Stavvy's World - Bonus #96 - Tito Garza [PATREON PREVIEW]

Episode Date: October 6, 2024

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Tito Garza joins the pod to discuss why he sees where dads are coming from after having kids himself, the decision to make a second kid, getting rid of the family dog, the joys and demands of family life, the beautiful solitude of grilling, his hometown buddies, and much more. Tito and Stav help callers including a guy whose fiancee is making cringy influencer content on social media, and a woman whose boyfriend is using his orphan brother as an excuse to withdraw from their relationship. Follow Tito Garza on social media: https://www.titogarza.com/ https://www.instagram.com/titogramza/ https://twitter.com/titogarzacomedy https://www.facebook.com/people/Comedian-Tito-Garza https://www.youtube.com/@TitoGarzaComedy    Wanna be part of the show? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice!

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no matter what stage you're in. Shopify.com slash try. Hey, what's up, Stavi, big fan. I don't have any dude perspective in my life to ask. You're the only dude I know off the top of my head. Here we are. I've got a couple with me. I've been living with my boyfriend for like 2 and 1 half years,

about to be three years. And he randomly sat me down the other day and told me that his little brother, who is 12, we're in our mid-20s. His youngest brother, who's 12 12 doesn't have a male father figure in his life and is being raised by their grandma and he told me he wants to move in with his grandma and his brother to be a father figure to him. Which is all fine and good, but we live 20 minutes away from his grandma. Like, how is he going to be more there for him 20 minutes away, or living with him as

opposed to where we live now, as a whole city over, if that? I don't know. What do you think? It sounds real noble, but he's leaving me high and dry to pay our rent. So now I have to figure it out because he's going to be there for his brother, who already comes over all the time. We have a spare room for him, so what's the difference?

Oh, wow. I don't know. Do you think, I think he's just making an excuse and trying to tiptoe his way out of here. I think you're probably right. Thanks, bud. You don't need dude advice, you got it. Yeah, you don't need us your genius, baby

Then you that this this stinks to me of yeah, how's this bitch gonna fucking con? How's she gonna? How's she gonna hit me with the urover so much? There's no counter to this if we can think about A hero's way out of a relationship? This is a hero's way out of a relationship. We're gonna try it. And it's three months later, it's like, I just, I can't be, he's my sole focus right now. Meanwhile, you break up, he's on Tinder. You know what I mean?

I think you're right. I think 20 minutes away, the thing is she doesn't even, this is, our caller here is actually like a great person who's like I thought she's gonna be like look. I just have a problem with this kid being around all the time It's like I want to date him I didn't sign up to date somebody who has a kid right like and you know what you'd be I think you'd be within your Rights if you're in your mid-20s and somebody just in the middle of a relationship Says hey, you're sort

of gonna become a stepmom now right you would be well within your rights to be like this ain't for me yeah but she's not even doing that she's saying we got a fucking room for him the kid can crash here half the week what's and he's only 20 minutes away and unfortunately this feels like open and shut you read it completely correct yeah there's there's no other read for me here you know when away and unfortunately this feels like open and shut you read it completely correct yeah there's there's no other read for me here you know when the like Ukrainian war started and guys would like go over there to fight yeah yeah how many of them were just leaving their wives I gotta go save these lives I

really give a fuck about you a place. I knew about Two weeks ago really bad over there. It's uh, you know back honey. I know how much I've always hated I Really hate him. Ah You should have so fucking funny how many of those guys absolutely So yeah, I think this is great and And at the very least, even if, even if he's not trying to tiptoe his way out of here, it's incredibly, even if he has pure, like, if he has pure intentions here,

it's insanely inconsiderate to leave you high and dry with the rent. Like, what's he gonna do? Move in there, but still crash at your place three nights a week Yeah, that's fucking credit Best case scenario he's being inconsiderate and trying to take advantage of you financially because I don't see it He's not if you guys keep dating. He's not he's not gonna come over to your house. So How long is she bad? How long they've been together did she say?

How long is she bad long they've been together did she say I've been with living with him for two and a half years about to be three years Yeah, this is crazy, and I think I think you if I were you I would just I would have you would you seem very Emotionally intelligent and just like aware of things and also she's a pretty straight shooter I think you should you should kind of he sat you down out of the blue you got to sit him down out of the blue and be like hey this this feels very sudden it's unfair to me financially it's not like we just moved in again they've been together for fucking long they've been moving living together for three years probably together at least a little bit before that. I

I get what you're trying to do here, but I need are you I need you to be honest with me Are you trying to like? Are you are you committed here? Because if this is just step one of you getting out of this relationship I would rather we break up now and I can Move on with my life. This may be a good thing for you, you're mid-20s. To find out that he's not considerate enough to think about your position or to find out that he just wants out is good news because you're so young.

That's a good point. And so this is also around the time where it's like this is the kind of relationship where it's like you're around the point where it's like you're young enough to move on but it's also like if this is serious let's let's commit right because you know you're also not 22 right 20s still pretty hot 20s yeah mid 20s is still you don't get wrong we're fun young I'm 35 I get it but I'm'm just saying like Yeah, this also is the time in the relationship where it's like you should know for yourself and yeah Maybe this is just enough information for you to be like I don't really want to be with the kind of guy who just out of the blue sticks me with That's right this rent and things he could just go back and just takes me emotionally for granted this much

Yeah, so cuz you're right, 20 minutes and you being open to being part of his life. He's just gonna make big decisions and not take you into account. Exactly, exactly. Forever. He didn't broach this like, hey, what do you think of this?

Could you afford this? Would I be, like, I feel like I've been more considered to roommates when I moved out. Yeah. Like, hey guys, if, like, could you afford it if I left? Like, I've literally more considerate to roommates when I moved out. Like, hey guys, can you afford it if I left? I've literally had those conversations in the past. Can you throw cash in their face? Yeah, yeah, yeah, well not now.

Now I'm like, get the fuck out you fucking paupers. Everyone's evicted, I'm turning it into a podcast studio. I changed the locks. Ha ha ha ha ha ha. ["The Rocks"]