Stavvy's World - Bonus #141 - Live Call Show Vol. 30 [PATREON PREVIEW]

Episode Date: August 14, 2025

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Yeah, dude. I was like, I went to work Monday. I was like, my shit feels weird. And all of a sudden, I was like, oh, fuck, can't walk. Damn, dude. Sorry about that. Yeah, back stuff is the worst. Yeah, it's kind of just like to, kind of to the point, like, it's been one of the things that's been piling up the last couple months. Like, 2025 started out pretty sick.

Like, had a girlfriend, new job, like, going to school, relevant to my new career. Climbing trees and shit, doing, like, studying arboriculture. Oh, hell, yeah. dude um but then like february rolls around end of february two close friends of mine die like yeah separate events like within 24 hours jesus christ dude yeah like they were we were in abandoned high school and oh sorry to hear that man yeah man like 24 too so it's just like that's the kind of shit that you're like all right well guess guess we're all just getting punished you know what i mean yeah yeah yeah oh right there is no justice or fairness in the world and even though i knew

that if philosophically now I I'm feeling it personally and it sucks yeah dude you're like oh dude you see like shit die you see people die you're like oh that could never happen to the boys and then it does and then so like I was dating the girl I was with for like

two three months when this happened and as you can imagine that's like fucking heavy because I found out at her apartment oh dude like she was she was great through it all and like we I broke up with her like three four weeks ago just because you know that happening and then just a lot of shit going on kind of like like i'm doing well

in school i'm going to work i'm like progressing and it's just like it's and with the death and like a breakup and just like mental health shit like i've been going to a therapist she's cool but it's also just like i feel like it only does so much for me like i'm very receptive to therapy like i'm very open and you know it helps definitely um Um, but it's just like, man. And then like with my back, I was like just starting to feel like I was hitting my stride. I was like, all right, dude, like maybe being single isn't so bad, you know, like got to enjoy this, enjoy this summer, like in honor of the boys. And then I'm just like, damn, now I'm like, babe, I can't, I can't be in a relationship.

The ghosts of my best friends want me to get pussy. They come to me in the night and they tell me to suck tits. To suck strange tits. They're telling me like, dude, we can't be sluts in heaven. It turns out it's just like church up here It fucking sucks You gotta get as much pussy for us as possible We struck a deal with God

We feel it a little bit every time you fuck a girl So you have to do it for us They were right All the cool people are in hell man But yeah It's just like thankfully I'm like Starting to I have some mobility back

Like I spent this last week just like stretching trying to walk like i'm feeling pretty good now it's just achy sure going back to work tomorrow probably just taking it easy but getting back into it yeah but it's still just like like last night i have just like i'm at the apartment alone and i was i was just tweaking man i was like pacing around like the fuck's going on and it's just hard it's hard to like chalk up the winds like with like i'm doing good in school like works going all right i like everybody i work with but it's hard to like appreciate that when all this shit's happening and i'm trying to like enjoy what's left of summer sure get back onto that groove and like do all the things i want to

do but it's you know it's hard to fucking get out of bed and i'm sure that both of you have been in similar scenarios like i guess you know what kind of what kind of things can you what kind of things give you motivation to get out of a slump like that and yeah well dude look the thing you have to also remind yourself is you have to give yourself you have to be like sort of like kind to yourself here and like think about it as like how would you treat somebody else in your exact scenario right you would be really understanding if it was like if somebody you knew lost two of their best friends in like a freak occurrence like first of all you're not even close to dealing with that right like that is a really fucked up thing that you know is tragic

and that is going to take a while for you to sort of like really, really figure out. And that, in some ways, just change, like, that's the, that's the whole, the worst part of, I mean, like, all life is is learning to deal with worse and worse shit. Every year we're alive, worse things keep happening. And yes, good things happen. And that's what makes life worth living. But they're, like, every year there's a fucking tragedy. And at a certain point, you just kind of become numbered to them.

and easier to deal with and you unfortunately had to deal with like shit that's like you should have you should have built up to a lot of smaller tragedies before you had to deal with these. Like that's kind of how it works, right? It's like,

little fucked up shit happens that makes you be like, oh, life sucks or like maybe an older relative dies a little early and you're like, hey, that's fucked up that somebody died at 60 instead of 80, but ultimately, you know,

his health wasn't good, whatever. But like you're dealing with shit that's like, like, that just fucks a person up, like, for a year plus, you know what I mean? And then even when you're done, existential, like, oh, if they can die, why, like, what's it going to fucking happen to me? Exactly. Not only are you mourning the loss of somebody who was so close to you and who was like a big part of your life, but it's like, yes, it shakes you.

You're right. It makes these really existential questions, right? Like, and so that's number one, right? That's like understanding that you're still very much in the middle of this. And then also when you throw in, you know, the back, I mean, dude, a bad back is also a thing that's war, like, that can fuck up an entire, like, can fuck up years of a person's life, right? A chronic health condition like this. And so when you have those two together, you have to realize, like, right now it's sort of like, you know, it's like in a boxing match where you're just sort of like, you're just kind of covering your head because you're getting the shit pummeled out of you. you're waiting, you're about, you're basically clenching your opponent, you're covering your head

and you're trying to clinch your opponent so the ref will stop it and you get a second to breathe. But you're in the middle of getting the shit kicked out of you right now. And like, you don't need to be worried about, do, the fact that you're hanging on, right? Just keeping your job, just going to school is like five victories in a row. Like you have to realize that. you have to understand that the fact that you haven't crumbled completely is the equivalent to like if none of this had happened and you had like you know become a fucking multi-millionaire and found the love of your life and like and bought a house like that's the level of success like in many ways what you're doing is way more impressive than traditional success without obstacles getting in the middle of this to keep your life together dude you should feel like you fucking like you're fucking like you're you just won a fucking champion like a like you're you know you run on an NBA championship roster because what you're dealing with is really fucking hard and you showing up to work like dude if

I was you I would I don't think I would like I don't I think I would have been dropped out of school and quit my job legitimately I was fucking close I know dude and it and I think that's like a problem I've had my whole life is giving myself credit and having that confidence and like you know I'm doing all right like I don't need to impress anybody I just need to like keep it pushing you know and yeah i think yeah what you're saying is true is like yeah i guess that is guess i do got to do got to take those mental mental notes and count those ws however i can you should be you should be totally proud of yourself because these are it feels like you're not making it feels like and i get it right i get why it feels like you're at zero right but but it's like if you're netting

out at zero right now that's huge that's like you're scoring 30 points because life is negative 30 at you right now. You know what I mean? Like, the fact that you're at zero is insane. And you're probably, you're probably doing a little better than that, right? Like, you're still going to school. You're still doing well.

Like, you're doing, like, solid. Like, you're doing like, you know, you're doing like a fucking, a C plus when life is trying to get you an F minus, and that's huge. Because, like, by absolute value, you're putting in the effort of somebody who's living an A plus life right now, and you need to understand that. And so you should feel proud of yourself

Like you should be proud of yourself Like you're crushing it Even though it feels like you're barely doing shit That's kind of that is that's really my my overall advice And that's the hardest part Like when you feel like what's the point I'm not even succeeding I'm not doing shit It's easy to feel helpless and give up

And I've done that in the past right Like I've done that and it's been a mistake And then you dig yourself into a deeper hole Something you can you can still ultimately get out of But what you're doing is really impressive. You should feel good about yourself. And you should also be like, listen, don't put other pressures on yourself either. Like this weird like, oh, I got to enjoy summer.

But like, you know, you don't have to have the best summer of your life. Just go have a couple nice fucking afternoons. Drink a couple fucking bruskees on a rooftop. You know, please. Get head from a couple sevens. They don't got to be tens, man. You'll be fine, dude. You know what I mean?

Like that's really it, dude. Just whatever it takes to make yourself feel good, you've earned it. Because I bet you right now it feels like you're not, you haven't earned shit and that you're actually a fuck up and you're not. You're crushing it right now, especially given what you're up against. Yeah, man. Yeah, and I guess that is a lot of stuff that my therapist has echoed to me a few times. But yeah, it definitely does help hearing it from other like outputs.

And I have a lot of people in my life I can lean on who kind of say the same thing. but yeah and listen and by the way you're right you're right in saying that there there's only so much therapy can do for you right like you can hear that shit but you have to behave like that like you have to go you do have to go do some fun shit you or you've earned some fun shit and you do have to be okay like you know you should treat your day to day like you were absolutely crushing it so go celebrate you know what I mean like go take a little fucking vacation whatever you've earned it go like and by the way because it's going to be kind of hard right you're going to be pretty fucking tired from getting this

shit together because not only school and work but like with a chronic back problem dude the way i got my back i fucked my back up um you know right maybe like a year ago at this point and i had to go to fucking pt i do all these fucking exercises just to not be in pain and it was really fucking annoying and so like if you keep if you're keeping up with all that stuff you should also do shit that makes you feel good that's kind of my Fuck it. That's my, that's sort of my takeaways. Like, don't feel free to sort of like spoil yourself as if you've had a banner year. Because in a lot of ways you have had a banner year just staying on course.

Damn. That's true. Yeah, dude. Yeah. I think I definitely have been trying to do that. Like, I got a few fun events planned going forward, some concerts and some friends out of town. So, yeah, just, yeah, just keeping it pushing and having something to look forward to. as my mom always said. That's right, dude. Listen, do one extra splurge for us, man. Do one extra thing that you weren't going to do.

I think it's an ice cream kind of Sunday. Go get yourself two fat scoops, brother. Dude, fucking whine out us. Hell of that, dude. Well, I'll let you guys push out to the next call, and I appreciate it. My sister and I are huge fans. We saw you in Cleveland a couple, like two years ago.

Always a pleasure. and we'll look forward to whenever that happens again we will yeah we will we haven't announced anything yet but we're working on basically i'm going to do another bus tour at the beginning of next year like maybe maybe maybe like starting in late january and i'm pretty sure i'm almost positive cleveland is somewhere in there so look after that we'll be announcing that pretty soon nice i'll be looking out keep my ear to the streets and uh i'll catch you guys later man thank you both hell yeah dude good luck good luck appreciate it, boys, later.

Later. See you, dude. Sister, huh?