Stavvy's World - Bonus #69 - Live Call Show Vol. 9 w/ Sydnee Washington [PATREON PREVIEW]

Episode Date: March 28, 2024

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Sydnee Washington returns to the pod for a very special ep -- the very first live call-in show with a guest! Sydnee and Stav catch up on Sydnee's life going bad, a weird depressing date, how she's too hot to be this down bad, how Stav gave back to the community for Black History Month, and much more. They went on to help live callers including a woman whose loser coworker asked her out on Slack, a cheese delivery guy in Portland lmao, and a return caller who imagines a tiny Stav on the shelf looking over her lest she engage in bad habits. Follow Sydnee Washington on social media: https://www.instagram.com/justsydbw/ https://twitter.com/Justsydnyc https://www.tiktok.com/@justsydbw20 If you'd like to be a part of future live call episode, subscribe at www.patreon.com/stavvysworld to get access to the Stavvy's World Discord channel where these live calls are taken. Have a question for a regular episode? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice!

You have another issue for us of So yeah, yeah, yeah, my other thing was like so I'm a I'm a software engineer I'm a girl obviously But I work with like basically in an office with like a hundred men right and they don't know how to they're like no pussy Getters, they don't know how to talk to women at all Yeah, and like I'm in a committed relationship But something that keeps happening is guys will like hit me up in like the, you know, the work DMs basically.

Oh, in Slack? Yeah, in Slack. I try to get pussy on Slack, it's hilarious. What is that? You're serious about the pussy though. You're like, let's schedule this in. Can we circle back to me getting jerked off by you? Put it in the Google Doc, please.

That's how I try to get my cock sucked by Stav in the company. He never responded to the DM. Okay so you're getting accosted on slack by a bunch of programmers. Yeah and like normally I can ignore but one of them actually had the nuts to like, actually asked me on a date over Slack. And I didn't really just go to HR directly. I know. But that's the thing is like, you always got it. Everything has to be paper trail. Right. So this is good. It's actually good that it's on paper.

Yeah. You need to print out all this stuff and then you need to just just put it on their desk and be like, now somebody sees this what does this look like for you so what's your question like how to like respond to it or what do you think question is like yeah so I actually I've never brought anything of this up to HR because like I don't know yeah if you can avoid it best it also HR snitches you never know HR if they really care about the company. They don't give a fuck They're gonna give a fuck about you. No, no, no, they're gonna make sure you're up out of there Yeah, the one guy that asked me out like I didn't really know what to do because I was like is it even

inappropriate for me to like respond to this right message, so I was just like I Just didn't respond You thumbs up What are you talking about he could read that as you agreeing no no nobody whenever you see a thumbs up you like oh Did you just fucking slap me in the face? I hope is mean. I agree. But like if he asked, like, what was the what was the what did he say exactly? He was like, hey, I just like I see you around the office. I just want to like, you know, the one girl I work here, you fool.

I'm supposed to be here. Oh, you come here a lot? Yeah, he was like let me know if you want to grab a drink or a coffee or something sometime It won't be with you yeah See, that's what I'm saying even though I know that the thumbs up is usually a passive aggressive move when someone's asking you a question Like that and you could construe a thumbs up as a positive, the kind of like delusional nerd that's going to ask you out to begin with might see that thumbs up as like a, yeah, sometime, even though you didn't say shit.

Maybe for a day, but I feel like it just sinks in and feels worse and worse quickly as like multiple days go by without a single response I guess I would say here's I don't know you probably know about you've obviously dealt with this So much more tell me what go ahead Should be doing good say You would know what you want me to say what I would what I would tell her to do I think I think I mean either ignore. I think ignore is fine in that situation Like he's he is crossing a line.

You don't really have to engage, I don't think. And then he's, what's he gonna do? Press you on it. Then you're in HR territory. It's like, I ignored an unwanted advance and then he like, you know, kept kind of harassing me. Or you could just be like, just a straight up no thank you,

or like no thanks, you know, I like to keep things professionalup. No. Thank you or like no, thanks You know I like to keep things professional You don't even have to mention the boyfriend the boyfriend is a you're it being a relationship is the ultimate get out of Any kind of weird shit stop you don't know what you're talking about so then go ahead You gotta pull his card you gotta be like yeah, let's go to date Okay, you gotta I don't know what I'm talking about She's got a performative day. You gotta go his card you gotta be like, yeah, let's go to date. Sure. Okay, you got it I don't know what I'm talking about on the day. She's got a little performative day You got to go on the date you have no a lot of the times people especially dudes are like

You you got to take these shots because whatever shot you don't take. I mean, yes That's a you miss 100% of the shots, you know, it's like he probably don't even really want to go out with you He probably is just like this is what guys do they ask out and then when it's time to do they Did you soon as you act interested then they're like, oh No, she's fucking She's got a job. She's got a boyfriend. She doesn't want to go on these dummy days. Oh, you're boyfriend. Hey, how long you been with your man? How long? Five years. Five years oh yeah bitch it's time to play come on now. I know you bored over there. You better go on this bad date and then and then ham it up ham it up order a lot. Wow. He talk about talk about all the boring shit that you got to deal with your man

and he. Wow trash her man too. Oh yeah trash the man. No. And then that you gotta deal with your man. And he, I bet you. Wow, trash her man too? Oh yeah, trash the man. No. And then, but you gotta keep your boyfriend in the loop. You're like, listen, listen, listen, I got this guy. Right, I'm undercover. Yeah. And then this will make your boyfriend want you even more.

Because then he'll know, oh there's other people that want you? What the fuck were you just talking about? How you need to settle down. You want a regular relationship. I'm telling you. Listen. You're trying to play mind, don't listen to Sydney. Every time I like a guy, he goes the opposite direction.

It's the ones that I'm like, ugh, get away if they can't stop. She doesn't want to do any of that. She doesn't want to do that. Babe, you're in a five year relationship, you're bored, you're at a job, what is it, tech, something? Some bullshit, yeah. What is it? Software. Sno some bullshit fine, what is it? software Snooze fest. Yeah, this is this is where you live. This is where you get a good time going

Well, I I have thousand percent. There's no way this guy's even sort of interesting He wants to take her to fucking like some kind of fast casual place and talk about Yeah, they're out in the most like pussy way to get a drink or coffee sometimes I also I would not go on a date with this guy if I was single because he's not hot enough yeah there you go even better go live on Instagram Look who told me to come on this day with. And Eric from the third floor. Bitch, this is great. Okay, maybe this is me just being a comedian. But I also do believe as someone who was actively dating men, soon as you are on board and into it, they immediately wanna go the opposite way.

That's just how it is. They do not really like women It's the whole game. They're playing PS5 so much. They don't know what's real and what's the game? That's what it's really about. All right, so soon as you you are clocked in and you're like we're on the date and you're like Yeah, and so then you could see their eyes wander like, oh, fuck, I said, yes, I asked her. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I hate that. They hate that. We need to 1000 percent stop being scared, stop being like, oh, I don't know how to say no. Yeah, let's go. Let's go to college bluff. Yeah, let's go to per se. That's where I want to go. Well,

there you go. There's two competing ideologies here. One is don't don't DM him back or Turn him down as quickly as possible. The other is engage in Maybe two or three weeks of mind games with some fat programmer. You don't want to talk to Dare you say he'll be like they don't have that shit in northern Canada Oh, that's true go to a smoked fishery or something. What's a place there that it's like a thousand dollars Oh, that's true. Yeah, if you name a spot and they start googling that shit, they're like, oh this bitch is out of her mind Yeah, it's possible when wanna go out with her.

You could either get out of it as quickly as possible or call as bluff. That sounds, they don't care about the, I don't want to, hey get up, please. These, if you, I'm a- These are fucking software nerds. I'm a woman, and I deal with this constantly. I'm sorry, I'm that girl.

Yeah. I could say no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Destiny's Child. No, no, no, no. All they're like is I just need to try another way. I just have to keep being persistent. I have to stay on her ass. And that's when we break down and we're like, all right, okay, cool. And then they're like, oh, I'm back in the game.

But if you immediately are like interested and like, oh, yeah, absolutely. Or can I make a cut? You're talking about you're talking about black dudes from New York We're talking about computer programmers from Canada. Okay, this is two different types of guys This guy gets one sort of no and he's like starts crying and gets nervous And goes to reddit and talks about how all women are whores. There's no way he's gonna be like, Come on, Ma, what are you doing? Not doing black hits or nothing. It'll come out in March. It'll come out in March. Laughter