Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 089 - Vincent Hasn't Gotten Laid in Two Years and That's not his Only Problem

Episode Date: August 31, 2015

Anthony Cumia super-fan Vincent is overweight, addicted to porn, has no job, lives at home with Mom, and he hasn't gotten laid in almost two years. He's on disability and claims he's can't work but it seems like maybe he's just stuck in a really bad rut. Is he a loser or is he just lazy? How did he wind up like this at only 31? Tune in to hear the whole story plus a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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If you want to follow the show, follow the show on Twitter at Strict Anonymous or follow me, Kathy, at Cartoon Therapy on Twitter. If you want to buy my book, I got a couple of people buying my book this week. I don't even know who they are, but it's always exciting when I go into Kindle and say, I have a book that I wrote. It's about all my bad relationships with guys. It starts off with my losing my virginity story all the way until I, turn 40 and it's kind of hilarious.

And it'll definitely make you feel better about yourself because all of my relationships were pretty horrific. The title of the book is the cartoon misadventures of a total train wreck and it is on Amazon. You could find it there. You could purchase it. It's a Kindle ebook. It's like $2.99.

I personally think it's hard to read on the Kindle even though you could make it big. You can't really expand it. It's just the way that they have it set up. So it's going to be much better as a hard copy book. And that should be out like next week. I'm just getting the cover. ready and done. So anyway, this week I have on the show, a guy named Vincent, just edited the podcast. I taped a lot of podcasts recently. So they weren't, his podcast wasn't fresh in my mind,

but I just edited it. So I heard the whole thing. And I remembered who he was when he was all about. And the deal with Vincent is, he's like a typical, like I feel like he has a typical story, though he doesn't think he's typical. He's like a guy who's like 31 and he's just sort of lost his way in life. He lives at home with his mom. He's on disability. There doesn't seem to be a reason for him to be on disability. He doesn't even really know how it happened, which sounds a little strange, but you know, you'll get the whole story when you listen to the podcast. He doesn't fuck girls yet he would like to. And he's kind of trapped. He's got no job, no girl, and no sort of future right now. And he calls in not because he wanted to, more so because it was like

this weird thing that happened on Twitter. I have a guy who follows my show on Twitter, John Hamilton. I love him. He's really cool. He's like one of my fans since the beginning. And he always tweets me and interacts with me. And I love that kind of stuff. So he's like one of my favorite fans because he's been there since the beginning. And he direct message me and said, hey, you know, you should talk to this guy.

I've been trying to help him. He's got some issues and maybe you could help him. So he pushed him on to me and then the guy called. But he said, you know, when I pose this. The reason why I love actually posting ads on Craigslist is because people that respond are people that are really at the place in their life where they really want help. And they're really at that place where they are wanting, you know, information that will help them really change their life. This guy didn't respond to an ad. It was really his friend that pushed him.

It's his friend that wants him to change. So I don't know if he's ready yet. But I feel like I gave him. I was a little tough on him. When I listened back, I was like, oh, normally I'm a little bit like, less harsh on my guests, but I was a little tough on him because I just wanted to shake him and change him. And I wanted him to be ready to do what he needs to do to change his life. I just don't know if he's there yet.

I hope he listens to this podcast a million times and listen to some of the things I said to him because I gave him really good advice. He's just a guy stuck in a rut. He's not, you know, he thinks really poorly of himself and he's not that bad of a guy. He's not a loser, though he's like living the life of one. And he's young. He's only 31. He has plenty of time. He has plenty of time to change himself. And now is the time to do it. And that's what we talk about. We talk about his life, how he got to where he's at, why he thinks he's there and what he's doing or not doing to change his situation. So I will be right back on with Vincent. Do you have a story, lifestyle, or situation you can't talk about to anyone, to anyone? Or do you just want to let your freak flag fly and be on the show? Well, Strictly Anonymous wants to hear from you.

Send us an email, Strictly Anonymous podcast at gmail.com, with your story and your anonymous name. And remember, everything is strictly anonymous. Strictly anonymous. Hey, is this Mark? Is that what we're calling you, Mark or Vincent? I have two podcasts today. I have two guys calling in today. a mark and there's a Vincent oh you're Vincent yeah okay cool yeah so yeah how you doing

how you doing Vincent so this is the deal I mean I don't know if you've listened to my podcast I think you got turned on to it by a different by one of my listeners on Twitter normally I find my yeah normally I find my callers on like my show is like a call in advice show or people call in and they reveal like their secret life so you know a lot of my stuff winds up to be about sex but this morning when I woke up I saw all these tweets from one of my regular listeners saying, oh, you should have this guy on the show and that's you, Vincent or whatever.

I mean, you could plug your Twitter name later if you want. Doesn't matter to me, but Vincent is your made-up meeting because my show is called Strictly Anonymous. So I don't really know much about you except from what I see on your Twitter feed and from what that guy said about you about why I should have you on the show. Now, I don't know if you're privy to that information.

I forget if he sent that to me in a, you know, in a private message, but I think basically how he pitched it was like, this guy needs some help with women. Yeah, he was on Twitter, and he had just, I mentioned that he does that sometimes, so he's really cool.

At Hamilton, breaking me on Twitter. He's really cool guy. He's probably the greatest guy on Twitter to ever follow. Right. So how long have you guys been chatting on Twitter? For about, just Anthonycombeau.

started. We're both fans of that show. We love it. So we started talking as soon as Anthony on fire. So, and after that, you know, we started yemming each other. We DM a lot and then

and we talk publicly. So we do both. So I talked to him more and I talked to anybody else on Twitter. Right. Well, let me ask you this. Before you got into Anthony Coomia, where you're a big opium Anthony fan, I'm assuming yes, right? Oh, of course. Yes. I love that show. I don't know.

if you remember me because there was once a time. I got like death threats from you people. Like it was hilarious. It was kind of fun for me, which was whatever, but I just really had never experienced the opi and Anthony wrath of their audience before. But Joe DeRosa, you know Robert Kelly, you know Joe DeRosa, right? You know these people from the show, I'm assuming, because you listen all the time. Do you know them? Yeah, well, actually, you know what John was telling me about you and DeRosa. Yeah, do you remember that podcast? fallout. Yeah. So there was like this...

I never heard it, but I'm going to listen to it later. I haven't heard it yet. Oh, okay. You'll hate me after the fact. Supposedly, like there was... You might fucking hate De Rosa. Oh, you do? I had him on my show. I like him. He was fine. We all made up afterwards, but the whole deal was, was I was on Robert. Robert Kelly's a good friend of mine. I was on his podcast. He sent me up with... It was one Joe DeRosa, who's also a comedian.

Robert Kelly's podcast is called, You Know What, Dude. It's a great podcast. Yeah, I love Bob Kelly. Yeah, he's great, right? And that was actually, they named it the best. podcast ever, I think. It was in, it was a couple of years ago. It wound up to be a great episode where he sent me out on a date with Joe DeRosa. And at the end of it, because I wouldn't go back home with him, and I wouldn't make out with him and I wouldn't do anything with him. He, like, flipped out on me and wanted me to pay half the bill. And I was like, oh, fuck yourself. And then it became this huge battle about like how a woman should pay if she's not interested and blah, blah, blah. And then

we came back on the show and had a recap about the date. And things got pretty vicious. Joe Walker off the show. It was like kind of crazy. And then he went around like sort of talking about it. And he went on Opie and Anthony. And let me tell you, every single person sided with him. Except a couple people that fucking hated him. And I think that John Hamilton guy was one of them. They were on my side. Why? He really listened to it. I mean, he was like a, he was like an insensitive, he was like an he was like an overly sensitive baby. And I think I still listened to it to this day. And I think I was right. You could, you know, you could do what you want with it. But let's not to. talk about that. Let's talk about you. Because this is the deal. I could go through your Twitter

feed and I could just see like you're obsessed with porn. You're like one of those people and there's a lot of people like you on Twitter. I've seen it before. You know where you know you're just like retweeting a lot of stuff, a lot of boobs, a lot of big tits, a lot of, you know, pictures of porn. Like all that kind of shit, right? And you're obsessed with those shows and those people and stuff. But like what do you do in your real life? Like what's your deal? You can't get really a sense about you. Like I can look through there and there's not much you say. You retweet a lot about a lot of things, so I get what you're into.

But, like, what's your deal in your life outside of, like, that kind of stuff? Are you dating anyone? Are you married? How old are you? I'm not dating anybody. I'm not married. I'm dirty one. Have you ever dated anyone?

Yeah, it was like, I dated somebody, but it was, like, years ago, and it ended viciously. Yeah, that always happens to everybody. I mean, never ends. You know, I had a guy on yesterday. was talking about how it ended so bad and he was like, you know, I wish it would have ended amicably. Like, I don't know, newsflash to everybody out there. Relationships never end well. And if they do, that's like two people involved in that relationship were fucking weirdos. Because if you really like somebody and you guys get into a relationship and you decide it's over, it's going to end badly.

And if it doesn't, like I said, people are weird. Like, that's weird. So everything kind of ends viciously. Like, did she cheat on you or something like really horrible? No, we were doing drinking a lot of drugs. love with and all that shit. Then it was actually a huge fight over something so fucking retarded one day. And then she ended up,

I threw something and it absolutely hit her. Okay, but let me ask you this. When you threw it, were you trying to hit her? No, I was. I was trying to hit the wall. Okay. Oh, you're one of those when you fight, you like throw shit and break your own stuff,

which is like the most stupidest thing I've ever heard of. Like, I mean, I know people like that. And it's like, what do you get out of that with breaking your own stuff? when you're angry. So you threw something. Right, right. And so how long were you dating her for?

Two years. Right. And then it just ended with a copse. And that was it. And I caught up with her a couple years later. And we were just having sex and that's all it was. But it just got to the point where I didn't really want to be around anymore. How come?

I think about her soon. I missed a sex. But, you know. How come you wouldn't just, like, bang her and, like, have a booty call with her after the fact? How come you stop that? You need to be worked for it, and I just got annoyed. She what? She was like, enough.

She didn't even be work for it. I'm like, fuck this, you know? What do you mean? Like, she wanted to be taken out to dinner and stuff like that? Yeah, she wanted me to drive her to work and see that. You know? Right. She was giving, she probably didn't want to have sex with you.

She probably was just, like, giving you that, but she wanted all the other things. Like, a lot of times it's just an exchange when it comes to women and men like that. Like, it's sad to say, you know? Whereas, like, you said, like, if you just want the sex, like, just give me the sex. if that's what it's about. Yeah, well, she got pregnant from some guys, but we both fucked her at the same time, like, you know, within two days of each other.

So, neither of us knew who the father was. Right. But she kept telling me, it was me just so I'd fucking do shit for her. I don't want to be a deadbeat. The other guy didn't give a shit about her at all. And then when did she find out? Like, did she, I'm assuming she did some sort of paternity task

and found out it wasn't you? Well, she got an abortion eventually. Oh. Yeah. Well, it's good for both of us. But. Okay, so you guys stopped having sex. So what's your deal now?

Like, I mean, and like, why would John Hamilton, just knowing you through Twitter say, hey, like, why don't you have this guy on your show and give him some advice? He needs, like, a push with women. Like, are you, do you feel like sort of maybe, you know, gun shy with women now because of that relationship? Because I think that that happens a lot of times with both men and women. I live at home with my mom. I'm on disability. You know, I can't just hold a job more to 20 minutes.

How come? What are you on disability for? Mental problems. I have fucking, like, I can't get out of the job. Okay, wait, wait, wait. What are your mental problems? I, you know what? I honestly don't know.

I don't know where one day I got a phone call for you going to disability. And I said, okay. From who? I mean, who did you get the call from, like your boss? No, I just got to call from some government guys. Okay, well, maybe your mom put that in for you or somebody maybe close to you, maybe filed for it for you? I don't know.

Why can't you hold jobs? What happens to you? I'm held with it seven months. And I just start, I think I lose interest after a while and I just can't get back into it no matter what I do. Okay, but that's not, that's just called being like maybe not interested doing something. Maybe you're like doing the wrong thing in life. Like what did you go to, did you go to like, you're 31?

Is that what you said? Yeah. Okay. Like, did you ever go to college or like what did you always want to do with your life? And what kind of jobs have you had? I never had any aspirations when I was younger years ago Like this whole

You know When I got into an ONA I figured to myself You know I would love to do radio That's it You know Okay

Why you start your own podcast Oh I mean I've heard from people You gotta actually have Be a celebrity Before you start a podcast Or nobody who you are Nobody knows who the fuck I am

And I get like a thousand listeners a week Seriously you don't need to have any You could just do a podcast Like from your house like seriously you just need some equipment I would love to you know it would be really cool I love called in You should do it let me you know what we'll do after this podcast I actually taped an episode with a with somebody who I called into my show Because he wanted me to teach him how to start his own podcast because Robert Kelly was the one who taught me and he gave me like the the quick way of like you know all the information that I would need to set up my own podcast So I taped it I put it on tape because I was gonna put it out there as a

podcast but then I figured the people that listen to my show probably don't want that information so I've just had that in you know in my on my computer so I'll send it to you and you should listen to it and you know you know if you want to start a podcast it's going to be all the information that you need to do it and you're basically not working and you're sitting home so and if it's what you love to do you may wind up doing that and not get bored of that maybe you just get bored of you the stuff because you're not into it not because you're crazy yeah well yeah oh yeah well I just I was not into it I was and when I was working I was working at a job and I really loved.

It was a, you know, bullshit job, so I really liked it. What was it? We were at Lowe's. You were working at Lowe's. Okay, and so you liked working at Lowe's, and what happened? Yeah, but I moved to another department. What department were you in that you loved? Oh, I love being, the fucking positions I had, I loved it because it required me to be outside.

You know, pushing carts required me to be away from customers and away from bosses and all that shit. And I fucked that up. How come? By moving, I'm sorry. Oh, by moving. Why can't you go get a job doing that? Carts or shit like that outside with another company? I'm sure that's available.

Oh, because you're on disability now. You'd cut out your cash, right? Yeah, well, now I'm helping my mom pay her bills. So I figured I got to see on there for a little while longer. She's working back at a, you know, I pay a mortgage for her and all that. So being on disability helps. you right now. It's like the cash. How much you get on disability? A month. Eighthundred a month. Okay. How long you've been on it for?

Four years. Yeah, that's so weird. It's like somebody's like making you believe that you're crazy and you're probably not crazy. You're probably a little like, you know, don't know. A lot of people don't know what they want to do in their life for a long time. Like that's why I think it's like such bullshit that they force kids to go to college, you know, at 20 and figure out what they want to do for the rest of their life because you don't even know who you are at 20. I'm like you're like an amoeba at that point. I think when you get in your 30s, you really start to figure yourself out. So I think sometimes people don't really realize what they want to do or they think something like you. They think, oh, I want to be on the radio. But then you think, oh, I can't do that. You know what I mean? I'm not good enough for that because you don't want to set your sights so high. I don't know. But you should try to do whatever it is that you want to do. You only live once. Like I got to tell you, you're going to fucking die. Like that really happens to people. So it's like, you know, you don't want to waste your your time. You know, you want to do something. You're probably just like, I mean, the fact that you're on disability and you're told that you're too crazy to work is kind of bullshit. And I don't know if it's you bullshitting the system or somebody bullshitting the system so that you're on it.

Or maybe you really are crazy or you're not really giving me all of the information. No, no, I swear. It just came out of fucking nowhere. Like, you know, it just happens so quick. I have no idea, you know, where it came from. But I just went with it because it was just. Free cash. At the time, I was drinking.

Yeah, fuck. We crashed, yeah. And I was drinking really heavily at the time to those stuff. I figure it's a new way to get paid to sit home or get drunk all night. Right, but that's going to cock block you from women because you're going to go on a date and what are you going to say, oh, I'm on disability

and I don't have a job and I live with my mom. Like, that's your problem, right? Yeah, that is. And I told John that on Twitter, and so, you know, but I think he, and I appreciate him doing this, but I think he referred me to you because he sees my Twitter account, you know,

just women constantly like you saw so yeah is that just out of boredom I mean because you have nothing else going on yeah it is I get bored I mean easily and I get irritated but I don't even know how I would I haven't had a job in here

yeah that's not good for somebody that has like somebody that has a brain or mind that gets bored very easily you know that's like the worst thing for somebody like you to do right because you're gonna then your brain's gonna like glom onto something to sort of get a addicted to so it could just like ruminate over something and you know for you it's like porn and

you know pictures of girls tits like it's all over your your feed right and like I said I've seen a lot of guys like that and I'm sure it's the same thing it's just like strictly boredom it's somebody that's not really living their life in real life you know and you're just like living it in your head and you're taking like a big fat pause you know for four years but you know you're pretty young and it's like it's a total waste because you know at third 31. Let me ask you this. What do you rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10? Like looks wise.

The whole package. I still got a beer of gut and all that shit. I just trust in. I'll get near 10. Well, what are you? One to 10? What do you say you are? Maybe four.

Okay. So you're just, you don't really look so great. You're four. What would you have rated yourself at the time when you dated that girl? Were you more than a four back then? Oh, I was so skinny. I was a lot better back then. So you tend to gain weight.

So you've gained weight, you've gained weight, and that's taking you down a bunch of notches, is what you're saying? Yeah, I was very skinny, very skinny. I started drinking, and I just said to wait never went away. Right, have you stopped drinking or you're still drinking? Okay, I'm sober 12 years. You're sober two years, and the weight didn't come off when you quit?

Because a lot of times it really drops off when you stopped drinking, because there's a lot of sugar and alcohol. You know, alcohol turns to sugar, so it's just like very fattening. I know when I quit drinking, people thought I had anorexia because I'm skinny to begin with. And I didn't really realize when I quit drinking how much I needed to, you know, add those calories back in. Because once I quit, I lost so much weight. It was like a little bit weird, you know. And then eventually my body evened out and I can't eat whatever I want anymore.

And it's not like I lose weight naturally. But for you, even though you quit two years ago, you didn't lose all the weight. No, I quit once, didn't relapse. Again, the second time when I started drinking again, then the weight went away the first time I quit drinking. Because I was working out a lot. But I can't get into the whole working out again again. The first time I was doing it like crazy. The second time I quit drinking again, I just, I...

Did you get bored of that too? Did you get bored of that too? Very fucking, oh my God. Right, that's what happens to you. You get bored of a lot of things. Let me just tell you something that, like, I think that sometimes. people don't really understand. A lot of things in life, like whether it's working out or working a job or whatever, like there's always like negatives to stuff. Like, I mean, nobody that works out all the time consistently for years, like loves it all the time and doesn't get bored of it.

The difference between, you know, those people and you is that when they get bored of it, they just fucking continue. And you have to have that self-discipline in life that when things get tough or difficult or boring or whatever, that until you find something else, like whether it's another. job or if it's working out and it works for you and it's good for you, you just got to fucking stick with it or try to find different ways to work out that'll, you know, entertain you. I don't know if the problem is you get bored of anything or you just haven't figured out what it is that you really like to do to keep yourself fit, what you really like to do as far as jobs are concerned. Do you know what I mean? But you're like wasting your life away. A, you have the, you're fat, you live with your mom, you're on disability, which is total bullshit.

And you can't fuck girls in real life. So you just have like this Twitter feed that just makes you look kind of like a desperate loser. And you're probably not. You had a girlfriend at one time, right? You had jobs. You have thoughts in your head. You're still young. You're 31 years old.

If you're 51 years old and you're still like this, you definitely will be a full-fledged loser, right? Right now you're still young enough to change that shit around, right? Yeah. And you have to. It's very important. I just don't know what to do I don't know where to go right now What do you mean you don't know what to do?

It's not easy It's just it's impossible to find a job now And it's just I don't know Well no Okay listen you don't it's not You're not probably not looking Because like you said You have to stay on disability

For a little while longer right Because you're paying your mom's bills Or whatever Do you have it in your mind How long you have to do that for? How much longer? I have I really

I have fucking you have no idea right now I would have to look into it I don't know I just, everything's scrambled. I have no answers right now. You have no what? Everything is always, you know, no answers.

Everything is, oh, I don't know yet. I don't know yet. From your mother, you mean her, she doesn't give you answers? Well, you don't have the answers for yourself. Well, it's not her. It's just my family and all that. She works with my family and all that stuff. We don't know what happens.

What does she do for your family? When you say she works for your family, what does she do? She watches my infant cousin. Wow. You know, my aunt's at work. Right. So she gets money for that. Yeah.

And then she gets money from you. Yeah, she gets money from me. And she, um, but they're opening a massage place. She what? My aunt is opening a massage place. Uh-huh. So there might be more shit going on.

So I might be maybe, you know, I might be helping my aunt with that, you know, maybe working in an office. Maybe I can meet people and get off this shit, you know? Oh, you're going to get really bored of office shit. Okay, listen. That's not going to, working in a massage place with, I don't know. Is it a legitimate massage plane?

Yeah. It's a franchise. Okay. You're going to get bored of that too. Okay. You already know yourself. You know that you like to be outside. You hate dealing with people. And I get that. I think it's very hard to service to work in the service industry and deal with the public. Okay. Because people are just fucking irritating. Okay. So I totally understand that. You know. You know that about yourself. You like, you'd rather push carts, okay, for like probably $6 an hour. then deal with people. So you are not going to be happy in a police dealing with people coming in for a massage. You will get irritated with that very fast.

So don't look for that to be like your end all, be all, if I were you. I try and figure out like, you know, you say you have no answers, but you could get, you have to start thinking about like the answers and the solutions to your problem. Because, you know, your life is in your hands. If you want to get fucked in real life because you probably just jerk off a lot, you're going to have to change your situation. Like when was the last time you got laid with a real girl? New Year's Eve, not last year.

This year, New Year's Eve, 2014-15 or the year before that? Year before that. So almost two years, you haven't fucked a real person in real life? No. What about blow jobs, anything, making out? Like anything with any girl, or was that the last time you had any kind of physical contact with a female? Yeah, that's it. Yeah, that's really bad, especially because you're a guy that really likes sex, right?

I see your Twitter thing. You're just like obsessed with it, right? Now is the time. Yeah, but you like, you love porn now because you can't, you're too, you just literally have gotten yourself so far away from real life that that's why porn is great for you. But like, you could actually live a real life come out of the fucking closet and you could actually like fuck girls in real life. Like, wouldn't you rather do that?

I mean, I'm not saying porn is bad and porn is great. And for someone like you, it's probably like your lifeline right now. But you're still really young and you should be banging real girls in real life. Yeah. You're not going to do that if you feel fat and gross. Okay, listen, there's plenty of guys that are fours that could find chicks. Okay. I really believe that.

I always say this. Like watch an episode of intervention and you'll see a person in a fucking puddle on drugs and then you'll see his wife or her husband run out and save her. You know, there's somebody for everybody. so really, you know, if you were a four... I was never good with women, though. What? I was never good with women, though. Like, I was never, even when I was a teenager or when I was working,

it was just never, ever lucky with women, no matter what I did. How did you get that one girlfriend? She was, you know, she was fucked up like me, so, you know. You think that there aren't other fucked up people like you, especially in Florida? You live in Florida. I'm sorry to out your state, but Florida is filled with tons of weirdos, okay?

For every weirdo, there's another weirdo, okay? You're not like, I think what a lot of people get stuck on thinking, and it's kind of egotistical, is that like, you're the only one that's so weird, and we could all get trapped in our minds and think we're so different and we're so weird and no one can relate. And, like, trust me, like, I see a million people like you on Twitter. You're not really that weird. You know, you're like a lot of people. You're just stuck in a rut, you know, and you need to get out. And you need to stop, like, sort of creating these ideas about yourself in your head. Like I said, there's fat guys that are fours that.

fuck girls and have girlfriends because they don't feel like they they can't even though they look like that because there's other fours there's girls that are fours that you could meet okay but you have it in your head that you've put yourself down like a thousand times in this podcast you know you think you're too weird you think you're gross you think you're too fat so of course you're not going to meet anybody because you feel terrible about yourself right so you know who do you need to be for yourself to meet chicks you need to be skinnier you need to have a job you need to have some cash and you need to maybe not be living with your mommy anymore. You're 31 years old.

You need to get your shit together. I know, you need to get, but what was she doing before you started helping her pay bills? She was working, I don't know, some job over there. I don't remember what. Why don't you get your mom to work in that massage place with your aunt when that is? Okay, so she'll get money there.

So then maybe you could like stop giving her money? Yeah, then I'm going to do something else. and, you know, with that all that shooting that started, and most likely I'm willing to do something else. Yeah. If I can't work there, I'll probably get a job somewhere else, but, you know, just helping her off right now. Right.

Listen, sometimes people do things that they don't want to do because it's the easy way, right? It's a lot, it's very easy to go work for your aunt in something that she sort of just spoon feeds to you because that's easier than going in, you know, sort of working in a place where you don't know anybody and doing job interviews and applications and all that stuff. That's like the harder thing.

But I don't know that the easiest solution is always, the best thing. I don't think that you'll, I think you'll eventually get really bored of working on a massage place. So I think it, you know, instead of just taking the easy way out, why don't you start having some balls and like facing your fears and really putting yourself back out there in your life to really change it? Do you have health insurance? Yeah, I do. So do you ever see a therapist? Like, have you ever had any like psychological counseling and help? Do you need to do that because you're on disability? Like, do they require you to do something like that so that you're like, yeah, I go week list. Yeah. A what?

I go weekly. A what? A week list? Yeah, I'll go weekly to a therapist. Oh, okay. And how does that work for? Do you like your therapist? Yeah, she's awesome. I like her. She's awesome. Does she help you? Yeah, she has helped me a lot. How long you've been seeing her for?

A couple years. Right. See, this is why I never became a therapist because therapists can't really shove their opinions down people's throats and they can't really like push them to do things because They're not really allowed. You have to like really wait for people to sort of come to the conclusions themselves and when they're really ready. I'm not a therapist.

I give unprofessional advice. And I love shoving my opinions down people's throats. Like if I was at your house right now, I fucking shake you. I'd kick you out of the house. I'd drive you around. I'd force you to go into places like fucking shop right and just get a job pushing cards. I'd, you know, tell your mother she's got to get a job so she has to pay for it. And I'd make you stop eating so you could lose weight and get you to the gym.

Okay. these are the things, though, that you have to do for yourself. Because if not, you're just going to be like, you know, five years is going to go by. The older you get the more quick time goes by, right? And you're just like time is two years that have gone by and you haven't fucked a real girl. Sex is actually a really great thing in life. And you're missing out on it at a very young age and it's bad. It's one thing if you're like 70 years old and you can't get late anymore.

Like everybody kind of understands. But you're 31. You're kind of in your prime. Yeah, I know. It's just like I said, never had luck with women. I mean... No, you got a girlfriend once. You got a girlfriend once.

You don't have luck with women because do you try now to get women? Not anymore. Right. When did you try and how would you fail? Let me ask you this. When you would try, because you haven't been tried for two years, you've been off the map, right? Like, and you haven't been working for four years. You've been fat.

So you haven't really been out there trying. So when you did try and you failed, like what was the deal? Like, what was your rap and why did it? did not work. I don't know. The same shit you'd seen fucking, like, you know, stagget fucking rompoms.

Like, you know. Ashting girls out, all that shit, you know. Wait, wait, but tell me specifically, what? You would ask girls out and they'd say no? Oh, yeah. Mm-hmm. Oh, and I fucking, actually, I wish you would say no. They would come up with some cunty fucking excuse me.

Let me ask you this, though. When you were skinny, before you were a four, what were you before? Like, what was the best that you could be? Like, a six, a seven, and eight. a five, like what are you when you're at your best? Like best shape, working, have a job. Like, what would you rate yourself?

I mean, I have long hair. Absolutely. Okay, so when you're an eight, were you going after girls that were 10.5s, or were you going after, like, eights or sevens? Because I think a lot of guys go after girls that are way out of their league. I see guys have such nerve trying to hit on girls that are so much better than them. And it's like, then they get sort of, you know, let down or that, you know, rejected and they're surprised, you know. And just like, I think that people should really fish in their own league.

And maybe people will be horrified that I say that. But I think that that's the way that it should be. Like, were you fishing out of your league? Or were you going for girls that are like get a bowl for you? Maybe I was. I mean, I don't know. Thoughts objective. So, I mean, if you look back in the time, I guess you want to, if you want to, if you were, if

you saw them and saw me and all that, I guess you was with your own opinion. I don't know. Right, but did you feel, you felt like they were within your league and it was what you were interested in or attracted to? Yeah, maybe.

But like were you high on drugs and wasted and acting really sloppy? No, I wasn't doing a drug friend, no. No? So you got rejected a lot? Yeah. A high school, everything. Okay, listen, a lot of people,

I was hanging out. Yeah. I was hanging out with a girl that had like mental problems just so I had to want to talk to. So I've never had a woman. That's okay. That's okay. No, listen. Okay.

You had a girl in high school that had mental problems, but you supposedly have mental problems. So like maybe you guys had a lot of common. Oh, okay. What about you? Have you ever been suicidal? No, never. Never? Okay.

Yeah, I don't think you're that as mental as you think you are. I think maybe you're a little lazy and maybe you don't know how to get. get to that part of you that like sort of has that the discipline that you need to stick with things and stuff and you know that sometimes when you're that kind of person it makes things really difficult you know I have like intense discipline and that really helps and I know that some people just don't have that in them and they have to like sort of try really hard to have discipline when things get tough to work through it but you know for you when you met that girl the girl that you dated is that the girl from high school that had mental problems

the girl you dated for two years? Did you pick her up in a bar and she didn't reject you? No, I picked her up. I was at night school and I picked her up. Mm-hmm. I didn't know fucking her tonight. I met her. Right, and then you dated her for two years.

Yeah. Listen, some guys that, you know, have never fucked a girl and that are virgins at whatever age they are, would say that, you know, you don't have such bad luck. You meet a girl and you fuck her the first night. That's not bad. Yeah. Right? Yeah, then we ended up dating. Yeah, it was awesome.

But so, you know, she never started tricking and when drugs and all that. And then, you know, it would probably would have worked out better. But her father was doing her drugs and she's going to. Right. Listen, shit goes down and shit doesn't work out. And that's just life. Okay. Most people are not going to meet.

The first person they meet, they're not going to marry and spend the rest of their life with. I've had, you know, 80,000 boyfriends and had 80,000 endings. You know, that's just the way that it goes, right? You get bored really easily. So I don't know how long you're going to be happy with one woman anyway, okay? So two years is a good run. There's nothing wrong with that. You were in your 20s, right?

You had a girlfriend for two years. That's a success. I think that that's great. And she ended and whatever. You're probably better off for it. But now you're in a massive rut and you need to have the balls to put yourself back out there and you have to stop putting yourself down. And you have to stop living in high school.

I'm sorry, but high school is not the end-all deal. There's so many people that were... No, not. Believe me. No, but you talk about it like as if you're bad. Yeah, but there are tons of people that were bad in high school. It didn't get ass in high school. And they change things around when they're older.

Okay. Most of the people that were popular in high school turn out to be the biggest losers when they're older. And a lot of the nerds in high school or what, you know, turn out to be the most successful. And they get the most bitches because they have the most money. So you can't go by high school. You've been out of high school a long time. Who cares if you were a loser in high school that couldn't get girls? You're a 31-year-old man now.

Do you know what I'm saying? You need to like realize that and forget about who you were in high school. You need to lose your beer gut, right? And that's just a matter of like, you know, maybe changing your diet and figuring out how to eat better and maybe being more active and working out a little bit. Even if you don't want to work out every day, you know, work out more than you do. Anything that you do different at this point right now will make a difference in your life. Do you understand? Yeah.

But just, I just miss my ex-girlfriend. Oh, get over your ex-girlfriend. How long has it been? 10 years. You don't get over a girl that swallow. Excuse me? You don't get over. Lots of girls swallow.

I swallow all my life. There's plenty of girls that swallow, okay? Seriously. Maybe she's the only girl. Was she the only girl you fucked in your life? Like, honestly. How many girls have you slept with in your whole life? No, I've slept with.

Okay, what is a few? A few they say is three. How many girls have you really slept within your life? Can you count? Four. Okay, and she was the only one that swallowed. Yeah. Okay, well, I'm going to tell you as a woman who talks to a lot of people.

I live in New York City, you know, a lot of people that you have sex. I'm 46 years old. I've been around the block myself. There's a, like, you know, you've only been with four girls, one out of four girls swallows. That's probably like a good, like statistic. That's probably what it is. Like probably every one in every four girls. swallows. If you do four more girls,

you'll find another girl who swallows. Like, that's just a fucking fact, okay? She's not the only girl that swallows. She's just your last girl, and that's, you know, you want to say, oh, you want to make a joke, like she's the only girl that swallows. I can't forget about her. But it seems like you're holding onto the past,

and you need to let go of that. Because you just feel like you can't find anybody else. What? My president is not too exciting. So, I, you know. No, I know. I get that. I could tell by your Twitter feed that you just like sit home and you like live in this fantasy world of porn with all these hot girls that you're never going to get and you're just and that's like a waste

of your life because you're really you're still really young and you could really turn everything around for yourself but you have to make that choice and it is hard but you know the payoff is great like you could have real blow jobs real girls swallowing a real girlfriend so you could finally forget about the girl from 10 years ago okay like you need to get over that shit. But you're only going to get over her when you get another girl. Really, what are your real issues?

You don't really seem to have that big of any problems. You're just like your own worst enemy. What are your issues? I don't know. I just, and now talking to a girl that's actually in the end. Yeah, you're talking to a girl that's in New York

end. Yeah, but it just seems very, that's not going to happen. You know what I'm saying? How did you meet her? And what's going on her because maybe she's catfishing you let's figure it out who's the girl in new york that you're talking to you it's a girl that you know the back who's referred me to you she's

fucking hate her but um whatever you need some action so whatever yeah i know so how do you mean her he's gonna kill me for mentioning her now but um it's okay you'll definitely listen to this podcast i uh what we call her on twitter she was you know part of anthony this whole world over there, you know, so, you know, so I met her on Twitter. So we talk and we text each other a lot. Right. And she's pretty much exactly like me. She's literally my fucking clone.

That's great. That's great. And, but if she's what it was, you ever text somebody? And when they text you back, it takes them like a fucking year and a half to text you back? Oh, I saw a tweet from you that said you were looking for a girl who texts really quick. Text back really quick. Yeah. She takes a long time to text you back.

Yeah. She's really like you'll be in a conversation with her and bang. She'll just stop. Yeah. It's so annoying. I agree. That's shit is so. Because that's kind of like imagine where you're talking in real life and then you just like stop talking to somebody in the middle of a conversation.

It's very bizarre and people do that. But did you ever say to her, hey, whatever her name is? Like, why do you just disappear? Like where the fuck did you go? Like, have you ever said something about it? Yeah. And what does she say? Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. We got to, we got to just fight a couple times. You know. That's good. I can't take this anymore. And I block her. But the second I block her, she calls me on another number and all that.

Right. So you have a love-hate relationship. What is her reason that she, what is the reason that she gives you for, like, disappearing sometimes? I'm sorry, you cut out. What you said? What is the reason that she gives you for disappearing via tech sometimes? Oh, I don't know.

I don't know. No, no, but you said you call her out on it. What does she say? When you say, why the fuck did you just disappear? What's going on? What does she say? specifically to that. No, she actually, I don't know.

I actually, the rest message her recently and told her that the reason I'm acting crazy, if you really best to do with her, it's just my own shit. But, you know, she said that whole thing. I don't know. No, there's nothing wrong with some making. No, no, no, no. See, that's where you're wrong. I think that this is where you get into this weird headspace and you think you're so

crazy and blah, blah, blah. A lot of people get irritated by people who don't text back, especially if they like them and they're involved with them. and this person's like inconsistent and like sometimes there and then they disappear like that shit's annoying to anybody and that doesn't make you crazy if that really bothers you just so you know so you could just like say that to her and you don't have to turn it around on yourself and be like oh I'm crazy because then you're giving her nonsense power and you're making yourself look like powerless and you're really not she's the one that's doing the bullshit and you

don't really fucking like it and there's nothing wrong with that seriously it drives most people crazy have you like Skyped with her do you know that you're really talking to her and that's what she looks like. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, because I, um, you know, yeah, you know what? Yeah, I periscope with her once. You what? Privately. I went on parascope.

Uh-huh. Yeah, and she did this privately thing where she, I, I periscope with her, but I saw her. Like, you know, you can't see each other like a FaceTime, but I saw her. I talked to her and we talked to her and a pariscove privately. So, yeah, it's her. Okay. And have you guys ever, like, sexted or anything like that?

No, no, no, I can't, you can't, if you can't be texting with her, you know, I'd be halfway into it. I didn't have to finish off, finish off, but she fucking stood here. I can't do that. Right, she'd get you, like, hard and horny, and then she'd be like, right when you're about to come, she'd just, like, check out. Yeah. Yeah, that's not good. Listen, you can't give up on her, okay? You cannot give up on her, just because she had, listen, everyone has a problem, and everyone has an issue, and everyone has some sort of bullshit attached to them, right?

But you have to think realistically, right? Right now while you're at home living with your mom and you have all this, you know, this baggage that you're dealing with and you can't get out and meet girls. A girl in New York that doesn't live in your state that also lives at home, it's sort of in a bad position too, who's interested in texting you most of the time is actually pretty okay for right now. Like she's a good, you know, girl for like now, you know, and I'm not saying that you should put up with the fact that she doesn't text you. But if that's the worst thing that she does and she's around most of the time, well, you might have to just deal with that because you might not be able to change that. She just might be a weirdo. You just, you know, that's okay because you're a weirdo in your mind too. Yeah.

And I had a long conversation with her and I swear, I'm not going to, and we both agreed that, you know, we're going to work on this shit. Like, I'm not going to fucking do that shit anymore. So do what shit? She's actually like, you know, block her out, all that, you know. Right. Listen, you get sensitive and your feelings get. her when she stops texting you so then you lash out and ax her out

and like block her and then whatever and that's just the game that you guys play and somebody has to just like just do something different you know so it's like either you have to just say okay this is what she does and I'm not gonna take it personally and that's cool or you have to say go fuck yourself I'm not interested like you know and if she you know but if I were you I'd keep her around because she's all you got

how could you meet her in real life you know my family went up in New York park I'm fucked up reunion with the rest of my family and I could have went to I could have went to but then I didn't because I don't really get along with them but I could maybe

I don't know if she would have you know I'd believe to meet me but I could have at least tried but you didn't even bother so that's like forget it so what about does she ever talk about meeting you in person no

but we don't talk along enough to fucking go there like I'm not used to this if I'm talking to something I usually talk at them I'm talking to you If you try to talk to her on the phone I don't know how much time

She would give you I really don't Have you ever talked to her on the phone? Yeah, I had a couple times And how long did your conversations last? The longest conversation we had The first time I talked to her on the phone How long was that?

Maybe a couple months ago A couple months ago Actually, yeah Actually, I'm sorry I was last I'm still fucked up with time it was sometime in July. Okay.

Right. And when was the, what was the last time we talked to her recently? Uh, a couple days ago. Uh-huh. You text every day?

Yeah, we text, yeah. I see both of the texting. So then that makes you, because she don't have texted back right away, so then I feel like a fucking freak because I'll texting her. But, you know. Whatever she texts back,

who cares? Lots of guys pursued chicks like that. You know, that's what a man does. That's fine. If she's texting you back, then it's fine. If she's ignoring you and you keep texting her

month, then you're a stalker, okay? But if you text her all the time and she texts back, that's totally cool. That's fine. There's anything creepy about that. Some girls really like that. A lot of girls like to know that a guy's really into her because a lot of girls don't want to make those moves because they have their own insecurity. So maybe that works for her.

Let me ask you this, though. Like, why don't you do something in your own, like, hometown too while you're working this girl who lives so far away from you that neither one of you is probably going to be able to afford a plane ticket to see each other? Like, why don't you start to try and. and work some girls in your own town, you know, via Tinder or, okay, Cupid or plenty of fish or any of that shit. Like, why don't you try to, like, get out there a little bit?

I'm on Twitter, but I just don't understand how it works. Yeah, I mean, oh, yeah, I'm sorry, I can't really help you with that because I don't really know how it worked either, but people, I think, get action from that. Like, you just have to like somebody and then you start talking to them and then, especially, like, on the weekends, I think, like, during drinking hours, it's a really good time to go on there because everyone's kind of. wasted, right? And so you're going to find girls that are on there that'll just like, like,

where do it? Like, you were going to have sex? Where could you do it? Can you do it in your mom's house? Do you have a car? No, no, I don't have a car. But I gave my car and my brother because he's going to school and all that and his car broke down.

So I gave it to him so we could use it because I wasn't going to go away. Okay, but if you were going to fuck a girl, where could you do it? I would try to get my fault. I would want to bring her here. It's weird. Right. So you'd have the money for a hotel. You would go to a hotel. Yeah. Or I go to the beach at night. Right. Okay. Do you go out? Do you have friends? Do you have friends? Do you go out on the weekends?

No, I go to my friend's house, but he's married that kid. And I go over there and his chick is mad cool. So I can, you know, talk openly with her. I can talk to you. And it's fucking mad cool, you know? Right. That's great. You need people like that to kind of help you out and give you a little push in the right direction. I miss my drinking buddies, but, you know, I don't drink anymore. I miss drinking, but I don't drink. Yeah, it's hard because drinking definitely creates that social environment and helps you meet people. I know, you know, and so without that, it's going to be, like, way harder for you, but you should just try Tinder. Listen, who cares about being rejected on, you know, those kind of sites?

Because it's not like you met, you met the person and they don't like you. It's just like, you're just, it's just your picture. So why don't you just try as much as you can on there? It's just like it averages. It's like, I mean, it's like statistics. The more people you try to get, you're eventually going to get one. You know, but if you don't try for anyone and the only girl you're like, you know, sort of rapping with is a girl who lives in New York, who's kind of distant, both physically and emotionally. You know, you're going to wind up staying in the same place that you are.

This is the deal with you. This is what I think. I don't know that you really, I think it's very obvious what you need to do. I think you know it. I think you're probably fucking smart. I think you're probably a little lazy. I think you're probably your worst, your own worst enemy. And I think that you just don't want to do the things that you would need to do to change your life.

But you need to do those things. And nobody is going to do that for you. Do you understand? Like if you don't do anything different, you will be exactly this way in 10 years. Like life does not come knocking at your door and change itself. It'll only get worse, right? You'll just get fatter. You'll get more lonely.

you'll get, you know, less sort of available, like less worthy of having a job because you'll be out of a job for so long. Like, so it's only going to get worse. You really need to make changes now. And even if you just do one thing and probably the biggest change for you would be if you got yourself in good shape, I think that that would help your self-esteem and you'd feel better about yourself. So maybe, like, can you just, what do you eat? Do you eat like just whatever the fuck you want? I eat, I try to eat home and eat, you know, healthy.

I go off the vegetables a lot or I'll eat a lot of chocolate. Right. So you like sweets and you eat a lot of bread. Like, I'm serious. Like bread and like rice and carb carb-carby stuff is like very fattening because it basically it turns to sugar in your body. Like I believe like if you eat anything from the earth, you're fine. I believe in olive oil, fattening things that are fine.

But as long as it's like sort of from the earth, I live pretty clean and I eat very healthy and I'm in very good shape for my age. I work out though too, hardcore. But I think that if you probably just cut out half of the breads in your life, like say you eat a burger, don't eat the whole bun. If you have french fries, just get broccoli.

You could eat shit in oil, like I said, and all that stuff. But if you cut out a little bit of that stuff, you'll start to lose weight, I'm sure. Do you drink like stupid things? I think so many people get a lot of calories out of the stuff that they drink. And that's such a fucking waste, you know?

And people think, oh, they're drinking orange juice and it's just like you might as well be eating a brownie there's so many sugar and so many of the things and also diet stuff is not good what do you drink? Water. Okay so you do it so you don't get like wasted calories and stuff that you drink. That's the best thing to drink water. I drink a lot of water. That's good.

So then it's the food that you're eating. It's basically the food that you're eating. You're eating not right and you have to change that up. And if you just change it up a little bit, you'll probably start to lose weight. There's some people out there that eat really. these are the people I feel the worst for. I've known some people like this. They eat super healthy.

They watch everything that they eat and they can't lose weight. Those people are the people that are fucked. But most people that's not their problem. Most people that are out of shape or out of shape because they don't take care of themselves properly. They eat whatever they want. You know how many times I say no to pizza and French fries and shit that I want to eat?

And that's why I look good. People will be like, oh, you look good for genetics. No, I look good because it's important to me because I like to be healthy. It feels good to be healthy. But if you want to look good and you want to be in good shape, as you get older, you can't eat like a 14-year-old, you know. You have to change your diet because your metabolism starts to slow down. So you can't, you have to change the way you eat, even just a little bit. It'll make a difference.

Maybe you don't need to be as emaciated as you were when you were 25. But if you lose, how much overweight are you about? 200-something pounds. But how tall are you? 5.90. How much are you supposed to weigh? I don't even know. Like how well, at 5-9, what's your ideal weight?

What was your weight when you were skinny? Okay, so you need to lose 50 pounds. Yeah. Okay. So even if you lost 25, that'd be a difference, right? Don't shoot for the whole 50. Yeah. Shoot for 20 pounds.

And I'm going to tell you, for real, like, if you start, stop eating what you're eating and you start eating sort of clean and stop eating sugar, you'll lose 20 pounds quickly. But you have to stay eating that way, you know? Yeah. I just go a little crazy. And me, I'm going to break me. It's going to bug this Twitter again. He told me that, you know, try and make it so you can limit yourself, but you only have a

couple every once in a while. Because if you go without anything at all ever, you go crazy. Right. I've been dicking about that, you know. So I, trust me, I just calm down. I used to drink 10 bottles of Coke a day, you know, so I don't drink any of that shit anymore. That's great. That's great.

That's great. McDonald's, all that. That's great. And don't you feel better? I mean, I don't know. I don't even get full from that stuff. I can remember the last time I ate McDonald's. I think it was like 16 years ago.

And I could eat like three Big Macs because that kind of stuff never gets you full because it's garbage, you know? I get full from like real things. But I like steak and I like vegetables and I like salad and I like olive oil and I like popcorn. I eat snack and a lot of popcorn. And I just like like that kind of stuff. And I like to eat plain.

Like I like healthy stuff. but clean stuff. I also live in New York City and it's really easy to eat healthy here because we have like amazing food. I think it's really hard when you're in a place or an area where, you know, all they offer is fast food and like restaurants with like shitty food, you know, like when I go to New Jersey to visit my parents, I'm at a loss of where to eat as well. And I can't eat anything because all the food is like gross and bad for you and I don't like to eat that way. Really where I go when I go to New Jersey is it go to Whole Foods. and I eat there because it's the only place

where I could get good food you know so sometimes it's hard to find good healthy food where you live because it doesn't like I eat really healthy but I love food I'm a foodie it's not like I torture myself and I'm eating like you know I don't know like shit with no flavor I eat really yummy things like to me

a healthy meal is a steak and like sauteed broccoli with garlic and like you could have a salad with dressing like that's good food for you that's okay Like you could eat as much of that kind of stuff as you want. Yeah. So you just have to find like the right places. So I think though, um, sugar is a big thing. Sugar like feeds off of sugar.

And that's like a hard thing. That's a hard habit to kick. But if you could kick that because it takes like a while to like get off of the addiction of sugar. So you have to like torture yourself of like wanting it and not having it. But if you could kill that addiction in yourself with which most people have, you probably lose a lot of weight. And what's great about not being addicted to sugar is when you're addicted to it, it's like you feel like you have no control over yourself.

I hate that feeling. Like when you eat healthy, you feel like in control of yourself. Like you don't have to have something. You eat when you're hungry. And that's like a great way to feel. When I eat unhealthy, if I go a couple days of eating unhealthy or I eat a lot of sugar because I get in that mood sometimes, then it takes me like, then I feel terrible because I've never satisfied. I have to eat so much. I can't walk by a bag of cookies with not feeling like I have to have it.

And I hate the way that feels. So, you know, if you could get a grip on that sugar thing with yourself, that would help too. But these are a lot of, you have a lot of work to do. You're not working, so you have the time. Yeah, I do. I have a lot of work. I got a lot of shit. Do you want to be a loser your whole life?

Hell no. No, it scares the shit. I mean sometimes. But sometimes I feel like taking the easy way out. I just don't want to deal with the aggravation. Right. That's your problem. That's your biggest problem.

But like that, that's your choice. Either deal with the aggravation and don't be a loser or be a loser. Because that's the difference between losers and winners in life. For real. Right now, you're going down the loser path. You're a loser.

And that should scare the shit out of you. The fact that it scares the shit out of you is actually a good thing. That means you have some ego left in yourself. You know, you don't want to get to the point where you actually don't even care about being a loser and you just stay a loser your whole life. Then you're really helpless. Right now it scares you to be a loser and you should, you know, use that fear of being a loser to get yourself out of it because you kind of are a loser right now. Sorry to say, but it's the truth.

You know that. And it's not like you need to be. It's your choice. That's why I don't feel bad saying it. You're not like a handicapped man who has no legs, who can't get a girl. I would feel sorry for that person. You're like fully capable of getting out there and meeting a chick if you wanted to. Yeah, I just, I don't know.

I just based on fucking shit that's out with, you know, women. It's just. I know. Get over it. Okay. That's a part of being, like getting rejected is just a part of it. Okay. That's just the way that it goes.

You know, instead of thinking about all the rejection, think about the girls that you did get. You fucked four girls in your life. You had a relationship for two years. Think about that. That success. that was success in your life with girls. Think about how you got those people and think that it's possible to do it again.

You got to stop being like a baby. You're like afraid. You're like literally you're afraid. And what you're supposed to do in life when you have a fear is you supposed to face it and get over it. That's what, you know, fucking people that are fierce do.

And that's what you have to do. You have to stop being, you know, sort of a victim to your own nonsense. Yeah, I know. I just live my life. I watch, like, I put on movies, and that's it. That's my life. And I just disappear into them.

Yeah, right, of course. I could tell that, like I said, I could tell that in your Twitter fear. You live in like a fantasy land in your head. You're not living your life out in reality. And let me tell you, you could do that your whole life. And that's, that's, the only person that's going to suffer over that is you. Yeah. You know, life's too short.

You are going to die. Like, literally, you are going to die. and it's all going to be over. Right now you're not dead. You're alive and there's shit you could do. You could be having a girl swallow your jizz right now if you wanted to. If you get out of the fucking house, okay, and start doing something different. That's what you have to do.

We need to do some shit for yourself and then check back in with me when you've made some changes or had some balls or gone out there and try to pick up chicks or do some. And then, you know, if you've made any kind of changes in your life when you do, like if you do diet and you lose 20 pounds or you. you put yourself on Tinder and you go out on a couple dates or something. Like when you do something different, you call me back and well, I'll have you back on the show. But as long as you continue to do the same thing, I don't want to hear from you until you do something different. Okay. Okay. So get your shit together.

I know. I hear what you're saying. So I'll get, you know. Do something. It's for you. I don't really care. Like you have my own life. I've like, you know, you have, this is your life.

It's all you. Yeah. Yeah. I hear what you're saying. I just have to figure my shit out. I don't know what the fuck to do right now. But I'll figure it out. Well, you'll listen back to this podcast and maybe you'll get some ideas.

I think it's pretty obvious what you have to do. There's some things that you have to do. The problem is you don't really like to do those things. Like you say, you like to take the easy way out. You have to just do some hard work and things will change for you. And that's your choice. But I wish you luck. Yeah.

Thank you. What are you going to do I post this? I post my new. I don't really know yet. I have a lot of podcasts to tape this week. I post new episodes every Sunday. Subscribe to my podcast. It's strictly anonymous.

It's on iTunes or Stitcher. And I will, I absolutely will send you a link for when it's going up. It'll be this Sunday or next Sunday or the next Sunday. I'm taping a lot this week. So I don't know which one I'm going to wind up airing. I have to edit them all out and everything. But for sure, it'll be within the next couple of weeks, if not this Sunday. I'll let you know.

I'll keep you posted. For sure, I will send you an email when it's going to be aired. You know, when it's going to air. I think you need to leave. I think you need to listen to it over and over again until something sort of like, you know, until the light bulb goes off in your head. Yeah, usually that's how it works with me. Yeah.

I don't know where. I'll just decide, you know. Yeah, that's how it works with everybody. All of a sudden one day, you're just like, it just clicks. You know what I mean? You just need for it to click so you get to like the motivation and the desire and the energy to sort of do things different and make the changes that you need to do. So I think it'll be really helpful for you to re-listen to this podcast, maybe.

Okay, and I'll keep you posted. I'll let you know when it goes up. Okay, thank you. Thanks so much for calling in and good luck. You too. Okay, bye. Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book,

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