Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 058 - James Has a Lot of Questions About S_e_x

Episode Date: January 26, 2015

James calls in looking for some basic sex advice. He has questions about everything from how to get his ween in fully when doing it doggie style, to how position himself properly when doing it missionary style, to where is the best place is to pee on a woman, if she's into being peed on. Tune in to hear the answers to those questions as well as some tips about other things he can do to please women. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. Conversations with online strangers. We place ads online. Craigslist is definitely the gift that keeps on giving. Real people respond. You go to Singapore or Thailand. You can't not do it. The temptation is just too much.

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No more co-hosts. I was going to get a guy to actually co-host with me today because I have a guy calling in today who just wanted some, he wasn't specific, he just told me he had some questions about sex. So I thought, oh, maybe I need a guy to help me with this guy questions about sex. But I wound up doing the call by myself. I already did the call so I could tell you what that's all about. But before I get to that, if you want to follow me on Twitter, follow me.

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appropriate for a guy or it's just for a girl. Write me. I love when people write in and give me their two cents. I do have to apologize for my last podcast because I ate. I was eating something in the beginning of that last podcast and someone wrote me about it. And they, were so completely right. And you know, I edit this shit down. So I know I heard myself eating. And I didn't even reference that or apologize before. So I should apologize now. I will never do that again. I think once in early on I was chewing gum and someone wrote me a scathing email about that. This one was somebody that writes me a lot. And he was just like, well, heads up, please don't ever eat again. It was so annoying. And he's totally right. And I will never do that again. I didn't realize how

loud it was until I was actually editing it down. And it was really loud and really annoying. So there is no chewing or eating on call. On this call that I have this week, I talked to a guy named James. He's from Craigslist. He answered an ad. I got to tell you what I get from my ads. I mean, besides people that call in, I get solicited for so many things. I get pictures of people. I get invited to threesomes. I can't tell you what I have to go through to get callers. But anyway, James is just like this really young guy who's in an open relationship. And while his girl is in college, he goes on to Craigslist looking for other girls to screw. I mean, he just had some basic, he just wrote me that I have some basic questions about sex. So I had no idea he wasn't specific of what he was actually going to call

in and ask about. And what he does call in and ask about are just like regular questions about sex. And one question leads into another question. And that's what we talk about. We talk about a lot of typical, normal sort of things that happen sexually and his questions about them from missionary style to how do you fuck a girl in the, not in the ass, doggy style. He had a lot of questions about that. And we end talking about, you know, peeing on people. Like, it sort of goes in that direction. And that's about as far as it goes. But it's interesting. And I think that, you know, he was a pretty normal young, you know, kind of an experienced guy that just had some really sort of normal questions. I couldn't believe that he didn't know about some of the things that he didn't know about.

It was actually interesting to me. I don't know how you guys will feel about that. I know mostly in my life massive players as guys. So it's always weird to me when I find a guy who's like not as experienced or doesn't know things because I always sort of dated like the other end of the spectrum. But I wonder, you know, what my audience is made up of. More so the players are the guys that maybe are like this guy. His name is James. And they just have these sort of, you know, innocent questions about sex that they don't really,

who are they going to get them answered by? You know, he happens to have a cousin who helps them out. But, you know, you're just lost shit that you're going to talk about with your guy friends. So I'll be right back with James. Do you have a story, lifestyle, or situation you can't talk about to anyone, to anyone? Or do you just want to let your freak flag fly and be on the show? Well, Strictly Anonymous wants to hear from you. Send us an email, Strictly Anonymous podcast at gmail.com with your story and your anonymous name. And remember, everything is strictly anonymous.

Anonymous. Strictly anonymous. Hi, James. We're on the phone with me, Kathy. I'm the host of the show. Normally people get a little bit more detailed with their question that they're calling in about. I know that you just said in your email to me that you were looking for advice on sex, right? Yeah.

That's correct. Okay, so now it's time for you to be a little bit more specific. All right. Well, I guess if you want to be more specific, my main question would probably be on, certain positions, including the doggy position. Okay, so what's your deal with the doggy position or sex positions? It's my favorite position, but it seems like it's so difficult for me personally because the penetration, I'm not really able to, you know, get deep enough,

and I'm not certain why that is. Well, are you very well-hung? Yes, I am not well-hung, but I'm pretty, well in doubt. How long is it? Like how many inches long? Because that's more the problem with penetration from behind is the length, not the width, right? So how long is it?

It's seven and a half inches long. That's kind of long. Yeah. I know that they say the average is like four to six, but that's bullshit. Or six to eight? They say, no, they say it average is six to eight. And that's bullshit. I think the average is four to six.

So at seven and a half, you're running on the longer side. And like what happens with a woman is like she just all has so much space between like her opening and her cervix. So if you go in too much, you're hitting that part of her. And honestly, it doesn't feel good for a woman. Is that what happens when you say that you can't go deep? Yeah, because it seems like, ow. Yeah. Yeah.

Okay. Is that what happens when you're banging girls? Yeah, normally. they just say ow and they can't take it let me ask you this do you do a lot of foreplay with them and like get them in the mood like what's your style of like banging someone because there's so many different styles some guys do a lot of foreplay some guys just think they're going to make out with a girl for two minutes and then put it in and you know go to town and sometimes certain things for a woman she needs to be like she opens up more and becomes more relaxed and things hurt more if she's more turned on you know what's your sort of what's your style well Normally my style, it's like you said before, I'm a big fan of for a play, to be honest with you. You know, I'm definitely all about the kissing and the rubbing and everything like that, you know, really to get her worked up before I didn't worry about it myself. You'll go down on the girl. Okay, cool.

You know, that's actually one of my favorite parts that's going down on her. Yeah, that's, that's important because, you know, if you, as a woman, if you have a guy that goes down on you just to make you happy, like, it's not so great. You want a guy that, and most guys are like this, thankfully, because I think it's just normal. They, like, love it. You know what I mean? Like, they say like you, like, it's my favorite thing. But I've definitely come across guys that don't like it at all. And you can tell, and they're just doing it for you.

And that's a fucking turnoff. I think men deal with that all the time with blowjobs. I think it's very rare you get a girl that's like, oh, I love giving head. But, I mean, some of them do. But most of them are like, oh, I'm doing this for you, babe. And it's not so great. That's what makes it not so good, right? Same thing for women.

So that's good that you love that. So I think it's your size, dude. That's what it is, James. Right. Do you bang the same girl? Like, what's your situation? Like, are you dating anybody? I'm dating somebody, but since she's been away at college,

I haven't really had a chance to relieve myself. So I've been, we have an open relationship. So I've been trying to give it a little bit of flavor of everything when it comes to being trained girls. So what do you mean? How old are you? I'm 22. Okay, and how old is she?

And she's 20. Right. So I feel like the younger generation. I'm a lot older than you. I'm old enough to be like your mom, okay? But I totally believe this and you tell me if it's true that this younger generation, like people your age, are much more open to all different kinds of relationships as opposed to like the normal one, you know, where boyfriend and girlfriend and you have to be monogamous.

And I think a lot more people nowadays in your age range, right, have these open relationships. Is that true? or are you guys like the minority? I think if I want to think about it, I think we're more kind of like the minority only because once she does leave college and we get closer, she does want to be more single,

but until then, you know, it's all about just trying to get that feel and everything. Right. Because, personally, between you and me, she has more experience than I do sexually. And so that's also another reason why she's letting me go out and do this. Because she wants you to be more experienced?

Exactly. Yeah, but still, I don't give a shit about that. It still is like, it's still like a girl, normally like older women that are from a different generation. Still, even if the guy wasn't so experienced, would. And even if she was far away, she wouldn't let him fuck other people. I think that that's just a sign of the times and a sign of, like, women and people being more realistic and more open-minded about things. I personally think that's a good thing because, like, she lives there, you live here, like, what are you guys supposed to do? Do you know that she's, like, banging other guys too?

or is it just like you're allowed to be with other people? It's just like I'm allowed to do other people just because of the fact that she doesn't really, she's not up for that like she was before. Right, because she's with you. I find that about women. I mean, I know for me, like I don't have a need or desire if I'm with one guy to be with random strangers.

You know what I mean? But I think men are totally different. And they could do something like that. They could be emotionally intact to one woman and then just go physically be with another one. And it doesn't mean shit. just for sex, right? But how long have you guys been dating?

We've been dating a good four years almost. Four years. And how long has she been away and that you guys have this open relationship thing? She's been away for almost about a year now, too. Before she went away, were you guys just single together, like monogamous? Yeah, basically. Before she went away, yeah. And then after she started college, then things were different.

And how did that? But let me ask you this. lose your virginity to her? No. I lost it in high school before I met her. How old were you? I was 16. And how old was she when she lost her virginity? You said she was a lot more experienced. Yeah, she lost her virginity because she was raped by her uncle and her sexual drive is all over the place as she's gotten older. Oh, God. What do you mean by all over the place? just in the sense that ever since that moment

apparently she's just felt more comfortable sexualized so with the different guys that she has dated before me she's been able to approach sex more openly than probably me since you know you didn't have it just right so you're saying that even though it's dysfunctional she was raped by her uncle

she found that that sort of opened her up and made her more comfortable with her sexuality yeah I think it was more so, you know, after she realized that all men probably weren't like that, it just allowed her to really embrace it and she enjoys it. I don't know. That sounds very confusing to me. She got raped by her uncle and then she decided that all men weren't like that so then she could embrace it. I think it's the opposite.

I think, well, I think you're right. I think it's the opposite, but I think it's just because, you know, after putting that moment away, you know, she's been able to just really ignore it and just because it's the way. because the way she is now, she's a very sexual person. And so it's just hard to believe that someone like that could experience something so dramatic. No, but that's how it always goes. That's always like one of the signs of a woman that's been sexually abused is them being very promiscuous. Because it's sort of like what happens is it's a way for her to take back her sexuality. It's sort of like, you know, a rebellious kind of a thing.

Like somebody took control of you and your sexuality and like took control of. get away from you so you'll take it back and you take it back by being that way right i totally understand that so that's really where it comes from it doesn't come from like it's not the most it's not it's not it's not it's not coming from a very healthy place but it's not the most unhealthy place like there's different ways you could deal with a rape you know and you know i think personally some people become asexual they don't want to have sex at all but like you know the girl that's going out and sort of reclaiming herself and whatever i mean she's been in a relationship with you for four years so she's, I don't think it's so bad.

But I think that that sort of intense sexuality is more so a way of her reclaiming her sexuality after her uncle tried to take it away from her. Do you know what I mean? Right. Yeah, I get what you're saying. Yeah, it makes a lot of sense that way. And I think a woman like that would be more, would unfortunately be more likely to sort of have unclear boundaries and be like, oh, yeah, you could go screw other people so that you could, you know, then a regular woman that was a little bit more, you know, you know, sort of healthy emotionally. Do you know what I mean? Right. Yeah, I know what you mean.

So you benefit. I mean, you were on Craigslist because I put my ads on Craigslist all the time. Like, that's where I get all my callers. I find the most interesting places from, you know, Craigslist. I mean, the most interesting people from Craigslist. So what do you, are you trolling Craigslist for chicks to bang? Yeah, pretty much. I mean, it's just, you know, like I say, when you've got those needs, you know, sometimes you just try to find it any way you can. Right. Like, are you looking for hook? Are you looking for free, like girls that are just looking at a party?

Yeah, girls are just looking at a party, not hoping. But do you find, because I talk to a lot of people, you know, mostly, like I said, 90% of my callers, and I've been doing this for over a year, are from Craigslist. And mostly I hear that, I mean, a lot of guys, they don't, I mean, unless you're paying for it, you don't find a lot of women just giving it away. Most of the time they wind up being dudes or they're getting scammed. Do you know what I mean? How many girls have you banged from Craigslist?

list? As many times that I've tried to look it over, I haven't actually. You haven't. Except for one girl that, you know, we dated, I didn't even get a chance to bang her. So, no, I really haven't. And you look all the time. And what happens? Like, do you email people with, like, hot pictures and just what, like, how come

it's never come about? You know, I think it's because, you know, I email these people who, you know, you know, when I read their profiles and everything on Craigslist, and I email them because a lot of those things do apply to me. But it always shows up sooner or later that it's always about going through clarification with this website or that website and then later find out that it's a scam. It's a scam, right. Yeah, you're going to be, you're so much, like, you're going to find it a lot easier

just to get laid without any nonsense, like in a bar, just buy, like, you know what I mean, just go into a bar and be around like a bunch of drunk girls. Like, don't you think, isn't that? nowadays to get a girl to go home with you and screw you? Yeah, I wish. Not true? Well, okay, on a scale of 1 to 10, I always ask my caller, is it? On a scale of 1 to 10, what would you rate yourself?

On a scale of 1 to 10, I honestly rate myself a 7. A 7. That's honestly what most people rate themselves. I had one guy who rated himself a 12, but he was like, assertifiably crazy. Right. So you rate yourself in 7. What's your girlfriend? My girlfriend, I definitely rate her a nine.

I mean, if it wasn't for her temper, then I rate her a temper. She's got a bad temper. Yeah. Right. So good thing. She lives far away. And so, how many girls have you had sex with during your sort of open relationship break that you've had for this past year?

Off the top of my head at least three. And do you guys like, what's your rule with the open relationship? Because I think that some people, like, you know, have it that we're. they have to tell each other about it or whatever. Like, what do you guys do about it? Like, have you told her about those girls? No, it's more like the old thing. Don't tell, ask no questions and I won't tell you.

Right. You know, stuff like that, you know. Mm-hmm. So she doesn't know about the girls. Yeah, because she really doesn't want to know. She just tries to try and a blind eye, really. Right. And how many times a year do you see her that she's so far away?

Um, I've seen her a couple of times for this year, because this will be her second semester in college. But, you know, I've seen her a couple of times this year already. Um, she showed up for our anniversary almost a month and a half ago. And, um, I saw her last August. Right. You know, there's other websites because I, like, once I, I always, like, put ads on Craigslist looking for people. Um, and I get a lot of guys. There's a lot of guys like you on Craigslist looking for free ass, you know what I mean?

Or like interesting things sort of on the side or like dirty sexual stuff. And they go to Craigs. So there's a lot of guys in there. And I find that the guys that fuck guys like the by guys and stuff like it, they get action on Craigslist. But the guys like you that are straight and looking for women, because you're straight. Yeah. Yeah. You know, they don't find it there.

But there are other websites like freakier websites that, you know, you might find more of what you're looking. looking for. You know, like I once went on adult friend finders. Do you know that place? Do you know that website? No, I've never heard of that. It's kind of like bullshit. They make you pay for instance. Craigslist is better because it's free. But it really is a place where people that are really into like, you know, kinky sex and just looking for sex. It's like a dating website or a sex what, you know, more, there's no dating really. And there's real people on there. Like I got one person to call in from there. I didn't get a lot of people to call into my show. But there's like real people. You might have better look getting actual real

women that are looking to swing your way or just have meaningless sex on that website or even you want to bait and switch them on like you know plenty of fish or like you know one of those free okay cupid things you know because all the guys that I know that are dating on either Tinder

or any of that stuff like you know they could take a girl out one time and get late like it's not really that hard I don't think are you a shy guy yeah I admit that I am a shy guy I try not to be, but, you know. So that's why you stick to Craigslist as opposed to going out and Mac and on girls, like, in a bar?

Pretty much. Right. So what other sex questions do you have? Listen, the behind thing, you have to, like, the girl, like, is it just with your girl, or is it with every girl you've been with? Can you count how many girls you've been with? Like, how much of a player are you? Like, have you, what's your number? I guess I would have to say, since, like, graduating in high school, at least, like,

six or seven. So your whole life, you've been with six or seven chicks? Well, I mean. No, I mean your whole section. I'm talking about since you lost your virginity. How many girls have you fucked? Can you count or no? There's been a lot of girls that have fucked since I lost my virginity.

Okay, so you do have some experience. Yeah. Right? Yeah. I mean, it's not. Well, I guess I can't say it's a lot, but it is a good number. I think at least like four or five since I've lost my virginity. Four or five?

I thought before it was six. Is it four or five plus the six? Yeah. Okay. Basically. Right. Right. Okay.

And so do you have the problem with like screwing the girls from behind and having it be an issue that you can't go all the way in with all of them? Well, I don't. It's not with all of them. But I think probably, because I've, First, I wasn't sure what it was the first time I tried it, but then I realized that it could have just been that I probably wasn't getting my knees bent all the way and trying to go down that one. What do you mean? Like, for example, because the first time I did it, it was that I was on a mattress on the floor. And I thought it was just that the girl's butt was entirely too big for me to fuck.

Because her butt was pushing right up against my stomach. Right. So, you know, I figured maybe that's what the problem was. Because you couldn't get fully inside is what you're saying, is the issue, right? Yeah. I mean, I could only get the head in. And then it's like I couldn't get the rest in. So I was just wondering maybe, you know, maybe with my stomach, maybe she's just too close.

Uh-huh. So then what happened the next time? Well, the next time, before I did the next time, I actually talked to my cousin about it because she taught me a lot of sexual things as well. Uh-huh. And she explained that certain girls are different. so you'll have to put them in different positions in order to get that penetration. Right. Their anatomy is shaped.

Let me ask you this. Are you curved at all or are you straight? I'm curved a little bit. Curved up or curved down? Yeah. Which one? Curved up or curved down? Oh, curved up.

Curved up. Right. That'll make it a little bit harder too, right? Because if a girl's from behind, right? If she doesn't have her elbows up, you don't know what I mean? if she's sort of down and her ass is higher than the rest of her body, you have to be going down and you're curved up. Do you know what I mean? You have to like push it down. Yeah. Right. Yeah. And that's what it was too, was that her ass was up higher than I could really get down.

Right. So what happened the next time you tried it? Well, like I said, talk to my cousin and everything, she explained me what I could try. So the next time I tried, I used a pillow, you know, and I was one that myself and then that way I was able to have her you know private area the private area and I was able to just get it in like that right so the whole thing went in and was there a problem that time that time a little bit at first just because I was still trying to dig my cock in but after after a few tries it started to get in and go out so uh-huh and so it was fine Yeah. So what's the problem with it?

I think it's just the problem with it, though, is it's the similar situation a lot of the times, the first time around is that I guess it's my fault I keep forgetting to use a pillow probably, but getting low enough to penetrate her. Right, because maybe the curvature. The curvature doesn't help. Exactly. And then you said the girls sometimes are like, ow, like when you're all the way in, is that, does that freak you out? that happens too? It doesn't freak me out as much as it used to, but it does sometimes still freak me out, you know.

But, I mean, does that happen every time? Like, I thought that was what the issue was, that the girl can't handle when you're all the way in. No, no, it doesn't happen all the time. Right, so it's more like your issue is you can't get it in properly. Right. Yeah, that's... Yeah, that's the main issue is just I can't get it in properly.

Oh, yeah, you must be really... Are you really curved up? I mean, I'm not... really curved up, I'm more curved into the left. Oh, yeah, well, duh, yeah, that I think that that makes a difference for sure. Yeah. Have you ever Google? I'm like a crazy Googler.

Like, I wish you would have emailed me beforehand what your actual problem was I would have Googled and found some good advice for you. I'm not a guy. I don't have a dick. I don't really know. But I've seen a lot of them. I've seen a lot of them and I know they curve and different things. And that can make a difference, you know.

So if you're curving up into the left and a girl, you know, that might make a it a little bit harder to get in in that position for sure. I think what you have to do is try that one position where it went in fine. That has to be your position with most girls. Yeah, I think so. Can you do it with your girl? I mean, you know, it's good that you're in a relationship with one girl because then you could sort of figure out how it works with her. Right. Right. How does it work with your girl? Um, with my girl, we haven't had an opportunity to really try that yet because she's been so busy, but, you know, we've done missionary and cowgirl and all that stuff. But that isn't supposed to be my birthday present.

What, doing it from behind? Yeah. Are you not talking about anal, right? You're talking about regular sex, right? No, I'm talking about regular sex, yeah. So she, so for your birthday, she's giving you that? Like, that's a big thing for her to give you? Yeah, just because that's not something that she likes to do.

She's done, yeah. She, with all of her experience, you told me she's so experienced. her ads. Yeah, because she's done other things, but... Like what? Like her ex one time was able to... And I don't even know what was going on. Apparently, she was like on his lap, but the way he was holding her the fucker, she was

leaning over the chair, and she was facing him, and he was just bouncing his legs up and down. He didn't really have to do too much shifting. Uh-huh. You know, she said that was very uncomfortable. floor, you know. Okay, but this girl that you say is so experienced, do you mean

it's because she's been with a lot of people? Because she's never, like, for her to give you sex from behind is like a big deal? Yeah, I mean, it's a big deal to me just because I haven't had the opportunity to deal with her like that. After four years of digging, that's a little weird.

I'm not weird. I use that word and my listeners get so mad at me. It's a little unusual. I can see where you're coming from that it is unusual but I guess you know to each their own no she might not listen a different girl like I don't like being on top

that cow girl thing that you said and some women love it it's the only way they could orgasm for me it's the hardest way like everyone is like built a different way you know I could come the fastest from from someone being behind me it's like one of my favorites but it has to

be a certain way and I could angle myself a certain way so it doesn't I don't feel that sort of banging feeling. I don't like that. And if someone's too long, that is an actual problem for me. But, you know, everyone is different. She just might not be able to get off easily that way.

You know what I mean? Yeah. And that's what I'm thinking too, you know. Yeah, she just might. And she, you know, so with her, you have to go like really slow when you do it. That's what you should do when you're with, like women and you're scaring them from behind. Go slow and then wait until they tell you to go faster and harder.

because the more the girl gets turned on and the more she gets closer to her orgasm, the more she like opens up and is able to take it. Like that, I am very communicative. So I'll tell a guy like fast or slower, like don't or put, you know, and sort of control it. Some women don't have the confidence to speak up or tell their guy what they want. So you need to know as a man to be able to gauge how she's feeling. Like is she tensing up? Is she not?

You know? And if you're like seven and a half inches long and you know that this is a girl that's like literally giving you it from the behind. hind for her birthday, which means she's not that into it, okay? You should be a little slow and gentle with her until you could tell that she's so horny that she wants it harder and faster. Do you know what I mean? Right.

Yeah, I get what you're saying, yeah. Go by her cues because a woman knows. And that's why, like, anal sex, like, have you ever had anal sex with a girl? Oh, yeah, a few times, yeah. Right. And, like, anal sex is great for everyone, I believe. But I think what happens to a lot of women is that they were with guys that just thought that they could just like shove their dick in their ass and like and call it a day and

the girl's going to be into it and it's not that that it can't be that way you know what I mean the girl has to be in control and she knows and it has to be done in a certain way for it to be good and then a woman could really enjoy it but guys sometimes don't understand they're not thinking about what the girl is feeling and they're not intuitive to that you know what I mean which you should be taking those cues you know what other sex question I love talking about sex is one of my favorite topics. That's why I put ads on Craigslist because I get people calling in with all kinds of crazy things. I mean, you're one of my most normal calls, like I got to tell you. I get a lot of other craziest stuff. But like what other sex questions do you have? Well, definitely. Missionary is a question.

What do you mean? Just because, well, I mean, I know it's supposed to be the easiest thing in the world, but I don't know. Honestly, it's kind of similar with Dougie, you know. just the penetration height and everything. How do you really, you know, should I just grab her legs up and then do it that way? Because, you know, normally that's why I do resort to doggie because doggy is my, you know, my go-to for a fucking girl, you know? Oh, it's every guy's go-to. Okay, first of all, you know what my friend once told me?

And I think this is very true. Like, in nature, the most stimulating. And this is like, like, it's just like because we're animals, right? And we need to procreate. But a woman bending down with like no clothes, like that vision of. like the ass and the pussy like shot like that shot of a woman bending over is for men as an animal species like the most erotic thing and that's on purpose so that you want to go and put your dick in and have a baby you know that's like nature stuff you know so every guy is obsessed with doing it

from behind for that reason I think girls get insulted because they're like oh you don't want to kiss me or see me you know they think you're just using them but it's not that way it's like men are just wired to that way to be the best you know what I mean and a lot of girls aren't it because it hurts and whatever. But missionary, what's your deal with that? It's like, missionary, the only thing is, I think my real difficulty is with how long I'm on my knees because I've got, because I've had knee surgery on it. So the pressure is kind of like it builds up on it.

Uh-huh. Yeah, it hurts for you to be on your knees. Well, what about laying down? What about laying down on top of her? No, I never thought about it like that because, you know, I don't want to. you know, really put too much pressure on it. I'm not that heavy, but at the same time. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, that's what I was going to ask you.

How much do you weigh and how tall are you? I'm 5'7. You're 5'7? Yeah. How much you weigh? So I'm about 160. Oh, so you're not a big guy at all. That's not big, right?

No. No. You're not big at all. So why are you? Okay, do you watch porn? I do. Okay. And so how do you see people fucking all the time?

Like, what is it that you see that you go and try to do it? Like people are on top of people. I personally as a woman like when a man, even if he's like on the heavy side, there's something that women like, I think, sometimes about a man sort of just being totally on top of them. Like, I have to tell you, it's not a bad thing. You should try it. You mean to tell me every time you screw your girl missionary style, you're on your knees? Yeah, normally so, yeah.

Is that why you had surgery? Yeah. I mean, because it never really clicked for me to lay on top of her and do it that way. I mean, that'd be probably 10 times better. Oh my God. Where have you been living? Like, you watch porn. You don't see it go down like that? I think they even do it like that in the movies. I mean, I've watched it like that.

But, you know, it's always at the same time, though, you know, with all different types of porn, you know, sometimes the guy pulls are closer and you don't his knees and dozer that way or, you know. Yeah, and probably they're not laying down because they can't get real good shots that way. So they probably are always standing up or doing it. But no, I mean, come on, like so many times. Or like even like from like if a girl's laying down and you're like, behind her. Like in the morning, you don't just like roll over and screw her and like, you know, you're sort of laying on top of her so you could like make out at the same time and all that

kind of stuff and like cause each other's necks. Like it you never do you never get into that. No, I do get into that. I mean, I do like that a lot myself. But you're thinking always about her and like, oh, I might be suffocating her if I'm on top of her. Right. Yeah, that's like that. Yeah, I don't think so. I think. I mean, does she ever pull you like she wants you to come down to her when you're screwing her? from, you know, afar? Oh, yeah. I mean, especially with kissing a neck at the same time, yeah.

Right. So it's just that you don't feel like staying down there because you feel like you're hurting her? Yeah. So you get up immediately and go back to that sort of position with you being on your knees. Right. Yeah, dude, you could stay down. You could

stay down the whole time. Did you ask your cousin about this one too? Uh-huh. Did you ask your cousin about this question too? Um, yeah. I mean, What does she say? When she went over the whole thing, I mean, she explained that, um. How old's your cousin? I guess probably, probably as old as you.

She's, uh, you know, she's a, you know, she's, she's way older than you. My first cousin. Right, right. And so you guys are really close. I love that you have a cousin, like a woman, you know, a woman cousin that you could talk to you that, like, you know, helps you out. I think that that's great that you could go to somebody. You know what I mean?

Especially a woman because I think sometimes, you know, men just talk to men or women. just talk to women and everyone's so fucking clueless about the opposite sex, you know? I have so many guy friends, as many as I have girlfriends, so I feel like I understand men more because of that. So I think it's great that you have your cousin, you know, and she helps you understand women more. That is really helpful for you. Yeah. But what did she say? I mean, basically she said, you know, that with different women, you have to try different things. Sometimes it's not so much worrying about what you're doing. It's about making sure she's comfortable.

So, you know, if you lay down on her, you can probably get in a little bit better that way. But, you know, I didn't even think about that at the time. But she did remind me of that when we had seen each other beforehand. Yeah, you need to, yeah, try it. Your girl might love it. Like, I really like it. But like I said, I don't like getting on top of somebody.

I love it from behind. Like I'll tell a guy like, yeah, dude, and they'll like, really? Like, because they think most girls hate it. But, like I actually really like it. Everybody has, like your cousin says, every woman is very different because their bodies are different. And I think sometimes you get used to sort of orgasming certain ways. So, you know, you get used to different things, you know. And if that's what turns you on, it's what turns you on.

And you sort of get set on it. So with your girl, since you're screwing the same girl, like you should be able to communicate with her and be like, you know, in the middle of it. you know, get on top of her and be like, is this okay? Like, you could say something like that really quickly while you're fooling around. You know what I mean? Do you communicate when you're having sex with a girl? Oh, yeah. I mean, whenever I'm having sex with a girl, I always try to communicate the best they can, you know?

Yeah, so you could say, like, when you're up on your knees and you're getting tired, you could just come down and just start, you know, sort of laying down and using more. I think a guy uses more like the elbows, you know what I mean? Yeah, I heard about that. Yeah, using your elbows a little bit more. It's so funny. you're like I heard of that. I feel like that's like the most common position.

Like you're asking about the most common things. You're like, yeah, I've had anal and I've had all this. Like you're not asking about any of that stuff. You're asking about like the most common stuff, which is so interesting to me. Because it's like, who doesn't know that they could just like, you know, sort of laid out and, you know, just fuck a girl? Maybe all the guys I know are just lazy. Oh, yeah. Wow.

You know, I mean, because the other stuff is pretty basic with me. I mean, anal, you know, obviously going slow and everything like that. What did you say? Anal what? I say with anal, you know, obviously about going slow and then starting to pick up that pace and whatnot. And then, you know, other positions, I mean, they're pretty self-explanatory. It's the ones where you're in control, really, like the behind thing or the one on top where you get a little freaked out. Does your size freak you out?

Like, have you had an issue with when you're laying on a girl ever, like, or when you started doing missionary style? How did you get sort of roped into? Or how did you get into the idea of, like, oh, you have to be at my knees the whole time? And you, like, pull the girl up? No, no, no, no, no. I mean, you know, I think I got that idea on my head just because, like, ever since when I lost my virginity and whatnot, It was such a difficult time at first because I had no idea what was really going on.

You know, the penetration is, it's like I was trying to figure out how to really get down into a pussy and couldn't find out what was wrong. And then, you know, by the end of the night, all I had to do really was just fuck her from behind because I couldn't really figure out how to get into a pussy in missionary. Meaning, how come? Because of the curvature or you didn't know where the hole was? Like you just were confused? I mean, because I had just finished eating her out. and I knew where the hole was. That wasn't the issue.

The issue was that, you know, I was, like I said, you know, I was up on my knees and everything, and I could get it there, but it's like I couldn't bend it down enough to really get into a pussy without getting down all the way. And I couldn't get down all the way because that mattress was so high. So, you know, so it got to the point where I just had her flip over and, you know, I had a new and dirty style in order to get to a pussy that way. Right. And that was the time where you put it. find it hard to get it in doggy style or that doggy style time you got it in?

I mean, I think what made it easier for me, because it wasn't really traditional doggy style, she was laying on a side of person. I got into her that way. Yeah, yeah, that's always a good position. That's an easy position for both the woman and the man. And that's like the good morning position, right? Because you're sleeping and like, you know, you're in that position anyway. To me, that's like morning sex position, perfect one.

Yeah, I mean, it's like, I. I think that your questions are really cute because they're like very innocent and like basic, you know, that I just can't believe like, I don't know, do you have guy friends that you talk about this stuff with? I have guy friends, but normally, you know, besides high school, I don't talk to them about it. Right, right, right. What other normal things are you confused about? I mean, you know, I guess it would be, I actually know the G spot, that seemed pretty simple. From what I heard. But I think the only thing probably is sometimes maintaining my direction when, you know, I'm not really in a comfortable situation.

Like I remember this one time I was about to talk this girl. and she wanted to give me a hand job first you know a blow job first and the thing is the blow job it was just it was okay at first but then it was just terrible because she kept using her teeth and she wasn't even aware of it yeah and you're wondering why you couldn't keep a hard on with that girl right well come on

I my guy friends I have a way of picking like really bad guys okay my whole life not anymore so but when I was younger. So I know the dirtiest players of players, okay, guys that could get it up for a fucking, you know, picture of a girl.

Like, I mean, you know, people that don't have a problem at all, but they wouldn't be able to get it up with a girl that was using her teeth and was giving the worst blowjum. I mean,

that's just normal because that's a, that's a bad thing. Yeah. Think about it. I mean, that's what, you know, you don't have a getting it up problem

if you couldn't get it. Like if you couldn't, keep it hard, right? Are you, when you're normally screwing, like, normal girls or like these, you know, your girlfriend, like, are you able to, to keep it hard the whole time? I mean, I can keep it

hard for a while. I mean, obviously, it goes down for a little bit, but, you know, after a few strokes, I'm right back to it. Yeah, that's fine. It's not like it goes down completely. Yeah, that's normal. I think that's fine. And I think you seem like you're a little, sometimes you're a little confused during it. Like, maybe you're like, should I stand up or your knees

hurting, you know, and when shit like that goes, down, I think it like takes away a little bit. You know what I mean? Yeah. So I think so, yeah. Yeah, but that's fine. And then you get, once you get back into it and you get your mind back in or she's blowing your whatever happens, you could totally get hard again.

That's not a getting it up problem at all. Like getting it out problem is like, you know, a guy who literally, no matter what you do, that dick doesn't get hard. And that's a whole other deeper thing. You don't have any issues when it comes to sex. Your biggest problem right now that I hear on this call, is that you're going on Craigslist looking to get laid, and you're just talking to a bunch of dudes, okay?

I'm the only girl you're going to meet on Craigslist, and I'm here to give you advice. You're not, like, it's very hard to get what you want if you want a little action without anything, you know, on Craigslist. And, you know, like, really, you should try adult friend finders, maybe. Go on that website. Or nerve.nerve.com is like a website where you could go on there and put on that, like, you're just, you,

You know, it's like a dating site, but they have like a category where you're just looking to get late, you know, and there's other women. They're a little bit more alternative, you know. You need to look in other places to find women if you're looking just to like have sex with women on the side because you're not looking for a relationship. You're not going to probably find it on Craigslist. That's your biggest problem. No. You know, missionary style, you just have to figure out, you just get off your knees and start, you know, being a little lazy and screwing on top of the girl and see how it works out for you. Oh, right.

Yeah, that does sound like a good idea. Yeah, and then with your little curvature, you have to take your time and figure out how it works for you best with each girl that you're with because of the curve and whatever. And I think, you know, the girl can't have her ass up too high with you. That doesn't work. Yeah, it doesn't work. No matter how any girl is. And stay away from the girls with their ass is too big that you can't even get in. Yeah, I learned my lesson the hard way with that.

All right, James. Do you have any other questions? I guess I do have one more question. Sure. Well, now that I know, not a getting up problem, everything else is pretty simple. That makes me feel better. Yeah. I guess when it comes to foreplay, you know, I normally do a lot of the traditional stuff, you know, kissing a neck, sucking on a tooth, stuff like that.

But I was wondering, is there something to kissing on the inside of the size and whatnot, you know? Yes, kissing could be anywhere. There are so many places on a woman's body that could be a turn on. It's like tickling. Like anywhere where you tickle a girl and then she could get turned on is definitely a place where you could put your mouth. Like I swear to you, I was once and I know I'm going to get emails about this, but I was really into armpit licking. Like I swear to you. Like the armpit is such a crazy place.

I swear to God, if you go to town or even have somebody go to town on your armpit one day, like it is like the hottest thing ever. I know that people are going to be like that's fucking gross But I turned a lot of people onto it okay And I was really into it But besides the armpit it's like behind the knee that area Inside the thigh on the sides of like a woman's like stomach Like on the side of her you know her abs Like any place where you find somebody is ticklish

That's like they have extra nerves there So you go in with your tongue in your mouth It's definitely going to be like a hot area to get into. And I think if you're going to do the inner thigh, it's like do that before, I think teasing someone is like really hot. So like, you know, go down there and do that first until the person can't take it and she just wants you to like totally go down on her. You know what I mean? That could be like a lead into it. Oh, okay. The kissing of the thigh and all that stuff. But yeah, I think that there's a lot of places you could go with your mouth and your tongue besides like a woman's

tits or her vaj, you know, and that really, and, you know, the neck and the inside of the ear, those are like common places. But I think that, like, try an armpit out, I got to tell you. I mean, we have to get past the deodorant at first because it's a little

gross, like maybe you take a shower first or you wash all that area, but I don't know. You know, when you're doing sex, you can't get into like, oh, this tastes bad or whatever. You know, if you think about what you're doing. But it is a total, like, if you could get a girl to try it with you, You're you doing it to her or her doing it to you because a guy gets just as turned on by it as a woman does it.

I mean, that's really weird advice. And your girlfriend might be like, where the fuck did you hear about this shit? And she might get really mad at you. So maybe you don't want to try it with her. But I'm telling you, armpit licking is actually really hot. Yeah, could I heard the same thing about ear licking. And I still don't understand that. Yeah, but inside the ear.

You've never got it off. You might not be ticklish. that might not be like maybe it's not you either listen some people could like go down on my ear like the wrong guy could go down on my ear and it could be like not it doesn't feel like anything but then a guy does it the right way and it's good so maybe you've just been with girls like have that haven't really done it in the most erotic way like were they just jabbing their one girl do that to my ear once and it feels pretty good but it's just so weird yeah yeah she probably wasn't doing it so like so great like there's

There's a little, like, and sometimes, you know, it's like a chemistry thing. Do you know what I mean? Like, have you been with, like, that person in your life where everything, like, you're just sort of know what each person likes and you have really good chemistry? So everything is just like that much hotter with that person. Do you know what I mean? Oh, yeah. I know what you mean.

I've definitely been with a person like that. Yeah, and that's chemistry. So, I mean, if you have chemistry with someone and they go to your ear or, I mean, I once had this guy I was dating and he, like, touched my ankle and I get horny. Like, it was just like, that's chemistry. you can't help it it's like electric you know so probably that girl that went in for your ear like there was probably like not such great chemistry there right do you know what i mean yeah i know what you mean yeah but i think i mean was your question where like are the inside of the thighs the best area i mean

there's a lot of areas oh okay you know and i think for women the longer you take to get to the point of like having intercourse the better so if you're into like like letting a girl lay down and like sort of like going all over her with your mouth first and doing all those things and like really making it sort of like, you know, a time for her to just get turned on by you. Like a woman will totally enjoy that. Oh, yeah. Do you know what that's what I always try to do. So yeah, yeah, I know you mean.

Yeah, try the armpits. Try holding our arms back and go to town on her armpit. Awesome. I hope you don't get laughed at. If you do, don't blame me. me. But if you find the girl an adult friend finder, she's probably had like way worse. She's probably been peed on. So I wouldn't really, you know, I don't think it's that big of a deal. I mean, armpit licking isn't that big. Some people just might think it's gross. I don't know.

So maybe you want to go for like the inside of the elbow behind the knee, like inside the thighs on the side of her stomach. You know, all those kind of areas are great. And the ear is really great. Everyone loves it. As long as you have chemistry with somebody, it's a really, it's a good thing. Don't turn your back on the ear thing just because that one girl wasn't good at it. Right. Okay. Mm-hmm. Anything else?

Well, since you could bring up that pee thing, that does sound pretty interesting, too. Peeing? Yeah. Oh, my God. Like 20 minutes from now, you're going to be telling me, like, you want to suck a guy's cock? No, no. Okay. I'm not going to go that far.

Okay. So the peeing thing, yeah, you should get into, like, the freakiest stuff that you're into. You don't have to like, you know, this is what we talk about on my show, so that's fine. The peeing thing, you know, that's a hard thing. I've talked about this before. Like, my friend told me about, I mean, like, you want to pee on a girl? You want her to pee on you? I want to pee on a girl.

Yeah, and where do you want to pee on her mouth or do you want to just pee on her body? I think more than likely pee on her body. Yeah, because I think like men that want to pee in, like, a girl's mouth. Like, I think there's like some sort of degrading weirdo thing. But I think everybody might have, like, I don't think the peeing thing. I've never had any kind of pee experience with anyone, but I could understand sort of how it could be hot. My friend once told me that he had this girl that he would have sexes,

and she was always like really wasted, and she loved to like sit on the toilet, right? And this is what I think sounds hot about peeing. She would sit on the toilet and she would like spread her lips and he would pee on her clit, right, while she's sitting on the toilet, and she would get off on that. And I could kind of understand that. There's something about that pressure of the water and it's warm.

and it's kind of dirty and it's kind of like wrong, you know, whatever, you know. Right. So, but I think, you know, a lot of girls would not be into peeing. I mean, it's a sensitive thing, you know. It's a thing where you have to, like, throw it out there maybe and think it's like a joke. And if a girl's like, oh, I'm into that too, then you could go there. But I don't think you could just, like, ask a girl to pee on her and expect to get the majority of them to be like, yeah, I'm into it. Right.

Understandable. you know and maybe like you you sort of bring it up when you're in the shower with somebody you know right yeah as like a joke because i don't think like i had a guy from my email from my craigslist ad that you saw i i get a lot of responses and i get all kinds of things and i had a guy email me how he wanted to be shit on or something i don't know he never called in so i didn't get the scoge on that that is like crossing a line i don't even understand that but the peeing thing like i said i don't have experience in that but i get why people would be turned on that a little bit. You know what I mean? Why not try to pee? I think it's kind of innocent and could be fun if done on the right way. Uh-huh. But you'd have to sort of really know a girl or like you, it's like a hard thing to bring up, you know? Right. Yeah. I mean, what would be your question about peeing? I guess it would more so be about when, not when, but where's the best day they're doing,

you know, whether it's in the tub or, you know, like I've seen the porn video in the pool, or stuff like that. Yeah, I think the best place is in the shower or like this girl sitting on the toilet. When you're in the bathroom area, that's the time to bring it up and that's the time. I mean, you don't want to do it anywhere else because pee is like, it has a very ranted smell to it. Like, you'll ruin it like your mattress if you peed on it. You know what I mean? Yeah.

So, yeah, you got to do it in the shower or the bathtub, you know, the bathtub or like that scenario that my friend told me about, which I thought was always like kind of hot. I've never tried it yet. but it's the girl sitting down on the toilet and you pee on her because then you're right there. It's going into the toilet, but it's hitting her first. So, you know, it's two things in one. It's an efficient way to pee on somebody.

Right. You can just flush when you're done. Oh, yeah, good point. Is that the weirdest thing that you're into that you want to ask about? Is that it? Well, I don't think that's the weirdest thing. But, yeah, that is something on the top 10. Yeah, you know, listen, I think when it comes to sex

and you're out there Googling, and like, at least I know for me, It's like everyone could get into all different things, you know what I mean? As fantasies that seem erotic, will you try all those things out? Like some people might never, you know what I mean? But sometimes it's good to think about and sometimes, you know. Yeah, definitely. Right. And I'm sure your mind could go to all different places.

Will you actually do all those things in real life? Probably not. No. But it's fun to sort of fantasize about them. Oh, yeah, always. Right? I think, personally. I think that's healthy and it's fine, you know.

But the peeing thing, I don't think it's bad to actually do with somebody. It's just, you know, you have to find the right person. Right, of course, yeah. Okay, James. All right. Good luck in your search for like some extra booty while your girl's away. How many she has two more years before she comes back? Pretty much.

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