Spiritually Speaking with Jessica & Samantha - Unlocking Your Money Mindset

Episode Date: April 5, 2024

In this episode of the podcast, Jess and Sam dive deep into the intriguing world of money mindset and the power of manifestation when it comes to attracting wealth and abundance.The episode begins by exploring the concept of a money mindset and its profound impact on financial success. Sam and Jess emphasize how our beliefs and attitudes towards money are often deeply ingrained from childhood and how they shape our financial reality. To tell the girls what you think of the episode message them on Instagram -@spirituallyspeaking_podcast@hairbysamanthagreen@jessicamarie_holisitic

Hello and welcome back to Spiritually Speaking with me Sam and with me Jess. Hello. Welcome. Yeah, welcome back. Welcome to this week's episode. I feel like you froze. I feel like I froze because I was just smiling looking at you. You know what I was thinking in my head? I was about to say, um, welcome to April. Welcome to April. And it's a lovely month. I like April. I like April as well. Although the only thing I feel like living in Dubai now I'm like, no, it's a lovely month i like april i like april as well although the only thing i feel like living in dubai now i'm like no it's gonna get hot yeah i feel like i've already noticed it getting hotter yeah and it's clammy that yeah it's clammy yeah we're at home april's lovely oh it is like that really fresh blue sky yeah fresh air sheeps are coming out cheapseps. Sheeps. What's that? Sheep. The animal. A sheep. I thought you said sheep. Do you want me to go back? I thought you said sheep. Sheep. Oh my god. Is that some northern thing I don't know about? Yes the sheep. The sheep. The lambs are lambing. That's so funny. Oh babes. Well yeah so we are in the April energy and it it's good how are you doing i'm good i feel really

good today actually yeah we have come to record this podcast in a very professional manner i have left the house we're not on your bed we are not we're not on my sofa yeah there is not a dog in the room there's not a baby in the room we are dressed like dressed not that we do it yeah that's why it's not been on video before we just normally wear our active wear don't we yeah well maybe you make me less active but yeah um we've come to a workspace today to record this called the bureau yeah um in dubai and honestly it's unreal i am shooketh by this place and i tell me about it every single inch of it i'm like i want this my house it's the the paint on the walls yeah the paint is love the doors everything not that

everyone can see it but yeah google it but honestly it's absolutely stunning but it's also like a nice feeling here like i come and work here well only for the last probably few weeks once a week to get on with all my admin and yeah it's like a really good space for me but it's a really inspiring space you know very and like even just i feel like everyone in here is on the same vibe and yeah it's lovely anyway so yeah i would highly recommend people come here if you need if you're working from home you want to go somewhere a bit different and we were saying we might bring this into our monday routine definitely yeah yeah no i'd love that um and this is kind of one of your first sort of outings without the girls yeah i keep trying to think about have i left them and

i'm like yeah no i have but this is like the first like yeah probably definitely the longest that i will have left them for um but my in-laws arrived this week which is really nice so they're with them and with their dad so they're absolutely fine um and i actually to be fair oh you're all right don't worry um i actually like feel fine to be honest having left them like I don't you obviously felt ready yeah that's true you basically yesterday I was like trying to work out my diary because I was all confused so then we were you were like oh why don't you come and do it mine if not and I was like actually I need to be at the bureau today because I've got like all these different things which kind of forced me to then go out yeah and then I was like oh god will she be okay no i actually after you'd

said it i was like yeah actually i need that like i need to get out the house and go somewhere a bit different and although like we get out every day we might not get out for long no do you know what i mean so like yesterday even we went for like a walk in the afternoon but it was like 30 minutes or maybe a bit longer but that we were for. And then it got to like five o'clock and I was like, had cabin fever again. And I was like, I need to get back out. So I had to go back out for another walk. And yeah, I think especially when you don't have a garden,

it's a lot of indoor time. But also you're feeling a bit more ready, I guess, for like you. So like this is like a bit more of your old hat back on again. Yeah, definitely. Which probably feels really nice. Yeah. And obviously we're doing this, so it's fun.'s fun yeah exactly even just going in the car and like

ringing my sister or something like that yeah that's really nice thing to do which is amazing because i think that shows that you're sort of through that yeah hazy trimester trimester yeah trimester yeah trimester um yeah i feel like there was like a bit of a fog yeah around life in that newborn bubble the newborn bubble is a fog it's not a bubble it's fog i actually feel like it feels like a bit of a blur and i wasn't even yeah yeah yeah yeah it was um but i feel like i'm coming to the the good bit yeah i feel as though you're getting your rhythm which is amazing so yeah you guys good days and bad days but all days or harder days but yeah no we're getting there all is good how's your week been my week's been good it's been very busy I feel

um quite erratic in my energy at the moment but I'm sort of keeping it grounded um but erratic because there's just all this action and adrenaline in me. So if anyone else is feeling like that, welcome to the club. I think my advice I put on Instagram was just eat some rooted vegetables because I know this sounds silly, but having that grounding from vegetables in the earth. Should we take our shoes off? Do you know what?

I actually did think about taking my shoes off. Let's do it. Let's get barefoot. But, you know, it's that kind of, oh, the let's get barefoot yeah um but you know it's that kind of oh the carpet's nice on your feet you don't really get carpet in dubai you don't you can have carpet in the villa no i wasn't planning on oh samantha do i need carpet possibly maybe in the girls room oh yeah but then if there's any accidents on the floor i've got a dog i feel like it's just a bit there was a villa I went to and they had carpet.

Yeah, I think you could just get a nice rug, but they had carpet upstairs and it was a real vibe. Maybe we'll get carpet. I guess you can change it. Yeah. You know, evolve and grow. Maybe when the girls are a bit older. Yes.

Who knows? But anyway, so grounding my energy. As you can tell, I'm not very grounded because I'm going here, there and everywhere. But it feels quite bouncy. So you lot listening are probably going to feel that so hopefully it gives you a bit of inspiration inspiration I think it's gonna be one of those it is it really is yeah so yeah so um hopefully you can take some of this energy from me and use it to activate some stuff because there's all this action energy that I'm loving but yeah it's quite full on so that's that um I have a confession to

make on my like well basically like I feel like this is really random, but I feel like I'm really obsessed with this man on my dog walks, but I don't fancy him. Right. And I keep thinking about it, and I was like, I'm going to talk to you about it. Okay. He's lovely.

Right. Is he walking a dog as well? He walks a dog. And do the dogs like each other? Kind of, but the dog loves me, his dog. And his dog sits on my feet. He's only little. He's like a shih tzu.

Yeah. And I just feel like I know this man in a past life. Oh. Do you like him? No, no. Oh, you don't like him. He's like a married man with a wife. His wife, like he's lovely.

Right. Like it's not obsession. It's not that type of like. No, like it's not. Yeah that type of no like it's like yeah um obsession and attraction right but like to the point where it makes my day when i see him oh no is that weird though i mean a little bit because you don't know him so we started talking there's a little bit of a language barrier but we started to like build some communication but like i get really excited and I like waved him across the street

oh I know and he just looks like oh here she is you know he's the weirdo again and like he always sees me so this is what's like been playing on my mind so he always sees me when I'm like hair up shorts like not looking my best not that it's a dog looking good but he didn't recognize me when i was dressed up and i said hello and he looked so confused that's so funny but yeah so anyway i was just sort of feeling like i wanted to have some confession that like i'm really like fixated on this man that i don't fancy this that is strange i had to ask myself if i fancied him but i don't and i think this is like past life stuff but anyway he's a babe i just do you know what it is but I don't fancy. That is strange. I had to ask myself if I fancied him, but I don't. And I think this is like past life stuff. But anyway, he's a babe.

I just, do you know what it is? Maybe something more is going to come of this. I don't know. When I say that, I mean like maybe he'll book in for like a session or something. People won't know who you are when he books in. Maybe. Yeah.

I think it's just like, there's something about him. He just looks like he's living a lovely life. But what I mean by that, he's so chill. Oh, okay. And he's living a lovely life but what I mean by that he's so chill and he's so calm well maybe it's his energy then I think is that and that's what it is even the way he walks it's just really chill like people just like float yeah yeah and I'm just like oh babe she's just like he's got nowhere to be yeah that's exactly it so anyway basically I don't think he would listen because I don't think this is his cup of tea but I just wanted to share that you know that man on the dog walk is makes your day he does so

thank you man Chewie's dad Chewie's dad um I don't fancy you but I do like you and I did have to ask myself but no it's just it's platonic yeah and then the other day as well with the dog he snapped the lead on the beach oh i told you he did he sent me this i like i had to run it was fine you didn't tell me anything else so you took him to the dog beach yeah where there's like basically there's this beach in dubai and it's absolutely lovely um um and it's like a boho type five yeah and there's loads of dogs there it's really really nice so where were you actually on the beach so there was a bit to the side and like the dog was scared of the sea which i was like babes it's all right like i think you'd like

it if you get in like so i was trying to like like motivate him into the sea and all the other dogs having a great time and anyway he was just like not having it so he ran and then the lead snapped and i was like shit but it was an extendable lead like that never happens oh wow like yeah so he started running so obviously i'm also in like my swimwear so like this isn't i'm not in active mode there's no there's no sports bra it wasn't a swimsuit that was like supportive like the jubblies were bouncing thank god you had a reduction i know i know thanks so it was quite intense and then i was also trying to play it cool you can't in that moment i just wanted people to think like i don't know why i cared what people thought but i was like if i panic yeah this could go to hits up yeah and you could also give that

energy off to him and he'd run even further so i was like running and kind of smiling at people thinking get the dog yeah someone get the dog and then he stopped and i'd like to add as well that this dog is like a bear he's gorgeous he's my friend dash these dog he's so lovely and he's a chow chow yeah is it chow chow is it chow chow chow chow chow bella bella chow chow chow that's like a song isn't it but yeah he's massive he's literally like a huge teddy bear yeah like kids like love him i took him to the dog park yesterday and like these kids all came up to me and we're like having a full-blown conversation with teddy oh and they're so sweet because i think they didn't realize he's a real teddy do people ever stop you and ask for pictures of all the time yeah i have that with her yes what is this about i don't know

but the first time it happened i was really confused and i was like uh yeah sure yeah the the guy took the lead off me i thought i've had this yeah i thought he just wanted a picture of the dog no no he wanted a picture with the dog yeah he then gave me his phone yeah and asked me to take a picture of him and i was like this is weird and it was at um you know the crescent at the end of the park yeah it was on there which you're actually not allowed to take dogs there by the way i know i didn't realize at the time not that time maybe another two times later i got told off that i hate getting told off and like that fills me with obviously i couldn't care less i'm like yeah i still can't walk my dog here um and um we carried on walking and i must have got stopped another three times for pictures of the

dog he's gorgeous so he is i think he's that teddy bear look but i also think obviously where there's like a mixture of nationalities yes they're not used to seeing maybe dogs like that well because these dogs are more trendy yeah and i think for like us expats yeah we've all got these mixed breeds so i think people from different parts of the world are like what on earth yeah okay yeah that's true yeah because obviously there's a lot of stray dogs in like all like india wherever you know so i think they're used to seeing the actual traditional dog yeah yeah where we have like teddy bears yeah on leads yeah and there's so many of them but yeah so no but it was fun at the dog park but the kids were making me laugh and they were all chatting and yeah it was very

sweet so it was like the beach yeah we do you know what it was all good and it was it was just fun but yeah there's just a lot of stories connected to these dog walks at the moment oh yeah so yeah but you know what like people chat you up a bit when stories connected to these dog walks at the moment. Oh, yeah. So, yeah. But do you know what? Like, people chat you up a bit when you've got a dog as well. Yeah, I can imagine that. I've got chatted up. I don't think that's happened to me. No.

Yeah, but maybe you've, like, your engagement rings there. Well, when I was at the beach, this guy came over and just, like, had a full-on chat with me for, like, half an hour. Oh, wow. Yeah. And, like, I feel like Teddy helped helped them he was very good looking actually the man was yeah he wasn't necessarily my type but it was really flattering to get yeah that's nice and he was very sweet um but yeah i was like oh this is quite handy any numbers exchanged instagram was exchanged oh yeah but he's he's a bit too bougie for my liking okay maybe i'm being a bit

fussy hilarious if he's now listening because he wants to know about you he's lovely you're really handsome you're amazing do you know what i kept thinking the whole time i was like your parents would be so proud of you oh really and like that's a really condescending thing to think of someone i think that's condescending but like he was telling me about all his achievements and i was like babes you are just a superstar so man at the beach if you're listening you're a superstar your parents should be really proud and I'm proud of you and Chewy's dad big shout out to you back to Chewy's dad again so yeah so that's kind of the main things um and yeah there's no other stuff I think a few of you

listening joined my patrons thank you so much and we've been you've joined it haven't you yes loving it so that's good so it's just been a really really big couple of weeks for me and I'm feeling really good about it yeah good so thank you spirit for looking after me love that yeah you gotta thank him I thank him all the time yeah you know i think it's important to do that when the metro arrives yes just as i get upstairs i'm like thank you spirit green light i'm like that even like if you get a good car parking space yeah or whatever thank you whoever yeah just be grateful basically just be grateful yeah be grateful be kind so

what's this episode about samantha we are going to chat about well yeah we've literally decided this a minute ago but um we have got a really long list of different things we want to talk about on episodes don't we but we just do whatever feels right at that time yeah which I think is important because then we give off a better episode more intuitive yeah um so we're going to chat about money oh yes we're gonna get uncomfortable we're gonna get comfortable we are just gonna chat about money basically so if anyone is like feeling instantly like keep listening definitely because we can work through the trigger yes because i definitely feel like that when it talks when we talk about money yeah so basically the reason where this has come

from is i have 100 manifested money before i without a doubt could say that i've done that um and if people are listening to this thinking well if you can manifest money then why are you not driving a range rover or why are you not living in a six bed house because maybe that's not what I want do you know what I mean I don't necessarily that might not align to me um or I'm not trying to be you know a millionaire or anything um in my way that I have manifested money in the past it has been a case of I want to earn x amount in a month yeah I want the salon to earn x amount in a month I want to have financial freedom or I want to be able to um generate enough money to be able to do this or that's kind of where my money manifesting has gone and I would say that most of your manifesting is very conscious manifesting with money yeah like I think it's quite driver for you yeah yeah definitely it's very specific

and it's very much been a driver um in general right now I've definitely been taking a bit of a backseat on anything like that yeah um and how does it make you feel yeah it's hard because I'm very much at the moment I'm in a time of my life where it feels like everything is going out and not coming in because obviously I'm not working at the moment and yes I obviously have the salon and other businesses on the side it's not really on the side but you get what I mean like passive you have a diverse portfolio yes yeah yeah so although I do have streams of income um it still feels like there's not necessarily money coming in the same way that it was yeah because I'm not physically putting a lot of effort into

working right now um and at the moment for me I have a lot of outgoings obviously I've just had twins so they are expensive anyway in themselves and then it's things like um well I've just bought a house so just bought a house so that's obviously huge amount out of outgoings and everything that comes with it I've also decided to renovate it and it's a bloody brand new house that's okay though it is okay and I'm happy about it I am but there obviously is a lot that then comes with that so for me in my money side of life right now is very different to what I'm used to which then brings me to you because you're also in a very different thing to what you're used to but on the flip side of where I am but it's so interesting because instantly I'm like oh my god you're just oozing abundance you've bought a villa you're so it's your mindset it is and you know what it's really funny actually i sat down the other night and i said to andy i

was like i'm so content i said i really feel content right now like i'm i'm in disbelief of my life like that's how i feel like i was we were just sat on the sofa we were both feeding the girls i think it was at like could have been 3am even and I was just like I'm so happy yeah like we've got these two healthy beautiful girls we're buying a house like we're gonna have a house soon and yeah you know have a garden and yeah I've got the dog I always wanted and like I really really do feel so blessed and lucky for everything but I just there is that little part of me at the moment that's ready to start working again to feel the income coming in to be able to support the rest of that life and I think that's normal to have that feeling and I think what I would say to you before we go on to me with money is um the mindset is is having the abundance that you have these things and you're worthy of it yeah and actually

just giving yourself a moment to just look at what you're achieving yeah because they get a bit frustrated with us when we don't do that because they're like you're taking this for granted yeah so it's like hey like why don't you just sort of sit with this and see that you've been you know you've worked hard yeah you've attracted this and enjoy it in the moment it's like that power of now energy that right now you're having these things and they're incredible and actually you five years ago would be like what oh 100% yeah even two three years ago yeah yeah so it's that kind of thing 100% so I think that's something we'll explore money mindset and we'll talk about that because I work with a lot of people on money mindset so for me the stuff that comes up is I'm terrible with money

I shouldn't actually say that because that's like not the right energy to put out there and when I say I'm terrible with money like for me I'm just like it's just a made-up thing yeah this is the Pisces yeah I'm like oh you know um but I also feel like I really dread opening my online banking I'm sure oh my god yeah I hate it oh wow so like for me to have to like transact money is just like well in the past would have been really uncomfortable right so there's a real trigger there so like there's a real anxious energy of letting money go because I'm driven through fear that I haven't got enough so there's this okay so this is very past me and this is a lot of stuff I've been working on.

I've worked on this with my therapist. I've also looked a lot in my astrology chart because there's so much going on in my astrology chart about how I earn money that I'm exploring, which actually is really empowering. And it's like I've not activated that part of me until recently. Okay. So, yes, a fear of open online banking, fear of transferring money, and fear of commitment as well with money. So, like, I have a place at home. I have my mortgage, which is great.

And I got that at, like, 22. I mean, that's insane. But, like, why? It just was unnecessary. No, it wasn't unnecessary. It's, like, my retirement plan one day. It's a good investment. But, like, I put a lot of pressure on myself to

have like these financial goals when I was young and I also work corporate so like money was good bonuses shares all that stuff so like you're surrounded by it and people spend it and I like to spend but I spend more on like food experiences like that stuff I'm not really like a stuff person yeah so like what I've been doing recently is really looking at the energy exchange with money so you know if I'm gonna buy food I want it to be tasty yeah or healthy yeah you know so if it's gonna be an exchange that I let go of it's because it's for a good thing yeah so like my parents have been really great especially with all the transitions I'm really lucky for my parents um but they helped me out so I sent them a little bit of money every month and that money was resentful because I was like

oh I wish I could have done this myself you know and most of it I did do myself but they just needed to just like give me a little bit of support. And I pay them back. And I'm now paying them, you know, with an energy that's very like, thank you so much. I'm so lucky that you could do that for me. You know, so it's that sort of thing. Sorry to stop you there. The way that I would just think about that as well is one day you're going to have kids. Yeah.

You will make sure that you're in a position to be able to do the same thing yeah kids definitely the last thing you would want is for your kids to feel that way yeah pay you back do you get what i mean no totally and you have to think of it that way and also one day for my parents like i know like i'm building something that is you'll be able to give back yeah like you know just such small things i'm like you know you'll be able to come out to dubai the fridge will be full you won't even have to think yeah you'll just be staying with me and I know that that will happen for them yeah so it's like you know I'm comfortable that you know I don't either want to show myself as um like oh my god I'm so

rich or because I'm not you know like but again where does that come from I don't know but I think sometimes people like portray a lot of like fakeness yes and it comes across arrogant as well yeah so it's that sort of thing and I think for me like I have to work really hard to earn my money yeah and that's a mindset that's associated with you only own money if you work hard and obviously I had to take some risks and changes and that meant I went without yes you know so there's lots of things like that um but I've reached a point now where I'm feeling way more comfortable but that's through my money limitations yeah so I've opened them up so I've been really vulnerable and sharing quite a lot there yeah and I'm comfortable like I

think we all have different ways of what we're doing um and I'm comfortable like I think we all have different ways of what we're doing um and I'm comfortable sharing that because I wish someone told me stuff yeah I know what you mean I don't feel the need to share my bank account no I'm not at all but I've really struggled to build a business like it's been tough yeah I would I'd say for me like I learned a lot through just um self-development work yeah like a lot of books I'd read podcasts I'd listened to all things like that which is what made my mindset the way that it is yeah um especially around money yeah and I was also very lucky that I was never shamed for thinking a certain way do you know what I mean like if I said to my mum or dad like I want to earn this much in a month they'd be like yeah do it and like I remember um wanting to buy because I do like

things you know I love a designer handbag I love having a goal of like I'm gonna buy that when I've made this much that kind of thing and I remember um wanting to buy my first ever designer handbag was this mulberry bag and i'd gone to cheshire oaks which is like a designer outlet place and i rang my mom and i was like oh what do you think i should do do you think i should do it and she was like do it you've worked so hard i'm so proud of you and it's so nice that my mom did that because she would never in a million years do that herself yeah because she she actually said it to me the other day we stood outside a shop in dubai mall and she said to me like god i could never imagine spending that much money but to me she was like do it i'm so proud of you yeah and i think i've been very lucky that i've

had that support yeah um which has made it easier to be that way i suppose be confident with money your parents behavior will affect your money mindset. Yeah. So, like, you know, there's obviously something that your mums are empowered you to spend that money. Yeah. Like, my parents are, like, incredibly risk adverse. Like, you know, they're very conscious.

It's lovely. And mine are as well. But, like, when it comes to them, they really are. Yeah. And I think that's that generation. So it's like, you know, and I think that's that generation so it's like you know um but I think with with your upbringing like there's a lot of stuff that goes into it and also the way working is now so before the only way you had money is if you work really hard yes where now

you just need to work smart yeah and that's really uncomfortable for a lot of us so I definitely feel like I'm working smarter yeah and that's helped. But also like money limitation is a huge thing for me. So, you know, I've been really working through that. Yeah. And I've been looking at like what comes up, why do I limit myself to what I can access? And this was only probably a month ago because at the start of the year, I was in the peak of my Saturn's return my Saturn's return for those that don't understand what Saturn is it's basically a transit that happens every 29 to 31 years and it hits a peak at a certain point and that was for me in January and February

and Saturn dried up all my work now I know people might be like don't blame Saturn yeah but it was in the house of work and service and they and there was a feeling of changing things up for me it was like a real shift and it was really tough because january's really busy for me yeah like i am normally incredibly busy and i wasn't like that's really tough when you're self-employed very and it'll be scary well i don't have a partner yeah so like when i say about like my parents you know this is no safety net yeah and they are and I'm you know and I'm lucky that I've got parents that really support me of my business but it is hard when you're on your own definitely you know in a different country yeah so it's like you know there's definitely you know things have been tough however over that time instead of feeling sorry for myself I got incredibly frustrated I really

really sat with the energy of what was coming up and what was frustrating me and what was coming up was that I'm too reactive instead of proactive so the business comes I'm pretty lucky it does always come I had a dry spell but it's always there without me trying yeah and that's really complacent yeah you know like that's not proactive yeah and actually I have got energy to be proactive so what that did was it gave me permission to be more proactive in how am I going to build a business how am I going to be more entrepreneurial how am I going to be more successful yeah and why is it not happening yeah you know and I'm sure people listen thinking oh Jess you're really successful and like yeah like I've definitely made some bold

moves but you could have been doing more yeah yeah so it's that that came up for me and I think there's probably a lot of people listening that can relate to money stuff and a lot of my clients come to me and they're in loads of debt and like it consumes them and it's so sad yeah you know because it's like money really really fucks us up yeah you know it really does and I think what we have to do is look at things and understand why he's doing that you know why know, why are we consumed by the debt? Because society's like, that's bad. You know? But actually, like, if you can manage it,

and like, yeah, you've made some bad decisions, but like, there's a number against it. So it's very like, fail, you failed, you know? If you're an unkind person, like, there's not a spreadsheet that's like, you're unkind, you're unkind. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, that's so yeah and I think I find with most of my work the reason I go through so many different things in my life is so that I can have empathy and understand what

people are going through so thanks spirit for that because I do feel as though they've given me a lot to explore myself um but money mindset's the biggest thing so like you have a limitation of how much debt's acceptable yes you know you have a limitation of how much you want to earn a month yeah that's a big one yeah yeah so then you have it both ways you do i've i've i have this conversation with my mentoring clients and i say to them what is the what is the amount that you can't see yourself earning more than in a month yeah and what is your least so what's your minimum and your maximum basically yeah so like for some people they could never if self-employed or not like right let's put it this way say you're on a salary and your salary was a thousand pounds a month yeah so you could

never imagine earning less than a thousand pounds a month because you know that that thousand pounds a month is coming in every single month yeah you also can't imagine earning past it yeah because you believe and i'll be honest you believe not that you are yeah that you can't earn more than that because you're in a job where you get a salary so you couldn't possibly earn more than that yeah you can earn more than that yeah there are many ways that you can stream an income yeah and when you're in a job and i'm going to use a teacher here as an example because a lot of my friends are teachers and my husband's a teacher um they will see that and be like oh i can't earn more because my job doesn't you know doesn't do that no no you can you could tutor you could create an online

business you could um go for a promotion at work you could change your job you could do anything to make that number more if you wanted it to be more yeah but you're sitting in a comfort zone where you don't want it to be more and you've limited your beliefs to keep it at that but it's quite a subconscious thing you do there so oh yeah, people won't even realise that they do that. Yeah, so hopefully this podcast will inspire everyone to look at their subconscious limitations of overdraft debt stuff and also what you want to earn.

Because you don't actually realise that you're like, just as long as I get by. We're all quite prude in, we don't want to be too like yes yeah you know what's the word i don't know but sort of we don't want to show off or anything like that but i always think if we all had you know more money available to us yeah we could make a bigger difference yeah so like for me now it's more like the more resources i have available through like my earnings means i can give back more definitely I know not everyone's like that with money and that's okay but I think there is

a mindset that like we can be uncomfortable if we do well yeah um and it's about how you look at that so yeah I agree the limitation is a big thing so anyone that's listening and thinking oh god do I have a limitation probably we all do so it could be that you're like I just want enough for one holiday a year and you know to be able to get my weekly shop and not stress or take away the weekend yeah and that's lovely like that's a good life yeah but you know what be bold ask for a bit more yeah and open up the limitation because you will be limiting yourself and like I was saying about our parents generation they didn't spend as much because like I don't feel like we went out for dinner as much like they didn't have as much to spend on I don't think either like things weren't maybe as it just wasn't I don't know but it wasn't

yeah it wasn't as much of a thing so we grew up where like you know you would like in a lovely way you'd have dinner at your dining table a lot yeah every night yeah so it's things like that where we're now in a new way of living and then yeah it's just quite difficult I know people probably thinking oh it's really easy to say like open your limitation but honestly my limitation has been bloody closed yeah and it has caused me so much frustration so I'm here with you like I get it but what I have been doing recently is basically saying that I can access this I can have more yeah and I'm not greedy and it's not my ego yeah I think greedy is the right word when you were

saying before about what's that like yeah you know we don't want to sound like we're being greedy and being like we want more yeah but you can have more and like you've just said you can then do good with it yeah and that's absolutely fine you're it's fine to want more for yourself is what I'm trying to say yeah and I don't think that has to be seen as a negative thing but it is seen as negative it is and then there's such a negative energy about money so if you've got money it's like show off if you haven't oh god you're not very like smart yeah you know so whatever you have if you're just all right well bless them they're just all right yeah there's such a negative dialogue and energy to anything financial yeah you know most of the time

yeah would you agree yeah yeah so then you think about that energy exchange collectively in the world about money yeah is just filled with this heaviness so if you can lift above that heaviness and rise above like that societal stuff so you look at your limitations both sides yeah and really think about what it is for you and what you want and removing that shame yeah you know like I'm sure at moments when I've spoken today I'm like oh should I've said that you know and you get really uncomfortable because this is a really uncomfortable space yeah but actually if you can move through that and rise above it then you can definitely receive more and I think for me over the last couple of months like I've I've had my best months ever and that's because I made a conscious choice yeah Yeah. I tapped into it. I felt the frustration.

And it's not a coincidence. Yes. Like opportunities have come to me that I've never had before. Yeah. And it's as though I just opened my limitation quite a bit wider. And it's like subconsciously these people have gone, oh, what about Jess? She's ready. Yeah.

Because I wasn't before where I am now. And I want other people to feel that. And I know it's still really early in my journey of like, open this up, but I wish I did it sooner. I know, yeah. You know. It is, it's wild, isn't it? Yeah, I think that people just,

they do definitely need to become a little bit more comfortable with it, but also feeling worthy of it as well yeah and i think it is i know again there'll probably be people listening to this who are thinking like oh it's all right for you to say when you're living in dubai and you know it's tax free or it's x y and z whatever um but we're not talking about this necessarily right now from like a circumstantial point of view it is more a case of just opening your mind yes energetically to what what could you be receiving or what could you be doing or yeah um just opening your mind to it's something different basically yeah and i think the way like

if people are thinking well how do i do it yes like what you know what what do i do you know so i would say if from the from like the basis like the basics sorry yeah of um beginning on money mindset work would definitely be starting with learning what your minimum and your maximum are yeah what i just said before about you know what can you see yourself only earning and the maximum yeah why is that why do you feel like that and then what would you want it to be you know and i'm not saying go crazy with this i'm not saying that if your salary if you can only see yourself or your salary is a thousand pounds a month i'm not saying go to like 15 000 a month yeah try 1500 yeah you know and how would you feel earning that you're quite numbers focused on i'm very numbers focused yeah and i do go off a feeling as well like how would that feel to earn that money

yeah would it feel good would it not feel good and why wouldn't it feel good and but i am very numbers focused more so i think for me because then i've been able to see that it's worked yeah so if i have tangible exactly yeah so if i have like an actual number in my mind i'm like right i want to get to that this month then i can work it out and like with my staff for example will then go through like what you need to do in a day and you know how break it down yes and that makes it easy for my brain to compute it and that's just my way of learning and you know i think that's a really logical way though isn't it which is definitely yeah but you are i know what you're the way that you do it and the way that i

think that i now go that way yeah is more on a feeling of money and how would i feel with that and for me in the past my goals were very like you say very tangible very like specific and then I I noticed this year they really did change and I said them to you I think you're like oh that's really beautiful and a lot of mine was very similar to what you'd said is I'd love to be able to like treat my mom and dad and you know be able to do those things with that money yeah like I always say to people when they come to me about money I'm like do you want to go to waitrose and buy the tomatoes there without thinking about it yeah like would that give you like a really good feeling you know that those tomatoes on a vine you cut them up a bit of olive oil a bit of salt yeah like those tomatoes are banging yeah like that could be something that

you really want yeah you could also want the range rover and that's also incredible if you want that yeah but it really can vary in like the feeling clearly i really want those tomatoes and you know what i want the tomatoes too i'm not bothered about the range rover maybe i was one day but i'm genuinely not now yeah and i remember moving here and doing my food shopping in certain supermarkets that i was i pure anxiety about because they were so busy and they were it was not an enjoyable experience at all and being like god i can't wait to just go be able to go to waitrose or go to spinneys yeah and get my food shopping and now going to those places you'll do it without realizing and then one day you go oh shit i do my

food shopping here you know and that's the thing or it could just even be you know i do love a bit of aldi yeah like i love it like i do i love i love if they have that here fever's quite good here not for food yeah not fresh food but like team food yeah um but like um apparently the frozen salmon's good oh i've heard that um but no i think it can really vary but like it's a feeling of something small i would say I agree so like the tomatoes wherever you want to buy them from um but you know it's that kind of thing and the reason we say Waitrose and Spinneys is because they're the British supermarkets here yeah I don't really shop in Waitrose at home no I'd never go I'd go to Aldi at home yeah I love Aldi it's just because that's like our equivalent um so but you know I think I go on a feeling and

then I think about what would that feeling be um and I think that's something I would urge you to explore like what do you want to feel when you're doing these things um and write them down so like write down like a few goals whether it's tomatoes or you know if you want a job promotion you want more money like what limitation is happening energetically for you to stop getting that? You know, is it that you're commission-based and you could maybe increase your percentage? It might be an uncomfortable conversation,

but maybe if you open your limitation, you could bring it in. Yeah. Is it a case that you just want to be able to go to Zara and not look at the tag? Yeah, well, this is it. So it's's like or it could just be you know you want to have the numbers in your bank account to save yeah and it doesn't really matter or it could just be that you really want to be debt free and how amazing would that feel like you know to not have that on you yeah so there's so many different emotions but what you have to do is you have to really tap into what you want yes but also you have to ask yourself what am I limiting what am I stopping myself from achieving because I just need enough

yeah so I did it for my birthday weekend I don't know if I said this but like you know I had just enough for that weekend out of like my fun money and it just made me laugh because I just thought okay spirit you've just showed me I had a weekend. I did everything I wanted to, but I came back with just enough. Yeah. Out of that pot. And I was just like, typical. Yeah. And I limited myself there.

Yeah. So it's about looking at what you're doing daily. Yeah. You know. And I think also going back to what you said before about like when you'd send money and you'd feel like negative about it. I always feel very positive about anything like that so like if i pay for a coffee for example i'm like thank you yeah thank you to the person who's made the coffee thank you to the coffee shop for being open yeah thank you to the money in my bank account for going like i feel very positive

about that exchange where i'm like oh net worth online banking yeah yeah i'm like, oh, NatWest online banking. Yeah. I'm like, right, I genuinely have to gear myself up for it. Really? Yeah. Like, I have to be like, okay, here we go. Let's go and see what's going on. Right. It's always fine, but it always feels like it's not going to be. Yeah.

Because there's this fear that's been installed in me through my energy that, you know, I'm working through. So, like, it's a really, you know, so there's discipline's discipline there yeah so now when I open the bank in I do it and I go right you've got this I have to give myself a pep talk yeah this is okay every time it's okay you know you're fine it's like that kind of conversation I have to have in my head to sort of give like a bit of support I have to support myself because when it comes to money we can feel so private about it yeah we don't share the burden of what we're feeling and obviously I feel it through my clients it's such everyone talks about money yeah everyone yeah so I feel

how much this burdens people and it's just you know we have to be open and talk about not open in a sense of like you don't say what's in your bank account yeah but I think if we broke down some barriers we'd all feel a bit better definitely yeah and just not feeling guilty for feeling any way my therapist really helped me so I think if you're listening and you can resonate to me about that fear of online banking yeah that sort of stuff like there's a little bit of like a fear driven mentality to money like you know my therapist really helped me she just sort of gave me because it was confidential you know when you can have like some conversations yeah she's like

babes what are you worrying about chill out yeah and I was like okay yeah actually you're putting this into perspective for me because I'm in my head because we don't want to share and talk about it yeah so it's lots of stuff so I think really you know there's a lot of takeaways it's more emotional as always for me yeah I think writing the numbers down like you do is really good yeah um I think there's limitation with writing numbers yes 100 but I think it's a starting point yeah but there's also like a big takeaway about what your limitation is in your mind yeah so what is acceptable yeah and actually thinking can i change that yeah can i can i move that further away so it's bigger yeah you know or can i be comfortable with that yeah and and sitting with that and then maybe like the same with debt if you've got an amount

being like do you know what that limitation I can deal with yeah so I'm going to stop shaming myself for that I'm going to stop shaming myself that by the end of the month I'm left with 70p in my bank account yeah you know because that happens lots of people live like that and I've lived like that many times and I have moments self-employed where it's sticky so when that comes up not putting shame you know and allowing that to just be and a positive emotion that comes through to say I've agreed this limitation now so I'm gonna stop yeah I'm gonna stop being hard on myself yeah you know I've definitely had to do that this month like I say my bank account has been the lowest it's ever been this month, yeah, and I remember even in December, just gone, it was the

busiest month that we'd ever had for the salon, but yet the bank account was the lowest, because there was so much that had to go out, yeah, and, but I still felt amazing, because I was like, no, this is amazing, like, it's so good, but it is hard to then have those months where you don't have as much in your bank account, you're not used to yeah um and you know expenses are higher or whatever it is but it's just like you said it's just getting comfortable with it and not feeling not feeling guilt or not feeling shame yeah i think shame is a big emotion i felt with money that like i've made decisions that's been like shamed or i feel shame yeah or I've spent and then I feel shame yeah like it's the real sort of thing I've had to work through and that's why you know like I say I

help people with it but it's the really uh shame's a horrible emotion yeah it's really and I think there's a lot with money yeah and it's really sad and it really really bothers me that there's so much associated with this thing that basically has been made up by man that everything needs to be worth something which is ridiculous yeah i know that that's why we work but why do we work yeah why do we do all this for money like he's outrageous i feel like when the world was made, we didn't, our exchange would have been, right, if you think a few hundred years ago, so say I was like some healer in the woods, right? Okay.

And you were like, oh, I need to go to her because I'm going to have a baby. Okay. You would maybe be like, right, I'm going to make some, like, cookies. Yeah. Or some potatoes. I'm going to bring her some potatoes that I've grown.

Yeah. And I'd say thank you for the potatoes okay here's what i'm gonna do for the healing and there's this exchange and it's like you know there's this fit that's where the concept of restaurants came from because people would cook for people and then you would bring something as an exchange yeah and then obviously then it's being associated with this number and this structure and this like this is good and this is bad yeah and it's the root of all evil isn't it it is yeah and it doesn't need to be no it doesn't and we have to access that higher power yeah you know there is there is definitely a positive side to obviously money

as well like in terms of you know you can do good with it you can do good with it and i think the energy that you put out there is what you receive yeah so when you spend money so like those small things like my online banking there's been such a journey there yeah and it's like tipping someone in a restaurant yeah about how good that could have been for that person yeah exactly so it's just sort of looking at things in a more um love and light way yeah love and light but you know what i mean yeah but yeah so money is weird i don't actually to summarize money is weird who the hell made it up yeah but like last sorry i feel like i'm going a little bit um away from the actual concept but like who did make it up why did they decide it was a good thing i have no idea it was man it's the this is the whole point

of like the patriarchy and everything is valued and it's just you know it's a it's crazy the world will never change now but well i don't think it will but i hope it does but you know it's just a very um bizarre thing when you actually think about it oh yeah and how much emotion is there how much is affected by it how like people feel all this stuff about something that's been made up yeah isn't that crazy yeah it's weird so yeah sorry so there we go i'll leave you to think about that this is what my brain does all day yeah whereas i'm like oh i'd just rather not think about that yeah well you're like it's all right it can't be good I'm like no it's a man fuck yeah it is evil we're like you know when you see in them old cartoons and they have like a devil yeah an angel on one shoulder someone's going to spend money and I'm like this is a really good transaction they're like this is awful

well I hope you liked that episode i feel like we have waffled a little bit but i've enjoyed it to be fair and i'm sure a lot of people have gained a lot of um insight from it i guess you're not on your own yeah like i think that would be my thing yeah sometimes it's nice to hear what other people are feeling and if you have any questions about it like just reach out you know i'm happy to delve into the more spiritual side of it if anyone needs a bit of guidance there because yeah you just sometimes need a little bit of support yeah not be on your own exactly yeah okay babes do you want to do the outro if i can remember how to yes i can yeah thank you for listening to um our podcast this

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