Stavvy's World - Bonus #161 - Live Call Show Vol. 36 (New Years Special!!) [PATREON PREVIEW]

Episode Date: January 1, 2026

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworldHappy New Years folks!! We ring in 2026 with a live call show where we talk directly to our beautiful Patreon members on Discord. Stav and Eldy help callers including a man whose Italian professor dad is marrying one of his students, a woman whose military vet family friend abruptly left his wife and kids, and an update from an all-time caller whose mother was murdered in Albania.If you'd like to be a part of future live call episodes, subscribe at www.patreon.com/stavvysworld to get access to the Stavvy's World Discord channel where these live calls are taken.☎️ Have a question for a regular episode? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice!🎟️ See Stavvy live on the Dreamboat Tour 🛥️💕!!! https://stavvy.biz/ for tickets‼️ Bonus episodes every week! Unlock exclusive, Patreon-only episodes at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

So my dad, he's an Italian immigrant, right? And when I was 16, 17, he started dating a girl who was 23 and also his like college student, like he was her professor. Holy shit. That's awesome. I mean, classic stuff. The only thing it doesn't track as an Italian who has an advanced degree. what was this girl going to ITT tech he was her fucking HVAC professor

dude he doesn't have an advanced degree he teaches music oh I see I see okay we're back a dirtbag Italian fucking musician okay beautiful yeah yeah now that you get the idea he's basically

this has been going on I'm 22 now so a while and they're gonna get married now eventually. Jeez, okay, interesting. So this has been going on. So you said you were how old? 13? 16?

I was like 16 when it started happening. Okay, so this is eight years. Yeah. Wow. Okay. And how old is your dad now? Shit. He's 60, like in his mid-60s. Mid-60s and this girl's 31. Okay, interesting. Hey.

No, she's, sorry. She's 28. So I'm going to got the map wrong down there. Wait a second. Hold on a second. If she's 28 now, they started a day when she was 20? No, sorry.

It's been five years. My bad. Okay. Okay, okay, okay. When she was 23, you said. She was 23 and now she's 28. So five years. Okay.

Yeah. Five years. Okay. Yeah. Gotcha. And basically this caused a huge falling out with my dad. because my dad um was also a my high school band teacher and he tried to like get her to play in like our school events and stuff like that she's basically the same age yeah no pretty much

it was like uh and he i was so beautiful she's so good at the bo and he uh tried to get her to like play in the band there and i had to like quit that shit i had to like i kind of like to get his 23 year old girlfriend to play with high schoolers at a high school production? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, when he's 50? When he's fucking or maybe 58,

59, whatever the fuck he was? Yeah. That's fucking crazy. Okay. And basically like, this caused a lot of shit for me. We've been on and off.

We're kind of getting back on now. Like kind of rekindling our relationship a little bit. and I'm really worried because he hasn't talked to me about it but he's like we're in the same communities I have friends of friends he's talked to like these people about

like the wedding and like when it's going to be and I'm I know he's probably gonna ask me to go and like I'm just I don't know if I want to you know sure so let me just can I just nail down

the ages here a little bit so you are how old right now I am 23 You're 20th And this girl is currently 28 Yeah Okay okay 23 28 and 64 let's say

Yeah yeah That's about right About about right Let's give them 62 Let's be gentlemen about this Give them the benefit Yeah yeah We can be nice

Okay Yeah I mean that's fucking crazy And so your Your main problem here is just that Just so we're on record, that she's clearly too young to be your father's girlfriend, but wife is, I mean, definitely girl. It was definitely weirder when he was dating, when he was in his late 50s dating a 22 year old or whatever. I mean, it's still weird now. Don't get me wrong. 28 and 60s is getting married is weird. But it's not completely unheard of in society. Usually, I assume your dad is broke. Usually broke motherfuckers don't have the thing to, don't have the swag to pull this. but that's your problem. It's just that she's much too young. Yeah, and also like every time I get back,

try to get back into his life, he tries to like kind of include her with it, which makes sense, but she's, she tries to act like a mother figure to me, which, like, obviously is really, sorry, go ahead. Yeah, that's crazy because you're literally the same generation. Yeah, yeah, it's like so fucking weird.

Like, uh, she would tell me, to stop, like, smoking weed when I was a kid. She told me she had to go to rehab her weed and I was like, pussy. Like, you know, like, there's not real. I mean, this girl must have had a horrible childhood if she's marrying your father, right? Yeah. I mean, there's no way she wasn't, unfortunately, molested by, like, an uncle or something. And, like, had, it's like, she has some weird old guy shit going on.

Plus, wanting to have a kid, wanting to, like, trying to, like, pretend she's a mother and instill ordering, like, you know, talking to a kid makes her feel more. more grown up having an older guy makes her feel more grown up there's got to be some some shit like that going on for sure right oh yeah i mean her dad's like she's an fs u french horn major her dad's like uh florida cop like i can't imagine it's great like growing up in that french horn major jesus christ yeah that's fucking crazy she's uh she's not the brightest bull that's for sure but uh yeah no it's weird i don't know you basically are just like you don't mind having what about your mom you have a better relation with your mother i'm guessing or yeah me and my mom

we have a really good relationship and that's part of the reason i stopped talking to him is because she started getting involved in like she started saying shit about my mom she started like you know she started like yeah that's crazy you can't that's that's she started emailing for him and i could tell because like his English isn't that good you know what I mean I mean I hate listen this is one of those situations where if this wasn't your dad I would love this guy he's such a fucking piece of shit like love him in terms of he's hilarious being like a guy with broken English who fucks his like student that's 30 years younger than and like she writes his email she becomes his personal secretary your dad's got a real Bill Belichick situation going on right now

it's so funny because he's tried to like go to therapy and shit like that, but it's just giving him, like, ammo to be manipulative. But the thing is, like, he can't be verbally manipulative because he's so bad at English. Like, that's really funny. Like, it just comes off as, like, we just can see right through it. So, yeah, he's, I stopped talking because he, like, started saying shit about, like, my mom getting what she deserved and shit like that. And, like, he was just going off and, like, sounded just mentally unwell.

And, like, I checked in with him later, and I was like, hey, how are you doing? Like, I care about you, love you. I want to make sure you're okay. But, uh, yeah, it was weird. I mean, look, dude, I think basically what you're describing here is, yeah, I mean, your dad is clearly insanely in the wrong in every way here. I mean, like, like, if this girl wasn't so young, if she was age appropriate and she was trashing your fucking mom, that, that's grounds for never speaking to your dad again.

if he was dating if this girl was really nice and sweet but you just felt really weird about this fucking relationship that would have been grounds to not want to have anything to do with it you combine the two plus she's like trying to be pushy and act like your fucking mom and like act like a parent figure it's like you you're completely in the right to have zero contact with you know to do with this i think some kind of compromise you could reach here is like And what might be good for you? Because, again, you're a young guy. This is good for you to, like, set your boundaries is to speak to your dad and just be like, listen.

Like, you know, that conversation you had where you're like, I, you know, I care about you. I want to check in on you. You can say, look, you're getting married, whatever. I don't really approve of this. Like, this is fucking weird to me. But you're my father. I want you to be in my life. The way that can happen is if you never disrespect my mother in front of me, your

wife doesn't try and speak to me like I'm her child, that most. of our relationship is between me and you. And if I have to see this woman, she keeps a very respectful tone, doesn't say anything about my, my mother doesn't try and fucking parent me. And you can, you just have to say that.

And if he's cool with it, great. And if he's not, then he can go fuck himself. It's kind of how I read the situation. Yeah. Yeah. No, I definitely.

And honestly, I was like that for a while. It's just getting a little, I don't know. It is weird because like me and him had a really great relationship growing up and part of me knows that like if the choice is between me and some young pussy

it's probably going to be the young pussy well I mean hold on stop right there we're talking about your father right and if that's if that's what you think of him dude which he deserves that's not the kind of guy you need to be doing anything for if your own father look dude a fucking 23 year old from FSU

it's like look that's cool to fuck that girl, it's not cool to fucking choose that over your fucking son. So the fact, like, dude, that kind of, that sentence is heartbreaking. Yeah. A son. And I want you to get that because you live in this reality where that's normal. That's fucking insane. And so just because your father is the kind of piece of shit that would put, you know,

getting pussy over his son, that does not mean you, you are not the one that has to change in this equation. I need you to understand that, right? And so you can't resign yourself to that personally. I would never do, like, that's what I'm saying is that like you need to know your own boundaries. And I think right now you might feel this way because no disrespect, you're just a little young and you still, and you miss that.

Obviously, you want your dad, you want to have that awesome relationship with your dad. But you're not the one fucking that up. You need to understand that. The person fucking that up is your dad. The person who's decided to destroy that relationship is your dad. And if you go back and you try and recreate it by pretending that him being disrespectful towards your mother and pretending that even in the back of your head, you knowing he would choose this dumb bitch over you,

pretending that's okay with you, that's not the relationship you want. You know what I'm saying? The relationship you want is him making you a priority. So you would be kind of selling yourself out for no, and you wouldn't get what you want. it. You would get a hollow version of it and you would allow your dad to kind of like dictate your reality. Again, that's how I see it. But, you know, tell me if I'm off base here.

No, I think you're pretty correct. I think it's just it is ultimately like easier said than done like just hard for me to get out of that mindset. You know what I mean? And especially really hard for me to like think about like the future because like, you know, I'm family oriented. I want to have kids at some point. Like my kids like, you know, with my grand, them not having a grandfather like them being weird with my grandfather but i guess that's a bridge i cross when i get there you know so i appreciate him and thank you exactly and yeah this is fucking hard dude but like also you have to make it clear like your dad might not think that you have the gumption to be like you know what fuck you dad i'm not going to be disrespected by you i love you i want you to be in my life

more than anything but i will not be disrespected and i will not have anybody to disrespect my mom, he might just not think that you're capable of that. And I think you owe it to yourself to stand your ground on this and at least have him, at least, you know, verbalize these things to him, let him hear it. What he does with that is up to him, right? If he tries to trounce through that boundary, that's up to you. Um, you know, that's up to you to kind of keep it firm. But I think, dude, legitimately, this is important for you in your life. Because I have found, and look, Obviously, I think it's easy to say that I'm projecting. People will say, you know, I think it can be read that I'm projecting about my own

relationship with my father. It's not exactly the same. But I do think it has been very helpful for me to stand up and realize what my boundaries are in my relationship with my dad. That has helped me in the rest of my life. I think a lot of the, a lot of the, like, patterns that are the, that are the, establish for people happen with your parents one way or another right whether they're romantic whether they're just like friendship whether they're power dynamics how you look at authority figures

whatever whatever i i can tell you from personal experience standing up to my dad when i didn't like the way he treated me or my mom has made it so that it's been night and day nobody treats me like that anymore in the rest of the world either you know what i mean like that i think that will help your that will help you in how you relate to the rest of the world. Again, this is just my advice, having dealt with a similar but not exactly the same situation. No, I appreciate it. Actually, the reason I wanted to talk to is because I know you've had some similar issues with a Mediterranean father.

So, like, I don't know. And for what it's worth, for what it's worth, you're younger than me. And now at my age, having like kind of put my, like, I think having time apart has helped helped both me and my dad to realize like for me it helped me realize it helped me come around to what you know the fact that i really did want my dad in my life and i would be willing to compromise with him and i think for him it made him realize that i wasn't that i was serious and that like you know he had that we had to have the relationship on on terms that were that he didn't purely dictate it had to be about compromise and uh may i don't think you'll necessarily get that

if you immediately fold is sort of how i see it Hell yeah. No, I definitely agree. Thank you, man. Yeah, and you got time. Don't fucking nutting anybody too soon. Yeah. I won't. Don't worry. And stop. I just have a confession I need to make to you real quick before I go. Go ahead. At your last Boston show, like a year or two ago at the Wilbur, I got really high on mushrooms, like really fucking high on mushrooms. And then I lied to you about getting pegged and you posted it on YouTube. Oh, wow. That was you? yeah that was me i'm really sorry buddy you can look back in the video and see like my hand crumpling

under the weight of the mushrooms so i deeply apologize fuck dude i knew those shows were actually great for crowd work actually we got a lot of fun we had a lot of weird boston trash yeah there's a lot of rowdy boston fucks out there yeah that's all right those that was the first theater weekend of my life that was so thanks for being there buddy of course yeah love your love your work thank you guys so much have a great day you too brother happy new year Best of luck. Man, that sounds like an extremely Italian father predicament to have. I mean, when he said that shit, he was like, well, I know if I had to choose between

young pussy or me, his son, he would choose young pussy. And that is, you know, that's the kind of, that's when I stopped respecting this guy. Yeah. Because there is something fun about an Italian father who does like young pussy, but chooses his family over that. Yeah. That to me is the best of both worlds. That's, that's a crazy.

You know you've gone too far when Stavvy's rolled the podcast Cannd endorse. Can't endorse getting young pussy. You're right. You're a real fucking monster if we're like, no, whoa, whoa, whoa, certain things.

Pussy, getting pussy from hot girls is not, there are certain things that are more important than that. When you find those things from us, that's tough. When we don't approve of a hilarious Italian, a hilarious immigrant getting pussy, Yeah. You've gone way too far.