Stavvy's World - Bonus #116 - Live Call Show Vol. 22 [PATREON PREVIEW]

Episode Date: February 20, 2025

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Stavvy's back talking directly to the fans!! Stav and Eldy give advice to beautiful patrons including a guy who's tired of taking care of his messy needy sister, a girl who wants to know how to get a Greek man-child that she's dating to get serious about her, and a couple updates from some beloved former live callers. 🎟️ See Stavvy live on the Dreamboat Tour 🛥️💕!!! https://stavvy.biz/ for tickets 🎥 Watch LET'S START A CULT on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/movie/lets-start-a-cult-1f157c44-3840-4f01-8863-bb6afa472a0b If you'd like to be a part of future live call episodes, subscribe at www.patreon.com/stavvysworld to get access to the Stavvy's World Discord channel where these live calls are taken. Have a question for a regular episode? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice!

What up? Hi. What's going on? Hi, Stavi. OK, so. Basically, I went on a date with this guy last week and it was only supposed to be like a coffee and like movie kind of thing. But then it went really well, so we spent like all day together. And like he invited me to this punk show and I met all of his friends.

And then it was like, do you want to stay over kind of thing and I was like, yeah You know whatever so then you know sex happened and whatever you think you're in a fucking indie movie The fuck you do it. You think you're in an indie movie with the fuck you do and spend an all day with his motherfucker All right, all right, whatever. Keep going, sorry. Anyway, okay, so then we hang out, whatever, I leave, and then two days later, we have plans to hang out again, and he wanted to do something chill and just hang at the house.

And I was like, okay, that's fine. So we watched a movie and got some Taco Bell and it was chill. But he was low-key on his phone a lot, which I thought was kinda weird. Yeah, it is weird. Yeah, also he has like that thing set up on his phone where like it uses face ID to open like

his apps so people like can't get into his apps which is fair I guess. Also he's 35. And how old are you? I'm 26. Okay. One more question. I wonder what ethnicity is this guy oh he's a Greek guy that's why I know interesting yeah and he's from Flushing I was like why is he just asking this race question with such confidence I was like what the fuck is this you had prior info you fucking piece of shit so you're you're trying to turn me against a 35 year old Greek piece of shit who dates girls in their mid 20s? Oh, this is a tough one for me morally. I have to recuse myself from this question. I will say though, I really like him. Like, I just don't know like, is there something I should be doing?

Especially like he's super Greek. Like is there something I should be doing that maybe like, I don't know, that I'm not doing that would make him, I don't know, wife me up maybe? No, you're already in trouble if that's how you're thinking after two dates. Yeah. Yeah, it's been like a week, first of all. I know. Okay, the vibes were good. That's and I respect that, but you can't chase the high of those vibes either.

Right? Because like that is one date. Sure. It was all day and it was actually probably like it was essentially four dates if not five dates in one day, but like. It was one date. And then when there's such a steep drop off in date quality that fast, that is a big red flag to me personally. Right. Like to me, this guy might just be somebody who's good at who, you know,

like he's and I identify with this good at good at the job interview, horrible at the job. That might be who this guy is, you know what I mean? It might be the kind of thing where, and this sucks because clearly you hit it off, you're smitten by this guy, and you know, like I said, he comes from great genetic stock. You're right to think this, but I would,

all my general advice right now is pump the brakes a little bit as Good as that date was You gotta you gotta like average out these you you like him enough to keep seeing him, right? Yeah, well we were supposed to hang out tonight and then he cancelled on me bad sign I hate to be I hate to hit you with some with the real with some real shit here but it's like that's another bad sign and You kind of have to and look whatever people cancel what it's fine If you see him again, and the third date is good. I

Think it's like in the third date is good. I think that buys him another one But it's like if he's already kind of taking you for granted like if you have this magical he might just be a fucking a middle-aged male manic pixie dream boy here where it's like you he hooked you with this awesome kind of like fairy tale first date and then he's fucking you know he's you're eating cheesy gordita crunches and he's fucking sexting with his face app while you're in the bathroom You know what I mean? Like that's a big drop-off. That's a huge drop-off. Yeah So don't you cannot go at it with this like how do I impress this guy shit cuz he's clearly whatever scumbag I'm like, Jesus Christ. I have to this like elders just this is a actor. You gave her this, so I would change the way I live my life.

No. I don't give a fuck. I will say that he does listen to the show, so eventually he will probably hear this. Interesting. Oh, also he has her calendar in his room and we had sex next to it. Bad sign, bad, bad sign.

Get out. Yeah. Yeah. But look, that's all I would say is like, just, you don't want to be, you are still in the fact-finding stage of this. You like him enough to keep seeing him, right? I'm not saying break it off with this guy. I'm just saying you can't be in the, how do I make this guy date me? Because you're not even sure you want this guy to date you yet.

You shouldn't be anyway, right? Like he's gotta earn it a little bit and you also have to be, you also have to stand up for yourself enough that if it's a couple weird dates in a row or even if it's just hot and cold and uneven and like he just kinda takes you for, he's great one day and he's bad another day,

these are bad signs. And you have to like stand up for yourself enough to get out of a relationship like that and like that's why Those first dates are always if something is way too good way too fast It's like it's either the best thing of all time and that's what you're hoping you're hoping you just are having a whirlwind romance That's already gone if we follow it up with Taco Bell on a cancellation last minute, so that's done This ain't that you're not telling you know that first date is in the rearview quite now He can make up for it if he hit if he's just great From here on out then I'll eat my words Am I betting on that not exactly but like so yeah, that's before we get into how do you fucking?

convince a He's a 35 year old Greek guy from Flushing does he live with his fucking parents still too No, he moved out, but he like lives in a basement right I'm gonna guess he moved out and who oh let me see the fucking lease who owns that fucking basement is another question Is it his parents? That's a great that's a Greek Queen's thing a lot as they move but it's just a unit their parents own but Yeah, so that's the thing is like don't Let's let's respect ourselves enough to fully to fully

Decide if this person has earned you wanting them in your life full time. You know what I mean? Yeah. So there you go. I'm sorry to have to give you a little, sorry to just come at you with the harsh truths, but that's how it goes sometimes. Here's a franker way to put it, like, especially- Oh, franker than that?

You think I was too fucking gentle, you motherfucker? Goer than that. You think I was fucking gentle you motherfucker Go ahead. I think that was plenty gentle but continued Yeah, I mean I think like, you know with a guy like this He does probably sound like kind of like a shitbag kind of yeah, I mean he's 35 going to punk shows That's like yeah, worst-case scenario. He is kind a, you know, manic pixie boy like stuff, said... Best case scenario he's just like... Charismatic, but either way, especially with like... You know, there's like a nine year age gap here, it's like...

You know, the way to lock a guy like this down will not be to like, press on make me your girlfriend. Right. The girls who get ahead like... You just gotta stay down for like a long time and and is it worth it is the question. You're right, you're actually right. Again, I'm thinking about what works on me and that's absolutely true. You gotta stay down for

unfortunately a long time and you know, if it is worth it and if it's not like demeaning to you totally But yeah, this guy will definitely not respond to getting pressed on What are we like three weeks in your problem? Yeah, you're right about that. No for sure I'm willing to like, you know wait it out obviously and like see what's the vibes but Yeah, I don't know. It's just weird after the second day and then the canceling today but we are supposed to hang out on Sunday so okay we'll see well hey you know you're still fact-finding and stay in it as long as it feels good for you but be honest about when it feels good

because if it stops you have to be honest with yourself yeah and just and really and don't think about what potentially could be. Judge him on what has actually happened. That's a huge one for a guy like this. I really feel bad putting this information. This is just, every girl breaks up with me right now. I get like four texts after this. After this fucking.

Also, I will say he's like really hot. I just need to say that quickly before. That makes sense. Yeah. Yes before that makes sense Yeah, no that makes sense. Obviously. That's why that's why he gets to behave this way. Yeah, yeah that's something I assumed he's not he's not a comedian. You know, he's not a very good, you know He's got to be either talented or hot to behave this way Yeah, man All right. Well well good luck sister.