Stavvy's World - Bonus #136 - Live Call Show Vol. 27 [PATREON PREVIEW]

Episode Date: July 10, 2025

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So to get into it um I've been dating this guy well now it's over but for about two years Long distance for about a year and a half of that So which in hindsight is crazy. Yeah, so barely you were barely dating a guy, but I'm sorry go ahead Yeah, barely dating Decided to go long distance about like a six hour drive. Okay. Not horrible. And it has gotten just insane in the last like six to eight months and I'm just like totally spiraling. What's the wait so wait I'm sorry you're still dating or you were dating? you were dating we're getting the

so you're okay she has a i thought i thought we've when you first called the you said we will uh... i was dating but you got your so it's been two years as a year and a half and your six-hour your six-hour drive apart is that correct make bitch we lose mcbitch yes yeah yes yes and uh...

anything you said is correct all that's correct and and recently you're just starting to leave you're like what the fuck's going on i don't want to do this is that what's going to like this this situation is just the stressful for you so it's going on is that we mean by spiraling yet like on and this is a kind of coming out of the bottom uh... into some of like

machine and like insecurity he's projected on to me and i feel so like this really didn't i'm not really sure what to do about it and then go to therapy what's the way it was what was with the first of them so he's also so not only you long distance but he's projecting shame onto you and what way we're talking

sound and he he didn't know for six years they were there first and then whatever and then They were their first everything whatever On the other hand I Was assaulted in high school and like eventually was just side to like hook up with some people when I was like just about 21 to try and get over like

That trauma you know that it by the way you don't have to explain There's no you also were just 21 and whatever though whatever reason you wanted to go with people is totally fine Exactly, I agree, but just for context okay, and so when we met in the room online I was very honest like with my hands for everything about him, and it wasn't a problem until very honest with my everything about him and it wasn't a problem until right there, hold on, the fact that that was even coming up is

nuts, where you're like I was very honest about like what I assume body count, like the fact that that's like a fucking the fact that it even came up is fucking nuts like it's not a fucking job interview, you're like dating somebody else, so like that's strike one on this motherfucker already

And the fact you even felt the need to like and you know what else is fucked up like I can tell That you even like sort of the argument of like well I was assaulted and I was doing this to get like Clearly you sort of like have been forced to even rationalize stuff in a way that's incredibly fucked up because of this person's insecurity is already i'd i see two incredible red flags just you know forty five seconds into this description but

let's keep going okay uh... saloon it wasn't like a problem of going to talk about that really i'm like uh... that isn't tell It wasn't like a problem like we had talked about that early on like um that is until I found out about like his like weird relationship with a co-worker. I went down to like visit and I found this note and the note was crazy like from her

like in his backpack. His backpack? Yeah. What the fuck? That's insane. and the note was crazy like from her like in his backpack his backpack? yeah yes what the fuck? that's insane he kept it's a moment it's like you didn't just see like a little a desk with a smiley face on it or a note on a smiley face on his desk he had a fucking memento from her

do you want to hear it? uh sure yes um it was this long post that, oh... You're my future. You make me feel complete. I have never felt this way about someone before. It's overwhelming, but in a really good way. McBitch, what are we even talking about?

This is insane! This guy that made you prove your sexual worth is cheating on you and you're in a long-distance relationship. What is the question other than get the fuck out and meet- Get the fuck out eight months ago, but start now. I know, I know, I know. Um... You were my future! She didn't even ramp up! She's my future? What the fuck?

Okay, sorry, go ahead. That's just nuts. Yeah, the end of it is... Um... It'll always end with you and I together. I love you so much my heart hurts sometimes. What? You're like, I wonder what that means. I mean, this is crazy. Yes, and the kicker was... Sometimes you're like I wonder what that means

Crazy Yes, and the kicker was When I laid a confund about it, he told me it was his ex of six years even though this bitch signed The fucking no, I mean this is fucking nuts What's what's going on with you that you that you think you deserve to be treated this way? This is crazy This guy's a piece of shit. I Know that like you got gas lit to oblivion. It's insane And I just like I feel so

Just fucking Stupid and like unworthy which I know is dumb. Listen, unworthy you know you shouldn't. Stupid! The note, letting the note like that slide, that's okay to feel a little stupid. You know, I mean obviously it's all connected, I know it's all connected emotionally, but also it's like, you know, that is a lesson of like, if I'm ever in a situation like this again, no matter what, all my fucked up psychological hangups are telling me, don't be fucking dumb, immediately break up with this piece of shit before he can bring up the fact that I fucked

five guys when I was 22 as some kind of thing that like makes it okay that he's at least doing some of the most emotional cheating i've ever seen in my life maybe some kind of weird you know whatever like semen retention guy who's not actually fucking her but something fucked up isn't is happening no no doubt but anyway go ahead once a on a you know for doing them

whatever but like it not sat at the same practice arm i could have some attachment issues but uh... from there like this started a crazy like the gradual uh... shame and project

projection cycle and the reason I called was because I was listening to your guys' Patreon episode, just you and Eldis, the one where you had Pandas Express, the guy talking about how his girlfriend fucked his friend, like his mutual friend. Oh yes yes the 20 the 20 year old kid who couldn't get over that bullshit yes and like feeling all the shame and like jealousy but this is just like that to a millionth degree like asking me crazy stuff like like comparing like dick sizes. Oh my like like crazy shit, and I'm just like oh I don't even know. Yeah, I mean look yours is the big

That's one of the most you don't want to ask about body count I remember when like oh man like somebody I was like on again off again That's one of the most you don't want to ask about body count I I Remember when like oh man like somebody I was like on again off again Just like was telling a funny anecdote about some guy she it was she was she was like So did not realize what she was saying because she was like yeah I mean we had a really toxic setup and like She was like yeah I mean I didn't fuck she was talking about

how she we're like every time we would hook up like so how many people have you fucked you know what I mean it was like kind of fucked up and weird and she was like well I tried to fuck this guy but his dick was too big to fit in my pussy I was like I have to go it's like it's like it's like don't worry you J.O. none of that I saw that guy's dick and I was scared and it's like it's like it's like don't worry you J. Oh none of that I saw that guy's dick, and I was scared and it's like that's not really reassuring anyway, sorry, this is just a just a toxic situation I was in but That's very fascinating that I

Cuz I assumed the shame stuff would like be a tool for gas lighting, not that this kind of unleashed some kind of weird, clearly cuck, cuck adjacent, like, you know, worries or like, because anybody who wants this much detail, even if they're saying it like, I just want to make sure, you know, you're slut what they mean is it turns me on And I'm a cuck and I have to pretend I'm doing it in an alpha way Instead of the fact that I am weirdly getting off on this in my opinion as a amateur untrained psychiatrist But anyway, so this is all this is crazy This is true first of all as we've addressed and we don't wanna, you know,

we don't wanna really, you know, rub your nose in the floor. It's okay. Of the like, the note is really where it should have ended and we shouldn't even gotten to how big was that guy's dick. But we got there and then is that where you are right now? Is there any other, is there anything else going on? Well like, it just like kept going all the time and like, they were just like such high highs and such low lows like where I was walking on eggshells so much to avoid triggering him.

Like the craziest shit would trigger him. Like one day the song came on the radio and I could like, I started like seeing his reactions like before he even did anything. And he's like, how do you know that song? Like always assuming anything I did, anything I talked about, anything. By the way, he's cheating on you now, by the way. 100%.

Like that's the other thing is like you caught him cheating. He clearly didn't stop. He might've stopped. Like this is the other thing is that you caught him cheating he clearly didn't stop he might have stopped like this is the kind of projection happens when someone's actively cheating like let alone is a weird insecure kind of half cock type guy that that's all of that is kind of throw all that in a blender that's what's going on uh...

so look the thank you for sharing and hopefully this helped you get it off your chest, but this is a great, this is what we call a lesson. You have to get out of this as soon as possible. This is a great benchmark for how you will never be treated ever again in a relationship. Yeah, the next time you find a love note from someone else, maybe remember this instant. Let alone asking about your body count in a screening way. Not in like, look, you never want to ask about it,

but it wasn't even like, we've been together a while, we're over the hangups, like, give me a ballpark. Let's just play with fire here. It was like, so, I hope you've only, how many cocks have you sucked? And if it's too high, I don't even want to consider inviting you over to my house after going to Macaroni Grill or wherever the fuck this guy's even taking you. That's crazy, the long distance thing might be crazy. But that's what people can decide. But the love note and then this behavior is fucking insane. So you got to get out of

this. Are you still long distance at least? Will that be easy? Yeah, we are long distance. I'm just like, we have since broken up on the ninth, but I had to go down there this weekend to get my stuff and I'm just feeling really scared about it. Yo, get your stuff shipped for real. Yeah, I mean, can you- Leave your stuff there, it doesn't matter. How much stuff is it? What are we talking?

I moved about half my stuff down there. Oh, wow. what the fuck. Yeah that yeah this is like you know good bad good bad just really like. Yeah. Well you definitely need to go to therapy you definitely need to understand why this works on you this is clearly and by the way I you know and you're not lucky, but in some ways this guy is abusive, but he's also clearly a pussy. And like, you want to nip this in the bud before somebody like way more evil than this guy gets his hooks into you, because you clearly have some unresolved stuff, right?

We all have it. You shouldn't be ashamed of it. But it is something that you need to figure out so that you don't Because like right now. This is annoying and you wasted some time, but it's not that bad It's kind of like wow I'm fucking stupid in hindsight But yeah very easily this kind of the stuff that works on you this walking on eggshells the highs the lows That's pretty textbook abuse. We've been having a good time, whatever, but I think it is important for you to really

investigate this stuff and get into therapy and realize this because it could be worse. On a slightly serious note, you want to be aware of this stuff because I've had friends who have been in abusive kinds of relate like an abusive Relationships that you don't realize it until later that it takes them a while to get over and you've already wasted some of your time With just a fucking idiot. You don't want to waste more of it with like a malicious like person whether that's physical Psychological whatever you just don't you know nobody deserves that and so that's kind of like my main advice And then in terms of the right now, okay, you have too much stuff to get shipped whatever go with a friend Yeah, like don't do this alone. This is all business

Go your fact your friend should be the one who actually like you should never go alone with this Don't be alone with this guy. Don't fucking catch up none of that happens make this like a trip you do with your friends where you have a plan You can do it quickly right like it's not gonna turn into an all-day affair Pay for movers even if you have the money if you don't then take a couple friends because you know you want to be Completely you want to completely wash your hands of it And this feels like the kind of guy who's been very good at manipulating you And you don't even want to give him the shot at kind of trapping you in another hot and cold You know think as we've already established. You're kind of dumb and if you might fall for it, okay?

But it's good. This is, look, we all make dumb mistakes. We all have bad relationships. And in the grand scheme of things, it's good that you got this out of your system and figured this out in a way that's really not that big a deal, right? Like, it's annoying and you got gas lit and probably cheated on by some mid bitch at an office. You probably got cucked by some six.

And that's okay, right? We've all been cucked by some six and that's okay, right? We've all been cucked here and there. It's not a big deal, but you're good. You're good. Now you just have to completely wash your hands of the situation and take these lessons for your next relationships. And if it feels like you're, if you feel like deja vu in any way with a relationship, you really gotta like cut that shit off You can never go down this kind of path again because unfortunately, this is the kind of archetype That's a really bad people behave this way too. Not just dumbass insecure like guys who have a little dick and are worried about it Yeah

But but we believe in you you're gonna do it, right? You're gonna take a friend? Yeah. Okay, hello. Don't get sucked back in this weekend. Get in, get out. Do not get sucked back in. If you need money for a U-Haul, Eldis will Venmo you from the company account. I'm serious. I'm not even joking. Yeah, I know. Literally, I'll give you money, too. We'll send you like $300 or whatever if you need it to get a u-haul to not have to deal with

This guy that's the kind of show this is okay, so reach out if you need that for that's a hundred percent real by the way Thank you, stop it. You got it. Good luck McBitch. We believe in you and listen update us All right when you're a fully free woman. Yeah Thank you guys. Alright. Bye.