'm quite entrepreneurial now like I've realized that I'm I've built a passive income I've done all these things and actually they're I am smart in my own way

and maybe it's not in like the school curriculum that we did like you know 15 16 years ago whenever I was at school so I do feel like I am working on that at the moment because I I've definitely felt like the most stupid person in the room many, many times. I think that it's one of those things as well where when you're maybe less academic, then that can be how you can feel. But like you said, your brain excels in so many ways other people's doesn't. Thank you, babes. Yeah, and has a lot more strengths in different ways.

And the world would be a very boring place if we were all good at the same things. Yeah, no, definitely, definitely. Half the things that you're talking about as well aren't things that we actually need. Well, exactly. I think it's just what got, you know, when you're at school and it gets installed, you're like, maths, English and science, yeah.

I was exactly the same. I didn't particularly like care, though. I think because my dad was never, like, finished school or, you know, did any of that. And then he went on to be very successful. I was just like, eh, it doesn't really matter that I'm not like that. Yeah, yeah. So I think I kind of had that reference.

represent, like, example. But yeah, how you speak to yourself is really important. And just be kind to yourself, basically. And if you can, if you're somebody who's listening to this and you are not aware of the words that you're saying, and then by listening to this, all of a sudden you do become aware, you'll probably be quite shocked. Definitely.

And also, like, the one thing I would want to add is, like, this is my little sort of spiritual thing. that I do, like when I see the sun, like I wake up in the morning, go out to the garden, I see the sun. I'm like, good morning, son. What a lovely day. Like, I'll look at the sky and it's blue and I might, God, it's so beautiful. Or if there's loads of clouds, like, I generally look at the clouds and I'm like, that is just unreal. All of those clouds are there. Like, you know, and I've always sort of had the ability to like look at things with like beauty. And I think if you can do that as well so it doesn't even have to be about yourself obviously that's amazing but you know

i'll sort of look at the day and sometimes i'm like it's going to be a good day even if i'm forcing it a bit i'm like yeah it's going to be good like it's going to work it's turning latitude to anything yeah i think that's a big tool for me definitely and anyone can do that you can find the positive in anything and that is what's really important and that really does create like a huge change in people's lives by doing that. So yeah, I would say start with those things

and then we will lead into some other things on other episodes. But I think that your speech and just how you show up for yourself and really how you embody yourself and show up every day, start thinking about those. and hopefully this has helped.

Definitely. I think it's really helpful. It's helped me. And like I think our friendship, you've always sort of being highlighting that, you know, whenever I sort of see you on a mission, it always inspires me to get on my mission as well. So I think you are a proven method that it works.

And I also think as women, like we do live in our cycles and, you know, there's ups and downs throughout. And I think it's important that we sort of honor the busy times. and the slow times and, you know, there's no shame in the slow times and the heavier times. Absolutely. I mean, perfect example. We were meant to record this last week and we didn't because I was having a crap week, you know, and I could have done it, but it wouldn't have been as good. But I was honouring the fact that, okay, this week has been a little bit harder. It's not

been the worst. It's just been a little bit harder. I just want to get through it. And, you know, I still have those same weeks, even if I, you know, do all the things that. I'm telling you to do. Yeah. They still happen, but you just approach them a little bit differently. That's all. I love it, babe. Well, well, well, well, thank you so much for listening, guys.

Really appreciate it. And send in some questions for our next week's episode. Our anonymous link is in our bio on Instagram, which is at Spiritously Speaking underscore podcast. She is at Jessica Marie underscore holistic, and I am at Samanthagreen.gene.g.h, I think. Oh, I love it. All right, guys.

We'll have a good weekend. and thank you so much for listening. Lots of love. Bye. Bye.