Stavvy's World - Bonus #127 - Live Call Show Vol. 24 [PATREON PREVIEW]

Starting point is 00:00:00 Hello, what's up, dude? How's it going? You've called in before is that right? Yeah, I was on the last one. Okay remind us remind us your issue and Tell us what the fuck is going on now Yeah, I'll try to Make it quick. Sorry. I'm just I gotta step outside real quick. That's all right, dude but so basically I'm Me and my girlfriend, we're 22. We've been together a year and a half. And it's been going really great. Like we, you know, we just click

Starting point is 00:00:34 on so many things, whatever chemistry, we fuck a lot. Nice. She's really cool. Nice. Cool. She's really cool. Nice cool That's good to hear I'm rambling I was like I was getting worked up just like thinking about the whole thing again Yeah, that's awesome calling but um Anyway, I Anyway, I, long story short, I found out that a month before we had gotten together, she had had sex with a kind of close friend of mine. Tough one. And yeah, it was just like, I don't know, like, I'm not that close with them.

Starting point is 00:01:23 But like, I've known him longer than I've known her mm-hmm and like I Don't know like we're all kind of in the same friend group Yeah, that's that's 22 year old problems right there, brother Yeah but So what no it yeah, I've just been I've just been really fucked up about it. Just like in a jealous kind of way because like You know like I've fuck Is all this can you guys bleep my I mean like I don't care like this will probably help somebody whatever we definitely can bleep

Starting point is 00:01:57 Whatever you need, dude Okay, okay but I mean I I've only had sex once before like ever before I I like we got together and Like from the beginning I was like head over heels she's like perfect great, you know everything super sweet But uh Like a month in she told me that she had kissed him like I didn't even ask She just she had confessed that she had kissed him like I didn't even ask she just she had confessed That she had kissed him. They went on one day and she kissed him. Oh, no. She gave me that half confession

Starting point is 00:02:31 That's the worst thing to do. You don't do the half confession You either come clean or you take it to your fucking grave Yeah, and at the end I feel like that's what what really messed me up because like Yeah, and at the end I feel like that's what really messed me up cuz like I Don't know we were on we were talking about something else, and I just randomly asked her I was like Did you fuck him? Yeah, I just knew I you know I Then yes, I've been in this exact position finish your story. I'll tell you how you just go ahead

Starting point is 00:03:06 Yeah, sure sure but uh Yeah, and so I you know I found out a couple months ago and like that first week It was like all I thought about like I would just think about them together I would think about like what like just the shit they would say to each other might have said to each other Yeah, of course you're just obsessing. It sucks. And like I really tried to to keep it to myself in a way, because like she knew it. She could tell it like, fuck me up. Yeah, yeah. Just like I'm sure you're doing a real good job.

Starting point is 00:03:35 Just fucking stewing, just fucking out at a bar like red in the face. But go ahead. Yeah. And then I just started looking back at everything because like we like, like we, we'd even been been around this guy in the past year or so we've been dating. So like I've seen this guy said hi to him, you know, whatever. And it like, we've been cool. Like he hasn't been weird. And like, I just, I thought it was just a kiss that whole time, but like, I don't know.

Starting point is 00:04:03 Coincidentally we've been like out of the friend group since we've been dating just because we've been busy with work and other stuff, but now I'm thinking the whole thing is maybe she's avoiding him, and I'm just wondering how to even get back in the friend group if I even want to. Do you want to? I mean, all right, let's just start. Let's just let's just see what's going so You this been going on for so you've been dating her a while though, right like over over a year at this point Yeah, it's been pretty serious. Yeah, I mean, it's okay. Look here's what's going on She'd look dude. I hate to break it to you. She fucked a cup. She fucked more than that guy

Starting point is 00:04:42 You know what I mean? Like that's not the only guy she fucked you just happen to know a guy She fucked and that sucks. Yeah, don't get me wrong. You don't want to know specifics the less you know the better This is why this is why I have some believe me, bro. I have an idea Here's the thing I have that's the other thing you need you need to understand I have an idea every man on earth has an idea this you are like I know it sucks. I know this feels bad We've all been through this in a like I've had a situation where somebody that like You know I wasn't even seriously dating we were on again off again And there was a guy who was lurking right and? And I knew this guy wanted to fuck her.

Starting point is 00:05:25 And I could tell. And then on one of our like, back, you know, we're just hooking up whatever we're back on for a month or two, she lets it slip, she fucked us, and you know, whatever. And I don't give a fuck, right? Like I was like, because I knew I was fucking other people, she was fucking other people, but just the fact

Starting point is 00:05:43 that I could tell this fucking prick wanted to fuck her, and I sort of, you know, he was like a friend of a friend and she would always bring him up and I'm like, I know what kind of guy this is, this guy's trying to fuck you, he's not nice, you know what I mean? And then she ends up fucking him, and again, doesn't really matter to me. I knew what I was doing, we weren't exclusive and it wouldn't have bothered me if she fucked ten other guys But just the fact that was a guy I knew Pissed me the fuck off and it made it honestly It's not like we were ever gonna be serious

Starting point is 00:06:15 But it was like I was like this is too much for me to handle as immature as I I know it is Yeah, it just is right For you though. I do think you're in a kind of Different situation where it's like look dude When you say you're in the friend group you're fucking 22 You're just talking about a guy that went to the same college as you like everyone's your fucking friend when you're 21 Like this isn't like your fucking best friend secretly fuck this lady It's a guy you had a lunch with at the

Starting point is 00:06:45 other end of a fucking 12 person table. You know what I mean? Like it generally speaking, all that you're saying is that she hooked up with somebody in your general social circle for your age group, right? This there's no real betrayal here, there's no real nothing. I mean mean sure The little like the half confession is a little weird But it's like you can also if the tables were turned you could see how that would be a little you know what I mean? Like yeah, like wanting to protect me or whatever exactly exactly It's it's more than just I mean fuck it's more than just like a guy in our friend group He was kind of like he was kind of he was like one of the first people I met and he really like introduced me to

Starting point is 00:07:24 Everybody and and he was like somebody I felt I could trust and now it's like but hold on No, I have no logical reason not to trust him But that's what I'm saying because I wasn't even in the picture that I still feel Exactly in some ways it's this annoying thing where it's like two people you really like before they knew you Had chemistry that actually makes sense You know what I mean like you liked both of them neither one of them knew you existed and they had a fling right They sure that sucks, but it's like this is life brother and the fact that There's no you weren't in the picture. There was no

Starting point is 00:08:03 There this is not affecting you at all I get feeling fucked up about it because that's human and that's natural, but it's like it is unfortunately something that you're gonna have to just Get past and look maybe the way you get past it is by being in that friend group less right that sucks A little bit like maybe in some other universe You and this guy could have been friend. You know closer you were see like him you respect him whatever, but it's like That's okay. If like your girls like hey, do you want to go get drinks with you know? X X and X be like you know what I?

Starting point is 00:08:38 Don't know I'd rather not you know what I mean like that's okay Especially if the rest of your relationship is is like really good But I don't know man. This is just Unfortunately, this is normal that literally everybody goes. Yeah, this is like an important lesson of like youth of your early 20s It's like, you know right now. I mean, I'm just thinking of myself back then. Yeah, I You even even if you know, it's irrational, you know it's not right and you know what like to you're the girl you're currently dating and the guy you made friends with in college like fucked before they met you, you know it has nothing to do with you,

Starting point is 00:09:18 but you're like so raw with emotion at 22 years old that you just can't ignore. I mean, I know you're obsessing about it You're just thinking of them fucking you're like, oh fuck. Yeah, fuck. I'm so stupid. He's such a cool awesome guy Yeah, he was awesome with her too and he got pussy It's like and it just makes me mad because he like I know he's like he's a fucking loser like And it just makes me madder because he like, I know he's like, he's a fucking loser. Like it doesn't, you know, and like, she doesn't like him. Like, you know, obviously she, you know, she didn't. Right. You got it.

Starting point is 00:09:50 You know, I think you got to like, I kept talking about it so much and she, like it just. She was really patient with me, but like, no, there's a limit. There's a limit. I asked, I asked way too many questions that I just. Oh no. Dude, the question. Of course you did. Of course you fucking did. Are you kidding me? It just like, I don't know. I didn't want to ask. I was just like pissed. If this was in college, this was when you were like actually getting your fuck on when you're a fucking loser. No, you're right. You're right. The first piece of pussy I got.

Starting point is 00:10:26 It's like you're like what? You feel betrayed even though it's not a betrayal. No, I know. But it's also like kind of I feel weird segueing into this, but it kind of feels like I'm back like back that high school like Virgin. I feel like a virgin again. Like that title because like, you know, just the classic like, Like virgin I feel like a virgin again like that title because like You know just the classic like like you know like your crush has been fucking some dude That's already graduated or whatever like some older guys already been there, and I'm like

Starting point is 00:10:56 I'm like fuck. I'm just a kid like I feel like a kid now and like but dude That's okay. I need to catch up in a weird way. Here's the thing Like there's no I know there's no getting even There's there's no getting even there's no doing anything about it, bro Here's the thing feel this let it go through you be pissed don't take it out on your girl and Just eventually this will go. This will just like get out of your system I know it feels impossible, right. But there is no solution other than

Starting point is 00:11:31 break up with her and fuck 10 other girls. Yeah. You know what I mean? And you don't want that. You like this girl. And that's the and that's the other thing. I mean, she's literally the she's the perfect person for me, like especially like where we're at. I mean, look, I'm going to listen. You're hurting. She's on she's on birth control. person for me like especially like where we're at She's on birth control Okay, I'm back I'm back I'm back three ways and okay. All right. All right. All right. I'm like shut the fuck up I know I'm sorry. It's it's I'm like I it's it's payback for being a fucking virgin all high school

Starting point is 00:12:04 It's it's payback for being a fucking virgin all high school Listen listen, it's not payback. You're not important enough for the universe to be punishing that that helped me a lot I used to say shit like that. I used to be like oh shit's gonna start going bad when my life is good No, I'm meaningless. You're meaningless, too No one was trying to hurt you this just happened and you're in a great position and here's the thing, you're 22. You know how you stop being a fucking gay virgin? You fucking suck it up and admit the girl you fucked fuck somebody else. You keep fucking her and then maybe she sucks your dick while another girl sucks your dick at the same time and shut the fuck up. Life is pain. The life of a man is pain and disappointment over and over and

Starting point is 00:12:44 over again. This is the first of many motherfucker. So just disappointment over and over and over again this is the first of many motherfucker so just get used to it you're in a better spot than most because you know what usually happens uh the girl you like fucks another guy and guess what she keeps fucking him she fucked this loser doesn't it doesn't want anything to do with him once up once you you're just gonna end bro i I hated you. We got to be your big brothers here. Shut the fuck up This is life. You will this is nothing you will look back You will look back at this when you're our age and laugh. Yeah, I'm thinking about girls I used to fucking cry about I have been destroyed

Starting point is 00:13:21 So much harder so much more often not just romantically professionally personally in any way you can think of you will you will hurt so much more and there will be no pussy consolation prize either for that so just get used to it man absolutely and I'll play I'll play good cop here a little bit I will say even you know you're, you're 22, you're going through all this. I'll even say if you just can't get this out of your head, there's nothing wrong with removing yourself from the group friend group. Or even if like it's all you can see and think about when you're spending time with her, it's okay to just like break it

Starting point is 00:13:59 off with her. If like you really truly can nuclear nuclear option If you like can't get over it and that's fine Yeah, but you know one either way you're you are learning a very valuable life lesson that will seem so Miniscule in the future like stop says like you will look back on it and laugh at like what a pussy you are And that's not cuz you're a bad guy Just as everyone's kind of a dumb pussy like when they're in their early 20s It's the way you laugh about now the way you laugh about like when you had too much fucking Chocolate milk and threw up in fourth grade like these are the problems of a baby. Yeah, that's okay, man I know they feel real serious right now, but like you're in a good spot

Starting point is 00:14:43 That's nothing you can do and this is just it's like food poisoning man, this has to leave your system and You know Like elder said there's different ways you can do that at the the The easiest one or the smallest one is just like, you know remove yourself from the friend group Don't hang out with this fucking guy that reminds you the worst one being Break up with this girl. I don't think you want that and just and again

Starting point is 00:15:08 You just can't take this out on her anymore though, because she also has a limit and you've passed that limit It's very clear. So be pissed by yourself. Don't let it ruin your relationship and You know just get ready for way more of this feeling and here's the good news It will never feel it it will it will be worse, but it won't feel as bad You'll deal with like such tragedy that won't affect you the way this affects you so that's the silver lining This is the greatest pain you're registering even though it's very minor. Yeah Yes, yeah, no, it's it's definitely just a learning experience and the last thing I want is to let like my insecurity fucking jeopardize the relationship right thing just cuz I'm right jealous, but

Starting point is 00:15:54 Last quick little side question. Do you so do you think like do you think like like threesomes or like an open type thing would like? help my insecurity because like I I feel like I I feel like I I have that like virgin insecurity. It's not no no you stop you can't you've gotten pussy man. She's just she's more she feels like she's more like just emotionally matured. Just what she just is the experiences. I mean yeah It's not the experience not because she's fucked a couple more people It's cuz she just is more mature than you like that's it's a personality trait. It's not the fact that more

Starting point is 00:16:35 Janet she's seen more genitals, so that's just you're just on different paths would threesomes help your insecurity No, but would it be sick yes Yes So here's the other thing man. Just live your life and do as many awesome things as possible That's the age you're at worry about you worry about you know fixing your the way you fix this like in general Insecurity is just by living your life man. Don't be trying to directly don't be trying to directly fix it and I'll be honest you you know me and elves were both fucking guys that didn't fuck until late and once you fuck it's you fucked there's no more there's nothing more to do bro so I think just what you need to do is keep fucking your girlfriend if she's offering up three sums you're look I know you fucking love this girl, but

Starting point is 00:17:29 Statistically, it's not gonna work out. So have as much Happened to you as possible Second guessing everything because I like I know statistically whatever You know, you're like but again look and that might not be true, right? I say that but people fucking figure it out and who knows whatever But I'm just saying I push do I push the threesome? You don't push it. You don't push it You go along for the ride. You don't have the fuck you you're fucking you're still worried about some guy She fucked you think you've got the swag to push. Yeah, you said you sit back and relax I don't don't push it with your spazzy energy and don't try to make it as like well you fuck this guy

Starting point is 00:18:04 We both know So you owe me a threesome. Yeah. Yeah Don't don't don't let Energy Because I know you're thinking it Absolutely, don't let that leak out So what do you do? Here's the thing you are fucking up because you are trying to be someone you're not she likes who you are You're fucking up because you are trying to be someone you're not. She likes who you are.

Starting point is 00:18:25 You're not going to become Rico Suave in this fucking relationship. You're not going to be the fucking big pussy getter, Lothario. You got the best setup. You're the fucking dweeb who's dating a hot bitch that might get him pussy. Be happy to be in the passenger seat. Don't try and fucking ride because your fucking feet aren't going to reach the pedals. That's where you need to be. Be happy with where you are, you're in a great position, look at the fucking positives, but don't try and push this, just invest in this relationship. And sure, we can say this statistical shit, whatever, but we know

Starting point is 00:18:59 that's not how it feels. And also we might be wrong. This might end up being a really good serious relationship. It happens all the time the time right so just go along with the flow have a good time don't overthink things You got to let this fucking pass this jealousy, and if and chase is much cool stuff But the way you get it is not by pushing for it It's by being a good partner who she has such a good time with that. She wants to do a lot of fun stuff with All right All right All right, buddy. Yeah

Starting point is 00:19:31 We love you. We believe in you. We've been where you are Sorry to have to really drop the hammer on you But you needed to hear this from us men who have gone through exactly this again every time we go on the diatribe like this We're not we're yelling with you. We're yelling at were yelling at our young 21 year old staff right now for sure. I appreciate you guys. Thank you. And by the way like yeah she is awesome. We do fun stuff. I took her to see fucking let's start a cult. She. Hell I thought it was great. So yeah, she's I love it. No, you're you're in a good spot, dude. All right. Good luck little buddy. Good luck, man. Thanks. Wow. That's tough, man. That takes me back. Yeah, I'm like, dude, that's awesome that

Starting point is 00:20:17 a woman can never do that to me ever again. No woman will ever make me feel as bad as that as that as by the way a girl who likes him yeah a girl who loves him and who just happened to fuck a guy before she knew him I know fucking little dumbass I know but I'm so happy that I've been crushed so thoroughly by life I'll never be that sad your heart is fully calloused over from experiences dealing with that multiple times throughout your twenties and just trying to cover up the hurt by fucking as many whores as possible. I think I've almost fucked enough eldest any day now it'll solve everything. Yeah that's awesome. It'll solve everything

Stavvy's World - Bonus #127 - Live Call Show Vol. 24 [PATREON PREVIEW]

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