Stavvy's World - Bonus #86 - Live Call Show Vol. 14 w/ Kerryn Feehan [PATREON PREVIEW]

Episode Date: July 25, 2024

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Kerryn Feehan returns to the podcast to discuss her and Stav's star turns in Netflix's TIRES, trade notes on workouts with Stav, get a lot of fat jabs in, and most importantly -- speak directly to the people and give out advice in real time on Live Call Show Vol. 14. Callers including a motorcycle gang member who wants his ex back, a guy trying to reconnect with his half-brother, and a man trying to decide between the perfectly nice girl he is dating and his emotionally unavailable former fling. Follow Kerryn Feehan on social media and watch her podcast OnlyFeehans:  https://www.instagram.com/kerrynfeehan/https://twitter.com/FeehanKerrynhttps://www.youtube.com/@onlyfeehans    If you'd like to be a part of future live call episode, subscribe at www.patreon.com/stavvysworld to get access to the Stavvy's World Discord channel where these live calls are taken. Have a question for a regular episode? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice!

Why don't we go to a fun little update? I'd love a fun update. This guy called in on the R U garbage episode. Mm-hmm. He was the guy who was pissed that his baby mama was like fucking... That she cut him off. Yes! Wouldn't get him pussy anymore.

I remember this guy. Because they were like fucking after they split for like two years or something. Yeah. And he's like pissed that she's like cut him off. Wait, was it a clip? It was a clip. I think I saw this. Yeah, we made fun of this guy. We made fun and put the clip into the end of this episode to eldest

I think we just start doing that to give people context, but okay Why three four years ago been date another girl me and my ex we've been hooking up the whole time mother my kids She's the mother kiss your grandfather like that use the mother kids your grandfather in the book she's doing about two years I can hate his guts drops a f-r we've been banging the whole time you know recently just kind of re-broke up with me basically is just completely cut me out cold turkey one day Well, it's not really not really you got divorced That you and you had two years of extra. I don't really know that you can call that cold turkey

There's like nine victims in this Ken you're not one of them You need to be the victim. But yeah, I'd love to talk to this guy. Glizzy. Glizzy McGuire, are you on? Great name. What's up Glizzy?

What's going on guys? Not much man, we hear you got an update for us on your very respectable call from a couple months ago. Yeah man, it all fucking with the shit. Really, that setup didn't have legs. No, it's it's the exact same situation. Like, what's this? She's happy. Yeah, she's in a good relationship. Go ahead, buddy. What's going on? Sorry, we were shitting on you and didn't hear what you said so go ahead. Yeah

I figured I mean yeah, nothing changed like we stopped talking for a while, and then she you know I get these signs again that That you know she's coming back around and then you know she shows me her fucking tits on fucking FaceTime So it's like what am I supposed to do with that? Well, I guess the question is what do you want out of this relationship? Do you ever want to get back together with this person? Yeah, I do cuz of my kids you do cuz your kids I see I see so you're not just trying to get sucked off on the sneak here

No, I actually you know I hate fucking hate fucking only seeing my kids every other weekend and one one night a week. So it sucks. I want to be with them every day. But and how long has it been since you guys like, you know, separated or whatever? Three years. Three years. Can you remind me to set up a little? You said you guys were like still fucking for like two years after that. And then she like cut you off or something I Got into a relationship

We were still fucking till like six months ago and I've been in a relationship for two years, and she's been in one for a year So you were both cheating at the same time. I think it cancels yes Karen enough out of you. Girl math. Yeah. I thought the girl is the term for a female I would use there, but yeah. It's definitely a certain kind of math.

She all of a sudden got a conscience. So I guess, okay, if you really, so what's the problem? What's stopping you guys from? She just doesn't want to be in like an official relationship with you or what is the issue here? He all of a sudden got a conscience Oh because she was cheating I see I see I see yeah, and all of a sudden it's a problem But then you know still asked me for favors and you know still when I drop the kids off well you know make me touch her boy and like give me

kiss oh yeah she'll really real gun to your fucking head on that one huh she makes you touch your butt well like for how long a little bit a good little bit nice okay so okay dude Here's the thing though I get where I do this is a very this does sound like a really weird like fucked up toxic little situation you got going here and It's like I Guess why did you never think to try and push for you getting back together? Do you know what I mean? Like because right now you're in no man's land.

Right now you still see your kids only, like you said, every other weekend or whatever it is, and emotionally you're in a fucked up little yo-yo where you don't know, you're not moving on fully because you still have in the back of your head, maybe we can, she's showing you enough signs, which is fucked up on her part But it's also fucked up on your part not to draw

someone's got to be the person who draw the line here right and someone's got to be the person to set a boundary and be like either we do this and We actually get back together because we still you still clearly have some like chemistry here, and we do this because we have some kind of chemistry and we have kids together, or you gotta stop doing this. You gotta stop tempting me. You temptress. Yeah, you Eve.

Straight up, yeah. You know? Yeah. So here's a little bit into that. Sure, sure. I had all the chances in the world, but I was dating this new girl and then, you know, she kept saying, I'm going to get in a relationship with a good guy. So this is your fault. It's going to be it. I don't want to say it's my.

It is. No, no, no, no, no, no. You don't want to, but it fully 100% is. Let's be clear. Fully 100% is let's be So she was like I'll get back together with you, but you you were hooking up with some hot Other woman and you're like, we'll see about that new pussy though, you know Fresh out the rapper She told me the other day She goes have you ever thought about making like a grand gesture to get me back?

And I was like, like John Cusack with the boom box type shit? Or like, what are you talking? Yeah, dude, can I be honest with you? She's so desperately wants you to try and date her, bro. She so desperately wants you to do exactly what we're talking about. Set the boundary, like, you know, whatever. You're both trash, so give her a bouquet

of fucking wah-wah subs or whatever the fuck. You know, it, you're both trash, so give her a bouquet of fuckin' wah-wah subs or whatever the fuck. You know, it's like, it's not like, luckily it's not, it's not gonna be a very expensive gesture for you. You both eat from different ends of a long hoagie. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You lady in the tramp of fuckin'

cheese steak without whiz. But like, clearly. How will you be whiz me? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But like she clearly you be with me Yeah, right that I was fucking fake cheese product on the dashboard of your souped-up Nissan Whatever sorry whatever American good American car you drive you're right, when a woman just straight up asks for the grand gesture, she wants you to try to commit to her again. Exactly, and dude, so here's the moment, right?

And here's the thing, we're being honest with you because we're truly trying to help you, right? We're not sugarcoating shit. I appreciate it. Because the thing is, now you have to decide, of course, it's one thing in theory to say, I wanna see my kids, I wanna be with the mother of my kids so I can be in my kid's life, right?

That's a nice thing to say in theory. But now you're staring down the barrel of it for real, and what it's gonna take is a grand gesture, and by the way, not fucking around. That seems to be the biggest issue here, right right and so you have to be honest with yourself Don't make a grand gesture and then have a nice six months and then start cheating You need to figure out like can you at least put it together for a decade? You know what I mean five years can we start there a presidential term?

We were together. We were together for a decade. He's like, this is the grand. The grand gesture is, yeah, she's out. Yeah, she's gone. You were together for a decade. I see. I see. And how old are the kids? For the decade? The kids? I got a 10 year old and a five year old. Right. Right. Well, so what I'm saying is like basically the

if you're going to be together for your kids and because, look, you guys clearly have some, you both clearly can't get out of each other's lives, one way or the other, you just have to face it, and like look, you might have had a little bit of dirtbag fun here, you took a little sabbatical, you took a little pussy sabbatical, dated a couple other women with eyebrow piercings,

and now it's time to just settle in. Now it's just time to settle in settle in dude so that's the thing you have to be honest with yourself are you ready for this or not yes but here's the thing we had kids young right sure so like it kind of screwed with us and now we're in different places in our lives so the new dude she's dating is real, you know He loved bombs or he's with her every single day. Yeah she's kind of a she's kind of like a plain vanilla person and The thing holding her up with me now is I'm a member of a motorcycle club

That the government deems a criminal organization worried about the hell angels there's a couple of them there are there's a bunch in Maryland I know in Maryland there's a bunch that's hot sorry good but go ahead so she's so I get you I get you so go ahead is that it I mean yeah so she's worried about that angle I'm out of town a lot. Sure. You're riding. So I always stay in contact with her and the kids. Okay, so then look, dude.

Okay, so maybe it isn't pussy. It's just riding your bike with your boys. That's the reason you don't wanna be in this relationship. But either way, you have to make these decisions, right? And if you're like, look, because we're in different parts in our lives, which by the way is valid, right? People grow apart for many reasons. And even if they're the type of people

that could be in a good relationship, if the logistics of your life just stop that, I've certainly had relationships where I'm like, damn, if I had met this person at a different point in my life, we really could add something good, right? But she met me when I gave, all I cared about was comedy, and I was never gonna settle down, whatever, and vice versa. You know, it just, that happens a lot.

So you have to realize, like, you know, can I be around as much as I wanna be for my kids? Like, I don't know how it fucking works, like, can you scale back your Involvement while your kids are very young and be out of town less but still be you know Still fucking be with the fellas every once in a while Is that just a deal-breaker? You know, you know, none of us here are big fans of the government, but do they have a point? You're not sure is it like the kind of thing where it's like you don't want to stop what you're doing

But you also maybe like maybe they your kids are better off with some fucking square day to day and you get to pop in You know and see that you these are choices. You just have to make dude, you know, and that's the hard thing is like Um, do you think juggling everything that's important to you in your life that you can be there, you can make a grand gesture and actually stick to it? And if the answer is yes, great. Make the grand gesture, stick to it, be your version of a family man, right? And if you don't, if you don't think you can do that, then you have to be the one that sets that boundary that's like, look, clearly we want different things.

I love you, I love our kids. We shouldn't be together though. So let's both try and be in stable relationships and co-parent. And then maybe you can even work towards seeing your kids more than every other weekend, right? Because if the biggest thing is you wanna see them more than a couple times a month,

then maybe you can go about that by just having more stability in your life and they can come spend a week with you and you know, whoever you end up with in a stable relationship. But you have to read, you know what I'm saying? The thing is though, like this guy, like this guy, he's such a like dork and so threatened by me that like any signs of me cannot exist while they're together. Like I bought my I bought my son, you know, I named him after a quarterback from my favorite football team.

Oh, yeah. Did you little Donovan? Donovan McNabb, Vinny, Vinny, Donovan McNabb, this kid. Well, Vinny, Vinny Testivert. I mean, what was I thinking? It was of course gonna be a white guy We're in a different city now, he's not a fan of said football team Right like I my kid us, you know a card and a little football doll Right this fucking guy's gotta go and buy the you know, the town that we're in his team Yeah, I hear what all this guy his whole room has got you know this team's stuff

right any sign of me existing like she won't even talk to me when they're together like about kids stuff like right now she's trying to give me to do a favor for like watch the kids overnight and I'm like sure but you got to call me and we got to like yeah work out the logistics Won't even call me when they're together because this dude is so like She lies so I've met all my kids soccer practices all their soccer games She doesn't tell that him then I'm there because it would start a problem. Okay, you would have that though You're the dad absolutely, but here's the other thing I know I'm with you But do you think part of that is because you're every once in a while,

fuck this woman? Like, she probably feels guilty, dude. You know, like, for you to normalize these relationships, you have to just be a good citizen here, and actually, you have to become friends with your ex. It can't be sexual, and you also, I know it's kind of fucking annoying, but you have to work towards some normalized relationship with this dork.

And that will be the hardest part of all this, actually. Like having to, cause you're clearly not a guy who's used to just like letting some dickhead just even make you act any way that you don't want to and you'll have to kind of like take a step back for the good of your relationship with your kids and I think your ex will stop being so weird about shit if you guys stop sort of hooking up.

But that's also on her, right? Like, it's like, look, the read I'm getting on this is that you are kind of airing towards the side of I should not be with her but I would like to have a regular relationship with her is that am I gauging that correctly yes but I mean it also I do still want to I do still want our family back together it's one or the other brother it's like's one. Like, that's the hard thing. I know this is difficult. Gun to my head. Gun to my head.

I want my family back. Well, then, dude, then. You gotta kill the dork. I wouldn't do more crime. I don't think doing more crime is what's going to help him. Do what you're looking for. That was the first option. He's like, finally.

OK, thank you. Bye, click. They said it, click. Fellas, I got the okay