Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 060 - Jake is on AdultFriendFinder.com Trying to Lose his Virginity

Episode Date: February 10, 2015

Jake is 19 years old and he's still a virgin. He signed up for AdultfriendFinder to find a chick that will just bang him but he hasn't the right situation just yet. Why is he still a virgin at 19? What kind of action, if any, does he really get on the site? What's his history with chicks so far? Tune in to find out. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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And let me know. The same email sent it to Strictly Anonymous Podcasts at gmail.com. Today I have a person from adult friendfinder.com on my call. I use Craigslist most of the time and adult friend finder sometimes. What happened was I had another guy from adult friendfinders. And he begged me. I taped his episode. I edited it. I was ready to air it yesterday. And he begged me not to put it up. He changed his mind. And being the nice person that I am, I said, okay, no problem. And I did it. And I fucked. My listeners up by not having something to post yesterday. So I have to post this one. I had to tape another guy. It's a guy that I found a kid. He's 19. I found him on Adult Friend Finder. he was uh he's just looking for a girl to beg because he's a virgin and he needs to get ladies he's 19 years old he still hasn't gotten laid but he also's like looking for a relationship advice

like that's what happened after we started talking about like the initial stuff it turns out that he you know kind of got shafted by a girl and he has a lot of questions about girls and dating and that kind of stuff and that's the call today's just we're calling him jake jake from adult friend finder it's different the people from adult friend finder is very different than the people at on Craigslist because the people in Craigslist I sort of put on there like do you have a problem and you know give me and you want to be on my show and then they call me and they're really looking for help adult friend finder I go after the people in a different way I mean I have on my profile I don't have pictures of my tits or anything I mean all these other people they have pictures of their cocks and their tits and their pussies like that's just what you get on that on that website I have a picture I think of my logo or whatever I use for the podcast and I have a description like do you want to be on my show do you have a problem I say all that but Nobody really pays attention to that. I go on to Instant Messenger on Adel Friend Fighter,

and I just get bombarded by dickpicks. And it's not like they're sending me dickpicks, but they're pictures. Everyone's profile picture of an adult friend fighter is a big picture, like a picture of a big hard cock. Like, it's just hilarious if you see what I have to go through to get guests on this show. You wouldn't even, you wouldn't believe.

I'm sure if I was a guy and like it was all girls sending me tits, like it would be great, right? But I'm a girl. And I just don't want to just be looking at people's dicks all day long. and they're just like all emailing me, trying to get me to like sex with them and shit. And really I'm just looking for someone to be in my show, so I have to like talk to these people.

And I think that's why I get people that call in and then they have a whole conversation with me and then they change their mind because it's not like they're looking. It's not like they come to me like they do on Craigslist. It's like a different kind of thing. It's not a bait and switch because I tell them exactly. The first thing I say to them is like, hey, you wouldn't be in my podcast.

But I get a different kind of breed on there. I'm looking to like diversify. And like I said, before, like, we had people on that, like, aren't just totally into sex stuff, too, you know. But this, so, and this kid is like a mix. He's kind of like, he is on adult front finders, but he seemed kind of very normal. I mean, he's just on there because he needs to lose his virginity. He was just like a normal 19-year-old that has some girl issues because he's just starting to date. And girls are very confusing.

Or dating's confusing. That's just the way that it goes. So stay tuned. I'll be right back with Jake. Do you have a story, lifestyle, or situation you can't talk about to anyone, to anyone? Or do you just want to let your freak flag fly and be on the show? Well, Strictly Anonymous wants to hear from you. Send us an email, Strictly Anonymous podcast at gmail.com, with your story and your anonymous name.

And remember, everything is strictly anonymous. Strictly Anonymous Hi, is this Jake? Hi. This is Jake, right? I have a quick... Yeah. Hey, Jake.

I know you have a quick question. I just looked at your profile. So let me just introduce you because you're on my podcast. It's called Strictly Anonymous. I'm the host. My name's Kathy. And I know that you said, you just wanted to call in to ask about,

like, you're trying to find a girl that'll just like bang you with no relationship, right? Like friends with benefit kind of a deal? And you're on adult friend finder. Because I, for my podcast, I typically, I go on two different sites. I go on Craigslist. I also go on adult friend finders to find people.

Have you ever, is this the first time? How long you've been on adult friend finders trying to find a girl? A couple months. A couple months. Have you had any luck? No. No. How old are you?

It says on your profile, I mean, I like your profile. It's kind of funny because it just says like, I want a girl with big tits, but I'll take a girl with small tits. And it says you're 19 years old. Are you 19? I am. Right. Okay. And when did you lose your virginity?

How old were you? I have not. You have not. You're 19 and you're still a virgin? Yep. Really? Yeah. You have you had any, like, how come you haven't been able to get laid yet?

What's the deal? What do you think is the deal? I don't know. You don't know? Part of it's been texting. Part of it's been not saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. Okay. what do you mean texting? Is that what you said part of it is texting?

Yeah, I'm not very good at it. In what sense? Like, well, how do you, I mean, listen, the way I found you on adult friend finders is I did it through instant messenger, right? And that was like texting. You were normal when you were texting me. What do you do wrong when you're texting regular girls? If I'm texting a girl that's not an adult friend finder, I just try to have a typical conversation and not bring up sex until if something kind of just pops up. right but have you ever tried yeah go on when i'm on adult friend finder i just don't care of course because that's what i just say it would have come to mind and you should absolutely i think that that's i mean that's why you're there right you it's not like you're going to pretend you know there's no bait and switch on adult friend finders

i mean i think a lot of guys on regular sites like match dot com or okay cupid or whatever it is like you know they have to take you out to dinner and pretend that they want something else other than sex right even if that's what they're looking for because nobody's on there for women that are on there are on there are looking. But if so, a woman's on adult friend finder, she's basically saying, let's skip all that bullshit and get right down to it. So I think it's totally fine when you're on that site to get straight into the sex. But I'm just wondering as a 19 year old guy, like in high school, right, like all your years in high school, like there were no like chances. Like what's the farthest you've ever gotten with a girl? I got my dick's up once. So you got a blow job? Yeah. Right. And have you

had any girlfriends up into this point? No. No. Okay. And so like all through high school and stuff like, do you have friends and did you go out? Did you guys like sort of like drink or try drugs or any of that kind of shit? No. No. Okay. Because that stuff always kind of helps in a weird way. Do you know what I mean? Girls, those kind of people that are drinking and doing shit like that, those people get laid. So you never had, you never drank or you weren't in that kind of environment or anything. I I'm just wondering how you go through all of high school and not have any chance of getting laid with any girl. I feel like the girls are pretty promiscuous nowadays, no?

Well, yeah, but some girls have kind of a high school mentality where they are afraid of what people are going to think of them if they find out that they had sex with somebody. Right. But even though those girls have that mentality, they still do it, don't you think? I don't know. What about your other, what about your guy friends? I'm assuming you have friends and other dudes. dudes and I have a friend that gets laid a lot. Okay, and so do your friends know you're still a virgin?

Yeah. And what do you, on a scale of 1 to 10, I always ask my caller is this, because my show is called Strictly Anonymous. I don't know who you are, you don't know who I am, nobody really cares. I just think people's stories are really interesting. But I always, and I don't want to see a picture of anybody, but I always want to know, like, on a scale of 1 to 10, what would you consider yourself? I'd call myself an 8.

An 8. Yeah, because let me just tell you, like, I don't know if, you know who Stephen Hawking's but I just saw that movie, the theory of everything and this guy dude got married and he's in a wheelchair and he's totally busted and like basically like you can't even walk and he left his wife for another woman like I mean

anyone could get laid like any guy could get girls like it's just a fact it's not about like looks really even though I just always ask my callers I just want to know I mean you say you're an eight that's good looking but you still can't find a girl to have sex with you which is kind of confusing to me and you think it's because you don't know how

text? I think, yeah, I think it's just I have a hard time talking to girls in general. You're talking to me fine. Do you get nervous around girls? No, I just don't know what to say a lot of the times. Maybe sometimes I overthink. Right. Oh, maybe you're an overthinker.

I mean, why do you think that you, like, so if it's not that you're shy, you think that, like, if you're standing in front of a girl and you think that she's really hot, like you start, like, thinking in your head and then you can't sort of speak to her? Kind of Are you, right, okay So what do you do now? Do you work? I do.

What do you do? I am a sandwich maker at Old Bon Pan. Right. So, and then you have co-workers that you're like friends with that are girls there that are maybe like hot and you're more comfortable around them because they're your friends? To be honest, I don't have any hot co-workers that are girls. Oh, they're all ugly.

Yeah. What's your type? Like, what's your, like, what's your, like, I see on your profile like you like girls with big tits. Like what is your ultimate type? Well for a girl I want to bang that would probably be the number one thing. Is her breast size?

Is how big her boobs are? Yeah. Right. But a girl you want to date, that's the two different things, right? Yeah, a girl I want to date. Just whoever makes me think about them when they're not around.

Right. And have you met girls like that? And you just can't get them to date? date you? I mean, why no girlfriends? I think for that reason, I just can't get them to date me. Right. And so, I mean, what typically happens with girls that you've met that you start talking to that maybe they like you, you like them? Like, what happens? Like, what's the deal

breaker do you think? Like, why do they go away? Like, what typically happens? You just stop hearing from them? Um, no, I just don't think that, I think, What happens is that I start to think that they like me more than they actually do. Uh-huh. And then maybe I jump the gun a little bit, and then whenever something feels like it might go wrong, or whenever I see a girl I like start talking to another guy, I just start to get a little upset. Not that I ever show it towards them.

Uh-huh. But then I might just kind of back, sometimes I just kind of back off a little bit, or I'll say something. I'll try to talk to them too much, so they don't. forget about me and I end up saying something stupid. Right. Instead of being like honest and like sort of being real and saying, hey, what the fuck? Why are you talking to that girl or acting completely jealous? You act probably more weird, right? Because you sort of hide that and do other things, right? I think that, you know, listen,

I've had that problem in my life as a woman, you know, and I think, and I tend to be an overanalyzer and I've had low self-esteem in my life. So I totally get that. But what you really need to understand is that people don't get freaked out by people that are jealous. People don't get freaked out by people that have feelings. Like, I swear to you. Like, you have to be, you should be more honest about that shit with girls. It's like there's a sort of a confidence that comes in somebody that, that sort of shows in someone that, like, if you sort of just say to somebody, like, why the fuck are you talking to that guy? You know what I'm saying? Like, I know plenty of, like, really hot, amazing dudes that are totally jealous and totally show it. And that's, you know,

just the way that they are and they get girls all the time. Like you don't, you don't have to worry about scaring girls away by being yourself. It's more so what happens is you're scaring girls away because you're not being yourself. You probably close up or close off and they don't know what the fuck is going on. Do you know what I mean?

Yeah. So you have to know that girls will not be turned off by you getting insecure, not insecure or just like completely jealous that she's like talking to another guy when you're there. If it comes across as like cockiness, it's okay. Do you know what I mean? it should be like a kind of vibe of like why the fuck are you talking to him when you're with me

like sorry like that doesn't fucking fly and a girl likes a guy that has that kind of like cocky confidence when it comes across as insecure it's you know insecurity is when you are jealous but you don't say anything do you understand that's the difference right so you have to know that girls won't be freaked out by that all right i um i definitely i definitely feel more informed than I did. You do? But can I just ask you questions about adult friend finders? Because I'm curious, or do you not want to talk about that?

It's totally up to you. No, we can talk about it. Like, what's your deal? Like, how long? You've been on it for a couple months, right? Now, I talk to mostly people that, have you ever tried Craigslist to go on Craigslist and try and find people? Or no? No.

Yeah. Don't bother, because there's all dudes on there and it's all gay guys. And it's like, or you're soliciting women in their escorts or prostitutes. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. But on adult front findernerner, sometimes I would. tell people that call into my show because people call in guys mostly from Craigslist. And I tell them, like, don't but waste your time there.

Maybe go to Del Friendfighters because I'm on that site looking for people to call into my show. But I see what goes on there and it seems like there's a lot of women that are looking for the same thing you are. Is that true? Or do you find that when you try to solicit these girls that they're not real or like, what's the deal? Have you had any kind of interaction? I mean, the thing is that most of the women that I try to contact, from the little friend find, and I don't mean contact person. I mean just contact on the website.

Yeah. Most of them don't respond. Right. And I don't think much of it. Mm-hmm. But most of the people I do respond to it, that do respond to me. Some of them would be cool and then they'll just stop responding. Or they'll respond.

and they'll just start not being cool just start getting mad about something which I don't know why right well maybe they're just psychos and sometimes I'm just, the women just say I'm too young right

what's your age range that you hit up girls my age and they say that you're too you're a 19 year old well for the most part I'll just hit up girls my age right Sometimes I'll delve into the distance setting on that.

See girls that are in my area. And a lot of them are much older than me. And, you know, somebody last night that I was too young who lives about 40 minutes from me. And how old was she? 35. Yeah, you know, when you're talking, like when you, 19 is very different than even 21 or 23. Do you know what I mean? Like, as an older woman, like, I'm an older woman and I want to.

dated a 20 not dated just banged a 25 year old for about a year you know in 25 to me was really young but 19 is almost like too young and I get it why women why older women would say that because it's kind of like you're still a teenager do you know what I'm saying it's a little bit harsh so I would say you know like the whole thing with the games and the girls and trying to find someone with friends and benefits sometimes it's good as a younger guy to go for an older woman because sometimes an older woman is more likely to give that to you but I think you you're still too young to get an older woman because I think 19, like that woman said last night, is just way too young.

When you're 21, it's a different story. You could go for a 35-year-old, you know? But 19, I don't know. I think it's a little young, too. I totally get it. You have to go for girls your age. But I think it's really hard to find girls on or regular girls. I mean, like right now in your life, I feel like because you're still a virgin and you sound like a sort of a decent normal dude that, like you say,

you just might think a little bit too much. You're better off, are you on, like, regular dating sites? No. You know, you're better off, I think, just trying to hook up and get and do things with, like, regular girls at this point in your life than to go straight into something like, you know, some freaky person on adult friend finders that's going to do weird shit with you. I don't know, you know, because I think that you're, your issue now is just you just don't

really get women and you're not really comfortable being yourself. but once you get past that, you'll be fine. And women nowadays are pretty promiscuous. I feel like if you, like, you know, hook up and get involved with somebody, they're going to have sex with you if you could get into a relationship. Like, why don't you – isn't it normal for people your age to go on, like, websites, like Tinder or any of that stuff? Like, why don't you do stuff like that?

I don't know. I never thought about doing a website like that. Yeah, you should. People do it all the time now. Plenty of fish, I think, is really young. Tinder, you know. you have that app and you do Tinder and you could find people that live down that are down. That's totally distance related and everybody's on there and it's all through Facebook and shit.

And people hook up really fast on that. I think you should broaden your horizons besides adult friend finders and just try to find regular girls to hook up with. Besides, listen, you might wind up finding somebody that's just going to screw you on adult friend finders eventually. But I think you should try other stuff as well. Okay. Do you have any other questions for me or do you still? want to talk about the whole thing with girls and texting?

Yeah, I do actually want to ask something else. Sure. So have you I noticed you've looked at my profile. Uh-huh. Have you looked at any of my pictures? No, there was only no, there was only one picture. Listen,

I look, when I'm trying to find people on adult frontfinders, I look at people's dicks all day long. Like all you guys, every guy just has a picture of their big hard to cock in your face. Your picture that I saw, the only one I saw, is a picture kind of of like you and, like, I don't know, what are those kind of underwear called,

the long ones? Boxers. Boxers, yeah, you, a picture of you and your boxers, that's all. I don't tend to look at all people's pictures and stuff. I'm honestly not on there trying to hook up, even though people that call me from there, I think they think I secretly do, but it's not. Even my Craigslist people, after I get off the phone and do a podcast,

with them. I can't tell you how many times they asked me out or they send me dick pics. But I really just do this for my show. So no, I didn't look at your other pictures, but you want me to critique the picture that you have that I did see? Is that what you're looking for? I mean, yeah, if you could tell me what you think. Well, listen, it's so hard. You know, guys and girls, what you need to know is men and women are just

sort of wired differently. So, you know, I think, first of all, with the, so with pictures, you know, does a woman look at a guy, to tell you and think, oh my God, I want to fuck him just from looking at his picture, just like you, I know you would feel that way if you saw a big pair of tits in your face, but girls are a little different. I think if you're really well hung and you're really, but, you know, something like that could push your girl to be interested because especially a girl that's interested in, you know, someone that's well hung. But besides that, I think, you know, in your

profile, they ask a lot of questions on adult front finder. Like, they ask how big your dick is and like all kinds of things. And you have a lot of average. You consider yourself average on a lot of those questions. You don't have anything that interesting on there that maybe would jump out to a girl, and there's not a lot of information. How many pictures do you have besides the one picture of you and your boxers? I think like 14. Yeah, 14.

And what are your other pictures? Nah, just mostly my cock. So you just have just pictures of your hard cock on there for girls to see. Are you like a dick pick guy? Like, do you like to send pictures of your dicks to people? because I know people like that and I've always been obsessed with trying to get a dick pick guy on my show. Are you into sending pictures of your dick to people? I don't do it very often.

Oh, you don't? Like if I'm texting normal, I don't do it. Right. You do it with people from- I like to do it. I don't. You do like to do it. Yeah.

How come? Like, what is the deal? And I'm only asking this as a woman who's been on the receiving end and women, I don't think we understand it. And I think guys that are in, are don't send dick picks. they don't understand it either. Only people that send them understand it. I've had two guys in my life, but one was a boyfriend,

like a guy I was dating, and one was just like somebody that was trying to date me, just said incessant dick pics, like all the time. Like, you know, it was almost like instead of saying, hello, it would just be a picture of the dick. Like, is that what you like to do? No, no, no, no, no. I think for me it's just because I'm a virgin trying to find my way

and I don't really know what's going on and I kind of need to get this first. walk out of my system. Yeah. Okay, you make some money at your sandwich shop, right? Like, did you ever think, and your mom would kill me if she heard me say this? Did you ever think of, like, getting like a hooker or an escort, you know, somebody like paying for it just to get it out of the way? No, I don't want to pay for it.

Why not? It's illegal. Oh, right, right, right. Yeah, that's who would probably be upset if I, the cops, actually, not your mother, the cops. That's who I don't want to hear what I'm saying. Okay. Yeah, it's totally illegal, but, you know, right. So you're just too paranoid to get busted.

Let me ask you this. If you were in Vegas, right, where it is legal, say you just, like, pretend you live there, and you could go in to the Bunny Ranch and just pay for, like, the girl of your dreams with a big pair of huge tits and you just screw her and get it over with and pay for it. Would you? Probably. Right. So it's really the illegal thing, right?

Because, I mean, you know, that could help. You just need somebody to lose your virginity to. When did you start jerking off? How old were you? I'd say about 13. 13. So you started jerking off like pretty late in life, right? Like don't you think normally guys start jerking up way earlier?

I don't know. I don't know either. I know my friends. Right. But all your friends get late and you're the only one that doesn't? Yes. Yeah, I don't understand it. And I don't, and it's like interesting that you would find yourself on it.

How did you find out of adult friend finder? I was watching porn and then an ad came up. Right. And like how come you're totally hooked on that, but you haven't sort of also try the regular things as well? Is it because you're just focused on just getting laid with a girl? You don't want a relationship? No, honestly, I was just extremely horny the day that it happened.

With the day that you put yourself on a dull friend binder? Yeah. Yeah, that's how it works, right? That's hilarious. That's like buying sex toys. a woman like you get like really horny then you go on the website and you buy all the stuff and then it comes when you're not horny and you're like oh what was they thinking and then you're horny again and you use it but so I guess that's just how it happened where you like you were horny in the moment

you thought like it's kind of turned you on to put pictures of yourself on there yeah and you haven't met any and you haven't met any girls I mean right not in person no and let me tell you I've talked to a couple other guys on the site you know through my podcast and this They don't meet girls. They have a hard time meeting girls on this site, too, that are just looking for sex. You know who finds girls that are just looking for sex? Guys in bars. Like, I just think alcohol makes everybody a lot more promiscuous.

I know I'm giving you really, like, I'm giving you illegal advice. I'm giving you, like, unhealthy advice. I'm like, go get a hooker. Go get a girl drunk. Like, these are the ways that most people get laid nowadays. Do you know what I mean? You just don't hang out in bars because you're too young. I honestly don't want to drink

You don't want to drink Have you ever gotten drunk or ever drank Or ever smoked weed or anything? No And you never have any desire to or try anything Or be curious for any of it? No Okay but you're never

What about your friends? Do they drink at all? They do Right so you go out with them right Yeah And they're drinking And then you like your gang of friends I know when you're young like your age

You hang out in gangs right like our groups posseys right like you go out like do you have girls that are involved in your group that you guys are always hanging around with

no but you when you go out do you meet girls no not not usually no but okay not you I know you have this issue but your guy friends like where do you guys go out at 19

like where do you hang um honestly if we go out we usually just go out to eat somewhere so you guys a bunch of guys go out and you eat food

at a table and then you leave, but I mean, like, what do you do on the weekends, like, at night? Do you go to the malls? Do people at your age go to the malls? Like, where do people at your age go? It's like to the strike from the rest of the pack. We don't really like to do where we're around a lot of people we know. Right. So where do you hang out in the woods? No. Um, to be honest, you haven't really hung out in a while since we all go to school in different places. You go to college? I do. So in your call, are you living in college or are you like commuting to college? No, I'm living here. Okay, so you're in a college atmosphere. There's got to be like parties, partying going on around. I don't go to parties. Okay, but why

don't you? Why don't you go to some parties? You don't have to drink? Yeah, but you can't communicate with people when you're sober and they're not. I know. Trust me. Just so you know, I don't drink for life. I live in New York City. I partied my ass off my whole life. I quit drinking about 11 years ago. I don't drink. There's nothing more irritating for me than to go to a bar because there's a certain point where people just get like beyond drunk and I can't even communicate and it's like just like talking to someone that's speaking a different language, right? Like I get that. But there is a certain point in the beginning of a party or the beginning before people get totally drunk that if you're sort of dealing with people that are kind of drunk, like maybe you could meet some people. You repeat that please?

I kind of lost that last part. It's okay. Like maybe if you just go to a party and you don't stay there the whole. time and when everyone becomes annoying drunk, you leave. But in the beginning, when people are just kind of loose and just kind of buzz, like, maybe you can meet somebody and maybe you can meet a girl and take her home before she gets too drunk and then maybe, like, screw her because she's a little tipsy. You know what I'm saying?

Yeah. I mean, you don't go to parties at all? I went for one and I didn't like it. How come? You seem a little rigid. No, I just, I didn't, I just couldn't communicate with anything. girls there. Because they were too drunk? Yeah. Right. And so no girls, because girls didn't get there until after everybody was already extremely drunk. Uh-huh. So then they had to catch up. So they just

started to get like really drunk. And if you're not drinking, you're like, it's like you can't sort of relate, which I get, but it's just, I'm just saying like, you know, drunk people lose their inhibitions and a lot of people have sex because of alcohol. I have a lot less sex because I don't drink than when I drink. Do you understand? It's just the way that it goes. Yeah. So you're, I mean, I've only had another guy that called into my show who, I mean, he had to lose his virginity with a hooker. I think his friends bought him one. And he doesn't get laid that off in our pickup girls. And he has the same thing he doesn't drink.

So it makes it totally that much harder. Do you know what I mean? And that's why your mind is going all the time because you're so like sort of clearheaded constantly, which isn't a bad thing at all. You know what I mean? It's not bad to be sober. It's not bad to be that way. but it makes it harder to just sort of do what you're doing, especially because you want to have just like meaningless sex with women.

And most people do that or most girls are going to do that when they're kind of intoxicated. You know, it's just the way that it goes. Do you go to strip clubs? No, they change the law here. Oh, okay. And what about like, do you have girls in your class? Like, do you have any girls that are your friends?

I currently don't. Um, I just kind of, kind of got pissed at all women at some point a few months ago. Oh, God. Why do you get, okay, why did you get pissed at all women a couple months ago? What happened? I didn't necessarily get pissed at all women. But the thing is, there was this girl I liked for a long time. Uh-huh.

But I actually didn't really want to have sex with. I actually just wanted her relationship. Uh-huh. But she treated me like shit, and I just didn't want to date anymore. Right. Then I just tried finding some kinds of benefits, and I wasn't really making that a point, but I was just talking to girls. And the last three girls that gave me their numbers would ignore me on the first day of texting. Okay.

All right. Now, these three girls, first of all, how long did you date that first girl that sort of pissed you off and treated you like shit? Oh, we never dated. I was just always trying to. We never dated. We were just, it's hard to explain. No, I get it. I've had every kind of relationship.

I totally get it. You were like trying to date her. You guys were like sort of dating. Dating sometimes doesn't mean you're in a relationship, right? You were like me, were you guys fooling around at all, like making out anything? No. So she knew you liked her though, right? Yeah.

There was flirting going on. Yeah. And she just always treated you like shit or did she start treating you like shit because something weird happened? No. I was always afraid to admit it. for a long time. That you liked her? Yes.

And you guys... So she thought you were just her friend. She did, but she always had a thought in the back of her mind. Okay. And then what happened? And then when I decided... And then we kind of had a falling out. And we didn't talk for a long time.

When we started talking again, I decided I was going to make things right. And if it came up. Mm-hmm. And it was coming up. and I kept trying to get her to go out with me, and she kept having to cancel. You know, if you don't want to hang out at me, then just tell me. Right.

And she said, I'm sorry, but I can't put everything down. I have things planned, and I just can't put everything down for you. So we didn't talk for a couple of days. And then I was like, look, I really like you. And then she said that you can't push that, that I can't push that on her. Right. that I can't push on her that I like her, which, I mean, I think it's in very ungrateful response. Well, listen, it's just that, like, unfortunately, sometimes all the stars have to align for people to, like, sort of date.

It's, like, weird, you know, because a lot of times it's just, like, timing, you know, like, somebody will think, oh, you're pushing it on them that you like them. Some other girls, you know, you'll feel that that way, that they're doing it to you. You know what I mean? I mean, you guys have been friends for a little while, right? Like, I mean, for you, it wasn't like you were pushing it. at that point you really liked her. She just wasn't on the same page yet. You know, and the problem in that is like,

it's not like you're right or wrong to be sort of at the place where you want things to move on. If she doesn't, that just means it's like bad timing between the two of you. Unless you could keep your trap shut and sort of wait around to see if she's going to wind up liking you, but a lot of times that doesn't even happen. So, you know, at that point, it's just like if she's not ready and you are, then it's just bad timing and you have to cut your losses, unfortunately.

And that sucks when you like somebody. It's, you know, but a lot of times that's what happens. You know, you're just not on the same page. I've had enough of her. Yeah, fuck her. And like, honestly, listen, a lot of times younger girls like to be treated like shit. It's just some weird phenomenon when they get a little older that changes. She only did scumbags.

And I think she's banging like these four dudes in a shitty rock band. Right. So that's the kind of girl she is. So you're not going to get anywhere by being like a decent. guy. I mean, I think it's pretty, like, great of you to just be completely honest with a girl and send those texts and you're doing all this, like I said, sober. Like, you're a good guy. Like a girl that really does want a boyfriend and wants a real relationship is really ready, would be lucky to have a guy like you because so many guys aren't like you. You know what I mean?

They're like the dirty dudes that that girl's screwing. But unfortunately, when girls are young, for some reason, they're more attracted to those asshole types. It's just the way that it goes. You know, so this girl now that you're like, fuck her and you don't like her, the worst you treat her, like that would be the way that you got her. But you can't get a girl like that because you'll eventually turn into yourself, which is you're a nice guy. You know what mean? And you're not going to be able to ever keep her because she's not ready for a nice guy in her life. Yeah. And you know something? And as weird as it sounds for the longest time, I always was the guy who wanted to lose it to someone I love. Right. That was always me for the

longest time. And then it was really just recently where I decided fuck that. Yeah, because you're so sick of waiting for the person that you fall in love with. But the problem is, I just don't think I'm the kind of guy that can just always be an asshole of somebody and I just don't think I have it in me. No, no, you don't. That's what I'm saying. If a girl wants you to be an asshole or like, I mean, listen, a lot of girls want a guy that is an asshole, but there are girls that don't, okay? So you have to find the girls that don't because you can't fake that shit. You know what I mean? If you're a nice guy, you're a nice guy. You know what I mean? That's just the way

that it goes. So you're a relationship guy. You know, there's a difference. And that's a great guy for the right girl. You know, you just can't go for the slutty, crazy, acting out girls. And a lot of times, unfortunately, those are the hot girls. It's just the way that it goes. I was never her though. What? That was never her. That was never her, meaning what? meaning that when I met her, she was, like, the sweetest thing in the world. How old was she when you first met her? I was 17. Right.

And then how long were you guys friends before, like, things got a little bit weird and she started screwing all these, like, dirty rockers dudes? Well, here's the thing. We were friends for, like, 13 months, and then she cut me off. But I looked and went, and, you know, I had some bad things going on. family that's not. Uh-huh. Stupid me, I looked the other way about it.

You look the other way about what? About how she was treating you? Yeah. Okay. And I always kept trying to get it back. You know, that was the wrong attitude. Why, you think you should have just let her go? Yeah.

Mm-hmm. Well, I mean, yeah, I mean, you know, if you're going to cut me off when, you know, things are going wrong in my family, you know, I'm having a hard time with dealing with it, and that's not something that a friend does. Right. And then, like, October, we started, this past October, we were friends again, and really for a couple weeks before everything went down the tubes finally. Right, because you let her know what the deal was.

Listen, you were friends with her because you liked her. Like, you were using the friendship to try to get her to date you, but you don't just want to be her friend, right? No, I was friends with her for a few months before I started to like her. Right, but once you wanted... But we were deep into a friendship, and I just didn't really... want to ruin anything. Right. By liking her and wanting it to move for it. Because

basically what happened is when you did say you liked her and you wanted to move it to the next level, it did ruin things. It did. Yeah. And that, listen, it did. Listen, that's what happens if like when people are a guy and a girl's friends and one person likes the other person

if the other person isn't ready or doesn't want it just yet. Listen, your story with her might not be over. Okay? Like, you just don't know. You know what I mean? Like, you thought it was over. a while ago probably when you guys stopped talking but then you talked again you don't know what's going to happen with her you know this could be like a long drawn out fucking

dramatic story between the two of you where she comes back and she's confused and she gives you little then she runs away again like sometimes that shit happens with girls that are young and confused but when you say like she was never like that she was really sweet maybe you just didn't really know who she really was because you didn't know her for that long

well she always wanted or I don't know if she always wanted to be that but she always thought that's what she was Meaning what is she now? What do you consider that? What are you talking about? A slut? I don't want to say she's a slut because

I don't know what she's not. I haven't talked to her in a few months. Right. But what do you say? When you say she always wanted to be this, what is this? Here's the thing. She always thought that she was fat, ugly, and a slut,

which was not true. Oh, what's she on a scale of 1 to 10? Now I'd say she's, two. Oh, tell me the truth of what you thought of her when you liked her. You don't like a two. Oh, what I thought of her then? Yeah.

Oh, what I thought of her then? Yeah. I'm just looking at physical attraction? Yeah. Maybe a six. Okay, so she's a six. She's a little overweight? She's now.

She wasn't when you were with her. Okay. But for some reason you felt like underneath that rock and body, she felt like a overweight sort of girl? She has a little self-esteem. very low self-esteem. Right. And she always thought that probably one of the most, if she wasn't the most prude girl in my high school, she was definitely number two. Really?

And, yeah. Mm-hmm. Just always thought that she wasn't. Right. Even though she knew she was a virgin. She was a virgin when you were hanging out with her. Yes. Okay.

She was a virgin. She was fine with that, and I was fine with that, too. That was actually something that's right. tour. Uh-huh. Because, you know, I was too, and I thought, man. Right. But, you know, it just never worked out that way because she was always attracted to

scumbags, and I think she always wanted to be dating a scumbag that was having sex all the time and didn't care about how she looked. Yeah, because that's more about how she feels about herself. I think now she's finally happy with herself. No, she's not. But she's just, she's... She not? No, that's...

there's not happiness in that kind of acting out. Like I acted out like that hardcore when I was younger. So I completely understand girls like that. And that's why the word slut or whore, like I understand really promissuous girls that are, it's like acting out. And it comes from low self-esteem and being confused. And sometimes a woman,

like, that doesn't feel good about herself, sort of like thinks that they're getting in more control by doing stuff like that. But really what's happening is there are in less control of themselves. But, you know, that's just a way that a woman thinks she's getting control. And that, you know, unfortunately that could happen for years of her younger life before she sort of cleans up her act.

She's really young now. So it's hard when, you know, I always call people like your age like amoebas. Like you're not even formed yet. It's hard to make judgment of who, like a judgment of who somebody is and who someone's going to be when they're 19 or 20 years old. You know, she could go, this could be a phase that lasts for like a year. And then she could totally get back to her senses and realize she's not that kind of girl and she could change. It doesn't mean you can't define somebody. sometimes by just stuff that they're doing at one point in their life.

Do you know what I mean? She has issues like most people. Everyone, listen, we're all born and we all have parents and our parents fuck us all up. Like, how could they not? You know what I mean? Like, so we all have a little bit of dysfunction in us and we all act that out. And we all do that. We start to do that when we get old enough to become, you know, ourselves and do that.

So she's just acting her shit out. And you're probably right. She probably did have a part of her that needed to, want to do that. But it's not like she's happy now that she's doing that. The part of her that was attracted to you and was friends with you and did sort of want to go in that direction because she knew you liked her probably the whole time you did. And she was still, you know, staying with you. So there is a part of her that likes the good guy too. She just has that other part of her that she has to go out and be treated like shit by

the other guys for a while. Do you know what I mean? Both sides of that, both sides, probably exist for her. I knew that she did, that she must have liked me a little, because, you know, we fought all the time. But the last nine months of our friendship, we fought all the time. Right. We would always come back. You don't fight all the time, you know, do all that stuff for just a friend, and, you know, think about, you know, you don't miss them when they're not around. you don't cry when they're not talking me anymore.

I mean, don't do all that for just a time. Right. Was she doing that kind of stuff? Like, would she tell you that she would cry if you got it weren't around? Yeah. Yeah, she probably definitely did like you. For sure.

Like, that's what, like I said, like people could smell stuff from a mile away, even if they don't admit it. So if you, after a couple months, you're friends with her, you start to like her. She probably sensed that. And the fact that she wasn't like, I'm not interested,

that didn't freak her out then and she went running, means that she probably started to develop feelings for you too. She might have been confused. She might have been afraid. Like a lot of shit comes up. Like people that, like people in relationships are when they start to fall for people. Like all your vulnerabilities come up. And that's where everybody is their fucking weirdest.

It's just the way that it is. You know what I mean? People could be very normal friends, really great workers in the workplace, really great in every area of their life. But in relationships, most people are like a mess because that's where you're just, you're most vulnerable and all your shit comes up. Do you know what I'm saying? So you're just seeing her shit. You have your own shit. Do you know what I mean? And you're both really young and you're trying to work it out. But the worst thing for you to do is become bitter and hate all women. I mean,

I know that you'll go through that and you'll have a couple months where you're so, you know, because it's out of like you're hurt. She hurt you. So you close up. But, you know, the last thing you want to do is stay in that place because you got to open yourself back up and keep trying to to do what you did with her, which is try to build a relationship with somebody because that's really what you're looking for. You're on adult friend finders, but what I get from you is, like,

you really want a real relationship. You know, I get while you're on there and you just want to lose your virginity already because you're 19 and you just want to get late already. And I agree you should, you know. But you should also, you know, force yourself to go on the regular websites and try dating or Tinder or, you know,

hooking up with the girls in other ways. and having an intimate relationship with a girl that you actually would like like this girl instead of like closing off because of her. But you just might still need a little while to heal. You know, most of the time what happens is when a guy gets hurt by a girl, he does close off and he goes and he fucks a lot of girls. I mean, you're trying to fuck a lot of girls. You're not.

But a lot of times what I say is the way to see if a guy's really upset over a girl. It's the guy that's screwing tons of girls and having so much meaningless sex because that's like that comes from like a bitterness. you know what I mean? Yeah. And sort of like a hatred of women. Like you said, you got so mad at girls. So now you're an adult friend finder.

You're trying to find someone just to have sex. And that's a part of just being a man. Like you do need to get laid just physically, right? But you should try to, like, I think it's good that you're talking to me about the whole thing with the girl. Like try to resolve that more so with you, you know, that situation. So you could open back up and be open to meeting another girl. Like I said, you don't know that she doesn't come back to you eventually. Does she live on campus?

Like is she and you're, I'm assuming she goes to college with you, right? Like she's in the same college? No, she goes to a different college, but it's right around here. Right. I'm sure you haven't heard the last of her. Girls are very complicated, just so you know. And they're very confusing. I've been known that for a while.

It's probably not the end. Yeah. Probably end this year. What? Probably not the end for this year. No, probably not the end of that girl. in that story. Let her go. Let her go and screw all her dirty rock or dudes. Those guys are the worst guys to date. That's what I dated when I was younger. The worst. Okay. So let her go and do that. Forget about her for right now because that someone could smell from a mile away too. There's something about having your attention on somebody all the time that they could almost like pick up on. And so they kind of know that they still have you so she could go and do her business and think, oh, I still have that guy in the bag. The minute you start liking somebody else for real and you, and you're, you're your attention goes someplace else, your phone will ring and it'll be her or she'll text you.

Like, that shit happens all the time. Do you know what I mean? So you should try everything you can to start liking somebody else for real. Like a real girl. Do you know what I mean? Like not someone on adult friend finders. Like spend your time there and getting your rocks off and just to let people look at pictures of your dick because it turns you on.

That's fine. It's like a little fantasy you could live out. And if like say you do get to get laid off of that and lose your virginity, that would be great for you. really believe in that for you. But I think you should also try to really meet somebody else and start to get to know another girl. And I swear to you, that's when that other girl will come back to you. And by that point, you might not even care because you might be on and, you know, with a new girl. Who knows? But you should try to do that because I think that's what

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