Spiritually Speaking with Jessica & Samantha - When the Past Comes Knocking: Family Secrets & the Jealous Friend
Episode Date: March 28, 2025Buckle up, because this week’s episode of Spiritually Speaking is a wild ride! Jess kicks things off with a powerful energy update on the Eclipse Portal, explaining why everything feels so intense,... unpredictable, and emotionally charged right now. If you've been feeling unsettled, overwhelmed, or like the universe is stirring up old wounds—you’re not alone.Then, we dive into some truly powerful listener questions:A long-lost family member suddenly returns after disappearing and changing their identity—how do you process the anxiety and emotions that come with it?An ex resurfaces just before getting married, confessing their feelings and leaving someone torn—should they trust fate or walk away?Venus Retrograde is exposing hidden jealousy in a friendship group—how do you navigate it without losing your peace?The cosmos are turning up the volume, and we’re here to help you ride the waves of transformation with clarity, intuition, and a little bit of tough love. Tune in for insights, advice, and spiritual guidance on handling the wild shifts happening right now!Join the conversation and let us know—how are you feeling during this Eclipse Portal?
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Hello and welcome to Spiritually Speaking with me Sam and with me Jess. Hello. Hello.
Welcome back. Nice to be back. It is babes, it is. We're doing a pre-recall today aren't
we? We are indeed. Thank you everyone. Got some busy plans coming up haven't you? I have
babes. I'm heading to the Philippines for two weeks
and I am on nonstop adventures there.
So there was no time for recording the pod.
Very exciting.
Are you going on your own to the Philippines?
No, so I'm going with my flatmate Chloe,
well, my old flatmate from my Dubai days.
I was gonna say, you live on your own.
Yeah.
My imaginary friend.
I was going to say you live on your own. Yeah, my imaginary friend.
So we are meeting in Cebu, I think it's called, and then we're going to swim with the whale
sharks and then we're doing a thing called canyoneering where basically you like wear
a life jacket and a helmet and jump off rocks into like waterfalls and like natural
rapids but just using your body as a boat and yes, it looks really fun.
Very like adventure holiday then.
Yeah, like full on and then we fly to somewhere else, can't remember where and then we get
on a boat for three days and we like sail around all the islands
but we camp on the beach on a different island every night. Now it doesn't look the most luxurious
let me be honest but they're like glamping sort of teepees off the ground on the beach
so I'm hoping it'll be clean but I've never slept on a beach before. So like,
yeah, that doesn't sound like my kind of holiday. I won't lie to you. It's going to be full on.
And then after that, we've got like five days on an island just to chill. But the sort of bookends
of the trip, we've got like really nice cabins on the beach. And then we've kind of got this intense
sort of like five days, but now I can't wait. I
think it'll be so nice even just to go with her as well and like have a holiday with a
friend.
Yeah. And then I think I've got like then five or six days on my own. So I'm going to
go to a different Island. So yeah. And it was massively on the vision board Philippines.
It's been sort of on the cards for a while and it happened very sort of like literally,
we only planned it about three weeks ago, which is really nice.
And I've decided I'm going to have a bit of a detox from my phone.
I'm trying to work out what that'll be because I won't be working for the two weeks, which
is nice.
So I'm just going to switch off and I might not post on socials for that whole time and then do like an update after
and just like, just connect with myself, you know,
and the elements.
Yeah, be in the moment.
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.
So I was listening to a Jay Shetty podcast
and he said how like beneficial a digital detox is.
And I thought, do you know what?
This could be a good time for it.
Obviously I'll take videos and stuff, but just.
Put your phone on flight mode.
Yeah, not feel the pressure to be like
communicating with people all the time.
Yeah.
Love, that sounds so good.
Thanks girl, how are you?
Yeah, good.
So yesterday, I had a day off yesterday, which was nice.
And I did things like met a friend for a coffee.
Me and Andy went for dinner,
like just nice things went, did a Pilates class.
But Blake was sick in the middle of the day.
And we just thought we'd overfed her to be honest.
Like she's quite sensitive in comparison to like River.
Like she's got a sensitive tummy, sensitive skin.
She's just a sensitive soul, bless her.
And yeah, so she threw up all over me.
And then she did it again just before she went to bed.
And we were like, oh, okay.
But we were like, no, I think we've just overfed her.
I think that's what it is.
And then woke her up this morning.
And at the moment the girls are in separate rooms
because I don't even know why or when it happened,
but they are from one of them was teething or something.
So they're in separate rooms.
And then I woke River up first.
And then I took her into Blake's room
and I was like, say good morning to your sister.
And then she'd thrown up all over her crib.
She'd had diarrhea as well.
And I was like, oh my God.
And Andy leaves for work like super, super early.
So he wasn't here.
And my nanny hadn't started yet.
So I was obviously on my own with them.
And the dog's also obviously in the room as well.
And I was like, right, okay.
Like, how are we gonna handle this?
So yeah, that was a lot, trying to deal with that.
And I can actually hear them crying as we're recording this.
So normally, I can hear them.
I just heard them scream, yeah.
Yeah. Oh, bless them.
As we'd normally record, I'd normally be in the salon,
but I'm not today.
Oh God, can you hear that?
Oh, don't worry, that's all right.
They're just, you know, doing their thing.
Oh, she's got a coffee glass.
That's River as well, that's not Blake.
She's just woken up, so that's why she's crying.
But yeah, anyway, so it's just been a lot.
There's been a lot of that, basically.
Of just, um, life, trying to juggle it
when you're on your own is not easy.
But luckily I'm not often on my own in those situations.
So yeah, that's what it is.
Well, babe, so well done.
You handled it well.
It's tricky these things.
Yeah.
It's, you know what it is?
It's tricky the first time.
Like it's always tricky,
but it's trickier the first time of everything.
Like the first time that they're sick, for example,
you're just like, okay, not experienced this before,
how do we handle this?
And then the first time that like, you know,
I don't know, they're up all night or something like that.
Like it's always the first time that's the hardest.
And then after that, you kind of learn from your experience.
Exactly, babes, look at you.
That's good, well done.
So yeah, I apologize if you can hear my baby crying in the background guys.
No, no, no, no, it's just I only heard it softly, they might not be able to hear it,
they, the listeners.
And so should we give a little summary of what we're going to do today?
So we're going to give a little energy update on what's going on in the air because there's
quite a lot.
We are pre-recording, so we are recording this actually on the Spring Equinox, which is Thursday the 20th of March. This is going to come out
a week later, but the energy will still be there. You'll be going into a solar eclipse
sort of as this comes out, so you'll get the feels for it. And then we've got some questions
that have been submitted that are very good, intense, and we're going to work with the
cards and guidance to see what comes
through. So does that sound like a good plan Samantha?
Sounds brilliant. I'm just moving away from the door so hopefully you won't be able to
keep hearing that.
Don't worry babes. So the energy right now is really full on. I'm bloody tired. Like
sorry Sam, I know you've got twins and your sleep might be affected, but I will say being a psychic in this energy, beeping wipes me.
Yeah, I can imagine.
I feel like I've had naps. I never nap anymore. I have been so reluctant to do tasks.
I know that sounds ridiculous,
but I just feel like I've got to do this,
I've got to do that, and I've got nothing in me.
Nothing in me.
It's a lot.
So if anyone's feeling like that,
I did do an Instagram story,
and loads of people replied saying,
oh my God, I'm so relieved you've said that,
because I feel the same. So firstly that. So what we're in right now, we are in an eclipse
portal. Sounds quite cool, doesn't it? Yeah, it does. Sounds like a tunnel. It kind of
is a tunnel when you sort of visualize the energy and it's when a portal is between two
eclipses. So we've had the lunar eclipse which
happened last week and now we're moving into the solar eclipse which is like the new moon
next week. So we're in the middle, we're in the depths of this energy and what you find
with eclipses is their intense shedding of endings, the start of new beginnings is very powerful, but it's deep soul work.
And it feels like the energy is on steroids. So like, you know, you might be feeling quite
in a mixture of energy right now, sort of feeling like you're letting go of stuff. You
want to push forward, but it feels a bit hard. We've got the spring equinox, which is happening
today as we're recording, that's setting your intentions. It doesn't mean you need to do everything
straight away. It's just planting your seeds of what you want.
So yeah, a lot happening. Psychic new year, isn't it?
Basically, so what happens is Aries is like the
start of the zodiac calendar. So as we move into the Aries energy, we are moving
into the new year. The spring equinox symbolizes this new shift, this new start. So yeah, to
me, this is the new year. This is like the hump between Christmas and new year that you
have where it's a bit like, that's how I'm feeling. And then I'm sort of ready to go.
But obviously we've got the eclipse portal happening on top of this as well as
Venus retrograde and Mercury retrograde. So that's a lot of energy. Babes is so much.
So today is, sorry today is actually my sister's birthday as well. What a day for her birthday.
Happy birthday. Beautiful birthday for Spring Equinox emerging into the world.
Big energies for her.
Yeah, definitely.
And she's obviously a Pisces.
So the Pisces energy is quite heightened right now with all of this.
So the people that are going to feel quite affected, obviously we all will.
The Pisces in the house, naturally, we're going to be feeling it because the eclipse
is, no, sorry, sorry, well, the north, I don't want to make it really confusing. So basically Pisces,
you're feeling it. Aries, you're feeling it. Virgo, you're feeling it. Okay? So if you
have that prominent in your charts, so Sam, you're a Pisces moon, I'm a Pisces sun, we're
going to feel it. The Virgos, you are going to feel it on steroids, Aries, you're also going to
feel it really intense. Or look at your astrology chart and see where those parts of your chart
are, then you can understand where Aries of your life you're going to feel it. Yeah.
Yeah, exactly. So on my membership, we go a bit deeper into all that stuff, but
that's basically how you can work it out. But it is a, I don't know, it's just mad.
Big endings, big beginnings and just things sort of moving in a funny way. So yeah, it's just a wild energy. So if you're feeling all of it, just be kind
to yourself. Be kind.
Always.
So do you want to, we thought we'd share some of our Spring Equinox manifestations.
Yes.
What we're sort of planting our seeds. over there. But yeah, so my some of mine are what I would love is, I suppose, I mean, I
would love to manifest a girl's trip. Amen sister. Yes. And I'll be part of that. Yes,
exactly. That would be amazing. There are quite a few things I'd love to manifest
with the Salon.
New staff that I'd love to attract, which is exciting.
New energies, new staff, obviously just growing the business
even more, really focusing on my online work.
Yeah.
And yeah, attracting more of that basically.
Amazing, that's good, I love that.
And it's nice, because I think when you have the equinox,
it gives you that chance to just sort of look
at what you want, what do you want to reset,
what do you want to push forward.
So that's powerful, babes, well done.
Yeah, yeah, that's why my energy's flowing.
Love it, girl, love it. girl. Love it. How about you?
Well, I basically, so I had more sort of like, obviously more internal emotional ones, because
that's the story of my life. So I've put to be more present so that it allows me to feel
really happy in the moment. So one thing I've reflected on is,
we're in our 30s now,
sometimes there feels like there's this biological clock
ticking.
And I feel like that biological clock drives me mad
and takes the joy out of so many experiences
because I'm literally sort of thinking,
will I have kids? You know,
is this person right for me? And I just think I'm so over thinking like that. And I feel
like I spent the end of my twenties thinking like that. And I thought, do you know what?
This is now about me being present, just allowing myself to be happy and just really enjoy the
moment. So that's my first one.
I've also put having more fun with like dating, like attracting more fun in my life. Like I just feel like sometimes things can be really serious and just, you know, routine. And I'm like, no,
I want to have fun and experiences. Obviously I'm doing that in the Philippines, but I do feel like it
makes my life better and I can be in the moment.
What I've noticed, so me and Sam have been doing the 21 Day Challenge that's part of
my community, the psychic circle.
And I was saying this to Sam, obviously I've made this to help everyone, but I've done
it as well. So like
I've set the tasks for everyone to do, but I've also been completing them myself. And
I'm shocked at how much this has impacted me and how much like it's forced me to become
even more self-aware, which I didn't know was possible, especially through my own like
advice, if you know what I mean.
So I have been thinking about the way I talk about myself and I feel like I'm actually
really hard on myself and sort of not feeling like I'm beautiful or like my body, all these
things. So basically I've put a manifestation about being like, I'm beautiful, like my body, all these things. So basically I've put a manifestation about being like,
I'm beautiful, like my body is beautiful. And like really just like projecting that
out there now, because I think for my whole life, I've always had a negative like, manifestation
about myself and the way I look. So I've been spending some time on that and the
challenges showed me how much I say horrible things to myself. So I've been
really checking in with that and then some business stuff, things growing,
psychic circles like really growing and I want that to continue to grow. I want
to continue to be in service and I want to continue
surrendering to my path, not forcing things, attracting things. And that's kind of the energy
that I'm in. So it's been more of internal stuff instead of like money or whatever. But I feel like
this helps me become the version that I feel like I'm meant to be or want to be.
Yeah, I think it's all great stuff.
I think that it's exciting to see.
And it's funny because when you, obviously,
there's so many things that you've said there
that so many people who are listening will be like,
I can't believe she's feeling like that.
Do you know what I mean?
Like she's obviously gorgeous.
She's obviously having so much fun on her travels. She's already having so much fun in all the things that
she's doing. But like for you, like you just don't see it the same as what other people
do. So it'll be nice for you to see it.
And I think that's it, you know, like to actually see myself in those ways, because I was saying
to Sam that a big thing I have is my side profile.
I think having big boobs, like I can feel like I literally will look at myself in a reflection on
the side angle and be like, Oh, you look horrible. Like it's just an instant. Like I don't even want
to look. So what I've been doing is forcing myself to look at the reflection and go like,
you are beautiful. Look at those curves. Look at that shape.
And I'm forcing myself to do it. So like it's been powerful, but yeah, you're right. You
know, a lot of people are very kind to me and very supportive of me. But they're still
insecurities and I think that's being human and I think we always have them. But I think
I'll feel more content if I start to believe
when people say these things.
Yeah, definitely.
And I think everybody, like you say,
always has insecurities and they're probably
to some extent always gonna have them,
it might not necessarily go away,
but it's how you manage them and it's how you speak
to yourself is a huge one.
Yeah, and I think like-
Mute them.
Mute them, yeah, exactly.
Well, overwrite them, like literally like reprogram them,
which is what I've been doing.
And I've done that in so many elements of my life.
Like I was thinking about my insecurities
to talk about spirituality.
Like, not being funny, I can't bloody shut up now.
Like I didn't wanna tell a soul about this.
Like it was a secret.
And I worked through the insecurities
and now like it doesn't even cross my mind.
So I'm now thinking how can I do that
in other ways of my life.
So yeah, really cool.
So thanks babes.
Love, love, love.
Love, love, love.
Right.
Should we get juicy?
Juicy Lucy.
Let's get juicy.
We've got three quite big questions here
that I have for us, which are really good
and all very fitting with the energy right now.
Are they?
Wow.
Yes.
So, right, let me go on the first one.
Okay, so.
Gonna shuffle my cards while you're speaking.
I know, yeah, I feel like I need a glass of water,
but I'm good.
I feel like I've just, you know,
you feel like you've just been talking for so long.
We have been on Zoom for like an hour and a half
before this recording, by the way.
Yeah, literally just chatting on constantly.
Okay, right.
I have a friend that I have known for years.
We're part of a big friendship group and have always gotten along well.
But a few years ago, she started singling me out for no apparent reason.
When I addressed it, she apologized and we moved on.
Now roughly three years later, it's happening again.
She goes out of her way to ignore me and never supports
me in anything. What should I do? Should I stop trying? How can I make this not bother
me anymore? I'm so over it, but because we're in a big group, I feel like I just can't ignore
it.
That's really tough, especially when it's in a friendship group.
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Definitely. Cause obviously there's almost more people involved
in the situation.
Yeah, you kind of feel like if you're the disruptor,
then it could like divide the group and then, you know,
like my friendship group, we had something like this
and it just left this sort of underlying tension,
but also things do need to be dealt with, you know?
So let's see what the cards say.
They do, I think it's really hard as well
when you've said that like you're in a friend,
like this is happening within a friendship group,
but I don't know if this is happening or not,
but it's kind of like, okay, well,
you have other people not speaking up for you as well.
Yeah, definitely.
I think that's what sometimes can be really hard
in these situations because you want
all the people around you to notice that it's going on and maybe they do or maybe they don't,
but if they do notice it, then why aren't they speaking up as well?
Yeah, and this kind of makes sense because the cards I've pulled, we've got the devil
and the tower.
So like it's actually quite a toxic energy that's coming through with
this sort of relationship. We've also got the king of swords, so action is needed, but
the king of swords is mature. So there's a strength there. And we've also got the lovers.
Now the lovers is always conceived as this card of love and passion, but it's actually
choice. It's about the duality of the two when you look at the lover's card. So what comes up for me is it doesn't sound like this friend is serving this person.
It doesn't feel like it's got any pleasure or happiness in this friendship.
The fact that the devil's there tells me that there's maybe jealousy, insecurity coming
up as well. So this person, you know, how you're feeling is like,
you know, the friend is saying stuff about you or you know, like you said, they're kind of treating
you differently. Like you are, you're not going mad. Like the devil tells me that that is the case.
But it also tells me that it could be consuming you and it could be sort of bringing up some
wounds, okay?
Now we have the tower that comes with the devil.
Now the tower is destruction, which kind of makes sense for like this person in regards
to like the friendship group.
It feels disruptive.
You know, it's not just like, oh, a friend and we can sort of step away.
You know, I had something similar at the beginning of the year
where I sort of had to step away from a friendship
and it was okay, it was not a drama
because there wasn't lots of people involved.
Now, it's normal, we outgrow friendships, don't we?
So it does feel disruptive, but it feels to me that like,
it might need to be slightly disruptive to clear it up.
Now with this friendship group, I also wonder like, is that friendship group
maybe no longer, it was similar to the question we had someone not that
long ago say about, I think it's from Mum friends.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Is this person outgrowing their friendship group?
Maybe, maybe things are changing, you know, and maybe being in that environment
isn't serving that person anymore.
That's what comes up for me.
And I think that's what's hard as women, you know,
because there is jealousy.
So this person feels like they're achieving stuff,
they're being successful, and maybe there's some jealousy.
What do you think?
Yeah, because I'm just looking back on it now
and it says about how she goes out of
her way to ignore me and never supports me in anything.
So I think it's really hard when you are probably a supportive person and support people probably
with your eyes closed.
Like you're naturally just that sure energy to be like, that's amazing.
Well done.
You know, really want to support someone, really want to show up for people. And then when someone doesn't do that for you, who
you consider to be a close friend or you're in a close friendship group with, it's kind
of like, well, why is that not happening? And, you know, we don't give to receive and
we don't expect everybody else to behave the way that we behave because that's not how
the world works. But when it's somebody that you value as a close friend, it obviously
does hit very differently when you're not met with a similar energy, even if it's not
the same, if it's not similar. So I think what you've said is, is bang on. And I kind
of think, yeah, do you feel comfortable enough to approach that conversation
but with that person or do you think it's just not gonna
benefit, I don't know, it's hard, isn't it?
Like you could have that conversation with them
and it could blow up, it could be disruptive
and then it's like, bam, there's an end into it,
maybe you get the closure that you wanted
or do you just decide this doesn't serve me anymore,
I'm not gonna have anything to do with it,
but by also choosing that, you are also probably choosing
to remove yourself slightly from the group.
Possibly, and I think that's kind of that
king of swords energy, which is that the action
is needed in a mature way.
So like, how is that for you, you know, the person listening,
like how can you deal with this in a way that feels like, how is that for you, you know, the person listening, like how can you deal with this in a way that feels like,
sort of mature or not necessarily logical,
but it can be logical, but like,
it's about doing what's right for you in a way
that doesn't cause like drama and pain.
Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly.
And it depends on what your personality type is,
whether or not you're more somebody
who fights fire with fire,
or somebody who acts more on an emotional side of things.
So I think, yeah, listen to the different advices
that we've got and see which one resonates with you best.
But I don't think that this person is gonna be the person
that you want them to be, unfortunately.
Well, I also think a friend like that
is not a friend you want.
And I think that I found,
definitely in my own experience with friendships,
there are some friends that have been so supportive.
And I definitely have friends
that I would have definitely felt were very close friends
that don't ask me anything.
Yeah. Like don't know anything about what's going on now. And I don't think they want to know. And
that part of me used to feel really sad about that. But I think that's just sometimes what
happens when you're, cause this person feels like they're doing well. So it just feels like
that's sometimes just shedding.
So that's very eclipse energy, you're right.
Maybe it's time to release.
Yeah, definitely.
Definitely.
No, it's hard stuff like that.
We know we've said it before,
but I do feel like friendships are really hard one
because they're just not something that has
like much of a textbook too in the same way
that I feel like relationships do.
And I think as women, friendships,
like there's so much wounding for the feminine
that like we do find, like if you're in a room of women,
it might not always be welcoming, you know?
There's a lot of stuff that comes up there.
Okay, I'm shuffling for the next question,
getting the energy ready.
Okay, so let me bring my laptop closer.
Here we go.
All right, this is a longer one.
Hello ladies, I'm feeling really stuck in a family situation
and could use some advice.
I'm in my sixties and my aunt,
who was my last connection to my late dad has passed away.
She adopted two children.
One of my cousins disappeared over 40 years ago.
Wow.
Bloody hell.
Changed her name and cut contact.
The other cousin has stayed in touch and I've been in contact with him to check on my aunt
over the years.
A couple of years ago ago the cousin who disappeared reached
out to me and asked if and asked that I tell her if anything had happened to her mum so I felt that
I had to be honest and let her know. Now my other cousin who was present in my aunt's life doesn't
want her at the funeral. To make things more complicated the cousin who disappeared has now
asked to stay at my house for the funeral.
I feel so awkward and anxious like I've been stuck in the middle of a family feud and I
didn't ask to be part of.
Did I do the right thing by telling her and how do I handle this situation without making
anything worse?
Oh, okay.
That's intense.
There's a lot of pain there, isn't there? So let's summarize.
Basically this person, their auntie's passed away. Their auntie adopted two children. One
of them basically ran away and changed her identity. The other one has been there and
supported. Now the one that's changed their
identity has now got in contact with this person. They're now feeling really stuck and
in the middle. Okay. And what do they do? Go on.
You know what I think like off the bat of that, I feel like we don't know why this person
has run away and changed the name, et cetera. But I feel like you've made your bed.
You can lie in it.
Like, you know, like, do you know what I mean?
I think, excuse me, you can't just run away
when you want to run away, change your name.
And then all of a sudden be like, oh, hi,
I want to come back now and I want to come to the funeral
and I want to play happy families.
Like, no, piss off.
Yeah.
Yeah. Do you know what I mean?
You ran away.
And we don't know why obviously this person ran away,
but I can see where that upsetness comes from
that sibling to that person.
That's like, no, I've been here for let's say mom,
because that's their mom, isn't it?
So I've been here for mom, I've looked after her
through all this time when you've never been here.
And then now all of a sudden, because she's passed away through all this time when you've never been here.
And then now all of a sudden, because she's passed away, you want to come to the funeral
and say goodbye. Like, no, you don't deserve to be there. Yeah, I completely get that.
I really do. Yeah. And I guess for the person who's having to be in the middle of it, like,
you know, step out, like the energy that comes through here. So we've actually got the judgment card.
So there's like a judgment here of like, you know,
sort of this isn't your place to make the judgment,
basically.
It's not your fight to fight.
Mm.
Yeah.
And it's between them.
And I think it's fine that this person reached out to you,
like the long lost cousin reached out.
And I appreciate that like, maybe there was just kind of this connection that was confidential
and whatever. But now it's about stepping back and letting the siblings have a conversation
and dealing with it in that way. But you're right, Sam. I think, yeah, sorry, I think
where you've said, did I do the right thing by telling her
and how do I handle this situation
without making things worse?
I personally think when you've said about them
wanting to stay at your house for the funeral,
I'd say no.
I would just put that boundary in place
because you quite clearly don't feel comfortable
with this situation.
So I would say, I'm really sorry.
I can't have you stay at my house for the funeral
because it would be, I don't wanna say conflict of interest,
but you get what I mean, that's kind of what I mean.
It would put me in a very awkward position with your,
is it brother I'm assuming?
I think you said brother.
You put me in a really awkward position.
I'm not picking sides here.
However, I just can't have you stay
and I hope that you can appreciate my position on that.
And if they can't appreciate your position
then that doesn't matter.
That's up to them to decide that.
I think you've said, did I do the right thing by telling it?
You'll never know if you did the right thing.
I don't think there's a right or wrong in that situation.
I think you did what you felt was the right thing
at the time and that's all you can, you know,
like you have to make peace with that.
I don't think you've done a wrong thing at all.
I don't think, I think you just have to make peace
with what the situation is now
and handling it without making things worse
is probably having a conversation with both of them
and saying this is your decision to make.
I am also grieving from my auntie.
Remind them of that.
She said it's like her last connection
to like her dad who passed away.
So it's like that last bit of, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
So remind them that you're also in pain
and this is not what this time should be about.
It should be about celebrating the life
and not having your own dramas.
Absolutely.
Well, Sam, I think you did a very good job.
Yeah, sorry, I was like,
better, better, better.
That was brilliant.
No, that's good.
Cause I think this situation needs that.
Cause I think sometimes in these moments,
it needs a bit more clearer direction.
I think you absolutely gave that, so well done.
Yeah, thanks.
Yeah, just set, choose your boundaries and stay with them.
And if they don't understand where you're coming from
then that's okay.
Yeah.
Not everybody always will, unfortunately.
You're right, you're right.
Yeah, and it's very hard when things happen,
I think around like death death because yeah, things just
get very tricky.
It does.
It gets messy.
So messy.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Very messy.
Yeah.
So I hope it all works out for you.
I really do.
Okay.
So last one that we've got, it's slightly different to what we've been speaking about
so far.
So, my ex called me last week to tell me he's getting
married, but then he said he still thinks about me,
wants to marry me and asked if I'd be open to getting back
together.
I used to be obsessed with him and this is all I ever
wanted, but now I know it's not
right for me so I told him no did I make the right choice? Well absolutely well fucking
done.
It sounds like this man thinks the grass is greener on the other side.
Not only that he also thinks like and I'm sorry whenever I swear I always think of your
parents I'm like I'm so sorry. I swear, I always think of your parents. I'm like, I'm so sorry.
He thinks his shit doesn't stink.
Absolutely.
Like he's ringing this person to say, I'm getting married, but actually I want to marry
you.
Like he thinks he's got the pick of the bunch.
Yeah, he does.
And the cards I've pulled is the high priestess.
So for the person that's saying that, have I done the right thing?
Yes, you have. And you've also got's saying that, have I done the right thing? Yes, you
have. And you've also got the sun card, which is the yes card. So, you know, you've really
stepped into your power. I feel the high priestess is all about intuition and feeling. And you've
sort of, like you say, you were obsessed, we all know, we've all been there. And it's like, you know, this
is maybe what you wanted once upon a time, but you know, he clearly doesn't know what
he wants. And maybe if you were to marry him, he'd be doing this to the other person. It
feels like he just
Absolutely.
Like, he does not know what he wants.
No, he doesn't.
And this person is carrying the high priestess energy, which tells me that she does know
what she wants.
She's moving forward.
Like the high priestess is like the regal babe of the tarot deck.
Like she is strong and powerful.
She doesn't need that.
So I think really for you, you know, the person listening, this is about you continuing to
step into your power. And like Sam said with the eclipses, this is very eclipse energy.
This is the ending of a karmic contract here. I'm just going to pull one more card. Yeah.
I feel like this person will forever be the one who got away. I think so. Yeah. And I think that that's what a nice position to be in
because I feel like in any like film that you watch
and you know, that kind of thing and like they've had
a big breakup and then it's the guy always comes back,
always comes back crawling.
They do.
They're such sods.
It's such a nice position to be in when they do
because you're like, yes, I've had my glow up,
I've got my confidence, and you actually can't,
like yeah, and I've got this protective barrier up
that you can't get to anymore,
even with a nice shiny ring.
Absolutely, and I think that like,
the high priestess is exactly that.
And then we've got the 10 of ones, which is burden.
So this would have been such a burden for you. And then we have the nine of Pentacles, which is this strong independent energy. She's
like the mini Empress. So like the energy that I have here is just like you have absolutely
stepped into your power, probably more than you've ever realized. And like the rewards
will come because of that. So well done. Yeah. Oh, I love that.
That was brilliant.
Some good questions there.
Yeah, juicy, juicy.
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I am still at her by Samantha Green. It's been about a month. And yeah, love this episode.
Really good.
It was great.
Enjoyed manifesting, enjoy the eclipse.
Hope it's good for you.
Shed, I'm gonna clear out my wardrobe this evening.
Do it.
Cause I'm ready for that spring feeling.
Yes.
But yeah, hope everybody is well
and we will see you soon.
See you later everyone.
Love you, bye! Bye!