Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 050 - Dizzy Daisy Can Hear her Guy Having Sex with Other Women

Episode Date: November 30, 2014

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With real problem. Does your friend know that you're banging her? No, he has no idea. And anything goes. Motto of the show, let your Greek flag lie. Probably the only good advice I'll ever give you is to re-hide your whips and change. Here are your hosts, Kathy Kay and Tommy. Hey, welcome to Strictly Learning's podcast with Kathy.

I'm taping my intro today before I do the call, because right after I'm done with the call, I have to get out. I have to go out. So I'm doing the intro before, so I don't know what goes on, but what I do know is I have a female today, and her name is Dizzy Daisy. That's what she calls herself. I love that name. People always use lame names lately. Like all the guys is just like Joe and Jim and Bill and Will Smith, you know, it's just like, I love Dizzy Daisy. Dizzy Daisy is dating a guy who lives in her building.

This is her issue. I don't know how Dizzy Dizzy Daly. Where did I really want to know the most about Dizzy Daisy is how she found me on Craigslist. I'm always, I mean, all the other women I've had on the show, I only had one woman from Craigslist and it was because she was on there spying and trying to find her cheating boyfriend's ads. But I've never had a woman who's like on there looking for dudes, you know? or women or whatever. I don't know, prostitutes. I don't know what you're on Craigslist for.

You know, I get with the guys, but females. So she found me from Craigslist, though, she says. And her deal is she's dating a guy in her building. And he fucks around. She lives in a small building. She could hear everything. He fucks around with other women, and she hears it all the time.

She hears him having sex with other woman. But he claims that he's exclusive with her. And she doesn't know. She didn't really explain, like, what the advice is. It just seems like she's sort of in, this issue and she doesn't know how to deal. So that's her deal, Dizzy Daisy. She's older. She's like 50,

I think, and he's like 39 or something like that. I don't know. There's an age difference. He's a younger man. That's a big thing nowadays. It's just kind of normal. I don't know why people have such a big problem with it. It's like, you know, much more accepted. I've had my share of younger

guys, only like two. And it's not really for me, like long term or something because, or like to actually date but you know for a booty color whatever it's totally fine for me it's hard to accept the age difference and take it very seriously but um i get that other women do it's totally fine i'm all for it you know men date younger women women date older men either but i prefer people around my age range i don't know there's something to me uh like what i like the best is when i see a couple and

they're like age appropriate but i think it's great when women date really young because guys been doing it forever so whatever. I just what I really hate is when you know people look at a relationship between an older woman and a younger guy and they're like oh look they didn't last like that's because he's younger like no younger guy is ever going to stay with older women it's like every relationship

doesn't last do I mean relationships between people the same age don't last relationships with people that are the guys old and the woman's younger don't last like relationships just don't last longer than seven like Seve Moore stayed with that Ashen coacher for seven years that's a long time so what they broke up and he

went with someone younger. Big deal. If he broke up and they were the same age, he would have for somebody younger anyway, probably, or someone older, who cares? It says it didn't have to do with the ages. The most things end. Seven years is a long time. So I don't, I think that that's bullshit. I think if you find somebody and you really like them, date them for as long as you can and then call it a day. And don't think it's because of the age difference. I mean, maybe it is, but there's always something. There's got to be something. There's always going to be something. So whatever. So that's my little thing. I'm just trying to, you know, I think I'm getting better talking to the air.

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Yeah. Okay, that's what you're, and you're on air right now with me, Kathy. My name's Kathy. I'm the host of the show. And I typically read the emails that people send in before the call. So I've explained to the callers what you're calling in about. You're calling in because you have a guy in your building. You live in an apartment building who you're dating that you like.

and you believe you hear him having sex with other women? Or you've actually, you know, for a fact, he's having sex with other women, but he won't admit it. That's the problem, right? Right. We started off dating, well, we met each other, and we were friends at first, and then we began to become romantic with each other.

And in the beginning, he did tell me that he's wanting exclusivity because before I'm with anyone I have to make sure that there's exclusivity in the relationship and he told me he's exclusive he wants something

like that in his life that he is and so then we got to know each other more a little romantic and then well I found out he was just saying that because it's so easy in the building to see what everyone is doing because it's a small building.

So I would see him walking with girls or girls going in and out of the building. Oh, my God. Torchard. Or I would hear them together or walking in the hallway or, you know, it was like very obvious. And he lied to me in the beginning. He lied. I know. But I think that that's, you know, unfortunately.

I think a lot of guys wouldn't call it lying, but they do do that in the beginning. They'll all tell you, I mean, they'll all tell you they're looking for a relationship. What are they going to be like, no? I mean, once in a while you find a really honest one that'll tell you that's straight up before they get you in the sack. But most of the time shortly after they nail you, then the truth comes out. But before that, you know, they're all going to say, I think that that's what they say, just so that, you know, you sleep with them.

It sounds sad, but I think it's true. What are you supposed to do then to know that they're not lying? Well, listen, what's the worst thing? You're going to sleep with someone anyway. You want to sleep with them. I personally think as a woman, we want to sleep with the man as much as the man wants to sleep with us. I mean, that's a part of a relationship. I think it's like, you know, you're going to go there anyway, and you have to.

And you can't wait until you know for sure you want to be together because that would be a really long time. Because I think it takes a couple months when you're with somebody to figure. out whether you want to be with that person or not. And what are you going to do, wait a couple months before you sleep with somebody? I think a part of figuring out whether you like somebody or you want to be with them is to see what the sex is life. I'm not saying you should sleep with someone immediately, but I think that, you know, you know, you're going to wind up in this day and age being intimate with a guy before you have exclusivity is what, like what you call it. I personally think that. I know that Patty Stanger, millionaire matchmaker would say something different. No

sex before monogamy or whatever the fuck that is but you know look your guy lied to you that's why you gave it up and now you're still with him right you still like him like him like you're being tortured by him and you still like him so did that like you're still you you did screw him before exclusivity what's that noise in the background i don't hear any noise so um so i think that you know you wound up like so if a guy thinks that that's what he needs to say to get you in the sack and that's the hurdle he'll say it and you believed him right Well, the thing is we knew each other about, you know, we knew each, it wasn't like I stopped with them right away.

I mean, we met each other. And I feel like after this I did learn that I did learn something that I realized that if a guy is going to leave you, they're going to leave you whether they sleep with you or not. So you do have to wait a long time, like a month or two. Like, I will do that the next time now because I don't. learned my lesson that, you know, it's it, you, you, time will tell. Like the truth comes out. Wait, wait, you'll wait a month or two months to sleep with him?

Or you'll wait a month or two after you sleep with him to see whether he wants to be exclusive with you? No, I would wait a month or two after this to think with the guy to make sure he's being real with me. Okay, but this is the deal. You said that in your email, too, you told me, I always asked for ages and like, I try to get some demographics on people. He's younger than you.

You're 50. He's, what, 39? No, I'm 48. And he's 40. Okay, so he's right. So he's younger than you, right? Right. Oh, no, I'm sorry.

He's, what am I saying? He's 42. I'm 48. Are you positive? He's 42? Okay, I think you put in your... Yeah, yeah, he's 40. No, no.

Seriously, he's 42. Yeah. He's 42. and you're 48. And so you want to wait. It's an age difference. Okay, but this is my point. I just wanted to,

that doesn't really make that big of a difference to me personally, like, you know, the age difference, whatever. Because I think if he was like 25 or 30 and you said that he was married and had kids, so he's like, he's not looking at some, listen, there are some guys that have been single their whole life or they were recently divorced and they don't have any kids or anything. And maybe at 42, they're still looking to start a family.

But if he's a guy that has all that stuff already then who cares if he's that age he's not looking for that you're probably in the same place as him in life anyway so i don't think that the age he's actually more mature than me because he's been there he was married for so many years yeah no offense you sound like you're 12 like the way you talk and your name daisy what did we call you dizzy daisy you sound very um naive for your age and but this is my point about the month to a month and a half thing like a month and a month and a half is very different depending on like your schedule and stuff some people like want to like some guys that you meet like want to see you all the time and you see them a lot some

guys want to see you like once a week some guys want to see once every two weeks like so a month and a half what do you mean by that do you mean you could see someone like all the time in a month and a half and you're still not going to sleep with them or do you mean like four dates in a month and a half and then you'll sleep with them no I mean that the longevity it's not just going out it's are they calling are they being attentive are they being you know a gentleman you know okay was he doing all that he means You know, all those things? Was he doing all that?

In the very beginning, yes, he did. And then I think what happened is I was, I really did prolong. I didn't sleep with them for a while. I did wait, okay? Right, but my whole point to you though is that, right? Sorry, go on. I did wait. What I did, what I do for what happened is there was an X that came back into his life

during that time while I was, we were together and we're romantic. I mean, kissing and, you know, holding hands and like snuggling and things like that. It wasn't like we weren't being affectionate with each other. We were. And there was a girl, I think, that came back into his life and ex. And I'm not saying it was all because of her because I think either he's interested in me or he's not. I just think she came back into the picture and then he started distancing himself from me. and I was like, what's going on?

And I already started liking him so much. And, you know, and then so I started, you know, probably I started probably going after him where then he started going after me after that. And then the girl was coming around. And you would see her because you live in the same building. Right. Did you confront him? And he told me, oh, it's just a girl she comes over and she's a maid.

She cleans my apartment. And that's what he told me. And so, okay, and so I believed it for a while until I did hear them because I was, okay, maybe, okay, you like someone. Of course, I wasn't stalking him. I was spying a little bit, but I wasn't spying because it was so loud. I could hear him being with her romantically. And so actually people can hear in the building. It's a very not soundproof building.

So you can hear if your next door neighbor sneezes, sometimes you can hear it. So you heard him having sex. When you say romantically, you heard him having sex with his maid. He tells you it's his maid. Right. And so, and then. Did you confront him?

and I actually went up when I did hear it and after she left and I knocked at the door and he got very angry at me and then he didn't want to talk to me after that. Okay. Is that when he started? And we did sleep together about maybe because I kept seeing him pulling away and I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't want to lose this guy. So then I became romantic with him, which where I did learn a lesson that when a guy does that, then I need to like. pull away too I shouldn't like chase some thing that I could be romantic with him and that would win him over it doesn't I think that that doesn't matter either the guy really likes you or he doesn't and it doesn't matter about anything else I could be wrong right but didn't you like I mean

listen I don't think that when women talk like the way you're talking sometimes it irritates me because I'm a woman too and it's just like it's as if you're like acting as if you don't want sex too didn't you want to like don't you have chemistry with him and didn't you want to sleep with him too like I mean did you just do it? Right. So the sex thing doesn't make a difference. I did sleep with him. I think we slept together like a few times. Right.

So I don't think that that makes a big difference. But I think the girl came back in between that time, she came back. Right. And I was trying to win him over. Right. With the sex. And if I were stuck with him in the beginning, who knows, maybe that would have been a good thing. And maybe not.

But I think it wouldn't. The minute I found this out, but then I always. already slept with him and I think once you sleep with the guy that's it like you you have to know what you're doing I should have just have been more I shouldn't have thought that having sex with him would win him over like that was stupid of me to think that right so you thought oh he's being more distant if I just bang him really good he'll like me more and then you wind up I I mean I would word it in a different way, I mean, because I was in love with, I feel, I don't know, love, like, like if it's like forever love, but maybe a type of infatuation love for this guy.

So I wouldn't call it bad. I would say like it was more romantic more than just sex, you know what I mean. Right, but that's a part of it. I'm just saying that you thought if you gave him good sex that he wouldn't leave him. Right. Then he would, it would win him over, which was stupid at me to think that. And I will never, I've learned my lesson. That's how I learned my lesson.

Right, but I don't think whether you, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't sleep with guys. Like, you should sleep with them, not because they, you want to win them over. You should sleep with them because you want to sleep with them and when you feel that it's right to sleep with them. And, you know,

that typically happens within the first month, right? I mean, normally after you feel comfortable with somebody, if that chemistry builds up, it's just natural that you wind up sleeping with somebody. I think some people that drink a lot, are you, like, do you, does he drink? Do you drink? Do you guys drink together?

No, I'll have, I'm not a big drinker, so I have a glass of wine or he has a couple of glasses of wine. Right. See, I don't drink, so it takes me more. Nothing like that. Right. No, because I think a lot of people, when you're drunk or you drink, a lot of people do, I think people have sex quicker on alcohol because it tends to loosen up your inhibitions

and people get closer because, you know, everything just comes out. So that, it's just speeds up the process. But I don't drink, but I typically, I mean, I can't wait months and months before. I sleep with somebody. I'll wait a couple times just so I feel comfortable that I know I want to like somebody. But I don't think when you sleep with someone could make or break that relationship. I think if you're going to be in a relationship with someone, you both really like each other, it's just going to work.

All the stars have to align differently. But did he start distancing? I mean, you went up to his house and literally knocked on his door after he had said. Yeah, after the girl left. And what did you say to him? And he just, he wouldn't answer the door. and then he was really, he looked at the people, he knew it was me, but he wouldn't answer the door. And then he, and then we had some text conversations that were like very, you know, you know, like, you know, like, you know, angry like it was over.

It's just difficult to end a relationship with someone who lives in your building when it's a small building, not like a huge, big apartment complex, a small building. it's very difficult to end a relationship. And I warn everyone listening, never be with anyone. If you're in a small building. No, I know. I had a guy. It's like working. It's like if you're at work with someone, I guess it would be a similar situation, you know.

Yeah, because if you break up, I had a guy that I met at my gym who I slept with, and he wound up moving into a building that was literally, if I looked out of my apartment window, I could look directly into his bathroom and his kitchen window. Yeah, and it didn't, it was bad because how do you not look? You know what I mean? It's like you heard that guy having sex with another girl. I would never go up to the door and start banging. He might have been a little bit afraid.

Like, I mean, did he dump you? Like, you guys, like, you guys still see each other after that incident? Oh, well, that's a long story kind of after. I mean, I can tell you about it. But just to go back, I mean, what happened with the guy across the street? Would you, like, watch him being with girls? I would watch those lights go on and off. You know what I used it for after?

we broke up. No, he was a pretty, even though he was way younger than me and we were just sort of booty-calling each other. He wasn't like a roam-around kind of guy anyway. What I used the light for was after we broke up, I didn't want to see him at the gym. And it was weird because I was like, if you went to my gym, you would know that this girl comes to the gym every day at the same time. I'm very sort of regimented like that. And what happened is after we broke up, I went to the gym the minute his light turned on because I knew that he got back from the gym. So he never saw me at the gym until like a couple months later he texted me like, what the fuck happened to you? You know, because I, timed it with the light. So I used his lights for that reason. It actually helped me in the end.

But it was torture. It was, it wasn't good, you know, because there's something about like even social media, I think social media does this too. When you could see people and I don't know if it's the same thing when you hear him walking in his house or you see him out the window, you almost feel closer to the person because you're seeing them and you're seeing what's going on in their life. So you tend to think that you're interacting more with people when you're really not. And so I think that people linger in their minds about people that they've dated for way longer because all these weird things that go on social media. And if somebody lives in your apartment or their fucking light is outside yours, it's like a mind fuck. You know what I mean?

Back in the good old days, I mean, you remember these days because you said you're 48, you know, we didn't have any of that stuff. So when you broke up with somebody and if they didn't live in your apartment or out your window, you just, you know, eventually you stopped thinking about them because there was nothing feeding that memory anymore. Do you know what I mean? It just went away. Yeah. So how the fuck do you get over people now? It's like terrible. So I feel your pain and it is really hard. And if you could hear him having sex with other women. And so did he deny that he was having sex with her or did he admit it? Well, he wouldn't talk to me after that for a really long time. Well, I think any guy listening to me.

I'd be walking up the street He'd be walking up the street He'd act like I wasn't even there Okay, but let me ask you this When you went up to his door Were you like banging on it? Like, and he didn't answer Like, did you just leave when you

When he was... I laughed and then maybe I sat And then I went back I heard him doing the dishes I knocked again It rang the kettle I mean you know that you were A couple of times I did that

Okay, so you were out of control So you were a little You showed a little crazy And I mean, I understand. Well, he did tell me the reason is, and I do, I do take personal responsibility. You know, and like I said, we talked about in the very beginning of your podcast is that, you know, he, I, we had a conversation about being exclusive in our relationship. Right. So you felt like he was cheating on you.

It was devastating. Yeah. And it was, you know, it was devastating. Yeah. Okay. How long, how many dates into it did he tell you that he wanted to be exclusive? well before you know I become more intimate no forget about this I know you use it as the marker for everything sex is like the end

all deal for you but forget about that I'm talking about how many times that you went out with him as like you know not as friends as people that were like you know being romantic with each other not sex but just like on a date how many times into it did he say I want to be I'm interested in being exclusive when I brought up the conversation not when he brought it up by the way. Right. So when did you bring it up? Maybe after about

maybe five days, seven dates. Okay. So you brought that up after you were with each other. And was he trying to have sex to all those times, those seven times you were out with him?

Yeah. Well, you know, we would, you know, yeah, like we would cuddle and kiss and hug and like, you know, Yeah, have you dated a lot in your life? Have you ever been married? No. Okay.

And any kids? No kids. Okay. So you're 48, never been married. Have you dated a lot? Like, what was your longest relationship you ever had? I was engaged. Okay.

How long was that relationship for? We were engaged for about three years, three and a half years. We weren't engaged the entire time. We got engaged after two years. of dating. So you were with them for five years? No, we were together two years and then we were engaged for about a year and a half after. Okay, and why didn't you get married? What ended that? It just, I don't, we both realized we weren't for each other that it wasn't the right relationship to take it any further to get married. So I know that some people want to try and say that like

nothing really happened and it was just easy, but like there had to been something specific, kind of that change your mind like to go from I'm going to marry this guy to I don't want to be with him anymore. Well, there is a few different turn of events. And also he wanted to live in a certain area where I just didn't want to live there. That was actually a really big thing too. And I was wanting to live in a different area than he was. And he wasn't wanting to change or grow. Right.

Anyway, so, and then he got into some weird, which I won't say in details, and weird sex things, and I just said that's not for me. Like, I just, right, right, that's what it is. And it was never happened before, okay? It just, I don't know if he became with a, started being with a different group of people or had some friends that got him involved. I don't know exactly what it was. Right, you dated him for three and a half years. It's not for me. Right.

I don't, like that is not. And then that was like the big deal, like for me, the big deal. That was it. That was the deal. Was it just like he just wanted to do anal or something? Like do a little bit more interesting? No, nothing like nothing. I won't even go into detail about it.

No, that's fine. I really don't. But it was just weird. Like with, I don't know what he was in new group stuff or whatever. I don't know. I never went there. I'm like, don't. I don't even want to even go there.

It's over. Right. I hear you. Like with me back and I'm sorry. and... No, no, no, no, that's what I was trying to say that. Like, I knew it was something. But I never wanted to think with them after that.

Like, I just never wanted to think of them after that. Right. So you didn't want to... So that's why you broke up the engagement. And it was also, before that happened, though, it was, you know, it was kind of like, it was just kind of like we were, like,

mutual in a way because, not necessarily mutual, because I'm going to broke up. It's just, you know, I think he was just seeing me grow away from it. Maybe he got scared. That's why he started. I don't know if that's why he got into that because he saw me pulling away from him.

I don't know. I'm not putting the blame on me. He's got to take his own responsibility. It was just a total turn-up. Like that is, I'm so far away from that kind of behavior than if a guy ever shows that. It's like so disgusting stick to me. Like I just like, it was over. And he tried to win me back after that.

And I'm like, no, not going back with you. Okay. So, and I just asked that because, I just wanted to see your history because you see, like, after that relationship, have you had many long-term relationships with guys since this guy? I've had a few relationships since, you know, like, yeah, I've had a few relationships in. Yeah. And you've had ones that were, like, totally exclusive and monogamous? Yes, yes, yes. Well, supposedly, anyway, hopefully. the guy was without me knowing if he wasn't, supposedly we were. Right.

And now, because I typically get men calling me because I post ads on Craigslist. And those kind of people that are looking in the casual encounter list, that's who calls me. So, you know, I very rarely get women. The only other time I've had a woman on, well, I've had two. One called in through my podcast, but one was looking online to try and find information on her guy because I think he was cheating on her. How did you find me on Craigslist? Oh, I was trying to find this girl because he told me he found her on Craigslist.

So I was trying to go through Craigslist looking to see who the girl is if I could find her. Which girl? The maid girl, the girl he was sleeping with, the maid girl? The maid girl. Even though ever since the maid girl, he's with, well, now we're not together anymore. It's just ever since the maid girl. I mean, he's just been, I'm sure he was married for many years. I'm sure he's in a place he doesn't want a relationship, but he and I started talking again.

And, you know, he was in fighting me to see him and I was thinking, oh, that relationship was over. And we were getting back together. We were going out. We were doing things. And then we would start to get close again. and then all of a sudden he would just be more and more. He'd start bringing girls over after that, and then that's when he stopped being with him.

Right. After they broke up, and I thought, oh, it's changed. Now we're back together. And then we would start to get close, and then he'd bring a girl over. Right. And then there would be more girls and more girls and more girls and more girls. Even my neighbor next door even said,

and a new neighbor, I'm like, oh, don't you find our building so noisy? and he's like, oh yeah, especially the guy upstairs for me, which is that guy that I'm talking about. Even the guy up upstairs, I live in Chicago, even the guy upstairs for me, I can hear him having a lot of facts. Oh, God. So, you know, that was also like, I would never see that guy. You know, I just think that guy is just like not in a place for a relationship. And I just, you can't believe a guy's telling you. Well, what did he explain to you when you were?

guys brought, like did he, because he first said he wanted an exclusivity. Well, I guess it was when you scared him by banging on his door. He just never, you guys never had the sort of conversation that you were on a different page or anything. You just eventually started talking again. Did you ever bring up the other women? I don't exactly know what happened, how we started talking, but he just then started becoming nice again towards me, like after they broke up, after they broke up. Oh, okay. So maybe he needed a little action. No, they broke up, but I realized after that, after they had broke up, that relationship was over, and then I put two and two together and realized that they broke up. Okay, normally I ask the guy what they are on a scale of 1 to 10.

What about him? So what is he, what would you rate him on a scale of 1 to 10 as far as looks, and what would you rate yourself? I would rate him like, oh, looks, not personality. No, looks. Just look. Just looks. Like, is he a... Maybe I would rate him like... Yeah, maybe like eight and a half. And you? What do you rate yourself? Like a nine. Like a nine. Okay. So you're dating down. That's what we call it.

He's dating up. He's probably, who knows, you know, like, you know, I think. you know I would almost you know what I'd probably kick that back I'd probably say maybe you know we're both you know eight and a house you're both eight and a house so he's a good looking guy or maybe nine so we're both nine okay but anyway he's a good looking guy

right we're equal and dizzy daisy is a good looking woman right and now in Chicago I'm just telling you here in New York if a guy's a nine in this town he could definitely get laid all the time with different women it's just the way that it goes Is that the way that it is in Chicago, too, that you're saying this guy has, like, all these girls and everyone's hearing him have sex?

Like, is it with random women or is it the same woman all the time? Like, is he having relationships or is he just having one-night's stands? No, he doesn't have relationships. Like, he just, he may date one girl a few times or, you know, a month or whatever. And then I just, there's other, it's not now that I'm with him anymore. I am. I do talk, and I'm his friends. the romantic part is over between us even though we have chemistry and we both know it

it's over it's just that you know because it is a small building and you know we have access to seeing he knows what I'm doing I know what he's doing he's yeah he's with a lot of girls still and you know like there'll be one girl

maybe he'll be with you know for a month and then after that another girl. And then in between that time that he's with that girl in a month, he'll be with like five other girls, right? You know what I mean? But you said he was married? She probably thinks the girl that's with him probably like there's someone with him now, like probably thinks that he's exclusive with her, but if only she knew, you know what I mean?

Right, like he told you to your face that he was exclusive with you and then he fucked his maid. And he probably told this, you know, the new girl he's with, he's been with a few others in between. The new girl he's with now, he's probably told her. And then he... But he told you he found his maid on Craigslist? Yes, he didn't. Right.

So maybe she's the hooker. Does she look like a hooker maybe? Like, sometimes guys get prostitutes. I mean, I'm like from Craigslist. No, I don't... I don't know. Like, I can't tell you a yes or no about it. Right.

I mean, I wouldn't, I don't... I'm not getting that. You do know, Dizzy Daisy, that the... This is the deal with men. Like, I mean, you say you were engaged to a guy for a really long time. You're 48 years old. You've had other relationships. So you've had to have been around the block.

You've never been married. So you've had to have been dating all this time, right? You're not just alone. So you have to know that guys. I haven't slept with a lot of guys since, I mean, I don't sleep around a lot. So since I got engaged and it's been over. I mean, I date guys. I'm not saying you sleep around.

Just everyone. Like maybe there's two guys sitting there's three guys. Like, I don't sleep around. Okay, so you called in because you, like, what are you looking for as far as advice? Like, are you trying to get him back? Like, where are you at with your relationship with him? You guys are just friends. He's still sleeping with other people.

Like, what are you? Like, it seems like you kind of figured out this guy's not exclusive. He was very honest with you about that. Now you know. So what's your deal? You can't get over him? Is that what you're looking for? Like, what advice are you looking for?

I want to know how I can get over this guy because I still find myself liking him and drawn towards him. And I think he's not a nice person. I think he's probably maybe even, he could even be, what is that word where guys can be? It's not, what is that called? Not autistic, but us. Asperger's. Asperger sometimes because it can be like really cold and distant and stoic and I think that's what he's that he's super super smart and intelligent and brilliant and I'm very attracted to him. So you want to know how you could get over him?

I want to know I want to know I'm doing my best. If only he were living somewhere else then I wouldn't have to see him, it would be much easy. Right. Well, the only way... How should I be when I see him? How can I get over him? Should I be totally honest and tell him what a jerk? He is? Like, what do I do? Like, cut it off completely and... Okay, but... Okay, listen.

First of all, why is he such a jerk because he doesn't want a relationship? I personally think that people are allowed to not want a relationship. So it doesn't really make him a jerk, right? He kind of said, I want to be exclusive to get down your pants. Just so you know, 95 for 99% of the men are just going to say whatever they want in the moment. because that's how they feel, because whatever, and it's just not going to be the truth three days later.

That's just a fact of life, and you're going to find that when you're dating. And it doesn't make him a jerk. It just makes him a guy, okay? So, and people are allowed to not want relationships. Like, people are allowed to be in different places. And that sucks, but it's just the way that it goes. You know, you can't say that somebody's wrong for not wanting to be with you, okay? Like, you didn't want to be with the guy you were set to marry because you saw a different side of him.

So you chose not to. Does that make you a jerk? No. It just, you know, we all have free will and we're allowed. That's what dating's about. That's what those first couple months are all about. So, you know, do you want to tell him he's a jerk what for not committing to you when you want him to? Like I don't, you know, what is that going to do? To get over him, though, honestly, like as women, the way that we are wired, I think is if we even have one percent hope that there's something that's going to happen with somebody, we don't tend to let go. So it's like, and. And if that person is constantly in your life and you're seeing them, that takes a lot. It's really hard to let go of that. You know, you still see him. You said your friends with him. You still have chemistry. You probably didn't like work that all out, you know, because you didn't sleep with him that much.

You sort of, you know, he fucked his maid and then you couldn't sleep with him anymore. And so you're stuck in that thing because. Right. So sometimes been there, done that as better. And I see him all the time. Right. And it's, you know, when you could, it's easier to break up with someone when you don't talk to them or see them anymore.

Right. You see him. So you're going to stay his friend. I've done it. I've been able to stay friends with somebody and let go of them. It takes a lot longer. But I got to tell you the quick. How did you do it?

No, the quickest way, I'm going to tell you the fastest, quickest way to get over that guy and give up that 1% is to find a new one. You have to like loop. I always call it looping into a guy and looping out. You know, you're looped into this guy, obviously. And it's a mind fuck, you know, because he lives in your building. So it's really not even just on your, you know, because of it. of you. It's like, it's just circumstantial. You know what I mean? And it sucks for you. But you need to, the only way you're going to fully loop out on him is to fully loop into somebody else. You have to

fall for someone else, not just like, not just date, not just sleep with. You have to fully just start liking somebody else the way you liked him or the way you still like him. And then you'll forget about him. And then you'll be able to be friends with him. And then you'll be able to see him. That's really what we'll do it. It's literally the best cure. And the only I want you something. Yeah, sure. Can I ask you something? Sure.

For some reason, I'm really nervous. I've never had, he's never seen me with another guy. And I'm very concerned about him seeing me liking another guy and I don't know why. Well, I think it's because you. Yeah. Like, I don't want him. Like, it's almost like, like, I'm dating someone. I meet them out.

If the guy brings me home, I'm hoping he won't see the guy saying goodnight to me at the door. Right, but I'll tell you why. It's because you still have somewhere in your little brain, you probably still believe there's a chance that you guys can be together. Maybe. Oh, right. Or else you, and you think that if he sees you with another guy, that's going to ruin it. Most of the time, if he sees you with another guy, it's only going to, like, men like to have, like what they can't have. So if you see him with another, like he sees me with another guy.

It's a win-win situation. A, you have another guy and B, you're going to fucking stop liking him. But the other situation is he will maybe be like, oh, shit, you know, I think I liked her. I mean, it won't change it totally. The guy will never come back and be a different person. But for two seconds, you might get him to like rethink about it and think, you know, because that's just human nature, but it's not going to change him into wanting a relationship with you. It should never be the reason to do it.

But, you know, I get that dysfunctional loyal. I call it dysfunctional loyalty. Like I have it. Sometimes when I loop into a guy and I really like a guy, I can be dysfunctionally loyal to somebody that I'm not even in a relationship with. And I think a lot of women have that. And it's really where it comes from,

I think, deep down inside is you still have that little hope that you're going to get that guy. But you're not going to get this guy. It's over with him. So you need to get another guy. And whether he sees you or not with another guy, should it matter? You should do it for yourself.

And it really is the only. cure like it really is. I was looped into a guy recently for a long time. It was like a two year thing and it was very hard. I wasn't able to get away from him either. He didn't live in my building but we were like best friends so and I wasn't going to just stop being friends with him but I had looped into him in a different way more than friends. And really the only time I ever got over him is when I got

another guy and and then it was done like like like like like I just a fucking flip. It was like flip of a light switch. And I used to tell my friends during that time that I was so whipped to him, I like, if you would have told me there was like a pill I could have bought for $10,000 to take and be over this person, I would have bought it. You know, I would have paid that money because sometimes it's really hard to not be able to let go of somebody. But really all I needed to do was just meet somebody else like somebody else. And the minute that happened, I totally stopped liking

him and it was completely over and able to be friends with him. And everything was great. And that will happen to you. It's the only thing. You could get, really, you need another guy, especially in that situation. I don't think that you need that as women when you just break up with someone and they don't live by you or they're not your best friend. But in situations where you have to remain in contact with that person, you absolutely need another man. I think it was Betty White who said in order to get over one guy is to get under another. So you need to sleep with someone.

You need to get another guy. Well, maybe your podcast is the special appeal. hill, you know? What, me talking to you? Because that makes that, yeah, like, I feel better talking to you. I feel better, like. Right, but you need another guy, though. I want you to go, like, are you on any websites, like, dating websites?

Like, you need, maybe do that. Just go on some dates until you find, like, a really, another nine who you're really into. And who's better than him? Who doesn't have Asperger's? And maybe has more feelings or is more emotional than that. Listen, no guy's going to be, like, so I have some girlfriends. warmer like warmer yeah warmer and there are warm guys but I have some girlfriends that like you know they when they talk about what they're looking for in a guy or they complain about their guys I'm like

why don't like if you want a guy like that date a woman like men are not women men men are men so you're never going to get a guy that's like as emotional as you because you're female and he's male and you don't necessarily want that but there are men macho men alpha men hot men who are a lot more emotional and don't come off as ass burners and who could be mushy and who like all that stuff and who want relationships. And that's who you should be with if that's where you're at. But you need to fully fall. As long as your attention is even 1% looking in his direction and focused on,

you know, I mean, if you're still on Craigslist, no offense, like Googling, trying to find pictures of his maid who is like five girls. You know, he's like he's not even with her anymore.

If you're still doing that, you're definitely sort of obsessed with him and you need to let go of that. Right. Okay. Okay, so. Well, I found your podcast a while ago. I just didn't have that. I just didn't feel it was the right time to call.

Oh, okay. So you were just Googling her now. Yeah, I found you a while. Okay. And I actually know two of the people that went to call you because they are. Great. I need women. Are they women?

I need women. Women never call into my show. It's like I said I. Well, one is a gay guy and the other is a woman. Okay, awesome. So that's great. So Dizzy Daisy, you know, I love that name. I just think it's funny that you actually call yourself Dizzy Daisy

and that you chose that. I didn't get to call you Dizzy Daisy that much, which kind of sucks because I like that. It is a really good name. People come up with, I tell people you can make up any name you want. People will be like, call me Jim or Joe. And it's like, you've got to be kidding me.

Like, why you be a little bit more interesting? I love Dizzy Daisy. So thanks for calling into the show. I don't even know how I got it. It just came to me. Yeah, it's a great name. But, you know, thanks for. for calling in and good luck and let me know

if I sometimes have repeat caller so if you wind up in a new relationship with a new guy and you finally get over him you know give me a call and let me know how that goes. Oh thank you so much and I keep doing your great work. It's really helping people. Thank you. Thank you. Okay I just want to tell you

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