Stay Tranquilo - Piña Coladas and Getting Caught in the Rain Life Throws Our Way

Episode Date: September 26, 2018

The guys then dive right into 6 Ideals and Perspectives to live by. They talk the importance of family, the relevance of compassion, the effects mental health has in our life, the shifting of perspective when one door closes, the "just go for it" mentality, and the importance of the simple, yet precious moments in life. Life is all about perspective, go make it a good one. And of course...Stay Tranquil'o. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is good, everybody? You're listening to the State Tranquilo podcast, where we're going to help you stress a little bit less and enjoy a whole lot more. I'm here with my boy, Chris Calderin. How's everyone doing? And we got a good one in for you today. We're going to talk about basically like the six ideals that we think you should live by coming from 23-year-olds. I mean, you know, we're 23. So, you know, for the older crowd out there, we ain't trying to bash anybody.

We're just, you know, giving our ideas as what we've noticed so far being 23. Yeah, and just kind of like what's worked in our lives and what we've kind of applied in terms of a perspective standpoint. But before we get into that, I want to talk to you about this song that you are kind of like obsessed with. I'm obsessed with you. I'm obsessed with this song. I've seen it in your post sometimes and your stories and I'm like, you know, I was talking to it with my friend Christy today and I was telling you, hey, do you know like the concept of that song? Because it's not just, oh, this guy likes P. Nicoladas and Dancing the Ring. He's not necessarily the one that likes the Pinacoladas.

It's another girl that he reads in an ad. So let me put this into perspective. I'm going to put you into the story. So it's a guy and a girl. It's a husband and wife. And the guy is reading a newspaper ad. And it's another girl looking for someone who likes Pinacoladas, not into yoga, and dancing in the rain. And basically he's like, you know, I'm really down for this.

because my relationship right now with my wife is not going too well. You know, it's kind of like a worn out recording. And it's just, you know, it's the lyrics are golden in this song. They're so gold. So here it goes. He says, in his response, he replies to the newspaper and he says, yes, I like P. Nicoladas and getting caught in the rain. I'm not much into health food, but I am into Champagne.

So let's meet up at this bar at O'Malley's. Exactly. They meet up at the bar at O'Malley's. and it's actually his own girl who was sleeping next to him. That's crazy. He says, I waited with high hopes, and then she walked into place. I knew her smile in an instant. I knew the shape of her face.

And I was like, you know, this song is golden. No wonder Andre is so about it. And it's so like, tranquilo. Yeah, man. I was just like, when it really hit me, I was tired of my lady. We've been together too long. I was like, relatable. Relatable.

This man gets it, bro. this man gets it yeah so um we had to open up with that you know just because you know to me dude it's like the ultimate tranquil song yeah it's just you put it on man it's like a mood setter i listen to it bro and it just gets me in the best mood like i'm an automatic like no no no you're ready to go it's my automatic first first song fun fact when i get in the car on friday is listen to pinia calado i'm not even joking i i'm not into that song that much but it just sets it sets the tone for the day. I'm like, all right. No, for me, what really hits the spot is anything, Kenny Chesney. Like, I have a whole playlist on Spotify, 90 songs, just straight up in each other.

For me, it's like Zach Brown Band. Oh, okay, there you go. There you go. Knee deep in the water somewhere, got the blue sky breeze and the wind in my hair. Not a worry in the world. Only tide is going to reach my chair. If that's not Tranquilo, I don't know what it is. I'm just saying. Yeah, so this whole podcast is we're just going to be singing songs. All right. But yeah, I mean, kind of just going back into what we we want to get into. We think there's kind of like those six ideals to life. And Chris is kind of the one that came up with it. And he sent it to me. And I'm like, you know what, dude, this is a great approach with this podcast. Because I like to be flexible

with this. I don't like to be, you know, too strategic, you know, have a set game plan. You want to hit all the points. Right. And allow it to kind of just go wherever it is. And just everyone tells their stories. Everyone just does their thing. And I really like when people do that. Yeah. So you want to run down one by one. Or you'll want to just list them all first and then go into it. We'll run them down one by one. Okay. Just to show like, you know, overall view of what these perspectives are.

Okay. So the first one out of the six that we came up with was show empathy. Second one was respect mom and dad. Third is when one door closes, don't dwell, but change your perspective. Fourth, communicate and learn about mental health. And we'll definitely dive into that a little deeper. The fifth one is just go for it. And the sixth perspective is life gives you dual moments, recognize when they happen.

Yeah. So let's touch up on the first one first. Yeah. So show empathy. Again, like kind of like, and I know that there's going to be like a structure to it. But when you sent me this, I was like, this is just points that we just need to talk about. Yeah. And empathy is something that I believe is huge in this world.

And it lacks a lot of like empathy, compassion, love. all those things I think are starting to disappear and people forget what it really is. I think when you wake up in the morning, a lot of people just have the perspective of, I'm in my own world. People forget, they're selfish. People are naturally selfish when they wake up in the morning. You get me here and or, you know, just a lot of it, like even during our work week, like, I think we don't think about empathy until the weekend hits and we have the chance to be a little bit more selfless.

We have the chance to be with our family. Exactly. Spend more time. Like go to the, even, even be, be selfish to other people when we go to, you know, religious events, mass, like service events. So the reason why I wanted to talk about empathy from my own personal perspective is that, what's up, guys? I've worked a couple of different jobs. I know you have as well, Andre. And one of the jobs I worked was Jimmy Johns.

I was a delivery driver at Jimmy Johns. It was one of my first jobs, part-time. So you have a great college job, honestly. Great college job, literally right across FIU. The Jimmy Johns that we started was the one across FIU, and I was like the first hired driver. And I was like, you know what? This is a big responsibility.

You got to be freaking fast. I mean, the functioning, exactly. That's already their motto. Yeah, yeah. You got to keep that hype on a place that hasn't even kind of figured out how they function yet. Yeah. But, you know, more of the story is I found a lot of people with different backgrounds and like perspectives and and different ages as well, man. Some of these people were like in their 30s, 40s, like working two to three jobs. That's crazy.

Other people like living off their car, man, like homeless. Like their job was Jimmy Johns. That's it. Full time. One of these guys like he would just work and live in his car, you know. And it gave me perspective because. I'm lucky enough that I was born and raised into a family that was well off, man. Not a lot of people have that.

That gives you that comfort that you get to go home every day and have a roof over your head and have food. Because, dude, again, there's so much that we take for granted on the regular. And when we can't really appreciate those things, dude, then we get sucked in like this no man's land. And when we have everything literally in our palm of our hand. Yeah. And we forget that we have everything in the palm of our hand. Yeah, I mean, you said it. You had different perspectives and you were able to see,

yo, like my situation is completely different than a bunch of other people's situations. Like, I brought up until that job I took for granted every day shelter, food and water, bro. I agree. Like, give me a break, you know. The first thing. We were, we both went to private school. Exactly. I went to St.

Thomas. Yeah. We got to admit to ourselves, bro. Even doing this right now, we're super privileged. Like, I agree, bro. But we're sending out a good message. message and at least we recognize that we're privileged whereas a lot of people don't that's more than enough man yeah you know as long as you are aware that that you're grateful for

the life that you have and and and respect that whatever it is that is going on in your life yeah you got to accept it and just love whatever that is because at the end of the day you have everything that you need you're healthy you know you're alive to live another day and and from there your day just goes on as it does and that's more that's all you need necessities right there That's it. You know, we've got to be more complicated and all that. So show empathy. Always.

Number one. All right. Next one. And I, again, and we were kind of talking about my situation and all that. I mean, I definitely relate to this like crazy in terms of family. Like, you got to respect your family, man. Respect mom and dad. Yeah.

Like, they're the ones that, especially again, our age and even for, you know, anyone that's older that's listening to it that kind of doesn't rely on mom and dad anymore. They're the ones I got you to the point that you are there. Exactly, dude. People forget, like, oh. They're not a temporary thing. I was just placed on this earth. Someone just threw me there.

No, man. A family raised you. They brought you up. You had grandparents as well. Yeah. They provided your education. Your food, your shelter, everything that you need to live, they're the ones that have basically provided that for you.

So next time, like, you want to be pissed at your mom for not letting you go out past three o'clock, bro. She's just there because she loves you. She wants you to get back. They're going to be a pain in the ass. It's part of like who they are. But you got to respect them as people. We're going to be those same people.

Exactly. We're going to be that. Our kids are going to hate us out point too, bro. Exactly. It's all a cycle. So a little example for me was at UF. I started UF with three roommates. So four guys, you know, just all in room, different backgrounds and stuff.

Shout out to Fernie. I was Fernie's roommate. From Godella? Yeah. I know he's my neighbor. Actually, I do know. Because I know he's, you know, I'm like, damn, this is so familiar. It's because of, you know, I see coming.

So what's up, Bernie? And no, I mean, you know, Fernie and I, like, we have, we had parents that would call us every single day, man. Every single, my mom would call me every single day. I'm sure his mom would call him. If I was away to, my mom would do the same thing. They were Cuban mama, you know. Exactly. But sometimes we take for granted, you know, that, you know, they put us there, man.

Those sets of parents, they put us there. for me and my mom specifically it helped our relationship you know me being away to uf was the first time she ever sent a college kid over to anywhere you know like i'm one of three kids right i was the baby i am the baby and i was the first to leave you know for college that's crazy so you know yeah i noticed my mom was calling me every day and you know i could be pestered about about it and annoyed but my two other roommates like they would you know they they would get calls like maybe like once a week or they would call once a week, like I started to realize perspective there.

You get me? Not everyone was raised like the way I was or, you know, like, parents have different perspectives. And I appreciate every day that, you know, some people might see it as pestering. I appreciate my mom calling me every day to check up, you know, because like, you know, I'm six hours away, you know? I mean, bro, at the end of the day, like,

one thing you got to appreciate too is like your life with them in general. because bro at the end of the day they can get sick i mean i see it all the time bro we're like parents get like cancer you know your kid gets in a car accident i mean how you know we hear it all the time i have an example for that do you have do you know uh j shetty on facebook yeah of course the guy's like uh yeah that guy's like an inspiration he is i mean the dude used to be a monk he transferred over i mean and again i don't want to get too into it but like the whole concept of him him being a monk is crazy because of like how they practice every day and mind now he just looks like a normal guy right but he's bringing all his but he's bringing what he's been able to learn into

the world and he's making a huge influence very fast so one example he has is a video of a daughter and a son and a mother and the daughter is always consistent with her mom you know she's always you know checking up on her mom her mom's always checking up on her right um and one day the mom and the daughter have a conversation saying like, oh, you know, I haven't spoken to our son, no, the son in a bit, your brother is he doing okay? And then it goes to another scene where the mom is trying to call the brother and the brother's out with his friends, you know, he just looks at the phone like, oh, you know, whatever, like I'll call later later, yeah, a week passes, mom calls again.

Oh, I'll call later, I'll call later. Another week passes. So it's time the sister calls and he's fine with calling with answering the sister for some reason. right he answers the sister and the sister tells him hey have you heard about mom she's in the hospital um she has Alzheimer's holy crap so you we take for granted our mom and dad calling us right but you made a great point Andre like we don't know what's going to happen tomorrow you know like it's too damn valuable life is too short life is too valuable to not appreciate the people that you love around you in the moment not tomorrow not next week like now man like why not

exactly so you know always answer mom and dad you never know if it's an emergency or it's just calling to check you know just appreciate mom and dad and don't take them for granted and then what we got the next one is we're going to do when one door closes basically another one opens and your perspective is going to shift when one door closes don't well change and shifts your perspective i like so i feel like um a lot of the times when one door closes for you people they think of it like as a 50-50 shot like when one door closes another opens but the way i like to see it is when one door closes what if you shift your perspective and you have all this multitude of doors that you can open right i don't believe that and this amount of opportunity

out there i don't believe that in your head when you started doing tranquil you were just like okay one door closed and i didn't have all these other opportunities that i could have done like you you were were mentioning in a podcast the other day that you were going to do a corporate job was it yeah yeah so you tell me more about that like what exactly i mean so when when i graduated i got a degree in exercise physiology right right you're always into the sports you're two sport athlete right yeah i was always into the sports you know candela car della i wasn't like i was the nasty one no no no humble humble here humble two sport athlete bro that's awesome yeah it was fun like shout out to columbus for that yeah yeah

Yeah. So, yeah, I mean, I got my exercise phys degree, like you're saying. I was always around sports. So, like, that's kind of all I knew. And I got into it. I did an internship and I didn't like it. You know, I didn't. You said unpaid.

Unpaid, yeah. So that really tested me to see if I liked it or not. Yeah. It was full time, everything, but I wasn't making any money. And that's just how about I had to do it. It was like part of my graduation. So I ended up realizing I didn't want to do it. So I, you know, I worked in retail for a little bit before that.

Yeah. But in that retail job, I did like a lot. I did like a lot of events. Like that's one thing I did like where I was traveling all over the U.S. And I was going places. And retail was just one door you could have picked out of like. Yeah. And I realized I never wanted to do the retail.

Like right off the bat after. But I realized retail wasn't something that I want to do. And that's kind of like, you know, the progression. You, you test out the waters of everything. I mean, I don't really think anybody wants to do retail. It's a great college job. That's why I did it. But, you know, there was parts of it that I liked.

I liked the fact that I got to got paid to travel and with all expenses. And I like that concept. So I wanted to get into the marketing. world and that. So I started applying to marketing jobs and I got randomly a call from kind like kind bars. Yeah. They're always around that. Yeah. Exactly. They're good. They're a very good brand. They're good positive message which I really like like because again kind of with the Tranquilo direction went. You know I wanted to make an impact and I was like damn I definitely respect that company. So I learned a lot there but within six months bro like I got bored. You know I

wanted to grow in the company and opportunities were there but I was going to have to leave Miami and I didn't want to leave Miami. No. And then, you know, so I quit that job. After that I'm like, okay, I need to make money. So I almost took the corporate job like in downtown, nothing to do with my major in like, you had connections. Yeah, I knew people that worked there already.

So I knew I was good. I had the interview and just didn't show up. Whoa. Yeah. Tranquilo already existed at the time and like something in my head was just like, don't it. It will destroy what you're trying to create. This is months ago. Yeah, literally, I didn't show up. I was in my car dressed to go to the interview. And then Jay Shetty just popped out of nowhere. I don't know what it was. Andre, don't do it. Don't do it, bro. And bro, I got, join the monks.

But yeah, I mean, bro, I got there and I'm like, this isn't, I can't do this. This will ruin what I'm trying to create. So, Tangino, De Ngarises, and my G. What's up, Ronnie? What's up? What's up? But yeah, so I kind of like realize, like, this will be a bad decision. So I dropped the corporate world, like, realized way ahead that that's not for me because I can't sit in an office.

I need to be flexible. And I let that go. And like you said, I closed that door. Yeah. And I opened my eyes knowing I had nothing right now. You know, Tranquido is all I had. very new at the time didn't know what I wanted to do with it but I knew this is what I wanted to do and why did I know one day right I'm sitting on the word tranquil and I'm there watching my little

brother's baseball game right and I'm there I'm chilling by myself like on my phone looking at the game whatever and there's this little kid bro he must be like three years old right and he's he's there with his mom and he's just running around and he comes up to his mom and he goes mom he says the whole sentence in English. He goes, mom, you know what makes me tranquil? And I'm like, this is like I had been sitting on the word, bro, and I'm like, that can really just say that. That kid is three years old. Where's that kid now? You got to get him on the show. I know. He's like, he's like four now. You know you started this, right? Yeah. I mean, he wrote the switch.

And then I just kept hearing it worth tranquil everywhere, which is common. But like, you know, like, it popped out to me. And I'm like, I need to do this, bro. And I mean, I haven't looked back ever since. And more doors I've opened. I was telling you, like, the connections that I've kind of, like, brought back to life. People that you wouldn't even realize. People that I would never realize, dude, I mean. He and I didn't really connect much. Yeah, I mean, we, like, state.

He didn't do anything. When he started Tranquilo is when I reached out to him. I'm like, dude, I love what you're doing. Yeah. Same thing with Guzman. Same thing with Velo. Like, Velo and me were, like, always boys. But, like, again, like, I wasn't really like super tight with him.

Cody, me and him were always boys was never like super tight with him after college. Like, Cody, I was kind of close to that Columbus. And then Guzman, like, same thing. So it's like, it's brought all these people, bro, that like back into my life, which is amazing. Like, it's cool. Like, that's what this is all about. Definitely, brother. So, I mean, I don't know.

You want to get more into like the perspective part of this? Yeah, I mean, I guess from my perspective, dude, you, you hit every point really well right there. But when you close the door and you shift your perspective, just as you were saying, you meet more people and you establish like genuine relationships. Yeah. For my perspective, I actually do want to go into the corporate world. That's where you and I are different. You're a little different.

Again, that's not that I don't respect it. Exactly. It's not I don't respect it. And people when they hear that, it's like not like the social norm. And people are like, oh, this guy's trying to be rebellious, this, that. No, man, it's just not who I am. And that, and there's nothing wrong with like going to be a doctor or being a lawyer. Right.

Or being an accountant or, or any of that shit. my phone just died so the live just ended oh no worries let's keep on um but yeah so i just realized like this isn't for me and not to say that it can't be for everyone else you know you you you just do you bro like that's that's that's that's it's simple as that do whatever like you feel if you feel like bro you got to go do that to go make money and you know you want to support yourself and you get trapped dude there is nothing wrong with that you know everyone like you said everyone's got a perspective on life and how they want to go about it but as long as you are okay with the fact that you're happy with it that's it if it doesn't bring you

happiness bro it's the wrong thing if it brings you happiness it's the right thing tell me what you think about this tell me this is not anything that I searched up it was just something that I came up with and I want to know your perspective okay the doors of the stepping stones the climb is the process and the end result is when you choose I'm glad you brought that up climbing because I do agree with it and I don't agree with it all right so in terms of the doors or the stepping stones I agree with that because I wouldn't say they are the stepping stones But I think they come along with the stepping stones as you like kind of what you were just saying

You know as you go through and you make these decisions in life There's always going to be doors in front of you to open to see you know and sometimes you can open the door and realize Okay, no, that's not what I do and you close that one. You open another one thing. So I think they're part of the stepping stone the climb is the climb is the process Right. But it will take that climb for granted, right? It climb is a process and one thing I like to say too Exactly. They do we'll go right back to but one thing I think Two is the climb is not only the process, but it's also the destination you know because we're always striving for this quote unquote destination right and that's where we'll be happy where we want to be comfortable right and that's fine you want to strive towards that goal

but doesn't mean that just because you get to that goal that's where the happiness is you know because it's going to be tough to get to where you want to because it wants to test you to see what you want but you got to understand too like enjoy the whole journey like and that's what you're saying like people don't like to climb people don't like it it's kind of part of what it is like it's like Like think about climbing a mountain. It ain't easy. And think about like maybe school, you know? Yeah. School, we work so hard to get this degree.

You got your degree. I got mine. Exactly. Finishing up mine a couple weeks. But my good friend, Christy brought up to me today like, oh, you know, are you going to be okay once school is over? And, you know, I had to think about that for a second. Dude, when I'm starting to realize, I'm starting to realize, man, you know, I'm not going to see these people ever. Maybe not ever again.

Maybe some of them will keep in touch. Run into them here and there. Right. But now is when real life starts. Now is when the career starts. You know, so it's... For one thing, too,

if you've realized, like, life's all about phases. Yeah. Think about, like, the circles of people that you've been around,

like, how your life was going, how you're feeling. Like, it's always... Life's always moving and it's always up and down, but it's always moving.

And it's just like how you choose to perceive the whole concept of life. Like, if you want to choose to perceive it as like, this is a struggle point. Like, it'll be a struggle point.

You're like, if you want to choose this, it's like, this is an adventurous part of my life. It's going to be an adventurous part of your life. Just how you choose to see it, dude. Sounds good. Yo, Andre, you killed that perspective. Awesome. Okay. This is our fourth perspective or ideal.

And in light of recent events, we really want to talk about this one. This one, we highlighted as communicate and learn about mental health. Okay. I'm going to be completely real. Since this is a Drenkilo podcast and it's super chill, I'm going to tell you I have, I have anxiety. I have anxiety. I think it's like over 60% of American suffer from anxiety. A bunch of people suffer from anxiety. The problem is talking about it. If you talk about it and you understand that other people are going to the same thing you are, you guys can connect on another level. Share your stories. It's okay. And you have to know that you're not alone.

Yeah. You know, for guys, we think about. I think we think about mental health and having it as, oh, not being macho. Like a macho quality is being, you know, stripped from us. But I think, you know, it's more mature to talk about it and to have people recognize that it is a problem and it does exist and to bring people together like that. For me, Andre, my mental and physical health is like your top priority. And it should be. I mean, dude, you don't have your health. You don't have your life.

Exactly. You need to take care of yourself first. It's mental and it's physical because, you know, the mental part's not there. The physical part could be there, bro, but your inside is just driving you crazy all the time. But then, you know, your mental could be well, but then you're not physically healthy. Like you're just not eating well. You're not exercising. And then like, you know, physical conditions rise up and things happen.

When it comes to me, I suffer from the anxiety that I can go around in circles. Yeah, of course. About one subject, man, one subject. Like that. And I'm not going to lie to you. That happened to me very recently. And it was. happened to me recently too months and months on that same specific topic and you're just stuck it's like

you're glued to the floor and people recognize that i was glued on that topic because i would talk about it with them it was my way of coping but at the end of the day at the end of the day as well like it was so bundled up inside you it was just like naturally coming out kind of thing yeah yeah and people were like oh this topic again oh this topic again you know it was just my mind going in circles but when you know i'm glad to say that when i found tranquil part of this movement really helped me out with that like look i mean a lot of people open your eyes a lot of people have even reached out to me with the same thing saying like dude like it gets me through the day sometimes like sometimes i'm just like having a bad day and like

just like it reminds me like yo just stay tranquil like it's gonna be okay kind of thing because it is it's it always is but just don't let it like affect your head and that's what the mental aspect of it comes in because you have a you have a chaos in your head where you're going to have chaos in your life i think of a bit of communicating about mental health as a two-way street. If you have mental health, don't be scared to reach out. And if you don't have mental health, you know, don't be all macho, whatever. Like, educate yourself. Like, talk about it with people who, who have reached out to you, you know, like, if they seem educated about it, like ask questions. Exactly. And one thing specifically I wanted to kind of highlight is September is a lot of a,

is a month about suicide prevention. I want to bring up, a few weeks back. A few weeks back. There was a suicide prevention day. I can't remember you the exact day, but the week was September 9th through the 15th, 2018. It was National Suicide Prevention Week. Obviously, we know about young guys, young girls, like left and right. I'm starting a walk in January. Okay. That's in support of all this.

I'm going with you, too. This is amazing. It's amazing. It's with Virginia Key Beach. I'm going to get licensing and shit like that. So, I mean, you know, all the names, Mac Miller. Yeah, I mean, it's. I mean, Kate Spade was another one as well.

I have a friend that literally told me yesterday that, you know, so a 20 year old, 20 year old kid, you know, just decided to end his life. And it's, your life is just beginning, you know. So it's something that needs to be talked about. And before we kind of finish off here, like, I want to really emphasize what you kind of just said, a 20 year old, 20, just decided that, you know what? The best option is just me ending my life. I have no idea what was going through that kid's mind. You haven't started your career, 20. You haven't started really no.

What I want to say is like, you can't, can't, can't take the problems and your thoughts and your mind so serious because the moment you get stuck there, bro, it's game over for some people. Circle. That circle. It's exactly what it is. And you can't dwell on it. You can't sit on it. When you do, just go find something positive, bro.

Fill yourself with damn positivity, bro, because that will start to shift. it you know stop looking so much at the negative and just look to look at the positive look to look at the positive because it's going to bring that out of you man it's going to bring positive people to you and the positive energy that shit that shit's powerful and it can it can get suck you in man and that kid god bless his soul man like that doesn't no one deserves to do that and we should have that much of an appreciation for life that people don't realize like they have to do that you know life should be that valuable to you that you don't feel like you need to do that and that's that's what I really want to emphasize, man.

Because that, that's, sucks. It sucks. I'm glad we touched on that, man. That's something I'm very important. Okay. This one I know you get a love for it. Go for it. Just go for it.

Just do it, man. I was actually telling you to go for it, like to start it off. But, you know, just go for it. Yeah. But that's exactly what it is. So I think this has exactly to do everything with Tranquilo. Because you just went for it. You went, we went for it probably with adversity.

right not everyone was on board with you doing this oh no of course you just went for it because this is what you're passionate about what you i knew man it took me like obviously like some soul searching and figuring out what i wanted to do with my life and again i really wanted to like reiterate the message of you know just go out there and don't like get worked up over things like go out there and go and enjoy your life like that's it because i've seen it in my life and how it drove me crazy of course with all the problems that i've had in my life and i just realized like my life is a lot more enjoyable kind of like when i just decide to look at the positive side of things instead of so much of the negative side of things on your on your first podcast like for example did you

feel almost out-of-body experience like finally i'm getting this i'm getting the ball rolling like to be honest or was it before that like because people have asked me that before and like when i was on the radio not too long ago too it's always felt so natural bro like like that's the best if i could put it anyway man it's it's it's it's always felt so much the moment i got behind the mic bro like my voice didn't really throw me off that much like where i was like eh right right a lot of people don't like hearing the sound in their own no and i get it it is weird it's weird but like it wasn't like i didn't say like yo i don't like my voice like i can't do this i can't put this out like it always just clicked with me like yo this is cool this is what i like using my voice i like

talking to people i like connecting with people so like you're influencing and you're inspiring Exactly. And like now I've listened to podcast my whole life and I'm like, you know what? This is like a good step to do. And just the amount of hype that has gotten behind it in such a short period of time, no like shows me like, yo, this was a great decision to kind of do. And like I said, it's connected me with so many people. There you go. From my perspective, I just think of just go for it as, you know, what do you have to lose? You know? Again, life's short, bro. You don't know when the next opportunity is going to come. You don't know when the next door is going to open. So if it's there, bro, and you feel like doing it, go do it. Don't be scared of, like, rejection or failure. Like, none of that exists. And applies to the younger crowd, too. Like, you know, maybe when people are going away for school. You said you like Florida State, by the way. Did you go to Florida State?

I did for a semester, yeah. For a semester. Yeah. But then that's like when my parents were, like, getting divorced and all that. So I came back down to, like, be here with my mom. But my plan was to graduate from FSU. Gosh. So we're rivals, bro.

What are we even doing talking to each other? I don't know. What's wrong on your team right now, homie? What's wrong with FSU? I don't even want to talk about them. They are awful. No, no, no, it's okay, man. I'm just playing with you.

No, I needed to slip that in there. I have that sports podcast too that I do with my boy. Yeah. And like, I, I've rejected talking. Everyone's blame me your coach. And I agree with it. Yeah, it is. But I've rejected him in that stories for like the last two weeks.

So hopefully, you know, we turn it around next week against Louisville. And, yeah, you know, for our listeners as well, just going for a, it can apply to the dating world as well. You know, sometimes you just. gotta take that leap and you know see where it goes i mean my one of my first girlfriends i was with her for three years and i just went for it you know we we met on a cruise ship and she's gonna be laughing if she's hearing this but this is funny i might as well tell you guys a good story whatever um again just go for it i'm just going um you know i was doing loser laps you know in the cruise ship right you know i was with my brother and stuff but my brother was in a relationship at the time so he

Okay. The girlfriend wasn't on this ship, so he's being, oh, you know, I'm not going to help you kind of thing. Right. So I'm doing loser laps and I see these two girls like kind of like in the lobby area, you know, on a counter, like just standing on a, like standing, leaning against the counter. And I'm like, you know what, Chris, you can keep on doing loser laps around this cruise ship. Or you can go talk to them.

Or you can just go for it, you know, like have some guts and just go talk to them. And then one of those girls ended up being my girlfriend for the next three years. Look at that. And a cruise ship of all things. In the middle of the ocean. In the middle of the ocean. How romantic, right? That's crazy.

And anyways, you know, this can also apply to our work life. Just go for it. You know, asking for promotion, interviewing, recruiting, dude. And accounting. Even just asking, like, not even asking for motion, but like, what can you, like, open your mouth. Like you say, what can I do better so I can get a better position so I get more money? So you're not just flatlined, you know? Exactly.

Never flatline, man. Exactly. There's a reason why death is represented as a flatline. There's no progression. Exactly. And yeah, I mean, for me, the accounting world, we do a lot of recruiting, bro. We do a lot of recruiting, and that's part of a struggle because you get to see, like, you know, from what I've seen, a lot of accounting personalities, they're a little bit.

They have trouble, like, reaching out, like talking and recruiting. So it's out of their element. But it's a struggle, but it's positive as well because it influences us as business. For me, in terms of what just go for it is, it's just like take risk and just don't be scared of the outcome. Like, the outcome hasn't even arrived and you're already worrying about that. Like, if you want to go do it in that moment, just freaking go do it, bro. That's a simple way, but like, again, we're already thinking ahead. We're building that anxiety in us.

We're building that pressure of like, oh, no, I can't do that. Like, I'm going to get rejected. Or, you know, I can't do that. Like, I'm not going to get the job. Like, you put that negativity in your head because you're building a fake scenario. And then what happens? Exactly that. Because you said that that was going to happen.

you told yourself that was going to happen instead of just going for it and just not thinking about it just be yourself exactly bro in baseball you hit 300 average you're a hall of fame bro dude one for three that's it for you up until what point did you play so it's so senior year i wanted to go play college i tried to get back into it you get offers i got like small school offers like d2 school offers from like little showcases that i did um and then one like d1 Alabama state school that like asked me to come but that's ironic that you bring that up because i i wanted to try out for that team for the baseball team really but i went in exactly what you were saying yeah that mentality that was a tough struggle for me from freshman his senior years but i started off with webball right yeah webball and then

like one year you know make a team then one year not and playing under and oh it was always like roller coaster yeah exactly what life's all about i feel you and then the last one right life gives you jewel moments jewel moments jewel moments recognize when they happen uh 2015 and 2018 gave me my two beautiful nieces bro i have two nieces that are that are in my world um one of them so funny like i got to show you a a video of her like after this is over but it's basically like my sister recording her and then you know the first thing out of her mouth that she goes i farted you know like the simple things the cutest little thing Simple thing.

And it's funny to see how life goes in a circle, you know, because she just started off in St. Agatha where all of us started off, you know. And it's crazy. Like we're going to this phase of life. We're now, we're the ones in charge. We're the ones like taking care of, you know, the youngings and wanting for them to be, you know, good and responsible and great people, you know. So we have to be models for them. So it's true. That was a dual moment.

you know, holding my niece the first one for the first time and the second one. That's good that you're actually able to recognize that because like, you know, now I'm thinking and I'm like, what are like my quote unquote like jewel moments, like my precious moments in my life so far? A lot of it is family related, you know? Yeah, most of it is because that's your core, bro. That's who you are. That's where you're from.

But I mean, that's good. Like people should be able to like kind of look back and like, damn, what are some precious moments in my life? Yeah. Well, where have good things come about from? I'm like, and it makes you realize what's real in your life and what's not. Yeah, of course. That's good.

I like that. And then another one was my best friend, sent me a text. He actually went to Columbus as well, AJ Cardoso. Oh. He got married. Yes, that's right. And he sent me a text saying, like, look, man, like, I'm going to ask, you know, my girlfriend to marry me tonight. I want you guys to be with me while it happens.

And I'm like, you know what? I'm going to remember this moment for the rest of my life. This kid has been with it for a while too. He's been with it for a while too. He's been with him for a while. Dude, I don't know if you, if you ever experienced this,

but, you know, maybe some of the listeners know what I'm talking about. But do you ever have, like, those glimpses and those moments when you were younger

that you still have, like stored in your head? I remember the first time I ever met that kid, ever met agent. I remember my boy, Matt Diaz. And you know,

met him from baseball, bro. And the reason we met was not because of baseball. Right. Because we were on the baseball field. Matt Diaz? ACC? Yes.

Oh, I know who he is. Yeah, I've known that kid since I was four years old. Nice. And the reason I know him is because of the watch. The watch? His watch that he was wearing. Oh, okay. That's so funny because I'm like, yo, I like your watch.

I like your watch. And he's like, thanks, dude. And then like, we just started talking, bro. And then my dad and his dad became boys. And we've been boys ever since legit then. Bro, we've been on every baseball team together growing up. Like, it was crazy. The way I remember getting to be friends with AJ was,

I was like, hey, like, do you want to bowl together? And we were getting the pins and the little, like, you know, plastic bowling ball. And it was so fun, you know. So those are dual moments. Those are. Those really are. The first friend you ever make, man. That's awesome.

And then going from the first friend you ever make to, you know, for you, whenever this guy is going to get married, I'm sure it's going to be a great moment for you as well. Yeah, dude. That's one thing I am looking forward to because, like, we're getting into the chapter of my life. And I mean, I'm definitely not even, like, considering that. I'm not even trying to get it. No, no, no, no. I'm in the same. But it's definitely, like, something that I know, like, it'll be special moments in all.

It's in the horizon. Yeah, in all of our friends' lives and how it really, again, it starts a whole new chapter of our life. And when we kind of get to, like, do that journey together, I think is awesome, man. Like, sharing, sharing that. Sharing that is a cool experience. So, yeah, man, that's, those are our take and the six perspectives from 23-year-olds, by the way. 23 you know tell us what you think um have some feedback leave us some feedback you know um dude it was a great process to be here by the way i haven't spoken to you in a bit but i'm so glad to be reconnected

i know i want to be part of this movement anyway you let me know um appreciate that like crazy for you guys if you guys need anything at all my instagram is at chris calderian c-a-l-d-e-r-r-n i wanted to shout out a couple people before we like close this thing up of course go There's a small business that just started. It's called Sun Runners Miami. And they're basically Miami-based women's clothing store, and they promote like no body shaming, you know. So they sell dresses, rompers, bikinis,

and like, you know, just like a bunch of beachwear, I guess you can say, yeah. That's cool. And then I want to tell you guys, you know, do you guys want to bring back Woodstock? Because I really want to bring back one. I read an article about that really. I'm sure they'll be popular out there like now. And then there's some people would be like, hell yeah.

I want you guys to do me a favor and do us a favor. If you search up on YouTube, Greta Van Fleet, there is an episode where they're on Jimmy Fallon. Oh, wow. They're like a new group, Greta Van Fleet, and they play this song, I'm going to put it on YouTube right now because I have the link. They play this song when the curtain falls. And if you just search up Greta Van Fleet,

you're going to see a bunch of 20 to 22-year-olds, like rock stuff. Like decked out like they were back in the 70s and they sound so much like Led Zeppelin. I want to bring this back so much, especially since your platform is like mostly like people are age. Yeah, yeah. To see, hey, you know, we can bring back Woodstock, you know. We could bring that back to life 100%. And let's then let's try it out, you know, because it's a part of the Tranquilo movement, you know. Be open minded to things, you know, like not everything is just one genre.

No, let's not just stick to mumble rap all the time. Let's understand what else is out there. Yes, exactly. It doesn't have to be for everyone again at the end of day, but it's, you know, expand, expand, yeah. So it's called Greta Van Fleet, when the curtain falls. You guys can look at the Jimmy Fallon episode. It's amazing.

Yeah, we'll check it out. So, yeah, man, thanks for being here. No problem, man. Again, guys, make sure to subscribe to the podcast. Leave a review, do whatever you got to do. And if you don't follow us already, follow us on Instagram, at tranquil.0, that's a, at T-R-A-N-Q-U-I-L. All right, so give us a follow.

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