Spiritually Speaking with Jessica & Samantha - The Energy of Uncertainty Right Now

Episode Date: March 20, 2026

Life feels a little all over the place right now… and Jess and Sam wanted to talk about it 🤍✨ In this episode of Spiritually Speaking, they open up about the uncertainty that’s been present, both collectively and personally. They share how they’re coping, what’s been helping them stay anchored, and how they’re learning to trust even when things don’t feel clear. A gentle, honest conversation for anyone navigating the unknown 💫

Hello and welcome back to spiritually speaking with me Sam. And with me Jess. Welcome back, everyone. Welcome back. It has been a hot minute. It has, hasn't it? It's an unexpected time, isn't it? Yeah.

The last time that we recorded this, things were very different in both of our lives. And it wasn't that long ago. No. Well, there's a war in Dubai now, which is crazy. And life is a little bit unsettling, I think for lots of people right now. Yeah, yeah, there's a lot going on.

So we are very sorry that we obviously had our break last week. We just literally couldn't record. I'll be really honest with you. We both had things going on, which we're obviously going to talk about in this episode, but we just needed to take a time, time out. A little break. Yeah, time out.

And but we're excited to be back. We're going to be very honest and raw. and I suppose just chat about what is going on and how we are getting through it and what is going on. But shall we start with you? Because you have obviously had a really hard time yourself alongside being the positive person that you are for everybody and the coach for everyone in your life. Yeah.

Yeah. Well, it's been obviously quite a full on time. I had my birthday. And that's obviously when everything's. started in Dubai so that weekend. So, yeah, just sort of really quite heavy, obviously worrying about you all and lots of people messaging. So, you know, you sort of feel this sense of responsibility with this work to sort of be

there for people in lots of ways. But, you know, more of it for me was that my nan passed away last week, bless her. But, you know, she had a good life. She was 90 when she passed away. so it was very expected. But it's my mum's mum, so I'm sure lots of people can relate to just being really close to a grandparent.

But we got to spend loads of time with her before. It's just really sad, you know, and she was at home and we were there for all of it. So even that just takes a lot out of you. And obviously I've got my sisters and we were all together. And my nan would have loved that. Like, you know,

sort of the day before she was, she passed, bless her, we were all starving. And I was like, we need to get McDonald's. And obviously at that point, my nan, you know, obviously wasn't with it. And I was thinking, I know she's going to be sped in that McDonald's like, you little bitches, you know, she would have loved it. You know what I mean? So, it was sweet. We needed to feed my granddad. So, yeah, so it's just sort of been a bit of a funny time. Like, she's come through quite clearly to me already. And she told me that. Like, when

Like we had a lot of time to prepare for her going and she was really like active, my nan, you know, she was at the gym, you know, she was always getting her nails done. Then sort of the last five years, she's not been as like well, but she's always been mentally with it. Like she knew what was going on with Dubai. She was like, I'm so pleased. You're not there. Like she was switched on right till that final moment. She was like, I will come and see you as soon as I can. like and I will talk to you in the spirit world and I was like okay so um yeah she came through in my dream

really clearly a couple of days after um and she was just like looking really pretty and she was very glam my nan so it was just really sweet she just looked lovely and it was just sort of like she was standing the doorway which spirit tend to do they like to stand in doorways um so that was really lovely to know she was fine but i knew she was and you know I did Reiki on her when like after she had passed so like to just help her soul move over and I knew she was fine there was no sort of concern about that but yeah her coming through in the dream and then yesterday me and my sisters and my mum we were talking about the flowers for the funeral and we were like you know we'll get nan as the flowers and I was thinking oh I don't know

I feel like she'd want nanny like we always called her Nanny Sheila and I was like thinking about it in my head and I felt such a shove on my back like a bit yes you know what I want because she would be like that like she was quite sort of like strong in the way she wanted things so I was like okay I hear you um so yeah bless her it's sort of just little things that she's come through quite strongly already and so yeah like I've accepted it I feel like that like I feel feel feel you know, I've been emotional. I just feel drained.

Like I feel just sort of very, like my mum's really sad. You know, it was quite a tough week, all of us being with her, which wouldn't change, but it just takes a lot out on the body. And it's really similar to probably to how you're all feeling in Dubai with like when we talk about the nervous system. Like your mind can like accept things and see it. But the body like truly feels stuff. And that's why I think we get.

so tired or you know and for me my response whenever things happen in my life is to sort of procrastinate to sort of hide away uh really sleepy like every task feels difficult like that's like a real like even like making my bed feels like like a task at the moment you know it's sort of that yeah um which i know so might sound silly to some people but that's just how i know i'm like struggling because usually I'm like right routine structure um so yeah but today it's really sunny here in england and um obviously i've got all my vegetables and they all needed to like they're like little seedlings and they're growing really well so they now need to be moved into bigger pot so all my i've got about 30 tomato plants which which is probably a bit much so friends and family

that are close by will be getting deliveries of tomato plants but i've been moving them and it's been very therapeutic. So, yeah, so that's me. And obviously, like, I've just wanted to be there as much as I can for friends and clients, but I don't feel like I've done a very good job. So I am sorry, everyone. It's just sort of, yeah, it's just been a really weird time. And obviously, this has all happened in an eclipse portal.

It's happened with some really crazy astrology, which I knew was coming. I didn't know how it would show up. so yeah it's it's just it's quite hard and like you said sam like lots of sort of sad news around not just with Dubai like lots of people i know of or situations it just feels very heavy at the moment so yeah but how are you because obviously with Dubai so we're filming this today Wednesday the 18th of March I feel like it's good to say the dates at the moment because so much you know what I was just thinking that yeah yeah a lot could change in by the time somebody listens to this.

Yeah. I'm okay. Well, so tell us, give us sort of a bit of a timeline. So for those people that aren't in Dubai, I think they're going to be quite interested to know how it's sort of been for you. So it was sort of the 28th or 29th of March, whatever. I don't think we had a leap year this year.

A Feb. Yeah, a Feb, sorry. Yeah. So, yeah. So Saturday, the 28th of Feb, basically. I, in the afternoon, was going to my friend's kids' birthday party. And the girls had been sick, so I, shock. So I was either going to go on my own or just take one of them

because one of them was getting better and she was all right. And my friend said, oh yeah, just bring her. And then it was really weird. That afternoon, the girls had kind of like gone down for their nap. and I have to try and remember this because everything has started to just kind of merge into one but there was like an alert that was put out that said you should be staying indoors

like Dubai have said like there's there's something going on or whatever and you should we're advising everybody to stay indoors and I we saw this me and Andy we looked at it and I will be really honest that my personality type is a type of person who is not very easily scaremongered I am very strong-minded, so I'm not very easily influenced by other things going on. I would always say that I would think for myself. And I, yeah, I don't know.

So anyway, we got this notification of like stay indoors, etc. And it was a bit like, hmm, that's a bit weird, you know, should we be staying indoors? And it was kind of like, oh, I don't really know what to do. So I text my friend whose house was going to and I was like, look, I'm just going to. out for like another 30, 40 minutes, you know, and just see what happens because this is a bit weird. And then we just decided it wasn't worth it to be like separated as a family. So we're like, let's just, you know, stay at home. So we sat in the garden, whatever. And then we'd gone inside. Yeah, that's funny actually because we were sat in the garden, obviously, which was a bit stupid even.

But we just didn't understand what was happening. I was going to say, did you understand that it was missiles or what I had no idea. I had literally no idea what was going on at all. I just saw something that said you should stay indoors and like there was a reason behind it but whatever. I don't know. I just didn't deep it. I'm not somebody who like overthrith things. So I was just like, okay, whatever. And then we go inside and when I say a boom happens, I mean, I've never ever heard anything like it in my life and unfortunately have continued to hear it but the first time ever hearing it you felt it like literally it like went through you the house shook because of where we live specifically so we live right near um the air base an american air base yeah so you're really

close to it yeah and um it was so funny andy's dad was like oh you've never told us that you live near an air base before. I was like, well, I don't really think to bring it up, Steve. Well, yeah,

it's not really, I wouldn't even know. You know what I mean? Yeah, exactly. And so anyway, so we hear this boom and I was like, fuck,

like, oh my God. Like, this is real. So whatever this is that's going on, this is real and, you know, we need to stay indoors and then it happens again.

And then it happens again. And it was like quite a few times over that afternoon. And you know what it's like, if anything like that is happening, your phone,

is blowing up. I'm using the wrong terminology here. I keep using the wrong. But I keep doing it. But anyway, your phone's going crazy. And my WhatsApp group's going mad. Everyone's like, did you hear that? Did you hear that?

Yeah, we heard it. We didn't hear it where we are. And, you know, it's very, very intense and a bit like, you know, scary. And even like the dog, God bless him was really like shaken by it. Then River, one of my, little ones, she would like, I think did I send you the video? Yeah. She would hear the boom and she put her

hands over her mouth and she was like, like, like, like, point into outside and Blake was crying at the door. So they were like aware of it as well. And we were just going like, oh, fireworks and stuff like that and just trying to like lighten the mood and do activities indoors and things like that. And then we were like, we need to get a backpacked. And then I was like, what do you mean? Like Andy had said, let me need to get bag packed. And he was like,

I'm not going to, I'm not saying it to scare you, but we should really have a bagpack like just in case. If something happens, if something hits near the house and we've got to go, we need to have a bag packed. So we pack a bag that's like, passports,

birth certificates, documents basically, and a spare change of clothes for the girls and falls. And literally that was it. And I know, you're just thinking, but what is happening? Like,

this is just weird. And then that Saturday, night we went to bed and the honestly the booms that were happening through the night were just insane and you were getting alarms on your phone at the same time that were like going yeah because i remember those alarms from like the floods and the other stuff they are crazy yeah yeah so they were going off like through the night and stuff as well and again i'm not really somebody to panic so even with that i wasn't then panicking like that in that situation, I just wasn't.

I was kind of like, okay, like, it's all right. And like, I let the girls continue sleeping in their rooms. I didn't put us all together. I didn't start messing with anything like that. My dad had said to me, like, do you think you need to all sleep downstairs? Because if something hits the top of the house, like, you're going to be safer downstairs. And I was like, I don't know because I don't understand how serious this situation is right now. Like, I'm aware that I can hear it and you can feel it, but I don't know really how serious this is.

and then I can't remember, I think maybe the Saturday night was when the palm got hit. Yeah, it was. Yeah. I think it was. Yeah. So then that got hit and I was like, right, okay.

I think that's when I was like, oh shit. Yeah, same. I was like, right, okay, places are getting hit here. Like, this is actually a thing. And then on the Sunday, again, I think I'm right in my timeline with all of this. The Sunday comes around and an apartment in the area we got live, an apartment in the area that we live in got hit.

Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah, yeah. And I think the video has been deleted now. Yeah, of course. Yeah. So an apartment got hit and basically a drone went into his apartment, but it didn't detonate. I feel weird even talking about this to us.

But yeah, it didn't detonate. And it's quite a funny video because he's this Brit. And he was like, I've not even had a chance to finish me a cup of tea. Oh, I saw that video. Yeah. Yeah. And he like runs out of his apartment But that was like just up the road to us

And we have friends that literally face that apartment Like it was that was quite weird And a bit like right, okay this is quite close to home now So that was a bit scary And then the week after that Which was two weeks ago now It was it started to feel like it quieted down a little bit And at times, I don't know

Not always but the salon was really, really busy. Everybody wanted to come into the salon. So we were like, right, okay, we're just kind of like going about as normal as much as we can, but trying to be safe at the same time and being aware that all these alarms are still going off and places are still getting hit,

but mostly residential areas are okay. And then, honestly, it's just been a bit of like a time warp, this whole thing. And then last week definitely felt quieter. Again, you were still getting alarms on your phone. but actual like hits being reported it felt a bit less like there's still happening don't give me wrong but it felt less and obviously the airport was a lot like that's that's been hit a lot and then obviously we're recording this now on the Wednesday the 18th last night was really bad

like last night was like enough to wake you up shake the house and then it's been similar to be honest today. But it's just weird that I'm saying this to you and I'm sat in work. The hairdresses are working. Everybody's working. The salon's operating as normal. It's weird because had you have said this to me

three weeks ago before I even knew that obviously any of this was going to happen, I would have imagined that everything would have grounded to a hole and like no normal life would be continuing. But actually life is very normal outside of this and we're just having to be careful. as much as we can

alongside trying to continue a normal in, you know, in speech marks. Yeah, inverted commas. As much as we can. Yeah. Sorry. Sorry. No, you go.

No, no. I was just going to say, and then in the last week for me, that's when I've been like, oh shit, this isn't stopping. And what does this actually mean for the future of Dubai, for the future of the economy, for the future of the salon, my family, like everything,

that's starting to impact me a bit and I'm starting to think like that. And that's scary, I'll be honest, because I think I've got 19 now, could, by next week 20 employees, I actually have a new employee started this week and another one next week. And that is a very big responsibility to have where you don't know what's about to happen in terms of that. Also, sorry to add to this to people who don't know, they close the schools as well, obviously.

So schools and nurseries are closed. And my husband, Andy, is a teacher. So he's now not in work, but he's working from home. But the school that he works at during COVID, cut everybody's salaries. Oh, right. Okay.

So he's now, yeah. Yeah, he's now thinking, well, hang on a minute what's about to happen there. Obviously, we hope that, nothing happens to that but you just don't know. We know of people who've already had salaries cut because you go to a restaurant, you're the only person there. It's so sad, isn't it, that side of things?

Like, it's just, it's crazy. I think, like, from my perspective, more from a psychic side of things, I was saying to Sam, I think it's early summer. That's the way I would look at this. Like, summer's come early. and it will rebuild and it will rebuild very quickly because the energy and the buy is very quick. I think for everyone it's like this has gone on longer than maybe what a lot of people anticipated. But I think, you know, it will all kind of get back to a new normality from September onwards.

I think it's such a, it's so sad. Like it's such a great place Dubai, you know, and obviously there's people probably that are planning to move that won't be now or people like you say might go home, not come back. But I think like, you know, you've got a lot of responsibilities there. So that's really heavy. And there's obviously lots of people like you in Dubai because so many people are entrepreneurs and built businesses with big responsibilities. So I think it's really heavy this energy that you're having to sort of. manage and you know you can't just leave because we were talking about that before like I was saying obviously for me if I was in Dubai I probably would have gotten a flight and gone if I could

because it's just me my business is online but there's just so much more for you you can't just do that which is you know hard isn't it no and I don't even want to that's the other thing like I said to just before we started recording like my home is here like I have lived here for eight years. I've got my family here, a house here, a business here, that my whole life is here. So for me to leave this, even if it's for like a short period of time, that doesn't sit well with me. I don't feel like I can nor would I want to leave my business anyway. You know, I've been showing up more than before because I'm trying to put on that happy, smiling face, because they need to see that I'm okay because then they're going to feel better. And yesterday,

It was the first day that, like, I really broke down. And it was because one of my assistants, it's supposed to be going back to the Philippines, and she has had her flight canceled and can't go home. And what people who don't know, a lot of the people that work here, who are from overseas in places like the Philippines, India, Sri Lanka, they tend to save all their annual leave.

They go once a year and they go for a whole month or a bit longer. and that's what they do. And she, that's what she was doing. She was going home for a month to go and see her daughter because a daughter lives there. And she's now not going to get to go. And when she was telling me this yesterday, I just couldn't stop crying.

And I was, I was embarrassed. I didn't want to cry because it's her story. It's not about me. But I just couldn't help myself because I just felt so sorry for her. And she's just the sweetest person in the world. She was like, I'd rather be stuck here than stuck in the Philippines. And she was like, I need this job.

need to work. And it's just awful when you think about the knock on effect that this is going to have on so many people. And I think that that is the gravity of it that I don't think any of us saw coming whatsoever. And like it's just, it's just a bit annoying. Like we've already been through COVID. Do you know what I mean?

And then now this, in the whole time I've lived it, like to have gone through both of those things is pretty intense. but I just think if COVID has taught us anything, it's that we can get through it. And this is better than COVID in some respects because we're not locked down. We can live life, you know, and still get to go out and still do the things

that make you feel okay. You just are a little bit more concerned about your safety. But yeah, there isn't really even an option for me to go home at the moment, even if I wanted to. So I don't really know. yeah, how that sits. But yeah, I'm honestly just taking everything day by day, week by week, and sometimes you feel better than others.

And my main role and job is just to make sure that the girls are okay and the girls in the salon are okay. Yeah, and you're doing a good job of that. And I think, like, what came through for me with all of this was like, you know, it's quite a humbling energy, which was I was on a call with, like, a group of astrologers and we were also. sort of looking at the astrology because there was some clear things that indicated some stuff going on.

And I was sort of saying it sort of forces are humbling that people don't necessarily want or deserve but has happened. So this is more like the psychic spiritual perspective. I think that in Dubai, everyone is hustling and rushing and moving very fast. And I think people that are there that don't necessarily live like that are absorbing it, you know, so it's quite an absorbent energy. Like when I was in Dubai, like I definitely think I was living a faster pace. I was much more ambitious.

Like there was just this constant flow. And we actually spoke about it on an episode before about the seasons. You don't get seasons in Dubai. You just get, you know, this really good weather and then it's really hot. And then you go to Europe and it's really good and you just don't have a break. I think this is just forcing people to slow down. and to reset. And I know it's really scary

because there's assets, money, you know, so much that is in the line of risk. But I think it really forces a slowdown. And I think for everyone, you know, wherever you are, really look at that slowdown. What is this showing you? What is this teaching you?

There'll also be opportunities that come from here. I think, you know, there will be new avenues. that people will take that maybe they weren't ready for, that this propels it forward, because perspective arrives, you know. So maybe people that were unhappy in their job actually go, do you know what, I'm going to make a change now. Or maybe there'll be more opportunities in other ways that weren't there before.

There's just so much that will change in the energy. I don't think it's a bad thing. I've said this message to all my clients, anyone that's been speaking with me, you know, I feel Dubai will be back and it will be back quick and it's just a reset. And like, do you know what I was thinking about? And this is just more me looking at things in my way. Like traffic, the roads, it's so busy. It's like mother earth has gone. There's too much energy here. Like there's too much too quick and it then sort of forces that that slow down, you know, and it happens, you know, not in a natural form. This hasn't

happened through, you know, a natural element. This has come through something much worse. But yeah, I think it forces slowdown and then people sort of go, they reset, some will come back, some won't. And I think it will become more organic again. And I don't think that's a bad thing. And I feel excited for that, you know, for lots of people, because there will. will be opportunity. I appreciate like people, lots of people have been messaging me about their properties, uh, they're about to buy somewhere or, you know, what to do. It's really uncertain right now. Um, and it is quite scary, you know, when it comes to your money, isn't it? Like, you know, I think we all go into a bit of a fear mindset there. So there's loads of moving parts,

but I think right now we just have to live in that uncertainty. You know, we're so used to have uncertainty now as humans. We have so much available information to us. We know everything really quickly, especially lighting to buy. You get delivered. It's just, everything's quick, accessible. You know, it's quite calmic. I feel that people are being forced into uncertainty.

And that's what I think that humbling energy brings to people. And lots of us are feeling it that. aren't in Dubai. Lots of us are going through things in our own lives that are irrelevant to what's going on in like the global scale where they'll be feeling that. You know, I've got lots of clients going through breakups, marriages that have separated, career changes that have come out of nowhere, huge changes in like the path that they thought was clear. Like they thought this was my life, this was what's going to happen because there was this control and this certainty and all of a sudden that's completely changed and people want to control that and you want to fix that.

And even like in my own life, I've been thinking a lot about my own sort of spiritual service and how do I want that to look? You know, I want to spend more time now with my local community. I'm sort of going to spaces close to me and helping people close by. that means my prices need to change. You know, it means that like financially things are changing for me in ways that I maybe didn't anticipate. You know, there's all these different elements that can go on

that we don't sort of foresee. And I think that's why right now we just have to trust there's a bigger picture and there's something bigger going on. And in these times, I put it on an Instagram, story lots of you responded and visualising the light you know i know that sounds really sort of for some people quite silly but it's really true like visualize the light around your home around your life and just you know bring a little bit of light where there's quite a lot of heaviness right now yeah i agree i think everything that you've said i think like so a lot of people have said like how

nice it's been here because it's been so quiet and obviously we aren't you're used to that. So having like quieter roads and having yeah, quieter places where if you go out and things like that. Obviously people aren't going out that much at the moment. But it is nice. And like even all these places. So like pre-COVID there was a version of Dubai and then obviously post-COVID there was a different version because post-COVID a lot of people then came over here because of, you know, they wanted to be over here because we weren't necessarily in like a lockdown. So everywhere went way more expensive. It was like not as accessible to go to like the certain types of places, things like that. Whereas now it's all changed and they can't give away enough things right now

because they're just desperate to have people through the door. And obviously, yeah, it's lovely to have it a bit quieter. It's just, you just feel sad, I think, for a lot of people and heaviness. And yeah, just not knowing, I suppose how long it's going to go on for. it's things like for the girls nursery for example like that's now not probably going to be open until September and you think okay so if you don't pay for that what happens to that nursery yeah do the staff still get paid like you know and I get why people don't want to pay if they're not sending their kids but I just think of it from a employers and an employee perspective and that's really upsetting isn't it well it is because I think there's obviously what we know is there's a lot of

people that aren't as fortunate and in pay and, you know, a lot of that stuff. So it does make it tricky because, yeah, it's not going to be easy. Yeah, our babes. Yeah. So we just take it week by week, day by day and just go from there, to be honest. But yeah, it's just a funny old time and it's just crazy to think that when we last recorded this. Yeah.

How different life was. Yeah. I went back and listened to that. like now I'd be like, wow, girl, you've got no idea what's coming. Well, I think it's a lesson for all of us when it comes to these things. And I say all the time, in one moment, your life can change and it can be for the better, it can be for the worse. And I think we always don't think that can happen, you know, but it really can.

And we can utilise it and we can work with it. But I think it's a big message there to always remember that for us all. Yeah, definitely, definitely. Yeah. What do you want to do, do you want to do the questions or what do you feel? Yeah, shall we? Yeah, let's go for it. Let's do some of the questions because we've had them sat there for a little bit now.

So, yeah, let's go for it. Let's answer some of your questions and see what comes up. Okay. Do you want to read it out? Yeah, okay, so I'll do question one. So I live in the UK with my husband and two young children. I have never considered moving away as we are big home people. But since having a baby three months ago,

we have discussed moving to Spain to better our lifestyle as a family. My husband isn't 100% for the idea. But do you have any advice or see this happening for us? Spain would be nice, wouldn't it? Gotcha. Spain's like the one. If they paid like the same as this, like Dubai, 100% I'd be there. That's like my retirement plan really.

Yeah. Spain. I love Spain. And it's such a short little flight. Yeah. See what the cards are saying for this person. Okay. So we've got the crossroads card, which makes sense because you're at a crossroads with it.

And we've also got the Free of Swords. So like there's a little bit of like frustration with that card and a little bit of, yeah, like it's going to be quite an emotional decision if you do this. And because of that, I think it takes time. I don't think it's going to be a decision that's rushed over like three months. Your husband isn't 100% like you say. I think for him, he doesn't feel like there's enough stability behind you to be like as bold with this move.

Like I feel like he still wants to build and grow more and he's not there yet. So I think your timelines are quite different. I think Spain's great and I think if you can do it, absolutely make it happen. But it's not right now. That's the only way I can describe it. I think what I would do is like not go on about it too much because I think it will push your partner away from wanting to do it. And it might just be like we've been talking about, things can change so much in our lives. If it is something you want, plant the seed with it.

You know, it's a good time to do that. but allow it to be organic how this happens. I wouldn't force it. That would be my sort of message to this person. Yeah, I thought that's really good advice. There's going to be loads of people thinking about relocation right now. Yeah. You know, and it is, you know, it is sort of this, what do I do?

Where should I go? We're always where we're meant to be. And I just think, don't force it. It will become clear. Yeah, no, I like that. I like that. So you want to read the next one? Okay, so I've met the most amazing guy who treats me with respect, love and so much more. We're both very alike and enjoy each other's company.

However, when it comes to getting closer in the bedroom, my body just freezes and starts to push him away. I've always enjoyed having physical intimacy and I've never had this issue in the past. He's starting to become more concerned too. now I'm starting to question if we're meant for each other. We've been dating since last summer, 2025. What is causing this blockage between us? Is he meant for me? How interesting.

Oh. I feel like we've done this question. Have we not? Is it because we've spoken about it? No, we spoke about it because we were going to do it on the last episode. Yes, that was it. And then we waited. That's why.

Yeah. Yeah. I was like this feels familiar. Okay. So, any advice, Sam? not really. I feel like I'm not going to be very good at this. I feel like maybe

I don't know either are you more friends than than more than friends and that's why you've got that block or there's something else blocking your blocking you from wanting to have physical intimacy with him. I think it's hard because they've said in the message

I've always enjoyed having physical intimacy before, never had any issues in the past. So is there maybe something like mentally blocking you that maybe you need to do? Do you need to just sit down and have a conversation with him? Definitely. Like, sex is really important, you know, intimacy is really important. And I think that when it sort of isn't there or it's sort of fizzled out, which happens, like, let's be honest, we're all not like, you know,

sex goddess is 24-7. We have different feelings, different energy. I think what's happened with this relationship is you've built a block because it's been on your mind naturally and I don't think you've fully addressed it. So like Sam said, I do think a conversation needs to happen because with that conversation there may be a sense of relief. I remember this with like my first boyfriend. I just felt the whole time in that relationship,

like really not that satisfied sexually. And, you know, we never spoke about it because he took it really personally. Like there was something wrong with him. So it just became like a bit of an elephant in the room. And I found that it wasn't that good. And I think with what, well, from what I've learned from Tantan, from all the things I've been doing spiritually,

you have to remove the blocks. And actually the first block is in the throat. And like the throat chakras there, I felt like I was being really crude. But like the throat is where we need to start because we need to communicate what's working, what's not working, because then we can get down to the rest of the body,

go down to the heart, you know, go down to the more like the sacred energy, the womb and, you know, all those bits downstairs. But we have to start with the communication. And I think that's what these two people are struggling with. So there sounds like there's really good foundations, there's love. And I think you can develop sex. Like I really do. Like I think that you can explore things.

You can try different things. I think, yeah, like what are you into? Like, do you want to have a bit of fun? Do you want to try something different? But I would definitely explore tantra as well as a couple. So I wouldn't give up on this relationship. There are some things that you can do. And also, I actually remember she was in the Essex's lady.

So I don't know, this person, you might not want to message me. But there was a sex coach that I knew. I don't know if she still does it. but try and find someone that could help you through this. Yeah, that's a good idea. Give you some techniques and try some stuff because I think, well, this is me and what I think with sex, it really can remove limitations you build.

So like if you've got resentment to someone, naturally they touch you and you don't actually feel that touch because there's some resentment there. So you don't maybe get that sensation you would have felt when that resumed. That's why when you first meet someone, you shag all the time,

because there's not all these, like, emotional trauma that you've built. Do you know what I mean? Or they've not washed up. And I know this might not be the case for this couple because they only met last year, but, like, you know, your partner doesn't wash up and you're like, do you know what?

I just wanted you to really fucking wash those dishes. And now it's on my mind. I don't have my fire. You know, like, there is that it's not happening. You know, so you need to think about what's going on for you, what's unspoken. And I think a lot of people listening to this will value this question because I think sex isn't spoken about enough. With your body pushing him away, I also feel like you have to acknowledge that. You know, as women, I don't know, I feel like I've been

in situations. I'm laughing, but it's not necessarily right. We've probably not actually been that into someone or I felt like a bit of a people pleaser and I've been in situations that maybe you know I didn't actually want and you know my body was like no but I was like oh it's fine you know don't ignore that you know think about like what is it that's coming up for you but I do think before you make a decision you know that this is no longer work out you know, can you get some help with this? And also, it could be amazing. And it could be that you have this phenomenal sex life with this person

because of the work you're doing right now. I think that with me, I genuinely feel like I had quite a few intimacy blocks before I met Ben. And I feel like tantra really changed, like, what, like, sex meant to me, like what it felt like, why I wanted it. Like, I don't know. I just think it's what we're here to do, isn't it? And we don't really get told how to sort of utilize it in the best way other than don't get pregnant and STIs, you know?

Yeah, that's so true. Also, looking back at it, like I can see, I'm reading it again and it says like, you know, he treats you with, it's a guy, yeah, treats you with respect, love and so much more. you've said about how how much you enjoy spending time with them like there obviously is a really good foundation there for a good relationship so yeah I don't think like this don't let this put you off just try and work past it also I find it's like anything right if you if you've got it in your head now that like it's just not working and you're you've kind of told yourself by telling us as well like that you've got this block then you're not physically ever going to get past to do it unless you do something about it.

And I just think if you let yourself put your wall down, because you said that you really like this person, and you enjoy being intimate with him, but it doesn't have to be sex. It could just be, you know, a really passionate kiss or whatever else. And then you can just stop there.

It doesn't have to go to sex. Enjoy that and then do it again. Yeah. And then just build on it slowly. But it does start with the communication, I think, and just letting him know where you're at and what you're comfortable with and what you're not.

And then when he knows what you're comfortable with, then he can kind of match that energy. Yeah. I hear you, babes. That's great. Well, sending you six questions, I feel like I could answer them all the time, you know. I feel like...

That's a different podcast. Yeah. Sexually speaking. Yeah. Be teaching you how to release your throat chakras and all that. guys. That is so funny. Okay, so should we look at these last two because they're both about relocation, aren't they? Yeah, okay. So the next one is should we make the big move after being

here 11 years? So I'm assuming they mean Dubai. I would say so. Well, let's see what the cards have to say for this person. Okay, so the energy for this person is the king of swords. we have the six of cups and we have the eight of cups which can be a sense of walking away and past memories so I imagine since what's been going on in Dubai if this person is there you're probably going to be thinking okay this is a bit of a sign you know this feels like an indication of what I'm going to do the king of swords is quite fast momentum So you may have come to this decision much quicker now with what's going on and you may be feeling like, you know,

you want to just get on with this and sort of move wherever you're meant to be going to. What I will say is it will feel really emotional this decision and take your time with, you know, the way that you do it because I think the King of Swords can rush a bit too, quickly and actually you have built a whole life here there's all these memories and you know you kind of want to savour that and enjoy that before you go um but there is this sense of walking away to something new so i do think you will move i think it'll be very emotional and be mindful not to rush it uh it will happen much nicer for you if you don't rush this move

and um maybe you've you've headed back home and then it's like we ever are going to go back. I don't think that would be a nice way for you to have that. So come back, have a few months or whatever, and then make your move. That's what I would say. Sounds good. Okay, question five. I'm really struggling with anxiety over the future and where our home will be. With everything happening in the UAE, I don't know what the future holds for my family. My husband is South African and although I love this country, I don't know if I'll be any safer there. Okay. I think that's a really hard one.

I also think when you've said struggling with anxiety over the future and I don't know what the future holds for my family. I honestly think for me, what I would say, going back after what Jess has said at the beginning of this podcast, nobody knows. nobody knows what the future holds you know you only know what's happening right now and that's all you can really deal with and control and I think that this has taught us that and I completely understand why you would feel on edge or anxious or especially if you're kind of looking between Dubai and South Africa um I my advice would be just don't make any rash decisions yeah well that's what

are saying right now, a decision doesn't need to be made. I think what's difficult is neither of them are like where you were born by the sounds of it for this person. So both of them are, you know, countries that are not your roots. That's okay. You don't need to go back to your roots. I've got the 10 of Pentacles. So, you know, there is a happy family dynamic. And I think that's the priority focusing on your family unit and wherever you will be, you'll be fine. I think South Africa, I think you'll have a lovely time. And I think that more people will be moving to South Africa. I think there's going to be an influx of kind of a hype developing there.

That's just sort of intuitive. And it might come at a good time, but it's not yet. So just stop feeling this pressure to make that decision. like Sam said, it doesn't need to be made right now. I think what I would say is we've got some cards here that, like the deaf card, the moon card, like there's endings and there's things that you can't see. Just know that these endings are good endings. It's new beginnings.

There's new opportunity. Like what I said at the beginning, I think really you just have to focus on your little family unit and getting that really sort of comfortable without anxiety, which I know is easier said than done, and the rest will become clear. I don't think people will move as much as they think they are right now. I think right now people are thinking about it. Once life gets back to normal, I think a lot of those faults will disappear. Yeah. I think as well, like at the moment in Dubai, I did a video the other day and I was like, I feel like I'm the only one left.

Like you go on Instagram, for example, and it's like, this person's gone, this person's gone, this person's gone. And that's what's quite hard. And I'm very fortunate that my main circle of friends haven't left other than one. But it is hard if a lot of the people around you have left. And I think that that then makes other people start thinking that way.

Yeah. Yeah, exactly. I think, yeah. It won't be long and people will be coming back and it will all be fine. Yeah. Yeah. Well, thank you everybody for listening and for being with us on today's journey. If you have enjoyed this episode, please tell somebody about it.

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with all this uncertainty but what we know is we're all together and we can all help each other and you know just reach out if you need anything Yeah and we'll see you in a couple of weeks Lots of love. Bye! Bye!